Well-Behaved Kids: Part 2 One of a parent’s most important jobs is teaching good manners Because raising children to be respectful is an extremely tough yet important job, and more of a challenge now than ever, we’re back with several suggestions to help you teach your children proper manners. By Bill Lindsey
1 Teach by Example
4 The Golden Rule
How you teach your children is just as important as what you teach them. Teaching by example is a powerful method that lends credibility to your lessons. By being courteous and respectful to friends and strangers alike, you reinforce proper behavior. Children learn by watching how adults treat waiters, answer the phone, react to bad drivers, and so much more, making it especially important to be a good role model.
Children who understand the importance of doing unto others as they would have done to them tend to grow up to be well-adjusted adults. Use real-world experiences: If they weren’t invited to a classmate’s birthday party, help them learn from that the importance of not being petty or rude. If a friend breaks your child’s toy, but promptly apologizes and replaces it, that’s a great example of responsible, mature behavior.
2 Don’t Be Rude
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While burps and bodily gasses can be hilarious to kids (and many adults), they need to recognize that there’s a time and place when being silly is OK, and other times when it isn’t. Because we all get gassy sometimes, teach them to say “excuse me” when it happens. Asking for permission to leave the dinner table is another etiquette essential, while nose-picking and underwear-adjusting are never appropriate in public.
5 Be Nice 3 Thank You Notes To avoid becoming entitled kids, children need to understand why it’s important to show true appreciation and gratitude for holiday gifts, birthday gifts, and any other gifts. One way to do this is to have them send a handwritten thank you note no later than a day after receiving a gift. Have them consider how they would feel after spending time and money to give a gift, only to receive a half-hearted email or text message or none at all.
If “please” and “thank you” lay the foundation for good manners, a genuine “How are you?” or similar query is the framework. Teach your children that while you love them completely and unconditionally, they aren’t the center of the universe, no matter what Grandma says. By showing a genuine interest in friends, family, and others, they learn to be respectful and, in so doing, earn the respect of those around them.
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