MyBestFriendChangedMyLife
Wehaveallhadthatonefriendwhohaschangedourlivesinwayswewouldneverhaveimagined. Somefriendsteachusforgiveness,somefriendsencourageus,somefriendstestyourlimits,some friendsshareouremotionsintimesofgriefandjoy,andsomefriendsshowushowtosacrifice.My bestfriend,AkaylaTiedge,hastaughtmehowtotrust.Allmylife,Ihadbeenbulliedatschooland aftermymotherhadleftonmy12thbirthday,thebullyingstartedhappeningathomeaswellItfelt likethemostimportantpeopleinmylife,whoweremybloodrelatives,wantednothingtodowith meotherthantoputmedownfortheirownself–gain.Ididn'tknowwheretogoorwhototalkto,so Ikeptmythoughtsandmyhurtinsideforfiveyears,notknowingthedamageIwascausingmyself Evenstartinghighschoolwhenthebullyingstoppedoutsideofmyhome,Ididn'thavemany friends.ThefewfriendsIdidhave,alwaysknewIhadinnerdemonsbuttheystoppedaskingwhat waswrongbecauseIkepttellingthemthatIwasokay,justtired.But,IalsohadfriendsthatIhad closetomethatIfeltIcouldtrust,andtheyleftmeaswell.Theynotonlyleftme,buttheytold everyoneaboutmylifeandmyproblemsandthatspreadrumorsallovertheschoolIstopped trustingeveryonethen.Newplace,newsounds,andnewpeople,allcameaboutwhenItransferred fromCrescentHighSchooltoBlueRidgeHighSchool.Iknewnooneexceptforoneofmyclosest friendsfrom
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Haveyoueverhadthatonespecialfriendthatyouknewwouldbethereforyouthroughthickand thin?Thatspecialfriend,whocanreadyourthoughts,finishyoursentences,andmakeyousmile whenyouarefeelingblue.Afriendissomeonewhoishonestandyoucantrust.Afriendis someonewhoyouhangoutwith,andsomeoneyourelyon.Friendshipisbeingthereforsomeone whentheyneedyouThatpersonformeismybestfriendKatrinaSheisthekindest,sweetest personIhaveeverknown.Shewilldoanythingforanyone.ImetKatrinawhenIwasinthe5th gradeandshewasinthe6thgrade.Makingfriendshasneverbeeneasyformebutweseemedtohit itrightofffromthebeginningWespentalotoftimetogetherasshowmorecontent Itoldhermydeepestdarkestsecrets.Shewasthereformewhenmyfirstlovebrokemyheart.She wasthereformewhenmyparentsgotdivorced.Shehaslentmeahelpinghandandashoulderto cryonmoretimesthanIwouldliketoadmit.Ibelievethateveryneedstohaveafriend.Friendsare theretocomfort,tolaughwith,andtocreatewonderfulmemories.Friendshipissacredandneedsto becherishedwithlove,patienceandunderstandingKatrinaismorethanjustafriendsheisjustlike asister.Sheismybestfriend.Icannotimaginemylifewithoutherinit.Mylifewouldnotbe completewithoutherinit.SheistheoneIcallwhenlifeseemssounfair.Wecantalkonthephone forhoursaboutabsolutelynothing.Sheisthekindoffriendthateveryoneneedstohaveintheirlife. Shecanmakeyousmileandlaughwhenyoufeellikeallislost.Hersmileandjoyfulpersonality canbringasmiletoanyone'sfaceShecantrulylightuparoomwithherwonderfulpersonalityand charm.Iamtrulyluckytohaveherinmylife.Sheisawonderfulmother,wifeandfriend.Iadmire herpatienceandunderstanding.Katrinaiskindandcompassionatewitheveryone.HonestlyIdon't knowhowshedoesitIwishIhadhalfthepatienceshehasLifehastakenKatrinaandmeinvery separatedirections.Shelivesseveralhoursawayandwerarelygettoseeeachotherbutwestilltalk onthephoneeveryday.Althoughwelivehundredsofmiles
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Lovebetweenfriendsisfindingoutthatyourgrandmotherhashadaheartattackandtheonly personyouwanttotalktoisyourbestfriend.Themostmagnificentthingabouthavingloveinyour relationshipistrustingonepersonwithallyourdarkestsecrets.Havingloveinafriendshipisthat warmfeelingyougetinyourheartwheneveryou'rearoundthatcertainperson.Whenyouseethat person,yourdayautomaticallybecomesbetterAstimegoesby,theloveandtrustbetweenyouand yourfriendwillgrowdeeper.Havingloveinafriendshipiswhenyou'restressedoutatschooland yourbestfriendsacrificeshertimetohelpyouunderstandatopic.Lovebetweenfriendsis somethingthatdoesnotcomeoftenbecauseitissopureandoriginalthatnotmanycanholdontoit Lovebetweenfriendsdoesnothappenovernight,ittakestimetodevelop.Lovetowardsyourfriend islikeajob,ittakeswork.Inordertohavelovewithinyourfriendship,youneedshowmore content
Havinglovebetweenyouandafriendissomethingspecialthatnoonebutyoutwocanhave.A bondovercertainhobbiescandevelopeintoasupportsystemthatyoucanalwaysturntoDuring ThanksgivingbreakwhenIwasinseventhgrade,mygrandmahadaheartattackandwassenttothe hospital.Havingheronmachinestokeepheralive,thelastthingmyfamilyandIthoughtaboutwas aThanksgivingdinner.MybestfriendwastheonlyoneItoldthistobecauseIknewIneededher support.Afterreceivingnewsfromthesurgeonsthathersurgerywentwell,myfamilyandIwent downtothecafeteriatohavedinnerLittledidweknowmybestfriendandherfamilyhadsetupa bigThanksgivingmealforus.HersacrificingherThanksgivingtobeinthehospitalwithmegave meanewperspectiveofwhatfriendshipwas.Afterthisevent,IrealizedthatImustcherishour relationshipbecauseoursissouniquethatitwillonlycomeonceina
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AboutMe!By:JonnaS.MyBestfriendMybestfriendisamazing!Eversincethefirstdayof schoolshe'sbeenthere.BasicallywhathappenedwasonthefirstdayIwasatsilverhillsandhadno ideawhoanyonewassoijustsatatatableandshewaslike,"HiI'mDaphniewhat'syourname?," ofcourseisaidJonnacausethat'smyname.Eventuallyweranintoeachotheratlunchsowesat downandtalkedforawhiletoeachotherandthenwewalkedtomynextclassandIwaslikewow youwannabefriends.Shesaidofcoursecauseimeancomeoni'mamazing!Honestlywehadalot ofgoodmemoriestogetherfromthe6thgradeandi'mveryexcitedtocreatebrandnewoneswith herSheisamazingandIseeperfectioninhereventhoughshedisagreesidon'tcaresheisperfect inmyeyesandiwillalwaysbethereforherIdon'tcarewhathappensbetweenusandijustwanna saythankyouandiloveyoubestfriend!MyRunaway!Hotair,windybreeze,beatingsun, bloomingseasonandaniceboringday!Theexoticyellowbusspeedingthroughtheoverpowering windandittookanicesharpstop.Wegotoffthebusandthat'swhenouradventurousdaystarted. Butreally,whatwethoughtwasafunday,othersthoughtwewerecrazyandscaredforus!For example,bothofourentirehouseholds.Thisishowitallstarted.Itwasaverycasualafternoon throughoutschool.Nothingdifferentfromanyotherday,untilwegotonthebus.Mackenzie particularlywantedtotalkabout
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Bestfriendsforeverwesaid.Wepinkypromiseditwouldbeforalifetime,butIlearnedthatsome thingschange.FaithandIhadtheaveragefriendrelationshipwhenwewereyounger.Wewouldtell eachothersecrets,helpeachotherwithhomework,haveslumberpartiesandplaydates,andjustbe funkidstogether.Sincewewereinpreschool,wewerealwaysthereforeachotherthroughtheups anddownsofchildhoodWelovedeachotherlikenoother,orsoIthoughtItstartedoffasoneof myfavoritedaysintheworld.ItwasmidDecember,thesnowfellforwhatseemedlikehourson end.Ialwayshavelovedthesedays.Theoneswhereyousitathomewithyourfamilyatnightand drinkhotchocolatewhilethesnowisfallingoutsideMybirthdaywasacoupledaysbefore,while Christmaswouldsooncomeafter.Christmassongsheardallover;ontheradio,athome,inschool, itwassuchajoyoustimeofyear.Icouldn'tbemorehappier.Layinginbedlateatnight,Ireceiveda textmessagefromfaith.Thiswasn'tanunusualoccurrenceasfaithandItalkedquiteoften.Half asleepIstartedreadingthemessage.Assumingitwassomesecretthatshejustfoundoutaboutour classmates,orafunnymeme,Ididn'tthinkIhadanythingtoworryaboutThatwasuntilIsawthe words"terriblefriend".Shewrotethatweshouldn'tbefriendsanymoreandhowshehasn'tlikedme forawhile,thatIwasaterriblefriendwhoonlythoughtaboutmyself.ImmediatelyIsatup,
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Friendsarethepearlsofourlife.Thiswordbearsitsgreatmeaningonlytothosewhocould understandthegreatnessofitsmeaning.Itssomethingsacred,itneedstobecherishedandbuildup formanyyearswithmuchcare.GoranStojanovoncesaid,"Oneshouldalwaystakecarewhen makingachoiceofafriend–asthefriendsaretheonesyoupickbyyourself."Myopinionisabit differentthanGorans,Iprefertosay,"Friendscomeandgo,butwiththepreciousfewweshalllive ourliveshappily."Ispeciallyagreethatfriendscomeintoourlifespontaneously.Therefore,there islittlemorethanpickingapart.MakingFriendsistheprocess,whichisaveryuniqueone.It dependsonthepersononeistryingtobecomefriendswith,showmorecontent Soneverhurttheonesyoulove,watchwhatyouwillsay.
Therearemanydifferenttypesoffriendsandmostofthemcanbeplacedintooneofseveral categories:closenessfriends,partyfriends,workandschoolfriendsandthebestfriend.
Thefirsttypeoffriends,comparedtotheotherstypesarethelessvaluable.Thisdoesn'tmeanthat theyarenotgood.Theyarepartsofoureverydaylife.Theyaretheoneswhowillhelpustonotice somethinggood.Forinstance,ournewhaircut,theyaretheones,whichwillturnourdayfrom ordinarytospecial.Closeness,theymaybeinthemomentbutyouneverknowhowclosewillthey becomeinthefuture
Secondtype,partyfriends,friendswithwhomwearespendingthebesttimeinourday.Sotheyare special,maybenottheclosestbutlikeothersworthofrespectFormetheyhavesuperpowersThey areabletochangeourmood,positively.Theyarerepresentingusinthebestpositiveway.Thru themwecouldmeetnewpersons,whichmaybecomeourgoodfriends.Theyaretheoneswhoare allnightbesideus.Sharingeverythingthatisgoodwithus.
Thethirdtype,workandschoolfriendsFunctioninginanykindofinstitutionwithoutfriendsis absolutelynotpossible.Notbecausethatweneedhelp,butweneedtospendourtimewithsome body.Theymakeustofellthatwebelonginsomegroup,thatwehave
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FriendsForever
Mywayoflifehasneverbeenwhatanyonewouldcallnormal.It'sonlysecondnaturetohearthe words"peculiar"or"weird"whendescribingmyfamilyandfriends.Thefunnythingis,itreally doesn'tbothermeIfeveryonewerethesameorwhattheworldreferstoasnormal,lifewouldbe prettyboring.ThereareseveralcontributingfactorsastowhyIamthewaythatIam,butmore recently,IcansaythatagroupoffriendsthatIbecameclosetoduringmysenioryearofhigh schoolhadabigimpactonthepersonIamtoday
IknowthatIwouldn'thaveevenbeenassociatedwiththesefriendsifitwerenotformyupbringing. Ihadawonderfulhomelife,withparentsthatstilllovedeachothershowmorecontent Manypeoplethinkofusasdifferentandodd,whichI'llbethefirsttoadmit,weare.Fortunatelywe don'tseethatasanegativethingHardasitmaybetobelieve,wedon'twanttobelikeeveryone else.Wedon'tdomanythingsthatmaybeconsidered"normal"tomostpeople,leadingothersto thinkwearerestrictedbyallofourrules.Onthecontrary,wedon'thavetoworryaboutthe consequencesthatcomefromdoingthingsthatare"popular."It'salsonicethatpeoplecanknowthe differencebetweensomeonefromourchurchandeveryoneelseintheworld,justfromhowweact. NothingintheworldcouldcomparetothejoythatIhavefoundfromthechurchPlus,ifIwasn'ta member,Iwouldprobablyneverhavemetmyfriends.Beingintheminority,myfriendsandIhave madethemostofallwehave,andsometimeseventakeour"weirdness"tonewlevels.
ThesefriendshavegivenmeanexperiencethathashelpedshapethepersonthatIamtoday.Ididn't alwaysliketostepoutsideofmycomfortzone.Iusedtohaveatwingeoffearthatpeoplewould secretlythinkIwasanidiot,whichusedtobotherme.Thankstomyfriends,theymadeacting stupidseemlikethegreatestthrillofyourlife.I'dknownmostofmyfriendssincemyfreshmanyear inhighschoolthroughactivitiesandclassesatchurch,butIneverreallydidanythingwiththem sincewewenttorivalschools.Thenonenight,attheendofNovemberlastyear,theguys
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Thereisnothinginlifethatcancomparetomeetingyourotherhalf.Meetingmybestfriendwas definitelyalifechangingeventinthebestway.Sheisthemostloyalandabsolutelythemost trustworthylong–termfriendshipsthatIhaveeverexperienced.Ihavebeengiventheopportunityin lifetocomefacetofacewithmybestfriend,shehaschangedmylifeinvariousways.NoonethatI havemetcancompetewithhowwellherandImixLikepeanutbutterandjelly,wearegoodalone butbettertogether.ThroughthickandthinmybestfriendandIhavelasted8going9years,andI knowthattherewillbemoretocome.
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TothisdayMariaismyrideordie,wekeptgrowingupandwhenmyfathergotmeacarformy birthdayitbecameevenbetter.Webothseeeachotheralmosteveryweekandhangouttoeat,shop, orsimplygoovereachothershouse.Webothhavesomanysimilaritiesinourlivesand personalities,wedefinitelynevertakethatforgrantedShehaspersistentlygottenmethroughallof myroughpatches,withthatbeingsaid,everytimewetalksheknewwhatIneedtoheartogetme throughorgetaheadofitinlife.Nonetheless,weareveryalike,butwestillobviouslyhaveour differences,yetIadmirehowwewillalwayscooperateandtrytoimagineandpictureourselvesin theotherperson'sposition.Shealwaysgivesmeherbestfriendandatthesametimehermotherly adviceSheiskindhearted,butisnotafraidtoripthebandagewhenneededWebothgossipand laughabouteverything!Ourconversationscangoonforthelongesttime.Thereisnothingbutlove tothefactthatwewillmanageourtimeforeachotherevenifourschedulesarealittlehassled. Ontopofthat,maturinginlifeisveryimportanttomeIneverwanttohaveafriendthatdoesn't grow.Iconfronteverythinglifethrowsatmydirection.Weirdly,withallofthestrugglesMariaand Ihavehadtogether,ithasdefinitelyhelpedusmaturetogetherinlife.TothisdayIcouldn'tbemore gratefultothefactthatweboth
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MeetingMyBestFriendEssay
Afriendissomeonedifficulttofind.Afriendissomeoneyoucanalwayscountonwhentimesare tough.Thedictionary'sdefinitionofagoodfriendisapersonattachedtoanotherbyfeelingsof affectionorpersonalregard.Agoodfriendistherewhenyouarestruggling.Forexample,whena boybreaksyourheartagoodfriendwalksyouthroughitandoffersashouldertocryon.According toBreeNeff,agoodfriendissomeonewhoistrustworthy,doesn'ttalkbehindyourback,listensto yourproblems,givesgoodadviceandtriestolendhumoralongwithhisorhersupport.Thereare alsobadfriends,thosewhopretendtocareandthenturnaroundgossipingandstartingdrama.Good andbadfriendsareallaroundyou,involvedinshowmorecontent
Youwantfriendsthatshowtheycareanddonotresentyourachievements.Agoodfriendseesgood inyouraccomplishments;becauseofthistheywillnotwantyoutodopoorlyandwillalwaysbe lookingoutforyou,hopingyoudoyourbest.Atrustworthyfriendissomeoneyoucancountonno matterwhat.Theyaresomeoneyoucancallinthemiddleofthenightandventto,orjusttalk.They aresomeonewho,iftheysaytheyaregoingtodosomething,theydoitanddon'tbailoutGood friendsarepeoplewithwhomyoucantalktoandtrustwithyoursecrets.Youcantellafriend anythingandknowtheywon'topentheirmouthjustforthefunofitbecausetheylikeandrespect youtoomuchtohurtyou.Ifyouhavesomethingyoufeellikeyoucan'ttellanyoneabout,theyare thefriendsyoucantell.Agoodfriendissomeonewhowhenyoutellthempersonalstuffyoudon't havetoworry,youknowyoursecretissafeTrustedfriendsarethoseyoucantellyourflawstoand knowyourrevelationsaresafe.Sometimesafteryoutellpeoplecertaininformationyouthink: "WhatintheworldwasIthinking?"butatrustworthypersonwon'tevermakeyoufeellikethat. Whatisaloyalfriend?AloyalfriendissomeonewhoneverletsyoudownTheyaresomeonewho doesthingswithyoueventhoughthesethingsmaybetotallyboring,buttheystilldothem.Loyal friendswon'tbackoutatthelastsecond.Theystickwith
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FriendshipEssay:WhatMakesAGoodFriend?
MyBestFriend
Haveyoueverhadsomeoneinyourlifewhohelpedyoufigureoutwhoyouwere?Someonewho showedyoutherightpath.Someonewhowasthererightnextyouevenifyoudidnottakethatpath. Someonewhoalwaysseemedtoberight,butneverhelditagainstyouwhenyouwerenotSomeone whomwithoutyourlifewouldmostlikelybeentirelydifferent.Ihave.HernamewasJessica. Jessicawasmorethanmyneighbor.Shewasmorethanmymentor.Shewasmybestfriend.Jessica livedthreehousesdownfrommewhenImovedintoanewneighborhoodShemademovingtoa newneighborhoodaloteasier.Shewasoneofthosepeoplewhowasfriendswitheverybody.She wasfriendswitheveryonebecauseshewassospecial.showmorecontent
Shewouldlistentoyou.Shewouldbeyourfriend,evenifshejustmetyou.Icannotremembera timewhenshehadsomethingunpleasanttosayaboutsomeone.Thatwasoneofmanyvaluable lessonsIlearnedfromherandhavemadeapartofmylife
Sheseemedtoknoweverything.AnytimeIhadaperplexingquestionIknewshewouldknowwhat totellme.Herwisdomspannedseveralsubjects.Everythingfromthetextbookthingstheywanted metolearninschool,tothelifelessonsthattherearenotextbooksfor.Shetaughtmebyexample. Sheshowedmethatitwasjustawasteofmytimeandenergygettingmad,upset,angryorsoirate thatIallowedmyselftobecontrolledbymyemotions.Shewasalwayscalm,patient,andeven temperedwhenfacedwithpeoplewhowerelessthanpleasanttobearound.Ilearnedfromwatching herdealwithpeoplethatbeingniceneverfailsAndIlearnedfromwatchingherdealwiththe situationslifewouldpresentthataslongasyougaveeverythingyouhadtogiveandneverquit,you couldneverbebeat.
Jessicawasatrulyamazingfriend.Shewasatruefriend.Icouldalwaysdependonherbeingthere formewiththerightwordsofadviceEvenifIdidnotwanttohearwhatshewassayingShehad beenexactlywhereIwasandsheknewhowperilousthejourneyofadolescencecouldbe.She informedandguidedmeinmychoices.Yetsheneverforcedanythingonme.My
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Aswegrowolder,wemeetnewpeopleandmakenewfriendships.Outofallthepeopleyoumeet thereisalwaysthatonefriendthatyouclickwiththemost.Thatbeingsaidabestfriendissomeone youlookoutforandcareforlikesibling.Aswegrowolderwehaveaperceptionofgrowingold andhavingyourbestfriendbyyourside,butIcametotherealizationonemorningthatitisnottrue. IfoundoutmychildhoodbestfriendpastawayfromadrugoverdoseNewtoKissimmeeIdidnot knowwhattoexpect.Iwasalwaysashykid.NotthinkingIwasgoingtomakeanyfriendsanytime soonImetthiskidinmyneighborhoodcalledJacob.Turnsoutwegotonthesamebusandsatnext toeachotheronourwaytoelementaryschoolWenevergotthesameclassuntilfourthgradeLet metellyoutheteacherwasnothappymeandJacobwereatagteamoflittledaredevils.Everyday wewouldmeetupafterschoolandrideourbikesanddosomecrazyactivitieslikeding–dongditch somehousesandblowupsomefireworksonanyaverageday.Asidefromallthatwewerestill younginnocentkidswelovedplayingballandjusthavingfunwithallthekidsaroundthe neighborhoodItwaslikeasmallfamilyofacoupleoffriendsBeingtheshyonefromallthegroup JacobthoughtmehowtobeloudandexpressmyselfhowIwantedto.IalwayslookeduptoJacob andhissenseofexcitement.Hisattitudemademefindthemeaningofhavingfunandenjoyinglife forthesmallmomentsit
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Formyin–schoolcounselinggroup,Iamdevelopingandleadingagroupwiththetopicof 'Friendship'withsixtoeightsixthgradefemalestudents.Thesestudentswerepre–screenedfor membershipandmentionedconcernsoffriendshipskills;howtomakeandkeepfriendsandhowto avoidgossipand'drama'.Thesestudentswereselectedforpre–screeningbasedontheneeds assessmentcompletedbythesitesupervisorforpracticum,whichwillbediscussedinthenext section.Basedonmyreviewofavailableandcurrentliteratureonthetopicofrelationshipsin femaleadolescents,Iamgoingtouserelational–culturaltheory(RCT)asaconceptualframework formyin–schoolcounselinggroupTheemphasisofthisframeworkthathasbeenusedshowmore content...
Thetopareaforgroupcounselingwasthetopicoffriendshipfromthestudentresponses.The teacherresponsesrevealedtopconcernstobesocialskillsandorganizationskills.Ithenpre–screened8femalestudentswhoindicatedinterestinjoiningagrouponthetopicof'friendship'. DuringthistimeIaskedeachstudenttospecifywhatareastheywouldliketoworkonmostMany oftheseareasincludedskillsetsaroundavoidingconflict,controllingemotions(inresponseto rejection/conflict),andmakingfriends.
Research
Researchonthetopicoffriendshiprelationshipsbetweenfemaleadolescents(andspecifically middleschoolstudents)highlightsboththeneedforinterventionwithstudents,aswellassome techniquesthatmaymosteffectiveforfriendshipissues.Adolescence,andspecificallythetime individualsgothroughmiddleschoolisatimeofalotofchanges,whichincludechangesin cognition(concretetoformalthought)andrelationships(movingfromparent/adultrelationshipsto peerrelationshipsforsupport)(Wigfield,Lutz,&Wagner,2005).Somearguethatclose relationshipsareformedforthefirsttimebetween8to10yearsinage,andcanhavepositive featuresthataredifferentfromyoungerrelationshipsbecauseindividualsarebegintostart exhibitingmutualempathy(Berndt,2004).Duringthistime,Berndt(2004)statesthat
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FriendsEssay
Friends
Welcometo"NewYork,"wherethefolksarefriendly,thebuildingsneverfalter,andallquarrels endwithaquip.NottobefoundontheEastCoast,thisBurbank,California–based"NewYork"is thesettingof"Friends,"thepopularsituationcomedythatfirstairedonNBCin1994Withroughly sixteenmillionhouseholdstuningineachweek,nottomentionsyndicationofre–runs,"Friends" hasbecomeaculturalicon."Friends"ismorethanjustasit–comthatbeginsonThursdayateight o'clockandendsateight–thirtyItisaliving,breathing,fictionalrealitylikeasecondhomethatisn't livedin,butlivedthrough.Manyviewerstalkaboutthecharacterson"Friends"asiftheywere,in fact,closepersonalshowmorecontent
Although"Friends"offersitsviewerssuchenjoyment,itsviewersmustbemindfulthatitsportrayal ofattractive,Caucasian,slimyoungadultswhousecoarse,sexual,andobjectionablelanguagealso makes"Friends"ashowthatcansubtlypromotesunhealthy,unrealistic,andunobtainableidealsIs itworthwatching?
Beforecritiquingthemoreproblematicaspectsof"Friends,"onemustunderstandwhatmakesthe showsuchasuccess.EnterCentralPerk,thecoffeeshopthatoursixfriends(JenniferAnistonas RachelGreen,CourtneyCoxArquetteasMonicaGeller,LisaKudrowasPhoebeBuffay,Matt LeBlancasJoeyTribbiani,MatthewPerryasChandlerBing,andDavidSchwimmerasRossGeller) regularlyfrequent.Itistheseventeenthepisodeofthesixthseason,butitdoesn'tmatterifyou'rean avid"Friends"vieweroranovicewhohasneverseentheshowYouwillstilllaughRossandJoey aresittingonacouchasPhoebeandRachelenterwearingworkoutclothes.Theygreeteachother warmlyandthedialoguebegins:
Ross:Hey,whathaveyouguysbeenupto?
Phoebe:Ohh!Wewenttoaself–defenseclasstoday!
Ross:Wow!
Rachel:Yeah,kickingaguyinthecrotchallmorningreallytakesitoutofya!
Joey:Takesitoutofyou?(Laughs.)
Rachel'slivelycandoris
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Name:NganT.Bui
ID:0860066
FirstPaper
Beforebeginningtheessay,Iwillprovideabriefintroductionoftwomaincharactersinthis argument.Mybestfriend,Natalie,andherboyfriend,Peter,rarelyagreeonanything.Theyshare differentinterestsandhobbies.Oneoftheall–timeargumentsbetweenthemwhichneverseemto haveanansweristhatiftheyhaveabudget,theyhavetodecidewhethertheyshouldvisitKoreaor Japan.PeterwantstovisitJapanwhileNatalieprefersKorea.Theyaskedmetobethecounselor sinceIwouldbeneutral,soIgotachancetolistentotheirargumentsandhowtheyprovetheir points.Theyusedmanyfallaciesintheirargumentslikegeneralizationandslipperyslope,butthe three...showmorecontent...
AnotherobviousfallacythattheyemployedistheCommonPractice,alsoknownasthe "Bandwagonapproach."TheBandwagonapproachsimplyindicatesthatifthemajorityofpeopledo somethingorbelieveinsomething,thenitmustberight.Whenbeingaskedwhyshewantstogoto Korea,NatalieansweredthatnowadaysalotofpeoplechoseKoreaasaplacetotravel.Shekept seeingphotosofpeople"checkingin"inKoreaonInstagram,andshefoundthisplaceisreally worthgoingtoInstagramisthepopularsocialnetworkwhichallowsuserstotakeandsharephotos andvideos.WhenIsay"check–in,"Imeanthatwhenuserswanttoannouncetheirphoto'slocation onInstagram,theycanhitthe"check–in"button.Itwillshowalistofplaces,andtheywillchoose theonethatmatchestheircurrentlocationNataliehasalwayswishedtovisitKorea,andnowmore andmoreofherfriendsandheracquaintancesgotothiscountry.Indeed,shewantstogether boyfriendonboardwithheronthis.NatalieknowsthatPeterdoesnotlikesushi,sosheaskedhim howcouldhegotoJapanwhilehecannoteatsushi?Hisresponsewasalsobasedonthemajority. HeclaimedthateveryonewhovisitsJapanhastotrythetraditionalsushi,soiftheygothere,they wouldalsotrythatPerhapssushiinJapanwouldtastebetterthantheoneheusedtoeatInthis case,itishardtodecidewhetherthebandwagonapproachhelpsordamages
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Outofanyoneinmylife,mysisteristrulythepersonIrespectandlookupthemostWehavehad ourupsanddownsbutsheisalwaysthereformewhenIneedherandIamalwaysthereforher whenIcanbe.She'smysister,bestfriendbutmostimportantlymytwinsister.She'stheoneIgrew upwith,theonethat'salwaysthereforme.Wehaveabondthatnobodyoranythingcouldbreak.As closeaswearetodayIcansayIwouldbecompletelylostwithouther
MysisterandIhavemomentswherewebothfeelweirdwheneverwearenotaroundeachother becauseasItwinwefeellikewecan'tbeseparateforoneminute.Eitherofbothofuswillstart missingeachotherlikecrazyAndthatisjustathingherandmehaveAndwhenitcomesto missingmysisterIgetcrazybecauseIjustcan'tbewithanybodyelsebuther.AndImeanit becauseIwillstart,textingher,callingher,Iwilldoanythingtobetogethereveryday.Buthavinga conversationisimportantwhenitcomesnottalkingtoeachother.AccordingtoAlbert'sheonce said:"Conversationplays,animportantroleinfriendshipaswell."(Albert's,p.190).Havinga conversationtooneeachotheritisreallyimportantbecauseyouwillknowwhatthepersonis feelingtodayortomorrow,itisagoodthingthatpeoplecommunicatebecauseissimplytheactof transferringinformationfromoneplacetoanother.
However,asgrownwomen'sweare,itistimetofacerealitywewillhavetoseparateeachotherone
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FriendshipAsASmallGroupOfFriends
FriendshipinLifeSinceIcanrememberIhavealwaysbeenagirlwithasmallgroupoffriends.In myschoolyearsIwouldusuallyhangoutwithonly2–3girlsinmyclassroom,andithasalways beenthatwayeversince.I'maveryshyandquietperson;forthatreasonI'vealwayspreferreda smallgroupoffriends.Throughouttheyears,I'velostsomefriendsonthewaybutIhavealsokept somegoodfriends,andreferthemmoreasbestfriendsFriendshiphasbecomeabigpartofmylife, andithastaughtmewhatfriendshipreallyisandwhohasbeenmyrealfriends.OnceIgraduated fromhighschool,ImovedtoRacineWI,toattendcollegeandcontinueworkingasawaitressina MexicanrestaurantThankstothatjob,Imetagirlthattillthisdayhasbeenagreatfriend;Ican honestlysayshe'slikeasistertome.Atfirst,wewouldjustworktogetheracoupletimesaweek, butlateronwebeganhangingouttogetheroutsideofwork.Whenthatstarted,Ijustbegantotrust hermoreandlearnedalotfromherinhowsheis.SinceImether,she'sthetypeofgirlwhocan easilybetalkedto,shewouldgetyoucomfortabletalkingtoherandshewouldalwaysmakeyou laughatthemomentyoumeetherShe'sveryoutgoinggirlswhoeventhoughwehavebeenthrough alottogetherwehavemanagedtostillcontinuebeinggreatfriends.Afterknowingherforacouple yearswebecamecloserandcloser,wehaveourdifferences,butwehavelearnedalotfromeach other.
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Formanyyears,ithasbeensaidthatman'sbestfriendisadog.Throughtheyearstherehasbeen studiesshowingthepositiveresultsofhavingadoginoroutofahouse,whetheritbeemotionally, mentally,orphysically.Notonlyhavehumansbeenabletoformstrongbondswiththeseanimals fortheircompanionshipbutalsofortheirprotectiveinstincts.Now,dogsarenottheonlyanimals thatallowforthesepositiveoutcomes,buttherecouldalsobeotheranimalssuchascats,rabbits, reptiles,horses,andevenfarmanimalsthatcouldhavethesameresults.Animalshavebeentaught todetectdifferentdangerousobjectssuchasbombs,alsosniffoutdrugs,theyhavebeentrainedto becomeserviceanimals,andalsotheyhavebeenabletobedomesticatedinordertolivewith humans.Withouttheseanimalsourlivescouldholdpossibilityofbeingdrasticallychanged.Forthe longesttimewehaveknownthatdogsareourbestfriendfornotonlytheirloyalty,butalsoyour theirquickabilitytolearn.InanarticlebyHarvardHealthPublishing,itstateshowdogsarenot onlyourbestfriendsbutcanalsobethebestfriendofourhearts."Theevidencereviewedbythe AmericanHeartAssociation(AHA)indicatesthatdogownersaremorelikelytoexercise,havea bettercholesterolprofile,havelowerbloodpressure,belessvulnerabletothephysicaleffectsof stress,andbemorelikelytosurviveaheartattack"(DeNoon,2013).Justbecausethereisresearch for
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Friendshipsarespecial.Friendshipstofamouspoetscanbeseenindifferentways.Thetwopoems "Friendship"byRalphWaldoEmersonand"FriendshipSonnet"byWilliamShakespearetalkabout theideaoffriendshipandwhatitmeanstothemThesepoemshoweveraredifferentinnatureOne poemtalksabouthowgreatitistohaveafriend,andhowthatfriendwillcareforyouforeternity. Theotherpoemistalkingaboutafriendthathehaslost,andthismakeshimsadandthedifficulty dealingwithhislostInthesetwopoemstheyusedifferenttypesofimagery,andthismakesthem uniqueintheirownway.Friendshipssimilaritywillbeseenthroughtwofamouspoetsusing imageryanddifferentwritingstylestodescribethethemeoffriendship.In"Friendship"byRalph WaldoEmersonhetalksaboutfriendshipandtherelationshipwehavewiththatfriend.Inthiswork, hesaysthatwhentwopeoplemeeteachotherwhohavethesameideaofwhattheyarethinking about,alsogrowintellectuallyandgrowspirituallytogetherThispoemisimplyingthatwetruly enjoybeingwithpeoplewelikeandwearehappyforwhattheotherpersondoes,evenifitissmall innature.AnotherthoughtthatEmersonisimplyingisthatwhenwearewithourbestfriendtime fliesby,andwehavetocherishthelittletimewehavewithourbestfriendsAlso,ourfriendswill notcriticizeusbutjustadmireourgoodqualitiesandignoreourbadqualities.Thisiswhatafriend shoulddoand
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Ihaveneverfoundanythingmoreimportanttothegrowthofmywell–beingthanfriendships.Iwill betalkingaboutmyfriendshipsasachild,theheartbreakofhavingtolosethem,andcomparingthat tothewayIvaluefriendshipsnowSo,let'sgobackintimetowhenIwasayoungchildattheage offour.WhenIwasfouryearsoldIfoundmybestfriendandhecontinuestoholdthatspottothis day.HisnameisGarrett.Whenwefirstmet,hewassixandIwasfour,sologicallywedidn'tget alongatallThewayImethimwas,mydadwasdatingawomannamedKristiHewasgetting reallyclosetoherandsawthatKristiwasgettingalongwithmysisterandIverywell.So,he wantedustomeettherestofKristi'sfamily.The...showmorecontent...
Hewouldn'tchargeusrentoranything.So,wejoyfullyagreedtogoaheadanddoit.Whenwegot therewesoonnoticedwewerenowoutsideofourelement.Wewerenoweatingthreefullmeals comparedtobeforeandwhatwethoughtwasthreefullmealsIncomparisonwhatweatebefore wasthesizeoftwosmallbowls.Wedranksweetteawhilewelaidonthebeachunderanumbrella withpaintingandoceansallaroundus.WefeltlikewewereinheavenjustastherichinNguyen's poemdid(BinhKhiem,410)Sincewherewewerelivingwasthirtyminutesawayfromthemiddle schoolanditwasarichneighborhood,neithermenormysistermadeanyfriends.Isoonbecame lonelyandwaswillingtogiveanythingtomovebacktoMinnesotaWeknewwecouldn'tdothat sincewehadsoldourhouseinMinnesotaandweregettingaplacetoliveforfree.Ibecamelonely fast,itseemedlikeonlyyesterdayIwassmellingtheflower'sfreshnesslikeGabrielaMistraldid, andnowI'mheavywithweepingknowingthatIwouldprobablyneverseeGarrettoranyofmy otherfriendseveragain.(Mistral,519)ThisiswhenIrealizedexactlywhatwasimportanttome,and IagreewithwhatHafizwrites,"Twohundredsacksofjewelswerenotworththysoul'sdisgrace." (Hafiz,408)Orinmycase,thereisnoamountofmoneythatcouldeverreplacefriendship.We wouldsoonlearnthoughthatLeoTolstoywas
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