EveryonehastheirowndefinitionofwhatafriendisandwhatqualitiestheyshouldobtainTo manyindividualstruefriendshipisrepresentedbyhowlonganindividualhasknownsomeoneand maintainedtostayclosewiththemthroughthattime.Howevertruefriendshipmeansmorethanjust atimestamporwholivesdowntheblockfromoneanother.Truefriendshipisatraitthatisnot foundineverypersonmetthroughoutalifetime.It'snotalwaysmeasuredbytheamountoftime individualshavespenttogetherbutit'smoreabouttherelationshipcreatedduringthetimespent withoneanother.Tomanyindividualstruefriendshipmeanshavingsomeonewhorespectsthem andsupportsthemthrougheveryaspectoftheirlife
Therearemanyfriendshipsthatcanlasttwiceaslongbutattheendofthedaythefriendshipisnot asstrongastheoneoftwoyears.Beingabletohavesomeonethatcanbetrustedwithanythingand everything,andknowingthatattheendofthedayeverydaytheywillalwaysbethere,thatistrue friendship.Nomatterthedistance,time,andanyotherfactors,attheendoftheday,they'restill there.Beingtheredoesnothavetobeaphysicalgestureasmuchasitmustbeamentalitythatthey willneverleaveBeingabletoprovidesupportandadvice,thatistruefriendshipBeingabletoput othersbeforethemselvesinordertomakeeveryoneelsehappy.Thatistruefriendship.True friendshipisbasedoffofqualitiesnotalabelortimestamp.
Therearemanyfriendshipsthatcanlasttwotimesasmanyyearsbutattheendofthedaythe friendshipisnotasstrongastheoneofmultipleyears.PersonallyIhaveexperiencedbothendsof thespectrumasIhavekeptstrongrelationshipswithpeoplethroughtheyearsbutstillmanagetobe closerwithpeopleIhaveknownforhalftheamountoftime.ThisisevidentinmylifewhenIlook backandseehowIhaveknowntwoofmybestfriends,JennyKoernerandKendraPaezforonly fouryearsnow,buttheyhaveshownmemoreintheseyearsthananindividualIhavebeenfriends withsincebirth.Thisisshownthroughtheirsupportofmethelastfewyears.AllmylifeIwasthe biggerkidwhenitcametosizeandwhenIgottohighschool
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Afriendisagiftyougivetoyourself.Friendsarethepeopleinyourlifetheirisloveandaffection towardsotherpeople.Yourfriendissomeonewhoyoufeelcomfortableandcaneasilyshareyour thoughtsandfeelings.Youdonothavetothinktwicewhenyouarewithyourfriends.Atruefriend lovesyouunconditionally,understandsyou,butneverjudgesyouandalwaystriestosupportyou andgiveyougoodadviceSometimesfriendscanbehardtofindIthoughtIhadfoundmine,but thenthingschanged.GraceandImeetwhenwewerethreeinadanceclassatOvationsDance Studio.Fromthenonwewereneverapart.InfirstgradeGracemovedfromGoodShepherdto Strawbridge,myelementaryschoolIwassoexcitedthatwenowwenttothesameschoolNext yearwewereinthesameclassagain.Wesatattheyellowtablewithtwootherclassmates.The cyclewenton.Wehadthesameteacher,satnexttoeachother,atelunchtogetherandplayedat recess.Itwasimpecable.
Elementaryschoolzipsby.AfterfourthGradePassUpDayourcyclechanged. "Meggiewe'renotinthesameclassthisyear"Gracewhinedasherbigbrowneyesstartedtowell upintears."It'sfine"Istated.
"It'snotlikeoneofusismovingtoCalifornia."IexclaimedasIthrewmyarmsintheair.Ifeltlike Iwashermothertellingherthateverythingwouldbeok.Wewerebestfriendsnotbeinginthesame classcouldn'truinourfriendship.Fifthgradefliesbyintheblink
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WhatisaFriend?Whodoyouconsideryourfriends?Forme,afriendissomeonewhomakesyou laugh,they'renice,youcanjokearoundwiththisperson,andit'sveryeasytotellthemanything becauseyoutrustthem.IfItalktosomeoneoccasionally,andwe'renicetoeachotherbutwenever getintoweirdandfunnyconversationsthatlateronleadstoinsidejokes,Iwouldn'tconsiderthema friendAllofthepeopleIconsidermyfriendsarepeoplewhojustbringjoytomeOnecommon experienceIhavehadwithallmyfriendsislaughingforaverylongtimenon–stopuntilour stomachshurt.Forexample,onceIwasskypingwithtwoofmyfriends,KimandCortes.Cortes sawapostonTwitterthatsaid"Ihateitwhenteacherscoffinskateshowmorecontent Forme,IunfortunatelydonotexcelinanythingandIblendinwiththecrowd.Beinggreatat somethingbringsyoupraiseandattentionwhichisagoodthingbecausepeoplewilllookuptoyou. Inaddition,itcouldalsohelpyoustickoutwhenit'stimetoapplytoacollege.They'lllookatyour classesandseeyouwereatopstudentforoneofthem,orlookatoneoftheextracurricularactivities youwereapartofandseeyoucontributedalotandwereveryimportantandpraisedbytheother members.Forexample,ifyou'reintosportsandyou'rethestarathleteofyourteam,notonlywill youwinawardsfromyourschoolandbewell–knownbynearlyeverystudent,youmightalsoget recruitedbyacollege.Whatthismeansisthecollegewillaskforyoutojoin,sincetheywantyou ontheirteam.Ifyou'reapartofaschoolorganizationthat'salsoverybeneficial.Yougainskillsthat willbeveryimportantinthefutureYou'llbuildleadershipskillsandconfidenceIfyoustickwith thisorganizationforaverylongtimeduringschool,that'salsoagoodthingcollegeslookforandit increasesyourchancesofbeing
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Whenafriendmovesawayit'ssad,whenagoodfriendmovesawayittakessometimetoheal.But whenyourbestfriendwhoisfamilytoyoumovehalfwayacrossthecountry,it'safeelingyoucan't describe.Thehurtandthelonelinessthatcomeswiththemoveisnothingthatanyonewantstodeal with.MybestfriendKaylynHoogemovedawayfromBeatriceandawayfrommeJune22nd,2017. Shenowlives17hoursand24minutesawayfrommeinthestateofVirginiaMeandKaylyn becamegoodfriendsatthebeginningof7thgrade.Weinstantlyclickedandbythemiddleof7th gradewewerebestfriends.ItookhertoYellowstoneNationalParkforvacationthatsummer.As wegotolderwebecamecloserandcloserShewasoneofmyonlytruefriendsatthetimeKaylyn isthebestfriendthatIhaveevermet.Sheisthereformeinthegoodtimes,thebadtimes,and everythinginbetween.Nothingcouldseparateuscomefreshmanyear.Ithoughtthatweweregonna beabletograduatetogetherandhavethebest4yearsofhighschooltogether.Itwasaboutthe middleoftheschoolyear,wewereonthebusheadingtoourshowchoircompetition.Shewas actingalittlestrangebutonlyIseemedtonoticeitIhadpulledhertothebackofourgroupassoon aswegotoffofthebus.Iasked"iseverythingokay?"Sherespondedtomebysaying"Mydad mightbegettingapromotion".IwashappyforherdadandIdidn'tknowwhythatwasmakingher sad.Shethenfinishedwhatshewassayinganditwas"butthepromotionisbackinVirginia".The smileonmyfacewentawayonceitsunkinthatthepromotionwouldmeanthatshewouldbe movingWetriedtonotthinkaboutitanymorethatdaybutneverlefteachotherssideforaminute SometimelatertowardstheendoftheschoolyearIhadforgottenaboutthepromotion.Untilshe wasactingweirdinclassagain.Thistimeshe'stheonethatpulledmeaside,shetoldmethather sistersweretellingtheirbestfriendssosheneededtotellmeIgotkindascaredwhenshesaidthat ThenextthingthatIheardwas"dadgotthepromotion,IammovingbacktoVirginia".BeforeI knewwhatwashappeningIwascrying,everyoneintheclasswasstaringatme,butIdidn't
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Friendshipsareoneofthemostimportantthingsyoucangetoutoflife.It'ssomethingthateveryone hastohavebecausewithoutitwewouldallgoinsane.Justthinkifnoonetalkedtoeachotherand wenevermadefriends,thisworldwouldbeatickingtimebomb.Studiessayhumanneed friendshipsandlovetosurvive.Sofriendshipisabigpartofyourlife. Thereisnorealdefinitionoffriendship,becausethere'snoonewayyoucandefineitFriendships canmeanmanydifferentthings,dependingontheperson.Friendshiptoyoumaybeyourboyfriend oryourmom.Tosomeoneelseitmaybetheircousinorsomeonetheymetonatschool.Itcantake youalongtimetoconsidersomeoneyourfriendMaybeyouhavetogettoknowshowmore content...
Loyaltyisanotherbigfactorinfriendship.Loyaltymeansneverdoingorsayinganythingbadabout yourfriendsbehindtheirback.Whenyoustartdoingthingsbehindyourfriend'sback,thatwill makeyouthinkthey'redoingthingbehindyoursalsoanditwillleadtoabadfriendship.Loyaltyis standingupforyourfriendIfsomeoneistalkingaboutyourfriend,standupforthemdon'tjointhe conversation.Youwon'ttrusteachotherifyou'renotloyaltoeachother.Ithinkyoushouldalso havesomethingincommonwiththisperson.Youandthispersonshouldsharesomeofthesame interestbecauseifyoulikeonethingbuttheydon'tlikeanyofthethingsyoulikethenthe friendshipwon'twork.
AfriendshipshouldalsocontainalotofloveYourfriendshouldfeellikeapartofyourfamily Youshouldhaveasisterbondorbrotherbond.Therewillbedaysthatyoumightfightordisagree butaslongasyouhavethatloveyoushouldneverletthelittlethingsbreakyourfriendship.True
FriendshipsstickthroughthefightsTheystickthroughthe,Iwanttobewithmyboyfriendstages, becauseatruefriendknowattheendofthedaythatboywillbegone,andtheywillstillbethere standingbytheirfriend.Whensheneedsashouldertocryon,someonetokeepherstrongandto helphergetthroughthehardtimes,atruefriendwillbethere.
Wecan'tpickourfamilybutwecanpickourfriends.Yourfriends
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Friendshipisaveryspecialrelationshipbetweentwopeopleormore.That'swhyyouneedsome timeapowertounderstandthem.Iagreethatfriendshiprequiretimeandenergy.Ithinkthat friendshipcontainslove,faithandhonesty,andforthatyouneedtospendtimetoknowthatother sideveryquit,sofriendshiprequiretimeandenergyfortworeason.Firstreasonisthatsomefriends arefriendforlifesecondisthatpeoplecannotlivealone
Thefirstreasonwhyfriendshipworthtimeandenergyisthatsomefriendsarefriendforlife .Accordingtothereading,someofyourfriendsarefriendsforlife.Becausewhenyoumeetthem andspendtimewiththemandshareeverythingwiththemyouwillbecometooclosewiththemalso you...showmorecontent...
Withoutourfriendships,weareindeedlost.Whateverhappens,weshouldalwayskeepourtrue friendsclosetoourheart.Tellthemhowmuchtheymeantoyou.Donotletthemslipaway.Ifthey do,gooutandgetthemback.Thebondswemakeduringthesedayswillservetokeepusgoingin themonthsandyearsahead
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Lifeissoshortthatweneedsomeonetoshareourthoughtsandfeelings.Definitely,athought wouldariseinourmindaskingwhoitcouldbewhomwecantrustsoclosely.Answermightbewho someoneclosestoyou,butwho?Parents,brother,sister!Apparently,ithardlycomestoanyone's minda"truefriend".Youarenonearertotruefriendshipthanifyouchoosethemforcommercial reason.Besideswhoareyouthatyoushouldbesettingapriceuponyourfriendship?Itisenough foranymanthathehasthedivinepowerofmakingfriends,andhemustleaveittothatpowerof makingfriends.InthisessayIwilltrytogivemypointsofviewtowardfriendship.
Friendsareessentialinourlifejustasfoodisessentialforliving.Moreover,itisessentialto determinetheirfriendshipasweanalyzethecontentsofthefoodbeforeweeat.Friendsandtheir friendshipplayagreatrolein
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ADefinitionofaFriend
Friendshipisnotsimplya"relationship",knowingsomeone,conversingwiththatperson,ordealing withthatpersoninbusiness,school,orincasualacquaintance.Truefriendshipisnotjusta "relationship",butself–sacrificingloveAfriendisalsoonewhosupports,sympathizes,andisa personinwhomyoucanconfide.Thereareuniquequalitiesthatapersonmusthavetobe consideredafriend.
Anacquaintanceisnotautomaticallyconsideredafriend.Justbecauseyouknowsomeonedoesnot meanthereisaninstantfriendship.Thisdoesnotmeanthatanacquaintancecannotchangeintoa valuedfriendship.Therearequalitiesthatafriendmusthave,buttimeisalsoafactor.Afriendship can...showmorecontent...
FriendsshouldsupporteachotheratalltimesInanythingfriendsdo,theyshouldrespecteach other'sopinionsandsupporteachother.Notonlymustfriendsbesupportiveofoneanother,there shouldalsobeasympathetictonewhenneeded.Friendsshouldnotonlylisten,butalso understandingneedstotakeplace,aswellashelp.Whenafriendisinneed,youarewaitingforhim ashewouldbewaitingforyou.Ifafriendisnotsympatheticandawareofyourneeds,thenthereis aweakfriendshipEachshouldknowhisfriend'sgoals,needs,andwantsIfthesethingsarenot known,thenthereisaweakrelationship.Friendsshouldsetgoalstogethertohelpdevelopastrong relationship.Theycanevenhelpeachotheralongtheway.Oneperson'sweaknesscouldbeanother friend'sstrengthApersonneedstobeloved,andthatiswhatafrienddoesAfriendneedstobe respectedaswellasloved.Notonlyshouldafriend'sneedsbefulfilled,butalsocertainwants.A friendwantsapersonwhowilllisten,love,andshowrespect,justasanybodywould.Afriendis alsoloyalandtrustworthy.Whenfriendstalktooneanother,itisknownthattheconversation shouldjustbebetweenthem,especiallyifitispersonaltoeitherofthem.Neitherpersonshould shareanyoftheinformationwithsomeoneelseThatisjustlikeinvadingsomeone'sprivacywhen yourepeatsomethingthatafriendtellsyouwithoutpermission.Youshouldbeabletoconfidein and
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TheQualitiesofRealFriends
Tohavefriendsisanessentialpartoflifeandcomfort.Whenyouwerelittleyouhadfriendsin schoolthatyoucouldplaywith.Yousharedyourtoyswiththemandlaughedwiththemwhilethe teacherwasspeakingWhenyouwereinmiddleschool,youprobablyadoptedacliqueoffriendsto seeafterclassandhangoutwithafterschool.Lateroninhighschool,youmostlikelynarrowed yourchoicetoonecompanionthatyoucouldshareyourtroubleswith.Thesearethepeopleyou chosetospendthattimeofyourlifewith,andthesearethepeoplethatcultivatedwhoyouare Everyonehascertainexpectationsofwhatavaluablefriendshouldbelike.WhatIthinkmakesa friendisloyalty,showmorecontent
Theirbeliefsandvalueswillcoincidewithmine,buttheyshouldalsobeuniquewiththeirown specialfaultsandtraits.Ialsodon'twanttobearoundsomeonewhoisboringandhasamonotonous attitudeaboutthingsMyfriendsandIwillgooutandskydive,bungeejumpandtravelaroundthe world.Aworthwhilefriendwillhelpyoufindyourselfandletyoudothingsonyourownwhen needed.Forafriendshiptogrow,allpartiesinvolvedmustputefforttomakethefriendshipwork. Theyalsoneedtobeabletodealwithchangeswithinpeopleandadapttonewtraits.Onlycertain peoplewithastrongcharactercanfitmyideal.Finally,atruefriendisonewhoisalwaysavailable forhelpInthemiddleofacrisis,youneedtopickupthephoneandhearareassuringvoicetelling youthateverythingisgoingtobefine.Itcanmakeyoufeellonelyandfullofdespairwhenyou havetodealwitheverythingbyyourself.Apricelessfriendwilllistentoyoureverywordand sootheawayeverytearSuchapersonwillnotcomplainwhenyouaretalkingtoomuch;atrue friendknowsyouneedtoexpressyourself.Also,theywilldropeverythingtocomeseeyouortalk toyouwhenyoureallyneedtheirpresence,makingyouaveryimportantpriority.Therehavebeen acoupleoftimesinmylifethatIhavecometonoticewhomyrealfriendsare.WhenIwasgoing throughroughtimeswithmyparents,thepeoplewhoIthoughtwheremyfriendsnevertookthe
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ATrueFriend"Atruefriendissomeonewhoisthereforyouwhenhe'dratherbeanywhereelse."–LenWein.EversincethedayTomgotintroubleandhadtositbyBeckyThatcher,theybecame bestfriends,andevenclaimedtheylovedeachother.OnedaywhenBeckyandTomstoppedgetting along,Beckysoughtouttofindwhattheotherschoolchildrenreferredtoastheteacher'ssecret bookTohergreatdelight,shefoundthebookandbeganflippingthroughthemanypages However,whilehastilyflippingthrough,Beckytoreoneofthepages.Tomhappenedtowaltzinat justtherightmomentandwitnessthisfatalact.Shefearfullyputthebookbackinitsplacebegging Tomnottotell,andanxiouslyawaitedthemomenttheteacherwouldfinditOncehefoundhis book,tornpageandall,theteacherbeganquestioningeveryoneintheschoolhouseiftheyhaddone it.Inastateofpurepetrification,Beckyknewshecouldnotlietotheteacherevenifshetried,and sosheawaitedherpunishment.Astonishingly,however,Tomnoticedthefear,andtragedyin Becky'seyes,andastheschoolmasternearedBeckytoconfronther,Tomroseupanddeclaredthat hetorethebook,relievingBeckyofherdreadedpunishmentEveryonewhoreadsthistouchingtale, wantsBeckyandTomtogetalong,however,somebelieveTomshouldhavetakenBecky's punishment,whileothersbelieveheshouldnothave.Despitecontrarybeliefs,Tom Pike2shouldhavetakenBecky'spunishment.Thedecision
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Whenyouhaveafriendandyouarespendingtimewiththem,doyourealizeyouareusuallyinthe samemoodastheyareatthatmoment?Tome,thatistruefriendshipbecauseitshowsthatyou enjoyspendingtimetogetherandwhatmakesyourfriendhappy/sadwilldothesameforyou.True friends/bestfriendswillneverturntheirbacksonyouforanything.Peoplewillalwaystalkbad aboutyouatsomepointinyourlifeandifyourrealfriendsarewiththem,theywon'tturntheir backsandjoininontheconversation.Thisisbecausetheyshouldsimplyknowbettertowalkaway orevenaskthemtostoptheconversationwhentheyareinthesameatmosphere.Manypeoplehave manydifferenttypesoffriendsandIbelievethisgoeswiththesaying,"alltypesofpeoplemakethe worldgoround."Asachild,Igrewuphavingmoralsandrespectnotonlyformyfriends,butalso forothersthatwereinmysurroundingareas.Myparentsreallytaughtmethevaluesoffriendship andIneverreallyunderstoodwhyuntilIgotolder.Ialwayswouldquestionmyselfwhytheywould valueitsomuchaswell.Untilonenight,asIwaslayinginbedIbegantothinkdeeplyandfinally cameupwithananswerFriendshipiswhatmakespeoplewhotheyarebecausewithoutfriends whatwouldwereallyhavetokeepussaneattimes?Nothing.Onecouldhavemultipledefinitions ofwhatatruefriendcouldbe,buttome,arealfriendistrustworthy,supportive,andalsoarole model.Ichoosethese
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Afriendissomeoneyoucanalwayscountonwhentimesaretough.Havingfriendsiseasybut beingatruefriendisnotalwayseasy.Tobeatruefriendfirstlyyouneedtokeepyourspromises. Donotmakeapromisethatyounotgoingtokeep.Becauseifyoudonotkeepyourpromises,your friendswilldefinitelystarttolossconfidentinyou.Ifyoupromiseyourfriendtogowithhertothe store,ifyoujustcannotgo,giveyourfriendagiftandtellhimorhersorrySecondlybe dependable.Beingdependableisoneofthemostimportantaspectsofbeingatruefriend.Ifyouare atruefriendwhoisdependable,yourfriendcallonyoumostespeciallyinhardtimes.Thirdlybe honestHonestyisthefairnessandstraightforwardnessofshowmorecontent
SecondlyhetoldmeReplacestresswithsweetnessandtryaspoonfulofhoney.Becausehoneyalso providescompoundsthatreduceinflammationinthebrain,meaningitfightsdepressionandanxiety. ThirdofallIhadtowalkstressout.BecausehetoldmewhenIamfeelingoverwhelmedorhaving troubleconcentrating,goforaquickstrollaroundtheblock.You'llgetthebenefitsofalonetime, physicalactivity,andafewminutestogatheryourthoughts!Lastlyhetoldmetolistentomy favoritesongwhywalking.Sometimesbeltingoutthelyricstoafavoritetunemakeseverything seemallright.MotivationisastrongtoolIusetogofurtherinlifeandtoachievemydreams.Iwas failingmymathclasssoIhadtomotivatemyselftopass.FirstofallIstartedgoingtoclassontime, makingsureIwasnotaminutelate.SecondlyIdecidedtopaymoreattentiontothelessonandask anyquestionIhad,mustespeciallywhenIdon'tunderstanditThirdofallIalsostarteddoingall myhomeworkandmakingsureI'mdoingitrightadturningitinontime.LastlyIhadtofindatutor tohelpmestudy.HoweverIhadtoalsopracticeonmyowntimetoimprovemyskills.Youhavea jobinterviewthenextdayandstilldon'tknowwhattodIhavethesefewsteps'thatIlearnasa fractioninmyprofessionaldevelopmentlassatConcordia.First,picktheclothyouaregoingto wearonthejobinterviewtheday
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Friendshipisweird.Youselectrandomstrangersthathavesimilarpersonalitytraitsasyouandthen givethemaffectionandplanactivitiesthatinvolvestheotherperson.Butbeforeyouwerefriends youwerestrangers–ifyouweretonevercrosspathsorjudgedthemthewrongwayrightoffthebat –wherewouldyoube.MylifehasbeenaffectedinawayIwillneverreallyknowwhyorhowbut itallstartedwithmynextdoorneighborInfairNoblesville,IndianaiswherewesetoursceneTwo hopefulparentswhowishfortheirdaughtersofyear3tobefriends–okayenoughofthis,let'sget tothestory.Newneighborshadjustmovedintoanewlydevelopedarea2doorsdownfromus. TheyhadalittlegirlnamedHaleywhowasmyageMymom,havingnofriendsinthearea,hadher mindsetonmakingfriendswiththatneighbor.Shewentovertothehouseandarrangedaplaydate withHaleyforme.Whenwegottheretheparentstooktheiradultsippycupsoutsideandleftme alonewithHaley.WIthherblueeyesandblondehairshelookedlikeCinderella–IalreadyknewI wasn'tgoingtolikethisgirl.I'llsaveyoutherestofthedetails,buttheplaydatedidnotgowell..... ThefirstdayofPreschoolcamearoundanditjustsohappensthattheCinderbitchwasinmyclass Ourmoms–stillfruitlesslyattemptingtogetustobefriends–droppedusoffandmadeuswalk intopreschooltogether.Then,tomakemattersworse,theymadeustakeatleast1000pictures
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Haveyoueverhadthefeelingthatsomeoneknowsyoubetterthanyourself?We'reoftensurrounded byso–calledfriends,oracquaintances,asIcallthem,wherebyaconnectionbetweenpeopleis actuallylittle–to–nonexistent.Whereasatruefriendisthereforyounomatterwhat,forthe marvelousandthedreadful.Thesearethekindoftruefriendsthatwillhaveone'sback.Theyare loyal,trustworthy,andvaluabletohaveinone'slifeTofurtherunderstandwhattheword"friend" means,it'simportanttoknowthehistory.Theworditself,derivesfromMiddleEnglishandmeans love,attachment,andfeelingthatofarelative.Thewordwasfirstnotablyusedinthetwelfth century Therefore,afriendlistenstowhatoneissayingandcaresabouttheirfeelingsandopinion. Occasionally,attimes,itfeelsmyfriendshipsareabitone–sided,whereI'mdoingthemajorityof listening.Asaresultofthis,I'vediscoveredanotabledifferencebetweenafriendandatruefriend. Inafriendship,therearetalkersandtherearelisteners.Exceptinatruefriendship,whereneither claimaspecificrole,botharetalkersandthelistenersThus,it'sfairtosayatruefriendissomeone whocanlaughatmyawkwardmomentsandviceversa.Inotherwords,it'sthesetypesoffriends thatarethebest,weworkasateam,bothsidesaddingtotherelationship.However,afriendshipis morethanusingsomeoneasagossippalortoranttoaboutlifeproblems,butcaringforeach
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WhatisaFriend?
WhatIdefinea"friend"isthattheydon'tletyoudocertainthingssuchasinfightingandreally obnoxiousthings.Ibelieveafrienddoesn'tletyououtsideinthestreetsifyouandyourmomargued orthattheywillalwaysbethereforyouwhenyouandyourboyfriendbreakup.Ibelievemy friendswillsharetheirfoodwithmeandsharewithmetheir10$withmewhenwegobuy McDonald's.ThattheywilltellmeifIlookridiculousinwhati'mwearing.Also,thattheywon't talkbehindmybackandthenmakemyotherfriendsnotlikemenortalktome.Afriendwillalso helpmepassallmygradesandnotletmegetinfluencedbybadthingssuchasinsmokingor drinkingbehindmymother'sback.Ifmyfriendeverneeded
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Whatisafriend?Afriendissomeonewhosupportsyou,sympathizeswithyou,orpatronizesa group.Aneasilydefinitionofthatwouldbeapersonyouknow,likeandtrust.
Inthesetoughtimeswecountonfriendtohelpusgetthrough.Iliketothinkoffriendshipas everlasting,butisfriendshiptrulyforever?Canmilesdriveyouawayfromfriendsyoumadeafter graduatingfromplaceslikehighschoolorcollege?Justimaginewalkingacrossthestageandnever seeingthepeopleyougraduatedwith.Wellforthoseinstancesyoucanalwaysjoinnetworking placeslikeFacebook.Facebookhelpsyouconnectwiththepeopleinyourlife.Inthosewaysyou wouldneverbewithoutyourfriendsOnthesesitesyoucanwritetoeachotheronshowmore content...
Afriendshipcanbeeverlastingdependingonthepersonalitiesinthatrelationship.Sometimes personalitiescanchangeforthegoodthebadinmanyfriendships.Youcanneverchangeaperson throughafriendship.Differencescansetyouapart.Thedefinitionofafriendhaschangedoverthe yearsthereforethatcouldbeacontributingfactortowhywecancountourfriendononehand Thinkaboutit!Whenseparatingfromfriendsforawhilephysicallyvaluesandbeliefsstartto change.Manymayarguethatisnottrue,butIwillsayIhavelostmanyfriendsdotopersonality changesandbelief.Somereasonsmaybebebecauseeveryoneincollegelikestosmokeanddrink.I amnotafanofeitherwhichIbelieveisgrosssoIdropmanyfriendsduetothatreason.Ihavealso lostalotoffriendsduetothewaystheyacttowardsmeorotherswhendifferentpeoplearearound Intheurbanworldwecallthatbeing"fake."Fakeisanotherwayofsayingyouaren'twhatyou claimtobe.Youdon'tstaytruetoyourselfandtotallyhonest.Ontheothersidepeoplecanchange forthegoodtohelpeachotherinafriendshipFriendshipscangaintrustthroughoneanotherindue tothepeopleyouarearound.Inarelationshiptrustisbeingabletellasecretunderconfidenceto otherpeoplehopingtheywonttell.Ifyougainsomeonestrustwhenyoucometoaproblemyouare likelytocometothatperson
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FRIENDS:friendorfoe?
Friendsareextremelyimportantandfriendshipisamajorpartofourlives.Ifthere'sonethingwe canallagreeon,it'sthatfriendsareawesome.Havingfriendsissimilartohavingfamily.Duringthe goodtimesandthebad,throughthickandthin,yourbestfriendsarethereforyouTheyarethe peoplethatyoucancountoninyourgreatesttimeofneed.Theycanhelpyouintimesoftrouble, andbetheretoenjoyandsharethegreatpartsofyourlifetoo.Ourfriendsarethepeoplewecan relyontogiveusthemuchneededsupportandcomfortthatweallseekinlifeKnowingthatyou havefriendsisawonderfulfeelingbutsomethingthatwelearnalotaboutusaswegetolderisour twotypesofshowmorecontent
Infact,theymayrefuseorfeelburdenediftheydoanythingforyou
Real:Willoffertohelpbeforeyouevenaskandifyoudoask,theyhelpout,willinglyandwithout resentment
Fake:Talksaboutyoubehindyourback
Real:Iftheyhaveaproblemwithyou,theydiscussit,facetoface,andinarespectfulandmature manner.
Fake:One–dimensional.Theyseeonlytheirneedsandisoblivioustoneedsofothers.Theyoften useyouasasoundingboardandyourarelygetawordin.
Real:Theyarein–tuneenoughtosenseyourpain,yourneedsandaresupportiveTheyarethetype wholistensattentivelyandwithconcernandinterest.Eachofyouwillhaveyourtimetoventandbe heard.Itwon'tbeone–sidedasitiswithafakefriend.
Fake:Fullofexcusesforwhytheyhavenotimeforyou–oftenonlycomingaroundwhenthey wantsomethingandthatsomethingisn'tYOU
Real:Wantstomaketimeforyoubecausetheygenuinelyenjoybeingwithyouand"choose"to nurturethefriendship
Fake:Theiractionsdon'tbackuptheirwords.Promisesareoftenbrokenandyoucan'ttrustmuch ofwhattheysayordoYouneverreallygettoknowwhotheyarebecausetheywearamaskof deception.
Real:Theiractionsareproportionatetotheirwords,instillingtrustanddependability.Theyarethe firstpersonyouthinkofwheretrustisconcernedYouknowthemindepthbecausetheyhave openedupinawaythatallowsyoutoknowandtrust ...Getmorecontent...
OneofthemostmarveloustypesofrelationshipsthatanyonecanhaveisFriendship.Amajorityof peopletodaycansaythattheyhavemanyfriendships,howevernotmanyknowthemeaningoftrue friendship.Atruefriendshipisarelationshipamongpeoplewhowillbethereforeachotherintimes ofneed,areusuallythebestcompanytobearound,andprovidethebestadviceinacertain situationAtruefriendwillalwaysbethereforyouNomatterhowimmenseordiminutivethe problemmaybe,truefriendswillbethefirstonesthere.Ifsomebodyishavingtrouble understandingtheirhomework,afriendwillbetheretohelpthatpersonunderstandthatmaterial. Whensomeoneisfeelingdownandnothavingagreatday,afriendwilltrytocheeryouupby actingsilly.Agreatfriendwillalwaystrytobethefirstonesthere,regardlessofthesituation.This iswhatseparatesafriendfromagenuinefriend.showmorecontent
Thereissomethingaboutthemthatmakesthemsoentertaining,moreoveramusing.Theremaybe thosedaysthatyoumightfeeldejected,thereforeyoumightnotbeintheframeofmindtotalkto anyoneatallThereisnotonepersonthatcancheeryouup,withtheexceptionofyourfriendThis sometimesofferstheopportunityforbothofthesepeopletobethemselvesaroundoneanother. Probablyonethebestqualitiesthatadependablefriendcanpresentisgivingguidance.Fromtimeto time,wewillfacesomeenigmaticchoices.Somefriendsmightjustpayattentiontoyour conundrum,andinterjectwiththeirowndifficulties.Ratherthanthinkingabouttheirownproblems, theyshouldconcentrateongivingsuggestionstofindthebestsolutionYoucanhavemanyfriend throughoutyourlife,buttruefriendsdonotcomethatoftentimes.Butonceyoufindthem,theywill alwaysbetherefor
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Friends(compareandcontrastessay)
Allthroughoutlifewehavefriends.Mostofthemwillchangeastheyearsgoby,butafewwill remainthesameThefriendsthatchangeareusuallytheoneswhohavewrongedusandthefriends thatstaythesamearetheoneswhoaretrue.Truefriendshiplasts,falsefriendshipfades.
Friendshipissharedbetweentwopeopleoragroupofpeoplethattrust,support,careandare comfortablewitheachother("Friendship")Everyonewantstobeafriendandhaveafriendbecause ofthefeelingsitgiveshimorher.Itmakesthemfeelliketheybelongsomewhere,liketheyhavea placeintheworld,anditmakesthemfeelsecureandhappytobewhotheyare(Vernon).Theseare thefriendswhoyoucanshowmorecontent
EventhroughitallIdon'thatethemforthethingstheydidandIstilltalktothemfromtimetotime, butI'mnotasclosetothemThisismainlybecauseIlostalltrustinthemWithouttrustyouhave nothingbutacquaintanceshipwiththeperson.
Beingatruefrienddoesn'tmeanjustsayinghelloandthenwalkingonbyorjusttalkingtosomeone inoneclassperiodandthennotatallfortherestofthedayAfriendissomeonewhowecangoto anddiscussproblems,giveadviceto,comfortwhentheirfeelingbadorhadabadday,andsomeone whoyoutalktoonadailybasisYoushouldn'tbeafraidtobeseentalkingtoorhangingoutwith yourfriends.Youshouldbeloyaltoyourfriendsandbeyourselfaroundthembecausetheyarethe oneswhowon'tjudgeyouormakecruelremarksaboutyoubehindyourback.
Thetwothingstruefriendshipandfalsefriendship,friendsthatcomeandgo,haveincommonare: thetwoofyoueitherareoroncewerefriendsandthetwoofyouoncehadsomethingsincommon. Theyareandoncewereapersoninwhomyoutrusted,confidedin,supported,caredfor,felt comfortablewith,andhadsomethingsincommonwith.
Inconclusion,truefriendsandfalsefriendshavealotofdifferencesandonlyacoupleof similaritiesButbecauseofthedifferencesitmakesiteasiertoseewhoyourtrueandlifelong friendsare.Weshouldalsoneverforgetourold
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MaintainingaTrueFriendship
Makingfriendsforalotofuscomesnaturally,butmaintainingthesefriendshipsmaybecome somewhatdifficult.Thisisbecausetruefriendshipcannotsurvivewithoutthesethreeaspects:Love, RespectandHonestyIfanyoftheseaspectsarelackinginthefriendship,itwillslowlydisintegrate Truefriendshipneedsequalsharesoflove,respectandhonesty.Therefore,tomaintaintrue friendship,youneedthewholepackage,justnotapartofit.
Loveisnaturallyapartofanyrelationship.Inafriendship,lovecanmeansomanythings.Itmeans beingtherewhenyourfriendneedsyou,nomatterwhatthecircumstancesmaybe.Itmeans listeningtoyourfriend'sproblemsandgivingthemadvicetoshowmorecontent
Lovetiesintorespect,whichisanotherimportantpartoftruefriendship.
Respectinafriendshipisjustnotgiven,it'searned.Friendsusuallyearnthisrespectbyshowing howmuchtheyloveandcareforeachother.Butrespectisalsogivingeachotherpersonalspaceand knowingwhentobackoffiftheyinvadedinthatspace.Alsorespectingeachothersopinions,even thoughtheymightnotbethesameasyours.Standingbehindyourfriendwhentheyarefacinga problemcausedbyanotherpersonorsituationalsoshowsrespectforeachotherWheneachperson inthefriendshipfeelslovedandrespected,theyfeelthatthecantrusteachotherandthat'swhere honestycomesintothepicture.
Honestyisafragileaspectoftruefriendship.Itcaneasilymakeorbreakarelationship.Honesty meanstobeyourself,donotpretendtobesomeoneelse.Yourfriendwillloveyouforwhoyouare. Don'tkeepsecretsthatcoulddestroyyourfriendship,iftheyevercametosurface.Tellyourfriend thesecretassoonasyoucanandtheywillrespectyouevenmoreforbeingsohonest.Thebiggest partofhonestyisbetrayalNeverbetrayyourfriendbytalkingbehindtheirbacksbecauseonceyou saysomething,evenifyoudon'tmeanit,youcannevertakeitback.
Inconclusion,onecouldrealizethatittakesnotone,nottwo,butthethreeaspectsthatwejust coveredtomaintaintruefriendship.Love,RespectandHonestyalltieintoone
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Havingafriendshipwithsomeonesinceyouwerelittleisamazing,thebondyouformwiththat personlikeanever–endingcomforterandsomeonetoalwaystrustandconfidein.ThedayImoved intothenewhouseandwenttoseetheneighborhood,Iknewwewouldalwaysbeclose.OwenandI grewclosereveryday,quicklybecomingthebestoffriends,andatthetime,nothingwasbetterthan havingabestfriendThroughourawkwardyears,multiplefriendgroupscomingandgoing,the harshwordsandthehatefromotherpeople,wewerealwaysthereforeachother;hehadmyback andIhis.Livinginthemomentandcherishingthethingsyouhavewhileyouhavethemisoneof themostimportantthingsinlifebecauseyouneverknowwhenitcanallbetakenaway Itwasduringtheeleventh–gradesummerthateverythingchanged.Thedailytalks,sleepovers,and comingtoeachotherabouteverythingallhindered.Eyecontactandsmileswereturnedtoscowling, pointing,andlaughingwiththehierarchyofallgroups.Beingfriendswithhimforsolongand eventuallydevelopingfeelingsthatexceededafriendship,andthenjustbeingdroppedwithno warningandnothavingacluewhywasheart–wrenchingandconfusingThedayofthepep–rallyI finallythoughtthatthisone–sidedfeudwouldbestoppedandthatwecouldrekindleourlost friendship,butIcouldneverbemorewrong.Manysideglances,smirks,andwinksweremade,but nonewiththelovingintentthattheyusedtohold.
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