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Case study – Pornography
from Time to Talk
Online pornography is oftentimes free, easily accessible and highly addictive. It is also damaging and degrading to our understanding of sex and relationships. Young people can respond to viewing online pornography for the first time with feelings of curiosity, shock and confusion.
A research study in 2016, commissioned by the NSPCC and the Children’s Commission for England,5 found that 28% of 11 to 12-year-olds had seen pornography; this rises to 46% of 13 to 14-year-olds and 65% of 15 to 16-yearolds. Young people were as likely to first come across it accidentally, (for example via a pop-up advertisement), as to actively search for it. The majority of respondents first viewed pornography on either a portable laptop or mobile phone, and the majority first viewed it at home.
Here are a few tips about how you might raise this issue with your children
01 Help your child to understand that, just like in the physical world, there are things which are dangerous and harmful online. Teach and empower them to use the internet safely.
02 Adopt appropriate safeguards and protections around devices that use the internet, for example boundaries around mobile phone use or accountability software.
5 NSPCC, Children’s Commissioner, Middlesex University: The impact of online pornography on children and young people: childrenscommissioner. gov.uk/report/an-examination-of-the-impact-of-onlinepornography-on-children-and-young-people/
03 Model to your children how you also live within these good and healthy boundaries and protections for using the internet. Create a culture of openness so that your child knows that they can come to you if they see anything that shocks or upsets them.
04 Be open, as is age-appropriate, with your child. Remind them that curiosity is good and natural but that pornography is seductive and addictive, dehumanising and degrading.
05 Educate your children, as appropriate, about the dangers of creating or sharing inappropriate images, have a plan about what to do if they are sent these images or asked for them, and remind them that the sharing of some images could constitute to a criminal offence. 06 As appropriate, help them to understand the impact of using pornography on their own brain, mind, spirituality and relationships and the impact on others, particularly women who are degraded and objectified.
07 Feelings of shame associated with porn use can cause isolation and depression and many Christian parents may struggle with pornography use as well. As Christians, it is important that we can talk about pornography in a way that names sin and acknowledges the harm and damage to ourselves and others made in the image of God. However, we must also point to hope and redemption, forgiveness and a better way.
08 How can you help your child to create an alternative way out if they are tempted or a plan of action to use if others in their company are sharing pornography around them?
