BREAKING THE JUDGEMENT MOLD

BY TAMI BONNELL EXIT REALTY CEO

Each and every one of us was born with special gifts, and everyone has a unique purpose and reason for being. Yet somehow, we assess ourselves and others by using a one-size-fits-all, preconceived mold. And it doesn’t seem to matter whether we’re in a good or bad frame of mind; we judge the good and we judge the bad. We’re constantly evaluating ourselves or somebody else.

Best-selling author and shame researcher, Brené Brown, explains in her book Daring Greatly, 'Research tells us we judge people in areas where we’re vulnerable to shame, especially picking folks who are doing worse than we’re doing…We’re hard on each other because we’re using each other as a launching pad out of our own perceived deficiency.'

We make assumptions based on what we see, but it’s just a glimpse, not the whole picture. Everybody has a story; is fighting their own battle or facing their own truths. The reality is, we’re judging things we know nothing about. Just because someone shows up late and disheveled for a meeting doesn’t mean you should pride yourself on punctuality and judge them as inconsiderate or in need of better time management.

Perhaps they’re caring for an ill parent and working two jobs to stay afloat. Maybe they’re suffering from clinical depression and simply getting out of bed is a major victory. We’re all guilty of it, even me, and these times have made it all that much easier.

This is where EXIT Realty truly shines; where we’re unlike any other company in the industry. We genuinely get to know one another, and so many of our people are quick to extend their servant heart. We lean on one another, and rally together, which is why so many are flocking to EXIT right now. We genuinely care about holistic well-being and the remarkable totality of human potential. We learn, share, mentor and have become the most amazing family that just so happens to specialize in real estate.

Awareness is the first step towards change. So pay attention to your thoughts. Let’s keep breaking the judgement mold by filling it with understanding.