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INSPIRE
by eYs Magazine
IT’S OKAY TO NOT BE OKAY.
By Cosette Awad
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It’s okay to not be okay.
I’ve heard this a thousand times.
Once, someone told me “You’re funny; who hurt you?” And I realized that not every time we take the pain and cry, sometimes it’s the opposite. We wear our smiles and pretend that the world around us isn’t falling apart. I thought when we lie “that white lie” and we say, “I’m okay.” when we aren’t, it’s heavier than telling the truth but we still don’t want to worry the people we love.
We adapt; we cope with pain, each one in his own way, some of us bury our wounds, and some of us show them and grow. We hide, but never from ourselves. We don’t have to be strong all the time, we are allowed to break down and fall apart. As Hemmingway said,
No one is born to endure pain, but we live we learn and life will give us more hardships and we will survive them all so we can reach our goals and dreams, and it’s from a personal opinion I’m talking, because of everything that happened to me, all the tragedies, all the losses, everything I wished for that I didn’t need and didn’t as much as the ones that happened, that lead me to where I am now, for being halfway through where I need to be in the future.
It’s okay to not want to move from bed for a day or two, to want to be left alone for a while, to process grief, a break-up, to have to say goodbye over and over again to people in our lives, the pain of losing someone is indescribable, who doesn’t have painful experiences? But they are memories now, we fight to get through them, and we live. Adapting to change needs courage. Some days I’m on the urge of giving up, and some days I fight even more.
Have I made it alone?
No, it was always the people around me, and the inspiring people I read about, the series and documentaries I watched, books I held so dear. Everything in life inspired me, but it wasn’t always this way, sometimes I didn’t want to hear a sound, I couldn’t look at a screen, and I didn’t want to understand that it’s not constant what I’m feeling, that no one is unbreakable, and we all called ourselves defeated at least once in this life. At times nothing makes sense, not even when someone tells us that everything will be okay. We question ourselves a thousand times, “How will it be, okay? How can I survive this?
You are a warrior, of course, you will survive this, and you are not allowed to give up on your life because you don’t know what to do, it’s okay to pause for a while, but it’s never okay to stop. Whenever something happens in our lives, we think that this is it, we panic we fall and we don’t realize that nothing is permanent, that every pain we feel starts big and get smaller with time, we adapt to change, that’s human nature, but we also want sometimes to stay in our comfort zone. We choose how to live it’s not always the circumstances. Sometimes we make that call and we prepare ourselves for a better tomorrow because no matter how hard it is, it shall pass because time takes care of everything.
Cosette Awad - Author
eYs Magazine - Media Editor
It’s too dangerous to think that the world will not get better, because that also means that our life will not get better, and this is not true. Not looking forward to a better future and avoiding certain events to happen because we are afraid of failure is not living as well.
because what’s wrong with falling and stumbling, with making mistakes and getting hurt. It’s okay to not have to overcome everything. We can pick up ourselves later, but always choose to not sit around and say It won’t get better, so I’ll just let life pass me by. I know sometimes that theories are easy; giving advice too, but sometimes when we deliver a message that the person in front can understand, it’s the ultimate help that we can give.
Sometimes not asking if they are okay and observing and waiting for the right moment to tell them to hang in there, not telling them to stop crying and lend them a shoulder to cry on, is the greatest decision to make, because when they are in the middle of a crises nothing, we can tell makes sense to them, and it’s hard to console them because they tend to lie that they are okay. And these days we’re all going through something, the pandemic, and the global economic crises on a personal level people are struggling with.
Sometimes someone can trust us with their pain and started telling us their story, as human beings we all make our pain bigger than others when they say they are in pain we tell them “You should see what I’m going through.” This is wrong, so wrong, nobody’s pain is less important than ours. We should learn to listen more, and sometimes they don’t need advice; they just need someone to hear their stories. Some things can’t be solved, but it hurts less when we share them with someone who cares about us. And for me, the thought of knowing that I am not alone in this gives me a sense of comfort every time.
We’re all trying hard to be okay, and people grow when we trust they will get through anything, when we believe that they already survived everything they have been through so why not, now. Sometimes only the love we have for them can save them.
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