OCTOBER 2011 The Passion of Susan Simes p. 10
Photograph by Kent Reid Cover Photograph by Kent Reid
Editor’s Note
Your Style eZine has gone monthly and that means a more exciting and fulfilling reading experience. We start off with a special series around Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Women of varying ages have fought the brave fight for years and we celebrate with those who’ve overcome, like Denise Mullings who overcame two bouts of the disease, and mourn those who lost their battles. Speaking of strong women, Susan Simes gives us a brief glimpse into her life off-camera and talks about her philosophy of giving back. We also have the scoop on the latest fashion and beauty trends, plus more in our first ever monthly issue. Enjoy!
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Racy Lace p. 5 The Magic of Argan Oil p.6
Maximize Small Spaces p. 7 Getting The Most Out of Your Work Life p. 8 Breast Cancer Awareness Month Save Lids to Save Lives p.14 I Beat Breast Cancer Twice p. 16 All Women Are at Risk/ Your Monthly Self Breast-Exam p.17 I Am a Woman of Worth p.19 Enjoying Our Bodies and Sex: The Age of Female Self-Actualisation p. 20 Restaurant-class Cooking at Home p.21 On the Pulse: News and Culture p.23 3
Fashion
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hrow the “grandma” perceptions about lace out the window. This delicate material is not just for hemming granny’s slip or even for wedding dresses and veils. It is all the rage this season, showing up on our favourite celebs on red carpets across the globe. Lace adds a touch of elegance and timelessness to many outfits, from tops to dresses and, like silk or leather, is very attractive when worn tastefully. It is not limited to black - you will find elegant lace outfits in all the colours of the rainbow. Check out these stars for cues on the hottest ways to rock lace as outerwear.
Zoe Saldana strikes a pose.
Garcelle Beauvais attends the ‘Haiti After The Earthquake’ book launch at Urban Zen in NYC.
Kim Kardashian proves that body con is not just for size zeros. This skimming grey and black lace dress accentuates her gorgeous curves.
Laced up Taraji P Henson attends US Weekly’s Stylish New Yorkers event.
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Tia and Tamera spotted in NYC.
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Beauty
The Magic of Argan Oil
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ils have been all the rage in the beauty industry for the past two to three years, from the popular olive oil to the latest craze, argan oil. Women of all ethnicities are singing the praises this multipurpose oil, made from the nuts of the argan tree, which grows almost exclusively in Morocco. The oil, high in vitamin E and essential fatty acids, is said to have age-defying properties, restores your skin’s natural lustre and combats skin conditions like acne, psoriasis and eczema. It is also said to be a boon for hair, taming frizz, dryness and dandruff while locking in moisture, promoting growth, smoothness and healthy shine. Many local hairstylists have been recommending pure argan oil or argan oil blends to their clients and though they may be a bit pricy, they are worth every penny. Check out these oils that are perfect for all hair types. PURE ARGAN OIL The Josie Maran Argan Oil is 100% organic. It is rich in vitamin E as well as essential fatty acids. It can be used to treat split ends and dry hair, or added to your regular moisturizer for lustrous skin and for softening cuticles. It can also be used to treat acne and other skin conditions.
tamins, including vitamin A to improve elasticity and vitamin E to protect against free-radicals. Moroccanoil products contain powerful antioxidants and UV protectors that fortify hair and keep it healthy and shiny. MACADAMIA OIL The combination of macadamia and argan oils helps treat ‘problem hair’ that is dry, frizzy, chemically damaged, colored, brittle, dull, tangled or hard to manage. The fatty acids contained in both of these oils help restore the hair’s shine, moisture and natural emollients. JOJOBA OIL If you want a less pricy oil that is just as effective, try jojoba. It is a bit lighter, but has many of the same properties as argan oil. It is great for moisturizing and detangling hair. Use it as a hot oil treatment or add it to your regular conditioner/leave-in. Add a few drops to your moisturizer to fight dry skin, use it as a balm for chapped lips, a massage oil or makeup remover. Jojoba oil is also said to prevent hair loss. Jojoba Oil is available at your local beauty store or online.
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Home Decor
by Janelle Pantry
Maximize Small Spaces F
eel squeezed by your space? A lot of us do. But there are ways to feel as if you’re living larger than you actually are. Here are a few tips that won’t make the walls seem as if they’re closing in on you: Chose a sofa in a neutral colour palette (such as cream) with a classic shape. To personalize the space, add colourful pillows, funky ceramics and art. SPACE SAVER TIP: To make a room look larger, stick to more neutral colours on the walls and in your furniture, then add colour with accessories. FIND VERSATILE FURNITURE: Can’t find a spot for extra pillows and throws? Go low with ottomans that seat and store. They can pull extra duty as a side table, too, with a tray on top. BACK UP YOUR FURNITURE: “Floating” furniture makes for a great floor plan, but it leaves a wide expanse of boring sofaback in the open. Use that dead space to your advantage: Slip a slim glass-top console behind the sofa for a small home office area. USE YOUR WALLS: Add a shelf or rack to display a favourite collection of accessories or photographs. GO VERTICAL: Consider tall furniture rather than wide to preserve precious floor space.
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Career
PRINCIPLES OF PRODUCTIVITY
Getting The Most out of Your Work Life parison to the number of hours you work. If it doesn’t balance out, then you are wasting your time. “Focusing on results rather than hours has the added benefit of allowing a better balance between family and work,” Pozen said.
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ver wonder how some people are able to get so much done in a day, never appearing fazed or overwhelmed, yet you struggle to complete your tasks? Bob Pozen, a veteran executive who has been a government official, law professor, attorney, business school professor and author was asked how he manages to wear so many hats at once. Here he breaks down his personal productivity model into six principles that can increase your productivity: PRINCIPLE 1 - KNOW YOUR COMPETITIVE ADVANTAGE Presenting yourself for every task that your company asks might not be the best idea, even though you’re fully capable. The best approach would be to identify which task only you can perform. For example, the late Steve Jobs, cofounder of Apple Inc, personally recruited John Sculley who at the time was CEO PepsiCola, to serve as Apple’s CEO. Jobs asked him, “Do you want to sell sugar water for the rest of your life, or do you want to come with me and change the world?” Soon enough, Sculley was working with Steve Jobs. Recruiting John Sculley was one of those tasks that only Steve Jobs himself could have performed. This is also good advice for midlevel executives: you might be excellent at finances and solid in human resource management as well, but if your company is loaded with good finance personnel, then your best value to the company might just be in the human resource management department. So give time to what you think you are more likely to succeed at instead of only what you think you can do best. PRINCIPLE 2 - IT’S NOT THE TIME YOU SPEND BUT THE RESULTS YOU PRODUCE More hours is believed to be equal to added value, but not in every case. Sometimes, the young and ambitious go by the notion of staying at the office late into the night. While this may be applicable where deadline emergencies arise, pay attention to the results you produce and see how they are measured in comwww.ezineslimited.com
PRINCIPLE 3 - THINK FIRST, READ OR WRITE SECOND Today, information comes at you about five times faster than it did several years ago. This can get overwhelming at times, but don’t be afraid of all the reading and writing you’ll have to do. What I encourage you to do is think first and know exactly what you are getting at, especially when dealing with emails. Firstly, identify which ones need to be read. Secondly, identify which of them are important and try to answer those right away. Figure out your line of argument before writing a long email. PRINCIPLE 4 - PREPARE YOUR PLAN, BUT BE READY TO CHANGE IT It’s always good to have a plan, but do not get so consumed in what you have laid out that it becomes difficult for you to make adjustments. This applies to all areas of your work. It is customary for executives to make presentation/speeches on a regular basis, but while you have a have set presentation to deliver, be very vigilant of you audience because you might need to change/rearrange you speech on the spot. This also applies to your regular daily tasks. It’s a great idea to prepare in the evening for the next day and make changes to your task sheet as other matters arise. “While most executives and middle managers opt to fill their every hour with either meetings or phone calls, I suggest you leave a little room for dealing with unanticipated developments,” Pozen stated. PRINCIPLE 5 - LET OTHERS OWN THEIR SPACE “Under this principle, every employee in a large company is viewed as the owner of a small business. The boss’s role is to provide reports with resources, give guidance, and help them do battle with other people in the broader organization,” Pozen said. While you may be the head, it is good to take an approach that allows your subordinates to participate and voice their opinions on projects. Make them feel free to agree or disagree with you in a polite, professional manner.
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Cover Story
THE PASSION OF
Susan Simes by Tracey-Ann Wisdom
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usan Simes is sitting behind her crowded office desk, getting all dolled up for our photo shoot. As the host of three different television programmes, she’s used to this routine: getting the hair to fall just right, the makeup flawless, the outfit on point. This immaculate being, who at 40 looks at least 10 years younger, is the image we’re used to, but Susan doesn’t put much stock into this. She’s a white shirt and jeans girl at heart; it’s basically her uniform unless she has to get in front of the cameras. The other side of her public image: the kind, compassionate giver – that Susan is real. “Contrary to what many people believe, I’m a very homely person. I like to cook. I’m a homemaker, a family person. I try when I get the time to get involved in community service, and that extends to work, of course,” she says in the same warm, bubbly manner that Jamaicans have come to know and love since The Susan Show first aired in April 2005. The show is famous for its tagline: ‘Keep doing good in your neighbourhood’. This thought represents Susan’s vision for the show. “I wanted to do a show showing what Jamaica could be. I thought to myself, ‘How can I make Jamaica a better place?’ By being socially responsible, caring for others, giving when needed – not only money, but time and love and whatever is needed,” she explains. www.ezineslimited.com
Contrary to what many people believe, I’m a very homely person. I like to cook. I’m a homemaker, a family person. I try when I get the time to get involved in community service, and that extends to work, of course.
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GOLDEN OPPORTUNITY Susan’s mission was to spread love over the air and based on the way people – especially children - respond to her on the street, she has managed to do just that. “[T]hey’re like, ‘Aunty Susan!’ and their faces just light up and when they come over, it is just so natural for them to hug. So I know that what I wanted to do is being transmitted, even among adults, which can be very hard sometimes,” she shares. “I’ve been hugging some rough and tough guys out there who nuh do dem tings de pon purpose. But there’s a sense of warmth when you go out on the streets and you meet persons, especially children.” The show, which won the UNFPA Gold Award for Excellence in Television Reporting in 2006, has become a staple of local television, first at CVM TV, where it got its start and now at Television Jamaica (TVJ), its current home. Susan got the chance to do the show while in her final semester at the University of Technology (UTECH). “It was either do the last semester or give up the opportunity of a lifetime, so I chose this. But I still have to go back and finish the last semester.” Your Style eZine 11
Cover Story It’s hard to see where she would even begin to find the time, since The Susan Show keeps her busy from at 5:30 a.m. to 7:00 p.m., and many a Saturday. The programme is famous for tackling weighty issues such abuse, living with disabilities and reuniting families in addition to lighter fare like sex, marriage and the occasional makeover but the heavier topics seem to resonate more with the loyal fans. For example, after the first reunion show in season one, the show was flooded with calls from people searching for long-lost family members. Each subsequent show brings its own wave of callers, so Susan now has list of over 200 people from all over the world who are trying to find their family members and friends. THE JAMAICAN OPRAH The nature of The Susan Show and her emphasis on reaching out to her fellow man has, of course, garnered comparisons to the Queen of Talk herself, Oprah Winfrey. “I get that every day. I didn’t know how to appreciate it at first, but I appreciate it now because she is seen as a philanthropist,” Susan admits. “If that’s the comparison they draw with Oprah, then fine. And I guess being in control of your own show and being able to ‘call the shots’ as they say when it comes to your creative rights, I don’t mind.” It might come as a surprise that Oprah wasn’t the one who inspired her to do a talk show. Her idol was Diana Wright, who had a short-lived Oprah-esque local talk show in 1998. “She was breaking barriers at the time that people couldn’t understand or appreciate and I still want her on my show.”
comes out to play. A proud aunt, she is yet to have children of her own. “I hear every woman must experience [having] at least one, but if it doesn’t come, I’m prepared to adopt or foster.” In addition to her nieces and nephews, Susan also runs a foundation that helps to send between 40 and 50 children to school each year. The foundation provides books, uniforms, lunch money and bus fare, and also helps students with counselling if necessary. ACHIEVING HARMONY The success of her shows has made Susan a household name amongst Jamaicans both at home and abroad. But for someone with such a high profile career, she is surprisingly absent from the society pages of the newspapers, absent from public life it seems, choosing to keep her personal life private. She prefers watching TV at home, going to the movies or having dinner with her loved ones. “People ask why I do so well. It’s because I’m just being myself,” Susan declares. “That’s who I am, no more, no less. What you see is what you get.”
Besides her namesake show, Susan also hosts Kids Say, which has been called a modern-day Ring Ding. “It keeps me on my toes. Having 100 kids in studio at one time is not kosher. You don’t see when we’re like, ‘Sit down!’ ‘Don’t pull her hair!’ But parents and teachers are there and they help to keep them under control as well as the producers,” she laughs. Her easy rapport with her young guests is natural, as Susan the homemaker
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Breast Cancer Awareness Month
BREAST CANCER AWARENESS MONTH
“Save Lids to Save Lives” Y
oplait and Wisynco once again teamed up for the annual Save Lids to Save Lives campaign, which supports the work of the Jamaica Cancer Society. The theme for this year’s Breast Cancer Awareness Month is “Taking Care of the Women in our Life”. Everyone can participate - women old and young, men and children - by purchasing specially marked pink Yoplait 6oz cups. Wisynco and Yoplait will contribute J$8 to the Jamaican Cancer Society for each lid, in addition to the J$500,000 they have already pledged.
Yoplait ‘Save Lids to Save Lives’ 2011 Spokesperson Cherine Anderson
Michael Anthony Cuffe with Yendi Phillipps.
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Under the theme, women are encouraged to do regular breast self-examinations and screenings. The spokesperson for this year’s campaign is singer/songwriter and actress, Cherine Anderson, who was delighted to be on board. She can attest to having female family members who have survived cancer. Other local celebrities were also out in full support of the initiative: Tami Chynn, Yendi Phillipps, Jennifer “Jenny Jenny” Small, Michael Anthony Cuffe and Jodi Mair. Absentees who are also supporting the pledge includes: Olympic Gold Medalist Deon Hemmings-McCatty, PaulaAnne Porter-Jones, D’Angel, Wayne Marshall and ZJ Liquid. The Pledge: “I am Taking Care of the Women in My Life by encouraging and supporting them to do regular breast self examinations and routine screenings, as early detection is the best defense in the fight against Breast Cancer.”
Carol Blair, Administrative Director, Jamaica Cancer Society.
Elite Sellars-Wright - Chairman, Jamaica Reach to Recovery.
Yoplait Ambassadors take the pledge to support breast cancer awareness at the September 29 launch of the Yoplait ‘Save Lids to Save Lives’ campaign. (l-r)Spin expert Jodi Mair, media personality Michael Anthony Cuffe, Yoplait ‘Save Lids to Save Lives’ 2011 Spokesperson Cherine Anderson, entertainer Tami Chynn, media personality Jennifer ‘Jenny Jenny’ Small and Miss Jamaica Universe 2010 Yendi Phillipps. Your Style eZine
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Breast Cancer Awareness Month Men are also encouraged to participate and play their role as Michael Anthony Cuffe shared with the audience that many women discovered they had breast cancer with the help of their partners. There are over 60 participating stores in the Save Lids to Save Lives campaign, including: Progressive Grocers, Lee’s Food Fair, Hi-Lo Food Stores, Mega Mart, General Foods and many other independently-owned supermarkets for the entire month of October.
Yoplait Brand Manager, Tricia Romeo with Cutters Cycling Club President, Stephen Delapenha and spokesperson Cherine Anderson
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Cutters Cycling Club President, Stephen Delapenha
Dr. Sonia Copeland, Acting Director, Health & Protection Division, Ministry of Health; Tricia Romeo and Carol Blair.
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Breast Cancer Awareness Month
I Beat Breast Cancer Twice DENISE MULLINGS’ STORY
Denise Mullings, husband Bosworth Mullings and grandson Marc-Alexander.
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t 33, Denise Mullings was living the good life: She had a wonderful husband, three adorable children and a great job at Air Jamaica. Nothing was out of place on the surface, but underneath, her body was hiding a dangerous secret. “I taught my husband to do [my breast examination]. He’s the one who actually discovered the lump. It wasn’t in the fatty part, but closer to the neck and chest. I didn’t usually check that area,” Denise, now 61, shared. She automatically knew that it was cancer, but didn’t want to confirm. However, at her husband Bosworth’s insistence, she visited her doctor. Unable to do a needle biopsy because the lump was too hard, he performed a lumpectomy, removing some of the surrounding breast tissue as well. “He said I could do a mastectomy or a lumpectomy and radiation and told me to take some time to think about it. I went back to work!” she laughed. Of course, Denise had to break the news to her family, who were devastated. Her husband reassured her with the scripture ‘If God is for us, who can be against us?’ Indeed, it was her faith that would carry her through nine weeks of radiation therapy, done in the US because the treatment wasn’t available in Jamaica at the time. Unable to afford the treatment, Denise was given an unexpected gift when her boss told her the company would cover the costs.
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For five days a week for nine weeks, Denise endured radiation under her left arm and on part of her lung. Life eventually settled down again, but another test was on the way. “When the treatment was up, the doctors warned me not to get pregnant because the increased estrogen level would cause the cancer to flare up. Well, I did everything in my power not to get pregnant. Everything but abstain!” she laughed. At first, Denise was told she would have to terminate her pregnancy, but again, her faith was rewarded as she had a normal, healthy pregnancy, delivering her third son via c-section because he had turned feet down and had also become entangled in his umbilical cord.
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Denise’s third test came seven years ago when she discovered she had sarcoma at the same spot the lump had been removed from. “They had to remove my chest wall, part of four ribs on the right, part of the three ribs on the left, then rebuild the chest wall using bone cement and mesh, and wired my ribs back to my sternum,” she said. Her left breast was also removed and part of her stomach used to close up the area. “And I’m fearfully and wonderfully made,” she declared. She suffers from tightness in her chest sometimes, due to the extensive removal of muscle, but has no other complaints. Denise has volunteered with both the Jamaica Cancer Society and Jamaica Reach to Recovery. She also councils and visits other women dealing with breast cancer. Today, almost 28 years after her first diagnosis, the vivacious grandmother of three credits her faith in God for taking her through. “My desire is just to serve God and praise Him because I know only He has kept me,” she stated.
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Breast Cancer Awareness Month
All Women are at Risk…
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Body & Spirit
by Keresa Arnold
I AM AWoman
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was having a discussion with a friend, and somehow we started talking about why I decided to remove a particular person from my life. And then the discussion moved to how I viewed myself as a woman. It went something like this: Friend: “What’s your relationship with X?” Me: “I decided to remove X from my life because X wasn’t treating me the way I should be treated.” Friend: “You hate him.” Me: “It isn’t hate. It’s OK to remove people from your life. It simply means that you love yourself too much to allow them to continue breaking you down. There are toxic people in this world, who only care about themselves. I will not settle for anything less than what I deserve, because I’m not some worthless piece of nothing, needing the attention of that person to validate who I am. Why should I allow anyone to disrespect me? To make me feel less than what I am? Is that all I deserve? Of course not!” I have some basic principles that I live by: I deserve the best. I deserve to be happy and I deserve to be treated with respect. The second we start knowing our worth, people will immediately treat us better, because they know that we are confident enough in ourselves to not accept disrespect from them. People will respect you only to the degree that you respect yourself. I will not allow anyone to treat me like a piece of trash. I am a child of God and that alone should have you treating me like the woman of worth that I am.
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A lot of women don’t teach their daughters to know their worth; they don’t teach them that they deserve the best and should never compromise or settle for anything less. Your friends should respect you, your man should respect you. Anybody you allow to enter into your personal space should know that it is a privilege to be there, simply because you do not allow just anybody to be around. Have positive and uplifting people around you, people who are interested in building you and want to see you succeed, simply because it makes them happy to know that you are happy. Don’t allow people to dictate how you view yourself. Why should you allow someone to tell you that your head is too big and you immediately start having issues with the size of your head? It’s the same head you had yesterday, before that person told you it was big. Be confident in yourself and your unique attributes. Every fibre of your being was deliberately combined to create YOU. You are perfect just the way you are and it’s important to communicate that to people. Show them that you love and respect yourself, that you know your worth, that you know exactly how you should be treated and you are not willing to accept anything less. Always love your neighbour as yourself and remember to
PRAY, LAUGH, GROW.
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Body & Spirit
by Dr. Andrea Gardner Carey
Enjoying Our Bodies and Sex
THE AGE OF FEMALE SEXUAL SELF–ACTUALISATION PART 1
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or all the bright and articulate women I meet every day, who are in charge and “happening” and forging ahead with their dreams and goals, I am always surprised that when the discussion turns to sex, the silence is deafening! I can almost hear the crickets chirping and the duppies groaning. Women’s reluctance to discuss sexual issues at all or with others that are not our “girls”, means that our partners often don’t know what interests us or if we are enjoying our experiences. Whenever women come with concerns about “down there”, I often ask did they look at it. Invariably, the answer is no. But even more telling are the negative facial expressions, as if I should not even have broached the question in the first place. Why are we unwilling to look at an important part of our own bodies? And even in times when you have such significant health concerns, nothing will overcome that obstacle? The female external genitalia (the externally visible sex organs) include the vulva and the clitoris. The vulva is made up of a variable amount of fat that is covered by skin and hair and serves primarily a protective function for the other important structures folded within its two larger outer lips (the labia majora). These important structures (from top to bottom when lying
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on your back) include the clitoris, the opening for urine passage (the urethra) and the opening of the vagina. Unlike the other structures that have a clear biological role, the clitoris has only one function: sexual pleasure! Our divine being in his/her wisdom, wanted women to have sexual enjoyment with their partners! I was given this challenge when I was a teenager by my doctor and it is the only homework I am going to ask you to do today. Take a hand mirror and go somewhere private (where no one can interrupt you) and take a close look at the different parts of your sex organs. This is important, for how are you going to assist your partner to understand where he is to touch if you are too afraid to even look or touch parts of your own body. Interestingly, our men are programmed by our good Lord to love the look and feel of our genitalia, so if you can give him a “show and tell” session, I am sure he will be most appreciative. Have fun! And as usual, let me know how you are doing.
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Food
RESTAURANT - CLASS COOKING
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by Chef Brian Lumley
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s fried chicken, pizza, sandwiches and snacks become ‘the norm’ on the menu when having friends and family? Then it’s time to dust off the chef hat and show off those hidden culinary skills. This month I’ve drawn on some healthy and very easy recipes just for you to try. Feel free to experiment and add your own flair; the recipe is there to guide you step by step. I’d love to hear what your guests thought about it! Email me at foodiefocused@gmail.com.
GLAZED CARROTS 1.5 tbsp butter 1 lb carrots, sliced in half and then into diagonals 1 tbsp sugar (brown) 1 tsp salt ¼ tsp white pepper 1.5 cup chicken stock or water 1 tbsp parsley, chopped 1. Melt the butter over medium to high heat and add the carrots. 2. Cover the pan and lightly sweat the carrots using a spoon to toss and turn the carrots. 3. Add the sugar, salt, pepper, some of the parsley and stock or water. 4. Reduce the heat to low and cook the carrots until they are almost done. 5. Remove the cover and allow the liquid to reduce to a glaze. Sprinkle with chopped parsley and serve hot. Tip: If the carrots are cooked before a glaze is realized, remove the carrots from the pan with a slotted spoon and set aside. Continue to cook the liquid until it reduces to a syrup-like consistency, then return the carrots back to the pan. Serves 2 persons www.ezineslimited.com
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News & Culture
by Keresa Arnold
OnThePulse
Leymah Gbowee
Tawakul Karman
News
THREE WOMEN RECIEVE THE NOBEL PEACE PRIZE
On Friday, the Nobel Peace Prize was awarded to three outstanding women, who fought valiantly for human rights and freedom. The recipients were Liberian President Ellen Johnson-Sirleaf, the first woman freely elected as a president in Africa, fellow countrywoman Leymah Gbowee and Yemeni activist Tawakul Karman. Gbowee promoted a “sex strike” among efforts to end Liberia’s civil war, and Karman called her honour “a victory for the Arab Spring.” (via Reuters)
Ellen Johnson-Sirleaf
L’OREAL DEVELOPING PILL TO PREVENT GREY HAIR Tired of having to colour away your greys? Well, in about four years, you might be able to prevent them completely. L’Oreal recently announced that they are developing a pill that will prevent the silver strands from ever appearing. Scheduled to be available by 2015, the pill doesn’t reverse grey hair, so if you’re already greying this is not for you. “It contains an undisclosed fruit extract that mimics the chemical tyrosinase-related protein or TRP-2, an enzyme that protects pigmentation production.” We’ll see how that pans out. (Via HuffingtonPost Women)
Culture AT THE THEATRE - GOD’S WAY Dahlia Harris’ gospel play, God’s Way, is described as a “powerfully compelling gospel drama” and asks the question: Do the righteous have to suffer? The play stars Dahlia Harris, Sabrena McDonald, Trudy Campbell and Ainsley Whyte. Harris describes God’s Way as “a vivid examination of how faith is often tested, and how the decisions we make either bring us closer to God or allow the devil to separate us from his grace.” Playing since September, the play ends in November and shows at The Theatre Place on Haining Road. AT THE MOVIES - LION KING 3D Spend some downtime with the kids and take them to watch The Lion King, the film that captured the hearts of many 80s babies - only now, it’s in amazing 3D. Introduce your kids to the story of King Mufasa and follow his son Simba, who embarks on www.ezineslimited.com
a journey of finding himself and ultimately taking his place at the helm of the pride. Kids will love the awesome 3D effects, great cinematography and mind blowing computer-generated graphics. And we’re pretty sure you’ll have a good time, too. Your Style eZine
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National Heroes Day REMEMBER OUR HEROES, BE A HERO
Jamaica will celebrate National Heroes Day on Monday, October 17. Many of us will be heading to the beach, driving to the country or just relaxing at home. While we take a break, let us remember our National Heroes and Heroine and the brave, selfless contributions they have made to the Jamaica we know and love today. Let us try to also embody their strong qualities, such as Sir Alexander Bustamante’s tenacity in fighting for our right to vote and for labour equality; Marcus Garvey’s vision for the upliftment of black people through education and self-awareness; and, of course, the bravery displayed by Nanny of the Maroons as she fought to keep her people out of slavery. We may never be called on to make the kind of sacrifices they made or fight in the way they did, but as Jamaicans, it is our duty to play our parts, however small, in making this country what it can and should be. Let us seek to inspire at least one person with our lives, whether it is a kind deed or a word of comfort. Honour our heroes by being someone’s hero, whether it is your own child or a neighbour’s, a younger person you mentor at work or a friend in need.
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