Families Suffolk March-April 2014 Issue 16

Families Suffolk – The local magazine containing useful information for parents of 0-12 year olds

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Spring is in the air

In this issue

Clubs & Classes News - Family Matters – Meningitis (Part 2) easter activities, Suffolk Show news plus much more I p s w i c h • R U SH M E R E • B E L S T E A D • WH E R S T E A D • P I N E W O O D • K E S G R AV E • H E N L E Y • W I T N E SH A M N A C T O N • H O L B R O O K • SH O T L E Y • C L A Y D O N • Woodbridge • Hadleig h • Sto w market

Welcome Welcome back to Families Suffolk and I hope that you are enjoying the fact the days are getting longer and spring is here. We have so many features, news items and Easter activities for this issue that you have an additional four pages of Families Suffolk to enjoy. We have articles from Let’s Do It, a new Autism family support group, a fascinating article on page 10 about the concentration span of toddlers plus on page 12 details of Live Well Suffolk’s new campaign and on page 7 details of the Suffolk My monkeys Show. Many of you contacted me regarding the first part of our Meningitis feature in our Jan/Feb issue, so I’m sure you will interested to know the concluding part of Shelley’s story is on page 8. If that isn’t enough, we have all our usual features including Local News and Clubs and Classes News and on page 19 we have 3 great competitions for you to enter. I hope you enjoy this issue, please do get in contact if you would like us to feature any specific article or event, we are always happy to hear from you.

Happy Reading – Editor

Lisa Giddings

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Mums the Word But what about Daddy?

Our Community Articles from Lets Get it Done and The New Wolsey Theatre Family Matters

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Parents Place New mums in business feature

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Local News

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Kidzone Mobile Creche Easter time fun at Easton Farm Park

Lambs, lambs, lambs! Easter is the time for babies on the farm – kid goats, baby lambs, chicks, baby rabbits and maybe even some piglets. Spring is magical with all of nature waking up after the winter and the animals are excited to be outside enjoying the spring weather, just like you. The daily activity schedule on the farm includes pony rides, train rides, hug a bunny, egg collecting, meet the baby lambs and lots more all included in the entry ticket. There are two indoor soft playareas plus the outdoor adventure playarea with the new Giant Sandpit and, when you need a break, the Barn Café sells a range of delicious home-cooked lunches and yummy cakes.

Over the Easter holidays there will be lots of extra fun on the farm with children’s cooking sessions with the EATS cookery team plus the RSPB will be doing children’s nature activities – both of these will be taking part on Wednesdays and Thursdays (9th, 10th, 16th & 17th April) during the school holiday. There is also a special Easter Egg Hunt over the Easter weekend from Good Friday through to Easter Monday.

For more details on all the farm activities please visit the website at www.eastonfarmpark.co.uk or call the farm on 01728 746475

My Care at Home is coming to Felixstowe

Following the success of home care company My Care at Home in Mid Suffolk they are now delivering top quality home care in Felixstowe.

The company are a domiciliary care company providing personal care, dementia care and respite care in people’s homes. My Care at Home are dedicated to providing the highest levels of care and understands the need to stay independent at home.

If you enjoy working with people you could become a ‘My Care at Home’ care worker in Felixstowe. They only employ people that love to care. All of their carer workers are trained face to face in their office as they believe that sharing experiences and supporting each other enables them to deliver high quality care.

My Care at Home has hour long visits and a key worker system.

This enables their care worker to build up a relationship with their client ensuring both client and care worker enjoy the time that they spend together.

Their working day starts at breakfast, sometimes as early as 7am, then there are lunch, dinner and bedtime appointments.

Some of their clients require someone to stay with them over night. If you are able to work any of those hours on a regular basis My Care at Home will be able to find the work for you.

To find out more call 01449 763086 or email enquries@mycare-athome.co.uk

Reading resource

Suffolk Libraries have recently added some new online information and guidance for parents and young readers to promote reading and its place in your children’s education.

Ofsted success for Kidzone Creche

Kidzone crèche are excited to now be fully Ofsted registered to provide before and after school care/holiday care for children aged 3 to 12 years based at Ipswich Sports Club, Henley Road Ipswich in their fully equipped studio. It’s a friendly, fun atmosphere at Kidzone, they offer the children loads of activities including arts and crafts, cooking activities, games, role play, home corner, quiet comfy reading area, computer area, Wii console, DS, Lego, magnetics etc. They also have a small garden equipped with a selection of bikes, scooters, bats and balls, basketball net, ping pong table and sandpit. They go on many outings during school holiday to local parks, cinema, forest, farms as well as themed activities, crafts and games, they are now taking bookings for the Easter holidays. A full programme of activities for the under 5’s also runs at the club during term time, including daily 2 hour crèche sessions, soft play activity session, toddler group and singing group.

For further information call Kidzone 07756535059/07724114794.

Suffolk Libraries has 49,357 individual children’s and teenage titles in its catalogue and 246,423 copies, so there really is reading for all children to enjoy. This year’s Summer Reading Challenge has been announced as the ‘Mythical Maze’. 2013 was the busiest ever summer reading challenge in Suffolk and they’re hoping this summer will be equally popular. Suffolk Libraries will soon be publicising the details and there will be plenty of opportunities to get involved and volunteer too. www.suffolklibraries.co.uk

www.suffolklibraries.co.uk has recently been improved and redesigned to make it easier to find information so please take a look. As well as enjoyable events and activities at your nearest library there are some new resources under the ‘Reading’ section which parents will find useful. These include monthly recommendations for new children’s books. Advice and guidance on the benefits of reading for pleasure and how you can encourage your child with their reading. Information for parents of pre-school children on our activities and free Bookstart resources. Information for parents of primary school age children about what schools teach and how your child will be assessed and information about phonics.

The Bear Garden

One of the most precious qualities of any child is the freedom and power of their imagination. For local mum of two and businesswoman, Kelly Chamberlain, it’s the imagination of her 7-year-old daughter that has inspired her new build-your-own soft toy shop, The Bear Garden.

Kelly explains, “The idea of The Bear Garden was Isabella’s. We were discussing what would make a great local shop, Bella thought a shop should be all things magical and I thought is should be affordable and family friendly.”

The Bear Garden, located in Ipswich’s Tower Ramparts Shopping Centre, has been completely designed with families in mind. The open plan allows for children to explore and play whilst parents can easily navigate push chairs and keep one eye on their child from anywhere in store.

Competitively priced, without compromising quality, The Bear Garden has a set price for all bears and outfits, it offers a small range of ‘pocket money gifts’ and hosts bear parties in store or at your home.

Kelly commented, “I love running my two other small businesses and The Bear Garden during the day but my evenings belong to my husband and girls, the shop suits us all as a family.” www.thebeargardenipswich.co.uk

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Local News

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The New Wolsey Theatre

Alton Water open for Easter

iSwim ...like a fish!

This April Alton Water Sports Centre opens its doors again for the Easter holidays, with plenty to do both on and off the water. On the water you can gently explore Suffolk’s largest reservoir from the comfort of a family rowboat or splash around in one of their top of the range Sit On Top kayaks. On shore, take in the spring wildlife, explore the woodlands and then refresh with a springtime treat from the onsite cafe. Out on the water the team kick start their training season, with an assistant instructor course, a fast paced high energy course aimed at those wanting to become instructors in the future. Last year they successfully trained a group of assistant instructors who went on to spend their summer in the sunshine helping out on sailing sessions with groups of all ages. “I have gone from my first Learn to sail course to teaching others, all in 7 fun years at Alton Water” says Ali, Assistant Instructor. Private sailing and windsurfing lessons are also available so if you are keen to learn but don’t know where to start or if you have a little experience and just want tips to improve we can arrange a private session to suit your needs. Summer Holiday courses are also on sale now online. www.altonwater.co.uk

Easter at The Mermaid

Chelmondiston Playgroup

The Mermaid, the family friendly pub and restaurant on Yarmouth Road Ipswich will be offering families all sorts of fun over the Easter holidays, the fun is not limited to Easter Sunday there will be fun activities for your children to enjoy for the duration of the school holidays as well as their on-going Kids Eat free offer (see their website terms and conditions). mermaidpubipswich.co.uk

Anyone with children in a school or pre-school setting will be familiar with (and possibly occasionally bemoan) constant donation requests and money-raising drives.

But those involved in fundraising know that nothing feels better than seeing their hard work lead to a more creative, stimulating and fun environment for many children, for years to come. Chelmondiston Playgroup has just announced its most successful fundraising year on record.

Thanks to fundraisers including table top sales, a bazaar, and sponsored events, the playgroup has been able to purchase new equipment predominantly aimed at their younger children (aged 2 upwards).

Magnetic construction toys, new story-sacks (props and puppets to accompany favourite books like The Gruffalo and Winnie the Witch), roller ball paints and dabbers, amongst many other things improve the experience of each child, and mean formal development goals are more easily reached.

Committee Chair, Catkin, says “We’re lucky to have enormous support from parents, staff and the community. Our next target is to develop our outside area to the same fantastic level as our playroom – watch this space!”.

Why not bring your pre-schoolers along to their Easter Egg Hunt, on Thursday 3rd April at 10am: Chelmondiston Playgroup, Woodlands, Chelmondiston, IP9 1DT 01473 780 948

iSwim are really looking forward to a busy year.

Lorraine and Sylvie started iSwm in 2010 from small beginnings at the Clopton Pool and now have almost 700 children who swim weekly in the Woodbridge and Ipswich area. iSwim offer a great way to teach children to swim. Relaxed and informal with the emphasis on fun and enjoyment, they are keen to inspire your childrens water skills so they have the confidence to become fantastic swimmers! They have classes 7 days a week for all ages and abilities. Each session is a max of 8 with two qualified teachers, small groups really help to fast track each childs potential in the water. They have a large family friendly waiting area and lots of our pre-school children enjoy a picnic and a play with their friends after the lessons. For 2014 there are two new faces joining the team at Clopton, Sandy Page and Ann Minter.

Both girls will be familiar faces at Clopton and will help to add exciting new ideas for the pool. iswim now offer private family slots for an hour for a maximum of 8 swimmers, new open adult swims (no pre booking needed) fun sessions for NCT, Nurseries and Crèche groups, and exercise and keep fit sessions. The pool at Clopton which is now heated to between 31-32 degrees is a great facility and we are happy for any ideas and suggestions to fill every slot! Over the Easter Holidays we will be offering ‘Bite Size Snorkelling Sessions’ and ‘Learn to Dive sessions’.

01473 277085 www.iswim.biz

Have Your Say on Local Childcare Spaces Now

If you are currently looking for, or thinking about, an early years experience for your pre-school child, we would appreciate your help. As a very popular local playschool with children aged between 2-5 years old there is always a demand for sessions, which results in a long waiting list. We would like to hear your views on how beneficial you feel it would be to have another playschool situated on Grange Farm? For example, is it difficult to find spaces for your child to start when it suits you, e.g after Christmas or Easter, and to get a good choice of sessions? Is there enough choice of quality well established playschools in your area?

If you can help with any feedback and you

are interested in attending an Ofsted inspected Playschool which may be located on Grange Farm, and will be run by an existing well established, and well regarded playschool, please e-mail us at mplayschool@btinternet.com. We currently serve families on and near to Grange Farm, but we would also like to hear from you if you live or work in surrounding villages and beyond, and need high quality childcare. We look forward to hearing from you very soon!

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Clubs & Classes News

sponsored by Ipswich Borough Council

NEW FROM LAZY DAISY!

The largest sport provider in Ipswich

Lazy Daisy East Suffolk is delighted to be teaching a new class called MOVERS. Suitable for babies who are confident crawlers to tots up to the age of 3 this is a great class that allows your little one to MOVE. We all know how hard it is to keep children this age still during a class - Lazy Daisy understands that too and we adapt our class to the needs of the children, keep it fast moving, dynamic and still allow them to benefit from all the great yoga based activities so they are boosting their immunity, working on balance and co-ordination, vestibular development and the development of rhythm and inhibitory control while they race around and enjoy themselves - if you would like to try a session for FREE please mention Families Suffolk and contact Jo on 07944 070 362 or via eastsuffolk@lazydaisybirthing.co.uk

Spitfires out of school club

Spitfires out of school club is offering an enjoyable experience for children aged 4-11years old, during school terms and holidays. In our planning we provide fun activities that the children can learn from themselves through their own experiences.

Throughout the holidays we provide care for children and give them the experiences of day trips, such as trips to Christchurch Park and scavenger hunts around the local area. We have a range of activities planned for holiday club which are carried out inside and outside the setting.

Inside activities include arts and crafts, movies where the children can make their own cinema experience, and cooking. The children also have lots of fun outside in the garden by making obstacle courses and running our own sports day, which is child initiated but adult led.

The children have access to resources if they feel they do not want to participate within the activities as the setting can be encouraged to be a free-flow environment giving the children choice to explore and play in ways they wish.

At spitfires out of school club we hope to active a fun, exciting, exploring, environment for all children aged 4-11 years. 01473 725523 www.alpha-nurseries.co.uk

The Cooking Club

The Cooking Club aims to show children how fun and satisfying creating tasty and nutritious meals from scratch can be, and provide them with culinary skills that will last a lifetime. Their school holiday workshops and after-school clubs offer a thoroughly enjoyable and productive activity for your child to get involved in and a great way to encourage them to learn more about healthy eating. The Cooking Club are holding 2 Easter Holiday workshops at Suffolk Food Hall on Wednesday 9th and Thursday 10th April 10am - 12.30pm. Children will cook a special Easter menu of Spring Lamb Stir Fry and Hot Cross Cupcakes.”

For all course details please contact Jess 01284 828735 www.the-cooking-club.co.uk

New Puddle Ducks classes arriving after Easter

Swimming is a life skill and Ipswich Borough Council’s weekly lessons at Crown Pools and Fore Street pool are of the highest standard. Although generally most children love the water, introducing them to it in the right environment is so important as is choosing the right swimming lesson. The swim staff believe in helping parents choose the right lesson for their child and can even offer a free trial assessment to help determine which course is suitable.

The courses range from babies right through to adults and every age in between and the course content reflects the ASA National Plan for Teaching Swimming. Courses last for ten weeks with one lesson per week and the length of the lessons vary but most are for 30 minutes.

Courses follow a natural development as your child improves, but you can join their programme at any stage, as long as there is availability and the course is suitable for your child. Many children start having swimming lessons as they approach school age, however, there are many lessons for pre-school age children which are fun, structured and developmental.

As a new customer to their swimming programme, it’s best to call to check availability and to discuss which course is right for you. Once you join a course, there is a priority booking system for existing customers. The lessons categories are…

• Pre-school lessons • Adult lessons • Learning to swim • Private lessons for adults or children • Perfecting the technique • Recreational courses • Personal challenges Details about these lessons including times, course dates and prices can be found on www.ipswich.gov.uk/sport or to talk to a member of the team please call 01473 433651

Gary Staff Martial Arts Academy

Children across Suffolk are currently enjoying their journey with Puddle Ducks which is a baby, toddler and pre-school swim school delivered in a variety of lovely warm pools.

Puddle Ducks classes, which last 30 minutes, will teach activities including swimming, submersion, floating, songs and games.

Each session will incorporate rhyme, music and movement with songs that have been written by professional musicians. Although fun is at their heart, Puddle Ducks classes are about much more than this. The classes revolve around bonding and play where children don’t realise they’re learning to swim and are acquiring skills that could save their lives.

Due to popularity, new classes have been added at

Easter activity days for just £10 a day at Brantham Leisure Centre

Swimming with Ipswich Borough Council

Birch Farm on a Monday and Sunday afternoon, to start after the Easter break. Please visit our website www.puddleducks. com/suffolk to find out more information on times and prices or give us a call on 01473 356222 to have a chat.

We all hope that with our help our children could deal with all the challenges they may face, however it is a sad fact that many children at some point either at school, at play or at home feel alone and not able to deal with a situation. Gary Staff Martial Arts Academy offer various classes for children 4 years and over plus a drop in parent and child class which offers children the opportunity to learn a skill which not only will help them develop physically in areas such as co-ordination, stamina, balance, and flexibility but also helps develop the ability to concentrate, focus and believe

There’s a range of fun, activity days for both boys and girls throughout the Easter holidays for as little as £10 per day at Brantham Leisure Centre! There’s no catch… it’s simply great value for money with fully qualified coaches who are passionate about what they do. The programme is provided

by Anglia Sports Management, a local sports coaching company specialising in curriculum sport and PE in schools, after-school, breakfast and lunch clubs, school holiday programmes and birthday parties.

in themselves, plus encourages self-confidence and respect for themselves and for others. If you would like to find out how these classes could help your son or daughter please contact Gary on 01473 233633 07794167527 or visit www.gsmaa.co.uk

You can choose from a morning session (09:30-12:00), an afternoon session (13:00-15:30) or a whole day, which includes a fully supervised lunchtime. (just provide a packed lunch and plenty of drink). The daily rate if paid in advance is just £10.00 per child and £8.00 for siblings or If paid on the day it’s just £12.00 per child and £10.00 for siblings. Single sessions are £6.00.

To find out more about their Easter programme telephone 01206 392506 or 07446 214973 or visit www.angliasportsmanagement.co.uk

A typical week’s school holiday programme will include; And see the next issue of Families Suffolk magazine for your chance to 5-a-side football tournaments, football coaching, arts-nwin a whole week of sport for the summer holidays from Anglia Sports crafts, multi sports including Kwik cricket and tag rugby, hair Management. braiding/nail polishing, dance, dodgeball and mini olympics.

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Parents Place

s w e i v r e t n i s s e n i s Mums in Bu Your name: Ann Lay Name, location and nature of your business: Baby Senses – Ipswich Baby Massage and Baby Sign Language classes How long has your business been running and the reason why you started your own business?

4 years 6 months. I took voluntary redundancy due to the credit crunch whilst I was on maternity leave with my eldest son Joshua and whilst going to baby groups, I found a need for more baby massage and that there were no baby signing classes in the area.

What do you enjoy about running your own business?

The satisfaction I gain from parents and babies enjoying the classes I teach and making new friends.

I can also choose when I work and when I need to be at home for the family.

What I want to achieve with the business is driven by me, no one else.

Is there anything you don’t enjoy about running your own business?

Can’t think of anything...........No nothing, sorry!

What was the best piece of advice you were ever given?

I have received many great pieces of advice and all are from the free business advice and courses received from NWES. www.NWES.org.uk.

But my piece of advice would be to research and know your market before you start – don’t make

assumptions and put together a good business plan!

(Something NWES helped me with.)

What does the future hold for your business?

The future looks great – I have just launched a new class called Wriggle and Relax which is for older babies, to show parents how to continue baby massage when their baby is wriggling – something that I feel passionate about. Also for the Toddle Talk baby signing classes to grow across Suffolk and then East Anglia as the Baby Senses team expands and others gain the enjoyment that I have by becoming a Toddle Talk instructor.

How do you fit your business around family life?

My eldest son is in school, so I fit classes around school hours and term times.

Callum is 18 months old and he comes with me to 2 of my Toddle Talk classes – he loves it.

My parents help 1 day per week and I work classes and paperwork into that day. Otherwise you will find me making calls or on the computer during Callum’s sleeps, which thankfully are still quite long.

What advice would you give to any parents considering starting up their own business?

Pick something you can fit around family life, think about school holidays, sicknesses and how to fit in the school run before you get started. Make sure you remember a good work/life balance! Use technology to your advantage, to make you more efficient and flexible – not be a constant distraction. Otherwise just GO FOR IT! It’s the best thing I have ever done.

What is Phoenix Trading and why choose this as your business?

By Pheonix Trader Debbie Sinclair Phoenix Trading is a greeting card and stationery company that was set up by 3 friends at a kitchen table in 1995 with a £30 investment in a basket of cards. Now, 19 years on, they offer the same business opportunity to others from as little as £30.

There are a great range of products, such as greeting cards, organiser pads, height charts, posters, wrapping paper, gift bags, a Christmas range and so much more, which are all designed exclusively by talented artists for Phoenix. All of the products represent great value for money, as they are beautifully designed, great quality and you can’t buy them in shops. Everyone I have shown the products to has been really excited about them, and immediately found something they want, whether it is a beautiful card or fairy stationery, which comes with magical fairy dust!

When I made enquiries about the Company I was pleasantly surprised to find that there is no ‘hard sell’ with Phoenix, no pressure and no set targets - you choose how much you do. What I found were genuine people, who fairly and honestly informed me about the opportunity, and then left it to me to make an informed decision.

I am thrilled to have become a Phoenix Trader, as I have had lots of support from both my sponsor, Stuart, who has been with Phoenix for 13 years and the Company offer comprehensive support too; I get regular email updates and a monthly newsletter, as well as having a business manual as my go-to guide. I haven’t even started looking at the online support, as I have been too busy speaking to all my friends about the product and this fantastic opportunity!

This really is a flexible, family friendly opportunity. The products are fantastic and I get to choose my hours and what level of income I generate. This is way too much fun to call work!

There are so many ways that Phoenix could be right for you, if you want to balance work and home life, increase your earnings, or help with fundraising, if you want a change of pace or a complete

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career change. There really is a way for you to make this work to fit your personal circumstances.

What are you waiting for? Come and join us.

You can contact Debbie on 07814235050 debscardbiz@gmail.com www.phoenix-trading.co.uk/web/debbiesinclair

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Baby & Toddler Talk Meningitis The worst day of my life Part 2 In our Jan/Feb issue Shelley Brinkley recalled the beginning of the worst day of her life when her little boy Charlie became very seriously ill and was rushed into hospital. We pick up the story again 4 hours after arriving on the ward.

Charlie is stable. His heart rate is down to about 150-170 depending on how he’s feeling and he’s off the oxygen. He is in a lot of pain and cannot stand any light, we have the blinds drawn and the lights off.

The nurses have had terrible trouble doing his obs, it clearly hurts to be touched and he is terrified! They are being great though, reassuring me and my little baby boy.

It’s surprising how quickly you get used to the hospital environment.

The beeping, the monitors, the nurses, the doctors. I think to be honest I totally immersed myself in it. By time my husband got there, I knew exactly what each machine did/meant, what each wire was, what medicines he was on, how often, how much. In my head I was his nurse.

I was of course also his mother, I kissed, sang, read and comforted him.

But emotionally I needed to be his nurse. I could not let myself be his terrified, grief stricken mother, I would have fallen apart.

The doctors came to see us on the first of many ward rounds. The talked a lot, prodded and poked Charlie, took readings, read his charts. They very gravely told me that Charlie was very ill. That his blood had been sent away for analysis but they were convinced it was Meningococcal septicemia. I didn’t really find out what this meant until he was much better, but I knew it was bad.

The rash all over my beautiful baby was his blood, seeping from his collapsing blood vessels as the septicemia poisoned his body. The doctors told me all they could do was wait and watch, hoping that his body would fight, he would be kept on hourly obs, watching for signs of brain damage. The check his rash, checked if any of his limbs were compromised. Then the doctor asked if some of the rash was new, it was but I hadn’t realised this shouldn’t be happening! The doctors were worried, they told us he could be going up to ITU later, that although on the antibiotics it was still attacking him. They kept telling us he was fighting really hard and doing really well considering, but every time we responded with a smile they would say that he had a long way to go and was very poorly! I have recently found out that most children bought in already exhibiting the rash end up in the ITU and a high number leave the hospital with lasting damage.

Monday was a long day. Watching that horrific rash cover my baby more and more, every time I looked at him I saw more. He couldn’t eat or drink so was on fluids too, he was so weak, so tired. He was helpless, in pain, frightened and there was nothing I could do.

The next day or so were filled with worry. Not only was the rash still appearing but Charlie was unable to wee and was therefore swelling. By Tuesday he was so puffy he could barely open his eyes, poor little boy.

The doctors were worried his Kidneys were not working properly and he was given diuretics to help him release the fluid. The doctors also said that his blood was no longer clotting, hence the ever increasing rash. I was pleased when they said he didn’t need a full transfusion but he did have to have a platelet transfusion. My poor little baby, it seemed as if his poor little body was just shutting down.

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However even though on paper he seemed to be having more and more problems, my little Charlie seemed to be returning to me. Up until Wed all Charlie had said was mama, not like he normally would but like a baby babbling, he hadn’t been talking at all. But by Tues evening/Wed he was starting to say the odd thing, he also seemed to be awake for longer periods of time. He was giving me hope. He wanted to play and watch TV. He didn’t really play but the nurses made him some play dough and I made things with it for him to look at. Each day he seemed brighter, more awake, more Charlie.

Wednesday evening I decided for the first time to sleep in my bed in the corner of the room instead of holding him through the night. He seemed to go to bed Wed night like a normal little boy, He got tired, watched some TV then fell asleep. The nurses had also told me he was now down to 3 hour obs and they no longer needed to check his eyes (looking at pupil dilation for signs of brain damage).

Thursday morning. I will never forget this morning. He woke up, bright as a button. “I’m thirsty mummy” he said. I quickly got him a drink. He smiled at me…he smiled!!! This was the first time he had smiled all week. I have never felt so much joy in all my life. He was still swollen, but not as he had been. The rash was still there but had started to fade a little and was no longer appearing. I text my husband to ask what time he’d get there, I didn’t tell him how well Charlie was doing.

He arrived a little later, as he walked in Charlie said “daddy” and a massive beaming smile appeared on his face. I have never seen my husband look happier. We sat chatting to Charlie, chatting to our boy who only days previously had been fighting for his life, his body bleeding into its self, his organs unable to cope.

The doctors came and told us he had turned a corner. Off came the heart monitor, off came the sats monitor, they unplugged his drip! I couldn’t believe it. It all happened so quickly. As quick as the disease had gripped his little body, he seemed to have bounced back. Later that day he was allowed out of his room and into the playroom. He couldn’t really walk properly but couldn’t wait to play. A little later he was moved to a ward.

Suddenly I had others parents to talk to, other things to look at. Charlie seemed to much prefer the ward and he was finally starting to talk to and interact with all the nurses. My little star.

After some concerns over His ability to walk and a scare with his rash reappearing (he was still having clotting problems), we are now home and dare I say it fully recovered. I cannot believe how lucky we are. Charlie is still anemic and gets tired very easily. He had still got to undergo tests but at this point no lasting effects are expected. His skin is still mottled with the scars of his rash and he has lots of large bruise like patches and scabs.

But all in all, he is better, he is Charlie, he is home.

I am so thankful for whoever was looking after Charlie, the nurses, the doctors, the well wishes, the prayers, god! Whoever played a part in saving my boy, thank you. I feel like I have been given a second chance. After giving birth to Charlie I suffered PND and did not form a bond with him, in fact I have barely any memories from his first year. Although I have over time developed an amazing bond with Charlie, I feel our time in hospital allowed me to have with him what I and he missed out on when he was a newborn. I have to take something positive from it. I got to care and nurse for my baby.

To anyone reading this I want to get through to you that ours in an exceptional case. We have been told by doctors that Charlie is very lucky and some said they have never seen a recovery like his. This is a happy ending but unfortunately it is an uncommon one. In cases of bacterial meningitis 1 in 10 will die and a 3rd of survivors are left with permanent damage including loss of limbs, brain damage, blindness, deafness and learning difficulties. Please make sure you know the signs. The rash is the last symptom to appear. It is often called the grave rash, as the grave follows the appearance of the rash!

Here are the symptoms you need to look for:

• A very high temperature with cold hands and feet • refusing food/vomiting • fretful, dislike of being touched • Floppy, hard to wake.

• rapid breathing/grunting • unusual cry • Dislike of bright lights.

• stiffness in the neck (check by trying to get child to put their chin to their chest) • Convulsions • Lastly the rash. Blotchy skin and/or the appearance of a red/purple rash that doesn’t disappear under pressure (do the glass test)

These are the symptoms in babies and toddlers, for more information: www.meningitis-trust.org

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Mums but what the about word Daddy?

Wr i t t e n b y J o C re s d e e

I always jokingly say that it was my husband that suffered from postnatal depression rather than me, but all jokes aside I do remember the early months of life with my son filled with worry that he and his father were just not bonding.

Life for an expectant father is filled with trepidation and they are often forgotten as the world revolves around the mother and her unborn child. Our antenatal classes were filled with information about what my husband should do to ensure that he managed to transport me to the delivery suit in a timely manner but once we arrived I am sure he felt that his work was done. It suddenly dawned on us both that we were totally unprepared for labour, birth and life as a family.

How had this happened? We thought that we had been so organised and on a practical level we had, we had desperately wanted to have a baby, we had read endless books on labour, birth and infancy. We had bought every baby accessory known to man to the point where our house no longer felt like there was space for us. We had attended night after night of antenatal classes which seemed to consist of team building games designed to make us bond with the other parents-to-be we had met. Despite all this investment we had done nothing to adjust our expectations of what life with an infant was going to be like.

domain of Daddy – I never get involved, it is his time alone with his son. I have had to be really strict with myself not to interfere, they have their own way of going about things, different to mine and that is ok (not wrong!)

Research also suggests that Mums and Dads specialise in different types of play. The mother is more likely to talk and interact quietly with baby, the father tends to focus more on physical play – this might simply be because of existing stereotypes but it gives dad the role of “fun” parent; the one who makes baby fly in the air, blows raspberries and bounces baby so high they are screaming with laughter. If all else fails peekaboo is one form of physical slapstick that is always guaranteed to make your baby grin!

My husband now jokingly argues that men are shallow and easily pleased and that is the reason that it’s hard for a father to bond with a baby before they start to laugh and smile back. I personally think we are too tough on Daddy – we give them no information and expect magic to happen; while we mums have spent nine months getting to know the little person growing inside our bodies.

Give Daddy a break – help him get to know his baby!

My husband felt horribly helpless during the labour and birth and I think was left quite shocked and horrified by the whole experience. Our baby then spent five days in Scbu for various reasons and this exacerbated the feelings of helplessness that my husband experienced. As I spent every waking hour focusing on the needs of our baby he returned home to a dark, cold, empty house.

Finally when we brought our baby home our son was not the rosy cheeked giggling baby that is portrayed in all the parenting manuals. We had brought home a scrunched up, wrinkly faced, demand feeding baby that failed to allow us to rest for more than an hour at a time.

Of course this is normal, but we didn’t know that at the time and my husband was horrified!

Friends would ring and ask how he was finding parenthood, every time I heard him deliver floorless clichés on how magical it all was.

I now realise that my husband is not alone, many men find it very difficult to bond with their newborn baby. They are experiencing a mixture of emotions. Daunted by the financial and emotional responsibilities of parenthood, feeling insecure, all they want to do is care for their partner and child but that is a really hard thing to do when they are unsure of whether or not they are actually needed. On top of all that there is the pressure to be a big strong man, but they haven’t slept for weeks and they feel physically and mentally exhausted.

Mother and baby obviously spend a lot of time together in the early weeks. All new mums have a host of postnatal hormones whizzing around their bodies. It is really important though for Dad’s to keep at the front of their mind that they are not in competition with Mummy/baby and that the alone time that Mum and babe spend together is something not to be resented.

As the new family starts to settle into a routine it is a great idea to find a part of the day that is set aside as Daddy and baby time – this is exactly what we decided to do. Bath time is the

Jo teaches Lazy Daisy Birthing and Baby classes in Ipswich, Woodbridge and the surrounding area.

Every month (1st Saturday) Jo runs a special set of Daisy Baby classes for Dad’s, Mums who have returned to work and Grandparents who want to enjoy some relaxed fun time with their babies. Every third Saturday of the month Jo runs Lazy Daisy Workshops for Couples which cover the physiology of birth, breathing techniques, relaxation, hypnosis for birth and active birth theory and teach birth partners how to practically support women during labour and birth and how to work as a team.

Contact Jo on 07944 070 362 jo-cresdee@lazydaisybirthing.co.uk www.thelazydaisychain.co.uk

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Toddler Talk Why it can be difficult for toddlers to concentrate Little Kickers coach Chris West passes on thoughts and observations as to why it can be difficult to get a toddlers to concentrate.

In the course of our work at Little Kickers, we frequently come across parents who are concerned about their child’s ability to concentrate (or lack of). Many parents tell us that prior to starting Little Kickers classes they are concerned that their toddler is “not ready” because they will not listen to instructions and will “do their own thing” and disrupt the class.

These concerns are completely normal - toddlers’ brains work in a different way to those of fully grown adults – a fact which is sometimes hard for parents to grasp.

they haven’t developed the physical ability or a strong enough emotional urge to please others to keep them involved once their interest flags, which is something we find refreshing! The key to getting and retaining their attention is to make whatever activity they are doing fun for them, and to ensure it remains entertaining.

In our experience, it is normal for a toddler to be able to follow basic instructions and communicate their feelings, but it is not normal for every toddler to be able to sit still for extended periods of time or follow specific instructions to complete set tasks. Your toddler will be required to sit still for a large part of their The fact is that most preschoolers are life and at this early stage they are so interested in their surroundings and meant to be active, so this should be exploring the world around them, that encouraged. Pushing a preschooler sitting in one place for an extended to sit still and concentrate for too period just doesn’t interest them. They long will only lead to you, and them, are notoriously self-directed, and as a becoming incredibly frustrated. result they may choose to sit still for a long time if they are totally engaged So how do toddlers typically in something that really interests develop the ability to them. However, at the age of 2 – 3, concentrate?

A typical toddler is constantly on the go, rarely focusing on the same activity for more than a few minutes.

With limited concentration they are happiest when moving quickly from one toy or game to the next. And with so much energy, they can only focus for a limited time before they are hit by an overwhelming urge to play with something else. This is completely normal – concentration takes time to develop.

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A child’s attention span improves significantly in three distinct ways as he / she matures: • Passive to active - as a baby your child only looked at objects when they came into his / her line of sight. As a toddler, concentration is more active and controlled. Now, they start to look around and choose what to look at more closely, rather than just randomly viewing objects directly in front of them.

• Unsystematic to systematic searching - unlike a baby, who looks at a toy in a haphazard way – perhaps gazing at one end, then chewing the opposite end, your toddler uses concentration to investigate the object systematically and methodically. It’s sometimes surprising to parents to see the intensity with which they can study every day household items such as keys or a mobile phone.

• Broad to selective - a baby has difficulty filtering out other sources of information. Your toddler, however, concentrates more selectively – for instance he continues to watch his favourite show on television even though you keep asking him to tidy his toys away!

Are there games / techniques which can be employed to encourage and to develop concentration skills?

• Encourage listening - Read a book to your toddler then ask them questions about the storyline.

All pre-schoolers are incredibly responsive to fun, so the key to any game you use to promote the development of concentration is that you make it entertaining, and that they enjoy it. There are a few ways in which you can create an environment that is more conducive to your child developing concentration skills:

• Create a quiet area - Put a childsized table and chair for your toddler to sit at when he wants to play in peace

• Minimize distractions - One of the most common causes of short attention spans in toddlers is the amount of distractions they encounter, so it stands to reason that if you minimize the amount of external distractions they have to contend with when they are trying to concentrate, their attention will be held for longer, so when you do reading or creative play activities with them, try to ensure you do so away from the phone or television.

• Respond to his progress - Begin with short activities and, as his concentration improves, gradually make tasks longer

• Turn the ringer off on your phone - while you and your child enjoy an activity, this way both of you can avoid being distracted and spend quality time enjoying an activity together.

• Avoid games and television shows that foster short attention spans such as those with lots of flickering lights or fast moving images.

• Let him / her practice looking for items - When shopping ask your toddler to find a nearby item.

• Stay on top of mess - His concentration will benefit from having an organized, uncluttered environment.

• Encourage your child to look at you when you talk to him - Eye contact reduces distractions, focuses his attention and leads to better understanding Toddlers are not, in general, good at concentrating.

No child is born with powerful concentration skills, and every child’s ability to concentrate will develop at his / her own pace. The world is a new and exciting place for your child, and there’s so much they want to see and experience. The activities and ideas above may help your child improve their concentration skills, but it’s important to remember that the key to active, enthusiastic participation for any pre-schooler is making an activity fun.

You can contact Chris about Little Kickers pre-school classes on 01394 210016 www.littlekickers.co.uk

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In this issue the Our Community page hears from a committee member of a new Autism Family Support Group plus Jeni Raw lets us into a lesser known fact about The New Wolsey Theatre.

Lets do it!- Autism Family Support Group In April 2013 our eldest daughter was diagnosed with ASD- Autism Spectrum Disorder. This wasn’t really a shock to us as Piper had always been different to other children and as she has got older the differences had become more apparent. However that didn’t mean we didn’t have difficulties to face as time went on.

Being a parent of a child with Autism I often find myself struggling to find both activities suitable for my child and social Sarah groups to attend as a family.Archer We tend to shy away from play groups, restaurants and social meets due to misunderstanding about my daughters behaviour and fear of judgement. My daughter herself struggles to attend groups and activities due to the level of support she needs, so instead we stay at home.

This leaves us, like many other families touched by Autism feeling isolated and alone. Then I heard about a lovely lady called Emma, a parent of a child with Autism, who had started organising meet ups and football sessions for children with Autism.

Very nervously I decided to go along to one of the soft play meet ups. I was nervous about going due to past experiences but my daughter couldn’t wait.

The group was great. Everyone there, although all different, seemed to understand, we were all in the same boat. The children played and were able to be themselves. We had a great time and felt included and welcome within the group. We had managed a successful trip out, I came away happy rather than stressed and upset.

From that point on I joined the committee and together we worked on developing the group. The wonderful thing is that the groups and activities are open to all the family. Not only does my daughter benefit but her siblings do too. We spend time as a family enjoying things that other families do without the worries that often stop us venturing out. The groups are friendly and welcoming, creating an environment where our children can be themselves and parents can relax and have fun.

Lets do it!- Autism Family Group are currently running football, trampoline and Minecraft clubs through the month on a Friday evening and there is a planned half term meet at Snakes and Ladders in Ipswich. Most of the activities are charged per family allowing you to all come together and meet families just like you.

We can’t wait to meet you.

The group is free to join and open all children with social communication disorders and their families.

Find us on Facebook www.facebook.comgroups/1399379590285580 email letsdoitgroup@gmail.com or call 07541 834963

The New Wolsey Theatre secret The New Wolsey Theatre has a secret. Or at least it may seem like a secret when you start to talk about it. This secret is nothing to hide, it just so happens that not a lot of people know about it. The secret is… that we are a registered charity.

Frequently asked questions include - in what way can a theatre be a charity? What will I be donating my money to, exactly? Does it not get enough funding through tickets sales? These are common questions and myths that we want to break down by simply telling you where your money goes. And believe us when we say, we are grateful for every penny!

New Access – In late 2012, we proudly received a Most Welcoming Theatre award which reflects and recognises our absolute commitment to community, New Talent – As our Patron, Sir Trevor Nunn, states discovering and nurturing new talent is at the very heart of what the New Wolsey inclusion and Access for all. We wish to extend our access performance programme which includes a is about. And we simply have to do more! We use money here to greater number of captioned performances for those support our annual Pulse Festival, and the work developed and who are hard of hearing, and more audio described rolled out by our Creative Learning Programme. Pulse provides a performances with touch tours for those who are platform for artists that are in the early stages of their career, and visually impaired. With our Agent for Change Ali offers an inspiring snapshot of contemporary theatre, works-inBriggs in post, we plan to further our engagement progess and new ideas. The demand of our Creative Learning with disability arts and artists to provide a programme is ever increasing, with artists and young people development network and to change the way people participating in workshops that they may not ever get to access think about and react to disabled artists. otherwise.

Your donations go to help the following projects:

New Theatre – the delivery of great work to the widest possible audience with newly written and produced shows sits very highly amongst our goals.

We have built a national reputation for the quality of our own productions and are acknowledged as a leading player in the development of our new musicals. If we can find the funding there is so much more we can do in bringing the magic of theatre to Ipswich and the region.

If you feel inspired to make a donation, you can do with our Box Office on 01473 295900. Thank you!

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Family Matters GET SAVVY WITH SUGAR

Heather Osborn, a dietitian at Live Well Suffolk, added: “As part of this new campaign, we will also be working with children and their families to encourage them to make ‘sugar swaps’ and choose healthier alternatives to their favourite snacks and treats such as cakes, biscuits and jelly.”

A campaign to support the new service aimed at children and their families will raise awareness of the potential damage a high-sugar diet can have on their health and wellbeing.

There are a number of easy sugar swaps families can make to reduce their daily sugar intake:

Live Well Suffolk, the county’s free healthy lifestyles service, is encouraging families to get “sugar savvy” as it prepares to launch a new weight management programme for children and young people.

Eating too much sugar means we take in more calories than we need which our bodies store as fat, causing us to put on weight and increasing the risk of serious health conditions such as type 2 diabetes, heart disease and strokes in later life.

Live Well Suffolk will be working with children to help them identify different types of food and drinks which contain high amounts of sugar, and looking at everyday items which contain ‘hidden sugars’.

Choosing low sugar, diet or sugar-free squash or fizzy drinks; enjoying fresh fruit as a healthy snack rather than chocolate, cakes or biscuits; or buying plain, wholegrain breakfast cereals, rather than ones that are coated with sugar or honey.

Throughout the year Live Well Suffolk runs a number of FREE weight management courses for children and young people, providing them and their families with all the help they need to make healthier food choices and become more active.

Suffolk Adoption Agency Your Family Their Future Think Adoption

Emma and Jon talk about their journey to adoption When we first enquired about the adoption process it seemed a long slog from our initial information session to being approved and matched. It felt like there were an awful lot of hoops to jump through. Initially, it all seemed too much but we decided that we would tackle it one step at a time.

We would be lying if we said that it didn’t feel intrusive, especially the first time a social worker arrives at your home to discuss very emotional subjects. We were asked about our family, our relationship with each other and our ideas as to what sort of parent we would be and were expected to discuss and question these notions. What I found was that it was a fluid process and so, as we built a relationship with our social worker, it became more natural to talk about these challenging subjects and, in some instances, quite cathartic.

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Encouraging children to snack on fruit rather than chocolate, cakes or biscuits is an easy way to reduce the sugar in their diet

The courses are run by trained advisors and as well as helping children get to grips with sugar, they will help them to understand food labels, portion sizes and snacking. They are also very practical – activities include a supermarket tour and regular food tasting sessions to encourage children to try new foods.

Live Well Suffolk will also help families incorporate physical activity into their routines, whether it’s walking to

It was very emotional and, in some meetings, I have to confess there were tears. One aspect we both found very challenging was further discussing what sort of child we would be prepared to parent. It felt so clinical to be saying ‘no’ out loud to various conditions a child may have, or the circumstances they may have come from. I found it really distressing but, again on reflection, it was necessary to accept what our expectations of our child were and how our new family would work. Our social worker was very sensitive to the fact that we were being asked to answer difficult questions and was professional and caring and we felt supported every step of the way. Some aspects of the process were frustrating although we knew they were needed, for example: international police checks because we’d lived abroad, and organising getting our medicals.

Looking back, being forced to reflect on our lives and to question our attitudes and ideas about parenting was very positive. There are not many instances in your life when you stop and take stock in that way.

The opportunity to discuss with a third party what your expectations of becoming a parent are and to have

school, swimming at the weekend or playing games in the local park. Each workshop includes 30 minutes of fun physical activity and families can also sign up to an additional multi-sports activity club. For older children, there’s the option for them to take part in taster gym sessions.

For more information, visit www.livewellsuffolk.org.uk or call 01473 229292

some of the realities explained meant that we felt prepared when our little boy arrived. I can honestly say it was a very positive experience, and the fact that at the end of it all there was our fantastic son, made it all worthwhile.

For more information about Adoption call 0800 389 9417 or visit: www.suffolkadoption.com

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Family Matters Understanding the separation process

by Josephine Hayes

In the last two articles, Family Solicitor, Josephine Hayes, has considered family related issues such as the law and unmarried couples and how to identify your legal position to take account of your personal circumstances. She also offers advice on a daily basis to those whose relationships have broken down. Here, she dispels a few commonly-held myths about divorce and relationship breakdown. When separating from your partner or spouse, many practical but challenging issues need to be considered, including dividing assets, arranging finances and making plans for any children you have together. Although an amicable separation is favourable it is not always achievable. This article looks at the two most common issues of contention: financial settlements and custodial arrangements for children.

Divorce/dissolution/separation Divorce is the formal process which legally dissolves a marriage. If married couples separate without obtaining a divorce, they are still legally married, and will be treated as such in areas including inheritance provision. In the majority of cases, divorces are uncontested and can be relatively straight forward. However, if contested, a divorce can be drawn out and financially and emotionally costly to both sides. Legal advice should be sought as soon as divorce papers are received to avoid unnecessary additional costs at a later stage.

The dissolution of a civil partnership follows a similar process to a divorce, and therefore the same issues must be taken into consideration.

There is no set procedure for unmarried couples who separate, but if you have any concerns or queries about your rights, then timely legal advice should be sought.

Remember that however long you have been together, you are not seen as married in the eyes of the law unless you have a legal marriage certificate, so you may well need advice to help resolve the division of joint assets.

Children Resolving arrangements for children can be stressful and emotionally charged. It is important to remember that the best interests of the children should always be considered a priority. Unless there are exceptional circumstances, children have the right to see both parents.

Upon separation, parents have to consider where the children will live, what contact the other parent will have and when, arrangements for school, holidays, birthdays and Christmas, and of course, the wishes of the children if they are old enough to contribute.

At such an emotional time, reaching agreement on such issues is not always easy but there are different options available to help parents reach a constructive agreement wherever possible. These follow the same basis as financial agreements, as set out below.

Finances Dividing the family finances is often a difficult and stressful task. The simple truth is that the majority of couples have sufficient finances to run one household, but cannot establish and run two separate households in the same way. Compromises will have to be made on all sides but there is little doubt that it is best for you to try to reach an agreement out of court, which will save both time and money.

Options: • DIY When separation is amicable, arrangements can be decided between the parties themselves. If communication is difficult, solicitors can aid negotiations to help partners reach an agreement out of court. Whilst DIY solutions can be cost effective, it is important that you know your legal rights so that the agreement you reach is fair and enforceable. Solicitors will explain your rights and the matters taken into account by the court when determining disputes and will then help you to discuss those issues with your partner and attempt to reach an agreement on your behalf.

• Traditional solicitor negotiations If you do not want to discuss matters with your partner directly, solicitors can assist and can negotiate on your behalf. This may help to resolve matters by removing animosity, to concentrate on the practical issues of separating fairly and finding a solution which will stand the test of time.

Experience in how to resolve matters very often proves invaluable. As a specialist in family law, Josephine Hayes has helped hundreds of people agree financial arrangements that are as mutually beneficial as possible.

• Mediation An independent and impartial mediator can help partners to reach common ground by discussing matters with both parties and providing helpful assistance on areas of dispute. Mediators cannot give legal advice to either party, so you should always ensure you know your options before concluding an agreement.

In most cases, mediation is compulsory in Family Court proceedings.

• Collaborative Each partner can instruct a solicitor, and all parties attend round table meetings to negotiate arrangements. If an agreement cannot be reached however, new solicitors must be instructed by each partner.

• Arbitration An arbitrator can either be instructed directly or through your solicitor. The arbitrator will hear the facts and make a decision for both partners which is binding and enforceable by the courts.

• Court Ultimately, if you cannot reach an agreement in any other way, the dispute can be put before the court and a judge will make the necessary decisions for you both. The judge will consider the facts, taking into account a range of factors; predominately what is in the best interests of the children. The judge will also produce an order which both partners are legally bound to uphold. It is advisable to seek legal advice through the court process, and both parents should continue to attempt negotiation throughout wherever possible.

Taking matters through the court is expensive. Usually matters go to Court if one or other party will not compromise, it is however, important to note that the judge can award payment of legal costs - meaning one party could end up having to pay the other side’s costs.

• Consent order Whichever route you use to reach an agreement, it is important that the outcome of the negotiations is recorded in a consent order which is lodged at Court. This makes the agreement legally binding and can sever the financial relationship between the two of you, giving you the benefit of security and financial independence.

What if it goes wrong?

The key benefit of having a court order that sets out both financial provisions and/or arrangements for children is that you are protected. Whether decided on a consensual basis or by a judge, an order is legally enforceable and provides security and peace of mind to enable you to move on with your life.

Should any issues arise whereby one or both parties are not upholding the order, recourse can be sought and you should speak to a solicitor who will be able to advise you about your legal rights and the correct process to follow to correct the situation in a legally binding way.

Josephine Hayes is a specialist family lawyer able to offer advice on a wide range of family law issues.

Margary + Miller Solicitors are a long established partnership providing professional legal services throughout Suffolk and beyond. With an established reputation built on reliability, customer service and flexibility, the firm prides itself on providing quality advice, supported by legal expertise and local knowledge. Offering fixed fee and bespoke services, Margary + Miller Solicitors are confident that all of their services offer clients value for money. Margary + Miller’s Family Department subscribe to the Resolution Code of Conduct which aims to reach a fair outcome as quickly and cost effectively as possible without the need for stressful court battles.

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dates for your diary Queen’s Baton Relay heading to Suffolk on route to Commonwealth Games Monday 9th June The Queen’s Baton Relay (QBR) will visit Suffolk as part of its international journey to the Commonwealth Games in Glasgow.

Women’s Tour 2014 Sunday 11th May

More information about the Women’s Tour can be found at www.thetour.co.uk

Bury St Edmunds will host the finish of the final stage of the inaugural Women’s Tour elite cycle race next May, as the world’s top female cyclists race from Essex into Suffolk.

Stage Five of the new-for-2014 international level stage-race will go from Harwich in Essex to finish in Bury St Edmunds, providing the perfect scenic backdrop to what is bound to be an exciting and competitive race in the heart of Suffolk on Sunday 11th May. Exact details of the route The Women’s Tour will take will be announced soon and details will be available in this next issue.

And as well as the final stage taking place in Suffolk, Felixstowe will also host Stage Three of the 2014 Women’s Tour, concluding in Clacton on Friday, May 9. Exact details of the route for Stage Three are still being worked upon, but it is likely to leave Felixstowe and snake across Suffolk Coastal, go through Ipswich, then head down through Essex to Clacton. The Women’s Tour will take place over five stages between Wednesday 7th and Sunday 11th May.

The Baton will arrive in Suffolk on Monday 9th June, midway through its two-week tour of the country aimed at drumming up support for Team England and celebrating sport as it goes. During it’s time in Suffolk it will be guest of honour at a number of events across the county to celebrate the Commonwealth Games, Team England and promote participation in sport. Its day in Suffolk will begin with a breakfast event on Lowestoft seafront. It will then travel to Newmarket for a late morning, mass participation, community relay before moving on to Bury St Edmunds where, in the early afternoon, it will visit a Super 8’s schools athletics competition. The focus will then shift from Bury St Edmunds to Ipswich where the Baton will first visit Northgate Sports Centre for a QuadKids schools athletics event before moving on to Christchurch Park where a fun, celebratory, mass participation sports event will take place.

More details about the local events will be available here in the next issue.

Tour de Suffolk, Bury St Edmunds Sunday 27th July An exciting new cycling event is coming to Suffolk this summer and will include a 50km Challenge ride, a 100km Epic ride and a free 5km family ride. The event which is set in the heart of Bury St Edmunds is run in partnership with Suffolk County Council and Adnams.

Cycling Festival & Family Activities As well as the main cycling sportive on the day, there will also be a variety of activities for all the family to take part in, including a custom built Mountain Bike Track and a Balance Bike children’s circuit - for those young ones wanting to learn balance and confidence!

Plus, there will be a screening at the event of the last day of the Tour de France, so you can sit back, relax and enjoy a refreshing beer from Adnams! To find out more and to register for the races visit www.revolutionevents.co/tour-desuffolk

parkrun Weekly, 5km, timed, free, running for all.

parkruns are friendly events organised by fantastic local volunteers. They are open to everyone and are safe and easy to take part in. They take place in pleasant parkland surroundings and are open to people of every ability; from those taking their first steps in running to Olympians; from juniors to those with more experience; everyone is welcome to participate.

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There are now 4 parkruns in Suffolk… Ipswich (Chantry Park), Brandon (Brandon Country Park), Bury St Edmunds (Nowton Park) and a new one starting on 1st March at Great Cornard Sports Centre.

For details visit www.parkrun.org.uk

Helping Suffolk to become England’s Most Active County www.mostactivecounty.com

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Easter Activities Easter all wrapped up for £14

Most mums and dads know that it can be a real headache keeping kids occupied during the school holidays, not to mention causing a healthy dent in your bank account. So it’s re-assuring to know that for just £14 your kids can take part in loads of sport and activity this Easter.

The school holiday programme from Ipswich Borough Council includes something for everyone including swimming every day, sport-schemes, rollerskating, trampolining, football, dance and drama, bouncy play for the little ones, tennis, cheerleading, Easter party, karate and much more. There are 6 centres to choose from including Crown Pools and Fore Street pool, Gainsborough, Whitton, Maidenhall and Northgate sports centres.

The majority of these fun sessions don’t need to be booked in advance, because we know parents like to decide on the day what they’re doing, often depending on the weather! These type of sessions are called casuals, and the junior iCard for £14, includes unlimited casual sessions. Please do check that there is availability on

Crack open the fun this Easter As the warmer weather arrives, why not bring the children along to the great family activities and events that will be going on throughout the Easter holidays at the Colchester and Ipswich Museums. All six Colchester & Ipswich Museum venues offer fun, hands-on sessions that encourage children to express themselves through a variety of mediums such as art, music and literature.

Create and decorate your own unique basket to keep your Easter eggs in at the Natural History Museum, Colchester, on 9 & 10 April. Drop sessions are available throughout the day. Make Bunny and Chick Hangies on the 15 & 16 April using a wide range of materials to make a colourful and ‘scrunchy’ animal to hang from your ceiling. You can come along and meet characters who witnessed the Colchester Earthquake of Easter 1884 on 17 April and hear their tales. Free admission and plays are on at 11am, 12pm, 1pm, 2pm and 3pm

these sessions though, before you leave your child at the centres as numbers are limited.

There are also bookable courses and specials in the programme and you can also choose 4 of these type of activities as part of you junior iCard for £14 (excluding swimming courses). Any additional courses and specials you may want to do can be paid for separately. The full programme will be available online and in the centres from 14th March when you can also sign up for your junior iCard for £14, which will actually be valid for 4 weeks, so it will completely cover the holiday period plus an additional 2 weeks when many junior activities are still available such as swimming.

Simply call into your nearest centre or Crown pools to find out more, and to get your junior iCard.

Or call us free on 0800 0371 371.

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If your child is having a birthday soon, have you considered an activity party from Ipswich Borough Council? There are over 12 different themed parties across our centres, including archery, bouncy and soft play, crazyy croc, football, jungle trail, multi-sports, treasure island, rollerskating, trampolining and swimming. These parties are excellent value for money and allow you flexibility with regards to a birthday tea, plus we’ll clear up afterwards!

Find out more at www.ipswich.gov.uk/sport or call us free on 0800 0371 371

Over at Hollytrees Museum, Colchester, use special spray paints and stencils to design and make your own unique t-shirt on 8 April. On the 10 & 11 April you can let your imagination go and create a fun and colourful ‘pop’ up puppet. Come along on the 15 & 17 April to make yourself a fun egg cosy to hide your Easter egg. These activities need to be booked.

At Ipswich Museum help us fill the pages of our GIANT storybook! All materials provided, just bring your imagination on 8 & 9 April. Let your imagination loose and make your own puppet, then use your storytelling skills to put on a performance in our mini theatre on 15 & 16 April in our Puppet Extravaganze.

Both our drop in events Meanwhile the Easter fun continues over at Ipswich Art School. They are calling all Imaginers to join the Storyshack team to build a book, create a story, and get creative! All materials included and you can drop in anytime. The budding artists can work with an artist on 17 & 18 April to create a mini story scene using a range of materials including clay, soil and fabric to bring the pages of your favourite book to life!

Christchurch Mansion has a Beatrix Potter theme for their activities and youngsters can borrow a basket to explore the galleries between the 8 -19 April.

Join Ms Potter on the 10 April as she strolls around the mansion, stopping every now and then to tell one of her enchanting stories. Stories at 10.30, 11.30, 12.30, 2pm, 3pm. No booking required. Learn the art of decoupage on the 10 & 11 April, using images of Peter Rabbit and Jemima Puddleduck to create an enchanting Easter gift. Recreate a mini version of Mr McGregor’s garden on the 16 & 17 April, complete with real seeds so that it will keep growing long after you’ve gone home.

Please book for both of these activities.

CoIchester Castle RE-OPENING MAY 2nd

For all activity times, costs and booking information Colchester events: 01206 282940 Ipswich events: 01473 433551 www.cimuseums.org.uk/whatson

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Theatre When I Grow Up Saturday 8 March 2014 New Wolsey Studio, St Georges Street, Ipswich Charlie (who’s a boy) feels like he has to make choices all the time, what to watch, what to wear, when to get up, what does he want to eat… and he hates it.

Charlie (who’s a girl) who loves making decisions, so much so that she really likes making them for everyone around her.

So when they’re both asked at school to think about what job’s they might like to do in the future Charlie (who’s a boy) goes into a flat spin, and Charlie (who’s a girl) knows exactly what to do!

Or does she?

This original production is based on the experience of children at Key Stage 2 from across the region, devised from workshops held in schools, interviews with pupils and staff, and with advice from Suffolk County Council’s Partnership Advisory service. For ages 9 to 11.

01473 295 900 www.wolseytheatre.co.uk Jack and The Beanstalk Monday 7 – Wednesday 9 April 2014 New Wolsey Studio, St Georges Street, Ipswich Fee Fi Fo Fum! It’s a giant of a show for children (and their giants) with something for everyone – enormous shoes, tiny houses, showers of silver and gold and a big, leafy explosion! For ages 3+ 01473 295 900 www.wolseytheatre.co.uk Dinosaur Zoo Tuesday 1 April - Wednesday 2 April 2014 Theatre Royal, Bury St Edmunds Dare to get up close and personal!

Direct from the West End, Dinosaur Zoo brings these awesome prehistoric creatures to the stage as you’ve never seen them before! From cute baby dinos to teeth-gnashing giants, observe and interact with these extraordinary life-like dinosaurs in this imaginative and hilarious live show.

But watch out – not all of these ravenous reptiles are as tame as they seem!

For everyone aged 3 and above 01284 769505 www.theatresonline.com Disney’s The Little Mermaid JR Sunday 13 April 2014 Seckford Theatre, Woodbridge Presented by The Children’s Theatre Company. Journey “under the sea” with Ariel in Disney’s THE LITTLE MERMAID JR with its unforgettable characters and thrilling

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This is an amateur production.

PLEASE NOTE: The New Wolsey Theatre is acting as a ticketing agency for this event. Please check the venue and event details carefully.

01473 295 900 www.wolseytheatre.co.uk Postman Pat Tuesday 15 April 2014 Ipswich Regent With songs, laughs and audience participation, together with brand new scenery and costumes, Postman Pat Live is the must see show for 3-6 year olds this.

01473 433100 www.ipswichregent.com Charlie& Lola’s Best Bestest Play Thursday 17 April - Saturday 19 April 2014 Theatre Royal, Bury St Edmunds Don’t miss everyone’s favourite brother and sister, Charlie and Lola, in their extremely everso wonderful stage show!

01284 769505 www.theatresonline.com

GENARAL Second Hand Book Sale Friday 7, Saturday 8 and Sunday 9 March 2014, 10am-4pm Lackford Lakes, Bury St Edmunds Good quality second hand books for sale. All proceeds to SWT. Free entry 01284 728706 lackford.centre@ suffolkwildlifetrust.org www.suffolkwildlifetrust.org Science & Nature Festival Saturday 22 – Sunday 23 March 2014, 10am - 4pm Jimmy’s Farm, Ipswich Enjoy an amazing educational event with a Human Body Zone, Demo Stage with non-stop Mad Science, rockets, whizzes and bangs, Engineering & Machines Zone plus a Nature & Animal House with Bug Hunts, Bioblitz, Pond-Dipping, Den Building and Fishing. www.jimmysfarm.com NCT Ipswich & East Suffolk Nearly New Sale Sunday 23 Mar 2014, 1.15pm - 3pm Copleston High School, Foxhall Road, Ipswich Top quality baby and children’s clothes, equipment and toys at bargain prices.

(NCT Members have earlier entry at 1pm with Membership Card) Admission £1 per adult, free after 2.15pm (in aid of NCT Charity) www.nct.org.uk/nns

the perfect opportunity for locals to see the Museum come alive and check what’s new this year.

01449 612229 www.eastanglianlife.org.uk

£4 - Please book 01284 728706 lackford.education@ suffolkwildlifetrust.org www.suffolkwildlifetrust.org

Mother’s Day Special at Suffolk Owl Sanctuary Saturday 29 March 2014 Stonham Barns, Stonham Aspal 0845 680 7897 www.owl-help.org.uk

Hollow Trees Farm Shop Golden Ticket Hunt Monday 7 - Monday 21 April 2014 Hollow Trees Farm Shop, Semer, Ipswich Join us for an Easter of fun along our Farm Trail 01449 741247 www.hollowtrees.co.uk

Nearly New Sale of Children’s Clothing, Toys and Equipment Sat 29 Mar 2014, 10am – 12pm Tattingstone Village Hall Here’s an opportunity to sell your good quality but unwanted children’s clothing and toys at our Nearly New sale. Whether you are looking to buy for a new baby or equip your children as they are growing up, it will be a good chance to grab some bargains. The sale is a fund-raiser for Tattingstone School.

For a sellers pack please contact Sarah on 07803 252892 or email rookeryfarm.shop@btinternet.com Woofbridge: The Bark in the Park!

Sat 29 Mar 2014, 11am – 5pm Elmhurst Park, Woodbridge Everything for dogs!! Groom your greyhounds, lather up your labradors, shampoo your shih tzus and polish your poodles. It’s time to give man’s best friend his or her time to shine. news@choosewoodbridge.co.uk www.choosewoodbridge.co.uk Mother’s Day at Colchester Zoo Sun 30 Mar 2014, 9.30am - 5.00pm Colchester Zoo, Stanway, Colchester Why not treat your Mum to something different this Mother’s Day with a trip to Colchester Zoo? There’s a ‘Mother and Baby Trail’ to follow, leading you to some of the super Mums of the animal kingdom plus there are plenty of daily displays and events for you to take part.

For further details visit www.colchester-zoo.com

Easter Holidays

Landguard Fort Easter Trail Saturday 5 to Monday 21 April 2014, 10am -4pm Landguard Fort, Felixstowe Hunt out the clues around Landguard Fort - and join in the Easter fun.

Normal admission charges for the Fort apply, plus £1.00 for a trail sheet.

Stowmarket Day Sunday 23 March 2014, 11am-5pm 01394 675900 www.landguard.com Museum of East Anglian Life, www.landguardpartnership.org.uk Stowmarket Naturally Art Workshop The Museum of East Anglian Life Saturday 5 April 2014, 10amopens for the 2014 season with 12noon its annual Stowmarket Day on the 23rd March. With historic machinery Lackford Lakes, Bury St Edmunds Art activities inspired by the natural in action, family activities and world for all abilities. Bring an old demonstrations of 19th century shirt. For 5-10 year olds. printing, Stowmarket Day provides

Super-Size Stories Tuesday 8 - Wednesday 9 Apr 2014, Drop-in anytime 10.30-12.30, 1.30-3.30 Ipswich Museum Help us fill the pages of our GIANT storybook! All materials provided, just bring your imagination!

Free event. No need to book www.cimuseums.org.uk Spring Splash Family morning Tuesday 8 April 2014, 10:30am 12:30pm Suffolk Wildlife Trust, Foxburrow Farm, Melton, Woodbridge Search for the tell-tale signs of spring, splash in the puddles and jump in the mud £2.50 – Please book.

01394 380113, foxburrow.bookings@ suffolkwildlifetrust.org www.suffolkwildlifetrust.org Peter Rabbit and Friends Tuesday 8 April 2014, 2-4pm Suffolk Wildlife Trust, Carlton Marshes Education Centre, Lowestoft Family activity day with activities based around the popular books. £2.50 per person.

Please book 01502 564250. carlton.education@ suffolkwildlifetrust.org www.suffolkwildlifetrust.org Follow the Swallow Activity Morning Tuesday 8 April 2014, 10.30am12.30pm Lackford Lakes, Bury St Edmunds Go on the migration trail and find out about life as a migrating bird with trails, crafts and games. For 4-7 year olds (children’s event only) £4 Please book 01284 728706 lackford.education@ suffolkwildlifetrust.org www.suffolkwildlifetrust.org Beatrix Potter Baskets Christchurch Mansion, Ipswich Tuesday 8 – Saturday 19 April 2014, Drop-in anytime 10.30-12.30, 1.30-3.30 Borrow a basket to explore on the galleries. Each contains a blanket and some Beatrix-inspired activities. £5 refundable deposit. No need to book www.cimuseums.org.uk Mr McGregors Garden Wednesday 9 April 2014, 2pm

- 4pm Suffolk Wildlife Trust, Foxburrow Farm, Melton, Woodbridge Family afternoon Seeding, digging and growing. £2.50 adults and children.

Please book.

01394 380113 foxburrow.bookings@ suffolkwildlifetrust.org www.suffolkwildlifetrust.org The Cooking Club Easter Workshops Wednesday 9 & Thursday 10 April, 10am - 12.30pm The Suffolk Food Hall, Ipswich Enjoy a fun Easter theme workshop creating a Spring Lamb Stir Fry and Hot Cross Cupcakes. The Cooking Club aims to show children how fun and satisfying creating tasty and nutritious meals from scratch can be, and provide them with culinary skills that will last a lifetime. The school holiday workshops are a thoroughly enjoyable and productive activity for your child to get involved in and a great way to encourage them to learn more about healthy eating. Cost: £25 each (includes all ingredients, takeaway containers and recipe cards) Suitable for 7-14 years.

01284 828735 jess.thecookingclub@gmail.com www.the-cooking-club.co.uk Easter Family Fun Event Wednesday 9 April 2014, 10am12noon Suffolk Wildlife Trust’s Bradfield Woods, Bradfield St George There will be an Easter trail and family activities in the wood.

Free – Please book.

01449 737996 bradfield.education@ suffolkwildlifetrust.org www.suffolkwildlifetrust.org Beatrix Potter at Christchurch Mansion, Ipswich Thursday 10 April 2014, Stories at 10.30am, 11.30am, 12.30pm, 2pm and 3pm Join Ms Potter as she strolls around the mansion, stopping every now and then to tell one of her enchanting stories. £2 per person.

No booking required www.cimuseums.org.uk

Decaupage eggs Thursday 10 – Friday 11 April 2014, 10.30am, 11.30am, 12.30pm, 2pm and 3pm Christchurch Mansion, Ipswich Learn the art of decoupage and use images of Peter Rabbit and Jemima Puddleduck to create an enchanting Easter gift.

Book your place on 01473 433691. www.cimuseums.org.uk Follow the Swallow Thursday 10 April 2014, 10:30 – 2:30pm Suffolk Wildlife Trust, Carlton Marshes Education Centre, Lowestoft Activity day for 6 to 10 year olds with activities, games and craft based around a swallows epic world adventure.

01502 564250 carlton.education@suffolkwildlifetrust. org www.suffolkwildlifetrust.org Slippery and Slimy Friday 11 April 2014, 10am - 2pm Suffolk Wildlife Trust, Foxburrow Farm, Melton, Woodbridge Activity Day for 6-10 year olds - Pond dipping, frogs and crafty makes Please Book.

01394 380113 foxburrow.bookings@ suffolkwildlifetrust.org www.suffolkwildlifetrust.org Young Wardens – Sausages and Surveys Friday 11 April 2014, 8:30am - 12pm Suffolk Wildlife Trust, Carlton Marshes Education Centre, Lowestoft Come and cook your breakfast before setting off on a bird survey and learn about different bird calls. Suitable for 10-15yr olds.

Please book 01502 564250 carlton.education@suffolkwildlifetrust. org www.suffolkwildlifetrust.org

Easter Eggstravaganza Tuesday 15 April 2014, 10:30am 12:30pm Suffolk Wildlife Trust, Foxburrow Farm, Melton, Woodbridge Family morning packed with of Easter activities including Trails, crafts and egg activities. £2.50 adults and children. Please Book.

01394 380113 What’s About with the Ranger foxburrow.bookings@ Thursday 10 April 2014, 10am to suffolkwildlifetrust.org 11:30am Landguard Nature Reserve, Felixstowe www.suffolkwildlifetrust.org Ranger led walk for all the family Puppet Extravaganza providing a seasonal look at the Landguard Nature Reserve. Admission Tuesday 15 – Wednesday 16 April 2014, Drop in anytime 10.30am-12.30pm, free, but donations welcome.

1.30pm-3.30pm www.landguardpartnership.org.uk Ipswich Museum Let your imagination loose and Stig of the Dump Activity Day make your own puppet, then use Thursday 10 April 2014, 10.30amyour storytelling skills to put on a 2.30pm performance in our mini theatre!

Lackford Lakes, Bury St Edmunds Hunt for Stig’s stashes, build a shelter £3 per person. No need to book www.cimuseums.org.uk and go on a treasure hunt to find the Young Wardens – Mammals loot! For 8-12 year olds (children’s Tuesday 15 April 2014, 9:30 – 1:30pm event only) £6 Please book!

Suffolk Wildlife Trust, Carlton Marshes 01284 728706 Education Centre, Lowestoft lackford.education@ Mammal surveys and tracking and suffolkwildlifetrust.org make new mammal survey rafts for www.suffolkwildlifetrust.org the reserve Suitable for 10 to 15 year olds

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sponsored by Please book 01502 564250 carlton.education@suffolkwildlifetrust.org www.suffolkwildlifetrust.org Family Woodland Challenge Tuesday 15 April 2014, 10am-12noon Suffolk Wildlife Trust’s Bradfield Woods, Bradfield St George. Find the hidden treasure, make charcoal, cook popcorn over the fire and more! £2.50 per person – please book 01449 737996 bradfield.education@ suffolkwildlifetrust.org www.suffolkwildlifetrust.org Easter Bunny Hunt Wednesday 16 April 2014, 2pm – 3pm Landguard Nature Reserve, Felixstowe A children’s tour on the Nature Reserve - with fun facts on rabbits and a quiz too.

Watch out for the giant Landguard bunny with his goodies.

01394 675283 www.landguardpartnership.org.uk Family Bushcraft Wednesday 16 April 2014, 10am – 2pm Suffolk Wildlife Trust’s Bradfield Woods, Bradfield St George Can you survive in the woods? Build a shelter, forage, whittle, make fire and cordage. For children 8 years plus with an adult. Cost: £5 per person – please book 01449 737996 bradfield.education@suffolkwildlifetrust.org www.suffolkwildlifetrust.org Bouncing Bunnies and Cheeky Chicks Wednesday 16 April 2014, 10am - 2pm Suffolk Wildlife Trust, Foxburrow Farm, Melton, Woodbridge Activity Day for 6-10 year olds. Easter challenges and cracking good fun £6 per child (discount for siblings). Please Book.

01394 380113 foxburrow.bookings@suffolkwildlifetrust. org www.suffolkwildlifetrust.org Spring Family Morning Wednesday 16 April 2014, 10.30am12.30pm Lackford Lakes, Bury St Edmunds Family session for all ages, follow the BLT trail (buds, leaves and twigs) and look for signs of spring around the reserve. For all ages, children must be accompanied. £2.50 per person. Please book.

01284 728706 lackford.education@suffolkwildlifetrust.org www.suffolkwildlifetrust.org Mr McGregor’s Mini Gardens Wednesday 16 – Thursday 17 April 2014, 10.30am, 11.30am, 12.30pm, 2pm and 3pm Christchurch Mansion, Ipswich No rabbits! Recreate a mini version of Mr McGregor’s garden, complete with real seeds so that it will keep growing long after you’ve gone home! £3 per person. Book your place on 01473 433691 www.cimuseums.org.uk Easter Egg Hunt Thursday 17 April 2014, 10am – 12 Suffolk Wildlife Trust, Carlton Marshes Education Centre, Lowestoft Egg hunt, games and craft. £2.50 per person Please book 01502 564250 carlton.education@suffolkwildlifetrust.org www.suffolkwildlifetrust.org

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Young Wardens Thursday 17 April 2014, 10.30am-2.30pm Lackford Lakes, Bury St Edmunds Practical conservation skills, wear outdoor clothes and bring a packed lunch. For 10-15 year olds. please book 01284 728706 lackford.education@suffolkwildlifetrust. org www.suffolkwildlifetrust.org Mini-Story Scenes Thursday 17 – Friday 18 April 2014, 10.30am, 11.30am, 12.30pm, 2pm and 3pm Ipswich Art School Work with an artist and use a range of materials including clay, soil and fabric to bring the pages of your favourite book to life!

Book your place on 01473 433691 www.cimuseums.org.uk Easton Farm Park Easter Egg Hunt Friday 18 - Monday 21 April 2014 Easton Farm Park, Easton, Woodbridge, Meet the baby lambs and take part in the Easter trail over the 4 day Easter weekend 01728 746475 info@eastonfarmpark. co.uk www.eastonfarmpark.co.uk Baylham House Rare Breeds Farm Easter Speggtacular Friday 18 - Monday 21 April 2014 Baylham House Farm, Mill Lane, Baylham In addition to lamb cuddling, there will be plenty to see and do. Four days of fun, lambs, bunnies, quizzes, competitions, local food and crafts plus the fabulous Baylham BBQ. 01473 830264 www.baylham-house-farm.co.uk

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Dunwich Heath: Easter Egg Trails Friday 18 April - Monday 21 April 2014, 10:30 am - 3:30 pm National Trust Dunwich Heath: Coastal Centre and Beach, Dunwich, Saxmundham Easter egg hunt with a yummy prize.

Come and follow our trail around the heath, find all the clues and claim your prize.

01728 648501 www.nationaltrust.org.uk/dunwichheath-and-beach Sutton Hoo Easter Egg Trail Friday 18 – Monday 21 April 2014, 11am-4pm National Trust Sutton Hoo, Woodbridge Family fun Easter trail.

01394 389700 www.nationaltrust.org.uk/sutton-hoo All about dogs, Suffolk Friday 18th & Saturday 19th April 2014, 10am - 5pm Trinity Park, Ipswich Two days packed with fun, competitions, entertainment, shopping and activities for dogs. www.allaboutdogsshow.co.uk Easter Egg Hunt at Elmhurst Park Saturday 19 April 2014, 11am Elmhurst Park, Woodbridge This legendary Easter egg hunt is the very best way of spending Easter Saturday. A face painter and other activities will be there but the FREE chocolate Easter Eggs are the main attraction. The East of England Cooperative are generously supplying 500 Easter eggs - guaranteed to add to the fun and produce lots of happy faces!

For further information or if you would like to volunteer to help on the day please contact Choose Woodbridge info@choosewoodbridge.co.uk www.choosewoodbridge.co.uk

Flatford Easter Egg Trail Friday 18 April – Monday 21 April 2014, 11am-5pm National Trust Flatford: Bridge Cottage, Flatford, East Bergholt Follow the trail and enjoy a yummy Cadbury chocolate egg as your prize!

For more information contact Simon Peachey on 01206 297201 or visit www.nationaltrust.org.uk/flatford-bridge- Suffolk Owl Sanctuary Easter Extravaganza cottage Saturday 19 & Sunday 20 April 2014 Stonham Barns, Stonham Aspal Melford Hall Easter Egg Trail 0845 680 7897 Friday 18 April – Monday 21 April 2014, www.owl-help.org.uk 1.15pm-4.30pm National Trust Melford Hall, Long Melford, Sudbury Once again Cadbury have sponsored our Easter Egg trail; come and solve the clues and claim your Easter egg prize. Also show your skill in the Egg and Spoon races being held each day For more information call 01787 379228, email melford@nationaltrust.org. uk or visit www.nationaltrust.org.uk/ melford-hall Festive Easter at Kentwell Friday 18 April - Monday 21 April 2014, 11am - 5pm Kentwell Hall, Long Melford, Sudbury See 100 Tudors about the manor, most under cover, celebrating Easter Tudor-style with music, dancing, hot cross bun making and more. Try your hand at Tudor games, follow our Easter Egg trail and play hide and seek with the Easter Bunny! Attempt our infamous Eggheads Quiz challenge for a chance to win a 2’6” chocolate egg.

01787 310 207 www.kentwell.co.uk

From The Forge to The Fight!

Saturday 19 April - Monday 21 April 2014 West Stow Anglo-Saxon Village, West Stow, Bury St Edmunds The story of the sword - A chance to see Dark Age group Ormsgard as they tell the story of the Sword; from the forging to the battle techniques of the Early Anglo-Saxons. Combat demonstrations and an opportunity to see how they lived.

01284 728718 www.weststow.org Museum of East Anglian Life Easter Fun Day Sunday 20 April 2014, 11am-5pm Stowmarket Get ready for an egg-tastic. Help feed spring lambs and talk to a real-life shepherd. Try your hand at the Egg Shy or see if you can beat your family at an egg and spoon race. Have a go at designing an Easter egg and solve the Easter Hunt clues around

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What’s on entries the museum site to claim your eggy prize! Standard museum admission.

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Ickworth Easter Egg Trails Sunday 20 – Monday 21 April 2014, 11am-3pm National Trust Ickworth, Horringer, Bury St Edmunds Easter eggs have ‘eggsploded’ on Ickworth’s ground. Run out of the shade into the light for hidden glimpses of inspiring views, dark, secretive places and magical areas… oh and Cadbury Easter eggs. Join in the eggciting, eggtastic weekend at Ickworth with trails and games for everyone this Easter weekend. Recommended ages 4-11. Normal Admission Charges Apply.

01284 735270 ickworth@nationaltrust.org.uk www.nationaltrust.org.uk/ickworth Eggstra Special Egg Hunt Monday 21 April 2014, 11am-3pm Lackford Lakes, Bury St Edmunds Drop in between 11am-3pm and follow our special trail and find out about the nests and eggs of birds on the reserve. Collect your egg tokens and exchange for a prize in the centre. Children must be accompanied. £2.50 per child. No need to book.

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The Mid and West Suffolk Show Saturday 26th - Sunday 27th April 2014 Stonham Barns Leisure & Retail Village, Stonham Aspal .

The Mid and West Suffolk Show is a family event featuring spectacular arena demonstrations and displays, children’s activities and a wide range of trade stands, craft & charity stalls, steam and classic car exhibitors, archery and craft demonstrations make up just some of the many things planned. www.stonhambarnscomplex.co.uk for more info.

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The Suffolk All About Dogs Show is an event organised by dog lovers, for dog lovers.

If you’re looking for a grrrrreat day-out with your family (including the dog) this Easter weekend (Friday 18th & Sat 19th April), then you are sure to LOVE the Suffolk All About Dogs Show held at Trinity Park, Ipswich! The event caters to your every need; from fun have-a-go activities and Fun Dog Shows to enter, to dog experts to chat with and an enormous Shopping Parade selling everything from food, toys, beds, and the latest gadgets, to breed stands, charities and re-homing centres.

The Suffolk All About Dogs Show has plenty of fun and games to keep your hound amused as well as testing its endurance & skill. Try your hand at Flyball, a fast-paced relay race where dogs must use their initiative to access the ball at the end, or make a splash in our long jukp pool where the furthest distance leapt by your dog wins! Other fantastic have-a-go areas include dog agility courses, gun-dog scurries, timed sprints and many more fun and exciting activities.

One of the main attractions at the All About Dogs Show is the Fun Dog Show! With classes such as ‘Waggiest Tail’, ‘Most Handsome Dog’ and ‘Prettiest Bitch’ these enjoyable events are a great chance to show your pet dog for fun and take

home a rosette or some fabulous prizes!

PLUS meet dog-lover Tommy Walsh from BBC’s Ground force as he judges one of the Fun Dog Show classes on Good Friday.

Don’t miss the amazing Arena Displays at the Suffolk All About Dogs Show, watch fast-paced agility displays as security dogs scale 6ft walls, leap through fire and tackle armed robbers!

From synchronised heelwork and dogdancing, to informative training demos and advice – you can’t afford to miss What’s On in our brilliant All About Dogs Arenas.

Friday 18th & Sat 19th - April 10am-5pm, Tickets: Adults £6.50, Concessions £5.50, Children 5-15 £2, Child under 5 FREE Aztec Events have kindly provided Families Suffolk with 10 All About Dog Show family passes to giveaway, (Family pass = 2 adults up to 3 children plus your dog if you choose). To enter into the draw email: ‘All About Dogs’ to editor@ familiessuffolk.co.uk by 5pm on Friday 11th April.

Terms & conditions apply see familiessuffolk. co.uk/competition

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Competition Page WIN a Suffolk 5ft Teak bench for your school or nursery worth over £300* John Robertson Ltd is a family run business based near Sudbury, Suffolk and specialise in high quality outdoor furniture and fittings, including commemorative and memorial seating. With a fantastic range of beautifully designed and traditionally constructed benches made from Teak & FSC® Certified Hardwood they are certain to have a product available to suit any space and budget.

Established in 1982, John Robertson Ltd has been trading in timber for over 30 years. Today the company still source the finest quality wood, and ensure that all the timber used for their wooden furniture comes from renewable and environmentally friendly sources.

John Robertson Ltd are now offering one lucky school or nursery the chance to win a Suffolk 5ft Teak bench worth over £300* plus £20 towards either hand carved engraving or a personalised brass plaque.

Once Upon a time Competition Once Upon A Time exhibition is an exhibition of East Anglia’s greatest children’s book illustrators who have inspired generations. It is currently on at Ipswich Art School and runs until Sunday 4th May Ipswich Museum are offering 10 lucky readers the chance to win a fabulously illustrated book by Nick Butterworth one of the artists featured at the Once Upon a Time exhibition. To enter the competition please email editor@familiessuffolk.co.uk stating Once Upon A Time in the subject box.

Terms and conditions apply please visit www.familiessuffolk.co.uk competitions Closing date: 30th April 2014

We are inviting teachers, pupils, parents, grandparents, or anyone with an affiliation to their local school to enter our competition for the chance to win this beautiful bench. These hardwearing and exceptional quality benches are a fantastic way to celebrate and commemorate an occasion. What better way to honour a special teacher, or mark a significant milestone than with a piece of beautifully crafted furniture that will last for years, and be enjoyed by so many.

For more information about John Robertson Ltd, and the complete range of products and services available:

Call: 01284 830100 Email: info@johnrobertson.ltd.uk www.johnrobertson.ltd.uk

Competition question In what year was John Robertson Ltd established: A) 1980 B) 1982 C)1984 Competition Details To enter, email your answer either: a, b or c, plus your name, address and telephone number to editor@ familiessuffolk.co.uk Prize Details The prize is a Suffolk 5ft Teak bench, plus £20 towards either hand carved engraving or a personalised brass plaque. The overall winner can nominate which Suffolk** school will receive the bench.

Terms and conditions apply.

Visit familiessuffolk.co.uk/ competitions.

Closing Date: 30th April 2014 * Cost of bench Including VAT. **The school must be within Suffolk to be eligible.

Blossom Beauty Competition Win an Eve Taylor prescription facial and a back, neck and shoulder massage from Blossom Beauty Blossom Beauty are offering one lucky reader the chance to take some time out and enjoy an Eve Taylor prescription facial and a back, neck and shoulder massage at their salon on the Shotley Peninsular (a short drive out of Ipswich). The prize includes a full consultation prior to the treatment taking place and you are guaranteed to feel completely relaxed upon leaving.

So why not enter either for yourself or for a friend or family member who deserves some time out.

To enter the competition please email editor@familiessuffolk.co.uk stating Blossom Beauty in the subject box.

Terms and conditions apply please visit www.familiessuffolk.co.uk/competitions Closing date: 30th April 2014

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