November/December 2013
Christy Turpin Break the Barriers Blended Families Children’s Seasonal Activewear
CONTENTS ART & CULTURE
6 Riveted 10 Mas Boot 14 Through the Darkness 16 Redefining the Perceptions of Abilities And Disabilities 20 Local Government Matters More
PARENTING 22 The Perfect Blend
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26 10 Benefits of Using Resistance Bands
29 Protein Drinks
EDUCATION 32 Craft: Gobble Gobble Globes
34 Craft: Shabby Chic Pumpkin Centerpiece
BEAUTY & FASHION 36 Timeless Bohemian
44 Lace Silk & Gears
50 Layers
58 Beauty: Hair
PUBLISHER Stephanie A. Avila ART DIRECTOR Kevin Chavez COPY EDITOR Beth Warmerdam CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Autumn Avila Stephanie A. Avila Reyna Cazares Aisha Curry Brandy Daugherty Joy Newsome Matt Shupe Erik Traeger Beth Warmerdam PHOTOGRAPHERS Crystal Roberts with Capture Life Events James Randall Photography NikolaiDesigns What If Photography SPECIAL THANKS Lauren Cameron Marcos Contrares Esther Cueves Dindo V. Dizon Sondra Faith Wendy Harbert Gutilla Joy Harvell Bryana Kimura Tony Martin Josh Mendoza
Jenny Pauline-Mendoza Sergio Perez Beth Reiland Alfred Sanchez Toshak Waakop Teneasha Whitmore FUTURE BUZZ SUBMISSIONS If you have a child that would like to have their written work featured please email submissions to info@familyfirstmagazine.com ADVERTISE If you’re interested in advertising with us, please contact info@familyfirstmagazine.com SUBSCRIPTIONS We offer digital & hard copy editions of the magazine. To subscribe please visit our website at www.familyfirstmagazine.com/subscribe CONTACT Central California’s Family First Magazine P.O. Box 3147 Pinedale, CA 93650 www.familyfirstmagazine.com (559)408-4948
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Central California’s Family First Magazine’s May 2013 party was a Victorian/Steampunk themed fashion show. We collaborated with IKlectic Muse, iM! Joyfully Ts’d and Njoysome to produce two fashion shows at Cuvée (located at 1140 N. VAN NESS AVE. STE. 103). Additionally, the audience was treated to performances by Levy's Jazz 2 Soul, Merlinda Espinosa and Christy Turpin. Thanks to everyone who attended the show. A good time was had by all. We also want to recognize the time and talent of the participants who participated in and produced the show:
Levy’s Jazz 2 Soul
MUSICIANS Merlinda Espinosa
Christy Turpin
CLOTHING/ACCESSORIES/JEWELRY IKlectic Muse iM! Joyfully Ts'd PHOTOGRAPHY Kevin Chavez RUNWAY COORDINATOR Mayra Saldaña LEAD HAIR /MAKEUP STYLIST Beth Reiland PAUL MITCHELL THE SCHOOL FRESNO The Design Team of Future Professional's Victoria Audrina Tony Beguez Alex Correa Sylvia Danette
MODELS Sarah-Rochelle Fisher Lupe Lopez Apneet Mann Samantha Molinar
Melissa Olivera Anthony Polanco Carol Rebeiro Jennifer Smith
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Central California’s Family First Magazine’s September 2013 party was our most ambitious event to date. We brought in a plethora of boutique's to provide clothes for a grandiose women and men’s fashion show unlike any we’ve ever previously attempted. Levy's Jazz 2 Soul carried the musical portion of the show, while a small army of support staff reset the models for their next walk. Fortunately, Fulton 55 (located at 875 Divisadero Street, Fresno, CA) provided us with the space to accommodate our staff, clothes, and models. Thank you to everyone who attended for making the night a success. We would especially like to thank Tony Martin and the staff at Fulton 55 for hosting the event. Without all of you none of this happens. We also want to recognize the commitment and hard work of the following vendors, event staff and talent: MUSICIAN Levy’s Jazz 2 Soul CLOTHING/ACCESSORIES/JEWELRY Banana Republic Shop Zol Huache Stella Laguna Beach Khloe California Yoshi NOW! PHOTOGRAPHY Kevin Chavez EVENT COORDINATOR Wendy Harbert Gutilla EVENT COORDINATOR ASSISTANT Jessica Morsicato CLOTHING STYLIST Reyna Cazares RUNWAY COORDINATOR Kaley Monteleone J SALON & CO. LEAD STYLIST Autumn Avila J SALON & CO. HAIR/MAKEUP ARTISTS Sarah Newlon Althea Herrera J SALON & CO. HAIR STYLISTS Jocelyn Satterfield Allcock Krista Forbus Bailey Friebe Donnelly Isaac Huerta J SALON & CO. MAKEUP ARTIST Lisa Vialpando MODELS Candice Antipuesto Jenna Futrell C.C. Munoz-Pyle Rizal Antipuesto Cynthia Garcia Ben Rawls Fabian Cano Dani Nicole Glenn Tarin Zella Santos Shaun Ceremello Hannah Huyck Mykel Saucedo Danielle Dains Cristal Martinez John Tanksley Christopher Davenport Paige Packard Thomas Edward Thomas Deissy Espinosa Natalie Pauls Skyler Thompson Johnny Phavorachith
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THROUGH THE DARKNESS Story by Stephanie Avila Photography by What If Photography Singing since she was just a small darling girl, 23-yearold Central Valley native Christy Turpin is fast becoming a musical staple in the local community as she continues to pursue her dream of being a singer and a songwriter. For Turpin, a child who struggled to verbally express herself, writing lyrics came naturally to her as a way to let her feelings out. “Writing for me was first inspired by raw emotion,” she said. “It started off as anger, sadness, and fear. Now I am inspired by just about everything, but mostly God.” Sweet-natured and loving, Turpin gives the impression of someone who grew up sheltered from the challenges and pains of the world; however, her childhood was far from that. When she was just shy of 5 years old, Turpin’s father took his own life. “I grew up always pretending that everything was ok, when inside I was broken,” she said. “Suicide is kind of a taboo topic so I never talked to anyone about that, but my head was always thinking about it.” Turpin turned to drinking and partying as a way to escape her pain. “I realized that I had been running away from my childhood demons for a long time. I used to party a lot because it helped me escape,” she said.
“This time I had to face them,” she said. “It was very painful and emotionally draining, but I got through it. I had to get through that darkness to find the light.”
In October of 2012, Turpin had the courage to face her Today, Turpin is passionate about helping people. demons and get sober. She turned her pain into art through her music. “I want to be a music therapist so that I can be that light for people in the dark,” Turpin said. “I know the “I am so blessed that God reminded me what I am on true power of music and I just want to share that with this Earth for. If you hear something calling you, don’t the world.” write it off as impossible, because the truth is, you’re not being called for no reason,” Turpin said. You can catch Turpin at local events throughout the Central Valley. To keep up with her please During her sobriety Turpin wrote a lot of songs about follow her on her Facebook fan page at the demons that she had been running from. https://www.facebook.com/christy.turpin1390
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REDEFINING THE PERCEPTIONS OF ABILITIES AND DISABILITIES Story by Beth Warmerdam Photography by Crystal Roberts with Capture Life Events
“My husband helped build a place in our backyard to start,” she said.
With some mattresses, foam mats, a balance beam, a trampoline and 20 students of various abilities, the Everyone has disabilities. Some are just more apparent to the naked eye than others. This is not the case at Hergenraders quickly found success in their endeavor. Break the Barriers, their focus is on what children and adults of all ages are able to do, and not on their limi- “Our athletes won all the gold medals at the Special Olympics,” Deby Hergenrader said. “Their suctations. It’s a place where potential is found, abilities cess came from imitating their peers. They were imiare shared, and dreams are realized. tating our competitive athletes rather than having a teacher tell them what to do.” Break the Barriers is a Fresno non-profit organization with more than 3,000 students of all abilities who The organization began to attract more and more participate in dance, gymnastics, tae kwon do, swimstudents, until it eventually became so big that it was ming, archery and many more specialized programs. pushed out of the backyard. The Hergenraders formed Break the Barriers has touched lives around the world a board of directors and the non-profit corporation, with its mission to present ability awareness, outreach Break the Barriers, was officially born in 1985. and education. And it all began in a backyard. Co-founder Deby Hergenrader was an elite athlete, earning a national gymnastics title and competing in the sport internationally. Her sister, Kathy, has Down syndrome.
“It literally took off on its own and that was God answering our prayer,” Hergenrader said. “Now we’re going places and doing things we never thought we would be doing.”
The world might say that Hergenrader was blessed with amazing abilities, while her sister was set back by a disability. But Hergenrader never saw it that way and became frustrated when Kathy wasn’t allowed to participate in activities because of her Down syndrome.
Break the Barriers is now housed in a 32,000-squarefoot facility and sees thousands of students of all abilities and ages pass through its doors every month.
“There has to be a place where my sister can participate, where people with special needs aren’t excluded,” said Hergenrader, recounting her thoughts at that time. “My prayer my whole life was to find that special place to show that all people belong together.” Inspiration hit Hergenrader when she saw her sister, who would go on to become a Special Olympics champion, begin to emulate her movements during gymnastics workouts. With the push of her husband, Steve, also a worldclass athlete, Hergenrader decided not to wait for the world to provide her sister and others a place to develop their abilities. She would do it herself.
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In addition, the organization has performing ensembles with students of different abilities that travel locally, nationally and internationally to share their message. The Barrier Breakers team has performed their gymnastics and dance inspired routines in places like Romania, China, India and the Dominican Republic. “We’re sharing not just the ability awareness and education component, but sending a message of acceptance and inclusion,” Hergenrader said. “Many times people are disabled because society disables them, because they don’t give them an opportunity. And sometimes we disable ourselves because when the opportunity comes along, we don’t even try. Our message is that, we all have disabilities.
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That’s what we have in common and there shouldn’t be a barrier between us.” Take a glimpse at what it means to be a part of Break the Barriers through the eyes of three performers: TERRA LYNCH Terra Lynch’s parents wanted their young daughter with cerebral palsy to have a place where she could be involved with other children and participate in an activity. Enter Break the Barriers.
In describing the shows put on by Break the Barriers, Lynch said to “think of an acrobatics show, but using people with all abilities, whether they have one leg or are in a wheelchair, deaf or blind–it’s a showcase of everyone’s abilities.” Break the Barriers helped Lynch learn about her own abilities from an early age. “It taught me that I’m not different than everyone else, that I can do things. There’s no limit on what I can do. I might have to do things a little differently, but it doesn’t mean I can’t do a certain sport or activity. I
“I believe I was 4 or 5 when I joined and I’ve been here ever since. I’ve spent a life here,” said Lynch, who received her degree in recreation administration at California State University Fresno. Lynch is now the sign language director at Break the Barriers and a member of the traveling performing team. “I went from being a student to actually working there. I was performing while I was a student also. I loved it and stuck with it. I do mostly dance in my wheelchair,” she said. “I also do a few stunts here and there.”
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just have to figure out the right way that works for me,” she said.
give him the opportunity, the chance to do things like any other kid.”
Lynch hopes the program can similarly inspire other people.
In the beginning, Arturo had low muscle tone and poor coordination. He went from being unable to balance to being able to do a multitude of tricks.
“This program is amazing. People might think that it’s just for people with disabilities, but it’s for everyone to try to push themselves to be better,” she said. “The magic really happens when people come together. Maybe the world looks at me and thinks, ‘She’s in a wheelchair, she can’t do anything.’ The magic comes when my able-bodied friend and I just carry on like good friends and people see that and are inspired. There shouldn’t be a barrier between people.”
“He loves doing cartwheels, back bends. The onehanded cartwheel, he loves doing that one,” his proud mom said. “I remember the first time they tried one trick. It was one coach on the bottom, another coach gets on top, and my son was number three on the very top. He was tiny back then, maybe 6 or 7. I was thinking, ‘Oh my gosh, I hope he doesn’t fall!’ But he did it like nothing, it was just amazing.”
ARTURO ARIAS Arias has seen her son’s confidence grow by leaps and Arturo Arias, a 13-year-old with Down syndrome, bounds since he joined Break the Barriers. joined Break the Barriers when he was 5 years old after his mom went on a search for a program for children “This has made a great impact on his life as far as with disabilities. giving him a boost in his self-esteem. He is shy, but Break the Barriers has helped him come a long way, “I tried taking him to a tumbling class for babies, but it to where he is able to be more outgoing, more open,” didn’t quite fit him,” Lourdes Arias said. “I wanted to Arias said. “He feels proud, walks with his head up find a program where he could be understood and, at high, especially when they are performing.” the same time, give him opportunities that other kids have.” Arturo is part of the group that performs locally at various organizations, schools and events. The reacShe found that place in Break the Barriers. tions from the audiences have been outstanding, further boosting Arturo’s confidence. “When you go to places where they are not familiar with working with children with special needs, “Last week, they went to perform at a school and they they give you that look like, ‘I don’t know if he can were treated like movie stars. All these girls wanted to do this.’ They have that question in their face to take pictures with him and they were giving him high where you don’t feel comfortable,” Arias said. “At fives, telling him what a great job he did,” Arias said. Break the Barriers, you feel like you’re at home. They “It’s amazing to see that kind of reaction. They can see that children with disabilities have abilities like anyone else.” As for herself, Arias says the best part of Break the Barriers is splashed across her son’s face every time he performs.
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“As a parent, you feel so proud of your son that he is able to do something like anybody else,” she said. “Just to look at his face, see how proud he feels, to see him accepted and treated like any other person. Break the Barriers is the only place that is giving these children the opportunity, so I’m so thankful for it. I cannot say enough good things about this program.”
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SHASTINA LARA Shastina Lara is one of the able-bodied performers at Break the Barriers. The junior at Clovis West High School joined the program when she was around 10 years old and has progressed to becoming a coach. Lara has mainly focused on gymnastics and dance, and recently traveled to India with the performing team. “It was life-changing for me how we could see through our performances how it opened the people’s minds,” she said. “We were able to see them react positively to the team and what we were standing for.”
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Lara knows what it’s like to have your eyes opened up to understanding and accepting people of all abilities. When she first joined Break the Barriers, being around the students with obvious disabilities didn’t come as naturally as it does now. “When I was younger and I was trying out for the local performance team, Debi brought over one of the performers with Down syndrome. She introduced me to him and I was like, ‘Oh, that’s kind of cool,’ but I didn’t really know how to respond to him,” Lara said. “Break the Barriers has changed my reaction. Now it’s normal for me to be around people with a physical disability that you can actually see. I see a lot of the kids at my school and I’m able to not be judgmental toward them, so it’s helped me be accepting of everybody with all different kinds of abilities and disabilities.” Break the Barriers’ performances–which showcase acrobats, dance, martial arts, wheelchair dancing and more–is helping other people in the local community understand the concept of inclusion as well, Lara said. “There are often people who come up and they are just ecstatic about our performances. We had one lady who came up and said that she had never seen or experienced anything like what we do. Her mindset was completely different as to accepting people with physical disabilities. She was more open to see what they could do,” Lara said. “That’s my favorite part of Break the Barriers, being able to show that everybody has an ability.”
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LOCAL GOVERNMENT MATTERS MORE By Matt Shupe Photography by Crystal Roberts with Capture Life Events
Too often, people do not follow local issues or the actions of local officials until after they have already acted in a way that they may object to.
Recently we watched Congress “shut down” the government. National parks were closed, 800,000 “nonessential” government employees were furloughed, and the shutdown dominated the 24-hour news channels. But did it affect you? Probably not.
As a parent, or even just as a member of a community, you have an obligation to yourself, your family and your neighbors to pay attention to the government and politics around you.
Unless you were one of those furloughed federal employees, made plans to visit Yosemite, or were victim of the heinous withholding of veterans benefits, the chances are your life went on undisturbed. The mail was delivered, schools were open and there wasn’t anarchy in the streets.
Congress has 535 voting members, whereas your local school board or city council may only have five. It is very difficult for your congressman to affect change on the national level, but your city councilman can wield a lot of influence on how you and your family live your lives. It isn’t often that a national media outlet will cover
But during this, did you realize how little the federal government affects you? The President of the United States and Congress do very little that actually interacts with your day-to-day life. Rather, it is your local, county and state governments that directly impact various aspects of your life, many of which you are probably not cognizant of. Which textbooks your child learns from, the quality of the water you drink, which stores and businesses are in your neighborhood, the sales tax rate you pay, what type of community amenities are available to your family, how much you pay for trash pickup, what you can put on your front yard, and who can use the bathrooms at your child’s school are among the things determined by these sections of the government. All of these factors, plus countless more, are decided by your local school board, city council, county board of supervisors, state legislature and numerous other assorted local boards and committees. While it is easy to get caught up in the reality television that is Fox News or MSNBC and the “glamour” that the office of the President or the Speaker of the House of Representatives has, it is far more important to be following what your elected and unelected officials are doing at the local level. Fresno City Hall
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So how do you get “plugged in”? There are a lot of ways, and most of them are very easy.
Host “meet and greets” during election cycles. During campaigns, candidates for office would love the opportunity to come to your home and speak to you and your friends and family. These are easy to host: contact the campaign, invite friends, family and neighbors over at a agreed to time, provide wine and you’re ready!
Start by reading the political section or political blog of your local newspaper. Every community has a paper and every paper has a local politics section. They are usually free to access online.
These four simple actions can help you become knowledgeable and potentially even influential in the governments and officials who impact you and your family the most.
Set up Google news alerts for key phrases of local issues or people you are interested in following.
Matt Shupe is a San Francisco based Republican political consultant, managing partner of Praetorian Public Relations, graduate of California State University Fresno, and has contributed to local, state and federal campaigns throughout California.
the happenings of your city, unless your mayor is embroiled in controversy for putting female staffers into headlocks and groping them, or your city declares bankruptcy.
Attend meetings of your city council or school board. The dates and locations should be easy to find on their websites.
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THE PERFECT BLEND Story by Aisha Curry Photography by James Randall Photography Blended families and step-families are becoming the most common form of family in America. Approximately 2,100 new-blended families are formed every single day in America, according to the Bonded Family Research. While studies show that 65 percent of Americans are now a stepparent, a stepchild, or stepsibling, it doesn’t mean that it’s easy. Blended families are anything but perfect, and, like everything else in life, they take work. It can be extremely hard to find the right balance when you’re a stepparent or stepchild. The word perfect is merely an adjective for the word maturity. Maturity means complete in natural growth or development. Therefore, as your blended family grows over time, you might discover that your family contains the perfect blend. Here are four tips to help your family blend… TIP 1: PATIENCE IS KEY Many adults try to blend their families with high expectations. We tend to want things to happen for us overnight. As stepparents, we want the kids to love us and call us mom or dad. But, like any relationship or friendship, things take time to develop. Try to build an authentic relationship without expectations with your stepchildren. Each child is different and things will progress at different speeds. Try not to bombard them with your presence, but let them know that you are there, just like you are there to love and care for your own children. Plant a seed of patience and watch it grow and blossom into a beautiful relationship. TIP 2: RESPECT FOR THE OTHER PARENT Some situations are harder than others and can vary depending on the psychological issues of the other parent. At any rate, as the stepparent, you must understand your position and show respect to your stepchild’s other parent. It’s important to watch what and how you say things around the children in regards
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to their other parent. Often times this can be hard because you feel you are the victim in the equation, and a lot of the time you are. Unfortunately, your issues and problems are not the concern of the child, even if you are 100 percent right. In their eyes, you may still be wrong. Try and keep your personal feelings and opinions out of the eyes and ears of the children. TIP 3: TEAMWORK MAKES DREAMS WORK If you want your family to be a success, you and your spouse have to be in it together. It’s important to comanage and have balance. Talk about rules, boundaries, and how decisions will be dealt with, because you will find that everyone has different parenting techniques. Often times, we think it’s not important to talk about the details, but it is essential. A house divided will fall. Being in synch with each other also helps the kids to also have respect for the stepparent. You let them know how important this person is to you by showing them you share mutual respect for one another. You can’t insist people like each other, but you can insist that they treat one another with respect. If you don’t show your spouse love and demonstrate their value, how do you expect the children to? In addition, all rules must apply to all kids. It’s important to establish this from the beginning. Kids thrive off of rules and routine, even if they complain or show rejection to them in the beginning. They will be grateful for them later. This also helps not to show differentiation, or favoritism. TIP 4: LOVE CONQUERS ALL Love gives people permission to be human. And, don’t forget, your stepchildren are human. It’s important to show love to our kids, speak encouragement into their lives, be compassionate, and be kind. We should also be this way with our spouses. Love should be the core of our existence. Giving and receiving love is the ultimate way to assure that you’ll have a perfect blend. Up close and personal with some of the valleys “perfect blends”:
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Blanca and Jesse Hernandez and their children, Jesse III, Alysa, Eric and Evalyn..
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THE HERNANDEZ FAMILY Blanca and Jesse Hernandez have been together for seven years and married for two. Together, they have a combined total of four children to make a blended family of six. Jesse’s children are Jesse Hernandez III, 9, and Alysa Hernandez, 7. Blanca’s children are Eric Avellaneda, 11, and Evalyn Avellaneda, 7. What do you find the most rewarding about your blended family?
unconditionally, not just because they were his children. And the same goes for the kids’ love for us. My children love my husband because he cares for them, protects them, and loves them as a father, not as their mother’s husband. Another reward of blended families is the added support and love from the “other” parents outside of our marriage. Though we all may not agree all of time, we all have the best interest of all of our children as a priority. What has been the most challenging moment?
The most rewarding part of being a blended family is the bigger your family gets to grow, there is no longer a “yours” or “mine,” but now an “ours.” What has been the most challenging moment? A big challenge in being a blended family is having others not accept the choice of our blended family. What advice can you give other blended families? Our advice is to always stay positive, encourage the children during the good times and bad. Teach by example that there is nothing wrong with loving one another. A strong key is to have each other’s back. There are always ups and downs in any family, aside from it being blended. It's no different then having to adopt or bearing your own children. You love them all equally. THE SMITH FAMILY Robert and Kateeshia, who were married on the unique date of 1/1/11, have been married for more than two years. They call their love, “Once in a Lifetime.” Together, they have a combined total of six children to make a blended family of eight. Robert’s children are Caprisha, 10, and Jalen, 5. Kateeshia’s children are Briana, 16, TreVon, 13, Christina, 11, and Justin, 7. What do you find the most rewarding about your blended family? There are countless rewards to being a part of a blended family. Blended families have a very unique dynamic to them. Unlike your “traditional” families, the kids and parents are brought together out of love and choice. As a stepmother, I made a conscious decision to love my husband’s children
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Being a part of a blended family can bring several challenges. One of the biggest challenges I think we have had to face is establishing and maintaining healthy relationships with the other parents of our children. In our case, we have four other parents and their significant others to consider, and we don’t all always agree. There have been times when the courts have had to intervene and help us come to mutual agreements in regards to visitation, custody and financial support. Overall, the good definitely outweighs the bad, and in the long run, the kids’ well-being is our highest priority. What advice can you give other blended families? I would encourage all blended and traditional families to place God at the head of your lives and relationships. Though there will be obstacles and issues you may have to overcome, the love shared within a blended family is like no other. Blended families may not all share the same blood, but they do share the same love. THE WHITTLE FAMILY Andre and LaNetta Whittle met in 1999, started dating in 2000, and got married on July 21, 2001. Together they have a combined total of four children to make a blended family of six. Andre child is Dominick and LaNetta’s child is Daiveyon, 13, who was adopted by Andre in 2009. They also have two children together, Aaliyah, 7, and Lailah, 6. What do you find most rewarding about your blended family? We've found that the most rewarding part of our blended family is when no one is able to tell we're a blended family. Our children are so much like the
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both of us that they even think like us. As a parent, you hope that your children will absorb the love and training that you're giving them. I would say that our blended family bond is stronger than the bond of most traditional families. This doesn't come without much pain, sleepless nights, and tears, but it's totally worth the effort. What has been the most challenging moment? One of the biggest challenges is, and probably will always be for blended families, working with the child's other parent. Communication is so important in this aspect. Without it, the child becomes confused because the parents are confusing. Having an effective, not so much perfect, communication channel with the other parent is a must, but is not always attainable. It's definitely a challenge, but we all have to work together. The children depend on us as parents to provide them with a safe, healthy and nurturing environment that's free of drama and the "bashing" of the other parent.
All of the parents involved need to be on the same page, and that means we all have to focus on putting the child's needs first. What advice can you give other blended families? The term "blended family" says it all. We come together as individuals with the goal of becoming one. Blending involves mixing different ingredients to create a finished product. When blending a family, being realistic about each other is important. First, recognize that as a blended family, you're all different and accept each others differences. But also set realistic goals for your family so the relationship doesn't focus on changing each other. The goal is to , not to change. Lastly, "The family that prays together, stays together" is not just a cliche, it's good advice. Aisha Curry is a Certified Life Coach, International Speaker and Author
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10 BENEFITS OF USING RESISTANCE BANDS Story by Brandy Daugherty Photography by What If Photography Model: Rebekah Madison
Resistance bands are great for those who want to exercise at home and for those who like to take their workouts along when they travel, but their value doesn't end there. There are many benefits to these simple exercise tools, including versatility, convenience, safety and effectiveness. The more you learn about the advantages of resistance band exercises, the more you'll be motivated to add them to your own home gym. These inexpensive exercise tools are a convenient option for people of any age or fitness level. But don't let their simplicity fool you–resistance band exercises are surprisingly effective and offer many benefits over traditional free weights. Resistance bands come with these advantages:
1. A COSTEFFECTIVE WORKOUT Whether you buy them individually or as a set, resistance bands are an inexpensive addition to your home gym equipment. Some resistance bands are even sold with a guided exercise DVD. 2. ADAPTABLE FOR MULTIPLE FITNESS LEVELS Resistance bands come in multiple resistance levels: usually light, medium or heavy. You can further adjust the amount of resistance during the exercise just by giving more or less slack on the band, as well as by combining multiple resistance bands to increase the challenge. 3. CAN BE MODIFIED FOR FAMILIAR EXERCISES Resistance band exercises are often based on familiar strength training moves. For example, if you stand on one end of the cord and curl your arm up
Resistance bands are simple exercise tools that are versatile, compact and affordable alternative to a gym. Additionally, as an alternative to free weights, they save on storage space, and allow for ease of use when travelling.
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while holding the other end, you've replaced your standard dumbbell bicep curl. 4. EXERCISE YOUR WHOLE BODY Many resistance band kits come with suggested exercises for nearly every major muscle group in your body. Stepping on one end of a resistance band, or looping it around a stationary object, for example, opens up many exercise possibilities. 5. SAVE ON STORAGE SPACE When you don't have a lot of room for a home gym, resistance bands are a great option because they can be stored in very little space. You can hang them on a hook after you exercise, or coil them up to store in a box or drawer. 6. ALLOW YOU TO EXERCISE ON THE ROAD Because they are so small and portable, resistance bands are a great way to take your workout with you when you travel. There are many resistance band exercises that can easily be done in the small space of a hotel room. 7. ADD VARIETY TO YOUR WORKOUTS Over time, your muscles adapt to any new exercise routine. It's a good idea to mix it up by cross-training with free weights, machines and resistance band exercises. Each will work your muscles in a slightly different way. 8. EXERCISE SAFELY, EVEN WHEN ALONE Resistance bands offer strength-training without the risk of dropping a heavy weight on your foot or crushing your fingers between weight plates. That makes them ideal for working out when you don't have a personal trainer, or exercise partner to spot you. 9. CAN BE COMBINED WITH OTHER EXERCISE EQUIPMENT While resistance bands work great on their own, they can also be combined with other exercise equipment. Performing bicep curls with both a resistance band and a dumbbell will give you the combined benefits of each type of equipment. 10. GIVE YOU AN EFFECTIVE WORKOUT Although there are differences between free weight and resistance band exercises, both are effective. Picture the arc motion your arm makes while doing a bicep curl. Free weights will feel heaviest at the beginning of that arc, while resistance bands make your muscles work harder at the end of the arc (when the band is most taut). Either way, your body is moving against resistance, and that will give your muscles an effective workout. Brandy Daugherty has created a blend of both mat pilates and reformer pilates to push the power of mind and the movement of body in a way that is both efficient and extremely challenging. Brandy is owner and trainer at Brand E Pilates in Fresno, CA.
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PROTEIN DRINKS NOT JUST FOR BODYBUILDERS ANYMORE Story by Erik Traeger, MA, CSCS Photography by James Randall Photography WHO ARE THEY FOR? Protein drinks used to be just for bodybuilders or people who trained with weights to help them recover from their workouts and to help rebuild their muscles, making them bigger. Athletes then started using them to recover from their practices and workouts. Now, dieters use protein supplements as part of their weight loss plans to preserve muscle. After all, you want to lose fat, not muscle, right? Research has shown that you get better muscle recovery when protein is consumed within an hour after a workout–the sooner the better. Protein drinks are a highly convenient way to get that protein into your system quickly. In addition, the protein is usually digested and absorbed more quickly than protein from whole foods such as meat. Protein drinks can be used by anyone not getting enough protein in their diet, regardless of their activity level. Sedentary individuals require about .36 grams of protein per pound of body weight per day, which equates to 54 grams of protein for someone weighing 150 pounds. Endurance athletes and highly active people need a little more protein, about .68 grams per pound of body weight. Strength and power athletes, bodybuilders, and others who train with heavy weight require the most protein at about 1 gram per pound of body weight. No matter who you are, if you are not getting enough protein in your diet, you either need to eat more protein from food sources or get your protein from supplements. Food sources of protein are preferable, but can be expensive and time-consuming to prepare. If you require a lot of protein, you would have to eat quite a bit of food. A 200 pound football player or bodybuilder needs about 200 grams of protein every day, which is equivalent to four eggs, two 8 ounce glasses
of milk, a peanut butter sandwich, a 6 ounce can of tuna, one 6 ounce steak, and two 3.5 ounce chicken breasts. And those are just the foods high in protein. He would still need some more food containing carbs and perhaps a little more fat. That’s a lot of food, cooking and clean-up! One protein shake could take the place of one of those chicken breasts. Another factor to consider is cholesterol. Meat, eggs and dairy products, which are high in protein, also have fat and cholesterol, so the more of those you eat, the more fat and cholesterol you consume. Protein drinks that are high in protein and lower in fat and cholesterol can be beneficial. Protein is not just beneficial for muscles. It is also important for proper hormone and blood pH balance, regulation of fluid balance, immune system function, and as an energy source when carbs are depleted. SOURCES AND TYPES OF PROTEIN Whey is generally considered one the best when it comes to protein sources. It is high quality and is a complete protein, which means it contains all of the essential amino acids. Amino acids (AA’s) are the building blocks of protein. Essential AA’s are the AA’s that the body cannot synthesize. Non-essential AA’s can be synthesized by the body from other AA’s. Some research suggests that whey is also anti-inflammatory. However, whey usually contains some cholesterol and lactose. Soy is one of the most common sources of protein found in protein supplements due to the fact that it is inexpensive and is a complete protein. Since it is so cheap, supplements containing soy protein are usually more affordable than others. Soy is a perfect choice for vegetarians and vegans. Unfortunately, soy only has an average AA profile and is not considered a great bodybuilding supplement. Other sources of protein are casein (another milk protein that is slower to digest, but very efficient in muscle building), egg albumin (high in essential AA’s and low in cholesterol, a good choice for lactose intol-
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erant people), wheat (vegan, but not recommended for those who have gluten allergy), peas (vegan; high in AA’s; and lactose, gluten, and cholesterol free), goat milk protein (very high in branch chain AA’s and lactose free), complete milk protein (containing both whey and casein, high in calcium, vitamins and minerals, yet carb and fat-free), and blends of various protein sources. In addition to the source of the protein, there are also various concentrations of protein. For example, whey protein accounts for about 20 percent of the protein in milk. Whey protein concentrate costs a little more than simple whey protein and contains about 70 to 85 percent protein, but unfortunately has more lactose and fat. Whey protein isolate is expensive, but ranges from 90 to 98 percent protein and is lower in lactose and fat. POWDER MIX VS. READYTODRINK Powdered mix comes in large bags or individual serving size packets. The individual packets are more convenient, but more expensive. The bulk bags are more economical and you can scoop individual servings into Ziploc bags. Some protein shakers even come with a compartment to hold and dispense the powder into the main compartment, which holds the liquid. Liquid must be added, of course, and blended or shaken. When you are finished, you need to clean the cup, which also adds to the inconvenience. At home, protein powder can be added to smoothies or even baked goods. Vanilla is a very versatile choice. Powders can be mixed with water, which tends to make the shake watery and bland, or with milk or fruit juice, which adds flavor and thickness, not to mention additional carbs and calories. Ready-to-drink cartons or bottles are highly convenient. Many do not require refrigeration, so you can take them with you anywhere. You don’t have to add liquid and mix it, and you simply throw the empty carton in the trash or recycle the bottle. However, you pay more for the extra convenience. ADDITIONAL INGREDIENTS Research has shown that protein is more quickly absorbed into the system when consumed with high glycemic index (fast-digesting) carbs, so many protein supplements also contain carbs. However, you can always eat or drink things that are high-glycemic
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index when you take your protein shake if your shake doesn’t already have them. Some protein shakes contain creatine, a proven muscle-building supplement. Others may contain vitamins and minerals. Meal replacements will contain fat and carbohydrate as well as protein, often in a 30/40/30 ratio. Just remember, the more things that are added to the protein, the more expensive it becomes, and the higher the calories in some cases. Too many calories equals more fat gain. To save money, you can buy creatine separately, and take a one-a-day multi-vitamin. WHEN TO DRINK PROTEIN SHAKES Meal replacement shakes can be taken any time that you are forced to skip a regular meal due to your schedule. Protein supplements can be taken preworkout (slow-digesting), as well as post-workout (fast-digesting). They can be used as a snack between meals. Three smaller meals with snacks in between are recommended over three larger meals with no snacks. To maintain a higher metabolism and burn more fat, it is recommended that one eats something every few hours. Slow-digesting proteins such as casein are recommended before bed to help maintain nitrogen balance during the night. TASTE AND CONSISTENCY Some protein shakes are delicious, while others are just plain yucky! Consistency can vary from watery to thick to chalky. Shakes that are too thick can easily be thinned by adding more liquid. Some powders mix smoothly, while others tend to be clumpy, especially when mixed in a shaker. Protein shakes come in many different flavors–chocolate, vanilla and strawberry are the most common. Berry, orange, coffee, and caramel are just a few of the other flavors available. Bodybuilders will tend to drink nasty tasting supplements if they think it will make their muscles grow. For the rest of us, taste and consistency are very important. Who, besides fanatical bodybuilders, would want to drink anything that doesn’t taste very good? Fortunately, protein drinks have come a long way over the years when it comes to taste. Find one that you like. BRANDS Although the off-brand products are cheaper, they are often of lower quality, contain less than the advertised amount of protein, and may contain undesirable ingredients. To preserve peace of mind, pay a
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little more for the brand names. Few people know that the supplement industry is highly unregulated. Supplements fall in a grey area that is neither food nor drug, so it is not regulated by the Food and Drug Administration.
protein are preferable over protein supplements. However, protein shakes can be a very convenient, lessexpensive, quick way of getting protein into your body for those who are not getting enough protein through food sources.
BOTTOM LINE Protein supplements aren’t just for bodybuilders. Anyone lacking their required amount of protein can benefit from drinking protein shakes. Food sources of
Erik Traeger is the owner and head instructor of SPEED Sports Performance, CrossFit Combat Fitness, Fresno Indoor Boot Camp, and the Russian Kettlebell Club of Fresno.
Protein drinks come as a powder mix or in ready-to-drink cartons or bottles. The powdered variety can be mixed with water, milk or fruit juice. Milk, or juice will add more flavor, thickness as well as carbs and calories.
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GOBBLE GOBBLE GLOBES MATERIALS LIST: · Aleene’s® Max Tacky Adhesive™ · Tulip® Fashion Glitter® · Orange Jewel 23553 · Aleene’s® Tacky Dot Rolls™ MISCELLANEOUS · Scissors · Yellow felt · Wiggle eyes · Pencil · Scrapbook or constructions paper in fall colors · Baby food jar(s)
Designed by Pattie Wilkinson and created by Kristen Thompson Courtesy of iLoveToCreate® Your kiddos will gobble up this creative project in a heartbeat! Fun and easy for kids of all ages to make, these sparkling turkey globes will look so good on your Thanksgiving Day table, your guests might prefer them over the food! INSTRUCTIONS 1. Place child’s hand on a piece of scrapbook or construction paper. Trace with a pencil and cut out. This will be your template. 2. Trace and cut out multiple handprints with template, alternating paper colors. Note: You will need 3 to 5 per globe. 3. Add a glue dot at the bottom of one handprint. Place another handprint on top but tilted slightly to the right. Continue process to create fanned out handprints that will be turkey feathers. Set aside. 4.
Remove label from baby food jar and empty contents.
5. Wash and dry jars. 6. Place lid back on jar and place upside down on a flat surface. 7. Add glue dots to the back of jar. Place fanned out turkey feathers onto the back of the jar and gently press to secure to adhesive dots. 8. Press wiggle eyes onto glue dots on Tacky Dot Roll then peel off and press onto front of jar as shown. 9.
Cut a small triangle out of yellow felt and place on jar just below eyes, adhering in place with glue dots.
10. Open jar and pour water inside. Sprinkle glitter inside. 11. Add Max Tacky Glue to the outside rim of the jar and seal with lid. Let dry completely. www.ilovetocreate.com
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SHABBY CHIC PUMPKIN CENTER PIECE MATERIALS LIST: · Tulip® Fashion Glitter® · Silver Fine Jewel 23550 · Aleene’s® Fast Grab Tacky Glue™
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MISCELLANEOUS 22-gauge wire (3) White 6” faux pumpkins White and beige assorted lace 3” White doily Scissors (3) Assorted white Candlesticks
Designed by Pattie Wilkinson Courtesy of iLoveToCreate® Make your own fall-inspired centerpiece by turning plain pumpkins into a timeless decoration for your holiday or party table. Aleene’s® adhesive helps you add the decorative lace and Tulip® glitter gives it pizzazz. INSTRUCTIONS 1. Pull off stems from pumpkins. 2.
Glue lace around pumpkins. Glue doily to the top of one pumpkin.
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Glue stems back in place.
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Cut 8” lace and thread wire down one side. Gather lace into a rosette. Glue to the top of second pumpkin. Repeat by creating and gluing a lace rosette on top of third pumpkin.
5. Apply glue in dots and squiggles on pumpkins and candlesticks. Cover glue with glitter. Shake off excess glitter. Let dry. www.ilovetocreate.com
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timeless bohemian Story and Clothing Styling by Reyna Cazares Photography by What If Photography Hair by Beth Reiland Makeup by Banana Clothing & Accessories: Stella Laguna Beach Model: Timillia Johnson Model: Jennifer Smith Location: Teazer World Tea Market
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The bohemian or “boho” style has been around since the 1960s–captivating the perfect opportunity to mix fabric textures and layer articles of clothing–while encompassing that casual laid-back look. The bohemian look is not a fashion trend, but a style that remains timeless. Boho style was brought about during the 60s as a freedom statement when political views were changing. The normal tight-fitting dress, high-heel kitten shoes, and one-printed garment–were no longer applicable for women who wanted change. Musicians like Janis Joplin, John Lennon, and Jimi Hendrix made the look popular by wearing paisley-printed tops, bell-bottom pants, and psychedelic prints. Today you can see the Olsen Twins wearing the style as well as its elements popping up in designer collections. Boho style is a look that is attainable–everyone can adapt it into their wardrobe. One of the most important elements in achieving this look is layering, making it the perfect excuse to wear during winter. You can take a graphic tee, layer it over a maxi-length dress, and finish it off with a long cardigan and comfy scarf. The center of a bohemian outfit is being able to mix different fabric textures and colors. Boho fabric textures include: fringe, pleather, velvet, embroidered garments, and lace among the most popular. Finding boho style articles of clothing is easy; you can try thrift stores and local boutiques for the best items. The trick at achieving this look is finding pieces that you will be comfortable in and that fit your style–with this you will look effortless. Reyna Cazares is a fashion merchandising student minoring in print journalism and creative writing at California State University of Fresno. She is fascinated by culture, writing, and fashion.
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Story by Joy Newsome Photography by What If Photography Hair by Beth Reiland Makeup by Bryana Kimura Clothing Styling by Victoria Audrina Clothing & Accessories: iM! Joyfully Ts'd Model: Devyn De Loera Model: Morgan De Loera
2013 has seen a re-emergence of Steampunk/ Victorian with a modern flare. The term ‘Steampunk’ was officially coined in 1987 to describe a sub-genre of science fiction about steam powered machinery in alternative versions of 19th century's British Victorian era, or the American Wild West. The current iteration of Steampunk fashion is a mixture of several different eras of fashion: Edwardian era, Victorian era, and Western era. The Edwardian era is based off of the Fashion from 1900-1909. The look was very form fitting with long lean lines, stiff collars, fully coiffed hair, and big broad hats; the inspiration was very European. During this period, the corset was a staple in every woman’s daily use. The Victorian era, was established during the reign of Queen Victoria from 1837 to January 1901. The clothing from this period was based on the trends from British culture during this 64 year period. During this time
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the hoop skirt and stiff hard lines were being replaced with slimming longer lines and softer feminine appearance. The skirts were primarily bustled in the back; blouses were puffy in the shoulder and fitted at the forearm. Smaller hats were placed toward the temple or over the forehead; to compliment the coiffed curls. The Western era is traditionally the look that is most associated with Steampunk. This era is based on the clothes from the 1800’s. Bustled skirts and dresses; form fitted coats and jackets for both men and women. Heavy lace, silk brocades, wool, linen, and metal were used during this period. Visible corseted cleavage was a must for woman of all social classes. Clocks, pocket watches, gears, and any other metal objects were largely used by both men and woman to accessorize their clothes. In 2013, Steampunk/Victorian has been a lifestyle to many, an underground society, and in the fashion world another trend.
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Story by Reyna Cazares Photography by NikolaiDesigns Clothing Styling by Andrea Gruen Clothing and Accessories by The Future Skate Shop Clothing and Accessories by BMD-Beyond Mention Designs Model: Brooke Gonsalves Model: Cole Gruen Model: Kyle Gruen One of the most difficult tasks of a parent with kids is shopping for warm clothes during the winter season. Things to consider while shopping with your children are color, comfort, fabric, and style. You can keep your children warm this season if you follow these tips: COLOR When it comes to shopping for color this winter think maroons, grays, deepreds, dark-browns, and mustards. These colors reflect current adult clothing trends–making it easy to match with your kids during those holiday family portraits. Another upside of darker colors is that they hide stains well and tend not to show if the stain stays after washing. COMFORT Children are so active all year-round, but just because its winter doesn’t mean there’s an end to that constant activity. Remember you have sports like football, basketball, soccer, wrestling, swimming, skiing etc. in winter. It’s important to find flexible clothing to throw on after practice and for their after school or weekend visits to the skate park. Make sure, if you can, to refrain yourself from buying your child a “marshmallow” jacket! If not, get ready for it to be thrown on the couch, the ground, dirty hamper, and possibly in the dogs’ house–anywhere but on your child’s body. Children aren’t fans of constricting garments. FABRIC When choosing fabrics in jackets look for 100% polyester for a water-resistant quality. A polyester jacket is perfect for the snow. Instead of opting for jeans try 100% cotton slim/tapered fit for boys–the style transitions well from active to formal casual for special events. Make sure to test out fabrics while shopping if you can, stretch it out and if it looks too thin or easy to tear pass on it. STYLE The fun thing about winter is layering. You can even use winter items and layer on top of summer garments or vise-versa. Plaid-flannels are always a great unisex style alternative to the jacket when it isn’t too cold. You can layer a flannel on top of a fun graphic-tee for that casual feel. Blazers are also another option and can be used in a layered casual-look or dressed-up formal when needed. Beanies, hats, and scarves are a great way to finish off a stylish look. Reyna Cazares is a fashion merchandising student minoring in print journalism and creative writing at California State University Fresno. She is fascinated by culture, writing, and fashion.
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Tease the Season
Story, Hair & Make up by Autumn Avila Photography by What If Photography Model: Sarah Padron
It’s that time of year again. Baking, shopping and holiday parties are here! Can’t make it to the salon to get your hair styled? No worries, here are two ways to spice up your look this season! Happy teasing!
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Start with freshly washed hair. You will want to wash it with a product that won’t weigh your hair down. Wash hair with Joico Color Endure shampoo and conditioner. Apply Joico Power Whip (mousse). Blow-dry using a round brush. Joico Power Whip will help hold your style in place. TIP: Applying conditioner from the mid-shaft to the ends will result in fuller hair.
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Section hair into fours and clip each section into place. Sectioning will make curling hair easier.
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Take small subsections (about 1 inch wide) and wrap hair around a 1 inch wand. Tapered wands, and 1 inch curling irons will work as well. Curl the hair so that it goes all in the same direction.
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Allow the hair to cool down for about 20 minutes. TIP: Allowing the hair to cool after being curled will result in longer lasting curls.
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Take a wide tooth comb and gently comb through the hair. This will create a beautiful retro look. Joico Power Spray was used. It’s a great hairspray that has a firm hold without looking crunchy. Or for a fuller look you can continue to step 6.
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Shake hair around with hands at the scalp. Tease the top section of your hair and gently smooth out the top. Pin one side of the hair back, just past the ear. Again, Joico Power Spray was used. TIP: For extra hold with hairspray, hold the can further away from the hair. Autumn Avila is a hair and makeup artist currently at J Salon & Co. You can find her on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/autumnsawesome
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