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WHY WOMEN AND MEN SHOULD GIVE LOVE A TRY
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WHY WOMEN AND MEN SHOULD GIVE LOVE A TRY I’ve always been interested in what we are afraid of when it comes to love be it love of self or other. Certainly it is what we all desire, right? Now I’m talking real brotherly/sisterly love, universal love and not that acting like you care, “have a nice day “kind of sentimental formality. Why does the act of sharing love beyond the parameters of family and friends make us shift in our seats? Is it that we don’t believe in it? Don’t know how to attain it? Bringing a higher love to reality and any other relationship for me means letting it all go. All those wonderful mechanics we put in place to make us feel safe have to go. “Letting go” means taking off the armor and putting down the shield in whatever form it takes that we use to defend ourselves should love be used against us or withdrawn from us at some future date. Letting go means putting aside those mental structures, such as judgment and comparison, which act as filters when we decide how to present ourselves to the world. It means not checking to see if we are safe enough to be ourselves or don one of our many personas. When we filter our interactions with the world in this manner, we remain cut off from ourselves, our source, or our heart. The problem with letting go is that we have nothing to hang onto when we do so. It can feel like going into free fall without a parachute. Our parachutes are the relationships we invest in, which includes the relationship that we have with ourselves. True investment, on the other hand, means we stack up the chips of love against all else, and we bet it all on love. Sure, it’s risky, but playing it safe doesn’t really make us feel safe anyway. So what are we really risking? When we orient ourselves from love, what we are risking doesn’t feel so scary because the focus is on who we are being in each moment with no conditions, no pretenses, and no strings attached. When we orient ourselves from fear, then each moment is a calculated, high risk venture because so much of what we are betting on with fear has to do with our perception of “the other.” And so we hedge our bets; we lock and load our filters. In love, there are no boundaries regarding what we would risk saying, asking or telling in the interest of our clients wellbeing. From the space of love, I will risk soundi ng unprofessional, like a judging machine or even vulnerable. You name it; I’d risk it. In my experience, mistakes made out of love have had far more success than any hard wired, logical sequence of inquires my mind could create. Love is illogical to the mind and thus follows a more fluid, intuitive, divine pattern. It gets into places the mind hasn’t even imagined let alone conceptualized. Love literally helps shift us from a perspective of suffocation and limitation to embracing liberation. When somebody shifts their perspective, their worlds change. And life flows easily once the passageway is cleared. Once they are released from withholding all of whom they are and from fear of rejection and shame, they become more available to themselves. Eventually their negative mental chatter quiets.
3 Have you ever seen a child who has not been loved? There is a deep pain where love never goes much less lives. If that child doesn’t receive love, he or she is never quite right. And, through that pain, suffering builds a stronghold in his or her spirit. Whenever we are in pain and there is no love to comfort us, we are suffering and alone. What an unbearable existence! We are meant to thrive not exist. Sure, some pain is part of living, but so is comfort and loving kindness, and that comes in the form of the human exchange of love. Ultimately, love is the only thing that matters and, because this is so, love is the only thing that makes change possible and permanent. Stop to think of what you have changed within yourself. I’m sure love was part of the equation. Will power just isn’t enough to sustain someone in the long run. Love is the fuel when the will power of being goal oriented burns us out. We’ll never find a better teacher than love. Love teaches me without shame. It has me stay in relationships when I’d rather run away. Throughout the history of mankind, we as the superior being created by God who was given love have made it out to be mysterious, complex, difficult, and indefinable. Well even endless poems and literary works would never dare to come close to one simple meaning. The most definite thing is love remains a mystery never giving man opportunity to define it, as she remains pure untouchable and unpredictable as life is. You may have heard from other people to just be yourself. They would say to be comfortable with who you are. Let guys take notice of it and accept the real you. This may have an effect on some men, but it may not work on others. Do you ever wonder why some women out there have dozens of guys lining up on them? And to think they’re not even attractive. Some are not even clever, yet men are attracted with their personality. These women have a positive attitude within them, as well as towards life. There is something called the law of attraction. You may have already heard about it, so why not give it a shot. You want to know what secrets attract men? That is it. It is true that if you feel good about yourself, everything else will fall into place. It will radiate, even if you’re not conveying your emotions. People around you would sense your energy- be it positive or negative. Keep in mind that men are turned off by women who have negative vibes radiating all over her. You may see movie stars and models on TV who are not beautiful. But millions of men from all over the world are attracted to them. How is it possible? Well, their stature is just one of the reasons. The main factor is their positivity. All of these women believe that they are gorgeous, se xy and worthy of being drooled over. Take Cleopatra for example, she is known in history as the most beautiful woman who ever lived. Beauty is subjective. One may see her as beautiful while others may not. But why do people believe that she is attractive? It’s because she believed in this idea about her beauty and attractiveness so much that everybody around her started believing the same.
4 Sometimes you have your ups and downs, problems can bang on your door. And love can turn out at that particular time to be a problem. You want to be in love which is the main problem now, and you are truly trying hard to seek love. But what mistakes have you made that make it really hard for you to fix up a date, or even say hi and how are you to the one you found. You start to evaluate yourself and your thoughts are asking numerous questions that make it a headache, and finally the last question is “To seek love, is it really hard?” Well on the other side of the world you read before, you are in love and what will or can you do to express and keep your love to remain as pure as it is the first time you found it and lock it in your heart. In summary, secrets attract men and believing in yourself that you’re beautiful is the main idea. Do things and try to wear clothes that would make you feel good from within. After that, everything else will simply follow. You would be surprised as to how strong positivity can be. Everyone around you, including men, will be drawn to your unbelievable radiance. Plastic surgery, not even makeup, can have this amazing effect.