FEMI Magazine July/Aug Men's Issue

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PTANISHA DAVIS ublisher’s Note

In the words of Angie Stone, “Black Brotha, I love ya, I will never - try to hurt ya, I want ya, to know that, I'm here for you, forever true” I’m so loving this issue because not often are our black brothers displayed in the beautiful light that they deserve to be seen in. FEMI is an African term that means loved by God. So we at FEMI want our black brothers to know that you are loved! Our cover story is with Mike Jackson also known as DJ Fadelf and along with his story you will experience a host of other great men! I hope you find this issue just as dope as all others but with a hint of black man excellence!

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CONTRIBUTORS Managing Editor LaTrice Strong

Debbie Stokes Tyrane Hughes Amanda Miller Victoria Moulterie JaBraun McKenzie Chaiquan Wingfield

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CONTENTS 8

Greg Mathis Jr.

How Men Love: Marc Crenshaw

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Delano Carson

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Chill Will Jones

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Akai Jackson

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I-Octane

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Are Men Afraid of Commitment

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Brandon Williams

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Mike Strong Jr

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Grizzy Tha God

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Mike Jackson - Cover Story SALES.FEMIMAGAZINE@GMAIL.COM

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Tiran Jackson

Eterniti

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Ricky Kidd

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Maximilian Naza

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Rodney Baylor

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Jay White

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William Brownlee

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Eric Bailey

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Dr. Leslie Matthews

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Greg Mathis Jr THE MATHIS WAY!

Written By: Tyrane Hughes Photography: Mathis Family Matters

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The Mathis family’s name is well known, and respected. Judge Greg Mathis Sr. has been on millions of television screens since 1999. This year, Judge Mathis and his family can be seen on the new E! series “Mathis Family Matters”. His oldest son Greg Mathis Jr. has been following in his father’s footsteps for quite some time, when it comes to being successful and making an impact on the community. Still, Greg has made, and is still making a name all for himself. Both Father and son have a very personal and emotional moment in episode 1, which premiered June 19th, 2022.

Greg Mathis Jr. opened up to us about the show, his personal life, his career, his business endeavors, and his work within the community.

FEMI STAFF (Tyrane Hughes): “Please tell us about yourself.”

Greg Mathis Jr: “I’m Greg Mathis, Jr – manager, political advocate, and entrepreneur. I’m also one of four children to Judge Greg Mathis and Linda Mathis. I’m originally from Detroit, but I previously lived in DC for about a decade, where I worked as a political advisor for several elected officials including President Barack Obama, U.S. Senator Mark R. Warner and Jesse Jackson, Jr. Recently, I’ve relocated to Los Angeles, and have taken on the role as my family’s manager. I live with my long-term boyfriend, Elliott Cooper, and our two French Bulldogs, Knox and Dax.”

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FEMI STAFF (Ty Hughes): “The name Mathis rings bells. Describe what it means to be a Mathis.”

“To me, being a Mathis reflects the way we were raised by our parents. We grew up in Detroit and they always emphasized family, community, and humility.

With us, family always comes first, then community and giving back to others. We have a close-knit family and can talk about almost any and everything, together. We serve as each other’s support system, and I’m grateful that I can count my immediate family as some of my best friends.

We were also taught that with our success we have an obligation to be active in our community, and to reach back and uplift others. Giving back is very important to us as a family, and we’ve always carried a certain amount of humility with any success we achieve.”

FEMI STAFF (Ty Hughes): “Speaking of which, your family has a new series “Mathis Family Matters” with E! Network. Can you tell us a little about that?”

“Our new series “Mathis Family Matters” airs Sundays on E! at 10pm/9c and it’s a lot of fun and laughter. The series also shows some very real moments. Everyone in the family has a pretty big personality and we don’t shy away from any topic. On our show, you’ll see a lot of things you might not expect from us. With that being said, I hope this show will shift the narrative on what a Black family looks like and how we interact with each other. Our family isn’t perfect by any means, but we always support each other and do our best to work through challenges and disagreements in a healthy way.

You won’t see the manufactured drama or any fighting within our family and that’s one thing I’m really proud of. I think America needs to see a different representation of the Black family and I hope that’s what viewers take from our show.”

FEMI STAFF (Ty Hughes): “As you know this is the Men’s Issue, and Father’s Day was just celebrated recently.

Your dad seems to be such a great man (real, and funny too!). Can you tell us what it was like growing up with your father, and some of the things he instilled in you and your siblings?”

“I’m blessed to have Judge Mathis as a father. He’s been my role model my entire life. He’s also a non-stop comedian. Although it canbecome a little tired when he takes it too far, it’s great that there’s not a lot of dull moments with us. Growing up, he was definitely a disciplinarian and had a high bar for achievement, but he also gave us a great roadmap for what it takes to become successful.

The most valuable thing my dad instilled in my siblings and me is confidence. He grew up in a single parent household in the projects of Detroit. He had to overcome a lot of obstacles to get where he is today. My dad always told us the number one thing that helped him on his way to success was maintaining a high-level of confidence in himself. It might sound corny, but simply put, he told us if someone else can do it, so can we.”

FEMI STAFF (Ty Hughes): “You manage many business endeavors, not just for yourself, but for your family as well. We would love to hear the details on all that you have going on.”

”Being a manager is similar to the work I did in politics, but the best part about what I’m doing now is that I can do it with my entire family.

Everyone has a lot going on, particularly with the launch of our new reality tv show. They keep me busy and drive me crazy at times, but it’s been a lot of fun and I’m really enjoying it. In addition to managing my family’s affairs, I own multiple real estate investment properties with my long-term boyfriend Elliott. We started acquiring property together a couple of years into our relationship and have built up a pretty good portfolio.”

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FEMI STAFF (Ty Hughes): “You’re also very involved in the community, and with multiple organizations. Can you tell us about that?”

“I’m very active in the community, and have a passion for helping others. As a family, we operate the Mathis Community Center in Detroit, which targets its services to inner-city youth and ex-offenders. The community center, and its focus, reflect my dad’s upbringing as an inner-city youth and him turning his life around after being incarcerated as a young adult. We hope to inspire others who are venturing down the same path.

Additionally, I’ve been focused on working with LGBTQ organizations to combat discrimination, and helping youth who are struggling with mental health. I’m now working with the Trevor Project as a crisis intervention specialist, where we work directly with LGBTQ youth who are experiencing mental health crisis and/or having suicidal thoughts. As you may know, LGBTQ youth are, unfortunately, more than four times as likely to attempt suicide than their peers.

I’m also a lifetime NAACP member, and am active in a few racial and social justice causes. I know that dedicating just a small amount of my time and resources to these organizations and to my community can make a world of difference in someone else’s life.”

FEMI STAFF (Ty Hughes): “Lastly, what’s up next for Greg Mathis Jr.?”

“Well, I’m still finding my stride as the family manager, but at some point, I would love to get into storytelling. In our new family reality tv show, I’ll be in front of the camera, but at some point, I’d love to try my hand at producing content and telling stories in print, film, and television.

When I think about my story as a gay Black man in America and people like me, I know there are so many stories to be told.

Stories that would really help people, and even save lives. I would love to produce uplifting and inspiring content that allows people like me to feel seen and heard. My goal is to build community and connect with people through entertainment and relatable content.”

We don’t doubt that Greg Mathis Jr. will continue to do great things in his career, within the community, and beyond. Don’t forget to check out the show “Mathis Family Matters” on E!, 10/9c!

FEMI STAFF (Ty Hughes): “We've been focusing on mental health in our community. Tell us the importance of mental health for our people, especially for our men.”

“One mistake I think a lot of men make, including myself in the past, is focusing solely on our physical health and ignoring our mental health. I never knew how important mental health was to my overall health until I started going to therapy regularly about 2 years ago.

In therapy, I learned so much about my past trauma and learned behaviors. Prior to therapy, I never really knew how these things were impacting my overall health. After two years of consistent therapy, I now view it as much needed maintenance; the same way you would tune up a car. I know a lot of men are still reluctant to go to therapy, seek other mental health care options, or even talk about our issues… We think we can handle things on our own, or believe there is a certain stigma associated with doing otherwise. It’s imperative that we shift that belief.

Incorporating a regular mental health regimen is just as important as having a physical health regimen. It’s one of the best adjustments I’ve ever made, and I know other men would benefit from doing the same.”

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MARC CRENSHAW

HOW MEN LOVE

Written By: Tyrane Hughes

This issue of FEMI is focused on celebrating our men. We have all types of informative, interesting, and inspiring stories.

This particular piece is focused on one question: “How do men love; what is the difference in words or actions from men and women when it comes to displaying love? FEMI STAFF asked Mr. Marc Crenshaw his view on this subject, and here is what he had to say: Saint Marc Crenshaw: “I think most men value respect more than love. Men need respect to feel loved. That is why a woman’s words matter/cut so deeply with men. A woman can literally elevate or destroy a man with her words. For most men, love or being loved is a byproduct of earning the respect of the woman he wants. It is also why having the ability to provide protection (physically, mentally, financially and spiritually) for a man is so important. For men, doing those things earns him the respect needed to validate the love he receives from a woman…

I believe for the second part of the question, both men and women display love to their partners how they want to receive, instead of how their partner needs to be loved. I think when a man finds someone selfless enough to love them how that man needs to be loved, he has found his wife. With respect to differences, I believe displays of love should be tailored to your partner. It's really lazy to me when I see/hear people talk about how to love someone. It's like we do not want to take the time to learn someone before trying to love them.”

I would have to say that I absolutely agree with Mr. Crenshaw's view on this. Love is a selfless act (a continuous act that has many levels and phases). It seems like the word love is just thrown around these days. Barely any effort, research, attention, or time is put into it. Infatuation, lust, materialism, and ulterior motives seem to be a driving force behind “love” these days…But there are still those of us who know that love takes time, sacrifice, and effort. It takes honesty, respect, trust, and a sense of attentiveness. Black love is beautiful, and it’s flourishing. Our men do know how to love and care for us. They do go above and beyond for us. They are more than capable of being exactly what is needed to make their families happy and successful. I have said it before, and I will say it again, and more than likely many times more…There is nothing like being loved by a black man!

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Delano Carson The Importance of Mentoring Our Young Black Boys Written By: JaBraun McKenzie We had the distinct honor of speaking with Delano Carson, Youth advocate & mentor on why the seemingly simple act of just spending time with our young black boys of the next generation can yield lifelong benefits. These things can further help to insure that they in fact have a positive future that extends beyond their limited daily world views which may include, spending a life behind bars, becoming products of unsafe environments, or worse suffering the ultimate penalty of passing away prematurely by gang & drug violence. He details how by actively getting involved & showing that we care, can leave a lasting & mighty impact upon their young impressionable, & yet developing minds. Read on for some amazing tips and strategies which may in fact inspire you to get involved in your own community as well.

Why do you feel mentoring our young Black boys is so important today?

Mentoring our young Black boys today is so important because they face a world that is systematically designed against them. Most of our young men think the only way out is Sports, Rapping, or getting involved in Illicit Drug activity. This mindset has unfortunately led to so many of our young men to losing their freedom to a correctional facility or accelerating their expiration date to the final destination known as “the graveyard” much too quickly.

In what ways has mentoring helped you?

Mentoring has helped me by showing me the power of positivity. Possessing the ability to bring positivity out of what looks like a hopeless situation is so fulfilling.

How can more men in the community get involved in mentorship? What programs are available in your area?

More men can get involved in mentoring by simply talking to and guiding the youth which are around them in their daily lives. Such as family members, friends, or just kids within their communities.

Share with us about a time in which you helped turn a young boy’s life around by helping him. How did that make you feel?

My most fulfilling moment while being a mentor came because of mentoring a young man who did not believe in God. I taught him how to study God’s word & to apply it to his life. Witnessing him personally going from getting into trouble constantly to becoming someone who began to help other troubled teens was so rewarding. “To God Be the Glory”!

How did you get started in mentoring and what future plans do you have for getting more people in your area involved?

I got started in mentoring by simply wanting to help kids avoid the things that I went through coming up as a teen. I was tired of seeing how our youth were losing their lives to a life of crime or gun violence. I am currently putting together a Chess Club in which we use this board game to teach kids how to apply the strategies of chess to their lives to help them create a better life through making better decisions by having a goal setting plan with action steps to accomplish them.

I personally related to this story as a Black man who grew up in a single parent home for most of my formative years. I was blessed to have an uncle & an impressive Youth Pastor in which to help me navigate those critical years.

I also grew up in not the safest of communities, so learning early on as Mr. Carson so eloquently stated that it is important to know that God does have a plan for us & applying his word as a strategy made all the difference in my life. He also mentioned that it doesn’t take much to become involved in our young black men’s lives you can be a mentor to your own Nephew, or that family member that perhaps doesn’t have that “Power of Positivity” such as a Father , or Father Figure that could help to make all the difference between living a life behind bars , or in achieving success that extends beyond the stars.

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Chill Will Jones THE ECCENTRIC SOUL

Written By: JaBraun McKenzie Photo by: Krissyland

I recently had the wonderful opportunity to interview this incredible young R&B/Pop Star on the rise. I found myself incredibly moved by his Perseverance, Persistence, & Passion for music as well as life in general.

I found myself profoundly moved by his story of survival from the tender age of one he was placed into foster care. As if that were not enough to overcome, just a few years later at the age of seven he was diagnosed with a cancerous brain tumor at age 7 which required him to have 27 surgeries & overall face having to battle this condition until he was 22.

This would have been enough for anyone to potentially become bitter & give up on life, however it only strengthened Chill Will even the more to succeed in his musical endeavors.

Check out our incredible conversation below & I can almost guarantee with a great amount of assurance that this impressive, eclectic artist will encourage you and leave you wanting to know more about him both personally and professionally.

You describe yourself as being both eclectic & eccentric, how do you think that these characteristics influence your style & sound?

“In every way, whether it be going out to eat, or simply to the grocery store I always find a way to stick out and show my personality. My personal story & the struggles I have been through also really influence my sound and the way I wanna look.”

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You have been through personal storms that have influenced your latest EP Scars, what gave you the courage to channel that pain into song? What is Your favorite song & why?

My Engineer Larry Whit did. We would be in the studio making sex records, and party records and as a result of a personal convo we had about allowing myself to open up in order for people to get to know me in my music that’s how it started. “Scars” for sure.Learning to be honest and trusting myself to walk through the cycle of pain & trauma.

I would say in reading your bio I was able to gather you were a tenacious person, to what do you owe your never giving up mentality?

I learned early on that I only had myself no matter how much I love someone else or feel alone in this journey, it is always me at the end of the day & that has gotten me far!

Do you write & arrange any of your own songs?

Yes, I wrote the song entitled “Strange” & compose all my records. Most of my songs are words I hear in my sleep, and I wake up & write them out.

You have worked with the incomparable Chris Brown, what would you say was a valuable piece of advice or lesson you learned from working with him?

The best advice I learned is to keep people around me that’s gonna constantly help me to grow and become a sponge in every room I go into! Even when I go into an event I have to come to learn and soak up knowledge no matter how big or small.

Do you have any other aspirations such as acting, producing other artist etc.?

Yes, acting is a big passion. I love how I can take what I’ve been through & channel that through my acting or character developments or music. It is the best feeling in the world!

How can fans stay connected & up to date with what is next for you?

They can find me on every social media platform @ugottachillwill. I will be releasing new music and a brand collab, so stay tuned!

I indeed had a chance to check out the single Scars, as well as a few of this ultra-talented artist tracks on Spotify as this article peaked the music lover in my self’s interest. I was not disappointed so be sure to do as he suggested and follow him as he shares his personal journey of forging forward with great dignity, strength, and determination despite not growing up under the best of circumstances, to follow his dreams straight to the top, as I trust and believe in my heart that the sky is not even the limit for Mr. Chill Will Jones.

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Akai Jackson BECOMING A BETTER VERSION OF YOU: AS TOLD BY AKAI JACKSON

Written By: Chaiquan Wingfield

With all the recent events happening around the world and being plastered all over social media, its often hard to escape the graphic images and trauma associated with it.

As Black women, and especially for men, the importance of prioritizing have a healthy mental state is crucial, but its not always encouraged within our community. This issue, we want to use our platform responsibly and create a safe space for Black men to take the necessary steps to take care of their mental. I had the pleasure of chopping it up with Akai Jackson, a published author, professional speaker, and CEO of I.X.L. Akai shared with us what being a Black man in the mental health industry is like, as well as how men can navigate through their own emotions and become better versions of themselves.

How would you describe the power of mindfulness and what role does it play in relationships?

When I think of power: produce, extra, control, influence, force, might, mental efficacy, strong or strength, motive, and magnify are all words that come to mind. When I think of the power of mindfulness and frame it up, it's paying attention and controlling emotions, and being acutely aware of feelings on purpose or with intent in the present moment without fear of judgment.

The power of mindfulness plays a tremendous role in the success or detriment of all relationships. The correlation between mindfulness and the quality of all interpersonal relationships has a place in several areas: the ability to communicate, show empathy and understanding, and lastly, decreased reactivity. Communication is a fundamental and foundational aspect of any relationship, and how well people communicate determines how successful the relationship is or isn't. Whether or not a person can articulate what they are feeling in all scenarios and situations and intentionally listen and be able to show empathy and understanding is vitally important. The power of mindfulness in decreased reactivity allows a person to not ride the emotional instability of another, react too quickly, or be triggered by a situation. Being mindful allows a person to have a greater capacity to respond constructively to relationship stress and be less vulnerable to distress contagion. In any relationship, the importance of being aware, intentional, and present are some of the best building blocks for an incredibly abundant relationship.

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You're an entrepreneur who has experienced success, did fear ever at some point hinder you? If so, how? And how were you able to move past it?

I'm usually the type of person to use fear to my advantage, and I have established a way to overcome any fear. You must use fear and replace it with a larger fear. Some of the most common False Education, Appearing, Real (Fear): rejection, failure, something terrible happening, getting hurt, loneliness, uncertainty, being judged, inadequacy, and loss of freedom stop people from moving forward. I read this when I was young, "Observe the masses and do the opposite." Every entrepreneur, including myself, understands there is some form of risk we take, but we know the world would be a better place if we "solve" or assist whatever issue it was that made us create our business in the first place. When I was young, whether it be in age, my career, or my journey as a social entrepreneur, the thoughts of, "will this work, is this the right strategy, am I doing the right thing, does this solve a problem," crept into my mind; but what was the alternative? Not fulfilling my dreams? Not doing the best I can with the talent and ability given to me to help facilitate positive change in this world? I moved past this by making a decision; all mindset shifts, and greatness begin with a decision. Next, I took action; you must act your way into a new way of thinking. You will never be able to think your way into a new way of acting.

As a Black man, there's an unspoken language where you aren't allowed to cry or express your emotions and feelings. How are you working to debunk that theory as someone in the mental health industry?

As a man, let alone a black man, there is an unspoken language where you aren't allowed to cry or express emotions and feelings. As a black man in mental health, I can assure you that telling men to suppress their emotions, be tough and stoic, and always be the hero has severe and damaging consequences. In today's culture, a man that cries or isn't showing strength is regarded as less than, unmanly and emotional. Yet, crying, showing emotion, and healthily releasing that energy have so much value. If God didn't intend for men to cry, he absolutely wouldn't have made it so we could. Crying is a healthy release and a healthy means of expression. It has calming principles and is a method of self-soothing. It releases endorphins and other stress-relieving hormones, and because it places you in a vulnerable position, it encourages bonding and support from others. Telling men that it is OK to cry is a way to empower and validate the experience and feelings. The self-regulating act of crying needs to continue to be encouraged.

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Is there anything from your childhood that you feel you struggled with and had to unlearn as an adult to have successful relationships?

In my childhood, I struggled a lot with holding or having expectations of people, and that is something that I had to unlearn and am still working to unlearn as an adult to have successful relationships. As a child, I thought people would always come through. People won't disappoint or let me down. As an adult, I welcome it and understand that people do the best they can with who they are and what they have at the time. The only thing I can expect is what they tell me. That has helped me not be so disappointed, and it also releases the other person from any of my own expectations.

Why do you think so many men shy away from opening up to one another and being vocal about their struggles or avoiding wanting to seek therapy?

One very true aspect is that all men want RESPECT, and we understand that respect is earned. How can you be respected if you appear weak?

Opening up and being vulnerable has always been seen as a sign of weakness and something men don't do for fear of being judged. We've heard cliche terms like, "You have to be strong, be a man, never show weakness!"

Also, I think men avoid therapy because there has been a big misconception and a stigma on mental health. Most men will downplay symptoms and the pain they feel and go through life wounded. It's easier to downplay the issue than deal with it. Man's default position is PASSIVITY-- an acceptance of what is happening with no active response or resistance. Pride is another significant factor in why it's hard for men to open up and why men struggle and avoid therapy. Pride also keeps us from accepting responsibility.

Pride destroys intimacy and makes us self-conscious. When there is a "MAN" premise or a "King of the Castle" syndrome, we think of ourselves as higher or ruler of our life; therefore, we want to protect our self-assigned status instead of being vocal about our struggles or seeking help and striving to resolve them.

In what way are women and men differ in the way we cope with things?

Hormonally men and women are different, which is why they cope with things differently. Oxytocin helps in coping with stressful situations. While both men and women produce this hormone during stressful situations, men produce less. We've all heard of "fight or flight." Women usually nurture and reach out to people in stressful situations, whereas men tend to bottle up and escape or fight back. Male self-esteem is generally built around the adequacy of performance, "how did I do?" vs. women whose self-esteem is usually built around the adequacy of a relationship, "how does this affect you, or how are you feeling?" It's almost like women want connectivity and closeness, and men want to escape or create a diversion.

What are some things you've done that have been beneficial for your mental health?

One of the primary things I have done to benefit my mental health is working out. I work out 2-3 days per week and walk 4-5x days per week.

Exercise improves mental health by reducing anxiety, depression, and negative mood and improving self-esteem and cognitive function. Working out has also been found to alleviate symptoms such as low self-esteem and social fractures. I've also been in therapy. I read 10-12 self-help books a year, journal, and operate in structure. Proper structure precedes predictable results, so by practicing mindfulness daily, I put myself in the best positions possible to continue to become the best version of myself.

Talk about the benefits of meditation, manifesting, and setting intentions.

The power of sustained thought can overcome anything. Meditation, manifesting, and setting intentions are beneficial practices needed for personal and professional growth and physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health. When you feel good, you attract more goodness into your life.

Meditation helps with visualization, an essential aspect of mindfulness, and taking positive steps forward in life. Being conscious of your image and your inner thoughts and emotions allows greater control without distraction. Manifesting means creating something or turning something from an idea into a reality by using thoughts, feelings, and beliefs to bring something to physical reality. Optimism, less stress, increased gratitude, and boosted confidence are all byproducts of manifesting. Finally, setting intentions can have a massive impact on every aspect of your life because they make you more mindful and improve your effectiveness.

How can our readers connect with you? (Ex: social media, website?)

Your readers can connect with me on Instagram @akai.jackson22, Facebook @IXL Today, LinkedIn, take our Become Fearless class, or through my book The Making of a Man: True Manhood Lies in the Process

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I-Octane CLEAN MIND, BODY, & SPIRIT: I-OCTANE BREAKS DOWN HOW TO JUMPSTART YOUR HEALTH JOURNEY

Written By: Chaiquan Wingfield Photos: TD Imaging Studios

As we continue going through 2022 and adjusting to our “new normal” with COVID, more and more people are wanting to transition into a healthier lifestyle, but how? I spoke with artist I-Octane, who experienced a lifestyle transformation and has become more focused on eating well, exercising, and checking on his mental and emotional well-being. Changing his mindset led to him losing over 130 pounds!

Now, he’s encouraging his fans to embrace a healthier lifestyle in an organic way.

He also talked to us about body dysmorphia and how you can make changes to move past it.

What led to you making a lifestyle change?

Because as a human being you only live once so it's by right for you to live in the best way u can, plus I was out of shape in my body, soul, and mind.

How has the weight loss and healthier lifestyle affected or impacted your mental health?

My weight loss/ healthier changes have impacted my mental state of mind greatly.

I think more clearly so that brings out a more positive energy personally and professionally

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I-Octane Did you ever experience body dysmorphia? What advice would give someone who struggles with that?

No, I didn't have body dysmorphia because I did it by using herbs to lose weight and in terms of advice to who want to lose some weight, listen, first you mustmake up your mind fully because weight loss is not difficult, but it must start in the mind first, then change your choices of food etc.

Give our readers a quick run through of what you typically eat throughout the day to maintain your body goals?

Everything I put in my body throughout the day is in a liquid form. If I cannot blend or juice it, I don't consume it.

What are some tips you’d like to share with our readers who may want to get started on their own health journey?

Well, my biggest advice is to do fewer solid foods, stay away from too much food... try doing more blending or juicing How can our readers connect with you?

The reader can connect with me through social media, my YouTube (ioctane tv, ig @realioctane)

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ARE MEN AFRAID OF COMMITTMENT? Written By: JaBraun McKenzie

When I was tasked with authoring this question, my mind immediately began to race with various thoughts. I began to reel wondering how I was ever going to complete an article on such a vast & rich subject matter as this. I thought about asking other men & making it more of a round table discussion, as I felt unqualified and incapable of speaking on behalf of my entire gender all on my own considering the limited number of relationships, I have personally been in. However, after much searching of my own heart and becoming very introspective I decided to just speak from my heart & pray that it would resonate & be relatable as this topic deserves its due justice. I believe that we as humans have an innate need to connect with one another whether we are readily willing to admit it to ourselves or not. I feel deep down everyone desires to commit to a significant other for a lifetime, however baggage of a past trauma such as growing up in a single parent home or committing prior and being heartbroken can leave us emotionally damaged & cause us to be gun- shy to settle down with one special mate, especially going as far as to take sacred vows at the altar. Yet, for all our reluctance of not wanting to give up a since of freedom or individuality I do feel that every man if he is being honest with himself does want a lifelong partner. I have noticed in my own life just as recently as the last two weeks God has been healing some old wounds that I did not know still existed within, such as with me being assigned this article I do not believe it was by accident. Also, this past Wednesday I went to a relationship small group in which I felt extremely comfortable but also exposed as I was asked to share about my brief previous marriage about six years ago now when I was in my early thirties. The teaching was based on the book entitled the Five Love Languages, which by Gary Chapman. Even through this one class my heart began to open to the possibility of finding love again as I started to realize that it was not too late for me to get remarried and be a father still as I am now Thirty-Nine. The female leader let me know that she had been married prior as well and was now married to her current husband of 10yrs. (co-leader of the group) whom she had known since they were both 3 years old. I also learned that the process of committing is a decision and an ongoing process that does not end at the “I do’s “but continues to evolve throughout the marriage. It requires being vulnerable and not being closed off. In summary or an attempt to answer the question from my perspective some men, myself included may have a reluctance dare I say “Fear” of failure that the relationship will not last & that we may repeat vicious cycles of brokenness that we did not want to. However, in conclusion I do reiterate that every man wants a partner to build and raise a family with. I no longer use the statement “If I Get Married” again but choose when instead. May we all do the inner healing work necessary to both know and be what we want in a partnership & not be afraid to seek to obtain it.

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Written By: Debbie Stokes Have you heard of the latest hair technique called the Perfect Platinum Pixie? If not, let me introduce you to Brandon Williams, the Atlanta hairstylist who created it.Celebrities like Toni Braxton and Tiffany Haddish can be found sporting it. This look has exploded and hairstylists are flocking from everywhere to learn it so they can recreate it for their clients. This is our conversation.

Tell everyone about your journey into the hair industry.

I won’t tell you that I’ve always known I wanted to do hair.

I honestly had no idea what I wanted to be when I grew up, lol. I was interested in hair, but not necessarily a desire to become a stylist. Around the end of middle school, I picked up my first curling iron. After high school, I went to cosmetology school and worked as a shampoo assistant at my aunt’s salon. From there, I started working in smaller shops in my hometown of St. Louis, MO. When I moved to Atlanta, I realized that for me to provide my clients with the best experience, I needed to step out on my own. I am now the owner of my own studio and can provide my clients with the personal touches necessary to create an “experience” instead of just a hair service.

You have become a phenomenon for creating your trademarked ‘Perfect Platinum Pixie’technique for black women’s hair. Explain what the technique is and how it came about.

It has always been said that it wasn't possible to achieve a bonestraight platinum pixie haircut on textured hair for women of color without complete damage or hair loss. After years of testing and researching, I created the Perfect Platinum Pixie technique, which allows same-day blonding and straightening services for textured hair with little to no damage.

Creating the Perfect Platinum Pixie was based on a simple formula that everyone doing business already knows: find a problem and provide a solution. I saw a need among women of color (specifically Black women) and came up with an innovative way to meet that demand while still maintaining their hair's integrity. Now, the look is being worn by clients across the world.

It’s amazing to see the impact of helping someone feel good about how they look.

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What do you love about having the ability to transform someone’s hair? How does it feel when you see celebrities rocking your Perfect Platinum Pixie cut?

As a stylist, I’ve learned that women know what they want and are capable of making decisions about their hair and look. As a Black man in this industry, I feel empowered that they trust me to bring their visions to life.

Believe it or not, the celebrities rocking the Perfect Platinum Pixie look are actually clients of my students. When I see someone like Toni Braxton wearing the look on the red carpet, it gives me a sense of pride because I know that I taught someone the technique.

What advice can you give about maintaininghealthy hair when you use straighteners and color?

My number one suggestion is to buy professional hair care products for your hair. Even if you can’t afford salon prices, you can at least spend money on quality products to keep your hair healthy.

Next, be sure to get a haircut at least every 6-8 weeks, especially with chemically treated hair and pixie cuts. The cost of a haircut is nothing compared to the emotional cost of needing a “big chop” because you neglected your hair.

Third, let your hair and scalp BREATHE! I know that wigs and protective styles are important to many people, but you have to allow your scalp to breathe in between styles.

Lastly, YouTube can be a great resource for learning how to style your hair. However, just because someone has a lot of followers doesn’t mean they understand hair, color theory, and chemical processing. Even if you only visit the salon twice a year, ask your stylist for tips on athome maintenance and take heed.

You mentor hairstylists in the industry using your technique. What has been some feedback from hairstylists?

Some of the best feedback I’ve gotten from stylists is that they’re happy I’m sharing my knowledge. I could have created the Perfect Platinum Pixie technique and kept the method to myself. But I knew that if God blessed me with this information, it was important that I share the wealth.

What’s next for you?

My dream is to continue training more hairstylists with this technique and building the Perfect Platinum Pixie brand. I am also launching “Hair UnoVersity,” an online continuing education course for licensed cosmetologists and barbers. As they continue to grow, the goal is to help them scale back their services, improve the overall salon experience for their clients, and increase their revenue.

How can people follow you? @hairbyuno

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Actor Mike “Profit” Strong Parlayed His First Audition into a Thriving Career and is Still Going Strong Written By: Debbie Stokes Imagine an amazing story of a man who went to one audition and from that created a successful career.

Michael Strong is atalented actor, producer, and artist, who has appeared on stage, in movies, on TV, and in commercials. But he didn’t start out wanting to act, it kind of landed on his plate. Once he got a taste of it, he was hooked. Strong has developed his skill set so much that he’s in demand in just about any genre. And in every field of entertainment that he’s been a part of, he has excelled; and he continues to reach new levels. Here is his story.

You are a much sought-after and multi-faceted entertainer. How did you get your start and tell everyone all that you do?

I got my start 16 years ago doing sports stunts for Nike. I remember it like it was yesterday. My track coach (Prime Goodman RIP) sent me on my first audition at Dorsey High and the rest is history. From that moment till now, I’ve been all in. I’ve starred in movies and stage plays, produced television shows, toured across the country, MC’d foreign and domestic, danced amateur and professionally, print modeled, done stunts, interviewed on red carpets, hell, I even have done A-list security. I’m currently working on music and own a herb company helping people heal from the inside out.

You were also on Vivica Fox’s hit show, Vivica’s Black Magic. What was that like and how did you get the name, "Profit the Problem?”

Yes, I most definitely was. Working with Viv was one of the biggest blessings ever. She and I to this day are like family. Working with Viv is the best; she don’t play, and as you get to know Viv you understand why.

Entertainment leaves you little room for error, and to be able to have a long-lasting career like she has had… knowledge, understanding, and respect are a must.

How did I get my name you ask? Way before the show, I was a popular exotic entertainer at clubs around Los Angeles. Dancing was what I did in between gigs. It was consistent money and gave me the finances to provide for my family and an open schedule that didn’t conflict with acting classes and jobs.

The first club I performed at was a small club off of Florence and Crenshaw named Charlies. I named myself Profit to remind myself and others why I was dancing. After my first performance, I remember walking out to the patio where the MC was. He introduced me to the promoter and she tells him, “This one is going to be a PROBLEM.” As soon as the words left her lips, he grabs the mic and announces my new name as “PROFIT THE PROBLEM!” I was unique she said. I had a “clean” show and all I did was treat it as if I was doing a theatrical performance with skits and cool moves.

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You’ve acted on TV, in film, and on stage, what has been your most challenging role to date, and why?

My most challenging role was “TWO CAN PLAY THAT GAME” the stage play. I recall Viv calling me on a Wednesday offering me the role due to the actor having to leave the tour. Production sent a 119-page script that night. I was flown to Atlanta that Thursday and went to rehearsal directly off the plane. That Friday, I was in front of a sold-out crowd of 4,000 people in the biggest theatre market in America.

What people don’t realize in theatre is there is zero room for mistakes (hints―live entertainment). There’s blocking, continuous scene after scene, and not to mention, the cast was studded. It was hard and the pressure was on. I have to thank Viv for that opportunity because at the time, to the rest of the cast, production was a gamble.

Actors face a lot of rejection. Has there been a time when you wanted to quit? If so, what kept you going?

Lol… being an entertainer should come with a psychologist.

At this point, rejection is my middle name. Over the years I have survived many hardships. For example, strikes. The writer’s strike in the late 2000s hit hard. I’ve been circumventing out deals, offered roles to find out it was a scam; you name it and most likely it’s happened. What’s kept me going is my love for the craft.

There is no plan B, it’s the entertainment business, that’s it… that’s all.

What’s next for you?

Later 2022, I am a part of a great project called “Christmas with my Ex” directed by the amazing Patricia Cuffie-Jones.

The most exciting thing I’m looking forward to is releasing music. When I was producing “All the Queens Men” on BET+ I had the opportunity to see how music and film collaborate. It sparked an interest in music placement and I started taking writing and recording music way more seriously. So, in 2022, I will be releasing music.

You can keep up with him and all his ventures @profit_the_problem

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Grizzy Tha God of ′I Am Surviving Vegan′ Explains the Benefits of Going Vegan

Written By: Debbie Stokes Being vegan is a choice that takes preparation and dedication. Grizzy Tha God transitioned to vegan and it’s changed his life.He’s been successful with his healthcare and vegan business,making the first million during the pandemic. Here is his story.

What are the benefits of going vegan as opposed to just eating healthy?

The biggest benefit is that I’m receiving the best form of nutrients versus any other source.

S.A.D. (Standard American Diet) is a diet that contains harmful substances affecting the mental, spiritual, and emotional integrity of citizens. While vegan diets tend to be rich in nutrients, optimizing our own health can lead to total healing of our mind, body, and soul.

Surviving Vegan is most popular for connecting our culture’s food to lack of emotional intelligence, poor decision-making, violence, and complicated health issues. It is becoming increasingly important for people of color to read the labels of foods and products they let into their bodies. From the obvious products like hair relaxers that contain harmful chemicals to the not-so-obvious products like fluoride in toothpaste, deodorants, and gas station candy that leave chemical deposits, which eventually build blood disorders in the long run.

Tell us about your company, I Am Surviving Vegan, and why you felt it was needed in the black community?

Surviving Vegan, LLC was born out of desperation. We had little to nothing, just our knowledge, so we decided to try our luck and shoot for the stars. With nothing else to lose, we launched the company not knowing it would grow into the #1 vegan brand in the world.

The need for Surviving Vegan being in the black community is so important because of how much false information surrounds our culture and health. That changes now because being vegan has given our communities a voice when it comes to their health. No more just killing us in silence. WE KNOW NOW! The Black Community has experienced cycles of repetitive actions with the same results. It is time for this generation to usher in new lifestyles and practices for us to see a change in the earth. We have to treat ourselves better. Examining our eating habits, displays we do not show our bodies love. The treatment of animals is also an extension of self. Vegan for self-first to save self, earth, and animals.

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A lot of people fail at eating healthy due to self-sabotage. What do you teach your clients about overcoming self-sabotage?

Well, you know self-sabotage happens when you’re not being real with yourself. At, I Am Surviving Vegan, all we do is keep it real when it comes to your health.

And that real aspect comesfrom the facts. And the fact is the food is killing us. So, the choice is yours to keep dying or keep living.

Surviving Vegan offers a threefold approach to making the process easier which are: 1. Remain confident despite the questions or discouragement that will certainly emerge from friends and family.

2. Taking full responsibility by actively researching natural, inexpensive foods, recipes, products, etc.

3. Understanding that the wellness journey is not a sprint but a marathon. There is no defined formula for how to raise a vegan family, but the small steps always go a long way.

How important are exercise and planning when it comes to vegan eating and losing weight?

So, exercise is always needed because you want to keep the body fit. But one of the things that most people don’t account for is when you are detoxing, you’re detoxing; when you are building, you’re building. Meaning, when I want to cleanse my body that’s all I’m doing and when I wanna work out and build my body and muscle that’s what I’m doing. You should cleanse first and build the body second.

Tell everyone why vegan eating is vital to healing?

Vegan food is vital to healing because of the high nutritional value that it has. Medicine is not the medicine that they’ve taught you, medicine is nature: the herbs, the plants, the air, andwater. The minerals of the land are the true medicines.

There are endless benefits to transitioning to veganism for the mind, body, and spirit alignment. You will experience body harmony, healing, peace, transformation, and weight loss. It will decrease the chances of health problems and increase your manifestation and focus.

What’s next for you?

Right now, I am focused on healing my mind, body, and spirit. As an entrepreneur and business owner, I’m constantly being tested to go to the next level. But to truly get to the next level,you have to go within; so right now, I’m on a path to finding myself again. I’m diving deep into myself to reconnect with me. Because honestly, nothing else matters… not the money, the success, or the accolades. It’s my sanity that matters more than material gain.

Follow @iamsurvivingvegan

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HGTV STAR MIKE JACKSON OF ′MARRIED TO REAL ESTATE′ TALKS ABOUT THE SHOW AND HIS LIFE AS A CELEBRITY DJ Written By: Debbie Stokes

You really can live the life you want with no compromise. It takes drive, determination, and vision along with preparation and grace aligned with purpose to make it happen.

Mike Jackson (aka DJ Fadelf) of Atlanta is living proof. He is an HGTV personality on Married to Real Estate where he shares the spotlight with his wife, Egypt Sherrod, a Real Estate broker. In the show, they find houses and renovate them to help clients get into the house of their dreams; and they do this while devotedly managing their family life.

Jackson is also an award-winning celebrity DJ who has played all over the world at different venues from major events to small intimate settings. He is such a phenomenal DJ that he was chosen to be the official DJ for the 3-time Grammy Award-winning group, The Product G&B, who is known for the hit “Maria Maria” with Carlos Santana. He is also a member and part-owner of the HipRokSoul band and the CEO of Luxe Sound Entertainment. As you can see, Jackson’s plate is full, and that’s just a small portion of all that he does.

He is also a personal trainer, a model, a songwriter, an award-winning author, and a public speaker. But his crown and glory are being a dynamic family man.

Jackson has managed to do everything he does by staying aligned with God and through preparation, planning, and having a great support system. He is definitely living his life unapologetically and in his purpose.

Here is my conversation with Mike Jackson as he talks about being a celebrity DJ and about his HGTV show, Married to Real Estate.

“To be honest, I have lived the “speak life into existence” since I was a kid.

I say that to say, I always knew I would travel the world performing for thousands and experiencing so many different cultures and lifestyles.”

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“Even in the midst of doing shows and singing wherever I could, the art of the DJ business caught my attention at the age of 10.”

You have been in the entertainment business for a long time. I would love to know how your career as a DJ began?

Great question that I never get tired of answering, lol. Yes, I’ve always been involved in entertainment by way of music. I started as a singer in a group with my cousins, called 4–U. We caught the attention of the late, hip hop great Heavy D. The group never progressed beyond several studio sessions with some heavy hitters in the music business due to a conflict in contracts.

Even in the midst of doing shows and singing wherever I could, the art of the DJ business caught my attention at the age of 10. My nextdoor neighbor and childhood friend had a DJ set up that intrigued me whenever I went to visit him. After leaving his house I would head home and practice blending records with my one record player and whatever music videos came on TV. When I was 11 years old, I finally got a full DJ set up for Christmas and I would never be outside because I would be practicing every day. I spun my first wedding when I was 12 years old, and it’s been a progression ever since.

Sharing your talent worldwide, being the official DJ for The Product G&B, part-owner of HipRokSoul Music Group, and CEO of Luxe Sound Entertainment, did you ever imagine that you would be so successful in your music career?

Let me first say, it’s been a blessing to have been able to experience so many different parts of the world doing what I love to do. To be honest, I have lived the “speak life into existence” since I was a kid. I say that to say, I always knew I would travel the world performing for thousands and experiencing so many different cultures and lifestyles.

Although I’ve done some amazing things throughout my career, I don’t let them dictate my success. For me, success is being Happy, Healthy, and at peace. Success is being a person of value that adds value to others, and or opportunities.

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You are also successful in the real estate business.

Tell our readers more about your home improvement show, Married to Real Estate.

Married To Real Estate is a show entailing real estate, construction, and family. The show showcases my wife and me as experts in our respective fields.

My wife, Egypt Sherrod is seen getting clients into a house that makes the most sense and value for their lifestyle and budget. Once the client has made their choice on a property, my team/company Jackson Draper Renovations and I step into the mix to bring my wife’s design vision to life. Throughout the show, you will see our family interact with each other, having fun while building our businesses. Throughout the episodes, you also get introduced to some of my wife’s design team members, and some of my construction team. Married To Real Estate is on the HGTV platform by the way of Warner Discovery.

Season one can be seen via the Discovery + platform.

Season 2 is underway.

How did you go from being in entertainment to real estate?

I am still currently a DJ. I’ve fused real estate, construction, and entertainment into my lifestyle. I got into the real estate business by the way of my wife. My wife is a broker. Before I got into the business, she was referring a lot of business to other agents. Over dinner, 7 years ago she asked me what I thought about getting a real estate license to help with a high demand on the buyer’s side. I agreed to take real estate classes, passed the test, and the rest is history.

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What has been your most fulfilling experience so far on the show?

There are so many fulfilling experiences that come along with creating and filming our show. To be able to be in a constant creative space is fulfilling. To be able to do what you love with the person and people you love Is fulfilling. Taking clients from being nervous and excited, to grateful and appreciative is fulfilling.

To know you’re on a show that you are a part curator for is fulfilling. We’ve been blessed to showcase our talents and skillset on a well-respected network.

Being a man who wears many hats, how do you manage them all?

I’m God-fearing. I’ve always been able to multitask at high levels. There’s a lot of planning, prioritizing, and communication amongst my/our support system that goes into my day-today. I’m also big on energy… positive energy. Positive energy keeps me centered and allows ideas and creativity to flow freely. I’ve also gotten a lot better at delegating to alleviate some of my workloads.

Stay Connected with Mike Jackson on Instagram @djfadelf.

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Tiran Jackson BOAT EXPLOSION SURVIVOR DETAILS FATHERHOOD+ LIFE POST TRAGEDY

Written By: JaBraun McKenzie

Through this insightful conversation with multihyphenate Tiran Jackson I learned so much about mental health, and how to move forward from the trials & tragedies that merely being alive can sometimes present.

This interview details how now author, life coach, & motivational speaker was not only able to find his true calling & purpose in the wake of a horrendous boating accident that left him not only without his left leg, but also without his wife & life partner on what should have been the happy celebration of their 15th wedding anniversary things took an unexpected and somber turn when the boat exploded. Instead of allowing this life altering experience to permanently hinder his destiny, Jackson began a long journey of healing not only physically, and mentally but also spiritually as well.

He knew that he had to forge forward despite these very real and challenging circumstances to raise his then 12-year-old son. Read on to find out how he was able to put the pieces of his life together in such a dynamic way to not only survive but thrive amid the adversity. When asked how he was able to pull himself together to raise his son in the wake of such a tragic accident & becoming a widower so suddenly? Tiran states there were several factors that contributed to his ability to regain control of his life. He readily admits that “his family provided a great deal of support” they helped by allowing him the safe space he needed just to express his emotions and process the life altering events that happened to him.

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He also makes a strong emphasis on how his sister was also truly instrumental in helping him “Bounce back” and think through a strategy for the areas of his life he was going to have to address necessary to endure the fight & get his life back under control. He realized that counseling for he & his son was necessary to “further rebound emotionally” from the loss and gain an understanding of how they both would move forward together. He credits this decision with helping them to get out of the fragile state they were understandably in following the passing of Maleka (his deceased spouse). However, most importantly he says as I was recovering from the accident, I could reflect on the good times she & I had together. He recalled a particular conversation that tookplace about a year prior to the accident in which she expressed her desire for her husband to make sure that he took care of their son Cameron & ensure that the only part of her that was still on earth was sufficiently taken care of. This became the strongest catalyst & driving force for him to get himself together, so that he could fulfill this promise with all his heart. Also,naturally as could be expected he suffered from PTSDsymptoms in which he recalls waking up in the middle of the night in cold sweats because of having nightmares of waking up on the surface of the boat with his leg on fire.

He recalls being in & out of consciousness five times & struggling with short- term memory loss in the aftermath of the accident. Again, he gives much praise & credit to his sister and there long talks with helping him with the ability to initially begin to deal with the trauma. It was his first official step in opening himself up and allowing himself to start processing the grief. However, it was not until he officially started therapy 2 months after the accidentthat he truly addressed the pain that these memories created, that helped him to make the appropriate strides, and progress with moving forward from the trauma. It also became even more evident to me throughout our conversation the significant role that faith played in Tiran’s recovery as well as his life in general. He makes it clear that his faith was powerful & prevalent throughout his grieving & rehabilitation process. Initially, he recounts being angry with God, all the while never losing faith in him, he just could notseem to wrap his head around the profound loses he had recently experienced. He recalls the turning pointthat occurred specifically on the fifth day following the accident in which he states having a “conversation with God” out of this birthed three major epiphanies such as everything happens for a reason, and not solely on the plans that he had personally made for his life.

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Secondly, that his life was spared, by God for a reason, and despite his feelings of uncertainty he knew that his life was being led down a different path that he would not otherwise have taken had the accident not taken place.

Thirdly, he states that he knew that he had to make the conscious decision- choice to be resilient and overcome everything negative that might have been standing in his path. This was personally my favorite point that was brought to my attention during our conversation I must mention. The idea that we must make a choice to be resilient in the face of our obstacles instead of lying down with defeatist attitudes. I followed up on the resilience question further in fact,as I love the title of his new book which is titled “Choosing Resilience”: All Things work Together for Good” in answer to the question I posed why it is so important to see the good even in trying times Jackson responded so many people accept the circumstances of their situation instead of actively looking to do things to correct them. “They often hope that through prayer alone , or the acts of others, or just in some serendipitous fashion that things will automatically work out in their favor” instead of choosing to have the response of resilience, because in doing so we are making the active & conscious decision to take actions that allow us to not only be in survival mode , butbounce back as he was able to causing us to thrive as a result instead as mentioned earlier. In this choice of resilience, he was able to see the good amid the pain as well, he began to realize that he had a greater purpose that was bigger than himself. I gathered from his responses that once he recovered physically & began walking again, he was able to surpass even his own expectations. He was encouraged by his progress to do even more. “My walking became a jog, and my jog became a run” he enthusiastically stated. He now is even able to run 5k’s, which he had never even done previously. He was even able to learn to swim with oneleg although he admits it was challenging. His purpose became also in clearer view as he was previously an engineer. Although Tiran, provided for his family, he says he has never felt such a sense of fulfillment as he does now as a Motivational Speaker, & author, which in his own words he feels he is now operating is his “truest purpose.” He states that for him it is necessary & important to pay the knowledge & wisdom he has gained forward, because he has had such personal & profound understanding of what it is like to feel truly hopeless & in despair while going through his traumas,and how difficult it was to find the strength to keep pressing forward. He knows that he is far from beingthe only one in the world that is coping with suchtragedies as he has encountered. Lastly, he revels in his role as father more than anything else & he has undoubtedly kept his promise to take care of He & Maleka’s Son Cameron. When I posed the question as an African American Father what is one of the biggest ideals you want to instill in your children as well as others who may not have a Father Figure? He stated the importance of learning who we are.

He says he relearned certain aspects of himself in which he had not thought of in over twenty years. He calls it his emotional recovery & says it led him to introspectively learn what deeply made him happy, as well as motivated him to push forward. As well as wanting them to know the experiences we face in life whether good or bad, all help us to learn valuable life lessons. It is up to the individual to decide to look back at them, and evaluate from them, because adversity should not always be looked at as a terrible thing, but somethingto learn valuable lessons from instead.

Tiran Jackson is such a relatable an awe-inspiringindividual. He reiterated to me as a person of faith the importance of appreciating every day & knowing that there is indeed hope if we still have breath in our bodies. If we just hang in there during our trying seasons there is truly a better chapter that awaits, and that we are overcomers by the sacrifice that Jesus made for us on the cross & the word of our testimonies. Be sure to follow him on his Instagram at tiranjacksonofficial, & his website www.rebornrisilient.com & go purchase his debut novel “Choosing Resilience.” He has a timely message that surely deserves to be heard.

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ETERNITI THE LIFE OF EVERLASTING MUSIC AND ACCOMPLISHMENTS

Written By: Amanda Miller

Meet Eterniti (Everlasting), a skillful and honorable artist and a native of Mobile, Alabama, who has contributed in a major way to the everlasting and evolving Hip-Hop genre and Spoken Word. In approx. 1.9 decades, he has showcased his cultivating spoken word and Hip-Hop artistry. Eterniti has sculpted his prestige and originality within both routes, and with a wide range of many accomplished projects throughout his impressive career.

The following businesses and opportunities have allowed him to maintain a growing prospect to be an opener for countless artists like Jeremih, Devin, The Dude, Tank, Bone Thugs-N-Harmony, and much more. He has continued to expand his artistry and celebrate his accomplishments within these past ten years of creating impactful music within his very own vibe and originality.

He debuted in 2004 with his first single, "That's The Way" (feat.

Wanda Lewis). The tune expended within 14 months on the historical lane of DI Nick @ Nite's mix presentation. In 2012, he took more extensive and growing stages in his career and decided to be the founder of Mersiless Productions. Eterniti continues to display his passion for the art world by organizing and directing Hip-Hop and spoken word shows and artists.

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1. What inspired you to take on the name, Eterniti?

The term Eternity represents "time after death," my grandfather who was a huge influence on my life artistically passed as I was 13. At the time I was his only grandchild, and it was around this time I really began writing to cope with his loss. I was in a rap group at the time and my name was Mer$enari so I changed it to Eterniti referencing my time with this art of music after his death and kept the "I" as homage to the original name.

2. You have been making music and performing for 19 years. How did poetry and hiphop start for you?

I always had a love for writing, starting with short stories around the age of 9. It eventually grew into writing poems, and then songs. I would find a group of young men at my middle school who had a passion for rapping, and we would connect during out lunch breaks and just rap popular songs. Tons of No Limit songs because that's what was hot at the time. Well, a talent show came up, we decided to do something original, and we didn't win but everyone loved us, and it just grew from there. Our drummer is now DJ Money Mic, and we still tour together today.

3. How was the transition from being under a record label to branching out and starting your production firm?

One word, MONEY! When you're a part of a record label that believes in you, you have funding and resources. All I had to worry about was writing and making music. I was well taken care of but because it's being finances the creative process is also a gumbo. So, I had ideas that were viewed as "off the wall" like whispering during an entire record and low and behold 7-12 months later Ying Yang Twins and David Banner drop certified hits doing what else but exactly that. So, the compromise made as an artist with people who can't see your vision is a challenge and can be frustrating. Starting Mer$iless Myndz gave me a freedom to work with who I wanted, how I wanted, and doing what I wanted but everything in moderation because the music business is a business, and nothing comes free.

4. During your music career, you experienced many setbacks. How did those experiences mentally affect you, and what helped you overcome those obstacles?

They made me grow up, and fast. I lost my grandfather at 13, mom at 26, dad at 30, grandmother at 32, uncle at 34. So, the last ten years have been tumultuous to say the least.

God helped me. When I was down, depressed, had writers block or just felt like I wasn't good enough I prayed. It calmed me, it just felt like a breakthrough was coming. I make music for the love of it, of course I want to make money also, who doesn't? But music isn't a quick money grab for me it's my passion. I love the person I am on stage and so I put all my heartache in my work ethic and just set out to make everybody proud. They may not be here physically, but I feel their presence every time I step on stage.

5. How do you personally work on your masculinity to be the best person you can be?

I want to be the best "me" I can be. A lot of men don't take care of themselves, and I started focusing on my mental health more about five years ago. I sought out a therapist, I made doctor's appointments, I began seeing a chiropractor, changed my nutrition, amended my workout schedule, and began meditation and have recently incorporated yoga into my routines. The stronger the mind and body, the better prepared I am to be an example of how discipline in your life can equate to happiness and success.

6. What is the best advice you have been given?

I have two. "Control what you can control and only what you can control" and "Some will, some won't, so what? Move on!" I carry both of those with me in all walks of life. If I have the amity to fix something then fix it, but I cannot allow anxiety and depression to take over my livelihood if there is nothing, I can do about it. With my music, some people love it. Some people hate it. Neither affects me if I control what I can control (my audience).

So, I move on to be the best artist I can be for those who love, support, and enjoy what I do.

7. What are some upcoming projects we can see from you this year?

I just released a brand-new single in April titled "Focus." This was my first new music since the Pandemic began so I wanted to bring something positive, affirming, and that felt good. Also,Mer$iless Myndz is celebrating our 10th year in business, so we have been looking forward to our Anniversary show entitled "The Blackout" with performances from myself as well as everyone who has either released projects through us or helped our family and network grow. I've got a few other things in the works as well, but I like to make sure the ink has dried before we speak on it. It's an exciting time to be a member of our team. I used a tag line for my first album that said, "We're Listening...Are You?" For the future I'd like to just say "Stay Tuned..."

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Ricky Kidd THE FACE OF RESILIENCE!

Written By: Amanda Miller

Mr. Ricky Kidd is a very successful and impactful motivational speaker, author, and gifted playwriter. Even with his talents and community service, he once had a painful past as a post-exoneration individual.

But his painful adventure has changed his life for the absolute better.

Mr. Kidd has, without a doubt, a heartwarming fondness for focusing on the understanding and education regarding the safety and education of the need to be resilient in the center of all challenges.

This mainly concerns the political and lawful injustices.

The power within the focus on Kidd’s extraordinarily & compelling story has fueled him to continue to convey, familiarize and encourage all of those around him and those who continuously seek knowledge from him. With his very own route, Mr. Kidd is drawn towards supporting those who have been wrongfully convicted and is determined to spread the awareness of having trained prosecutors to explain how to avoid wrongful convictions moving forward. Because of the persistence of an issue within this nation is safe to say, Mr. Kidd will be propelled to showcase his tale of strength, power, and, most importantly, resilience.

Without a doubt, Mr. Kidd will always inspire and speak from his heart with pure, unforgettable authenticity.

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As a public speaker, poet, and playwriter, how do you showcase your motivational content?

I consider myself fortunate that I get to showcase my motivational content during physical events as well as through social media. Even when I was still on the inside fighting for my deserved freedom, one of my plays, “Mind of The Innocent,” was being performed on the outside by a group of students and a few local actors. Another one of my plays, “I Wanna Be Like My Father,” performed inside the prison, can be found on YouTube. Up next, is my play “Justice Where Are You,” which I believe the American people will thoroughly enjoy. Slated to be a 2023 project. Of course, my lectures, talks and training presentations have left strong imprints on stages across the country and forever memorialized through videos shared on social media.

What was your first thought when applying your story and energy on a heavyset and impactful platform like TikTok, especially when it came to sharing your journey?

Honestly, I did not know how important TikTok was or would become. I only knew that my story was an important one to be heard; where others could learn from and be inspired by. I must say though, as my story began to go viral on TikTok, I kept smiling along the way, thinking to myself, “Now people will become more aware about the silent crisis of wrongful convictions.

What has your journey in life taught you and how has it molded you into the man we see today?

My life journey has taught me that we don't get to choose the difficulty or challenges that come upon us, but we do get to choose how we respond. My wrongful conviction suddenly thrust me into an environment that was violent, oppressive, dark, and unpredictable. I had to learn to become adaptable fast.

It taught me “No days unalert,” how to find common ground among so many differences and that if there was no light in sight, that I could become the light. All those lessons have shaped me into who people see today.

With the plays you have created, such as "Mind of the Innocent," that have gradually showcased the views of criminal reform, what was the creative process behind it?

Most times, most American’s are only getting a very brief blurb about wrongful convictions. Either across the news ticker, or a short writeup about someone else being released. However, it is often far from the in-depth reality of how often they happen, how they happen, and what happens to the person during their wrongful conviction. The creative process for me is sewing together a narrative that is captivating, along with dialogue that produces a learning moment, then channels the raw & emotional human side to any wrongful conviction.

While being able to share your story with young and influential youth, what critical advice have you been able to give them?

I enjoy sharing my story with all groups, ages, and backgrounds, but I really enjoy sharing with our youth because there are some lifesaving lessons in my story. One of the first things my story highlights is “good kid, bad choices.” I made bad choices growing up; in choosing my friends and how I spent my time.

While it doesn't excuse what police and prosecutors did to secure my wrongful conviction, it did make me vulnerable to a criminal legal system that is riddled with systemic bias. I think it was easier for the powers to be to take a leap from seeing me as a dealer to seeing me as a murderer. Another solid piece of advice I’ve shared with the youth stemming from my story is “To know where you’re going, because any road will take you elsewhere. In my youth, I didn't have a compass or a clear vision, so the roads I traveled had no chance of getting me to my destination. As opposed to now (or even while still in prison) I knew where I was going and where I needed to be, so a group of associates or a pathway that did not lead towards that direction or desired destination, it was easier for me to say thank you but no thank you.”

What's your view and maybe even solution regarding our troubling atmosphere and laws in the current time?

To understand where we are and where we need to go, we must first understand how we got here. A super vast majority of Americans do not. It has become an unread or forgotten history in why the constitution was written, in how & why laws were written and how & why the prison industrial complex came into existence. In truth, the constitution of the United States did not consider all people, though it appeared to. It was for the rights of those who created them and (like minded individuals). Laws created had its beginning in the same vein. To protect and offer guarantees for one group or set of people while not so much for the others. Our prison industrial complex as we (think we) know today is steeply rooted in unfairness, racism, prejudice, and bias. This part must be understood first.

Second, when we speak about solutions, it really all depends on which side of this gigantic mountain of a justice system you're on and trying to change.

My top 3 things to change from the side I’m on...

1. We the people, who have been negatively and continuously impacted by the system should seek to take up positions inside that very system. As police, police chiefs, prosecutors, judges and beyond. It’s the most realistic way to root out the ills mentioned above. Go Inside the system. I am (essentially) back inside the system myself. I sit on the advisory board of the Kansas City DA office, on the executive board of the Innocence Network and I’m doing consultant work now training prosecutor offices.

2. Elected officials must know they will be held accountable when failing the people who put them there. That cannot be achieved unless more Americans are aware of the problems and then care enough to take a stand towards the solutions. Holding our officials accountable will help make a better criminal legal system.

3. New training programs for police and prosecutors (that include the people their work has harmed) is a big part of the solution. It would offer these brave individuals the educational and emotional support they need for the job they do and help them open to understanding the victims they intentionally and unintentionally create.

In your book "Vivid Expressions: A Journey inside the mind of the Innocent." Which was very much a success. Have you decided to continue to write more books and possibly even make it a franchise?

I have continued writing, having completed a portfolio of material that could be a part of a franchise. I am currently working on “In the Face of Injustice,” which people will begin to get a sneak peek at soon as we open it up to publishers. I also continue to write poetry and plan to do more spoken word events coming this fall.

What upcoming plans and opportunities will you showcase in the coming months or this straight year?

Well, I just signed with the American Speaker’s Bureau, which is a big deal to have reached that level of success in just a few years upon release. This same speaker’s bureau represented Dr. Martin Luther King Jr and now represents a strong roster of celebrities and thought leaders. I’m open for bookings and people will see more of my dynamic presentations in the months ahead. June is the official launch of my new prosecutor training program “The Cost of a Prosecutor’s Decision; Blind Spots of True Justice.” August marks my three-year milestone celebration and we will have a special announcement coming then.

My next play, “Justice Where Are You?” will begin production as we close the year out and debut summer of 2023.

What one word best sums up you and your vision?

Monumental

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Maximillan Naza OWNER OF PASCIVITE TAKES RISK & WINS BIG IN BUSINESS

Written By: JaBraun McKenzie

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Maximillian Naza has had a remarkably interestingcareer trajectory. He is not your typical entrepreneur in that he does not necessarily believe in the traditional “5-year plan”, but rather has adopted what he refers to as the “What Comes Next” Plan instead. This trust your instincts & go with the flow approach has perhaps been the greatest factor that has helped to propel PasciVite into the force in digital marketing & development that it has become today & it is currently his biggest venture to date , however based on his drive & the diverse portfolio of clients that are under his companies umbrella that range from Hospitality , and Travel all the way to Artificial Intelligence I’m sure it will not be his last power move.

Can you describe for us the backstory regarding your decision to become an entrepreneur?

It was serendipitous. I studied Computer Science, with my initial goal being to get a PhD and do research, either at a university or a research institute. I reached out to a professor about helping them with their research, and within three weeks I knew this was not the path for me. Researchers are extremely patient people, and I could not see myself spending twentyplus years trying to find the answers to a single question. This led me to switch to Cyber Security. I was fortunate enough to land two relevant internships and learned quite a bit in the process. However, I did not love that I did not get to code much at all. This caused me to switch my focus to Software Engineering. It was hard to get internships because I was getting labeled as a security guy. Out of frustration, I started freelancing as a developer to help change the narrative around my profile. Luckily for me, it worked, and I was able to land additional internships as a software engineer. After starting my internship as a software engineer, I was sure I had found what I wanted to do with my life.

Nevertheless, even as my corporate career started taking off, I continued to freelance in developing on the side although on a part-time basis. Over time, this evolved into what PasciVite is today.

After starting your very own establishment & products, what would you say is the motivation behind it?

Curiosity. I had an idea & felt I could not afford to nottry and bring it to life. Success was not guaranteed, but I just had to try and give it my best shot. I saw a needwithin these large industries where they were missing the mark in servicing their customers and not utilizingtheir technological resources to their advantage.

What has been the most significant accomplishment thus far for you in business?

Our biggest achievement is still being around. Statistically speaking starting a business is one of the worst possible ideas one could ever have. The success to failure in the first year alone is a 1:5 success ratio. It truly does take a village in order to beat those odds, & PasciVite would not have been able to do as much as it has without our team.

How have you been able to retain the connection to such essential brands as Globant, Google, T-Mobile, Vitel Health, & Buzzsaw Media?

Our clientele comes from word of mouth, which is self-explanatory. With cold outreach, we reach out to various brands and explain our value-add in a clear and concise manner. We spend a lot of time researching the brands trying to identify the various problems they are dealing with and selecting the ones we believe we can help them solve or address effectively before we evereven reach out to them & hope for the best. These are global brands that usually manage everything in houseor with sourced companies they have established relationships with this means our approach has to be that much better and prove to be a benefit.

What is the message you want to spread through your success story?

Think big. We were not supposed to go over Google & T-Mobile within the first year of business, but we did,and it worked. Do not scale yourself to where you “think” you are. Approach everything as if you are already where you know you can go.

Where do you visualize yourself in five years?

Still in business growing with the ever-evolving world of technology to where we can continue to provide that same upward mobility to our customers. Finding more problems so that we can find more solutions. Growing each service that we offer so we are the go-to outsourced company of support for these global corporations.

How does it feel for you to have made such an impact as a Black-Owned Holder that has invested,and become an integral part of such a growing digital category of today’s work?

Our biggest claim to our clients and prospects is that we can help them meet their ideal customers where they are.

With race being such a critical part of a demographic break down, we try to leverage our background and cultural insight to connect people from diverse backgrounds with the resources they may need. It is a win -win for all involved parties. In fact, one of our newest partnerships is with the NMSDC eMarketplace, which is one of the biggest digital marketplaces serving minority owned businesses. We take pride in being able to provide resources to companies that sometimes experience helpful measures being withheld or not offered. Statistically minority owned businesses fail because of a lack of structure in the processing or foundation of the business, our goal is to help lessen that.

Any upcoming projects or opportunities that may be developed at the current time?

We are currently looking into the ways we could leverage GPT-3 to help our marketing clients be more efficient with content generation. We hope to have something up-and-running before the year runs out. For reference, GPT-3 is an autoregressive language model that uses deep learning to produce human-like text. Any way to keep our clients ahead in being able to service their customers more efficiently & effectively is our goal.

As you can clearly see Maximillian Naza plays by his own set of rules , yet teaches us some very important core lessons as well, such as how important it is to trust your gut instincts when it comes to growing a successful business, Also, he exhibits that perhaps we should not be so structured in our life & career goals but rather not be afraid to take advantage of new opportunities instead as they present themselves such as with Naza’s “What Comes Next “ approach. Another thing that stuck out to me was where he urges us to “Think Big” as he did when he went to Google & T-Mobile within his first year of going into business.Taking the limits off our own mindsets & following our passions just might be the master key that unlocks our major success. Be sure to visit www.PasciVite.com & https://instagram.com/PasciVite to learn more about Max Naza & his digital marketing company.

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Rodney Baylor TALKS ABOUT THE IMPORTANCE OF GENETIC TESTING

Written By: Tyrane Hughes

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“It’s all in the genes.”...”I/we have good genes.” We have all either heard someone say it, or have said it once or twice ourselves. For the most part, it’s a factual statement to say. However, not many of us actually know the full story of our genetics… Aside from the obvious anyway. These days you can find out who you’re related to and where you come from, but there is so much more that can be obtained and/or revealed through the study of genetics. Most of us have heard of genetic testing (in a sense of factors of health), but how many have actually researched it? Mr. Rodney Baylor, the Vice President of Client Services for GeneDX knows all about the process of researching genetics. We had the chance to go over the importance of genetic studies, and discuss a few other things within the topic as well. Here is what Mr. Baylor had to say:

FEMI STAFF (Tyrane Hughes): “Mr. Baylor, please tell our readers about yourself, and GeneDX.” Rodney Baylor: “I am a Washington, D.C. native, and a dedicated father with rich ties to the community. I am also a board member of ‘Boys Hope Girls Hope of Baltimore’, where I mentor young individuals who want to work in the corporate world. When time permits, I serve the community through service projects such as ‘Moveable Feast’, 'Helping Up Mission’, and ‘United Way Baby Drive”.

I joined Sema4/GeneDX in 2021. It is a global leader in the space of healthcare genomics. The company uses artificial intelligence to drive diagnosis, help patients discover their health conditions, and make informed healthcare decisions about the best treatment options. This process helps them know about their illnesses early, which gives them a better quality of life. As vice president, I lead client services and business operations, such as call center support, vendor support, and a concierge program in Maryland.”

FEMI STAFF (Ty Hughes): “What made you want to go into this side of the medical field?”

Rodney Baylor: “I began to look for a career change after being in the healthcare industry for over 25 years. Bioscience seemed very interesting and intriguing, despite my experience working with insurance companies. I was unfamiliar with genetics testing, but I found GeneDx’s work inspiring and valued its impact on the community and society at large.”

FEMI STAFF (Ty Hughes): “The field of genetic study seems to be a very vast subject. Can you give us some interesting facts about genetics, and the study thereof?”

Rodney Baylor: “Genetics can be very overwhelming. However, getting tested can be the one element that gives patients accurate answers about their health conditions. More importantly, getting tested can help patients understand how to proceed with developing the appropriate treatment and support plans, thus shortening their diagnosis journey.”

FEMI STAFF (Ty Hughes): “Can you explain to the readers the importance of getting genetic testing, and why they should do so, if it is within their means?”

Rodney Baylor: “People should get tested because many patients today are misdiagnosed or underdiagnosed, which causes patients to have a less favorable quality of life. These errors may exacerbate patients’ condition physically and mentally. In addition, many insurance companies will cover genetics testing if an underlying medical condition supports medical necessity. However, when insurance is not an option, there are additional financial options such as self-pay and financial assistance payment plans.”

FEMI STAFF (Ty Hughes): “What’s your favorite factor(s) (pun was not intended, but is appreciated lol), about being in the field of genetic study?

Rodney Baylor: “I value the ability to find diagnoses and causes of patients’ illnesses. The process allows doctors to be more proactive in helping people. We are the reason doctors can figure out what is wrong with a patient based on the science we use.”

FEMI STAFF (Ty Hughes): “What advancements have been the most impressive and/or promising in the field of genetics?”

Rodney Baylor: “Traditionally we have focused on Whole Exome Sequencing (WES), which is the process of studying only certain portions of the human genes. However, as we move into the future, genome testing is more robust as it tests and reviews the entire gene, potentially giving a more holistic interpretation and diagnosis for a patient. Gene sequencing is the most genetic testing available.”

FEMI STAFF (Ty Hughes): “What advice would you give to someone looking to get into this field of study?”

Rodney Baylor: “The field is fascinating, and everyone from our genetic counselors, lab techs, commercial sales, marketing, and customer operations team play a huge role in advancing this type of science. If someone is interested in this field, I encourage them to do the research, speak to individuals who may already be working in the industry, and check out our websites,www.GeneDx.com or www.Sema4.com.”

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JAY WHITE

There is nothing like a black man. Even more so, a God fearing and revering black man. Just as we as black women are gifts to black men, they are in turn, gifts to us. The Bible talks about the harvest, and the seeds that we sow. God’s plan, and all that He has in store for us…but it takes faith, hard work, and dedication. If we are made in His image, our lives should reflect that. It’s a beautiful and powerful thing to witness a black man walking in his purpose. Using all that God has placed in him. Seeing the strength, perseverance, gifts, and intellect of a black man. It truly is a Divine sight to see. Celebrating yet another one of our men, this interview put a smile on my face. Here’s why:

“GIFTED” AND TAPPED INTO THE HUSTLE

FEMI STAFF (Tyrane Hughes): “I learned some great things about you this week, when I was assigned to conduct your interview-and I am so impressed with the little that I have learned. Can you tell the readers who Jay White is from then (the beginning) to now?”

Written By: Tyrane Hughes

Jay White: “Thank you for the compliment (“You’re very welcome.”). I tapped into my gift of barbering when I was just twelve years old, and this gift literally took me around the world. I opened my first barbershop in Los Angeles, in 1998. I learned the value of discipline and saving money because it came fast, but I had to manage it. I saved and began investing in opportunities that would grant me more freedom. Those investments were acts of faith, because I never knew how they were going to turn out.

Before long, I developed good business acumen, but that pales in comparison to developing a radical and fearless faith. That faith has led me to take risks, travel to different countries on a whim, and accept FEMI MAGAZINE | 51 spontaneous opportunities.”

FEMI STAFF (Ty Hughes): “You're a very talented, multifaceted black man. It is clear that God has His hand on you. How did your brand Destiny Brands LLC come about?”

Jay White: “Destiny Brands came about when I discovered that I had tapped into mine. I believe we all have a destiny, and though it sounds like a destination, it is quite a journey. Destiny Brands was an extension of all the things I had encountered and set out to accomplish. Each begets another, and led me to brand my intellectual property and hardware into a brand. I wrote my first book 'Tap Into Your Destiny', that talks about my journey of learning how to tap dance and fuse it with poetry. I was more than a poet, and therefore I stood. Before long I began getting invited to other cities, states, and countries. My fashion of wearing bow ties during my performance became a hot ticket, and before long I had my own line of bow ties. The brand grew so fast that my manufacturing couldn't keep up. This pushed me into learning how to sew, and I began making bow ties. I literally began traveling around the world to get one yard of custom silk made to create one-of-a-kind custom bow ties. This custom bow tie business landed me in malls like Lenox, Phipps Plaza, and Stonecrest Mall. Before long, I had my own fragrance, candle, and soap line.

The rest is history.”

FEMI STAFF (Ty Hughes): “You wear many hats, and your brand has many faces…Can you speak on how important it is for black men to not only believe in themselves, but to not limit their options and levels of success?”

Jay White: “This is the single most important lesson I've learned. Some coaches, preachers, and advisors have preached for us to focus on one thing. I'm multi-talented, and I realized that I had a duty to the One that gave me the gifts in the first place. I started to use all of my gifts, but the real magic is knowing that each gift has a season. Knowing when it's time to use which gift is where the wisdom resides. As Black men, the world is constantly reminding us that we have to carve out our own place in society. Be comfortable with who The Divine called YOU to be, and try not to focus on the opinions of others.”

FEMI STAFF (Ty Hughes): “Faith. I love that word, and I am ALL about that life…You have a series of Devotional books, and one of them speaks about faith. Can you explain how imperative it is for black men to walk in faith?”

Jay White: “There is no other way for us. The weeds are created for us to walk through and as the leaders, this is the route. If you are afraid, then mediocrity and base living is just up ahead for you. We meet The Divine in the weeds.”

FEMI STAFF (Ty Hughes): “Mental health is not something that is placed high on the list of necessity in the black community. I mean it’s getting better, but it needs work…Please speak on how black men should better care for their mental health (including their family’s mental health), and give some of your tips for focusing on mental health as a black man. Also, please do speak on your view of how men (especially black men) get cheated out of the opportunity(ies) to even address and/or express their mental dealings (concerns,issues,needs,etc.).”

Jay White: “I understand that in many cases if you don't get up and go to work you won't earn money. I wish Black men would understand that there has been a construct put into place to make sure we subscribe to staying in the rat race. I believe that Black men must not only take time to get away, at least once per week to just be with themselves, but should have the support of his family and community alike. Activities like fishing, hiking, and being outdoors should be a norm in the life of a black man. This is the time to think, unwind and cast your cares upon The Divine.”

FEMI STAFF (Ty Hughes): “I saw a video giving a quick glimpse of who you are/what you’re about. There was a clip where you were looking at a young woman (a black woman who had come to one of your events, who was speaking with you about something) with such attentiveness, adoration, and care (promise even)…Can you talk to black men about the importance of loving a black woman (vice versa), be it in relationships, or in general (care, support, etc.)?”

Jay White: “Black women are the very reason that we are still in existence as a race of people. There have been obvious obstacles and nuances set in place for us to never reach our highest and best selves. Black women have played a role in sheltering us from the onslaught and intentional ploys to incarcerate, feminize, distract and belittle us. Black women that have not drank the “kool-aid”, and truly support us should be recognized and celebrated daily. We love each other, and most, if not all of the things we do within culture is trying to lease and gain the interest of each other. This is just an extension of black love. We can give and show more love to each other, but thank The Divine we are not where we used to be.”

FEMI STAFF (Ty Hughes): “What are some of the things you are looking forward to doing in 2022 and beyond?”

Jay White: “I am looking forward to employing more young Black males and helping them to become entrepreneurs. I am also looking forward to Delta Airlines accepting my proposal to sponsor two aircrafts to Africa at the end of 2022.”

I could say more, but I believe this beautiful brother has said enough. Follow him here: Instagram: jaythedreamer73 Websites: jaythedreamer.com

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William Brownlee Written By: Tyrane Hughes

You have an amazing background, and a very faith-inspiring story. Can you tell our readers about how it all began for you?

I would love for them to see the picture that God has painted of your life in full.

I grew up in West Philadelphia 46st Housing Projects, my mother was on drugs and my father suffered from mental issues. Growing up was rough but I didn't allow my past to handcuff my future. I started playing football in high school which led to me being on my way to the NFL I was on my way too signing my contract but God had other plans for my life, I gave up the NFL to pursue ministry full time.

You’ve made it clear that God’s presence has been with you all of your life. In 2016 God gave you a vision as well as a name for a church and bringing that vision to fruition meant sacrificing a career in the NFL (along with other opportunities). How did you know to trust God and the plan that He had for you within His Kingdom?

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The Emmanuel Christian Center (ECC) started out in Philadelphia (PA), and has branched out to Los Angeles (CA), Houston (TX), and Atlanta (GA). You also have the ECC Leadership Academy, and the Brownlee Scholarship Fund (BSF), which has given out 15 scholarships to help those having difficulties furthering their education. Tell us about these programs.

I'm big on education, and both programs assist with helping youth and young adults with their education. The Leadership Academy is a daycare and preschool and the BSF helps fund the needs of students for tuition, books, and or room and board. We recently gave away a Scholarship called “The Seed Of An Overcomer” to two local high school graduates from my alma mater Overbrook High School.

You’re also the founder of Divine Enterprises LLC. You run 14 active businesses, 5 nonprofit organizations, you have a food bank, clothing drive, and a toy drive...but that’s not all, you’ve trained business owners in legal and financial literacy (helping establish over 100 black owned businesses, and providing over $2,000,000 in grants and loans)...Wow! Tell us about how God placed all of this on your heart, and the experience of helping so many of our people establish themselves financially.

Overseer William Brownlee lives by this quote, “God does not have a respect of age when it comes to his blessings and promotions, ask DAVID!”

I live by the motto it's not about the income it's about impact, it brings me joy being able to positively impact the lives of my community. If I never receive anything back I'm okay with that as long as the lives of those around me are able to be changed.

God has truly been good to you, and your faithfulness has been rewarded with a beautiful family to share all of your success with. Can you explain the importance of a black man not only being successful but being a great leader and example to his family?

It's our mandate we were created to do so,Its important is to leave a legacy for those who follow me.We have to create the path, set the tone and pave the way.

There are many struggling to hear God’s voice, and are trying to live according to His plan, but they get discouraged thinking that they have to be perfect (and/or not knowing where to start). What would you say to those who may want to let go and let God, but don’t know how to go about doing so?

I would say to them if you move you lose, his voice is your life. If you lose his voice you lose your life. Matthew 4:4 says “Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God. “ Make a choice !

You are the shepherd of over 500 members, you have thousands of followers, and you’ve touched many lives...In 2022 you joined under Pastor Lonnie Hurnden (of Christian Compassion)-What’s next for Overseer William Brownlee?

ECC Philadelphia will be moving into a new building which is very exciting. We have much more space for members and to host things for the community. We’re still raising money for our building fund also.

Instagram @williambrownleesr

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Eric Bailey BESTSELLING AUTHOR DETAILS HOW HIS SKILLS IN ORGANIZATIONAL LEADERSHIP GIVE HIM INSIGHT INTO HUMAN BEHAVIOR.

Written By: JaBraun McKenzie

Eric M. Bailey is not only the bestselling author of the Cure for Stupidity: Using Brain Science to Explain Irrational Behavior and the President of his own human communication consulting firm, which happens to have the distinction of being known as one of the fastest growing consulting firms in the United States. He is also both a loving husband to his wife Jamie, and devoted father to their three children. He has been able to successfully transform his wisdom developed from his master’s degree in leadership & OrganizationalDevelopment from St. Louis University along with his personal life skills into the foundation that is now usedas the basis to create his Principles of Human Understanding.

You will be fascinated, such as I was to learn more about his unique approach to help us as a society to better use our own empathy coupled with our own analytical & critical thinking skills to bridge the gap with our Co-workers & close relationships to relate to one another in a much better way during our daily interactions. We delved deeper into his knowledge & unique skillset during our conversation in

Can you describe for our readers a little more a little more about your expertise and knowledge gained during your time in college?

It is funny, 10 years ago I did not even know what organizational development was! I was introduced to this field of study by my mentor Randy Currier. Well, it was during my time at St. Louis University when I really fell in love with the concept of Organizational Psychology. I discovered during my time in the master’s Program that I had a knack for helping people understand some of the most foundational elements of psychology. I learned how people are motivated in multiple ways. The thing that really made the most difference to me was the realization that there is an infinite amount of information out there about how the human mind works, and if I could only figure out how to share this information with people in a relatable way, I just might be able to make a difference in people’s lives. I truly do believe that if we take the time to understand how our brains work, and more importantly how do brains work for the people around us, we can change the world.

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Your ideals & teachings seem to lean heavily on the importance of having empathy as it relates to our perceptions of each other. Can you elaborate on why this is such an important character trait to possess?

Yes, Empathy is one of the most powerful traits we can possess when it comes to relating to other people. Here is the thing, we spend so much of our life trying to make the world & the people around us understand us and when it works, when someone truly understands us, it feels extremely good! It is a rare feeling, but I imagine that we all have experienced it at least once in our lives. The way that I see it, is if we understand how good it can feel to be truly seen & understood? Why don’t we spend more time giving this feeling to other people? The whole point of this work is that every single one of us has a diverse set of experiences, a diverse cultural background as well as educational backgrounds, and what we tend to do most often is expect that everybody we run into will have a complete understanding of our viewpoints & how we see the world.

The title of your book “The Cure for Stupidity:Brain Science and Irrational Behavior” is very intriguing & thought provoking.

What influenced it?

I do not know if you have noticed, but our world is becoming increasingly divided. Whether it is politics or religion or some other foundational element of society, we are losing our ability to communicate with each other. I have realized through my years of studying thebrain science of human communication that there are some very fundamental principles that once understood, can help us grow closer together with each other instead of continuing the trend of growing farther apart.

I read an online quote of yours that states “The more divided we are, the less empathy we feel for the other side, the more divided we get” in a time where unity is needed more than ever before, can you elaborate on this thought in further detail?

Wow, I am honored that you read my quote! This is aconcept called “The Empathy Gap.” This does not mean that we do not feel empathy, it just means that if we believe that we are on different teams, we will skipover our natural human empathy. Just think about watching a football game and your team is playing their arch-rival. If a member of the other team gets injured and must sit out for the rest of the game, isn’t it weird that somewhere deep inside of us, we are happy? This teaming or what psychologist call tribalism is everywhere! The impact of this is that our divided world is becoming even more divided. Now, as someone who spends a Lot of time talking with people on all sides of many arguments, what I have foundmost frequently is that we are all having the same thoughts & emotional reactions, we are just seeing things from different points of view.

How do we begin to properly & effectively discuss race relations & the tension that comes with being black or brown in America with our children?

This is a fantastic & incredibly important question. The first thing I always advise parents of any race is to make the conversation age appropriate. One of the things that a lot of people ask me is, “Is discussing race relations with my child going to reinforce the racial divisions that our country has? “This is an especially important question, and I am glad that people feel comfortable enough to ask me, but the answer is no, teaching our children to be understanding of this world, and have a wider vision of other people’s experience does not reinforce racial division. My wife & I spend a lot of time talking with our kids about their own worth & beauty. We think it is critical for our children to have a powerful sense of self-worth & their place in the world. At the same time, we teach them about past & present injustices that have plagued our world. Wewant them to be aware of what has happened, & what continues to happen, so that when they find themselves in a situation that is fraught with tension, they are better able to manage it.

What is the best method and age to bring up the subject?

In my opinion, there is not a single best age to talk about the realities of racism and discrimination, but rather it should be an ongoing conversation that expands and unfolds as children grow up. The topic of racism and discrimination is so big & so broad that most adults are still trying to understand its complexities. As our children grow, and their experiences add up, we can help them process these bigger topics and continue to make sense of their world.

How do we delicately discuss such recent tragedies such as the recent shootings in the Buffalo NY Supermarket, and the school shooting at Robb Elementary in Uvalde, Texas?

There is no getting around the fact that this is difficult. One thing that I would like to give parents out there is permission to be vulnerable in front of their children. My wife & I learned of the shooting in Texas in the evening and gave ourselves the evening to process or (try to process) all our thoughts, feelings, & emotions.The next morning, we gathered the kids & explained the tragic event & cried in front of them. We explained why we were having such a tough time. It may seem unnatural or uncomfortable but holding your child’s hands & saying something like” I am having a challenging time with this because…” is a fantastic way for them to both connect with you and for them to learn how to process their emotions. I As you have read with your own eyes this multi-faceted man of great intelligence & keen insight into how we can better communicate & get along with virtually anyone that matters to us in our lives & make our world a more empathetic one in which we get back to trying to understand each other’s varying points of view without Judgement and having too always be right. To directly quote Eric once more he says that “If we weren’t constantly living in judgement, we’d be freer to explore the world around us with reduced stress.” When asked what is next, he assures that he and his team are hard at work on what he calls some “Pretty Amazing Things” which include a meditation course, The Brain Science of Energy, as well as several new courses on the benefits of Adult Play. He has an overall goal to help people leverage brain science to be more present & productive in the world.

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MATTHEWS Dr. Leslie Matthews, a World-Renowned Specialist Tells You What Can Happen if You’re Lacking Vitamin D3!

Are you vitamin D deficient? Are you aware that a lack of that vitamin can cause problems with your health?

Dr. Leslie Ray Matthews is a medical specialist who has researched Vitamin D3 to the fullest and he has discovered great healing powers and why it’s one of the most powerful and important vitamins for good health. He is the first person to receive a patent for the treatment of concussions and traumatic brain injuries using Vitamin D3. For his work and service withVitamin D3, Dr. Matthews has received the Presidential Lifetime Achievement Award. You could say, he’s one of the top authorities in the world on the topic of its importance to your health.

Vitamin D is an essential vitamin and has many functions that help the body maintain good health.

For instance, it helps to absorb the calcium needed for the body’s bone support. Do you remember when your parents used to tell you to drink your milk so you can have strong bones?” Well, they were right; the calcium from the milk along with adequate Vitamin D consumption does matter to the health of your body and bones. Vitamin D also plays a major role in the health of other areas inyour body, and it can possibly help fight or prevent diseases as well.

The thing to remember is that you have to consume the recommended amounts to have a fighting chance, and the best source of Vitamin D intake is through your diet or by way of the sun. However, so many rarely get the proper amounts those ways, so according to Dr. Matthews, it’s important to take the supplement, Vitamin D3. Matthews is adamant about that. It is for people who lack getting sufficient amounts through their diets or the sun.

Meet Dr. Leslie Matthews as he gives you the scoop on Vitamin D3. This is our conversation.

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What breakthrough have you discovered about how vitamin D3 can help manage conditions like PTSD, depression, bipolar disorder, and schizophrenia?

There are receptors for vitamin D3 in the brain and every tissue in the body. Low levels of vitamin D3 have been found in patients with PTSD, depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, and suicide.

You were the first person to receive a patent for treating concussions and traumatic brain injuries as it relates to using vitamin D3. What impact does vitamin D3 have on these conditions and a person’s health?

Vitamin D3 is an anti-stress hormone that works on every cell and tissue in the human body. Vitamin D3 reduces chronic inflammation in the human body.

What can happen health-wise if a person is lacking vitamin D and/or vitamin D3?

Many things can go wrong if you are vitamin D3 deficient such as upper respiratory tract infections, depression, increased risk of strokes, heart attacks, cancer, joint pain, muscle pain, fatigue, brain fog, insomnia, brittle nails, hair loss, and many other symptoms.

What made you interested in studying the effects of vitamin D3 on the body?

Vitamin D3 is a hormone and the most powerful chemical in the human body. Vitamin D3 controls over 3,000 out of 30,000 genes in the human body including the immune response system.

What’s next for you?

I am working on a few more patents in the near future that will benefit the world.

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