The Asexual Manifesto Maria Markiewicz
Let’s abolish the family. The couple form. The girlfriends and the boyfriends. The husbands and the wives. Marriages, dates, and hook-ups. Anniversaries. Valentines Days. Dating apps. Monogamy and Polygamy. Engagements. Feeling guilty for what you do and what you don’t do. Having children. For who you are and who you are not. Feeling pressured to have children or to settle down. Let us abolish the patriarcho-heterocouple-sexual regime and create a new relationality. Let us love who we want and the way we want it. Let us have sex or not. Let us fall in love or not. Don’t glance in our beds making us feel like we fail to live. Like we are lacking. Because we are not full of absences but rather of excesses that make us who we are. There is nothing wrong with you who never had sex. You who never was in a couple. You who is in a relationship but feels like it somehow does not feel right. You who has sex only to please your partner. You who masturbates but does not perceive it as a ‘sexual’ act. You who always feels different. You who pretends to get it, but who never does. You who just discovered that there are more people ‘born this way’ and finally feels relieved. You who still thinks that is alone in the world and feels broken. You who struggles to answer difficult personal questions, feeling like there is never something to talk about. You who does not fit. You who does not conform. You who lives and who wants to live differently. You who makes others uncomfortable. You who is uncomfortable and who only learns how to become comfortable with yourself. You who must blaze the trails and always explain yourself to others. Always justify, always make 86
