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NEW WEDDING TRADITIONS: THIS COUPLE REVIVES FUSTY OLD CONVENTIONS

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VOGUE VENUES

How concrete and asphalt create the industrial standard

TWO HEARTS BEATING

*NSYNC

Lance Bass ties the knot with Michael Turchin

Fresh ideas for

AMAZING

AISLE STYLE

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SHINING, SHIMMERING, SPLENDID Regal gilded accents are the hottest trend in wedding décor. From subtle place cards to extravagant chandeliers, here’s how you can cash in on the golden standard. SAVE THE DATE It’s your day, so invite whomever you want. We’ll help you navigate the details of your commitment, from negotiating a tricky guest list to changing your last names. SUIT UP FOR SUMMER From traditional tuxes to seersucker suits, we’re on the pulse of the best classic and contemporary looks for your summer wedding. WHERE TO WED These hand-selected wedding venues across the U.S. are the best of the best in unconventional ceremonies.

IN SYNC, IN LOVE

DIY VOWS From the vows to the wedding party, we explain how to update antiquated rituals to make saying “I do” unique to you.

BORING CATERING BE GONE Admit it: Pasta and chicken are stale. We give you the skinny on the latest unconventional catering without skimping on fun or flavor.

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Lance Bass is saying bye, bye, bye to the single life. Find out how this heartthrob met the man of his dreams and get the inside scoop on his wedding.

POSTNUPTIAL PARADISE Bask in the beaches of Bora Bora or climb to the top of Table Mountain in Cape Town. Our list of idyllic locales will ensure that you have an unforgettable honeymoon.

BREAKING BLACK TIE

LOVE AROUND THE WORLD Discover weddings across cultures through these men who infuse their country’s heritage on their big day.

Don’t blacklist the black tie. These alternative tuxedos will transform a stale standard into suave chic.

VOWS: GYM RATS

Meet Stephen and Juan Pablo, a couple of fitness buffs who found they had a shared love of CrossFit. They and other newlyweds share their love stories in this issue.

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THE INDUSTRIAL STANDARD

These venue marvels are simultaneously cutting-edge and cultivated. See just how sophisticated and simple industrial weddings can be.

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DEAR READERS,

EDITORIAL EDITORS Benita Brown Bethany Christo Edward Hart Laura Heck Allison Pohle ADVISOR John Fennell

There’s never been a better time to celebrate your love. And there’s never been a better time for UNION — the first and only magazine for gay men who are preparing for their weddings. As we launch this magazine, we’ve watched courts and voters across the country shattering laws that prevented us from being able to publicly declare our love. Although the fight is not over, we know that the battle’s already won. Marriage equality is no longer a possibility. It’s inevitable. But as we enter a world where we can finally declare our vows and our love in front of family and friends, we’ve watched our loved ones struggle with how to prepare for their wedding days. Men who live in style want to get married in style. It’s our mantra as well as yours. But there’s been almost no guidance for gay men on how to plan their nuptials before now. That’s where UNION comes in. Published twice a year, UNION is the only magazine that’s devoted to your wedding needs. In each issue, we feature premium content on everything from guest-list etiquette to wedding-day fashion. In this first issue, we take an inside look at some of this season’s hottest trends in alternative tuxedos, proving that black and white is anything but ordinary. Our industrial wedding feature highlights the move away from staid and stilted spaces for wedding ceremonies. And we profile Lance Bass, the man whose bleach-blond spiky hair stole millions of girls’ hearts, and give you the inside story on the man who stole his. Online, we will share stories about men like you and their hopes, fears and triumphs with their weddings. We’ll provide a forum for you to answer questions, share advice and inspire one another. We’ll also curate tasteful wedding accessories and staples that are both affordable and elegant for your wedding day. We put our seal of approval on everything we retail. Although UNION will always strive to bring you the latest in wedding trends, we’ll never be just a seasonal look book for how to plan your wedding. Every year, in every issue, we’ll advocate for you and help you celebrate your love. We hope that you’ll include us on your journey. — THE EDITORS

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REFLECTIVE RICHES

TRENDS

Cast the room in a muted, Gatsby glow with large overhead chandeliers and smaller candelabras on each table.

ALL THAT’S GILDED IS GOLD Let golden colors adorn your accent pieces to create a palatial reception and ceremony. To avoid looking like the Taj Mahal, choose weathered metal for a rustic-yet-still-fabulous feel. Damask and brocade add a vintage, ornate touch to menu cards, invites and the cake. Enthrone your wedding with the details: gold-tipped white feathers dangling from the ceiling, gold silverware, candelabras, as many chandeliers as possible and embossed script penmanship on the place cards. The only thing shining brighter? The sparkle in your eyes. — BETHANY CHRISTO

SHINING INVITATIONS

Their eyes will dazzle from the moment they receive their invitation to the moment they walk into your glittering ceremony when you set the mood of your ceremony with goldembossed save the dates and invites.

SHIMMERING PLACE CARDS

That beet and goat cheese salad just sounds so much better when it’s announced with fancy script fonts and flourish designs.

SPLENDID TABLE SETTINGS

Take your guests wonder by wonder with extravagant place settings and centerpieces that manage to scream “I have impeccable design tastes” while subtly implying “And I cost a lot of money.”

TIERS OF JOY

Your cake is a statement piece. And this cake is stating that it is rocking the trendy gold color scheme very, very well.

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ETIQUETTE

GUEST-LIST GUESSWORK

It’s your day. Invite whomever you want.

Despite growing cultural acceptance, some grooms run into trouble with those who might not support their marriage, especially older family members. In a Pew Research study, only 38 percent of baby boomers support same-sex marriage. There are several schools of thought on whether you should invite people who don’t approve of your marriage, but each decision is personal to you and your groom. In the end, your wedding should be a celebration of love between you and your partner and the support given to you

relationship is to family members who doubt it. The same Pew survey showed that 14 percent of people decided to support gay marriage after finding out someone they know is gay. And, after all, an intimate and loving ceremony can drive anyone to reach for a tissue. Other grooms feel that their wedding day is not the time to prove a point, as peaceful as the point might be. Instead, they want to focus on their commitment and share that bond only with friends and family who believe in it, as well. This day, of all days, is a THIS DAY, OF ALL DAYS, IS A TIME WHEN time when you YOU AND YOUR GROOM CAN BE SELFISH. and your groom can be selfish. by friends and family who are there to If you feel a family member will cause a share the joy. spectacle, make others uncomfortable or Many grooms choose to invite those feel out of place, perhaps it’s best to leave who do not approve. For some, it’s a him or her off the guest list. matter of love and inclusion, and they If you do decide to invite want to extend that to those who might disapproving guests, there are some steps not give the same in return. For others, you and your groom can take to limit it’s a chance to show how powerful their any negative interactions. It starts with

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the invitation. You can set the tone of your day with a few key phrases such as inviting guests to “support” your marriage instead of simply “attending.” Have guests check RSVP boxes with phrases such as “sharing in our day” or “take part in our celebration.” These cues should tell guests what you and your groom are expecting from them. Another thing to consider is the officiant’s wording. You and your groom should not change the message of your ceremony to appease your guests, but there are some instances when the traditional wedding spiel might not fit. For example, many couples have asked officiants to leave out the phrase, “If anyone should object to this union, speak now or forever hold your peace.” Never mind that this is incredibly old-fashioned, these words offer a chance for hesitancy — a feeling that should not be evoked on your wedding day. — LAURA HECK

THESE GROOMS WERE MADE FOR WALKIN’

How to handle walking down the aisle

IT’S ALL IN THE MONEY Your love is priceless, but your wedding is not.

For centuries, a bride’s family has paid for the wedding — and offered a dowry. Now, many couples simply split up the bill by who can afford to pay for what. Still, many straight couples receive financial support for their wedding from family members. However, the research and education firm, the Gay Wedding Institute, found that 84 percent of gay men pay for their weddings on their own. So, assuming that you and your partner are paying, there are several ways to divide up the financial burden. First, you can split up events or certain aspects of your big day. For

instance, one groom could pay for flowers and another for the food. Or you could both dump a sum into a pot and use the total for your overall budget. Each groom can contribute equal amounts or as much as he is able to give. However you do it, discuss money early and often percent of in your gay couples pay for planning weddings on their own, process. without any help from friends or family

For grooms who want to meet in front of an officiant, at an altar or whatever the setup might be, it can be tricky to coordinate the moment of reveal. But couples have figured out many different ways to orchestrate the procession. Of course, this is assuming you and your groom haven’t decided to choreograph a flash mob down the aisle. The most common practice for grooms is to walk together down a center aisle or between guests, often holding hands or engaging with the surrounding friends and family. Those who want to create a moment where they meet each other choose to walk down separate paths or down the same aisle at different moments. Others choose to have one groom waiting while the other groom walks to meet him — a traditional symbol that can have special meaning in their relationship. In the end, make details like this as personal and comfortable as possible. Choose whatever feels the most meaningful — our vote goes to dancing. — LAURA HECK

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WHAT’S IN A NAME CHANGE? Here are ways your family legacy can continue through the ages Around the time of their wedding, many grooms face a tough decision that can affect them for the rest of their married lives — in sickness and in health, especially. Making the choice to change one or more surnames is difficult because this is one area where same-sex couples don’t have tradition to fall back on. If you do decide to change your name, the process usually involves a fee, filing a petition, appearing before a judge and paying to publicize the change. — LAURA HECK

HERE ARE SOME OPTIONS FOR YOU AND YOUR BELOVED: 1. KEEP BOTH OF YOUR LAST NAMES: This decision is certainly the easiest — there’s something to be said for preventing a paperwork headache. It’s also the cheapest. Sticking with your own surname might help partners feel more comfortable in their professional and personal identities after the wedding, especially if the couple wishes to shed the gendered stereotypes of the past. More and more couples, same-sex or otherwise, are choosing this option. There are less-antiquated ways to display your commitment.

declaration of your partnership. It speaks volumes about your commitment and familial connection to friends and strangers alike. Some same-sex couples view sharing a name as a fail-safe against legal, financial or medical troubles. Other couples consider hyphenating their names in the interest of expanding their family or carrying on a legacy. But the process can cost up to several hundred dollars in many states and could require extra legal processes. This merger can also result in a long and cumbersome name — Neil Patrick-Harris-Burtka, anyone? 3. ONE GROOM TAKES THE OTHER’S NAME: This practice could be especially meaningful when it comes to the families of each husband. Taking another family’s name shows dedication and appreciation for the legacy of the name and for the groom’s history. Some couples who want children consider sharing one name, especially if the other partner is involved

in the conception of the child. Again, sharing one name among husbands and families could make dealing with red tape easier, especially for insurance purposes. However, deciding who takes whose name could be a point of contention. Some grooms might see it a sign of love to take their partner’s name while others might find it hard to give up their own. 4. ADOPT AN ORIGINAL LAST NAME: Couples might feel that, instead of having to choose between their last names, it is easier to simply adopt one that unites them as a new, unique family. It is a mark of their joint journey to pick a name that suits both of them. Some couples choose from a distant or related family name while others chose one that means something significant to their relationship. This option comes with all of the pros of feeling publicly validated in your marriage, but it still involves the tedious legal steps and fees.

2. HYPHENATE YOUR NAMES: By joining your names together, you and your groom are making a public

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WHAT ABOUT MATCHING?

THE CLASSIC

FASHION

HIS & HIS

You can’t get any more classic than a black tuxedo. But the traditional tux doesn’t have to be boring. Go for a slim-fit suit to give the ensemble a twist. A skinny tie can help make the outfit less formal or stilted. But if you go with a classic tux, keep the colors to a minimum. Some hues of pink, blue or gold can work as an accent color, but wearing bright colors, especially on your vest, can detract from the cut of the tux. Keep it simple and clean, and when in doubt, go for the black-and-white combo.

THE NOW A gray summer suit is the default choice for men who want a modern take on a timeless style. If you want to go formal, wear a three-piece light gray suit. We love this look with a distinctive bow tie or a skinny tie. If you want a more casual look, ditch the vest and consider an open collar. Either way, a pocket square is a must, so put some thought into your accent color. A light shade of pink pops really nicely off a gray suit.

There are easy and subtle ways to differentiate your outfit from your groom’s. Many men alter their neckwear while wearing the same suit. If your groom chooses a bow tie, wear a skinny tie. Another way to achieve that slight variation is to use different accent colors or pocket squares with the same jacket. You can also vary boutonnieres or cufflinks. Just remember to keep it classy. Slight asymmetry in outfits can be desirable, but if the colors aren’t complimentary or the clothing is wildly divergent, it’ll make for ungainly wedding-day photos.

How to suit up for your summer wedding

The challenge for your wedding will be how to dress dapper while looking distinct from your guests. Wedding styles for men can vary wildly, but the important thing is to make sure the outfits match the tone and style of your ceremony. If you’re planning an elaborate, traditional ceremony, don’t dismiss the classic tuxedo. But if you want a casual, more intimate ceremony, there’s no reason to bother with a vest or cummerbund. Here are two looks for you to keep your eye on this summer along with trends you should keep in mind. — EDWARD HART

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IN STYLE THIS SUMMER LINEN SUITS are in for summer weddings because of their lightweight material and chic preppiness. The tailoring has to be just right, though, or else you’ll end up looking like a baggy tourist.

Ditch longer cuts. SHORT SUITS are all the rage right now.

Khaki has always been the traditional summer suit color, but navy, SEERSUCKER and gray are resurgent this season and will make you stand out in a sleek style.

Find some of our favorite designer options at UNION.com

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VENUES

WHERE TO WED

These venues are the best in unconventional ceremonies Looking for a venue that has experience staging stylish wedding receptions for all kinds of couples? Here are options from state to state. — BETHANY CHRISTO

BOSTON

Bittersweet Farms Situated on a 29-acre farm dating back to the 1920s, the restaurant provides an elegant country atmosphere and perfect setting for that special occasion celebration. It’s been hosting weddings of all types in its more recent history — the first same-sex ceremony occured in 2008 on the picturesque outdoor patio. FITS: 175 in main dining, 75 in private dining CONTACT: bsf@lafrancehospitality.com WEBSITE: eventsbylhc.com

Endorsed by Seattle Met Bride & Groom magazine in 2013 for its spectacular scenery.

SAN FRANCISCO

SEATTLE

Drive down an entryway lined with tall, majestic palm trees and be transported to a wine country estate. Elegantly situated in the Livermore Valley wine country and wrapped by expansive, verdant vines, the Palm has been hosting same-sex weddings since 2010.

The main photograph on Ray’s wedding page is of a same-sex couple if that says anything about its opendoor policy on the LGBTQ community. Besides that, Ray’s offers a gorgeous 30-foot waterfront bar that is the perfect location for marrying the one you love while capturing the magnificent view of Puget Sound and the Olympic Mountains.

Palm Event Center

FITS: 220 CONTACT: info@palmeventcenter.com WEBSITE: palmeventcenter.com

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Ray’s Boathouse

FITS: 85 with plated meal, 125 with canopied deck CONTACT: awolf@rays.com WEBSITE: rays.com

CEREMONY

Something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue are great traditions — in theory. However, it can be difficult to decide which traditions to incorporate into your ceremony and which to leave out. Here are five ways to turn antiquated rituals into contemporary classics. — ALLISON POHLE

DECLARING YOUR LOVE

When you take away the sophisticated decor, extravagant venue and even the guests, your wedding comes down to a single promise: “I do.” If you aren’t confident in your own prose, use

MAKING IT OFFICIAL

The person who officiates your ceremony doesn’t have to be an official figure; close friends and family members can become ordained ministers instantly thanks to the Internet. Becoming ordained can cost as little as $5, and some online ministries, such as the Universal Life Church, allow officiants to conduct ceremonies of any denomination. After your master of ceremonies receives the paperwork, he or she will be

responsible for conducting the ceremony and mailing your marriage license. It’s a big job but is one a close friend will take on with a proud “I do.”

VENTURING OUT OF THE TRADITIONAL VENUE

For a low-key ceremony, consider a friend or family member’s backyard or a public garden (weather permitting, of course). If you’d like to keep your spirits high, try a local pub. Or, what better place for you and your partner to start your family history together than a state historical site? If you’re feeling adventurous, try a glamping wedding and bring your guests together in a cozy tent. No matter the time of year, there’s an unconventional location for you to tie the knot.

PARTYING WITH YOUR GROOMSMEN

Whether you choose to have a wedding party is up to you, but grooms maids and groomsmen can provide emotional support even if they don’t stand next to you. Typically, a maid of honor or best man (or both) serves as a “witness” to sign the legal marriage document depending on where you tie the knot. Beyond that, whether you have an all-male or allfemale wedding party or a mix of the two is up to you.

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Refining your rituals

traditional language in your vows such as “with this ring, I thee wed.” But, if you prefer a more personalized touch, try composing your own by explaining how you first met, reciting song lyrics or the words in the first cards you gave to each other. No matter what you choose to do, keep it brief. Although it sounds short, vows average one minute in length.

ON THE COVER MATCHMAKER OFFICIALLY MAKES THE MATCH

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When MATTHEW DAVENPORT proposed to his longtime boyfriend, CONNOR BAUER, the first person he called wasn’t a family member — it was the couple’s mutual friend Kathy Dillon. Kathy (left) owns their neighborhood coffee store, D’Cups Café, a trendy vegan coffee shop that the stunning couple on our cover frequent. While Connor got his nonfat

soy latte at 7 a.m., Matthew usually which would allow her to conduct the strolled in and ordered the same thing ceremony. The day of the ceremony, at 9 a.m. Ever the matchmaker, Kathy Kathy calmed her jitters by holding a persuaded Matthew to come in at 7 binder filled with her notes. a.m. one Tuesday to meet Connor, and “For me, the best part was the rest was history. When Matthew and “FOR ME, THE BEST PART WAS Connor began planning PRONOUNCING THEM HUSBANDS.” their wedding, they both agreed that their D’Cup matchmaker should play a large pronouncing them husbands,” she part. They asked her to officiate the said. “Like their coffee orders, it’s ceremony. In less than 30 minutes, something I’ll never forget.” Kathy received an online certificate from the Universal Life Church,

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TO HAVE AND TO HONE

“One of the items on our wedding registry was a Keurig,” Matthew, left, admits. “But we promised Kathy we’ll always stop by for our nonfat soy lattes.”

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PICK YOUR POISON

If you need some inspiration for a boozy blast, try out your own version of these noteworthy, easily customizable cocktail styles. We recommend approaching your bartender (a professional or a pour-happy friend) with these basic bases and creating your own spin on them. The fun is in the test drives.

DRINKS

RAISE YOUR GLASS

Are custom cocktails cute or kitsch? If you and your groom are celebrating with an open bar, one of your options is to create a drink specifically for the occasion. But this is one trend that can easily toe the line between clever and over the top. If you want to offer this special touch, keep it fun instead of frivolous by building a drink around a special memory, place or event in your relationship’s history. For example, Jake and Tyler MorrisGoldstein offered guests a customized drink during their Atlanta reception called the “Manly Manhattan,” which was styled after the cocktail they shared on the evening of their engagement. Another couple, Jim Kline and Jim Reid, played on their shared first names at their Colorado nuptials by featuring a drink called “Jim Again,” using — what else? — Jim Beam. So how to make your customized cocktail happen? Work with your bartender to pick out a recipe and plan ahead for it by having a sign — or chalkboard or place holder or display card — that tells guests about the drink. Decide whether your groom would like to have a mixologystyle concoction with add-ins and adornments or a more straightforward shaken-not-stirred type of drink. But whether you have guests cozy up to the bar, use wait staff to dispense libations or have guests serve themselves, it’s good to let them know exactly what’s in the drink and what makes it so special. — LAURA HECK

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If there’s a bar at your big day, getting the drinks right will help the event flow gracefully. Try these Dirty Shirleys on for size.

SHRUBS These savory, tart concoctions were popular centuries ago when smugglers would sink barrels of liquor to avoid taxes — they added fruit and vinegar to the booze to mix with the leaked sea water. For the past couple of years, the bittersweet drinks have been making a resurgence among tuned-in American bars and restaurants. Many combinations are possible as long as you start with a fruit-vinegar syrup base. The combination of sweet and tart is addicting, believe us. Our best bet? Rosemary pineapple. GLASS OF CHOICE: Highball

MOSCOW MULES If vodka is your vice of choice, there’s no better way to indulge than with a Moscow mule. Let guests enjoy it with your own version of these fizzy, bright drinks. Did we say heavy on the vodka? Mules can knock you off your feet if you’re not careful — but save that for the honeymoon. Traditionally made of vodka, ginger beer and lime, mules can be infused with almost anything: cinnamon sticks, cloves, orange juice, cranberries, you name it. GLASS OF CHOICE: Copper or tin mug MOONSHINE It’s not just for bootleggers anymore. It was created as a backwoods brew in the Appalachian mountains and was an illegal spirit for decades. Since it became legal, moonshine has become a trendy, upscale base for many kinds of adult beverages. It’s caught on so well that many whiskey companies are starting to sweat the competition. Some people prefer to enjoy the bold taste on its own, but the booze can also mix perfectly with dainty libations such as sangria. For a refreshing summer drink, work with your bartender to create a bee sting: moonshine with lemon juice, honey and iced tea. GLASS OF CHOICE: Mason jar SPRING/SUMMER 2014 | UNION | 19

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FOOD TRUCK FIESTA Spice up your reception menu with the freshest food trend on wheels. Food trucks have captured national attention with Food Network shows dedicated to their creative cuisines and have made quality gastronomy available to foodies nationwide. Spring and summer weddings are the optimal times to have guests step outside to crunch on Mexican-inspired munchies. Food trucks are also cheaper than traditional sit-down dinners and allow guests to mingle as they wait in line for their tacos. PLAYING WITH FIRE Be the eternal people-pleasing couple with a wood-fired pizza buffet. All of your guests are sure to love the casual yet authentic Italian-style cuisine, especially if it’s paired with a wine bar. Most mobile ovens can crank out 12-inch pies in as little as 90 seconds and offer vegetarian and gluten-free options that will make everyone happy. The wood-firing oven also provides an air of ambiance and an eye-catching spectacle ideal for cool, outdoor spring weddings. BACKYARD BBQ Whether or not you’re from Texas, barbecue is something you don’t mess with. And, despite the risk of getting sauce on your suit, a barbecue-themed reception dinner is sure to put your guests in a finger-lickin’ good mood. To add variety to your brisket batch, offer a range of sauces. You can also choose an assortment of meats, including chicken, ribs or pulled pork sandwiches. Barbecue offers guests the taste of summer without breaking your bank. Don’t forget to stock the bar with Shiner to make your toast with Texas’s best.

FOOD

KICK-ASS CATERING Justified or not, food is the No. 1 thing guests like to complain about at weddings. Eschew the classic sitdown dinner and ensure your partygoers have nothing but the fondest memories of your wedding feast with these five unconventional catering ideas. — ALLISON POHLE

BEST WISHES AND CRAWFISHES Cater your reception with a crawfish boil, and y’all are sure to have a party with more soul than Mardi Gras. It hasn’t taken long for couples to catch on to the fact that specialty seafood suppers are the best way to show your guests Southern home-style cooking done right. Many caterers can boil crawfish for shell-shucking groups ranging

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from 25 to 1,000 guests. They also provide all the fixin’s, with boiled sweet potatoes and corn cobettes, steaming dirty rice, creamy corn pudding spiced up with jalapeno slices, bacon-bit baked beans and thick potato salad. Additionally, some caterers serve homemade hush puppies, jambalaya, cole slaw and bread pudding flavored with whiskey sauce. Your guests can wash their meals down with sweet tea, and, of course, an open bar stocked with bourbon. If they’re able to stop themselves from going back for seconds and thirds, your friends and revelers can enjoy a king cake-themed dessert. Mardi Gras, often like wedding receptions, is about excess, and your personal fête is the prime time to splurge seafood-style.

TRENDY TAPAS Celebrate the merging of your families with a family-style tapas dinner. Small in size but big in flavor, these Spanish plates will bring a foreign flair to your reception. Hors d’oeuvres weddings are popular this season but might not be appreciated by older guests who prefer a sit-down meal. To compromise, offer an array of cold and warm tapas, such as mini empanadas and manchengo cheese croquettas, but also provide a paella station for a more filling feast.

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FINISHING TOUCH

MIDNIGHT SNACKS

Many couples are supplementing their guests’ alcohol-soaking abilities with a surprise midnight snack. These are usually brought out around 11 p.m. to help boost a fading crowd and keep the party going. But a mistake many grooms make is choosing another sugary dessert, says New York-based wedding

planner Susan Hampton. “Stick to carbs and protein, something solid,” she says. “Many guests have already had cake and sugary drinks all night, so something formidable will definitely help them keep up the party for a few more hours.” She suggests a spread of charcuterie or small, grab-and-go sandwiches.

SAME LOVE SONGS For grooms who wish to share one of the best wedding clichés ever: the first dance as husband and husband. “I Was Made For You” by She & Him “The Book of Love” by Peter Gabriel “Can’t Take My Eyes Off Of You” by Frankie Valli “You Are The Best Thing” by Ray LaMontagne “I Melt” by Rascal Flatts “When You Say Nothing At All” by Ronan Keating

CAKE TOPPERS If you and your groom have a wedding cake and want to participate in the tradition of having figurines on top, it could be hard to find a representation of you and your partner. But there are several places to look:

WEDDINGCOLLECTIBLES.COM: Finding

ETSY: For a kitschy look, search through

Wilson makes same-sex cake toppers that are more like statues than trinkets.

the boutique vendors on this craft site.

a topper to represent a groom of color can be even more difficult, and this is one of the few companies that has a decent variety for you to choose from. TY WILSON: For a more upscale feel, Ty

“Can’t Help Falling In Love” by Ingrid Michaelson “The Promise” by Tracy Chapman

Find our playlists on Spotify for other love songs.

AMAZON: The product giant has a variety

of fun cake toppers of grooms in action. It also has a few mix-and-match products where you can select two different males and pair them together. WEDDINGSTAR: Although some of this

company’s toppers are a bit bizarre, they offer individual grooms for sale.

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Your neighborhood bakery probably won’t have a cake topper with two grooms on it. Go to UNION.com/store for sweet statues that will match your ceremony.

Lance Bass has never been shy about wanting to get married and start a family. When he met Michael Turchin, he says it felt like the universe was telling him that Michael’s the one.

Lance Bass stole a generation of young women’s hearts. Now meet the man who stole his. BY EDWARD HART

e’s a small-town boy from Mississippi who was catapulted to fame as a member of one of the most popular boy bands of all time. Now, more than a decade after he emerged as a teen heartthrob with his distinctive bleach-blond spiky locks, Lance Bass is getting ready to walk down the aisle with the man of his dreams. Family’s always been important to Lance, and he says he can’t wait to start his own with his hunky fiancé, Michael Turchin.

SMALL-TOWN BOY

No one could’ve known that the preteen singer in his Southern Baptist church choir would end up as one of the most famous musicians and gay icons in America. Lance grew up in an extremely devout Mississippi family, and his music career and much of his early life revolved around the Baptist church. But his talent was evident early on. As a teen he traveled around the state in show choir groups and even performed at events for the ultraconservative U.S. Sen. Trent Lott. Everything changed, though, in 1995 during his junior year of high school. Justin Timberlake’s vocal coach had worked with Lance when he was in the Mississippi show choir, and when the original bass singer for the band Timberlake was starting dropped out, Timberlake was in desperate need of a replacement. Timberlake called Lance to see if he’d be interested in auditioning for *NSYNC, and the rest is history. By 1997, the group became an overnight sensation in Europe and America, and by 2000, *NSYNC had recorded the fastest-selling record of all time with No Strings Attached. The boys of *NSYNC were all teen icons, as popular and recognizable as One Direction is today. After the group disbanded in 2002, Lance was able to cash in on his fame by appearing in film, television and theater roles.

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THE MAN WHO STOLE HIS HEART Although he dated women exclusively until he was 22, the teen heartthrob harbored a secret. The rumors about Lance being gay started circulating in the mid-2000s as paparazzi began capturing shots of him at gay bars. In 2006, he made international headlines by coming out on the cover of People. “The thing is, I'm not ashamed — that's the one thing I want to say,” he said at the time. “I don't think it's wrong, I'm not devastated going through this. I'm more liberated and happy than I've been my whole life. I'm just happy.” After coming out, Lance has been in a number of high-profile relationships. He was briefly linked to Amazing Race winner Reichen Lehmkuhlin. And after he dated the Brazilian model Pedro Andrade. Lance has never been shy about his desire to get married and raise a family. In 2011, he told the Daily Beast that he hoped to tie the knot. “I definitely want that. I'm a Southerner. We dream of having the family and the kids, and the parents want grandkids.” Lance just hadn’t met the man for him yet. But when he met Michael Turchin in 2011, he knew he’d found the real deal. The Miami native is an artist and actor. With his dark, well-coiffed hair, it’s easy to see why he caught Lance’s eye. But the former teen idol isn’t just attracted to Michael for his looks. He has a degree in finance from Georgetown, and his art has been making a big splash in Los Angeles, where he and Lance live together. In three years of dating, Lance says they haven’t fought once. "I think it's just the universe telling me he's the one," he told ABC News.

THE PROPOSAL

A week after reuniting with *NSYNC at the MTV Video Music Awards, Lance was finally ready to pop the question. Finding the ring was the hardest part. Lance went to three stores without any luck. He couldn’t find the right ring anywhere. Then when he walked into Saks he saw the David Yurman ring that he knew would be right for Michael. Although the ring was a struggle, he never doubted that Michael would say yes. On a trip to New Orleans in September, they went to Jackson Square at twilight. When they got there, the park was closed, and so outside the gates, Lance got down on one knee and asked Michael to marry him. Afterward, they went to a nearby karaoke bar where Lance and Michael’s friends were waiting

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It’s been a whirlwind year for Lance. *NSYNC reunited for an appearance at the MTV Music Video Awards this fall (bottom). In the midst of preparing for two new reality shows, he’s planning for nuptials in the fall.

for them to celebrate. "They're so great together. I'm completely thrilled for them," a close friend told People after the engagement. "Lance had his heart set on asking Michael here in New Orleans and celebrating with some of his closest friends who came in for the weekend." Shortly after, Michael cryptically hinted at the engagement by tweeting that he’s the “happiest guy in the world.” At the end of the weekend, Lance let the world know that he was ready to spend the rest of his life with Michael. “He said YES!!” Lance posted on Instagram. “Love this man.”

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I think it’s just the universe telling me [Michael]’s the one.”

DOWN THE AISLE

This has been a hectic year for Lance. Since the dissolution of *NSYNC, he’s been in and out of the public eye. But this spring and summer have been a whirlwind. He’s releasing his first debut single. It’s been 12 years since the band broke up, but he’s finally charting his own musical career. At the same time, he’s developed a new reality show on Lifetime and is working on a show for E! that’s scheduled for release sometime this year. In the thick of all that, he’s had to plan his wedding. “It’s crazy because with two guys planning a wedding, it’s a little harder because we’re guys,” Lance told Ryan

Seacrest. “But we are slowly getting it together. We hope to walk down the aisle maybe this coming fall.” Jessica Biel has been helping him out with some pointers. “One really cool idea she had was that, on the invites — because we love our onesies — we send out personalized onesies to all our guests so that at midnight after the reception, it turns into a pajama party,” Lance told US Weekly. “How fun would that be? I think we might be doing that one. That was something we both loved.” But so far, the rest of the details are being pieced together. Lance says that he’s always dreamed of having an outdoor

wedding, and the couple is planning for their nuptials to take place in October. And although Lance and Michael are figuring out the finer details, one thing is for sure: It’ll be a high-class affair. “The one cool thing that I really want to do is, because there is no wedding dress, I want all the ladies to come completely in couture and just overthe-top high fashion,” Lance told Access Hollywood. “Like we’re going to the Met Ball or something.” For the honeymoon, Lance wants to go with Michael to Paris. It’s one of his favorite places on earth. He says he can’t wait to experience his favorite place on earth with his husband. U

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Retire the Tired GEOMETRIC ACCENTS

A triangular collar tip gives a Western edge to the small but impactful details. Topman, $35

here are men who wed, and there are men who wed boldly. For those who want an alternative to the stale black-tie standard, there is one caveat: You have to own it. An alternative tuxedo provides drama, texture and contrast but also toes the line of gimmicks and gaffes. The following aisle styles are for those who know that being different does not mean distressed jeans or pinstripes — ever. Instead, being different is all about subtlety and playing off of the best parts of what makes something classic: quality, shape and fit. — BETHANY CHRISTO

PATTERNED PANACHE The patterned button-down is a prime option for the man-child in all of us who doesn’t want his playful side to completely overpower his sense of tradition. It’s a risk; purists will scoff. But with a trim jacket and pants, trendiness will prevail. Make sure your button-down is freshly pressed, or you will look like that guy who thinks it’s quirky to wear floral Hawaiian shirts to the beach. Please to do not get tacky confused with pure, au courant panache. Best paired with equally chic shoes and an overgrown beard.

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MIDNIGHT BLUE A navy tuxedo strikes a classic note with crisp coloring and trim lines. However, there is a certain je ne sais quoi about wearing a not-quite-black color that will give you effortless distinction. It’s best to have your partner wear another dark gray or black shade to complement you. After all, you want to stand out, not stand apart. Seeing that you’re already leaning toward formal, pull from that trend with dignified cufflinks, suspenders and shined shoes. Or don’t. The navy tuxedo is just badass enough that there aren’t really any rules. An added bonus: photographers swear that the navy details register better after film develops. SPRING/SUMMER 2014 | UNION | 29

VA-VA VINTAGE

BOW DOWN, BOW TIE

Throw back to a time where men were always copacetic and normcore wasn’t even close to being in our vocabulary. Wearing a vintage dinner jacket elicits the casual elegance of Humphrey Bogart with a hipster’s eclectic smudging. The possibilities here are as infinite as the number of thrift shops that offer vintage attire. Lamé, floral, pastel, paisley — it’s an easy way to steal the show. One thing Macklemore forgot to mention: tailoring is key. Most vintage finds will not have the right measurements, so they’ll have to be tailored before your wedding day.

Instead of looking old school, a muted bow tie looks so right now. Lanvin, $185

VELVETY FINISH FOREVER & ALWAYS

A velvet jacket adds flair to formality with its textured finesse. The key word here is jacket, not suit. Keep the rest of the ensemble simple: Pants, ties and shoes should only complement rather than detract. Black is the safest velvet option, but an understated bottle green, burgundy or gray could go a long way. If you’re going to add a piece of flair, the ensemble is practically begging for a casual cravat or bow tie. Although be careful not to cross over from dapper to dandy. For trousers, a charcoal gray can do no wrong, but be forewarned that this blazer will heat everything up, so it’s not a bad idea to keep your pant material light so there’s a chance for relief.

Black ampersand cufflinks subtly show your devotion to each other without the flashy diamonds. Topman, $35

A WRIST IS A TERRIBLE THING TO WASTE

No diamonds, no 16 dials, just a classic piece of jewelry that will complement any suit. Seiko, $200

PATTERNED PAIRS

Patterns aren’t just for artsy graphic tees anymore. Make a statement with a simple suit paired with kick-ass shoes. Jimmy Choo, $750

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THE POWER OF THE POCKET SQUARE

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THE INDUSTRIAL WEDDING BY ALLISON POHLE

are we emphasize the all-too-perfect symbolism of an industrial venue? As a blank canvas with open spaces, crisp, chic lines and an air of modern simplicity, the industrial venue is the outward expression of a new beginning full of possibility built on a concrete foundation. These venues, with an urban loft feel, are enhanced by large windows that let natural summer sunshine in by day and glow in the elegant exposed lighting by night. They also remain intimate through designated seating areas, yet spacious, as the stunning elevated ceilings give guests room to tilt their heads back in awe. To prevent the metallic hues from overpowering the mood, many wedding planners will add bright bouquets of seasonal flowers as centerpieces. The effect only becomes warmer when illuminated by dangling Einstein bulbs, which might even function

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as centerpieces on their own. Wedding ceremonies centered on the industrial prevent the reception from feeling too feminine, but also showcase the newlyweds discerning tastes and sophisticated sense of design. Plus, gritty industrial venues that have been re-purposed from their old roles as textile mills, branding factories and warehouses add a certain historical charm to your ceremony — one that can’t be recreated in a banquet hall. When the lights fade on the city outside, your sophisticated soldered strands will light up the dance floor, and the looks of amazement in your guests’ eyes. Industrial wedding venues with exposed brick create an opulence of glamour that verges on vintage while maintaining a solid sense of modernity. The combination of elegance and edge makes these venues the ultimate modern wedding marvels.

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A. INDUSTRIAL ILLUMINATION: Share the spotlight with your guests by hanging these exposed Edison bulbs. Tie bulbs with wire for an aerial centerpiece that emanates an edgy, modern vibe. A few tealight candles beneath the strands will create a subtle blush that will glow long after dinner ends. B. GALVANIZED GLAMOUR: To accommodate a large party, arrange long banquet tables in the center of your venue and keep the color scheme simple. The real accents come in the lights, which provide strips of warm warehouse ambience. C. MONOCHROMATIC BLOOMS: To soften up steel-cut edges and a cold industrial atmosphere, place vases filled with complementary colored flowers in the middle of each table. The warm hues will look convivial under exposed lighting, and another glass vase filled with monochrome rustic accents, such as earthy twigs, will prevent an overwhelming air of femininity. D. PUT IN PLACE: Instead of labeling every place setting, leave more table space for the menus and centerpieces and let your guests seat themselves after consulting an aluminum escort board. Ambitious grooms can also hang personalized place cards for every guest from the board for a fuller seating-assignment display.

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E A. CENTER OF ATTENTION: Skip the plain glass vases, and nail your centerpiece into place with a collection of hardware. Tie your favorite tools or accessories around the vase with a strand of wire. If the nails slip, grab the hot glue gun, instead of a hammer, to secure them. B. MODERN METAL: Too much metal might seem cold, but a sit-down dinner on this polished alloy will warm your cultivated heart. The combination of edgy exposed brick, a weathered wooden table and sophisticated steel makes for a modern material marvel. Additionally, seating guests at dinner tables rather than banquet tables will add to the cozy, intimate vibe — and this is all before the wine.

A C. COILED UP: A galvanized garden will sprout just in time for your spring wedding with these industrial table settings. Stretch an aluminum coil along the length of the table for single flowers to peek out from underneath. The bright pops of color will liven up the décor without overpowering the theme.

D. CLEVER WITHOUT CAMP: Mason jars are the DIY bride’s favorite medium to work in, but there’s room for their trendy presence in a modern masculine wedding, too. Placing small candles inside the transparent shells on top of dark wood tables will replace the trite, kitschy mason jar trend with a piece of distinguished décor.

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E. INDUSTRIAL REVOLUTION: To mix earthy with urban, channel robust natural hues into your design palette. Minimalist table settings adorned with earth tone goblets will tie your modern reception to its natural roots. Pale glasses with engraved diamonds will sparkle in the sunlight and continue to shine under the exposed lighting. A spread adorned with earthy dining wear will bring a cool, chic vibe to an elegant, urban ceremony. F. SOLDERED SOPHISTICATION: Metal place settings are markedly masculine, yet softened by the subtle touches of wood in the napkin holders. The hand-carved initialed napkin rings are beautiful keepsakes for guests, and the neutral décor palette enhances the in-vogue factor of the industrial venue. Instead of flowers, you might incorporate metal springs, large screws and washers into centerpieces to further create an elemental eye-catcher.

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HONEYMOON

Nothing says luxury like a stay in an overwater bungalow above a pure blue lagoon. There’s a reason they call Bora Bora the “jewel of the Pacific.”

SOMEWHERE OVER THE RAINBOW The best gay-friendly honeymoon locations for spring and summer Although your No. 1 priority in choosing a honeymoon location is making memories at a top-notch destination, you’ll want to make sure you won’t have to deal with intolerance. We’ve compiled a list of some of the best places to visit based on their open laws toward marriage equality but also because they happen to be idyllic locales for postnuptial escapes. These five destinations cover those who want an urban immersion, a day of beach basking, adventurous multi-terrain treks, a spicy nightlife or a chance to connect with culture. — BETHANY CHRISTO

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HONEYMOON

U FOR ADVENTURE-SEEKERS Apparently it is possible to have wildlife safaris in addition to luxurious beaches. Magical Cape Town has it all — stunning beaches, cultured vineyards, bold nightlife and rich dining. After you’ve satiated yourself and permanently deleted your wedding to-do list in this celebrated safe haven for gays, re-elevate your heart rate by roving through one of the “Big Five” wildlife parks and reserves located within a few hours of Cape Town or by spending a better part of your day climbing to the top of Table Mountain.

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FOR PUB-CRAWLERS

BERGEN

BUENOS AIRES

Bergen is the second-biggest city in Norway and charmingly venerable, as well. Founded in 1070, the university town is filled with old architecture hugging an ancient harbor. Unlike its architecture, Bergen has a progressive attitude toward the gay community. Its nickname is “Gateway to the Fjords” because it’s settled between Sognefjord to the north and Hardangerfjord to the south; how perfect does that sound? The people are friendly and warm. Plus, during the summer, the sun shines in Bergen for 24 hours.

In 2010, Argentina became the first Latin American country to legalize same-sex marriage, so it only makes sense that Buenos Aires became the place south of the Equator for you to shake things up after the sun goes down. Although when the sun comes back up, there’s plenty of art to occupy your time. Notably, the Art Hotel doubles as a museum for contemporary art located between the Recoleta and Norte barrios. If you want to spice up your palate, Buenos Aires claims some of the most flavorful beef and richest Malbecs in South America.

TRY: A midnight sun cruise, which is exactly as it sounds. Find tranquility in the serene waters and glacier mountains late into the night.

CAPE TOWN

TRY: By going a few miles into the peninsula, you can view Cape Town from a completely different perspective. Our recommendation is through one of the many boat and yacht charters along the coastline.

FOR CULTURE-CRAVERS

TRY: A salsa or tango class with him: These might come in handy when you run out of dance moves at 2 a.m.

FOR CITY-SLICKERS TORONTO

FOR BEACH-BASKERS BORA BORA This tiny French Polynesian island is a standout as a luxurious escape full of romance … and as a gay-friendly locale. The so-called “jewel of the Pacific” stars blue lagoons with seven different shades of blue, white sandy beaches and tranquil temperatures. The overwater bungalows, which are thatched huts jutting into

the lagoon, might be the perfect place to share your love and maybe even stay forever. “Private island” does have a nice ring, now that you mention it. TRY: Tear yourself away from your private sundeck for an afternoon of underwater events such as scuba diving, feeding sharks by hand and lunching on the catch of the day.

Toronto is the ideal urban honeymoon, complete with the cobblestones of Paris, the boroughs of London and the culture of Rome … just a whole lot cheaper. Canada’s largest city is gay-friendly and features art museums, a bursting theater district and a vast underground mall. From June 20 through June 29, 2014, it will play host to WorldPride near the LGBTQ neighborhoods on Church and Wellesley streets if you feel like marching for your cause on your honeymoon. TRY: A candlelight dinner from 50 stories up. The Canoe Restaurant and Bar or the CN Tower boast the best view. Download our printable packing list for these idyllic locations and more at UNION.com/honeymoon.

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GLOBAL

UNIONS AROUND THE WORLD

How men across continents are sharing their vows From southeast Asia to the coast of Rio de Janeiro, men are claiming their love and doing it with style. Many of these couples are the first in their country to wed legally. They’re setting their own stage by fusing unconventional ceremonies with cultural traditions. The love these men share is a message to the world that their unions deserve recognition. — BENITA BROWN

MYANMAR

FIRST PUBLIC GAY WEDDING:

Myanmar outlaws same-sex marriages, but that didn’t stop these two men. At an upmarket Yangon hotel, Tin Ko Ko, 38, and Myo Min Htet, 28, confessed their commitment to each other in front of the 200 guests attending their wedding. The couple wore traditional clothing that consisted of matching red-and-white jackets and red silk pants. The room was decorated with beautiful jasmine garlands that brought pops of vibrant color on the back of each guest’s chair. With the support and love of Tin Ko Ko and Myo Min Htet’s family, they were able to make their day special. “We both tried hard to make this a reality,” Myo Min Htet says. “I am almost speechless; I am so happy.”

BRAZIL RIO DE JANEIRO MASS GAY WEDDING:

In Rio de Janeiro, 130 gay couples joined together in a mass wedding ceremony. Emotions swelled as 260 individuals shared their special moments together with the Superior Court of Justice leading the city’s first gay civil marriages. Giuseppe Laricchia, 21, saw marrying his boyfriend, Ian, as a way of finally claiming their human rights. “We need to have equality compared to heterosexual couples,” he says. The newlywed couples lined up in the courtroom for what was the world’s largest communal gay wedding. Giuseppe and Ian Ramos joined the other couples early that morning to seal their spot in line. After an hour of waiting, they recited their vows in front of the crowd, who cheered them on once they were pronounced husband and husband.

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CANADA

WEDDING WITH A HINDU INFLUENCE: Rishi Bera and Dan Smith joined hand-in-hand with matching henna inkings of each other’s initials at their Hindu wedding ceremony. The grooms’ sangeet party, the pre-wedding party for Indian weddings, was held in Oakville, Ontario, at Rishi’s family home, and a reception followed at the Glen Abbey Golf Club. The golf club was transformed into a garden with red and white roses, blue and green orchids, and garlands across the entire space. After the ornate celebration the grooms said “Our favorite part was that we could have an authentic gay Hindu wedding in the first place, with all of our close friends and family being so supportive and just having a great time.” The night ended with live music. The band sang traditional folk songs while playing a large percussion drum called a dholki. Rishi and Dan joined their families on the floor to celebrate their first dance as a married couple.

UNITED KINGDOM

FIRST GAY UK WEDDING CEREMONY:

Bernardo Marti, 47, and John Coffey, 52, were the first gay couple to marry in England and Wales. Starting on March 29, marriage laws now include same-sex couples due to England’s Marriage (Same-Sex Couples) Act. Marti and Coffey booked a timeslot a minute after midnight on the day gay marriage was recognized. They said that they hoped to make history by having a double wedding with a straight couple. The couple originally met while working at a coffee shop near where Marti attended college 25 years ago and have been inseparable ever since. The wedding was a small private event with 30 of Marti and Coffey’s close relatives and friends.

VOWS

THEY DO STAR-CROSSFIT LOVERS STEPHEN COOPER AND JUAN PABLO VIDAL AUSTIN, TX When Stephen Cooper and Juan Pablo Vidal met in an Austin, Texas, bar, it wasn’t love at first sight. In fact, it wasn’t love until several sights later. The two ran in overlapping social circles for several months before finally catching one another’s fancy at a dinner party celebrating a mutual friend, where the handsome pair was seated next to each other. “It took us until then to really focus on one another as real friends,” Mr. Cooper remembers. “Before that, it was just a fleeting, ‘Hi, how are you? How is CrossFit going?’” And it was their shared interest in CrossFit, baked chicken breasts and espresso shots that turned their friendship into a romance. After becoming gym partners for a few weeks, the two realized their “Workouts Of the Day” changed their connection from physical to emotional. Almost three years after their first joint workout, Mr. Cooper and Mr. Vidal exchanged rings and vows on April 24 in a joyful commitment ceremony on a private estate about 20 miles outside of Austin. Both families were there to help celebrate the occasion, as well as 50 other close friends. Mr. Cooper’s former roommate, Mr. Dan Ligibel, officiated the ceremony with personal touches such as reading the couple’s favorite song lyrics. The reception followed immediately and included a cocktail hour with passed hors d’oeuvres, and dancers enjoyed a DJ and dance floor built especially for the occasion. The four-tiered cake from local Dream Bakery was sweetened naturally and matched the deep-blue décor. The smiling couple departed the festivities around 1:30 a.m. for their honeymoon to Mr. Vidal’s home of Mexico City.

“We have a bet going about who’s going to get fat first as we grow old together.” says Juan, on right.

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PHOTOS COURTESY OF JILLIAN ROSE

RIVALS IN LOVE ALEX ESPOSITO AND TRISTAN BRATCHER SONOMA, CA The love between Alex Esposito and Tristan Bratcher grew over tables scattered with leftover bones from 50cent buffalo wings and the sports section of newspapers. The pair first met in 2009 through a fantasy football league organized by a mutual friend. Their teams ended up competing against each other for the Super Bowl and the $600 pool of winnings. Mr. Esposito won, something Mr. Bratcher has yet to live down. “He was livid,” Mr. Esposito says with a chuckle. “But I used part of the winnings to take him on our first date.” Although Mr. Esposito is the more football-savvy of the pair, Mr. Bratcher was able to seek his revenge when he won a March Madness bracket challenge a couple of months later. From there, a teasing rivalry and love of sports led to a supportive and strong relationship. The couple’s engagement is a bittersweet tale for Mr. Esposito. After watching his favorite football team, the New England Patriots, lose the 2012 Super Bowl, he fell into an angry

mood that only Mr. Bratcher was able to break him out of. “He was so upset, and I couldn’t stop laughing at him,” Mr. Bratcher says. “It made me realize that I always want to be the one to help him smile again.” He asked Mr. Esposito to marry him that very night and turned the occasion from one of grief to celebration. After a long engagement, the couple celebrated in an outdoor symbolic ceremony at a friend’s winery in Sonoma, Calif., followed by their legal ceremony, which was carried out by a California Justice of the Peace and attended by several close friends. At the reception, which included a finger-food buffet, a large tent and covered tables decorated with merchandise from their favorite sports teams. The pair commissioned an L.A.-based company to set up several TV screens to stream the ongoing games and provide musical entertainment after the cocktail hour. The grooms were able to sneak away after a long night of dancing and games to a nearby bed and breakfast for their weeklong honeymoon.

Tristin, right, and Alex, left, had Alex’s hometown pastor officiate the ceremony that was decorated with hung daisies.

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VOWS

TAKE A CHANCE ON ME JACOB KIRN AND DAN BURLEY WASHINGTON, D.C.

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In the end, it was ABBA that brought Jacob Kirn, 28, and Dan Burley, 32, together. Both young singles living in Washington, D.C., each grew tired of the roulette-style dating game and searched for something more. They unknowingly sought each other on OkCupid, an online dating site. “It was a perfect match,” says Mr. Kirn, a real estate agent. “His profile showed things I didn’t even know I wanted at the time.” But what caught each other’s eye? Both mentioned their love for the iconic Swedish ’70s pop band, ABBA. Mr. Burley, a journalist, used ABBA to break the ice, and soon they were discussing

favorite songs and deep cuts, sending each other articles and laughing together. It wasn’t long before Mr. Kirn and Mr. Burley started seeing each other several times a week. Mr. Kirn moved in four months later. The pair celebrated their commitment at the Ritz-Carlton hotel in Washington D.C., with about 250 guests in attendance, though the ceremony was small and held at Mr. Burley’s mother’s home. They entered the reception to applause from friends and family and to the chorus of “Take a Chance on Me.” The couple shared their first dance as husbands to ABBA’s “I do, I do, I do.”

PHOTOS COURTESY OF NICK KOVA

“I’m happy I get to dance with Dan every day for the rest of my life if I want to,” Jacob Kirn, top, says. “I’ll probably want to.”

SEND OFF

After a lavish but small ceremony in Columbia, Mo., Garrett Richie (left) and Jimmy Hibsch (right) find a quiet moment together. “I never thought this day would come,” Garrett says. “I can’t stop calling him ‘my husband.’”

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