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Moms Need to Lighten up If you're a mom and are feeling maxed out, do you believe it's because you have so much to do and not enough time to do it in? Are you putting everyone else's needs before your own? Most moms feel it's their duty to take it all on, but does that make them happy? It doesn't seem like it does. As a mom, do you ever make time for yourself? And if you do, do you feel guilty about it? I know I'm not the typical suburban mom that fills up every spare moment attending to my kids and their schedules, and I'm a single mom of four so I'm certainly busy enough just keeping the chaos to a minimum. Like most moms, I'm raising my children to take care of themselves and be independent and not constantly depend on me to meet their every need. I also don't feel I have to keep them busy at all times to give them a good life and a bright future. I am not a helicopter mom that micromanages my kids and everything they do. When kids come up with their own ways to occupy their time it builds character, intelligence and creativity. If Einstein's mom kept him busy with activities, do you think he would have had the time to form all his ideas, let alone test them? I have noticed that many moms, especially married stay-at-home moms with one or two kids are always on the go and making themselves crazy with all they do for their kids - they make themselves busy! They volunteer at the school, lead the Brownie troop, chaperone field trips, etc. None of this is a bad thing, but why is it a competition? Why do they do this and then brag/complain about all that they do and how little time they have? Do single moms do this too, or is it only the married moms? Tell me what you think by posting a comment on my blog, http://www.singlemommindy.blogspot.com. I believe that many moms overindulge their children. Do kids really need to be involved in 6 different activities? When they're not in school and not participating in some sport, why must we always fill that time with play dates and sleepovers? Why can't kids these days have any downtime? Why can't we moms? And why are we judged and criticized by other moms if we don't run ourselves ragged trying to keep our kids social lives more active than our own? In today's fast paced society, being a mom has become a competition or comparison of whose life is busier and who does more for their kids. The standard is now the super mom that does it all. Many moms believe that if their kids are not involved in everything and offered every opportunity that they will be disadvantaged somehow. If one mom doesn't follow the super mom standard, then she is
seen as not a good parent. I wonder why so many moms want to emulate the super mom and not the mom who can read a people magazine in the bathtub or watch Grey's Anatomy - or whatever the "guilty pleasure" may be, Who came up with the term guilty pleasure? Why should we moms feel guilty when we do something for ourselves that serves no other purpose but to relax for a bit? As I said, I'm not one of these super moms. I'd go absolutely nuts if all my time was devoted to my four kids' activity schedules. My kids are each involved in activities, (even the baby) but I make a point to make time for myself too. Is it easy? Not always, but it's easier than you think if you make it a priority. I challenge all moms to stop following the super mom role; get off the fast track, slow down and make more time for you! Get a life separate from your kids; you deserve it!
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