HOW TO HANDLE THE IN YOUR LIFE

BYDONNELLACRANFORD

WHEN THINGS HEAT UP IN YOUR LIFE, HOW DO YOU HANDLE IT ?

Just recently, things were heated in my life I was faced with an unexpected and unwanted situation, which had been forced upon me Initially, I felt four hot emotions: resentment, anger, fear and anxiety. They did not make me feel good, and I did not want to hold on to all these unwanted sensations. What could I do to escape this uninvited reality?

When I examined my options, I could feel the actual heat rising throughout my body the simmering resentment, anger, fear and anxiety. None of these were positive attributes and I hated feeling this way I knew that when I fan the flames of negativity, it eventually burns into my way of thinking This, in turn, takes me down a rabbit hole of overthinking and rethinking the situation, which fuels more resentment, anger, fear and anxiety giving it the power to take over. I was determined not to allow that to happen! I knew I needed to shift from negative to positive thinking.

So, what did I do? I immediately turned to a strategy I have been using that I call the H.E.A.T. Method.

Honeinonthereality.

I ask myself: What is the truth? Am I being honest with myself about it?

I knew the reality was that I would have to face the intensity of the situation and step in and take care of the uninvited, unwanted and unexpected turmoil It was staring me in the face, and I was the only person available and the only one privy to the information needed to take care of it.

Expectemotionstoensue.

I ask myself: What am I feeling? Why am I feeling that way?

I already knew that when things heat up in my life, and uninvited things occur, or people do things I dislike, my emotions will inevitably follow. Again, the reality is that the feelings were present but I had a choice about feeling them, then releasing them, and replacing them, instead of holding on to them. That is precisely what I did. I permitted myself to experience the emotions, but only for a limited time. >