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**This prototype magazine was created and produced by journalism students in the Magazine Publishing Senior Seminar at Loyola College in Baltimore and is intended for educational use only. The copyright is jointly held by the college and the students who produced this magazine.
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june/july on the cover:
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21 election ‘08: Obama-mania!
16 real issues : growing up mixed.
24 college 101: everything you need to know about dorms, classes, and scholarships...
30 eg spotlight: leona lewis
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32 eg cool guy: chris brown!
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57 quiz: which goddess are you? 62 sizzlin’ summer styles!
39 Rihanna: our interview with the good girl gone bad! 50 interracial relationships: they say love is blind, but is it enough? 54 summer jobs: how to get one and save your money
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columns: 6 Letters to the Editor 7 Letter From the Editor 10 Bits & Pieces 12 Ask Cait 14 Guy Q&A 36 hot list 44 body & soul 69 beauty & hair 72 Horoscopes 74 Last Laugh
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Letters to the Editor
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“’Essence Girls’ are queens. You are the future of the world, you’re so smart and so beautiful…you’re going to make a difference. Essence Girl is making a difference and our time is now.” ~Queen Latifah, actress/ singer/rapper
“We are very pleased to welcome Essence Girl to the Essence family. It’s about time our young Black women have a magazine all about them. Best of luck EG and to all the “Essence Girls” out there!”
“Essence Girl is such a great magazine and has a bright future. It’s important for Black girls to have a positive, empowering source of information and this magazine does just that. Excellence is the best deterrent to racism or sexism, way to go EG!”
~ Susan L. Taylor, first editor of Essence magazine
~Oprah, The “Oprah” Show, founder and editor of O magazine “’Essence Girls’ are fierce! You never know, one of these beautiful young women may be America’s Next Top Model, the next Oprah, or the future president of the United States! You go, girls!”
“I wish there was a magazine like this when I was younger. Finally, there’s a magazine for us! I know Essence Girl will shine, ‘Essence Girls’ are stars!”
~Tyra Banks, supermodel, executive producer “America’s Next Top Model”
~Beyoncé, singer/actress
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Letter from L’Oreal “I say to you today, my friends, that in spite of the difficulties and frustrations of the moment, I still have a dream. It is a dream deeply rooted in the American dream.” ~Martin Luther King, Jr. “I Have a Dream” (1963)
Welcome to Essence Girl. This is your magazine. We believe every girl is an “Essence Girl”—smart, sophisticated and sassy. This is your go-to guide to life, love and happiness. We’ve got you covered on what’s hot in Hollywood, news you need to know, and fashion and beauty tips you simply won’t find anywhere else! In this issue you’ll get down and dirty with EG’s first-ever cover girl—Rihanna! And if that’s not enough celebrity lovin’ for you, we’ve got exclusive interviews with rising British pop tart Leona Lewis and everyone’s favorite “Pretty Boy,” Chris Brown!
letter from the editor
As a senior in high school, I had a dream that one day young Black women would have a magazine to call their own. Growing up without a magazine that featured beautiful Black women on a regular basis was painful. I thought to myself, “What’s wrong with me?” After that I made a vow that no girl should ever feel that way again. Four years later, this dream has finally come true.
Getting ready for college? Whether you’re staying close to home or going across the country, we’ve got the scoop on everything from classes to extra-curricular and all that jazz in between. And you don’t want to miss our complete coverage of Election 2008 with everything you need to know about the candidates, the issues, and how it all affects you! So what are you waiting for? This is the magazine you’ve been waiting for, enjoy! Lots of love,
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bits & pieces... “Women, you can have it all - a loving man, devoted husband, loving children, a fabulous career.”
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- Jada Pinkett Smith I’m trying to right my wrongs, But it’s funny these same wrongs helped me write this song. “Touch the Sky” - Kanye West
Did you know that laughing has real health benefits? Studies have shown that laughing has many benefits – it stimulates your circulatory system, cools down your stress response (which relaxes you), relieves pain and actually improves your immune system. In fact, in one study, people with cancer who watched a humorous video showed less stress and an increase in a particular cell activity that’s beneficial in fighting diseases such as HIV and cancer. Stressed out and with no one around to make you laugh? No problem! Go check out the crazy videos on YouTube. An EG favorite is Ethan, the laughing baby.
Facebook Follies Could Keep You From Your Dream Job! You’ve heard all about the dangers of MySpace, but did you know your Facebook account could cause harm too?! About half of employers looking to hire college grads admit to looking at Facebook profiles of potential job candidates. Employers use Facebook to check up on applicants, to see what their personality is like or what their interests are. Often what employers find isn’t appropriate and can hurt your chances of getting your dream job! Applying for jobs after college may seem far away to you, but what is on your Facebook profile right now could possibly affect your future. To ensure your privacy only post information you would feel comfortable sharing with your grandparents. If you wouldn’t want your grandma or grandpa knowing something about you, then employers probably shouldn’t know either. A Facebook profile is like a tattoo, nothin’ wrong with it, but you gotta be prepared for it to be there forever and for people to see it who you may not want to.
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Health Alert!
“Let it Go” - Keyshia Cole
Does Popularity Affect Your Weight? A recent Harvard study shows that girls who think they aren’t popular are at a higher risk for weight gain. Researchers recorded the Body Mass Index (BMI) of about 4,500 girls ages 12 to 18. The teens ranked themselves on a scale of 1 to 10 for social standing.
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A study released this year found that one in four teen girls has an STD. And for black girls, that increases to 50%, according to the Center for Disease Control. Girls, be careful! If you’re going to be sexually active, you need to use protection and you should talk to your doctor about it. No guy is worth the risk of getting an STD. Not one.
If he ain’t gonna love you The way he should Then let it go If he ain’t gonna treat you The way he should Then let it go
The survey asked this question, “At the top of the ladder are the people in your school with the most respect and the highest standing. At the bottom are people who no one respects and no one wants to hang around with. Where would you place yourself on the ladder?” Two years later the study found that girls who rated themselves lower on the social ladder were at a 70 percent risk more for gaining excess weight. The extra weight was about 11 pounds. That’s a 2 point increase in BMIs! Researchers concluded that schools and girls’ social environments had a big influence on their physical perception and affected their weight. The bottom line? Don’t let anyone make you feel inferior. You are a smart, great girl who deserves respect. Respect yourself and your body and make others do the same!
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ask cait! Everyone goes through tough times, girl. EG’s got Cait here to help ya out.
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Q: I’ve got a friend who’s totally into oneupping me on everything. She’s always talking about how much money she made babysitting, her new clothes, or all her new gadgets- like her new iPod touch. I like her because she can be really fun to be around sometimes. But how do I stop her bragging? A: Ugh girl, it’s totally tough to deal with a braggin’ babe. Your girl may be bragging so much because she may feel insecure about other things in her life. Be sure to point things out that you LOVE about her- NOT her new cell phone, awesome clothes and endless allowance. Does she give the best advice? Is she your go-to girl for a fun Saturday outing? How about her awesome sense of humor? Let her know! As for talking about money all the time- try to change the subject when she does. When she brings up her new gizmo try telling her about the new threads your crush was sporting in class. If you keep cutting her off when she goes turns into Dolla Diva she might get the hint. If she doesn’t try having a serious talk with this girl. Be nice but be assertive. Tell her WHY you value her as a friend but that her bold bragging makes you uncomfortable. Go for it girl! Q: My parents are constantly on my case about college even though I’m only a sophomore! They’ve already bought me tons of SAT books. Getting A’s isn’t even good enough for them! If I even get a B I get yelled at for not studying enough and wasting my opportunities. Plus- they think I should be on everything at schoolField Hockey, Student Government, Spanish Club and band. I’m so stressed out that sometimes I just go into my room and cry. Help!
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A: Uh-oh pressuring parents mean well but I understand that they can be total trouble! I’m sure you’re a smart girl and you definitely shouldn’t let the pressure get to you. Try talking to your rents. Show them that you’re responsible and that you ARE trying in school. Point out things you’ve accomplished lately. Been promoted to Spanish Club president? Scored a winning goal in Field Hockey? Aced your hard Math test? Tell them about it. Then let them know that you really appreciate their concern but that you’re a little stressed out. And girl don’t put too much pressure on YOURSELF either. Sure high school is a place where you can prep for college and build up your smarts for the future but don’t forget to ENJOY your time in high school. Take a breather on Saturday and don’t even THINK about homework. Go shopping with you friends, watch movies in your PJs or go out for a run to clear your head. Take time to de-stress and take care of the most important priority of all- YOU! Q: I’ve got a major problem! I really have a crush on my best friend’s new boyfriend. I really, really like my BFF but I like this guy too! He’s even been IMing me asking me what I’m doing this weekend. I don’t want to tell my BFF and upset her but from talking to him so much I like him. What do I do? Ouch girl. I feel like this sitch happens to every girl at least once in her lifetime- it’s sure happened to me- so you’re not alone! But really you’ve gotta think about
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both sides of this sitch- do you really wanna lose your BFF over some boy? Probably not! Who else would you have over for sleepovers, get advice from or share clothes with? Chances are you need and you want this chick to stay friends with you. I know you’ve heard it a jillion times but there are plenty of guys out there looking for a smart, great, fun gal like you. You don’t wanna go liking this guy who’s got so much drama surrounding him! Think about WHY you like your BFF’s BF. Is he hilarious? Does he like the same music as you? Be on the lookout for other guys with the same traits as him. Bonus about this new boy? He won’t have the drama goin’ on that your other one will. Get out there, girl!
Ouch. Growing up is great but it’s always tough when things change with old buds. Since you’re still living in your old house hopefully you can stay in touch pretty easily if your friends live close by. You might not be able to see them every day like you used to but you can still text them, IM and call during the week. You can definitely arrange catch-up seshes during the weekend when you’re all free. As for making new friends? Don’t be afraid! I’m sure there will be lots of other kids who are in the same sitch as you! Just be yourself, and be friendly! Join afterschool activities that interest you. You’ll make friends with similar interests and have lots to talk about. Enjoy your new school and see it as a fresh start! You’re gonna do Great, girl! Get out there and show ‘em what you got!
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Q: I’ve always eaten whatever I’ve wanted but now I’m really starting to gain weight. The other day I heard one of the boys in my math class call me Bubble Butt. Everyone heard and laughed at me. I went home and cried and felt so bad that I ate a lot of Oreos, cake and other stuff that I know isn’t good. I really want to lose weight but I really like stuff like KFC, chocolate and soda. Please help! A: Oh girl that boy who called you Bubble Butt deserves to get his butt KICKED! Ugh girl I’m totally sorry. It’s totally freaky when you’re body’s changing but don’t let anyone ever disrespect you! You’re beautiful the way you are! And if you’ve got a little booty? Then shake it girl. As a junk food junkie myself I know where you’re coming from! Props to you for being mature and wanting to change your habits. I looove junk food but need to limit myself to stay healthy. You don’t want to be a total skinny minnie but you don’t wanna be bingeeating either. Girl, you’ve gotta find a healthy balance of foods that make you feel good! Maybe limit your fave junk to once or twice a week. Balance out some of your more unhealthy loves like buffalo wings, cheeseburgers or pizza with veggies on the side instead of French fries. Lotsa fast food places are offering healthier options or you could get a kids meal with smaller portions. Try to cut back on your soda intake and get tons of water. It’ll help you feel superenergetic! And once you start eating right you might wanna get out there and show off you’re great new bod. Shake it at a dance class, try something new like yoga or run to the new Chris Brown jam.
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Q: My parents are sending me to a private school for high school but all of my friends get to stay at the public high school. I really wanted to stay with all of them but my parents aren’t having it! I’ll still live in my old house and everything but I’m afraid I won’t be part of the crew anymore. How do I keep up with my old friends? And how do I make new ones at this new school?
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As for overeating when you’re upset girl you’ve only got one body and you’ve gotta love it! If you still feel the need to eat tons of bad for you food or if kids still tease you try talking to an older sister, your mom or a trusted adult who can help you out. I know you’re better than this boy! Get out there and flaunt it. I know you’ve got it. For sweet exercise and more body lovin’ see Body & Soul section!
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Dear Chris... Dudes got ya confused? EG’s got our guy expert Chris Nelson to help ya out!
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Q: I’ve never really gotten along with girls my age so a lot of my friends are boys. My parents don’t seem to think that my having a lot of guy friends is a good idea. They say guys and girls can never really just be friends. What do you think? Do you think it’s possible for a guy and a girl to be friends and not end up in a relationship?
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A: As the old saying goes, “You can choose your friends but not your family.” It’s obvious that your parents are trying to protect you. They probably know from experience that friendships can be tricky. Sometimes we love our friends and sometimes for different reasons we come to love them a little less. Our friendships are complicated for different reasons- one of which is our emotions. We all know that guys and girls don’t always think the same so therefore they don’t respond to things in quite the same way. Your parents have expressed a common fear that even though you see your friendship one way, your guy friends may see things another way. Your parents aren’t the only ones who might feel this way. A lot of people eventually see members of the opposite sex through the dating lens. Guys see girls as potential girlfriends, and girls see guys as poten-
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tial boyfriends. Not everyone thinks like this, because like you, there are girls who just want to have guy friends. It’s very possible for there to be just a friendship, if the guy and girl view their friendship the same way. So just make sure that you and your friends want the same thing out of a friendship, and you should be fine.
Q: My boyfriend and I attend the same high school which means that we have a lot of the same friends. Lately it seems that all anyone wants to talk about is the two of us. It makes me uncomfortable that our business isn’t just our business. My boyfriend doesn’t seem to care but I don’t want him to talk about our relationship with our friends. How can I get him to stop? A: First, it’s important to look at what information is being shared with your friends. It may be unreasonable to for you to say, “I don’t want to talk about any parts of my relationship with my friends.” There’s probably going to come a time where you want to share a special moment or you want to get some advice. There does however come a time where you are sharing too much information and putting too much out there. If your boyfriend is discussing personal details about you that you don’t want shared with others that could be a problem. Another problem could be talking about your arguments and fights. When arguments and fights are discussed it’s natural for people to want to take sides. It’s not fair to put someone in a position where they might have to choose who’s more of a friend to me. So let your boyfriend know not only is being too open not fair to you, but not fair to your friends as well. Good luck.
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real issues: growing up mixed
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“Are you adopted?” a girl asked me with confusion in her face as she looked from me to my mother and step-father. At the time, I didn’t understand why she’d asked me that, but it didn’t take me too long to realize. Feeling awkward, I quickly responded “no”, and ran to my mother. That wouldn’t be the last time I was asked that question and it was certainly not the first time a classmate was confused by my race. I grew up in a small town in Western New York – a one-stoplight kind of town with a population of only 5,000 people. I moved there with my mom and her new husband when I was 9. In my time in that town, there were few minorities – no more than ten and I’m pretty sure I could name them all. But most of the time it didn’t bother me. My mother had me when she was 19. She and my father got married soon after and were divorced a few years later. Though he lived only twenty minutes away, I rarely saw him – only a few times a year. My father, Frank, is black (his family comes from the Bahamas) and my mom is white (Italian and Irish). I didn’t pay much attention to race for a long time – not until the eighth grade, when a boy who sat behind me in math class repeatedly called me a nigger straight through the period two days in a row. The third day I told my teacher. My teacher took him out in the hallway. I don’t know what was said, but I do know that that was all the punishment that he received. No detention, no visit to the principal’s office… nothing. By that point, I had accepted that my father and I didn’t have a relationship, but it is one of the few times when I really needed him. I needed him to sympathize. I
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needed someone to tell me it was ok, to let me be upset. I told a couple of my white friends what had happened. They didn’t care – not because they were insensitive, but because they just didn’t understand. The greatest piece of advice I could give to anyone is to find someone – a friend or anyone – who can truly understand you – even if you have to split up different parts of yourself between different friends, it is so helpful. I found out a few years later that the boy who called me that name had been harassing another girl in my class (she’s Korean) and
[Francesca and her mom] it was so hard for her that she changed schools. When things like this would happen, and really, it didn’t happen very frequently with me, my mom would tell me to just let it go. At the time, I thought that that was ridiculous. I didn’t want to let it go. I wanted to be upset. But it
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and focus on the positive things. And, believe me when I tell you this, some people honestly do not know what they don’t know. For that girl who asked if I was adopted when she saw me with two white parents, that was a completely legitimate question. And the first time I met this kid in junior high, who would later become my best friend, and he asked me if black people got sunburn. He wasn’t trying to be a jerk, or bother me, or hurt my feelings... it was a completely honest question that he wanted to know the answer to. Yea, it gets annoying, people asking questions and expecting you to have a satisfactory answer, but you have to do your best to educate them, otherwise they will remain ignorant. It’s odd really. Often people, both black and white, will classify themselves and others according to racial stereotypes because of actions, speech, or style. I don’t believe much in these classifications – it’s divisive and limiting. And I have never and will never understand what place these classifications have (coming from any side) in a society such as ours. But – I know I would be
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categorized as being more “white” than “black”. It would make sense since I never saw my father or his family and I didn’t have a black friend until I was 15. So even though I’m half black, it really didn’t give me any more experience with black culture than my white friends. After that incident in eighth grade, I began to consider my identity. All teens go through that point in their lives, trying to figure out who they are. I’m 21, and I’m still doing it, and so are most of my friends. But being mixed, I asked myself different questions. Was I black or white? Did my friends see me as one or the other or mixed? Or did they not see race at all? When I was a senior in high school, a junior girl got pregnant. She was white and the baby’s father was black. This was huge in my school, it was basically as close to a scandal that things in my school could get. I didn’t understand. I had been going to school with these people for eight years – they were my friends – and up until that point, I didn’t think that they had any problem with my race at all. I didn’t know why that would matter to them. After that, I became more than a little paranoid that race meant more to them than they had let on. The hardest part about being mixed, for me, is that everyone constantly wants to define everyone else. They like labels, putting people in neat little boxes, but when you’re mixed, it’s not so neat. I love being mixed – but it’s hard when people don’t know what to do with that. I can’t define myself as white or black but a lot of people want me to - even on surveys I fill out when they ask my race or ethnicity, but I’m only allowed to check one box.
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cool things for/by/about mixed girls! yay!! Caucasia by Danzy Senna This is my favorite book! It’s Danzy’s autobiography about growing up mixed and having to split up with her family...But that’s all I can say... Everyone should read this!
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I’m not just one thing and it would be impossible for me to choose one or the other. When I started college in 2004, I had another racial revelation. My friends were usually about half black and half white. I thought that finally having black friends would give me a better understanding of myself. It would definitely be a change. I thought that maybe it would help me to feel more black, to get in touch with that part of my identity that I felt I was missing. But in some ways, it was just the opposite. Many times when I was with them, they would make some generalization about white people. When they would say, “White people…” blah blah blah, I would immediately become defensive. I’m half white. My mom is white. All the family I know is white. When I was with my black friends, I was very aware of what race I was (and was not). And what is color really? We refer to many people as black, because of their skin color, with no regard to their white half like Lenny Kravitz and Alicia Keys. Halle Berry, who was so proud of winning the Oscar for black women, was raised by a white mother. Same goes for, Barack Obama – his parents separated when he was two and his white mother raised him with the help of her parents and his Indonesian step-father. What I think we have to realize is that we have to be comfortable with ourselves. Race is a big issue in this country and other people will always want to put you in a box. And you can’t let them. You have to figure things out for yourself. In the end, you are the one who has to be around yourself all the time, and as long as you’re happy with who you are, that’s all that matters. I know you might not believe that now, but I swear, one day you’ll realize that. And if other people understand you, then that’s great, but if they don’t... it’s ok.
You’ve seen those “everyone loves an Irish girl” shirts, right? Well now we have one too! Go to www.likemindedpeople.us to get one of your own!
mixed girls of the world, unite! log on to myspace.com/essencegirl to chat with other girls right now! go! do you have a real issue that you think should be in Essence Girl? write us a message about your life story that you’d like to share!
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Mixed by Angela Nissel This book is hilarious! Angela is a writer for the show Scrubs and this is her hilarious take on a mixed childhood.
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election ‘08: Obama
ELECTION 2008: Obama Offers Hope and Inspires Change Even if you can’t vote yet you can still get involved and stay informed about politics! This is YOUR future EG so stay tuned!
by francesca knowles
Hope. Change. With these two little words, Senator Barack Obama has taken the country by storm. We’ve seen something amazing this election season – and if this is the first one when you can vote, how exciting! It’s incredible that just 40 years after the Civil Rights movement, we have a black man running for President
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who has a great chance of winning. What’s even more extraordinary – he’s not running as the “black candidate.” Some background on Barack Obama: He’s 46 years old and was raised, mostly, in Hawaii. He attended Columbia and Harvard. He then worked as a civil
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rights lawyer before he was elected to the Illinois State Senate in 1996 and then the US Senate in 2004. He’s the fifth black senator in the country and currently the only one in office. Senator Obama focuses on bringing people together, not tearing them down. He says, “I do not believe that we can solve health care or high gas prices or the war the in Iraq if we can’t unify the country.” He’s not resorting to playing dirty – something we don’t see much of in the world of politics. For you, our readers, this election means a lot. With a black man and a woman running for president, both with a real chance of winning, it proves that our country is ready for change. Previously, the world of politics at the presidential level has been mainly an arena for white men, many who have been raised for the job since they were your age. Finally, girls of color have two people who are showing that when you grow up, maybe you really could be the president. It doesn’t just have to be a dream anymore. Obama also shows us that you don’t have to be perfect. He’s written about his youth, candidly admitting to using alcohol, marijuana, and cocaine. He doesn’t make excuses or advocate these things – and neither do we at Essence Girl – but what it means is that the mistakes we make, the moments we aren’t exactly proud if, these things don’t define us. You don’t have to worry so much that you’ll be judged because you’re not perfect. You don’t have to come from this ideal of a perfect family – Barack’s parents separated when he was only two years old and he never had a real relationship with his father. And that’s ok. Of course there are many other things to consider when deciding who to vote for come election day. It’s not all about personality and a person’s biography. And we should all be as informed as possible when participating in the process. Sometimes as a teenager or young adult, it’s hard to
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Some ideas from Senator Obama’s “Blueprint for Change”: •Affordable quality health care for everyone and expanding insurance plans so children can stay on their parents’ plans until they’re 25. •A Credit Card “Bill of Rights” to stop companies from exploiting consumers (and helping to keep you out of debt). •More after-school programs to give young people something to do so they stay out of trouble and also to help working parents. •Simplifying the tax process. No one really wants to pay taxes, but it might not be as bad if it wasn’t so time-consuming. •Improving K-12 education by reforming the “No Child Left Behind” Act. •Making higher education more affordable with a tuition credit for doing community service.
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find out about politician’s views on the issues that we really care about - maybe you don’t understand Social Security or the changes in the economy, but everything that happens in politics does affect you! You can visit votesmart.org to see how all the candidates have voted on the issues that most concern you. And that goes for your state representatives as well, so go get involved! It’s up to you to find out more about Senator
Obama and all the other candidates so you can make an informed decision come November. Check out coming issues of EG for more election 2008 updates! And go to www.myspace.com/essencegirl to chat about all things politics and learn how to register to vote!
election ‘08: Obama “We have been told we cannot do this by a chorus of cynics who will only grow louder and more dissonant in the weeks to come. We’ve been asked to pause for a reality check. We’ve been warned against offering the people of this nation false hope. But in the unlikely story that is America, there has never been anything false about hope. For when we have faced down impossible odds; when we’ve been told that we’re not ready, or that we shouldn’t try, or that we can’t, generations of Americans have responded with a simple creed that sums up the spirit of a people. Yes we can.” - Senator Barack Obama, Speech following New Hampshire Primary, January 8, 2008.
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college 101 You’ve sent in all your applications and have bitten your nails with worry waiting to hear the replies! Now you’ve read those words: “accepted” and “rejected.” Congrats! The battle is half over. Now all you have to do is actually survive college!
wanted to be in student government, or join the crew team, now’s your chance! Joining clubs and staying involved on campus will keep you busy, and take your mind off what you’re missing at home. They will also introduce you to new people which will help you make more friends!
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This fall, whether you’re heading off to your dream school or your safety school, our guide to college 101 will help you start the year and your college career off right. by kara steube
Homesickness For many, the most exciting thing about going away to college is getting to live on your own of the first time. You no longer need to tell your parents every place you go, you don’t need to make your bed, and you don’t have anyone nagging you to do your homework. Aside from schoolwork, being away from your parents for the first time is a big part of what the college experience is all about. You’re gaining independence! You go girl! But while this newfound freedom may sound exciting, it can also be a little overwhelming. For some girls this separation can be very hard, and that is totally normal. EG has compiled a list of “homesickness busters,” for readers to keep in mind during their first few nights away from home. •Get Involved! Social groups and events are a big part of your college experience. College is a chance for you to do things you’ve never been able to do, so if you’ve always
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•Do Something You Enjoy! Almost every girl has a favorite hobby, whether it’s going for a run, reading a good book or adding a new page to your scrapbook. Doing something you enjoy will add a little happiness to your day and keep you from thinking about home. Don’t have a hobby? That’s ok! College is the perfect place to try something new and find out more about what you like and what you’re good at.
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•Go Out With a Friend! As we all know, a good scoop of ice cream can cure almost any girl problems. So take a little a trip down to the local ice cream place or even just your campus cafeteria. Bring your roommate, that nice girl you just met down the hall, or an older student you knew from home. You might even discover your friend is struggling with the same feelings as you! •Volunteer! Forget about your problems for a little while by helping someone else out. You could volunteer to work with students at an elementary school or serve as a Big Sister. You will build new relationships and enjoy the satisfaction of helping others. If none of these ideas seem to work, you can get a little extra help from your college counseling center. These services are free and confidential and are often very relaxing and comfortable. Try to get out of your room as much as possible and avoid being sucked into instant messaging or phoning old friends to complain about how homesick you are. It will only make you more homesick and prevent you from meeting new people.
Making Friends So you’ve just unpacked all your clothes, laid out your adorable new comforter, and put up just about every picture you’ve ever taken on your wall. But after you admire the stack of new textbooks and school supplies on your desk, the excitement wears off and you realize that you have just left behind everyone you know. Now what?! Don’t get scared just yet, now is the fun part! In order to make friends in college you need to remember one important thing: EVERYONE IS JUST AS SCARED AS YOU ARE. That girl down the hall who has been talking to just about everyone on your floor already? She’s scared too, she’s just a little better at hiding it, and you can be that girl too just by following a few of these tips.
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•Leave Your Door Open! You can increase your odds of making friends by leaving your dorm room door open when you’re studying or hanging out. (But lock the door when you’re not in the room). This will show people that you are approachable and open to new friends, so they can drop by to say hello or ask about a homework assignment. Invite them in and strike up a conversation. Play music or make popcorn and let the buttery scent to waft down the hall. Someone is bound to drop by, giving you an opportune moment to share a snack and strike up a convo! •Take Advantage of Sharing a Bathroom! One unexpected but ideal time to meet your floormates is in the floor bathroom. Ok we admit, initially the thought of sharing a bathroom with twenty other girls can sound kind of gross but soon you will realize it can also be an incredible bonding experience. When you go to brush your teeth or dry your hair, you never know who you’ll run into, so the key to bathroom etiquette is remembering a simple rule you learned in preschool: SHARE! Lend the person next to you some toothpaste when they need it, and he or she will do the same for you. •Striking Up School Spirit! An opportunity to meet people outside your dorm is at university-sponsored events for freshman or the general student body. Some people blow off events like the freshman barbeque or floor meetings, claiming they’ll be soooo uncool, but student leaders go to great lengths to plan events that will help freshman meet people and feel welcome on campus. These events can be a great way to accomplish both if you approach them with the right attitude. Be friendly, and exchange email addresses or phone numbers with people you hit it off with. •Get Involved…Again! We know we’ve said this before but getting involved in clubs or sports is a sure-fire way to meet
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people who share your interests. Check out the debate society, the all-campus choir, or a volunteer organization.
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•Relax! One of the biggest mistakes a girl can make is trying too hard. When you meet your roommate don’t worry! She is probably just as nervous as you are. Plus, if you relax, you’re much more likely to be better company! •Don’t Think You Can’t Talk To Your Roommate! Try not to judge your roommate right off the bat
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•Be Open To New Ideas! You may think you have absolutely nothing in common with this girl, and that may be true, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t give her a chance. College is a time to TRY NEW THINGS! In fact, many people say that college is the last time in your life to try new things. If you’re roommate wants to go skydiving and you’ve never gone skydiving then go skydiving, girl! (All right, maybe this is a bit extreme, but ya know what we mean!)
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The first thing you need to realize about your roommate is this: YOU DO NOT NEED TO BE BEST FRIENDS. Rarely, and we mean rarely, the random person you have been selected to live with (by a computer!!!!), can end up being the person you live with for all four years. In those cases you can consider yourself very lucky. Usually the girl you’ve assigned to live with doesn’t share all the same interests as you, and this is totally ok. The key to having an enjoyable year is to be able to get along with this person. Getting along with them means accepting that they share that room too, and you will need to be tolerate them - which yes, may mean that you gotta put headphones on while your roommate blasts music that you hate! But The sooner you accept that you’re sure to be different, the sooner you will be on your way to having a great freshman year. No matter what your sitch is, the following tips can help start you off to becoming a college supergirl!
when you meet her. So she likes to go bird watching and makes her own clothes out of something that smells really funky. Even if you think that you’ve got it goin’ on, or that you’re waaaay too great to be sharing a room with your roomate, do not think that you are too good to be friends with your roommate. The result could be totally unfavorable! If you don’t talk to your roommate, you may find yourself in a situation when you locked yourself out of your room and desperately need to get a book from your room quickly. However, you don’t have your roommate’s phone number and have to waste two hours of your life waiting for the campus police to come and open your door...
•Establish Respect! You should never feel uncomfortable in your own room, nor should the student who is lucky enough to live with you. Your room is your home away from home. But it’s also your roommate’s home too and it’s important to R E S P E C T that! If you ask your roommate to keep the noise down after a certain hour or go outside to talk on the phone, they will respect that request if they really care.
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EG SPOTLIGHT Leona Lewis
This Brit singing babe’s star is shooting straight to the top! EG’s got the inside scoop on what’s she’s up to!!! Age: 22 Hometown: Islington, London, England Occupation: Singer-songwriter
Influences: Lewis cites Mariah Carey, Celine Dion, Whitney Houston, and Mary J. Blige as some of her greatest influences. “Those women are the true divas,” Lewis insists on her MySpace page. “They’re amazing performers whom I’ve listened to for years. These are the people who’ve inspired me to sing, so it’s flattering that I’m being compared to them. But I have a lot of hard work to do first!”
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F.Y.I.: Lewis’ debut single, “A Moment Like This” (a cover of the original “American Idol” Kelly Clarkson’s number-one hit), broke a world record after it was downloaded 50,000 times within 30 minutes! It even beat Gnarls Barkley’s “Crazy” as Britain’s biggest downloaded song in 2006.
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Where You’ve Seen Her: The British beauty performed at music mogul Clive Davis’ annual pre-Grammy premiere party in February earlier this year. In 2006, Lewis became the first woman to win Britain’s televised talent show “The X Factor.” Simon Cowell, “The X Factor” and “American Idol” judge said to Lewis, “You are, absolutely, the best contest I have ever had across any of these shows.”
Betcha Didn’t Know: This international superstar is more than a stellar singer. Leona Lewis is also a dedicated dance and actress. She can also play the piano and guitar. Lewis has been a vegetarian since she was 12 years old and hopes to promote a line of affordable non-leather shoes and bags in the future.
What’s Next for Leona: Leona Lewis’ debut album, Spirit, is on sale now.
Wanna vote for the next EG Spotlight star? Go to myspace.com/essencegirl and place your votes!!!
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Cool Guy of the Month Chris Brown Who’s Sizzlin’ this Summer? Chris Brown may be cool but his catchy beats, dance moves and sweet personality are hotter than any heat wave this summer!
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Age: 18 Hometown: Tappahannock, Va. Occupation: Singer, dancer and actor Nicknames: Chris Breezy, Charlie Brown, Sizzle
Claim to Fame: Chris Brown exploded on the scene back in 2005 when he debut single, “Run It!” hit number one. His self-titled, debut album spawned chart-topping hits, such as “Yo (Excuse Miss),” “Gimme That,” and “Say Goodbye.” Last year, Brown released his sophomore effort entitled Exclusive. “Exclusive is something that not everybody can get,” he says, explaining the title. “I feel it’s an album especially for my fans. It’s not for the critics or the haters… or people that get it just to fit in. It’s only for those who truly want to hear my music.”
Betcha Didn’t Know: Chris Breezy has been dancing since the tender age of two. But before he decided to become a singer, he wanted to be a rapper. When he was 13, a local production team discovered Chris Brown at his father’s gas station.
The Acting Bug: If you can’t get enough of Brown’s music, check him out on the big screen or DVD. In January 2007, Chris Brown made his film debut in the dance movie Stomp the Yard. Last December, he also starred in the family holiday movie This Christmas. “I want to show people I’m not just a singer, but an all-around entertainer,” he says. “I love acting.”
What’s Next for Chris Brown: Check out CB in the basketball drama Phenom in 2009. “I’d rather be known as the first Chris Brown,” he says. “At the same time, I can fill the void, but Usher and Michael Jackson aren’t going anywhere. They’re still doing their thing, but I feel I can be a part of that and just continue to be the best that I can be at what I do.”
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EG’s Hot List! What’s Hot Right Now? EG’s got the inside scoop on what’s got our temps risin’!!!
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Lauren London The 23-year old is more than just an actress. She’s also a model and vocalist. You probably know Lauren from her appearances in ATL and This Christmas. The talented up-and-comer has also made cameos in music videos with artists such as Pharrell and Common. She also provided vocals for one of Pharrell’s songs. Lauren also recently signed on to be the face of Sean John Ladies, P. Diddy’s clothing line for women.
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Jurnee Smollett Jurnee Smollett first caught people’s attention as a child actress. One of her most unforgettable roles was playing “Eve” in the film Eve’s Bayou. She’s starred in films and on T.V. with some of the greats- like Bill Cosby on his television show “Cosby”. Her most recent role was playing Samantha Booke in the film The Great Debaters. Smollett’s great performance earned her a NAACP Image Award. Gerren Oprah once called her the “next Naomi,” saying the young model would likely be very much like super model Naomi Campbell. When 17-year old Gerren Taylor isn’t modeling this multi-talented mama is acting or appearing on a reality T.V. show or in a documentary. Gerren was one of the stars of BET’s reality show “Baldwin Hills,” a show which chronicled the lives of teens who call the Los Angeles neighborhood home. Chanel Iman A lot of you EGs remember playing dress up, but 18-yearold Chanel Iman dresses up for a living. The Californiabased girl is a rising model. She’s already appeared on the cover of Vogue. Iman has modeled clothing for lines like Marc Jacobs, Dolce and Gabbana, and Christian Dior. Lucky girl, huh?
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Run’s House Hop Hop Royalty takes center stage when we go inside the house of hip hop legend Rev. Run. Viewers take a look at the lives of the Reverend and his family of three girls and three boys. From their young adult daughters starting up their own tennis shoe line, to their oldest son an aspiring rapper, and to their young children navigating life in hip hop and life on the playground, Run’s House offers a lil somethin’ for everyone.
M.I.A. It used to be that when people called you “different” it was a bad thing. When people use that word to describe the singer known as M.I.A. it’s a good thing- a very good thing. The Sri Lankan born beauty has a style all her own, which makes her a singer headed for the big time.
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Jazmine Sullivan Fans call her voice “raw.” Some call it “sultry,” and others call her voice “smooth.” No one is disappointed when they have the chance to hear the Philadelphia native perform. She’s been noticed by record labels and is now being mentored by Clive Davis the President of J Records who worked with Alicia Keys and Whitney Houston. Sullivan is working on a hot new album set to be released sometime in early 2008.
Vaughn Anthony Many are asking if he’ll be able to step out of the shadow of his big brother John Legend. Vaughn Anthony is convinced he’ll win fans all on his own. While Legend’s sound is a little more soul, Anthony says his is more about “hip hop”. When compared to his big brother Anthony takes it as a compliment, but says he doesn’t want to be like John, he wants to be himself.
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Essence Girl: You recently went on a tour to many different countries - Denmark, England, and even Japan. What was your favorite place? Rihanna: I think my favorite place was Japan, especially Tokyo, because it was so different and it was awesome to experience a culture that I’ve never really come into contact with before. EG: That sounds so cool! What’s the weirdest thing that you HAVE to have on tour with you? R: I know this is kinda cheesy - I have this good luck cross that my mom gave me that I HAVE to have with me and that
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Essence Girl is proud to have Rihanna as our first cover girl! At only 20, Rihanna has already scored multiple #1 hits, 2 MTV music awards and three Billboard Awards. She is the face of many ad campaigns including Nike, Secret and CoverGirl. She even started her own non-profit organization, Believe, to provide medical services, school supplies and toys for children in need. It’s hard to believe that this super-successful diva was just your average girl growing up in St. Michael’s, Barbados just five years ago...
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I touch before I go on stage. EG: Hey, everyone’s got a lucky charm! What was your favorite song to make and why? R: SOS…it’s just such a fun, feel-good song. I love singing it, I love performing it…it’s my favorite. EG: What’s the weirdest thing a fan has ever given to you? R: Well it’s definitely weird that fans will give me umbrellas to sign because of the Umbrella song… EG: Yeah, I was gonna ask you to sign mine…Just kidding! Well speaking of your songs, what inspires your music? R: Some of my songs are inspired by events and people in my life but really I just love singing. I love that I’m able to co-write most of my songs. Reggae was the music that I listened to the most growing up in Barbados. Reggae is huge in Barbados. People also listen to R&B and some hip-hop but not really any rock music. So it was pretty different for me to come to America and listen to that. EG: Hmmm…so musically who is your role model? R: I really look up to gutsy girl singers like Aretha Franklin. She’s got such a great voice! EG: Well Aretha is certainly a sassy singer! How do you feel being a role model to younger girls? R: Well it’s still hard to believe I’m famous. But thanks to my success I’ve been able to feel more comfortable with myself. I’m much more confident and outgoing! So I hope that’s inspiring to other girls - just be yourself! And I’m also starting out by myself going to New York to live alone so I hope that can inspire girls too - follow your dreams and be independent! EG: Speaking of role models…what do you wish you knew a few years ago that you know now? R: I wish I knew not to lower my standards for a guy so he would like me. If you lower your standards for a guy, he won’t respect you and he’ll tell his friends about it. You have to stick up for yourself and speak your mind. EG: Ugh, those boy troubles, I feel like they never go away. Boys! Can’t live with ‘em, can’t live without ‘em! Well, what was a challenge you overcame and how did you overcome it? R: Well a lot of people on the way up are always like, “You’re crazy. Yeah right, you can’t do it.” So it’s really hard to get past that but you just gotta keep doing it and believe in it if you love it!
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I mean for me it happened really fast. I auditioned for Jay-Z and all the sudden I’m here. Crazy, right? EG: Ah a quick rise to fame…so what do you think of celebs like Britney or Lindsay - stars who have so much but fall into bad habits? R: They make me so sad. I never want to turn to drugs or drink to cope with the pressures of fame. I mean I can definitely see why they picked up bad habits. It’s really hard to stay focused sometimes. I’m really lucky because I’ve got a great support system of family and friends. My best friend, Melissa always has my back. EG: If you could go back to any era, what era would you go back to and why? R: Hmm I think I might want to go back to the ‘80s. I think the fashion then was really funky and fun. EG: What musician - dead or alive - would you most like to do a duet with? R: Bob Marley, I love to listen to him. Again, the Reggae! EG: What has been your most embarrassing moment so far? R: At one show I could NOT stop giggling through an entire song. Ugh it was so terrible and embarrassing. It was one of those you know like uncontrollable laughing fits at such a bad time… EG: Eek… I know where you’re coming from! I’ve definitely been there. On the sunny side, summer’s coming up. What’s your favorite way to spend a summer day? R: My favorite way to spend a summer day is to just relax in the sun. I know it’s silly because I grew up on an island but I’m afraid of the ocean. EG: Ah, I feel you on that one. I had trouble getting back in after I saw JAWS. Well thanks for your time it was awesome talking to you and good luck! R: No problem! Thanks for having me! It’s great to be the first cover face of Essence Girl!
interview by cait rohan To see more Rihanna pics, to hear some of her latest tunes, and to enter to win a backstage pass and dinner with Rihanna visit myspace.com/essencegirl.
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EG Body
Summer has more to offer than just beautiful beaches, bikini bods, and fabulous fashion! Try one of these delicious (and nutritious!) recipes that feature some of summer’s finest fresh fruits! Bon appetit!
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Frozen Fruit Smoothies 1 frozen banana, peeled and sliced 2 cups frozen strawberries, raspberries, or cherries 1 cup milk 1/2 cup plain or vanilla yogurt 1/2 cup freshly squeezed orange juice 2 to 3 tablespoons honey or to taste Put all the ingredients in a blender and process until smooth. Pour into glasses and serve. Chef’s note: For non-dairy smoothies, substitute 1 cup rice milk for the milk and yogurt. Or, use soy yogurt or milk instead of dairy.
Yogurt and Fruit Dessert Cup 1 single-serve cup fruit flavored custard style low-fat yogurt 1/4 cup granola or Grape Nuts 1 cup cut fruit from in store service deli Layer custard style fruit yogurt with granola or Grape nuts and chunks of cut fruit. The fruit costs more cut than fresh, but when your cooking for 1, whole pineapples and melons can be daunting. Here, it’s worth the extra cost to treat your body to some fresh fruit.
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Nine all-natural ways to help you avoid women’s top five injuries
Your top 5 injury areas, and how you can keep them safe and sound:
Knees These poor joints might ache for any number of reasons: You wear high heels often, spend too much time climbing stairs, have tight quads and hamstrings or have flat feet. If your knee hurts, see a sports medicine specialist or an orthopedist to pinpoint the source of the pain.
Heels Switching between your favorite high heels and flats can inflame your Achilles tendon. When you teeter, the tendon shortens, but when you slip on your ballet flats, it overstretches. Wear shoes with different heel heights from day to day to avoid extreme changes. And make sure all your shoes have adequate cushioning.
Neck and upper back This region bears a lot of pressure, both physically and emotionally. Women often round their shoulders, which shortens chest muscles and pulls muscles in the upper back. Plus, feeling anxious almost always leads to muscle tension. Along with the moves here, any exercise that emphasizes posture and stress relief (think yoga or pilates) will help.
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We hate to bring up a sore subject, but nagging aches can sideline you faster than you can say ouch! “The key to defending against tenderness in trouble spots like the knees, neck, upper and lower back, wrists and heels is building muscular endurance and correcting imbalances,” Lisa Callahan, M.D. The best way to do both? Through exercise! So think of the following strategic stretches as “pre-hab” because, by doing them before you could get hurt, you’ll save yourself from dreaded rehab. Try them regularly (as in a few times per week). No, they don’t count as cardio or strength training, but they will keep you ready for action!
This is one vulnerable section. Especially if you have poorly toned core muscles, tight hamstrings and a job that requires you to sit all day, your back can become the weak link. And if you attempt to lift something heavy without good form—use your legs, don’t twist—you can throw out your lower back with one heave-ho.
Wrist You type on your keyboard, tap on your PDA, text on your phone. That constant action can lead to constant pain. Give your wrists a rest: Call instead of e-mailing when you can. And when you can’t, at least support them. Keep them in a neutral position as much as possible, and ask for an ergonomic workup at the office to help pinpoint any hidden sources of strain.
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No More Pain! Leg lift
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Protects neck, back, wrists, knees Stand about 3 feet behind a sturdy desk or counter. With legs straight, heels planted, lean forward and place hands on desk, back slightly arched, arms straight. Bend right knee and draw it into chest, moving from hip. Then, keeping knee bent, extend leg back, pressing sole of foot toward ceiling (as shown). Do eight reps. Switch sides; repeat.
Wall sit plus Protects wrists, knees Squat with back to wall, feet hip-width apart, thighs almost parallel to floor. Maintain butt contact with wall as you lean torso forward slightly and raise arms in front of you, elbows bent (as shown). Hold squat while circling wrists 10 times in each direction. Stand up, rest 30 seconds and repeat. Do five reps.
Hinge and lift Protects neck, back, heel Stand with right foot a comfortable distance in front of left, heels planted, arms down. With legs straight, bend forward at hips, lowering chest to hip level, and reach forward. Keep arms extended as you return to upright position, then arch back slightly (as shown) and return to start. Switch sides; repeat on other side for one rep. Do five reps.
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Side lean Protects neck, back, wrists, knees Stand with left side facing a sturdy desk or counter about 3 feet away. With legs together, lean to left and place left hand firmly on desk, right arm out to side at shoulder height, palm forward. Hold as you lift (as shown) and lower right leg. Do 10 reps. Switch sides; repeat.
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Chest expansion Protects neck, back Stand with feet hip-width apart, arms at sides, hands in loose fists with thumbs out. Extend arms in front of you at shoulder height, thumbs facing each other. Bend elbows and point thumbs directly behind you while moving elbows out to side (as shown). Return to start; repeat. Do five reps.
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Protects heels Stand about 18 inches from wall, palms flat on wall at chest height, elbows bent. Keeping legs straight, place ball of right foot on wall and press hips toward wall (as shown). Hold for 20 seconds. Switch legs; repeat.
Shoulder spread Protects neck, back Stand with body pressed against wall, feet together, arms out to sides at shoulder height, palms forward (as shown). Maintain contact with wall as you slowly bend elbows to 90 degrees, pointing fingers toward ceiling. Straighten arms and repeat. Do three reps.
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Love is tender. Love is kind. Love is beautiful. Love is blind.
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EG’s got the scoop on interracial relationships. by l’oreal thompson Interracial relationships are becoming more accepted with every generation. According to a recent Cornell University study, interracial relationships and marriages are becoming more common in the United States. The number of interracial marriages involving whites, blacks and Hispanics has increased tenfold since the 1960s. This generation, an estimated 46.3 million Americans between the ages of 14 to 24, are the most diverse generation in American society, which leads to open minds and more interracial relationships. “People are finding people with common interests and common perspectives and are putting race aside,” Ryan Knapick, 22, a graduate of Indiana University, told USA Today. Studies have shown that this “Millennial” generation (which began after “Generation X” sometime in the early 1980s) has friends of different races and are more likely to date someone of another race than previous generations. According to University of Maryland’s School of Public Policy, the people in this age group are more tolerant and unbiased than their parents and grandparents. Another study by Teenage Research Unlimited found that six out of ten teens say their friends include members of diverse racial backgrounds. Today’s teens and young adults grew up with words such as “diversity,” “multicultural” and “inclusion.”
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Colleges have required cultural diversity courses in order to graduate. And the media has also embraced colorblindness in movies, TV, and advertisements, which feature interracial friendships and romantic relationships. Racial diversity is particularly common in college friendships because that age group is exposed to a wider range of people. College students also have more opportunities to become friends and lovers with peers of other races. “I mean, I think we have more [interracial relationships] simply because people have learned to get away from the inherit racism that each generation has to deal with,” explained African-American Loyola College junior Justin White. “I do, however, think that more families than ever are open to the idea of their daughter or son connecting romantically with a person who is not their ethnicity or race, which is a big factor.” White agrees that racial diversity is prominent in college settings. “With the advent of a new economic area where a college degree (undergraduate or graduate) is everything when it comes to economic security, I think college plays a major part in people exploring the dynamics of race and relationship,” says White. “College for many students is the first time that they can break away from their family values and norms and explore their own views of the world and society.” Justin, who is in a six-month relationship with a
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be tough especially if there is animosity toward a mate from the other mate’s family or friends, but do not give up. Also, do not let the fight define your relationship. If you find that the relationship is not going anywhere, do not be afraid to part. Do not feel obligated because of the battle; feel obligated to each other because of the love.” Stephanie Somerville, an African-American senior at Loyola College who is in a three-year relationship with her biracial boyfriend, agrees with Justin. “Don’t let others get to you,” said Somerville. “Focus on the person who loves you.” Devin Foster, who is Stephanie’s boyfriend, is African-American and Irish. According to Devin, the hardest part about being in an interracial relationship is the jealousy he receives, specifically from black men. His girlfriend, Stephanie, agrees. “I think it is the perspectives of others in my race, especially males. They always ask me if Devin is the typical type of guy I go for. When they find out he’s biracial, it’s like ‘Oh, that’s better. This
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white girlfriend, has faced animosity and harsh criticism as part of an interracial couple. His girlfriend’s family, strong Italian Catholics, have threatened not to attend her graduation if she does not break up with Justin. “The thought that family members might opt not to participate in certain monumental events (graduation, weddings, etc.) because a family member is dating outside of the race is hurtful and shameful,” says White. “It makes you wonder when someone says, ‘My love is unconditional’ if that’s really true. Now just because a family member does not approve of someone’s mate does not mean they are a horrible person, it means that history is something that is hard to change, and people’s opinions are even harder…but it can be done.” People in interracial relationships agree it requires the same things as any other relationship: communication is key, as well as honesty and respect. It may not be easy, but it is not impossible. “My advice for interracial couples is: don’t give up!” White says. “It will
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Interracial Couples We Love
David Bowie and Iman: This rock star and world-famous supermodel have been together for over 20 years and don’t show any signs of slowing down.
Heidi Klum and Seal: Another musician and supermodel power couple, Project Runway hostess and Victoria Secret Angel Heidi Klum and international pop star Seal are totally in love with a beautiful family.
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bothers me; because what if he wasn’t half black, would that make my relationship with him worse?” she asked. “[I just wish people knew] there is nothing wrong with [interracial relationships], maybe even branch out and just meet people from outside your own race,” said 22-year-old Foster. Even though society has made strides to become more accepting of interracial relationships, the idea of “jungle fever” (defined by film director Spike Lee as “sexual attraction between members of two races”) still has a negative connotation. “I wish people would abandon the idea of ‘jungle fever’ or that every successful black man goes after white women,” said White. “I believe that men and women who are in interracial relationships are doing so, not because of the other person’s race, but because they have connected with that person. That connection is so strong that it is able to transcend things such as race. I also think that interracial couples know the challenges that they may face, and when they still pursue the relationship, I think that is a great example of triumphant love.” Believe it or not, interracial marriages were banned in the United States until 1967. In 1970, there were 310,00 interracial marriages on record. According to the 2000 U.S. census, 4.9 percent of all marriages are interracial with more than 2 million interracial marriages on record. But there are still people who do not support interracial marriage. Today’s interracial couples enjoy more freedom than couples before them. “The best part about interracial relationships is that opposites can attract! Just because someone is different does not mean that you cannot be compatible. I think when people from different cultural, ethnic, and even economic backgrounds come together and share their love with the world, the world will become a better place,” says White. “If loves does not have a color, I think it is about tie we truly start believing it. We cannot live in a colorblind world, but we can live in a world where all colors are seen as beautiful, whether they are together or separate.”
Halle Berry and Gabriel Aubry: She’s a successful actress and a world-famous biracial beauty. He’s a gorgeous international male supermodel. EG knows their daughter is going to be extra fabulous!
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Summer, Summer, Summer Time
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…Time to Sit Back and Rewind? Or Time to Get into the Work Grind? EG’s got the scoop on Summer Jobs for ya! By Christopher Nelson
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When you think of summer, do you immediately picture relaxin’ on vacation? Some of you EGs think that the best way to spend the summer would be on the beach. Other girls might prefer going off to camp. Others might say the best way to spend the summer would be traveling. But…this summer you might wanna consider a different option. You might make some dough at a summer job or a summer internship. A recent study shows that 49 percent of American teenagers ages 16 to 19 were working or looking for a summer job between the summer of 1997 and the summer of 2007. Those numbers are down 60 percent since the summer of 2000. But those who take on jobs or internships over the summer say that it’s not bad after all. So what are some of the top summer jobs for teens? According to about.com most teens look for jobs as lifeguards, waiters or waitresses, cashiers, camp counselors, office assistants or salespeople. The benefit in some jobs is that it could lead to after school work during the school year. For the last two summers Lauren, a college freshman, has worked as a camp counselor at a local school. As a camp counselor she was often expected to show up early to greet the kids and stay late to make sure all the kids got home safely. Working with kids was
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sometimes a challenge, but it was one of the better jobs out there for people her age. While she says the job took up a lot of time, there were definite benefits to working at a summer camp. The number one benefit was being able to make her own money, because it meant she didn’t have to rely on her parents to do everything for her. Lauren used her paychecks to buy new clothes, put gas in her car, and go to the movies or dinner with her friends. Lauren also saved some money for her first year in college. Another upside was being able to work with her friends. Lauren’s friend, Amaiya, a junior in high school started working at the camp as soon as she turned 16. Each summer Amaiya takes multiple trips. She often spends time in Miami, New York, and Puerto Rico visiting family. The trips are usually spread out so it’s leaves lots of time when Amaiya needs something to do. Davis does say she could be at home or spending time with friends, but it’s great to work if you can find a job. She was also a camp counselor last summer. “It was important because I wanted to do something I really enjoyed, and I enjoy being around young kids,” says Amaiya.
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Maybe working with kids isn’t your scene though. A lot of teens also get jobs at one of their favorite places to spend time – the mall. Chris is a college student who scored a job at one of his favorite clothing stores, Hollister. He says at first he wasn’t really motivated to work. “I wanted to work because other people were working, and I didn’t want to feel left out,” says Chris. He ended up enjoying his experience because he liked working with customers, getting to know his co-workers, and receiving an employee discount which helped him save money on clothes. Getting a summer job can still be a competitive process, so others suggest looking into unpaid internships. Not only does it give you something to do, but it also gives you the opportunity to gain some valuable “real world” experience. Some jobs won’t even hire you if you don’t have any experience in your field. Last summer Terrell graduated from high school. He could have traveled or spent time chillin’ at home. Instead he applied for and got an internship in a public relations office. He had a flexible schedule and was given the opportunity to do lots of different things. He helped design a website, wrote for a company newsletter, and did lots of research on different issues. A flexible schedule allowed him to take on another part-time job where he earned money. He says that he definitely walked away from his internship satisfied. He encourages other students to intern even if it’s for free because you can learn so much through an internship. “You can learn what you might want to do and also what you certainly don’t want to do,” says Terrell. Aprill is a public relations executive who lives in New York. Back when she was in college she did two internships in two different areas. She interned at a newspaper in Florida, and she did an internship in Washington, D.C. working on Capitol Hill. While she originally thought she’d want to be a journalist, she ended up changing her concentration to public relations. Since then she’s had the experience of working for politicians and celebrities. She says her success wouldn’t
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have come without the right internship. Aprill now coordinates the intern program at her company. She loves the opportunity she has to mentor students. “Do your best and remember this is not a dress rehearsal, it is real life. I often times see interns in my office that approach the job as if it is not real or this is a class at school that they can coast in. It is indeed real. There are rewards for performing well.” Whether it was at a summer job or a summer internship, all the teens EG talked to said that it’s about making the most of your experience. College students say summer jobs look great on your resume, and show that you’re a go-getter. Working also allows you to pick up new skills. Those with summer jobs or internships say they learned to communicate better, stick to deadlines, and how to work well with others. These are all things you’ll need to do when you’re older and looking for even better jobs! So go out there and get ‘em EG! Lookin’ for more suggestions on how to make that green? Need resume tips? Get on myspace.com/essencegirl to learn more!!!
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The GODDESS Quiz Girl, you already know that you’re a goddess but what kind of great goddess are you? Our quiz will help bring out your inner goddess and tell you how to make the most of what you got! 1. What’s your after-school activity of choice? a.Soccer practice b.Student Government c.Chattin’ it up with a cutie or hangin’ with your BF d.Sending out fliers about saving the earth. Go Green Girl! 2. If you won the lottery what would you do with those dolla dolla bills? a.buy new athletic gear, if it’s lax season you’ve gotta have the new stick b.buy some professional new clothes- it’s never to early to score an internship c.buy some cute clothes to impress your crush or some new date duds if you’re attached d.give it away to the charity of your choice
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3. What’s your future job? a.Professional sports player or coach b.Anything that’s take-charge: teacher, CEO, or a lawyer c.I love hanging with the boys so any business job d.Anything where you can show off your activist side or help save the environment 4. Which cutie would you crush on? a.The star soccer stud b.The math genius c.Hmmm I don’t know if I have a type…I’ve liked tons of different guys d.There’s something about those rebellious guys… 5. There’s a school dance and your sweetie is sure to be there. What are you wearing? a.Something cute but comfy like a nice tee, a skirt and flats. b.Casual & classy: your favorite dress never fails c.Flirty and fun: Bright colors and funky details on a dress will catch some cuties d.Basically beautiful: nice jeans or a skirt and my fave top with cute accessories 6. Who’s your role model? a. Athletic greats like Venus Williams b. Empowering women like Condelezza Rice c. Flirty females like Beyoncé d. Girls with a cause like Marian Anderson
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Results: Mostly B’s: ACADEMIC ATHENA
Girl, you’re sporty and athletic, and always ready for the next challenge or battle just like Artemis, the Greek Goddess of War. Channel your competitive side and try taking your athletic spirit into other areas- like the classroom or after-school clubs. Be the leader in your next group project, go for the lead in a school play or run for a board position in Spanish Club. Sports aren’t the only arena you can rock!
Got brains? You sure do, girl, just like the Goddess of Wisdom, Athena. While it’s awesome that you’re a supersmart sistah and you’re always hittin’ the books and being super involved you gotta remember to take a breather. Use your competitive drive in gym class or at the gym to de-stress after serious studying. Or try refraining from touching your science project this Saturday and go hang with your girls. An A+ academic diva like you deserves it.
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Mostly A’s: ATHLETIC ARTEMIS
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Mostly C’s: AMOROUS APHRODITE
Mostly D’s: DELIGHTFUL DEMETER
You’re a flirty female just like the Greek Goddess of Love, Aphrodite. While it’s fun to flirt up all the boys, you should put some of that amorous oomph into other activities too. Use your confidence to take charge and get some serious studying done. Play some sports and you’ll sport a whole new arena of things to chat with the guys about.
Is green your middle name? Like Demeter, the Goddess of the Fields, you love the outdoors and are totally focused on getting involved. While it’s totally great to fight for a cause and wanna be outdoors all time girl you gotta make sure you focus on your own well-being and take care of yourself instead of just trying to save the rest of the world. Chillax with a run or a hike outside. Cleanse your mind and your body with some yoga or pilates.
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Super Cute Swimsuits! You’re not all set for summer until you’ve scored a sweet swimsuit. Our picks won’t break the bank and we’ve found tons of different styles! Here are some Essence Girl faves. SPLURGE URGE? If you’ve got the dough we’ve got the splurge for you! Bling-it on Babe. Get ready to turn some heads at the beach when you flaunt it in this fine piece. Mock 2 Piece Halter w/ Scoop Bottom Set $54.99 Baby Phat
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Golden Girl? Show everyone that you’re a princess when you sport this sassy gold-trimmed suit. GUESS Glam GoldTrimmed Halter & Bottom TOP- $48.00 BOTTOM-$44.00 at macys.com
Race ya to myspace.com/essencegirl for our super swimsuit calculator!
Lady in Lime. Who says one pieces should be boring? You’re sure to shine in this stunner. Merona Bandeau onepiece $34.99 at target. com
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Daring Darling? Take on two trends in this retro-print monokini - a one-piece with cute little cutouts. Mossimo Black: Swirl Monokini $34.99 at target.com
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Hot Town... Summer in the City
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by cait rohan photos by jesse deflorio
Golden Girl:
Shine brighter than any star in sassy metallic numbers like this gold unitard from American Apparel. Long beads add drama. Finish this showstopper off with something a lil something simple like black shorts.
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Sure summer days are super hot…but what happens when darkness falls? EG’s got the latest fashion flash with gear straight from the city streets.
Not so into the flashy look? Try takin’ the shine factor down but still look flirty in this white and pink dress by babe. aboutique. Perfect for a date night or a night out with your girls!
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fashion Keepin’ it Cas
Hittin’ the movies or the mall with your girls? You don’t wanna look too dressed up but hey you still gotta look fly. Try pairing a cute patterned tee like this one by Y.B.M. and appliquéd shorts by Ande and Amarley.
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Sporty Sistah
Show the boys that you know your sports and your style in this sassy set. Pair a cute tank, track shorts and flashy socks by American Apparel with heels to show them that this lady’s got class and sassafrass.
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fashion Rock it Retro
Take it back old school with this season’s 70’s-inspired styles like this coral tank and white pants by babe.aboutique.
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Doll it Up
And if it’s a fancy affair? Amp it up in these richly-hued dresses by House of Couture. You’ll be fancy AND fierce!
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Hair All About It! Tresses got ya stressin’? Relax! EG’s bustin’ some hair myths for you. Your hair is sure to go from ho-hum to hottie after you follow our easy tips! by kara steube African-Americans ladies! Proper hair care, however, can help hair grow healthier, and sometimes add to length. The better you care for your coif, the more potential you have to flaunt those lengthy locks.
Hair Myths Black hair can handle rough treatment False!
African American hair can only grow so long False! First and foremost, how long your hair can grow is determined genetically! Even if you take the absolute best care of your hair, it will still only reach a certain length, according to your genes. That goes for everyone’s hair, not just
For hair to be healthy, it has to shine, have body and feel like silk False!
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Black hair is the most fragile hair in the world because of its ribbony texture. Natural curls make hair weak and therefore much more susceptible to damage. Rough combing, chemical and heat abuse as well as stressful styles can shred hair to pieces in a matter of months.
Generally speaking, when in its natural state of a highly coiled texture, black hair isn’t “silky.” Even relaxed hair will never have the feel of silk the way it is meant in advertisements. Just because your hair isn’t silky, doesn’t mean it isn’t healthy! Take body for example. Compare the body of an Afro to a straight hairstyle. No contest! An Afro can stay suspended for days if nothing mashes it down. The damper it is outside, the higher and lighter it will raise while straight hair will go limp and hang. Now that’s body, and body is very healthy!
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Finding a Foxy Foundation
The longer I keep hair oil on, the better it is for my hair False!
Don’t know the difference between foundation and You actually need hair oil only for half an hour concealer? Can’t seem to an hour. It merely smoothens frizzled hair cuticles and to find the right color for isn’t absorbed into the hair shaft or scalp. In fact, keepyour skin? EG Beauty ing oil in your hair for a longer period or overnight traps to the rescue! We’re dirt, causes build up of residue, and leads to blackheads here to answer all your and acne on the forehead. So ease up on the oil, girl! questions!
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Summer Hairstyles Summer is coming which means beach, bathing suits, and summer hair! For many girls, this last thing may make your stomach sink. Summer means heat, humidity and sweat -- a hair nightmare! Here’s how to beat the heat and still look good. Ah, but don’t worry! Your hair is gorgeous and with the right care, its natural beauty can really shine through. A few simple tips can give you the magnificent mane you have always dreamed of without spending too many dolla dolla bills. The best advice for summer hair is to keep it simple! Braids, twists, cornrows and spirals are the best styles to handle the heat.
Want a fab new funky hairstyle? Try out EG’s Makeover Mama tool on myspace.com/essencegirl
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Where do I put foundation? First and foremost, teenagers do not need foundation all over the face! Especially in the summertime, foundation should just be used to cover blemishes.
How do I know what color is best for me? The best rule of thumb for choosing the right foundation color is looking for yellow-toned foundation. Yellow is the most natural tone and generally works best with every skin color. If your skin isn’t just one ethnic color, the yellow-tone rule is definitely for you. The darker your complexion, the deeper your color tone should be. Look for chocolates and deep plums for darker skins.
What do I use to cover a blemish? Many girls confuse concealer with foundation, not knowing when to use what. Concealer is one shade lighter than your skin, which is used to lighten dark under-eye circles. For blemishes, use a foundation stick. This beauty tool generally matches your skin tone to hide the redness of a blemish.
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Four beauty things you don’t need to worry about now!
These beauty tricks will make you look like you’re wearing your mom’s makeup or like you’re performing onstage! Trust EG…you have many years before you need any of these!
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Myth: Dark skin doesn’t need sun protection False!
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For the best summer skin, keep the foundation to a minimum, too much will make you look like you’re melting under that summer sun! Accentuate your glowing skin by brushing on a light shimmering powder. A bronzer powder can be brushed onto eyelids, cheekbones and the collarbone. Bronzer gives these areas a gorgeous summer glow.
Dark Smoky Eyes
The truth is that everyone’s skin needs protection to prevent premature aging and formation of skin cancer. Black skin still is damaged when it is exposed to too much sun. Dermatologists recommend a daily application of sunscreen with a SPF of 15 or higher.
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EG Horoscopes fashion forecast You’re sure to be super sassy this summer with EG’s fashion forecast! Outlook? Always sunny!
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Hey, we’ve all got big personalities, why not have a bigger wardrobe to match? This issue it’s all about vamping up your look and getting in gear with sweet summer clothes. The planets are in full swing and your future is lookin’ mighty bright. Read up for freshy, funky styles that will put the vava-voom where you need it most, your closet of course!
Virgo Cancer You’re one earthy goddess with a warm soul. Highlight your cozy personality this summer with a plain white tee and your fave pair of old jeans.
Leo You’re a lion at heart who loves to be the center of attention. Show off your wild side with some crazy animal prints and faux fur, like leopard-print ballet flats or a zebra-print dress. Gold accessories with make you sparkle!
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You’re a practical chica with skills that are out of this world! The secret to your posh style is all in the details. Have fun with a silver clutch, an electric blue belt, or patterned capris to keep you looking fresh all summer long!
Libra Your charming personality is a people-magnet. Play up your easygoing and elegant manner with romantic threads, such as fluttery sleeves and lacy details this summer.
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Pisces Creativity is your claim to fame! Try out different prints and patterns this summer, such as retro art deco or pretty plaids for a look that’s totally you!
Sagittarius Since you’re always on the go, you live in sweats, sneakers and tee shirts! Dress it up a little this summer with dark rinse jeans, fabulous tunics and stylin’ flip-flops!
Aries You’re a headstrong diva who meets every challenge. Dress up your greatest asset with funky newsboy caps. If you’re not into hats, you can rock bright-colored headbands for a look that is out of this world!
Capricorn You only the settle for the best, nothing less will do! Instead of blowing your paycheck on a couple of designer threads, shine up your expectations in bronze, gold or silver metallic make-up for a dazzling good time!
Taurus Determination is your greatest strength. Once you set a goal, you achieve it! Dress for success with classic fashions, like button-down shirts and pin-striped pants for your dream internship.
Aquarius As an independent go-getter, you set trends, not follow them! Visit a vintage shop for super-fun accessories and great outfit combinations, like skinny jeans and strappy sandals!
Gemini Ever the multi-tasker, you balance school, sports, and fun with no probs. Embrace your versatile style with wicked patterns, like plaid skirts or striped tanks; just don’t wear them all at once!
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Scorpio You’re the queen of mystery and your charm always has people coming back for more. Instead of going for the usual black, add some color to your wardrobe with purple or dark green that will have you feeling like royalty!
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Last Laugh: SUMMER BUMMERS!
Unfortunately Summer’s not just about havin’ fun in the sun. Here your EG sistahs share their embarrassing summer slip-ups.
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Bikini Boo-Boo I was outside laying out in the sun with one of my friends. I’d left my top untied so I wouldn’t get any tan lines. I was listening to my ipod and half-asleep when I felt someone spray me with water. I sat up in shock and of course I didn’t think to retie my top. I ended up not only flashing my friend’s brother but all of his cute friends too. Fall-Down Friend I was at my friend’s house for her birthday party which was a pool party, boys and girls. We started playing truth or dare. When it was my turn my friends dared me to do a silly jump off the side. I was all set to do it, so I started climbing the ladder and I was really hyper and laughing. I guess I was climbing too fast because I slipped on one of the steps and fell down the ladder, cutting my knee. Her mom had to come outside to help me. So embarrassing.
Mini Wedding Planner(s) I’m a summer camp counselor and since it’s really hard to entertain the kids sometimes I’ll tell them stories about my own life. I told them about my crush one day and of course they always loved to tease me about it. One day my crush came to visit me at work as a surprise. For one of their arts and crafts projects that day all of my kids made pictures of me and my crush’s “wedding,” and since he was there he saw them. Mortifying! Bruisin’ Balloons A bunch of my girls were having a water balloon fight on a really hot day. We met up with a bunch of the boys and they joined in too. Me and the boy I liked kept taking direct hits at each other. I guess my crush didn’t realize how strong he was or where he was aiming because he threw one at my head and it hit me in the eye. I started crying and he got sooo upset too. I had a black eye for a week but at least he kept coming over to say sorry! Wo-Man Overboard I’m really uncoordinated, but at the camp I go to everyone has to do all the sports. We were doing the canoes one day and I tried to explain that I’m really afraid of water but the counselor made me
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get in anyway. I was shaking really hard and I guess I was too nervous to really listen to directions. One of my friends was laughing and waving at me so I waved back. I guess I was waving a little too hard because I tipped the canoe and fell in. Everyone called me “Tippy Tenisha” for the rest of camp.
Word of Mouth It was the last day of camp and I realized I was never going to talk to this guy who I thought was soo fine. So I wrote him a little note that basically told him I liked him, and my screenname/phone number so that maybe we could talk during the year. I snuck it into what I THOUGHT was his locker. Well, I guess it was someone else’s because by that afternoon people were going around saying my note out loud to me, and making kissy noises. It was so bad.
Dear Diary Disaster I got really bored last summer so I decided to make a diary with made-up stories about my crush and I falling in love and stuff. I also included little doodles. Well apparently my little brother went through my stuff and found the journal. He thought it was a great idea to go around our neighborhood and post some of my entries on street signs or leave them on doorsteps. Everyone knew! Makin’ Waves I was at the town pool when I noticed this boy that I was crushing on was there too! I was trying to impress him so I went to the high dive to try to do my best swan dive. On my way down, I messed up and basically did a belly flop into the water. It wouldn’t have been that bad except my top got untied and floated away. I had to run out of the pool covering myself. My crush was cracking up.
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Caught Coolin’ It was really hot last summer and we don’t have air conditioning. I know it’s weird but sometimes I open my fridge and just kind of sit there for a few minutes to cool off. Well, I was doing this as my older brother and his friends walked in. The worst part was that I was in my really ugly bathing suit that barely fit. They couldn’t stop laughing.
Poop Oops It had just gotten really hot out so I was flaunting it in my new white shorts. I was sure I was looking really fly as I walked past my crush. But as I walked past I heard “EEEEEEEWWW!” go up from my guy and his friends. Turns out I had somehow sat in a melted chocolate bar earlier that day and it was now smeared on the back of my white shorts. The boys still call me Miss Poop.
CELEB SLIP-UP - OUR GIRL FERGIE! She’s not always G-L-A-M-O-R-O-U-S!!! Hey, even celebs have OOPS moments too! Our girl Fergie says her most embarrassing moment is when she wet her pants on-stage at a San Diego Concert. “The most embarrassing moment of my life was when I had my ‘accident’ live on stage in San Diego. That’s one picture I’ll never live down. That’ll always be there,” says Fergie Have an embarrassing moment that you wanna share? Go to myspace.com/essencegirl and submit your embarrassing moments. We could feature you on the site or in the mag. Next issue is School Daze so send any of your embarrassing in-school moments to us!!!
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