More Questions Than Answers

more questions than answers

winter 2018

The best thing I’ve ever done is admit that I don’t know the answer. These past few years, as I’ve taken on more responsibility in my life, my work, and in movements for justice, I’ve noticed the weight of expectation that comes when people ask me hard questions. How, “I don’t know,” is disappointing, or even unacceptable.

I’ve done this to myself, too. For years—I had to have the answers in school, had to say the right thing to those who had power over me, had to convince others that I knew what I was doing. I had to know everything, all the time.

What don’t you know?

1. Are you making decisions based on true intuition or is it a trauma response?

3. Why do we keep eating our leaders alive? Why do we take big bites, chew on their bones, and spit out what we don’t like? Why do we build people up into leadership positions when the same positions are built on unrealistic and dehumanizing standards?

9. What is queerness without trauma?

10. What harm are you willing to inflict, just to prevent yourself from feeling shame?

13. What am I so scared of?

14. When did people start stating all their identities before (or, as a precursor to?) their stories? Wouldn’t your identities just come out in your stories?

17. What does it mean to listen to my body, when my body isn’t aligned with my emotions?

Check out the FULL zine online for all 26 questions, and additional reflections.