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Padraic Cawley on the write to be heard
Write to be heard!
Whoever I’m working with on the design of a Funeral, you’ll hear me explain at some point about how the draft script is likely to look.
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I prepare families for a piece of writing that will be sent to them, which at times can look odd! At various points, it will feel awkward to read. And I can guarantee that it would probably fail any academic, English language or grammar test. The reason is simple - My ceremonies are written to be ‘heard’, and not simply ‘read’, and I write them hearing myself saying the very words I put together.
When I am delivering a ceremony, the language, pace, tone, punctuation, and overall presentation carries just as much weight, if not more sometimes than the actual written content. Writing to be ‘heard’ is very different from writing pieces of work that are to be read and digested. When you’re writing to be heard, you’re writing for immediate impact! It’s about thinking through every single word you use. It’s a different skill set, and not everyone understands it.
In my work, I make use of language patterns. I systematically hit all of the senses. I speak in colour, as well as in black and white. I draw from the past, as well as walk people into the future. I talk ‘big picture’ along the detail and lots lots more. It all helps create a ceremony that’s engaging, captivating, and unforgettable. Your family’s ceremony is a once off experience. They won’t get a second chance to run it again. They owe it to themselves to have the best.
Padraic Cawley Civil Funeral Celebrant
QUALITY WHERE IT MATTERS
Established in the early 1990’s, DJ MacNeice & Company Limited has forged a reputation as the leading supplier and manufacturer in the funeral business in Ireland. Here in DJ MacNeice, we value the needs and individual requirements of each of our customers. That is why all our mortuary and funeral products are sourced and manufactured to meet the highest industry production standards.
Here at DJ MacNeice & Co we cover all your funeral supplies needs from embalming fluids, mortuary supplies for mounting and linings for caskets and coffins, grave mat sets, grave markers and a high quality section of urns and keepsakes cards. All our products are manufactured to the highest standards.
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Patrick and Monica Hickey, McNally’s Funeral Directors, Balbriggan, came up to Co. Antrim to collect their new 3 Door E Class from Deborah Quinn
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rough our own personal experience we received the inspiration to set up Treasured Keepsakes, to give people a wide variety of options upon a loved one’ s passing should they choose to keep a lock of hair, cremated remains, a piece of jewellery, a photograph or anything that is a personal reminder of their loved one in a small keepsake, keepsake pendant or urn.
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For those unable to be here
The worst of the pandemic may be behind us, however in every walk of life its reach and lasting effects are visible to this day. It is very likely that life may never return to what we once considered ‘normal’ - at least not fully. Funerals Live made a valuable contribution during a time when the world attempted to find a way for loved ones to participate in a funeral restricted by social distancing measures, in the form of their secure online viewing system. Alan Foudy introduced the service in response to the increasing problem of families divided by miles, in a world increasingly marked by migration. Being part of the final goodbye to someone who has meant something in our lives has long been considered a crucial part of the grieving process, and Funerals Live enables families to record their loved ones funeral service in order to later afford family and friends who are unable to make it in person the opportunity to feel part of the experience. Those watching remotely are presented with the opportunity to take part in the grieving process via a secure online viewing system, at all times respecting the families wishes and with their express permission. The funeral service is recorded and made available a short while later through a secure online portal. It is important to note that the ceremony may only be accessed and viewed by those who have received a specific password. A live streaming option exists for those wishing to view in real-time.
Offering a professional and discreet service, Funerals Live respect the sensitivity of the occasion at all times and go the extra mile to respect all wishes. There are a range of options available to suit the different needs of each and every family who wish to avail of the services offered.
If you would like to know more, please feel free to contact Alan Foudy on: T: 087 765 8133 or by email: alan@foudystreaming.com
YEARS
Mrs Jackie Smiley 1947-2022
Northern Ireland Kidney Research Fund are deeply sorry to have lost their highly esteemed member of over 50 years, Mrs Jackie Smiley.
Being a kidney transplant recipient twice in her life, first in the early ‘80’s then again, after failure and another 16 long years on dialysis, Jackie’s sister Joan McQuillan became her living donor in 2014. Jackie’s late sister Yvonne Scott and late mother Doreen Currie also benefitted from kidney transplants at Belfast City Hospital. Throughout their lives Jackie, her two sisters and family served NIKRF tirelessly, raising funds and promoting organ donation. Jackie also took part in the Transplant Games and was instrumental in helping to organise the first Lisburn Fun Run with Lisburn & Castlereagh City Council. Her fun and enthusiasm will be greatly missed, but most of all her friendship to the kidney family.
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List of PEAI Officers and Appointed pRe resentatives for 2022-2023
Chairperson - Professional Embalmers Association of Ireland Pauline Lynch MPEAI, MEAE Mobile: 087 7677088 Email: paulinelyn@gmail.com
Secretary - Professional Embalmers Association of Ireland Gráinne Teefy MPEAI Mobile: 085 857 0029
Treasurer - Professional Embalmers Association of Ireland Michael Grealish MPEAI, MEAE Mobile: 087-8184283 Email: grealishmichael@gmail.com
PRO -Professional Embalmers Association of Ireland Joe McNamara MPEAI, MEAE, MIAFD Email: josephmcnamara94@gmail.com
# 1 Continuing education: The PEAI educational programmes which provide updates on any issues that affect their jobs.
# 2 Networking opportunities: Professional association’s periodic meetings offer events throughout the year that allow professionals to network with their peers, you’ll forge lasting ties with others who have common professional interests and similar business concerns. These relationships will be a rich, ongoing source of inspiration and ideas. We try to accommodate nationwide meeting venue locations.
# 3 Access to resources: Offer helpful information about our industry. Such resources may also provide news about upcoming events, conferences, meetings, and even career opportunities not publicized elsewhere.
# 4 New perspective: Working as an embalmer can become extremely busy and can get stuck in their own little bubbles. Being around other industry professionals with different viewpoints will expose you to new ideas and outlooks. This can have a very positive effect not only on your personal growth and development but also your mental health.
# 5 Professional developments: Beyond proven certification provide some form of professional development opportunities. These come in the form of workshops programme.
# 6 Getting your name out there: Professional organizations can be a great way to increase your own visibility, this increased visibility can be essential when trying to enhance your own professional trade service, especially in the beginning of your career.
# 7 Certificates:
The PEAI supply all members with embalming certificates for repatriation cases.
# 8 Discounted Insurance:
The PEAI supply discounted insurance products for its members.
The Benefits to the undertaker operating with our members.
You can be assured that all our members are continuously enhancing their skills and stay ahead of industry trends and techniques with our educational programmes. As a result of availing of our members services our members will aid you to provide a better service to your clients.
The PIEA has an established Code of Professional Conduct which must be adhered to by all of its members while practicing embalming.
All our members are provided with Professional Identification cards and embalming documentation required to accompany repatriation cases.
With you in mind please view our list of members available nationwide listed by county for your convenience www. professionalembalmers.ie
All members must meet certain criteria before being accepted into the Association.
