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There are many reasons they could be doing this. They could be struggling themselves and don’t want to admit, or they could just have a complete disregard you. The best thing you can do is approach them. It is understandable that you feel angry about the situation but try to be calm when you do. This will help prevent things from being awkward in the future or inflaming the situation. It may be a good idea to start locking your bedroom when you are out, it seems extreme but this in itself is a communication on how you feel. Ask them if they are struggling for money, if they are the university does offer financial advice. There are many places they can go. My housemate keeps stealing my clothes and food, I have tried to let it pass but the last few weeks have gotten really bad and I am now out of pocket and clothes. How do I stop this without things being awkward?

If they are not struggling with money, then you need to explain that it is inappropriate and that they need to stop. They should understand and respect this.

My boyfriend just told me he hasn’t had an STD check for 2 years, and he has had multiple sexual partners. He keeps telling me he will get one but have been together for months now. I am worried he thinks I am nagging at him or hinting at him. How do I get around this?

The fact is that he does need to get checked. There are walk in appointments at the Cardiff Royal Infirmary and it takes no time at all. You should not feel like you are nagging or pressuring him. It is for the physical health of both of you and your own peace of mind. He is your boyfriend, if you are close enough to have sex, he needs to respect the things that come along with it. You should also get tested, going together might make it seem less of a chore and he may feel less embarrassed. I’m dating someone at the moment, but I can’t stop thinking about my ex-boyfriend and the fun we had. My current partner is so kind, but we don’t have as much as fun as I used to. What do I? 3.

This is a very common and upsetting situation. We are at an age where fun is very important. It is natural to compare your current relationships to your past ones. It is sometimes the case that the ones that are most ‘exciting’, aren’t the best for you. There is a reason you broke up with your ex -boyfriend and you shouldn’t feel like because your current relationship is different it is any worse.

Having said this, if you are not happy in your relationship then that is an issue, regardless of your ex. You may just not be compatible if you do no find yourself having fun. You could maybe try to find new things to do as it sounds as if you’re holding them to the same standards as your ex. They may find different things fun that you haven’t experienced yet. I think the best way is to try and create new fun but if in a few weeks you still feel the same then you must do what is best for you in the long run.

I am dating two boys at the moment but neither of them wants to make it serious. Do I continue to do this or just end things with both of them? 4.

It can be really hard when you are looking for a relationship and the person you like isn’t giving you what you expect. However, seeing two people might tell you that you may not be looking for something serious either, and, if you are the these may not be the best options for you. There is nothing wrong with seeing two different people as long as they are both aware you are not exclusive. The best thing to do is have an open and honest chat with yourself about if you genuinely want to be serious with either of these in particular. If yes, then you need to do the same with this person.

If you are assuming they don’t want to be serious but have not actually spoken about it then you may be acting on false assumptions.