Getting Strong, Together

Written by Justin Neil Gaynor

One of the best dates that I ever went on was a day at the beach teaching this cute hippy girl how to surf. Now, it wasn’t an “official” date. It just turned out that way. Things didn’t work out with her... however, through the years I have found that good things happen when you spend a day at the beach with a beautiful single woman. Something to do with the vitamin D from the sunshine perhaps?

If a beach day isn’t possible, doing anything physical that helps you get stronger together tends to be fertile ground for developing bonds of genuine friendship and dare I say...romantic love. Physical exertion releases endorphins and serotonin into the bloodstream. These two hormones generally elevate a person’s mood, help with concentration (always helpful when you are trying to get to know someone), and strengthen a person’s ability to understand thoughts, experiences, and senses. It’s like the opposite of having drunk hookup sex, as enjoyable as that can be. You really have an opportunity to discover each other. So, as we emerge from the winter months consider focusing on getting stronger together with the gal you have set your love upon... physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually...

If you are currently single, and God just hasn’t brought that “WOW! Gal” into your life... be patient...and get out there with your squad...strengthen those relationships. Your people likely know women that you haven’t met yet who may a good match.

The fact is that internet dating is 90+% a huge waste of time. Meeting someone local while you are out there living your life in a way that adds health, and wealth, and wisdom to you as an individual will only make you more desirable when the right woman finds her way to you.

This is not to mention that you have a responsibility to prepare yourself to be the best possible boyfriend, fiance’, and husband to the woman God is preparing to be your wife that you possibly can be. So, submit to what God is doing in your life. He’s preparing you to be the answer to someones prayer. So consider where you are, and ask God to lead you in your journey towards that goal. In the book of Esther, women would have to go through 12 months of treatments to make them presentable as a potential spouse to the king; how much more ought you to allow God to prepare you for Him to present you to one of His daughters? Who knows what He’s already leading your future wife through?