Goddess Magazine December/January 2010 Issue by Goddess Magazine

Reveal The Goddess Within You!

MAGAZI E December 2009/January 2010

Domestic Abuse: Love Should Not Hurt

Shantel Jarmon shares her on-air radio experience

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Mission Statement Goddess Magazine is the premier lifestyle magazine for today's urban young women. Our purpose is to provide teens, ages 14-18, with a positive and clear outlook on today's often harsh society. Goddess Magazine is a bi-monthly online lifestyle magazine that caters to young womenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s health, fitness, fashion, beauty, and career needs. Goddess Magazine has added a special flare to the publication; the readers will be the magazine's writers. This is a great way for teens to express their creativity and establish a special relationship with Goddess Magazine. Goddess Magazine is also dedicated to mentoring young women to become leaders and inspire them to connect with themselves and with others!

Staff Managing Editor Tiffany Walden Staff Writers Jasmyne McDonald Quinton Neal Brandy Bynum Tiara Wilkinson April Daley Teen Writers Victoria Dudley Rana Tuggle Neferteri Johnson Angelique Boyd Imani Watson Tiara Turner Contributing Writers Nicole Rogers Kasuna Habler

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Founder/EditorFounder/Editor-InIn-Chief Danielle Wideman

Table of Contents 6 GoddessStar: Meet Christian Hines 8 CoverGoddess: Always on Call: Shantel Jarmon 10 GoddessCorner: Searching For Reel Beauty 12 Glam’nGoddess: Moisturize Your Winter Woes 13 GoddessHair: Helping Your Hair Cope Through the Winter 14 GoddessHealth: 411 on Eating Disorders 16 GoddessCorner: Prom Fantasy: A Cinderella Story 19 GoddessTrend: Q’s Fashion Corner 20 GoddessGoals: The College Checklist 24 GoddessEntertainment: Our one-on-one with Omarion 26 GoddessEntertainment: Meet Chicago’s Own Princess Ayona 28 LiteraryGoddess: Drowning in a Mother’s Womb by: Ciara Anderson 29 GoddessExpressions: Creative Writings 30 GoddessCorner: Love Should Not Hurt: Teen Domestic Abuse 32 GoddessCorner: Teen Homelessness: Where They’ve Got No Where Else To Go 33 GoddessCorner: CPS: Can’t Pin-Down Solutions 34 GoddessCorner: Having Fun with Girl Scouts

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Meet...Christian Hines: Up Against the Odds, but still pursuing her dreams! Telling stories and expressing my are the people that I want to cater thoughts through black and white is

dreams, I had an inspirational leader

to. It’s not always about the cost but in my life who gave me direction as

not only a hobby but I

the quality and how

feel empowered as I

the clothes make you could be proud of me but for me to

am writing. I feel as

feel as a person. I

be proud of myself. My grandmother

though I am changing

want my clothes to

sacrificed a lot to insure my happi-

something, maybe not

make you feel like a

ness, and when I truly become a star,

the world or anything

different person. I

I will owe it all to her. Unfortunately,

like that but I am

do not want some-

not everyone has the opportunity to

opening someone’s

one to regret that

live in the prototypical two-parent

eyes to see through

they bought it.

home and I stand as a living testa-

mine and I love that

I am Christian

to what path to take, not just so she

ment. Yes, there are many statistics

feeling. I love writing

Janice Hines born on that are against us and many people

but designing is my

September 19, 1990, who believe that we won’t amount

passion. Designing clothes has been

which makes me 19. Currently, I am

to anything because of the status-

my dream since I was a little girl.

enrolled at Northern Illinois Univer-

quo but I am an example of why that

There is no better feeling than know- sity, double majoring in Textiles and

is not true. My father was not a part

ing that someone is wearing my crea- Journalism. My career goals are very of my life, not because he chose tion. I had something to do with

significant to me while attending col- against raising me, but because he is

what they’re wearing; it’s almost as if lege because I want to set expecta-

deceased. I didn’t get to know him as

I am in their closet. That’s why I will

a person to see our similarities and

tions for myself; therefore, I have a

become not just a fashion journalist, plan. I think a career should be

differences, but I didn’t let that stop

but also a fashion designer. I want to something you cherish and love, no

my determination for continuing my

design pieces that are affordable for

other feeling can compare to you

life and education. My mother has

the average person. Everyone can’t

performing your craft.

struggled from substance abuse for

afford high-priced clothing and those

Before I decided to achieve my

years and there is never a day that I

Calling All GoddessStars! Do you know a young lady who has been outstanding in school or that is always helping in her community? Goddess Magazine is looking to feature a young woman in our GoddessStar section. This section is dedicated to recognize young women between the ages of 14-18 who has made changes, big or small, to better herself or her community. If you would like to nominate a young lady, please submit a 350 words or less essay describing her accomplishments. All nominations are due by January 18, 2010. www.GoddessGirlMag.com

fault her for it. Giving me and my siblings up for adoption was probably

Growing up, I was a part of an organization called the Chicago

that I plan to potentially write for a well-known fashion magazine. Writ-

the best decision that she could have Youth Programs. It is an organization ing has always been one of my greatmade. I know it was tough for her

where they empower youth to reach est strengths; I love words and paint-

but it would

their full potentials by

ing pictures with them. Writing a

have been even

providing tutoring pro-

novel is a long term goal as well. I am

harder for me

grams, free health care, not sure what type of novel but

and my siblings

recreational opportuni-

something of a dramatic romance. I

to see her that

ties, cultural activities

love writing stories where a lesson is

way. She gave

and career placement

learned or where my readers can

us the life that

services that promote

take something from my work,

she knew she

whole-child develop-

where they look into their lives and

would have

ment. It has given me a try to make connections with my sto-

never been able

sense of leadership,

to give us and I

when I leave there I feel the message being given or they

love her for it.

as though I am helping

ries. If my readers don’t catch on to don’t take anything from it then I

Statistics show that I should have

someone become a better person

know I have done a poor job at trying

dropped out of school by now or ei-

and also bettering myself as well.

to reach out to them.

ther fell victim to teen pregnancy but Children who are less fortunate or

On my journey through college, I

I plan on doing neither. Failure is not who live in the inner city need just as believe having true friends around in my future and I plan to not only

much attention as anyone else and if you and a positive attitude can make

make my mother proud but also my- helping with homework or just plain

college a little easier. I always made

self. I’m doing all this hard work so

having an conversation can make a

sure that my friends were a reflec-

we don’t have to want for anything.

child’s day then I am

tion of me and that

all for it. Chicago

having them around

Youth Programs has

would motivate me to

In high school, I guess you could say I was the "it" girl. I was the co-

captain of the cheerleading team for taught me to become

be a better person.

3 years, while remaining on the

People who have posi-

humble and really

honor roll throughout my high school appreciate the signifi-

tive attitudes always

career. Education has always played

attract me to them; if I

cance of education. I

a significant roll in my life, being that can definitely say it

meet someone who

without education, there would not

has a plan or either is

has matured me into

be any opportunities for me to make a respectable young

just self confident and

a better way. I take advantage of

really believes in suc-

woman and I know

every academic opportunity given to my future will be brighter than my

cess then that’s the circle I want

me; taking tutoring sessions to better past thanks to them.

around me. Ultimately, we will reach

my grades to pass the class and by

success together. Having a positive

Now that I am in college, my ca-

making sure that I put wants last and reer goals consist of me graduating needs as priority.

attitude can be difficult in college

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by: April Daley Staff Writer If you flip through the thousands of radio stations in the

cause it means that I'm doing a good job,” she said. However, according to Jarmon the challenges are balanced by the positive moments. One night in September, the show chose a “What's the

Chicagoland area Sunday nights at 7 P.M, one opening phrase

might catch your attention: “It's your red head, getting bread: Solution?” topic, focusing on Derrion Albert, the 16-year-old teen who was beaten to death in Roseland. The show allowed Sharman Jarmon.” Meet Red-headed Shantel Jarmon, the 20-year-old Sun-

teens to give their opinion on the reaction to the news, vio-

day night host on True Star Radio, WPWX-FM Power 92.3.

lence in schools and to speak with former gang members. The

Every week, the Dominican University sophomore and the

college sophomore said that night was her favorite show so

rest of staff spend hours picking a topic from True Star Maga- far. “The fact that we could get on the radio and say we

zine to discuss on air that Sunday. “On the show, we're basically telling all the stories that

came from that and we're not dead,” she said. “To be able to

you're gonna catch in the latest edition or the next edition [of come out and say that, it just shows the world that Chicago is not just a fighting community.” True Star],” the Dominican University sophomore said. Getting to have a voice is important, but interviewing

But this isn't Jarmon's first attempt at radio. Before beginning her internship with True Star, she volunteered at Vo-

celebrities like Trey Songz and Lupe Fiasco doesn't hurt either. But more important, she says, is getting one step closer

and how to speak correctly on air. “A lot of people think it's easy but it's hard,” she said.

to her dream of owning a multi-platform company is also important. At the age of thirteen, she decided she wanted to

“You really have to watch the umm's and ah's and how not to take her love of music and writing to the next level. In high school, she won the “Do The Right Thing” Writing Competipause because that’s dead air.” Learning how to correctly speak on air isn't Jarmon's only tion. She also wrote, edited and produced a documentary in challenge, being a host on a teen show means working even high school that landed her a spot at The National History when your timecard says you're finished. The Entrepreneurial Fair. Media major said she is often asked to stay late to cover a party that a celebrity is attending or to do a commercial for

“I loved meeting new people and I always loved music and so I thought why not combine those with a radio station,”

the show. This is in addition to the three or four weekly meet- she said. “And I just like to write, why not own my magazine, because I don't want to write for anybody else. So why not ings to plan and rehearse for the Sunday show. “I'll never turn it down. I'm always excited to do it be-

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Photographer: DeShaun "Trig" Adams for TrueStar Magazine

calo.org radio, 89.5 FM. There, she learned how to edit audio

The Chicago native wasn't surprised when she received immediate support from her parents. Her parents are both in creative industries. Her graphic designer mother offers constant support and constructive criticism while her father advises her to protect her ideas from dishonest people. “I’ve been around the industry all my life, so it's just a matter of me taking advantage of it and learning and taking my own route,” the college sophomore said. Having support from her family doesn't mean the road has been easy. During high school, Jarmon said she felt like everyone was doing something except her. One of her close friends helped to get her motivated with a few words of advice. “Nobody is stopping you but yourself,” her friend said. The late-night host said the advice made an impact on her and now she has advice of her own: take a chance on a good experience even if they aren't getting paid. “I'm not getting paid for anything I do”, she said. “In a way, I'm getting rewarded in experience. Sometimes, if you loved it enough, you can do it for free and you can get rewarded for it.” So far, it's working for her. “I really want to do this for the rest of my life,” she said. “If I'm enjoying this now, then I’ll enjoy it 20 years from now so I'm excited.”

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by: Victoria Dudley Staff Teen Writer Young girls around the world experience self-esteem to varying degrees. Whether it’s struggles with school or conflicts with inner and outer beauty,

Deida did editorial shoots for music vid-

tragic, because you can not find a lot of

we all go through these things as grow-

eos and worked with many celebrities

people who care about their situations.

ing, young women. What you probably

such as, basketball players Michael Jor-

When I moved to L.A and started that

don’t realize is that there are people

dan and

journey as a makeup

who participate in intriguing programs

Shaquille

artist, God showed

that deal with helping young ladies un-

O’Neil and derstand the importance of self-esteem. famous hip-

me my assignment.”

Reel Beauty

hop celebri-

word in Reel Beauty

ties such as

is a similar pronuncia-

Reel Beauty, Inc (RBI) is a non-

Although the first

The Roots,

tion of the word real,

profit organization that teaches girls

Ludacris, Bow

the creative name of

about self-esteem and how important it

Wow and

this incorporation

is in life. “We teach them the impor-

many more.

stands for something

tance of self- esteem, so when they en-

Reel Beauty was ready to be on the more symbolic. “I named it reel, as in a

counter it( or the lack of it), they know

big theatre screen when Deida went how to handle the situation,” says Deida back to Chicago to launch RBI. A quesMassey, founder of RBI. Reel Beauty is tion that is often asked is, how did she

movie reel; because I moved to L.A to fulfill my work in movies and makeup. Reel Beauty stands for loving who you

made up of programs called workshops

combine her interest of the movie indus- are, respecting yourself, and being real

that establish a sense of comfort, learn-

try and love for makeup with helping

to yourself in all situations at all cost,”

ing and a place to receive great advice

young girls?

explains Deida.

from caring people. This wonderful organization all

“While working as a paralegal in Chicago, all the children on my case

started by Deida Massey. She worked as were teen girls. I saw that when they a paralegal for the Public Guardian Ofwent through emancipation, they were

Workshops of Beauty The workshops that make up the organization have meaningful, yet crea-

fice of Chicago Cook County, advocating

tive names, such as Priceless Pearls, Diataking care of their siblings and some for abused and neglected children. After through prostitution,” says Deida, “They monds in the Ruff, and Heart II Heart. working as a paralegal for five years, would sit at my desk and talk about their Each workshop deals with different asDeida made the decision to move to Los lifestyles, like I was just a friend, but I pects of self-esteem. “Priceless Pearls Angeles to further pursue her career as a was just a stranger working on their makeup artist. During her time there, case. The foster care system is very

works with helping young girls understand the importance of self-esteem.

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Diamonds in the Ruff focuses on self-

should be doing- they get that at home,” their beauty, inside and out. The goal of

worth and Heart II Heart deals with ex-

she explained.

ploring and defining the importance of

Deida loves working at RBI and in-

various relationships with family, friends termingling with the many young girls and others,” Deida clarifies. The unique names of the work-

RBI is to get back to the basics in taking responsibility for young girls by restoring and revitalizing their mind, body, and

that will view her as major role model in spirit. Deida’s mission in her program is their life from the first time they meet

slightly similar.

shops had much thought put into each

her. Even when she took a tiny detour to

one with a little help of friends, family,

come back to Chicago to launch Reel

can bridge the gap between my love and

and God. As explained by Deida, she

Beauty and put her make-up career on

passion for makeup and my love and

wanted to come up with catchy names,

hold, she soon realized that all was not

passion for helping teen girls. My goal is

but most importantly, she wanted the

lost. “There are some girls that I’m

to get some alumni to come back to fa-

names to represent young girls every-

closer to and they keep in touch with

cilitate and develop relationships with

where.

me; the impact is amazing! It’s an abso-

the girls,” Deida explained.

Deida tells us about her main

lute honor and I’m glad God chose me to

method in her workshops which she be- be a part of Reel Beauty,” says Deida. lieves works wonders. “Each activity in the workshops is based on interacting with us, because we believe that when we have the girls’ interact with us, it’s

“My mission is to think of ways I

Missions and Goals The mission of Reel Beauty is to

Alumni’s Jocelyn Lyles is 17-years-old and will be graduating from Hyde Park Acad-

provide self-esteem workshops as a tool emy High School by the end of this year.

better than talking to us. We don’t want that will assist young women growing into womanhood as they rediscover to lecture and tell them what they

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The cool air of the winter months can be brutal on the skin by promoting moisture loss. With the multitude of skin issues that can take place during your teenage years, dry skin during the holiday season doesn’t have to be one of them. Here are a few tips and product suggestions for the everyday bombshell. Bombshell Tip 1: Moisturize while the skin is wet and not dry. The skin absorbs moisture better when wet. Bombshell Tip 2: Use warm water not hot to cleanse your face. Hot water tends to dry the skin. Bombshell Tip 3: Change the strength of your moisturizer according to your skin condition. Skin Moisturizers Olay Regenerist – lightweight, SPF 15 Works great on super dry skin and has vitamins to wake up the skin. (Great moisturizer but it is a little pricey) $20.00

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Let’s not forget about our pouty lips! Since your lips do not have oil glands like your skin, they tend to lose moisture and dry out easier. Bombshell Tip 4: Do not lick your lips. They dry out even more from the wetting and drying process. Try some of these products instead.

$6.00 Sephora $3.99 Walgreens If these are too pricey for you try some good old fashioned Vaseline! The price is very inexpensive and you get loads of product for lips and body!

Please visit www.bombshellartistry.com for your makeup and skincare questions! www.GoddessGirlMag.com

Stay warm with a hat or cap but be aware that excessive use can cause breakage. (Wool hats worn without protection (a scarf) can cause breakage around edges)

Get a nightly routine, add a moisturizing cream and wrap hair in a silk scar or head wrap.

Proper conditioning is key to healthy hair. Deep conditioning with a plastic cap under a hood under dryer for 10-15 minutes. Rinse Hair with Cool water to lock in moisture.

Brushing the hair with a boar bristle stimulates the scalp and increases hair growth.

For more hair tips, visit Kasuna Habler at www.kunisemaj.com!!

Shampoo the hair every 1 to 2 weeks with lukewarm water and a moisturizing/replenishing shampoo.

Hair ends receive the worst of winter so keep ends trimmed, protected and moisturized.

Drink plenty of water and be happy!! Happiness plays a big part in healthy hair.

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by: Angelique Boyd Staff Teen Writer Desiree Vance* is a 16-year-old junior high school student whom seems to have all: beauty, confidence, great personality and friendly. Like many other teens, Desiree has suffered from an eating disorder called Bulimia. Eating disorders, sometimes, is to release any insecurities and/or depression one may have, however, they tend to ignore the harmful consequences that lie ahead. The three types of eating disorders are anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa, and binge eating. People who suffer from anorexia nervosa try eat in small amounts. Anorexia nervosa is the fear of gaining weight. People who suffer from anorexia may weigh their foods, count calories excessively, and over exercise. Anorexia Nervosa can cause slow heart rate, low blood pressure, and heart failure. The lack of eating can cause the body to lose the important nutrients and vitamins needed to keep the body healthy. Another consequence is the body can become dehydrated, even if you are just drinking water alone. Anorexia can alter your outer appearance such as hair and nails becomes weak, skin dries out and becomes yellow, grow a layer of lanugo which is soft hair on the body, joints can become swollen, muscle can mass reduce, and sometimes death. Dr. Kathleen DesMaisons, of Radiant Recovery, explains more about anorexia nervosa and the starvation process of it. “You physically die when you are starved. But anorexia is way more than ’starvation’. It starts with restriction. When you skip breakfast or only eat one meal a day, or eating way less than you need to function or from restricting fat when your brain needs it to function. Heart failure comes from long term inadequate nutrition. But emotional failure comes way www.GoddessGirlMag.com

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avoid eating food, but to avoid suspicion they

before then,” explained Dr. DesMaisons.

She told doctor she only threw up

Dr. DesMaisons has experience

recently because she didn’t want to be

their eating behaviors. “I didn’t feel comfortable with myself,” explained Desiree. She would tell

working with young women who have

labeled as a girl with an eating disorder.

had eating disorders.

Desiree knew her esophagus was proba- herself no one is going to want you be-

Bulimia nervosa is another eating disorder where binge eating is followed

bly damaged. Bulimia can also cause irregular

by purging or throwing up to release any heartbeats, which Dr. DesMoines says food that was eaten. Binge eating is to

the irregularity “comes with a change in

eat quickly all at one time without taking the electrolyte balance in your body.” the time to actually chew and savor food. Desiree, who had Bulimia, described her eating process as: “I wasn’t the type of person to get a

Bulimia also causes stomach dam-

cause you are fat.” Why would Desiree think of such a thing? When asked why she wanted to change her weight, Desiree explained, “I guess like [from] TV shows and movies.”

age, cheek glands can become swollen,

The media such as print, television

and other unfortunate changes that are

and movies can subconsciously portray

similar to anorexia nervosa.

what the perfect body type should look

The third disorder is binge-eating.

like. According to The National Eating Disorder Association, “Media images

full plate of food. I ate very little por-

Binge-eating is compulsively or overeat-

tions of food and I picked around it or I

ing eating. The dangerous consequences that help to create cultural definitions of

didn’t eat it all. The time interval be-

of binge-eating are the risk of high blood beauty and attractiveness are often ac-

tween my last bite was around like 10 or pressure, high cholesterol, fatigue, Type knowledged as being among those fac15 minutes. Sometimes, I would use my

II diabetes, gallbladder disease, and

tors contributing to the rise of eating

finger in my mouth and sometimes I

heart disease.

disorders.” The unrealistic body images

could just bring it up. I ate normally, but

Dr. DesMaisons explained the dif-

portrayed because imperfections on

ference between binge-eating and hav-

models may be airbrushed to the illusion

ing an unhealthy eating habit as “binge

of the “perfect” body. Model, actress,

esophagus because of the acid that is

eating is a problem because you can’t

and talk show host, Tyra Banks, told En-

build up from frequent vomiting.

stop. You become addicted to the

tertainment Tonight what she does not

just a little,” she explained. Bulimia can cause damage to the

“The acid in your stomach burns the chemicals and your body gets out of bal- like about her body. esophagus,” explained Dr. DesMaisons. The esophagus is the tube in the throat that food goes through in your body after it has been chewed. Desiree talked about a time she went to the doctor’s to get a normal

ance. It is when an unhealthy “habit” becomes compulsive.” Binge-eating starts because of de-

est; I don't love my legs, and my calves

sarily relate so much to weight, but the

kind of thick, and my ankles are really

massive weight gain from the compul-

skinny, and, you know, I don't necessarily love my stomach -- not as firm as it

worse. According to The National Eating used to be -- and I've got cellulite on my

red instead of pink. She asked Desiree if Disorder Association, “People struggling she had been throwing up frequently.

sum of parts," replies Tyra. "I'll be hon-

pression and stress that does not neces- are too small for me, and my thighs are

check – up, and the doctor swabbed her sive eating can makes the depression throat. The doctor said her throat was

“I like my body, but my body is the

with BED (Binge Eating Disorder) often

Desiree did not tell the doctor the truth. express distress, shame, and guilt over

butt, and I've got what'd you call 'backfat' when my bra's on.” (etonline.com) Continued on page 38 www.GoddessGirlMag.com

by: Tiara Turner Staff Teen Writer

practices before the show begins, and dressers; people who help dress the teens, helping them change quickly, so the teens just have to worry about looking good and looking

Looking for a dress prom can be a lot fun, but also a lot of

handsome.

work! This year, you can start looking early. Prom Fantasy is a fashion show that displays new, graceful trends for the upcoming prom season. This show was created by Rhea Henderson, founder of RH School of Performing Arts, and her partner, Jason Wilder. Here you will enjoy the modeling of teens your age and prom designs from many different designers through-

GG: What is the process for the creation of the different themes and scenes of the show? Who thinks of them and how are they created? RH: You have Jason and I, who create the scenes, and decide what should be worn during the scenes.

out the Chicagoland area. Prom Fantasy will be held on Sunday, January 31, 2010, beginning at 4:00pm. It will be held at the DuSable Museum of African American History, located 740 East 56th Place, Chicago IL. The tickets cost $20 in advance and $25 at the door.

The Models, Designs, and Designers GG: What designers will be featured in this year's show? RH: Kiwi Boutique, A vendor by the name of THAT GIRL Boutique, The Men’s Wearhouse, Sensual Steps shoe salon, Items from Succeez, A boutique called La Jolie Mode, and one very

How it Started

important one, Borrow a Dress Couture.

Goddess Girl: What inspired you to start Prom Fantasy? Rhea Henderson: My business partner, Jason Wilder and myself collaborated on a fashion show before. We realized when it was done that people wanted more of it. We opened up the school, and the first thing he said was we got to revive prom fashion shows. What better idea than to show them in a fashion show that they can enjoy what they should look like going to prom. We were seeing a lot of things too low cut, just too inappropriate. We wanted to make elegant look fun.

GG: How do you select the models for the show? What do you look for in the casting calls? RH: The only requirement is that you’re in high school. That’s it. We put together a flyer and send it to all the schools. The girls have to audition in heels, and the guys in hard bottom shoes. Then, we notify them via email if they made it. We choose 20 young women and 10 men. It’s definitely a fair situation. Every year we get a variety of students. They get a chance to interact with each other; whereas, they probably

The Set-Up GG: What other businesses (commentators, set crew, adver-

wouldn’t have before. We don’t require any dancing or modeling experience

tisement team, etc.) do you have to hire in order for the show to be a success? Or, do you do the show by yourself? RH: We have to have a commentator; we usually use two, a male and female. We have someone working lights, working audio visual, helping people to their seats, and taking tickets at the door. Also, we have our creative director, who runs the

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look good no matter the circumstances. The Event GG: How many Prom Fantasy shows have you had before now? RH: RH: This will be our second annual show. GG: How do you get your tickets to sell? RH: We give all the models 10 tickets to start. We do E-Blast, we go into high schools and we’ll show a quick demo of what the show is like, and encourage them to buy tickets. We use great communication sources, like Goddess Magazine, to get the word out. GG: What does the show include? RH: Music, Modeling, and the Creativity of each individual modeling GG: What attitude do you want people to leave with after the show? RH: We want folks to see our young people doing something positive. We want them to leave feeling so good about the future of our children and their progress. We want them feeling so fired up that they’ll come saying I’ll sponsor a breakfast, I want to sponsor T-shirts, or just having a lot of people sponsoring us. It takes a village. Jason and I can’t do it alone, and we don’t do it alone, but the more the merrier. We hope that they leave excited and wanting more. Last year, people were talking about the show for a month. That’s what we want. That’s what we want to create. GG: What is the overall purpose of the show? RH: The purpose of the show is to nurture children from the inside out. I want my kids to be seen doing something so super positive, that they enjoy. The experience they get working with us for 9 weeks is amazing. We get people whose self esteem isn’t so great; when they leave, they’re more confident about whom they are. That’s another great thing about the show. It’s so important for young people to understand that the potential they have lies in them. And my school pays attention to every individual child so we can do what we can to pull the best out of them. And that’s what my school is all about. One of the things that set us a part is that when you come in, you feel that. We don’t just speak it, you feel it. Parents will tell you, we put our best foot forward. I know I am excited about Prom Fantasy and I hope you are too. For more information at RH School of Performing Arts or Prom Fantasy, please visit www.rhspa.com. www.GoddessGirlMag.com

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by Quinton Neal Fashion Staff Writer

Broke, busted, and disgusted? Don’t be ashamed because I am about to save you money, keep you looking cute, and make you happy. Wake Up! Ladies, it’s time to be classy, and sassy, but don’t forget to be cute while doing it, because fierceness is always in! Well ladies next are Chucky Knits. Which are scarves and sweaters this is something that you can be very sexy, and professional. Wearing some cute little ankle boots that is in as well will give you an edge.

Knee high boots are back in this winter. These will work really well with some nice fitted jeans with a cream or white sweater. You can wear these boots two different ways which is inside your jeans, or outside the jeans. You pick!

Capelets are also in this winter. There are many different types of them, so please find one that fits your style. These will go very well with some nice dress pants and jeans as well. Next we have on the list is Bring out your inner diva! Leather. Yes Ladies! Leather, is back. You can wear leather all kinds of ways, fitted blouses, fitted t-shirts, and also sweaters, always wear pumps it gives you a cute look, with a little sassiness.

Next we have the Tuxedo look that is in for this winter as well. I think this look goes well with really dressy. If you want to dress it down I say again try a jean, with some cute pumps. Trust me ladies it ok to take a man’s job. You know we do it better!

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The College Checklist by: Jasmyne McDonald Staff Writer Hopefully, you have sent off all your college applications and now all you have to do is sit and wait for your acceptance letters. Right? Not exactly! Now, you need the financial aid portion. This installment of the College Application Process is all about paying for education. The expenses listed on college websites can be confusing. For example, Cost of attendance describes the bottom line total for how much education will cost including approximate book and travel fees, tuition, processing fees, and room/board (room and board are fees for dormitory living space and a meal plan). The numbers are subject to change and may increase/decrease depending on the student. Tuition, the cost of classes, can vary depending on a studentâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s major. Students who plan to live at home and commute, or commuter students, do not pay room and board, which is the cost to live on campus in the dorms with a meal plan.

school expenses, per year, for colleges and universities in Illinois:

sponsored aid. Some schools require the CSS Profile,

Augustana College $35,592

which is a form similar to the FAFSA, but

Columbia University Chicago $36,468

costs money depending on the number of

DePaul University $37,618

schools requiring it. Certain schools use the

Eastern Illinois $20,044

CSS Profile for a more in depth look into a

Illinois State $19,828

familyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s finances. There is an application fee

Loyola University Chicago $40,978

of $9, plus $16 for each college or scholar-

Northwestern University $53,908

ship program. A limited number of fee waiv-

Roosevelt University $30,728

ers are granted automatically to first-time

Southern Illinois Edwardsville $12,422

applicants from low-income families, based

St. Xavier University $35,181

on the financial information provided on the

University of Chicago $55,200

PROFILE. For more info visit:

University of Illinois- Champaign/

www.collegeboard.com.

Urbana $25-27,000 University of Illinois Chicago $22,264 Western Illinois $18,820

Government Financial Aid Federal Pell Grants- A Federal Pell

How do I pay for this?

Grant, unlike a loan, does not have to be

Financial Aid

repaid. Pell Grants are awarded usually only

School admission applications include

to undergraduate students who have not

financial aid requirements. Common at all

earned a bachelor's or a professional degree.

US schools, the FAFSA, or the Free Applica-

(In some cases, however, a student enrolled

tion for Federal Student Aid, is required to

in a post-baccalaureate teacher certification

qualify for any form of need-based aid from

program might receive a Pell Grant). Pell

an institution as well as any government

Grants are considered the foundation of

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federal financial aid, to which aid from other To be eligible for each academic year, a stufederal and nonfederal sources might be added. Your school may either apply Pell Grant funds to your school costs, pay you directly

dent must: · be a Federal Pell Grant recipient; · be enrolled at least half-time in a degree program; · be a first or second-year undergradu-

Merit-based awards- Scholarships awarded by universities based solely on the premise of academic records including high school transcripts, ACT, and SAT scores.

much your award will be and how and when

ate student or a student in a cer-

Check college websites to learn if you must

you will be paid. Schools must disburse

tificate program of at least one

specifically apply for an award or if an admis-

funds at least once per term (semester, tri-

year in a degree program at a two- sions application automatically makes you a

mester, or quarter). Schools that do not use

year or four-year degree-granting

semesters, trimesters, or quarters must dis-

institution

burse funds at least twice per academic

candidate. Need-based institutions-- Schools that

· have completed a rigorous secondary

do not give merit-based awards. All school

school program of study (after

aid is based on estimated family contribu-

January 1, 2006, if a first-year stu-

tion, or the government’s estimate of the

only on your financial need, but also on your

dent, and after January 1, 2005, if

amount of money a family can afford to pay

costs to attend school, your status as a full-

a second-year student); and

based upon income, assets, and invest-

year. The amount you get will depend not

time or part-time student, and your plans to

· if a first-year student — not have

ments. Need based institutions will compile

attend school for a full academic year or

been previously enrolled in an ACG options that will cover the cost of your edu-

less.

-eligible program while at or below cation that your family cannot afford to pay. Federal Loans- Federal loans usually

age of compulsory school atten-

offer lower interest rates than private loans (loans offered by banks). Federal loans are

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Need-blind institutions- Schools that do

· be a U.S. citizen or eligible non-citizen; not decide admission based on ability to pay

(usually by check), or combine these methods. The school must tell you in writing how

University Terms on Financial Aid

dance; or · if a second-year student — have at

Scholarships Two or Four-year- Paid once or multiple

also subsidized, meaning that the federal

least a cumulative 3.0 grade point

times throughout the year, these scholar-

government pays the interest while students

average (GPA) on a 4.0 scale as of

ships are applied more than once. Some

are still in school. Interest does not accrue

the end of the first year of under-

have eligibility requirements based on ma-

until after graduation. However, if students

graduate study.

jors, academic performance, etc. One-year- Scholarships students re-

do not remain in school, they must begin

SEOG Grant- The Federal Supplemental

repayment. Repayment on these loans is

Educational Opportunity Grant (FSEOG) pro-

serious; non-payment can haunt your credit

gram is for undergraduates with exceptional renewable.

rating and mess up any chance for future

financial need. Pell Grant recipients with the

credit opportunities.

lowest expected family contributions (EFCs)

ceive for one academic year that is not Renewable- Students can apply for these scholarships multiple times. Some

Illinois MAP(Monetary Award Program) will be considered first for a FSEOG. Just like have minimum GPA requirements for reGrants- Provides grants, which do not need

Pell Grants, the FSEOG does not have to be

to be repaid, to Illinois residents who attend repaid. approved Illinois colleges and demonstrate financial need, based on the information

Federal Work-Study-Work Study is part

newal. Preparing for the financial process: The financial aid process requires cer-

of many financial aid packages. This requires tain forms. Talk to your parents about the

provided on the Free Application for Federal students to work anywhere from 5-20 hours

requirements and gather the following infor-

Student Aid (FAFSA). You are not required

per week to help offset the cost of their edu- mation:

to submit high school grades or test scores

cation. While the money is deposited into

· parents’ most recent tax forms

when applying for a MAP grant.

student’s accounts, students should plan

· any other financial documents

well and allocate the money appropriately to

· property statements

Academic Competitiveness Grant- A program that rewards students for a rigorous high school career. An Academic Com-

pay for school costs first. For more information and other avail-

What happens next? After submitting the FAFSA, students

petitiveness Grant provides $750 for the first able grants, visit the following sites:

will receive the Student Aid Report or SAR, a

year of study and $1,300 for the second

studentaid.ed.gov

summary of the information on the FAFSA.

year.

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Students must make corrections or update

could not afford college, due to paying pri-

tax information, if necessary, and send the

vate school tuition in elementary and middle

SAR back to the federal Department of Edu-

schools. Things had changed from when

cation. If the form was filled out online or an

Smith went to school, so they had to learn

email address was provided on the paper

about the college admission process.

application, the SAR will be sent via email

“When I was in school my dad paid for

and corrections may be made online. If

it and my husband didn’t know about the

there are no corrections to be made, no re-

process either. We didn’t know and went to

sponse is necessary--but be sure to keep the

an info session at the high school,” she says.

SAR for your records.

In order to work collaboratively, she

Some colleges will require institutional

had her daughters make a chart and let she

financial aid forms. Colleges will send appli-

and her husband know their needs. She

cants the forms to be completed and the

acknowledges that the process can be

forms are to be sent directly back to the colleges. After colleges process the SAR, students

stressful and suggests that students keep municate with counselors who can do a

their parents involved to help the process go

good job of walking you through it. His fa-

much easier.

receive the financial aid award letter. The

ther was an immigrant and did not qualify

“Be patient,” she says “try to keep

award letter informs you of the amount of

for financial aid; his older sister received an

[parents] involved. It’s not time to try to be

financial aid you will receive to attend the

academic scholarship; and he was the first

so grown. Include them in all the informa-

colleges where you have been accepted.

person in his family to apply for financial aid. tion.”

Each college sends its own award letter. This In hindsight, he realizes that organizing fi-

“Our main objective is to guide stu-

letter details the type of grants, loans, etc

nancial statements would have helped his

that your school suggests could pay for your

family complete the FAFSA. Heavily involved decisions, but to counsel and educate stu-

dents through the process. We don’t make

education. More specifically, it includes esti- in efforts to lower loan interest rates, the 20 dents so that they make informed decisions. mated family contribution (EFC), or the

-year-old activist advises students to analyze We are here to provide support,” says David

amount your family can afford to contribute

their award letter.

to your education. See the sample financial

“See what they are giving you. There

aid letter below to learn what to expect in

are several types of loans. Look at the inter-

the aid award letter. If you are unhappy

est rates and compare to get the lowest one,

with your award letter, some schools have

which can range from 4-14%,” he says.

an appeal process where the university will

Most importantly, remember to abide

Johnson, Marketing, Communications, Outreach Coordinator in Student Financial Services at Columbia College Chicago. Johnson encourages students to use financial services officers as a resource throughout the process. They are not the

re-evaluate your case. If the university does

by all the guidelines and understand dead-

enemy. He describes applying for financial

not have an appeal process, talk with the

lines. Find out what is crucial to the process

aid as a group process, including students,

financial aid officers at the school to learn

versus optional.

parents, and university financial staff. Finan-

the next steps to take. Here is some advice from people who know a lot about the financial aid process:

“If you don’t know, call the school. It is cial planning, or devising a strategy to pay worth it,” he says. Goddess Magazine spoke with Cathy

College junior, Bradley Akubuiro, works Smith*, parent of a recent University of Chi-

for educational expenses, is the first step families should take. The FAFSA help line, community centers’ programming, and ses-

in the admissions department at Northwest- cago graduate and a current freshman at

sion offered by universities- he mentions

ern University as well as with the Rainbow

Howard University, to learn a parent’s per-

workshops offered at Columbia- can all help

Push Coalition, in an effort to lower college

spective on the financial aid process.

complete the necessary forms.

loan interest rates around the country.

Through high school, Smith and her husband

Akubuiro recalls his own experiences as he

pushed their kids to do well in school in or-

and his family considered options to pay for

der to attain merit-based scholarships. They is available January 1 and the earlier it is

college. Akubuiro who says, “There isn’t

did not encourage loans . Talking about col-

Johnson cites the two most important things students need to know: 1. The FAFSA completed the better and 2. Receiving the

anything ‘not’ confusing” about the financial lege affordability with their daughters, Smith award letter is not the last step. Students aid process.” He advises students to com-

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Goddess Magazine was able to catch up with singing sensation Omarion for a One One--on on--One!

by: Tiffany Walden Managing Editor

With a new sound, new swag, and new label, Omarion is doing it all with the anticipation of his third studio album Ollusion. Set for release on January 12th, Omarion wants to share his personal growth with his dedicated fans, who have followed him from his lead-singing B2K days through all of his solo projects. “The people that have followed me are dealing with different issues in their life,” says Omarion, who just turned 25 this past November. “I took the time to go away; took some time for myself; and traveled a little bit to get some inspiration.” Making a strong comeback, Omarion’s first single, “I Get It In,” is definitely a club banger; a beat laced with hardcore, yet cool baselines that have you unconsciously grooving on the dance floor. This song has the laid-back feel of the California-native, but once Gucci Mane prepares you for his rhymes with his infamous “Burr,” it automatically transforms into an easy, southern vibe. Omarion admits that initially he wanted to sing over the beat, but producers felt having that cool, rapper twang would add immense energy and

swag to the song; no longer limiting him to the sound of classic R&B. “I think that there are no boundaries [in music] and I think a lot of that stems from hip-hop artists,” Omarion states. “When Kanye put out 808’s and Heartbreak, he really started something. I think people should do what they feel.” That boundary goes beyond the mixture of Hip-Hop and R&B genres when R&B crooners, like Trey Songz, jump into the mixtape industry—a culture specific to Rap/Hip-Hop-- to boost the sales of their studio albums; bringing a new style of promotion into the financially weakened music industry. Omarion believes that mixtapes can be the essential tools needed for both trying out new sounds and getting a direct response from listeners. “It’s not like you’re putting an album out, and banking on selling it,” says Omarion, who is interested in trying out the mixtape industry as well. “That really worked for Trey. That really worked for Drake. People really like the idea of getting exclusive music instead of music that’s made for a purpose.” This past summer, the Mixtape King, Lil’Wayne signed Omarion under his Young Money label, where “I Get It In” originally leaked onto radio stations and created the buzz for his upcoming album. Later, rumors spread that Omarion was dropped from the label; however, the split was mutual. “There was a timing issue,” Omarion states. “He had his own views on

how he wanted to conduct my coming out of Young Money, and I had my own time and views on when I needed to come out. This is my time.” Not letting his split limit his album opportunities, Omarion set forth to start his own record label named Starworld Entertainment, through EMI Label Services. He will use Starworld Entertainment to release Ollusion. “This is a position I could never foresee,” Omarion adds on. “I’m excited!” While recently in Chicago during Thanksgiving week for the promotion of Ollusion, Omarion was received with open arms at his College Bash performance. Fans are ready to get a feel of the new Omarion. With personal favorites like “Speedin’” and “Hoodie” on his album roster, Omarion declares this as his most personal album, giving his fans a little taste of everything from the first to last track. Comparing the industry to the NBA, Omarion mentions that even the Kobe Bryants of the game have to take a step back and let the “up and comers” shine on the court. “I’m so glad to be in the position that I’m in,” Omarion states. “I felt like I’ve taken the time away from the game to become stronger, faster, and to perfect my jump shot. I’m back, and the album is competitive.” Check out Ollusion on January 12th at your local music store or iTunes, and be sure to stay tuned for future projects from Omarion’s label, Starworld Entertainment.

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Journal entry #6 12/21/09 Dear Entertainment, What’s up Entertainment! It’s your girl Miss B! Once again I am here to bring our lovely readers what’s happening in your world through my eyes. For the past few entries, I have had the pleasure to talk to and meet some young and talented men and women. I met a remarkable spoken word poet and a passionate female rapper. These individuals are grinding hard in your industry to make the world remember their name. This past summer I came across an artistic songstress with the total package at Chicago’s annual “Real Men Cook” that resembled the same passion the previous artists possessed. When talking with these upcoming artists, I enjoy hearing about their dreams to one day become like their idols. I hope when they make it big, they don’t forget about how Goddess Magazine helped put them on the map…lol. So, without further ado, I would like to introduce a very lovely down-to-earth young lady who is a star-in-the making. Miss Brittney Ayona Dasha Clemons better known as Ayona; she represents Chicago’s Englewood neighborhood. Ayona is a performer who prides herself for having the total package. Ayona developed her love for music when she was five years old. “Growing up I would listen to Anita Baker and Tina Turner, those women were powerful performers and they had the total package” stated Ayona. Gaining motivation from those powerful women, Ayona begin studying dance and music. She is trained in Ballet, African, and Hip-Hop dance. She has trained with prestigious New York City dance company, Alvin Ailey. As a DePaul University student, she is currently studying dance along with majoring in Psychology. In addition to singing and dancing, Ayona has competed in local pageants and fashion shows. According to Mary Swoopes, founder of Mahogany Scholarship Heritage Foundation, Ayona was the first pre-teen crowned in 2000 beating out Taylor Moore. In pageants, Ayona would perform as Tina Turner and Debbie Allen in the talent portion and “wow” the crowd with her creative www.GoddessGirlMag.com

performance. Her creativity and positive attitude has recently gained her recognition among Swoopes foundation and Ayona was inducted into the Mahogany Hall of Fame. Ayona had been a part of the Mahogany Foundation since the age of eleven competing in pageants and working with well known International Children Choir of Uganda. The Mahogany Scholarship Heritage Foundation mission is to “promote education, celebrate Black Heritage, honor achievement and promote unity between all races.” Now at the age 20, Ayona is ready to show your world what she has to offer. “The most important thing is to promote my music and build a fan base.” Ayona explained. Currently, Ayona has not signed with a major record company, but she is independently promoting her self-titled album Ayona which can be purchased through iTunes. She is also working on a music video for her single “Irrelevant.” Ayona describes her sound as “a young, confident, and strong girl living life and searching for love. I don’t like to keep my self in a box. I like all types of music ranging from R&B, pop, rock, etc.” Although Ayona wants to focus on creating a name in music she also wants to encourage the importance of the arts in school for young kids. Growing up in Englewood, Ayona knew she didn’t want to become a product of her environment; school is where she was introduced to playing musical instruments. “I think there are a lot of things kids should try, and I believe art is a positive outlet” she explained Ayona participates in organizations such as “Kids of the Block” to endorse the arts. One day, Ayona wants the world to see she has the total package to become internationally known, but until then Ayona will continue to strive toward her dreams. She lives by a quote from anthropologist Bernard Edmond that states “to dream anything you want to dream is the beauty of the human mind, to do anything that you want to do, that is the strength of the human will to trust yourself and test your limits that is the courage to succeed.” Well, I am heading out… to hear some more of Ayona’s music! Visit myspace.com/ayona and nimbitmusic.com/ayona. Please don’t hesitate to hit me up on my email missb@goddessgirl.com if there is a celebrity or artist you want me to feature. Until next time…Holla! Miss B!

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by: Danielle Wideman Editor-in-Chief

“What goes in our house stays in our house!” These words are echoed throughout households constantly. You have to ask yourself what families are hiding behind closed doors. Ciara L. Anderson was told this as child. She is a survivor of child abuse and neglect. “In a lot of households, parents expect things to be swept under the rug,” explained Ciara, “Issues should be addressed even it means someone outside the home coming in to help.” Ciara is sharing her personal heartache of both physical and sexual abuse, through her book titled, Drowning in a Mother’s Womb. “It is a release to tell my story. It allowed me to open up and help other children. At first, it was difficult to talk about it because I did not realize the anger I had balled up inside. But, eventually, it allowed me to release my pain,” said Ciara. The book is released through her own publishing company, Loyal Publishing. Located in Atlanta, Georgia, Loyal Publishing gives Ciara creative control of her writings. While reading, Drowning in a Mother’s womb, Ciara wants children and teens to know that they should not keep things bottled up. If situations become too hard to handle, seek help from family members or friends. Also, finding alternatives such as writing or singing can help release the pain. For parents, Ciara wants them to know children are affected by their parents’ pain. “Parents think children are too young to understand, but the children understand. I also want parents to know their actions can affect their children’s life,” explained Ciara. Ciara shares her thoughts on how youth should think about life: “I always tell people, life has two options ‘Sink or swim.’ I am a strong believer in the importance of overcoming life challenges through persistence. With every hurdle, obstacle course, or maze we may face in life there is always a way up, over, and beyond.” For more information about Ciara and Loyal Publishing, please visit www.loyalpublishing.org.

Drowning in a Mother’s Womb approaches a true story of a tumultuous childhood of a young girl whose life was snatched away within a fraction of a second by irresponsible and selfish parents. With stability being a stranger to her mother's world, it was not unusual for this family to move from pillar to post every six months. To add to their unbalanced life, her mother obtained a job as a correctional officer - where she met her “Prince Charming”, a convicted felon. Although the young girl is faced with torment, mental and physical abuse, as well as rape, her painful experiences are never reflected in her radiant smile. Adhering to her mother’s motto “What goes on in this house, stays in this house,” the girl kept silent. She managed to stay positive in an attempt to keep her sisters’ sanity intact. She finally decided that enough was enough; she no longer wanted to float in her mother’s crushing grip and reaches a breaking point. Is death really better than the life she now lives?

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Your former love Have you ever? Ever realized how reading a book is a lot like being in a relationship? Ever read a book and wanted to read it again? Or had a closed book on your nightstand.. think about it.. think about opening it, but never got the chance? Ever close a chapter but then wished you didn’t? Or read a book but didn’t finish? Ever read a book and wasn’t sure if the story was over? Or read a book that brought you closure? Ever read a book and would’ve liked it better if you could just change the end? Or read 5 bad books and realize it will never be as good as the 1st book you read? Ever read 7 bad books and appreciated the good one you read after? Or read a book that brought you such joy and laughter Ever read a book and wished all fairytales had happy endings? Or read a book that was different from how it was in the beginning? Ever read a book and realized it wasn’t all you thought it would be? Or read a book that was hard to read? Ever read a book that was as long as a novel? Or read a book that made you smile? Ever a book that made you cry? Or read a book that did both at the same time? Ever read a book that you can and cannot live without. I have… without a doubt. -Cassandra Smith ©2002

I don’t trust easily ... so when I gave you my heart I assumed you'd know what to do with it. But instead, you intentionally destroyed me broke my heart and robbed me of my self-esteem . To say the very least I am afraid that I misjudged you. I thought you were the kind of guy who'd treat me right regardless of whether I'm with you. I thought your promises were sincere, like when you said "I'll always be here." The fact that I ended things should not prompt you to take advantage of me, my vulnerability, and my love for you. Because a decision on my part doesn’t justify cruelty on yours. I'm worth way more than you dished out to me. I drove myself sick every time I allowed you to hurt me. But at the end of the day No one's going to mend my broken heart, pick me up and put me back together again...... only me.... I learned a lot while being at the low point of my life that you gladly put me in... I self-reflected while at rock bottom . I'm a strong woman and you were my weakness. I let you do this to me. It took a lot to make me the woman I was before you destroyed my dignity, and it took even more to rebuild her. Its sad to say that you are still the immature individual that I left. You have not grown any. You have so much to learn. I only hope that you're as strong as I When its your turn. -Cassandra Smith ©2002

Don’t hate me because I’m me! Don’t hate me because I’m me, I try to be the best that I can be. I am my own person, no imitating at all. I’ve had many ups in my life as well as falls. I can’t please everyone; I won’t even try. I’m not perfect, in fact I sometimes cry. I’m full of love and have a great personality.

I take life day by day, only facing reality. I try my best to be fair without hurting anyone, but days pass by without us ever seeing the sun.

because the life I live now will continue to be the same.

I have goals in my life that I plan to achieve, I have faith in Jesus Christ and in Him I do believe. Don’t hate me because I’m me, I have a lot of confidence within I have a certain air about myself. me that will never change, I’m only living my life for me and My positive attitude about life no one else. shall always remain. The people who do not like me, you I do not blame, I don’t live my life on what other

people say, I’ll only treat them kindly and continue to pray. I can’t be the person that everyone wants me to be, so in respect I ask you, Don’t hate me because I’m me! © 2009 Inspirational Poetry and Novelties by Denna (© 5-12-1993) getinspireddlm@yahoo.com © 2009 All Rights Reserved!

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by: Imani Watson Staff Teen Writer

Ever since the Rihanna and Chris Brown domestic abuse ordeal back in February of 2009, domestic abuse

friend. “I couldn’t believe it when he hit me,” said Lana. She admitted that she had been “pushing his buttons,” but she never expected it to go that far. “I was kidding with him. I mean, he didn’t have to give me a black eye.” She admitted to teas-

and more. It is imperative

ing her boyfriend, for

that it is discussed. Domestic

example, calling him

violence is more than just

“ugly” and other hurt-

dating violence. It incorpo-

ful names. Lana’s boy-

rates any type of abuse

friend got angry, black-

(physical, mental, or emo-

ening Lana’s eye. Lana

tional) that occurs in any re-

explains how she tried

lationship. It includes child

to hide the incident. “I

abuse, teen abuse, and even

couldn’t go to school

elder abuse. Child abuse in-

with a black eye be-

corporates the physical and/

cause I knew all my

or mental mistreatment of children under 18 years old.

teachers and friends would have something to say and

Teen abuse is the mistreatment of peers by their other

try to get involved.” So what was Lana’s solution? “I

peers. Lastly, elder abuse is physical or emotional abuse/ wore big sunglasses to school the next day. I was hoping neglect toward the elderly, especially those who aren’t

that no one would say anything to me about it.” When

able to aid themselves.

Lana got to school, her friends asked her about her sun-

However, Teen Dating Abuse rates are at the highest they have ever been. According to the Journal of the American Medical Association, teenagers are victimized at a higher rate

glasses. “I told them that I was hit in the face with a swinging door…but they weren’t going for it.” Lana said that her friends noticed that her boyfriend was very aggressive. “They didn’t like him, but they dealt with him

than adults. One out of five female high school students because I loved him. But they don’t have to deal with have been physically and/or sexually abused by their

him anymore because it’s over.” Lana decided not to

boyfriends. Why?

share this incident with her parents. However, with the

Lana Robinson may have some insight. Lana is a Chi- support and guidance of her friends, Lana decided to cago teenager who was physically abused by her boy-

break up with her boyfriend after seven months in the www.GoddessGirlMag.com

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is being talked about more

relationship. Unlike Lana, 80% of abused girls stay

could leave safely.” The girl was taken to a public aid office that helped her financially.

in the relationship. According to Choose

“The school counselor provided her infor-

Respect, an organization formed to dis-

mation about Housing Programs for teen-

courage domestic violence, 20% of the

age mothers.” Many girls who are abused

girls who stay in abusive relationships

seek counseling from their school counsel-

stay because their boyfriends threatened

ors. Counselors can provide information

to harm them if they ended the relation-

about programs that help victims get out of

ship. The Journal of Family Violence dis-

whatever abuse they are experiencing.

closes that a high number of men who

“I’d have to say the saddest thing about

are abusers display psychopathic behav-

this girl’s situation was she was adopted

ior. Such behavior includes manipulation,

and was returned to the state after the

pathological lying, impulsivity, and narcissism. However, death of her adoptive father, when her adoptive mother the desire for love and stability is another big factor as

didn’t want her anymore, ” she explained. Ms. Jordan

to why these girls stay in abusive relationships.

thinks that the reason she stayed so long is because hav-

Deirdre Jordan learned about this desire through the experience of one of her previous students.

ing a boyfriend made her feel “wanted.” Ms. Jordan’s advice for domestic abuse victims was simply,

“This student I had was physically abused,” said Ms. “Understand your self worth. Everyone is worthy of reJordan, High School educator with a Masters in Curriculum Instruction. This student was in her class. “It took

spect and everyone is entitled to a healthy relationship.” Although girls experience Domestic Abuse 7 times

me a while to realize that this girl was being abused, but more frequently than men (20:3 ratio), Domestic Abuse she slowly started revealing it to me. The girl’s boyfriend against men still exists. Little is known about Domestic was possessive, and didn’t want her to be anywhere but Abuse against men because it is rarely reported; nonewith him.” Possession is another factor according to sta- theless there are 3.2 million men in America that are vic-

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tistics gathered by the Duluth Domestic Abuse Interven-

tims. The behaviors of their abusers were typically hit-

tion Project. There are numerous men who become abu- ting, shoving, pushing, and, in some cases, even homisive due to their sense in ownership over their partner. “She avoided abuse by not going out without him and doing what he said.” Although she obeyed his

cide. While many people may forget, domestic abuse can happen to anyone. The reality of domestic abuse is frightening. What

wishes, he was still abusive. Ms. Jordan knew she had to victims need to understand is that they have the power do something to help. The girl, who had been in the rela- to get out of the relationship. There are many resources tionship for about two and a half years, explained that

and programs specifically for the abused. The National

she wanted out of the relationship, but she did not know Domestic Violence Hotline is a nonprofit organization how to leave. The girl had a child with him and lived with that offers crisis intervention services, information about him and his mother. Ms. Jordan went to the police about domestic violence, and many more services. The numthe situation. “She came to school and I saw that he had ber provided for victims is call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). blackened her eye, and at that point I decided I had to

For more information, go to http://www.ndvh.org/. Re-

do something. The police officer I told escorted her

member, love does not have to be violent.

home to get her things from her boyfriends house so she www.GoddessGirlMag.com

by: April Daley Staff Writer

Living.

A small room on the South Side of

homeless, because they are youth first,” ing to a 2007 Chicago Coalition for the

Chicago.

the Loyola Graduate student said. “I

A few close friends.

think [we] have a great philosophy. [We] turned away may be placed on a waiting

Family.

work to build the teen living community. list.

A speech from a student.

We have community meetings where

It doesn't take much to create a

away about 52 percent of homeless

“We like to call them youth who are youth because of lack of space, accordHomelessness study. Those who aren't

Teen Living places applicants on the

anyone is invited to join and see the

waiting list for six months to a year, but

graduation at Teen Living, a program

place and meet everyone. They make

Arbogast said the program doesn't lose

that provides long-term services to

the whole teen feel welcome.”

ties to wait-listed teens.

homeless youth, employee Molly Ar-

Wholesome care includes providing “Because they can still keep in conbogast said. After running away or being teens with educational support, job tact with the program and we can make forced out of their homes, 13- to 21-year training, housing, mental health counsel- sure that they are as safe and comfort-olds graduate from a transitional proing, life skills, and general health care. able as possible until we can get them gram to living on their own.

The program provides three housing

into one of our beds,” she said.

Yet the teens who take part in

options: a youth shelter, a 24-bed transiDespite the problems, Arbogast has these graduations at Teen Living are just tional home, and an assisted living pro- advice for teens that are homeless and a few of more than seven thousand un- gram that help teens pay for an apartconfused. accompanied homeless youth in Chicago ment. “There are so many resources that Anne Bowhay of The Chicago Coali-

are out there, you just have to be find

2006 estimate by the Chicago Coalition

tion, says the organization takes a more

for the Homeless and the UIC Survey

policy-focused approach, providing legal It's a big problem in Chicago and there is

Research Lab. The study found teens

services and a Youth Committee of 33

a big support network of youth who are

become homeless because of abuse or

youth-oriented organizations that meet

homeless or in teen living programs.”

conflict in the home ranging from sexual monthly to coordinate policy on homeorientation to failed adoptions. Youth less youth issues. who are homeless are at the highest risk of any other group of homeless Ameri-

them,” she said. “[You] are not alone.

Teen Living is located at 162 W. Hubbard St., Suite 400, Chicago, IL 60654

“We have a full time attorney for

Call the Youth Help Line if you need

homeless youth [who] does outreach

immediate help at 866.803.8336 ext. 10.

cans. More than 60 percent report being and runs a mobile legal clinic for teens abused or victimized in the year prior to who are homeless but on their own,”

located Chicago Coalition for the Home-

the 2006 study.

less 1325 South Wabash, Suite 205, Chi-

Arbogast said the program method

Bowhay said. But Bowhay also says the available

of combating the growing problem is

programs don't have enough room for

what made her fall in love with Teen

all the homeless youth. Shelters turned

The Chicago for the Homelessness is

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each year, according to a December

CPS: CAN’T PIN-DOWN SOLUTIONS

dents “see where they are and they respect the teachers and each other.” Children who used to get into altercations at his old public school are now better behaved in their charter school environment. Joshua has noticed a change in himself as well. His grades are “way better” than they used to be due to his new teachers involvement and dedication to his education. So, what is the city of Chicago doing to ensure that all students feel safe like Joshua when they go to school? The city has been largely silent in producing real change in the CPS school system. At the beginning of this school year, CPS school chief Arne Duncan and the Mayor announced new initiatives to combat school violence including increased police patrols, enforcement of curfews, a greater police pres-

by: Tiara Wilkinson Staff Writer

ence at CTA stops, and a texting system where teens can report violence anonymously. Ron Huberman, CPS Chief Offi-

Every week, day, and morning, Empress gets up early and goes in to Percy Julian High School. “It’s best to beat the

cer, introduced a statistics based plan to send money, added security, mentors, and jobs to schools and at-risk students

crowd” the senior says. When she arrives, she places her clear that are prone to experience more violence. backpack on an x-ray machine, walks through a metal detecDespite the plans of the government and school officials, tor, and gets scanned by a metal detecting wand in the hands the murder of Derrion Albert at the hands of his fellow stuof a security guard. Then, she can go off to class. If she’s late, dents showed how serious the issue of violence had become

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she has to stand in the long lines that form in order to get into in Chicago. Afterwards, officials scrambled to address the the school. situation promising finances, programs, and new strategies to With all the precautions the school takes, however, Em-

combat the escalating problem. U.S. Attorney, Eric Holder,

press says that teens still manage to sneak in weapons and

and Education Secretary, Arne Duncan, came in from Wash-

drugs, and fights still occur. “The guards aren’t always around ington to show that the nation itself was going to help comwhen things happen.” Still, she notices improvement. In her bat the school violence. They went back to Washington with earlier years at Julian, she regularly witnessed “crazy fights”

nothing put in place, and the young people of Chicago con-

of ten or more people and other minor fights almost daily.

tinue to have to settle for encountering violence when trying This school year, there haven’t been as many altercations and to obtain an education. hardly any group fighting. Empress thinks that it’s futile to try to stop the violence. Joshua used to take classes in an environment similar to Empress’. Even without the x-ray machines, metal detectors,

“People will always dislike someone else and want to fight them,” she says. “I don’t think you can stop it.” So, everyday,

and wands, he feels completely safe at school. He was able to Empress tries to avoid the fights that go on in her school’s transfer into Chicago International Charter School (CICS) for hallways. Her solution is to keep positive friends that aren’t Junior High and noticed a huge difference. Located in “a good involved in negative behavior, and to try to do the right thing. neighborhood” and in a “nice building,” CICS students rarely “I watch what I say, and I watch what I do.” Until someone see violence. Joshua attributes it to his surroundings and the

creates actual change, it’s what she – and thousands of other

fact that the teachers “are protective of us.” He says the stu-

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Eating Disorder Continued from page 15

Tyra learned to accept her “flaws” and embraced them. Desiree stopped having Bulimia at the age of four-

GoddessStar Continued from page 7

that make you forget your purpose for coming at all. But through it all I just remember to smile. "Smile. It’s contagious" is one of my favorite mottos and it is something that I

teen. Desiree and her friend were talking about insecu-

truly live by. When the clouds are gray and when everyone

rities and Desiree admitted to hers without telling him

else doubts me, I just remember to smile and hope will

she had Bulimia. When he said, “ One day you will get over is and accept you for you,” Desiree knew what she was doing was wrong, so without counseling she stopped. Desiree does want not to go back because she

shine through me. In closing, there's no better feeling than doing what you love. Being a positive role model for girls my age, as well as younger girls, has always been my passion. I plan to con-

doesn’t want to go back to the person she was. She

tinue my college career and graduate with a degree in Jour-

compared herself to Emma, from the series Degrassi:

nalism and Textiles. Even though I’ve had set backs, such as

The Next Generation, who also had Bulimia, as a way to

living in a single parent home and being financially unstable

explain her thoughts.

as a child, I never let that negative influence stop me from

“You know the episode of Degrassi with Emma and

striving for the best. I have never settled because my grand-

she felt like she got addicted to that [Bulimia]. That’s

mother never settled for me. Even when these college

how I was. Like after a while and a couple of times I felt

classes get hard and distractions come my way, I just smile,

like I had to keep doing it. And then some days I would-

telling myself I can do it!

n’t eat at all because I felt like I was just huge!!” She explained. Desiree is an example for girls who have eating

College

disorders, especially since she didn’t have any counsel-

Continued from page 20

ing to help her stop her addiction. Eating disorders are

must sign their award letter and return it, take out loans- if they are part

very dangerous and should be talked about. Girls are always going to see something wrong with their body image, but remember beauty comes in all shapes, sizes,

of their award-, and check the FAFSA for accuracy. Overall, Johnson reminds students that no matter what their preconceived notions they should fill out the FAFSA. “It’s free first of all. Second, some scholarships require that you have a completed FAFSA to ap-

and colors. Beauty is more than what is on the outside

ply,” he says. He also reminds students that loans, grants, and school aid

but it is on the inside. If you have a eating disorder or

may not cover the total cost of attendance and to look elsewhere to find

thought about using the methods to lose or gain

funds.

weight, please talk to someone now. It is important to talk to someone before it is too late get to help.

“Be creative about where you find your scholarships,” he says “community groups, past employers, parents’ employers, [college] major. Even though it may only be $500, you get 10 of those and you have $5000.”

*Desiree Vance name has been changed.

Actively seeking funds to pay for educational expenses is a full time job. Allocating time to prepare for the future now, will allow you to focus on classes rather than funds when school actually starts. Continue searching for scholarships, talk with your family about college affordability, and complete the financial forms as soon as possible. Check out next issue’s installment all about making the big decision on what college to attend. *Name has been changed

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She has been a part of RBI ever since her best friend, who was ladies I interacted with and I’m determined to be a woman in the first session, invited her in the summer of 2007. “She was telling me that she went to this thing every Sat-

just like they are.” says Jocelyn. She also points out why other girls out there should join

urday and how much fun it was and how much they cared.”

Reel Beauty. “Even if you don’t struggle with self-esteem, you

Jocelyn explained. Jocelyn went to the second session and

should join RBI anyway, because it teaches you a lot about

enjoyed it so much; she even made her two sisters become a

yourself and others. It’s not like after the program is over,

part of it.

there’s nothing else; the ladies are always available. I feel like

Self-esteem has many different meanings for each person, and the workshops help with every one of them.

a lot of teenagers these days need guidance.” For further information on how to join Reel Beauty, visit

“Low self-esteem is not just about how you look. A lot of the website ReelBeautyinc.com and go to the Contact us link. times, I used to walk around thinking highly of myself and Deida told me, ‘you have to be humble.’ Beauty is skin deep.

And remember, beauty is your pure inner soul that is ready to come out of its shell and show the world what

You could walk around thinking that you’re pretty, but beauty they’ve been too blind to see…. And that’s you! is more than just that. I have to work within myself to be beautiful; I have to work on me, first, to be pretty. With that, I

From one goddess to another!

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