Caregiving and Community Support and Resources for Caregivers
Into the Future Leaders Embrace Diversity
Community is a Team Sport Intergenerational Friendships
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RIDE OF OUR LIFE
Husband and wife take to the road in an RV
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INTO THE FUTURE
Local leaders embrace diversity as population grows
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CAREGIVING AND THE OPPOSITE OF CERTAINTY
Author Janine Urbaniak Reid shares her wisdom
special section: book excerpt GROWING BOLDER: DEFY THE CULT OF YOUTH, LIVE WITH PASSION AND PURPOSE
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CONFRONTING THE CAREGIVING CRISIS
Creating a culture of care in an ageist world
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NOTE FROM THE CEO
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CONTRIBUTORS
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GROWING BOLDER BACK ON PBS
Big names, bold lives
Season six will air this fall on public broadcasting
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5 QUESTIONS
Inspiration from famed swimmer Diana Nyad
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LAURA SAVINI’S FAVORITE ROOM IN THE HOUSE
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ORDINARY PEOPLE
For Laura Savini, life revolves around the kitchen
Living extraordinary lives
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GB BOOK REVIEWS
Suggested reading for lifelong learners and bibliophiles
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THE TAKEAWAY
Sheila E’s definition of the glamorous life
defy
Creative vegetarian versions of summer classics
finance 56
HELP FOR SMALL BUSINESS OWNERS
Candy Lowe takes economic development on the road
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THE HIGH COST OF CARE
Jean Chatsky’s tips for financial planning with aging parents
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INTO THE FUTURE
Local leaders embrace diversity as population grows
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BROADCASTER MIKE LEONARD
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At 72, still the same determined kid from Illinois
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WHEN THINGS GO WRONG
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RIDE OF OUR LIFE
Don’t go with them
Husband and wife take to the road in an RV
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WHY SELF-CARE IS NOT SELFISH
Sean Covey’s new insights on “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”
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CAREGIVING AND THE OPPOSITE OF CERTAINTY
Author Janine Urbaniak Reid shares her wisdom
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LET FOOD BE THY MEDICINE
From “Eat to Beat Disease” author William Li, M.D.
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LETTING GO THROUGH CO-MINDFULNESS
The freedom of releasing your expectations of others
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INTERMITTENT FASTING FAQS
Frequently asked questions about the benefits of time-restricted eating
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KAYAKING FLORIDA
5 waterways to explore this summer
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DESTINED TO TRAVEL?
St. Pete and Clearwater take tourism safety precautions
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SHARING THE WELL OF WISDOM
A legacy of intergenerational friendships
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IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH
Kim Campbell shares her caregiving experience to help others
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Community support is important for all caregivers
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LOVE IN THE TIME OF SOCIAL DISTANCING
Unmasking is the new first base
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COMMUNITY IS A TEAM SPORT
George Diaz on friendship and flag football
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NOTE FROM THE CEO
Where Have Our Voices Gone? We’ve never been afraid to speak our minds, afraid to take a stand. We have spoken against injustice in all forms. We‘ve fought for equal rights, equal pay, and equal access. But today, our voices are mostly silent. Unfortunately, far too many of us willingly inhabit the demeaning, devalued ageist stereotype that our culture has created for us. The voice of older Americans most often magnified these days is that of the shopper throwing a tantrum and refusing to wear to mask or a man in a golf cart yelling “White Power!” to a group of Black Lives Matter protestors. These are neither the behaviors nor the opinions of the majority of older Americans. But it is the brush with which we are all being painted and the image that we endorse with our silence. These are the examples that the media seizes upon, quickly becoming the de facto representation of all older people. Our silence serves only to reinforce the notion that our culture no longer has nor needs elders to offer counsel and insight borne of wisdom and experience. We are dealing with significant issues for which there are no easy solutions, no magic bullets. We are openly debating, in word and deed, if we really believe the preamble to the Declaration of Independence, which speaks to a lofty ideal upon which our country was founded. We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness. Human rights should not be a political issue. The delivery of equal opportunity and justice should be something that unifies and not divides us. Why are we not standing up and using our voices to speak for those who can’t speak for themselves? Why are we not joining the fight? Granted, decades of struggle to raise families, build careers and make ends meet have tempered the idealism of our youth. But what we’ve gained is far more valuable if only we choose to wield it. We come to this fight with experience, compassion and empathy. We’ve learned about the fragility of life and the value of time.
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If we don’t yet understand what it’s like to be unfairly treated and considered less than, we will soon. For the first time in our mostly privileged lives, ageism will make us feel the pain of indifference and the fear of neglect. It will cast us on the side of the cultural divide in which we are devalued, demeaned, and diminished. We will become the others. Viruses spread worldwide with no respect to geographic boundaries, let alone gender, race, religion or socio-economic status. So do ideas and ideals. We need to recapture some of the zeitgeist of the 1960s and step up and speak out. We need to demonstrate that this is not the age of indifference. It’s the age of powerful yet respectful thought leadership. We need to lead with love, and kindness and experience. We need to remember that we have not only witnessed the world change over the decades, we have helped change it. And we have learned from it. And our job is not yet finished.
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Volume 41 PUBLISHER Jackie Carlin EDITOR-IN-CHIEF Emily Thompson CREATIVE DIRECTOR Ashley Heafy GRAPHIC DESIGNER Katie Styles EXECUTIVE EDITOR Doris Bloodsworth FEATURES DIRECTOR Bill Shafer PRODUCTION DIRECTOR Jill Middleton EDITORIAL SPECIAL FEATURES
Janine Urbanik Reid Jewel Symmes MK Wall VIDEO + PHOTOGRAPHY
Jason Morrow, Michael Nanus, Jacob Langston CONTRIBUTING WRITERS
Sean Covey Tiffany Cruikshank George Diaz Mary Lou Janson Doro Bush Koch Tricia Reilly Koch Mike Leonard William W. Li, MD
Leslie Kemp Poole Janine Urbaniak Reid Laura Savini Dr. Jim Smith, Jr. Jewel Symmes Jonathan Taylor MK Wall Collette Haw
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CONTRIBUTORS
Mary Lou Janson
After working as a full-time reporter for Florida newspapers and in public relations promoting Tampa as a travel destination, Mary Lou Janson moved cross-country to Berkeley, CA to pursue freelance travel writing and contribute to newspapers, magazines, travel guides, books and online sites. Back in the Tampa Bay area, she continues to work as a freelancer and, occasionally, as a publicist representing hotels, restaurants and, for many years, Central Florida tours of Cirque du Soleil productions. She is always on the lookout for that next fascinating story to share or new travel destination to explore.
George Diaz
Born in Cuba and raised in South Florida, George Diaz became inspired to be a journalist while working for his school newspaper at Coral Gables High School. He is a 1978 graduate of the University of Florida’s College of Journalism. Diaz worked at the “Miami Herald” and “The Cincinnati Post” before joining the “Orlando Sentinel” sports department in 1989. He went on to serve in a number of roles, including columnist and member of the editorial board. He took a severance package in November, 2018, and is proud of his 29-year legacy at the paper but is now looking forward to writing new chapters in his life.
William W. Li, MD
William W. Li, MD, is an internationally renowned physician, scientist and author of the New York Times bestseller “Eat to Beat Disease: The New Science of How Your Body Can Heal Itself.” His TED Talk, “Can We Eat to Starve Cancer?” has garnered more than 11 million views. Dr. Li has appeared on Good Morning America, CNN, CNBC and the Dr. Oz Show, and he has been featured in USA Today, Time Magazine, The Atlantic and O Magazine. He is president and medical director of the Angiogenesis Foundation, and is leading research into COVID-19.
Dr. Jim Smith, Jr.
Dr. Jim Smith Jr. is a global leader in personal and professional improvement who specializes in creating performance breakthroughs for individuals, teams and organizations. An internationally sought after professional speaker, coach consultant and best-selling author, Dr. Smith helps men and women worldwide reach their full potential through his “No Excuses” philosophy.
Janine Urbaniak Reid
Author Janine Urbaniak Reid is an advocate bringing humanity to the healthcare discussion. In “The Opposite of Certainty: Fear, Faith, and Life in Between,” Reid shares the very personal story of life as the mother of a son with a slow-growing brain tumor and the journey to discover hidden reserves of resilience, humor and faith that looked nothing like she thought it would. Reid shows readers how we can come through impossible intact, transformed and even more our true selves than we have ever allowed before. Janine’s work has been published in the “Washington Post, Chicago Tribune and San Francisco Chronicle” and is widely syndicated.
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Leslie Kemp Poole
Leslie Kemp Poole is an author and assistant professor of environmental studies at Rollins College in Winter Park, Florida. Her work reflects her interest in how women, who historically had little political power, rallied together in grassroots efforts to protect the environment and preserve natural resources.
Jonathan Taylor
Jonathan is a Certified Strength & Conditioning Specialist, Movement Coach, and Personal Trainer. With over 14 years of experience, Taylor uses his expertise to train the lives of athletes, adults, kids, and those coming back from injury. Health is his obsession and movement is his practice. Follow him on Instagram @taylormadetomove.
Tiffany Cruikshank
An international yoga teacher, author and health and wellness expert, Tiffany Cruikshank is the founder of Yoga Medicine®. Her teaching methods combine the western medicine knowledge of the body with the eastern tradition of yoga. Cruikshank was previously the Acupuncturist and Yoga Teacher at the Nike World Headquarters in Portland, Oregon and has worked with over 25,000 patients. She has been a contributor to many major publications including: The Wall Street Journal, Forbes and Yoga Journal. Beginning this fall, you can take class with her on YogaMedicine.com or check out her books, “Meditate Your Weight” and “Optimal Health For A Vibrant Life.” Tricia Reilly Koch
Tricia Reilly Koch is co-founder of BB&R Wellness Consulting. Driven by a lifelong passion to understand the mind-body connection, she is a certified holistic health coach, a student of ayurvedic living and a wellness entrepreneur. Her most recent business endeavor is Georgetown Gourmet Market with a mission to bring healthier foods to air travelers at Reagan National Airport in Washington, D.C. Reilly has worked as an advocate and consultant helping individuals and businesses rethink health and wellness in the 21st century.
Doro Bush Koch
Doro Bush Koch is co-founder of BB&R Wellness Consulting. She has managed the demands of being the daughter and sister of two U.S. presidents by practicing mindfulness. It has had such a positive impact on Bush’s life that she has spent the last two decades sharing the power of this ancient practice with others through her meditation CDs and at wellness conferences. Bush is the “New York Times” bestselling author of the book “My Father, My President: A Personal Account of the Life of George H.W. Bush.” She is also the chairwoman of The Barbara Bush Foundation for Family Literacy. Sean Covey
Sean Covey is the president of FranklinCovey Education and is devoted to transforming education throughout the world through a principle-centered leadership approach. Covey directs FranklinCovey’s whole school transformation process, called Leader in Me®, now in more than 5,000 schools and 50 countries. Sean is The New York Times bestselling author and has authored or co-authored several books, including The Wall Street Journal #1 Business Bestseller, “The 4 Disciplines of Execution,” “The 6 Most Important Decisions You’ll Ever Make,” “The 7 Habits of Happy Kids,” “The Leader in Me,” and “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens,” which is in 30 languages and sold more than eight million copies worldwide. G R O W I N G B O L D E R / VO L . 4 1
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Growing Bolder is back on public TV and bolder than ever. Season 6 airs this fall on public broadcasting stations nationwide, including on every major station in Florida. Presented by WUCF-TV in Orlando, 10 new episodes will air, filled with motivational and inspirational stories that resonate with viewers of all ages. Check local listings to catch Growing Bolder in your area.
As COVID-19 continues to change nearly aspect of our daily lives, what will our futures look like? Will it impact how we age and the opportunities we’d long planned to embrace and explore? Colin Milner, CEO of the International Council on Active Aging, is founder of the active-aging industry in North America. He’ll discuss how we can all learn to navigate the “next normal.”
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There’s no question: we’re living through one of the most distressing times in recent human history. How are you coping? One of the most effective ways to manage the stress is practicing mindfulness. Find out how it changed the lives of Doro Bush Koch (the daughter and sister of two U.S. presidents) and Tricia Reilly Koch and can help you survive and thrive during this global health crisis. Register: growingbolder.com/gbpresents
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Growing Bolder Speaker Series: 2 Siblings, 2 Experiences, 1 Mission Caring for aging parents is one of the most difficult things any of us will ever experience, particularly when siblings are involved. When faced with both of their parents being diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease, the Middleton kids had differing approaches. In this candid conversation, Growing Bolder Founder Marc Middleton and his sister Molly Middleton Meyer, a caregiving professional, explain what happens when expectations meet reality. Register: growingbolder.com/gbpresents
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Darlene Love
Gordon Lightfoot
“Rolling Stone” called Darlene Love one of the greatest singers of all time. Yet, for most of her career, few knew her name because she was a backing vocalist.
In his more than 50 years in the music business, singersongwriter Gordon Lightfoot has gifted us with some extraordinary songs, including classics, such as “The Wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald,” “Sundown” and “If You Could Read My Mind.”
Love sang with artists such as Elvis Presley, Tom Jones, Dionne Warwick and Sam Cooke, as well as several of Phil Specter’s famous girl groups of the 1960s, including the Crystals, Bob B. Soxx and the Blue Jeans Eventually, she finally got her turn in the spotlight. In 2011, she was inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame; and in 2013, her career and talents were highlighted in the Oscarwinning documentary “Twenty Feet from Stardom.” “Life is not as hard or complicated as it was 30 or 40 years ago,” Love said. “It’s all about me sticking to my career, making that 20-foot march from backup singer to the front and my eye is on the prize. This can be done by anybody at any age.”
His songs have been recorded by everyone from Elvis Presley to Jane’s Addiction. He’s nothing short of a legend. Another legend, Bob Dylan, considers him his mentor. “I guess you could say we’re each other’s mentors,” Lightfood said. “I’ve known him his entire career; and without having met Bob, I never would have written ‘Early Morning Rain.’”
She calls this era the best time of her life.
Lightfoot also says he doesn’t think he would still be touring and making music today, if he hadn’t overcome his alcohol dependency in 1982. He credits his exercise regime with helping to stay sober. His healthy lifestyle also helped him survive and thrive in the aftermath of two major health events — an aortic aneurysm in 2002 and a stroke in 2006.
“All of the worries and cares that you have as a young adult or when you’re raising your children are gone. I have a fabulous marriage; I’ve been married for 36 years. I work out every morning at 5 a.m. Life is good.”
“It was a scary time after that stroke. It took me six months to get everything back into working order,” he said. “Thankfully, since I was in good condition, I never even missed a show.”
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He says his favorite piece of advice is obvious but so important: stay motivated. Larry Busacca via Getty Images
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Ken Jeong
Sonia Warshawski is one of the last living survivors of the Holocaust. As a teen, she survived three, different concentration camps; and on the day she was liberated, she was accidentally shot in the chest.
Ken Jeong always wanted to be a comedian; but he focused on his studies, and it paid off. He graduated from high school at the age of 16 and headed off to college, then medical school, but his dream never died.
After recovering, she moved to the United States, where she married a tailor and had three children. For decades, she didn’t talk about her Holocaust experiences; but in her 70s, when she saw hate crimes and violence still remained serious issues, she started speaking to schools, churches, prisons and juvenile detention centers. Her story inspired the documentary, “Big Sonia.”
After a few years practicing medicine, he decided to go for it. “I had no idea if I could have a career in comedy,” Jeong said. “I was very scared and for good reason. I was leaving behind a stable career where I could make six figures for the rest of my life. But this was something that I had to do.”
“I lived with my memories of the Holocaust all my life. When I came out of that hell, I couldn’t talk about it. I was very naive,” she said. “I thought people wouldn’t hate each other anymore. Don’t forget: Germany and Austria had some of the highest cultures before the war, but this all happened through propaganda. If it could happen there, it could happen again.”
His passion and persistence paid off. He’s since had standout roles in films such as “The Hangover,” “Knocked Up” and “Crazy Rich Asians,” as well as on the beloved TV show “Community.” He also created, produced, wrote, directed and starred in his own ABC series, “Dr. Ken.”
Warshawski says even though hate keeps repeating itself, it’s never too late to break the cycle.
“I think timing and passion are the key to everything, and I was blessed to have both at the right time,” he said. “I also believe I can make mistakes and make adjustments based on those mistakes. Don’t be afraid to fail and don’t be afraid to succeed.”
“Hate has to be taken out of people’s hearts,” she said.
His message? Believe in yourself.
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TRANSLATING TECH Tech Support for Caregivers Bobby Wesley
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Caregivers have a big job. And when you’re away, so often there’s worry. Thankfully, technology can help you stay connected when you’re not there… and do a whole lot more! There are tools available to help you support loved ones experiencing lack of mobility, memory loss and loneliness. Technology can also provide accurate location tracking and security monitoring, because sadly, not only are home accidents real, so too is elder abuse. So, check out these tools to help reduce stress and avoid burnout for caregivers, and help your loved ones live their best lives.
Wearable tech for emergency communication and health tracking. By now, we’re all familiar with the famous Life Alert commercial that has been running for the past 30-plus years. But wearable devices have come a long way. Take the Apple Watch. If you’ve fallen, (or fallen behind on text messages), it’s already right there on your wrist, making it possible to phone for help directly from the iWatch (if connected to the wearer’s cell phone). Beyond calling for help, wearable devices can help you track health data such as glucose, heart rate, medication, calorie intake and sleep. And the information is all trackable by the wearer, their doctor and loved ones via apps or the internet.
Special delivery A family member shouldn’t go without groceries or a favorite meal just because they can’t get out. Delivery services, such as Shipt and Instacart, provide same-day grocery delivery from a personal (and affordable!) shopper. And depending on where you live, app- or web-based restaurant delivery services, such as Uber Eats or DoorDash, can have take-out delivered to your loved one’s door. You can even celebrate special occasions “together apart” by sharing a favorite restaurant meal at home, while on a video call.
Yes, there’s an app for that.
Video calling made easier
Speaking of smart devices, your phone not only can keep you connected with a call but also with loved one’s health information and daily needs. Medication-tracking apps, such as Medisafe, provide easy-to-use reminders and also connect that info with caregivers and providers. Other apps can help manage everything from appointments to errands to health updates, while disease-specific apps address unique caregiving needs, such as those of dementia patients.
A lot of us have become used to Facetime and Zoom calls to help us stay connected, but it’s not easy for everyone. Smart display devices, such as the Echo Show from Amazon, offer a built-in screen, camera and speakers for drop-in calling; and pre-selected users can check in anytime via video call. This system blends safety and social elements for long-distance family, case managers, remote appointments and diagnoses. So, don’t forget to e-call your mother!
Connected everything — even appliances! The “Internet of Things” (IoT) – yes, that’s really a term – refers to the increasing number of everyday items that connect to the world wide web. While you might ask why you would want the internet in your fridge, (such as those offered by Samsung, LG and GE), keep in mind that high-tech sensors can track when family members need a grocery refill, assure you that house entry doors are secure and keep caregivers connected even when they’re away.
Check out these tools to help reduce stress and avoid burnout for caregivers, and help your loved ones live their best lives.
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ORDINARY PEOPLE LIVING EXTRAORDINARY LIVES Bill Shafer
Richard Hall – Legacy of Tuskegee Airmen Richard Hall has seen the world, all of its wonders and three of his country’s wars. He faced formidable enemies overseas but also at home in the form of racial prejudice. Hall was a Tuskegee Airman, one of the first black aviators in American history and one of the last alive. “I’m proud that I’m still around to tell the story,” he said. Today, Hall, 95, keeps the legacy alive by recounting how the Tuskegee Airmen overcame discrimination to become one of the most highly respected fighter groups of World War II by proving their character, abilities and patriotism. Hall had a 30-year distinguished career rising to the rank of Chief Master Sergeant. “People ask me how I did it,” he explained. “All I wanted to do was make a difference and survive. My goal now is to live to be 100, at least.” Growing Bolder hopes Hall will once again be able to exceed expectations.
Tony Handler – Runs to survive Tony Handler had always been healthy, until at the age of 43, he was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Doctors predicted he had two years to live. Desperate to feel he was fighting back, Handler started to run. Well, mostly walk at first. His body responded both to exercise and treatment. Handler began to rebound. But cancer can be a relentless foe, and it attacked him again and again. He also fought prostate and liver cancer. All in all, Handler has faced cancer six times. He’s had seven surgeries. He also has competed in over 300 triathlons. “Every time I cross that finish line I feel like it’s a victory over Mr. Cancer,” explained Handler, who turns 80 this year. “It’s been 37 years since I was given that death sentence,” he said. “Running has not only impacted my health, it’s given me my life.”
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Vivian Carrington – College graduate at 76 Vivan Carrington may have been a student, but she taught as much as she learned. At 76, Carrington became one of the oldest graduates ever at Rollins College. She enrolled at 70 only to be interrupted by a terminal diagnosis of lupus. “Oh, I could have given up right then.” Carrington said. “But those doctors would not have the last say over my life.” Something she didn’t want was pity. “I wanted to show students that you can’t be timid,” she said. “You have got to have some backbone.” Carrington felt it was important to display love, kindness and strength. She would tell classmates, “If you keep pushing, always persevere, you will get where you want to go.” Carrington was determined to abide by her own words. Her graduation ceremony was one of the proudest days of her life. She died two years later at the age of 78. Carrington left a powerful legacy with those who knew her. Her advice is cherished by many, “Be who you are, find your purpose and pursue it.”
Thomas McClary – Creator of the Commodores Thomas McClary’s life has been nothing short of amazing. The man who racially integrated his high school, formed the Commodores, discovered Lionel Richie and created the band’s signature sound is ready for his next adventure. “For me, music has always been about affecting the greater good; and I’m determined to keep doing just that,” McClary said. McClary, 70, spent decades trying to get the band back together, only to be sued by them over the rights to the Commodores name. “It was the most devastating period for me,” he said. Now settled, he is playing hits, such as “Easy” and “Brick House,” with his new band, the Thomas McClary Commodores Experience, which includes several of his own children. “Do you know when you feel like you’re right on the verge of something huge?’’ he said. “It feels just like when I created the Commodores. It’s a whole new era for me and I truly believe this the best time of my life.”
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RIDE OF OUR LIFE Jewel Symmes
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My husband, Joe, and I grew up in the ‘50s, became teenagers in the ‘60s, then came marriage and family in the ‘70s. Sound familiar? Work and responsibilities consumed all of our time. However, there was always the thought in the back of our minds that someday, somehow, we would get away from it all. We would load up our vehicle and hit the open road — pedal to the metal and cares to the wind. Our dream was sort of like the old TV show, “Route 66,” except with a Winnebago instead of a Corvette. During our working years, we had enjoyed RV vacations and had been able to see much of the country on a limited basis. While we loved the freedom of RV travel, there was always the knowledge that we eventually had to go home and get back to the real world (aka work).
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Living in a 45-foot “hallway,” 24/7 with another person, will definitely make you aware of any differences. Still, we’re loving life, counting our blessings and trying to appreciate those differences.
It took us almost 50 years, but we finally made the dream come true. Last month, we took a leap of faith, sold our Central Florida ranch and hit the road in our RV, which we affectionately call “The S.H.O.W.” (The Symmes House On Wheels.) We are now officially full-timers and couldn’t be happier. During our earlier RV vacations, we had been able to visit every state except Hawaii. We had crossed the country from Florida to Washington and even made five trips to Alaska. However, along with the freedom of the road comes the reality of the road, such as breakdowns, flat tires and a myriad of mechanical issues. Joe’s fix-it skills have saved the day on numerous occasions. An engineer by trade, Joe also became trained in RV maintenance and inspection. These skills were instrumental in our decision to join the staff of Adventure Caravans where we have served as “Tailgunners,” (repair service), for
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guided RV tours. Joe and I love meeting new folks and helping others get the most out of the RV lifestyle. We’ve caravanned from Florida to Alaska, met many great people and made wonderful friends along the way. We tell our guests that we may meet as strangers, but within a few days, we become friends; and by the end of the tour, we’re more like family. Unfortunately, the coronavirus has caused some tours to be cancelled, changing a lot of plans, including ours. So for now, we are traveling independently and catching up on maintenance. (As older adults, we know the importance of annual checkups.) At present, Joe and I are in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan. From here, we’ll head to Wisconsin to spend a few days with past caravanners, Iowa and Illinois are next. After that, it’ll be time to start heading south to warmer weather. We hope to spend a month in Tennessee and another in North Georgia where we’ll hook up with other caravanners. We plan to spend this winter in Florida. And, (unless Joe leaves me somewhere on the side of the road), he and I will celebrate our 50th anniversary with friends and fellow RVers. Next year, we plan to winter somewhere west of the Mississippi While full-time RV life is not for everyone, it is certainly interesting. You really get to know each other, and it sure helps if you actually like your partner. Living in a 45-foot “hallway,” 24/7 with another person, will definitely make you aware of any differences. Still, we’re loving life, counting our blessings and trying to appreciate those differences. Thankfully, Joe’s patience is amazing. My husband is destined for sainthood! Me, not so much. While it’s not perfect, traveling in an RV definitely has unique advantages during these turbulent times. You have your own safe, convenient home and you can take it wherever you choose. While the coronavirus does present challenges, it’s possible to socialize with like-minded folks. For example, last night we enjoyed the sunset over Lake Michigan, while a cool breeze was blowing in the air. As we sat in our lawn chairs, we probably talked to nearly a dozen people who were out for an evening stroll. They would stop briefly with the usual, “Hi! Nice rig! Where are you from?” Campgrounds are great places to practice social distancing while making new acquaintances. So, if you love people and travel, this is a great time to experience both in an RV. Our personal business cards sum it up this way: “Can’t wait to see what’s around the next bend!” And if you happen to see The S.H.O.W. on the road, stop and say hello. You’re just a friend that we haven’t met yet.
For more information about RV tours, visit adventurecaravans.com.
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At 70, Ed Henry lived through a double lung transplant. Today he’s back to work, in the gym, and looks forward to his morning walk at sunrise — a daily reminder of a new beginning. He thanks his donor, his surgeons, and his Florida Blue Nurse Care Manager, who helped get him liquid oxygen when he didn’t know where to turn, which kept him alive until he could get the double lung transplant.
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Grill Outside the Bun Turn up the Heat on These New Summer Classics Chef Collette Haw
It’s grilling season! If you’ve only been using your grill for some burgers and dogs, you don’t know what you’ve been missing. Take advantage of the smoky flavors of your backyard grill to create some healthy dishes you’ll crave all year long. I love these quick and easy Margherita Pizzas. The grill gives the homemade dough (it’s easier than you think!) a deep and crispy flavor that your oven can’t touch. And this recipe for grilled peaches will let you truly savor the summer’s freshest flavors. Plus, with the addition of protein-packed Greek yogurt, antioxidant rich honey and heart-healthy pistachios, this is a dessert that not only tastes great, it’ll make you feel good.
Want more tips? Visit WellbeingNetwork.org to watch me make this recipe on my grill!
Grilled Margherita Pizza
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2 servings
Dough
INGREDIENTS
Dough
2 cups flour, divided 2 1/4 teaspoons instant dry yeast 1 1/2 teaspoons sugar 3/4 teaspoon salt 2 tablespoons olive oil
Margherita Pizza
1/2 the dough ½ cup fresh basil chiffonade Salt and pepper to taste ¾ cup crushed tomatoes 1 teaspoon garlic oil 6 slices fresh mozzarella
Place 1 cup of flour into a mixing bowl. Add the instant dry yeast, sugar, salt and olive oil to the 1 cup of flour and mix thoroughly. Slowly mix in the other 1 cup of flour, mix thoroughly and knead for about minutes. Place in a warm spot, cover and allow to double in size.
Margherita Pizza
Preheat the grill on medium high heat. Roll out the pizza dough until it’s ¼ inch thick. Brush with garlic oil and season with salt and pepper. Place the oiled side of the pizza dough down on the grill. While that side is cooking on the grill, brush the garlic oil on the side facing toward you and season with salt and pepper. Once there are grill marks on the side of the dough facing the grill, flip it over. After flipping the dough, spread the crushed tomatoes over the pizza and top with the sliced, fresh mozzarella. Once the mozzarella melts and the pizza dough is cooked through, take the pizza off the grill and sprinkle the basil all over.
Serving size: ½ pizza 408 calories, 52g carbs, 7.8g fat, 14.3g protein, 290 mg sodium
Grilled Peaches 4 servings INGREDIENTS 4 ripe peaches 1 cup nonfat Greek yogurt 1 tablespoon honey 2 tablespoons chopped pistachios
Preheat the grill. Once the grill is hot, spray it with avocado oil or any non-stick spray you have. Cut the peaches in half and remove the pits. Place the peaches, cut side down, on the grill. Grill the peaches until warmed through. Mix the Greek yogurt and honey together and set aside. Once the peaches are warmed through, place them on a platter, top them with the Greek yogurt and sprinkle with pistachios.
Serving size: 1 peach 203 calories, 5.4g fat, 35.3g carbs, 5.4g protein Photos: Jacob Langston
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Into the Future Leading One of The Nation’s Fastest Growing Regions by Embracing Diversity
George Diaz
Look for more interviews with Florida leaders from around the state in upcoming issues of Growing Bolder magazine.
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F E AT U R E S
Buddy Dyer and Jerry Demings are attached at the hip, bonded by a common goal of leadership in a time of crisis. As Central Florida copes with the everyday struggle of a pandemic, Dyer and Demings stand as the first men in the line of duty, making executive decisions in the interests of public safety, common sense and principled leadership. Dyer, mayor of Orlando, and Demings, mayor of Orange County, each hold a solid resume in that regard. Dyer was born in Orlando and grew up in Kissimmee. Demings was born in Orlando and has never strayed far, except to attend Florida State University in Tallahassee. Their push for diversity during these trying times are marked by each of their individual experiences. Growing Bolder caught up with both to allow them to reflect on their backgrounds and to talk about how they draw from those experiences in their everyday challenges.
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Buddy Dyer
Growing up in Kissimmee, John Hugh “Buddy” Dyer looked through a narrow prism of diversity. “Cowboys or surfer boys,” he said. And they were all white. He knew one Hispanic kid growing up. The scope of his interaction with Black kids was mostly through sports, playing football and baseball in high school. He didn’t know anyone who was openly gay. It wasn’t until he went to college at Brown University that Dyer’s prism began to expand. “It was a whole new world for me,” Dyer said. “I think it certainly shaped some of my liberal tendencies. They were very diverse in terms of every type of population you could think of. And even at that time were accepting LGBTQ students, which growing up in Kissimmee was not something that was talked about.” Fast-forward to 2020 — Dyer, 61, is now mayor in a city that for the last five years has received a perfect score on the annual Municipal Equality Index by the Human Rights Campaign. It’s a city in which Dyer officiated a “vowed and proud” wedding ceremony for 44 same-sex couples outside City Hall on January 6, 2015, the first day gay marriage became legal in Florida. It’s a city that leaned on Dyer’s leadership and compassion in the wake of the Pulse tragedy on June 12, 2016. Dyer isn’t trying to score political brownie points, even as some may cast a cynical eye. Dyer’s motivation is his belief system, deeply grounded in a level playing field for everyone. “No. 1, it’s the right thing to do, embracing diversity and equality and fairness; but also, in terms of economic beliefs, I follow a guy named, Richard Florida [an American urban studies theorist]. “He espouses that cities that are going to be successful in the future are the ones that do exactly that — embrace diversity and equality. That’s where the young, talented people that we want to have in our cities want to move, to the cities like Orlando that make a welcoming place for everybody. “So it’s also an economic strategy. If we’re going to be successful, we have to be that type of city.”
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That daily push toward diversity and equality has been in sharp focus over the last few months, as protesters march and gather to raise their voice across America, including Orlando. All the while, the COVID-19 pandemic continues to challenge Dyer and all leaders across the country to find a balancing act between public health and safety and to try and keep the economy from catering. Dyer, as well as all city and county leaders, have been tested — perhaps more than ever before. The challenge is daunting: keeping it all together while keeping the peace. Experience matters. Dyer has been re-elected five times since he first took office in 2003 in a special election after Glenda Hood, the previous mayor, left office. “What I have learned is during crisis situations, and both of those [Pulse, COVID-19] are in that category, my primary responsibility is communication,” Dyer said.
... cities that are going to be successful in the future are the ones that do exactly that — embrace diversity and equality. That’s where the young, talented people that we want to have in our cities want to move, to the cities like Orlando that make a welcoming place for everybody. To that end, Dyer has been at the city’s Emergency Operations Center regularly in recent months. He happened to be there when the recent tornado came through on June 6. “It looked like it was headed straight for the Emergency Operations Center,” Dyer said. “Fortunately, it disbursed before it got there.” He’s also embraced the new-fangled reality of Zoom meetings, something that had been an afterthought before COVID-19. “I’ve been having smaller groups of 10 or 15 people, for instance the leaders of various African American not-forprofits,” Dyer said. “I had a group from Florida A&M Law School. I had a group of young lawyers. I have Black History Month leaders. Probably had 10 different groups. “I think in terms of having discussions and listening, it’s better to do it where you have an opportunity for everybody that’s on a call to participate.” The dynamics change every day. Buddy Dyer gets it. Cowboys and surfer boys are welcome in the mix, but there’s room for everyone at the table.
Jerry Demings has over 37 years of what he describes as “competent, drama-free leadership” as a public servant in Orange County. But that resume is incomplete. A deeper dive is necessary to understand the experiences that shape a man. In Demings’ case, the first significant marker is June 12, 1959, the day he was born. “I was born here in a segregated hospital,” he said.” At the time, it was called Phillips Memorial Hospital. It was the first hospital that allowed Blacks. Prior to that, my oldest siblings were born at home.” The fact that Demings is now Mayor of Orange County, and also has served as sheriff of the same county, speaks volumes about the exponential growth of opportunity for a person of color growing up in Central Florida. Demings brings that perspective and history to work each day, understanding that there is still much work that needs to be done. And the checklist is still long. “A visionary is someone who anticipates the need for something before it’s needed and they take action in a timely manner,” he said. “As mayor, to adequately address systemic racism in this society, you have to use a holistic approach. “You have to address the despair that is related to inadequate access to healthcare, employment, housing, education. You must address all of those things, so as mayor, I get to preside over a $4.8 billion dollar budget that touches all of those areas. I can exert a certain amount of influence over those things that make us a better community. That’s what I like doing.” Demings understands that the context of the modern-day struggle brings a different set of challenging circumstances compared to his formative years. His mother cleaned homes every day in white neighborhoods and took a bus to work each day. His father drove a taxicab for more than 40 years, working for Mears under an umbrella company called Dixie Cab, which could only transport Black people. They eventually scraped up enough money to own a small fish market in Washington Shores. They called it Freddy’s Fish Market, in honor of his dad. Demings was senior class president and graduated with honors from Jones High School in 1978. Of 267 people in the graduating class, he thinks about 20 were white. He now represents all constituents of race, color and creed. “Well, for me, Orange County is not a predominantly Black county,” he said. “I would never have been elected if I think some whites didn’t perceive me as being fair-minded. Probably, unlike some people, the proof is kind of in the results. “The reason why I’ve been able to transcend race and racism, to get to the pinnacle of these different organizations, was because I believe people perceive me as being wellqualified, well-suited to represent all people, not just African Americans, but all people. But certainly, as a Black man that grew up in the South, I couldn’t sidestep that, so I ran right to it instead, with a measured approach.
A visionary is someone who anticipates the need for something before it’s needed and they take action in a timely manner,” he said. “As mayor, to adequately address systemic racism in this society, you have to use a holistic approach. “While I think there’s an opportunity now, where people are paying attention, with the racial equality movement, I don’t want to lose the momentum here to be able to affect the kind of change that needs to be made. I think the right people are paying attention. I’ve lived long enough now to have experienced racism; but we’ve got a generation that didn’t experience it, and so I think these recent police killings have awakened them to the reality of what can occur and what does occur, to people of color who are, oftentimes, oppressed.” Demings wants to be a participant, not a spectator, in that movement. He can do it from a position of power in 2020, knowing full well of how far he’s come since he took his first breath at Phillips Memorial Hospital in 1959.
Jerry Demings
Photos Courtesy of the City of Orlando and Orange County
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KAYAKING FLORIDA 5 Waterways to Explore This Summer Leslie Kemp Poole
The paddle dips into the water and worries evaporate, replaced by tranquility. Ahhhhh. This is the gift of kayaking in Florida in the time of COVID-19 — a prescription to ease the mind and soul during a period of uncertainty and frustration. Admittedly, one doesn’t need a pandemic as an excuse to head out on a kayak to enjoy the state’s marvelous rivers and lakes. You just need the time and a great destination. Across the state, there are myriad watery escapes, from clear, spring-fed rivers to brown, tannic-colored streams, to coastal mangrove tunnels to sandy islands that recharge one’s spirit and put the “pause” button on a hectic schedule. There may be overhead flights of swallow-tailed kites and roseate spoonbills or splashing otters and lumbering manatees. Florida offers year-round paddling opportunities with unforgettable experiences best encountered by canoe or kayak. Here are a few scenic suggestions. Note: Contact sites before heading out because some may be closed periodically or have restricted hours due to health or weather issues.
Dr. Julian G. Bruce St. George Island State Park Inhale the briny air while paddling along this 22-mile barrier island off Florida’s Forgotten Coast near Apalachicola. The park, located at the eastern tip of the island, offers aquamarine waters and white beaches so fine that the sand squeaks. Rent a canoe or kayak at the park’s ranger station and paddle leisurely along the calmer bayside north of the island. Be on the lookout for varied bird life, schools of fish and rolling dolphin. 1900 E. Gulf Beach Drive St. George Island, FL 32328 $6 per vehicle 850-927-2111 | floridastateparks.org
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Weedon Island Preserve This 3,190-acre natural area on Tampa Bay offers an easy escape from urban chaos into a wonderland of salt marshes and wildlife. The park concessionaire offers rentals, but you can bring your own to explore 4 miles of shaded mangrove tunnels (be sure it’s high tide) and bay views. Back on shore, enjoy the preserve’s cultural and natural history center with exhibits about the local ecosystem and native people that lived here for thousands of years. 1800 Weedon Drive NE St. Petersburg, FL 33702 Free admission. Donations welcome. 727-453-6500 | weedonislandpreserve.org
Wekiwa Springs State Park This is one of the outstanding gems of the state park system and is located just north of Orlando. Get a boat at the concession office and head into the Wekiva River (Wekiva=river, Wekiwa=spring) for brief or hours-long excursions on this beloved, popular waterway. You are likely to see alligators, turtles and wading birds along the way. Afterward, swim and snorkel in the crystalline spring that feeds the river or hike along miles of upland trails. Canoe and kayak rentals are available at the concession, Wekiwa Springs State Park Nature Adventures. For information on rentals and fees, see Nature Adventures at canoewekiva.com or call 407-884-4311. 1800 Wekiwa Cir. Apopka, FL 32712 $6 per vehicle 407-553-4383 | floridastateparks.org
Everglades National Park A great way to experience one of the most biodiverse places on the planet is by water. Everglades National Park is a 1.5 million-acre paradise for paddlers, birders, hikers and fishing enthusiasts who flock here from across the globe. Use one of the park-approved tour guides from the park website and enjoy aquatic exploring that might reveal rare American crocodiles, threatened manatees and countless birds. More than 360 species have been observed in the park. 40001 State Road 9336 Homestead, FL 33034 $30 per vehicle; good for seven, consecutive days 304-242-7700 | nps.gov
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Famed Endurance Swimmer’s Advice for a Life Without Limits Jackie Carlin
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Diana Nyad is a lesson in perseverance. After four previous failed attempts, she became the first person in history to swim from Cuba to Key West unaided by a shark tank. She completed this amazing feat at age 64. Raised in Fort Lauderdale, Florida, Nyad is now one of the world’s best known ambassadors for open water swimming and active aging.
You’ve spoken candidly about your failures and your successes. What kept your hope alive that you could achieve the seemingly impossible? I rail against limitations. I started to train again for the Cuba swim when I was 60; and people would say to me, “You didn’t succeed at this when you were in your supposed prime at age 28. What makes you think you can do it at 60?” It never occurred to me to question it. Don’t tell me I shouldn’t or can’t do something at my age. I judge for myself. I feel what I feel instead of somebody else telling me what my limitations are.
You’ve set incredible world records in endurance swimming that seem overwhelming to most of us. What can we learn about your mindset? I don’t need to break world records. I have done it, I’m proud of that; and there was a lot to be learned from that. If you’re going to chase something that probably can’t be done, you have to have the courage to fail. I believe in that message, but there’s a bigger umbrella philosophy of life. It drives me and it’s something more people can relate to — just plain engage. Don’t lock yourself in your home. If I act in a bold, inspiring way, chances are, the friends around me are going to be inspired and they’re going to act in a bold, inspired way. When I was younger, it was all about drive, success and ego. As I’ve gotten older, to take my dog to the beach at sunrise and look out at the curvature of the Earth across the ocean — that is a fine way to spend an hour. I don’t want to get to the end of my life and feel that I was unconscious. I want to be awake, alert and alive.
What inspired this way of thinking? I don’t know why, but I started feeling the pressure of the passing of time very young. I can’t remember if I read it in a book or if somebody sat me down and said, “You won’t believe this, how fast it is going to go.” I do remember my fifth-grade teacher assigned us an essay on what we wanted to do with the rest of our lives. Mine was all about how I never got to know my grandparents, who all died in their early to mid-80s. And I thought, “If I’m 10, that means I only have 70 years to live.” I just knew from that young age that I wanted to feel like I’d get to the end of my life with no regrets.
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You’re known for what you’ve done in the water, yet you’ve embarked on a project to inspire people to move on land the simple way — to walk. What is Everwalk and what have you learned from it? For years, I denigrated walking because I’m just too badass for that. I do 1,000 Burpees (squat-thrust-stand exercise) at one time. I have an extreme level of fitness, and I’m almost 70 years old. I just always looked at walking as something I’d do when I’m 95. But my buddy, Bonnie Stoll, and I have turned our company, EverWalk, into a vision of walking as an epic endeavor. Recently, we led a walk from Boston to Maine; and it really impacted me. I looked back and saw that Boston skyline from New Hampshire and realized, “I got there on my own two legs.” It gives me that same feeling of strength I used to feel after swimming. It’s a worthwhile endeavor. You look up at the trees and the blue sky and you feel the great outdoors. You feel the beauty of this country, you start imagining what you can do. That’s why people like Steve Jobs started walking for his meetings instead of sitting sedentary. There’s a lot to walking besides just the weight control and it being good for your heart. That’s a given. I’m talking about enlightenment. So now, I’m into walking. I get it.
How are you Growing Bolder? It’s clear to me that we are a new generation. My mother died at 82; but by the time she was 55, she was thinking, “What a shame I’m heading into old age.” Her mentality was life had kind of passed her by. Whereas, we’re the rock-and-roll generation. We’re the Vietnam War protesters. We’ve seen that nursing home and said there’s still a lot left. So many of us feel that way that we are now becoming a power. And I think younger people — our children, grandchildren and students — are looking at us saying, “You know, I don’t know what anybody else thinks of 70; but that’s 70 I’m looking at? That’s the kind of 70 I want to be one day!” Nyad is a featured speaker in Growing Bolder’s Launchpad to What’s Next pledge special, a high-energy, educational and inspiration-packed program airing this fall on public broadcasting stations nationwide. Check local listings to hear from Nyad and others who will encourage you to discover your “What’s Next.”
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InCommon Mike Leonard Growing Bolder is excited that Mike Leonard, a multiple Emmy-Award winning journalist, “New York Times” best-selling author, filmmaker and public speaker, has joined the Growing Bolder team to continue his quest to share stories of common humanity. Leonard was a compelling presence on the “Today” show for 32 years. “He was a television star,” said Rick Kogan of the “Chicago Tribune,” “a ‘Today’ show fixture of such distinctive talent that he was given virtually free rein to tell stories, not about the celebrities and oddities that occupy so much of modern media, but about so-called ordinary people.” Among his many celebrated “Today” show stories, Leonard took a monthlong, cross-country RV trip with his aging, eccentric parents and grown children. His series, “The Ride of Our Lives,” was a celebration of self-discovery, family blessings and simple pleasures. Leonard turned the series into a critically acclaimed “New York Times” bestselling book.
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At 72, Still the Same Determined Kid from Illinois Mike Leonard
I should not have been a network news correspondent. I should not have written a bestselling book. I should not have graduated from college. Yet, all of those facts are listed on my resume. And they are true. Note: This essay does not contain statements about super human effort, the blessings of natural ability or the presence of dumb luck. The word “dumb” however does have some relevance. Let’s start with dumb. And let’s start early. I was about 8 years old and had challenged a boyhood friend to a hold-your-breath contest. That was dumb. We were standing on the street in the shopping section of our little, northern Illinois hometown. It was late in the afternoon on a warm day in early September. The streets were quiet. There was little traffic. A signal was given and the two of us sucked as much air as we could into our lungs, closed our mouths, pinched our noses shut and held our breath. I won. But lost, badly — a revelation that came to me after regaining consciousness, rising to my knees and throwing up. Apparently, I held my breath until passing out, then keeled over face first, my forehead making initial contact with the concrete curb. I don’t know how long I was unconscious; but I remember waking up to a different world, a violently spinning, out-of-focus world, hostile to the notion that a
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newly concussed, vomiting, little boy could successfully ride his bike home, just two blocks away, without crashing, yes, head-on, into a tree, then into a free-standing, 4-foot high, stone masonry water fountain, then into a parked car, then into a row of thorny hedges. The spinning world suddenly went dark again until I noticed an unfamiliar light fixture on the ceiling and criblike bars surrounding my hospital bed, where I stayed, penned up and stared at for the better part of a week. Once home, I was barred from physical activity, reading or watching TV for a month. Unfortunately, on the second day of my home imprisonment, I convinced my mom that a slow walk around the block would be good for me. I didn’t walk around the block. I walked a few houses down to Bobby Seligman’s basement where we decided to use croquet mallets and a croquet ball for an impromptu hybrid polo/hockey game. The contest wasn’t 30 seconds old when a speeding croquet ball slammed into the middle of my forehead. Why did I decide to join that game? Because I couldn’t stand sitting around our house doing nothing. Why did I hold my breath until passing out? Because I wanted to win the candy bar prize. From that point on, I struggled in school but knew that my life would have meaning… because I wanted that to happen. And, I wanted to make the most of my time on earth. Will I change now that I’m 72 years old? Don’t hold your breath.
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WE ARE BACK!
A Sixth Season is Coming to Public Broadcasting This Fall Jackie Carlin
“Growing Bolder” is back for its sixth season on public television and is bolder than ever. New this year, “Growing Bolder” is proud to announce a Florida-focused network of stations, presented by Florida Blue Medicare. “Since its inception, Growing Bolder has been headquartered in Central Florida, and most of our team lives and works in this great state,” said host, executive producer and Growing Bolder Founder Marc Middleton. “With its rich natural resources, year-round outdoor living, diverse population and unique culture, we can’t imagine a better place to showcase men and women who are smashing the stereotypes of aging and living big, bold lives.” WUCF in Orlando is once again the presenting station of “Growing Bolder” and leads an impressive roster of stations that will be carrying this new season beginning in September. Other stations include: WPBT/Miami, WGCU/ Fort Myers, WUFT/Gainesville, WFSU/Tallahassee, WEDU/ Tampa, WXEL/West Palm Beach, WJCT/Jacksonville, WLRN/Miami, WDSC/Orlando and WEFS/Orlando.
“WUCF is proud to continue our relationship with Growing Bolder,” said WUCF TV & FM Executive Director Phil Hoffman. “The program provides the inspiration to live a healthier and more active life and delivers the tools, tips, resources and community support necessary to make it happen. We’re happy to share Growing Bolder’s motivational stories with the trusted public broadcasting stations across this state.” Middleton is joined again this season by co-host Bill Shafer, an Emmy nominated broadcast veteran who introduces a new series of stories, “Bolder Backstage,” that get up close and personal with some of the biggest names in rock history. Also new this season, Growing Bolder is delighted to introduce new co-host Laura Savini, a favorite of public TV audiences nationwide. In addition, each episode will feature a segment called “InCommon with Mike Leonard.” Leonard, a multiple Emmy Award-winning correspondent for the “TODAY” show and a “New York Times” bestselling author, will examine the common human story — simple and profound needs and desires we all share.
Growing Bolder will also air on public broadcasting stations nationwide this fall, so check local listings to find it in your area.
S TA R T I N G S E P T 1 9 : WUCF/Orlando, Saturdays at 9:30 am WEDU/Tampa, Saturdays at 6:30 pm WPBT/South Florida PBS, Saturdays at 6:30 pm WXEL /South Florida PBS, Saturdays at 12:30 pm WJCT/Jacksonville, Saturdays at 10 am WGCU/Fort Myers, Saturdays at 2:30 pm WUFT/Gainesville, Saturdays at 3 pm
S TA R T I N G S E P T. 2 0 : WSRE/Pensacola, Sundays at 9:30 am WFSU/Tallahassee, Sundays at 11:30 am WFSG/Panama City, Sundays at 11:30 am
S TA R T I N G N OV. 1 4 : WDSC/Daytona Beach, Saturdays at 6:30 pm
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DESTINED TO TRAVEL? St. Pete and Clearwater Take Safety Precautions and Welcome Visitors Mary Lou Janson
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Face it. Staying home is no vacation. So, when the time is right to escape from those four walls, consider alternatives to traditional travel arrangements to minimize risk and maximize peace of mind. Consider renting a vacation home rather than a room at a resort so you don’t have to share elevators, encounter others in lobbies or commingle in swimming pools. Would a rental car be a better option than boarding a trolley, bus or shuttle with other passengers? Could you opt out of group tours and hire a personal tour guide instead? Before packing your bags, confirm the desired destination has protocols in place to minimize exposure to COVID-19. Are masks mandatory? What businesses, attractions and recreational areas are open? Are safety, separation and sanitation guidelines enforced? “Is your potential visitor destination taking into consideration all of the various safety factors? How are they handling those issues?” Steve Hayes, President and CEO of Visit St. Pete/Clearwater, suggests to would-be travelers. “When you look at various places to visit, you will know where you will feel the safest and where you can go to do the things you want to experience.”
In addition to implementing safe practices, the St. Petersburg/Clearwater area is also enticing visitors with new developments that include the following:
Ɂ The $92 million, 26-acre St. Pete Pier, located along that city’s downtown waterfront, includes restaurants, Tampa Bay Watch Discovery Center aquarium and museum, children’s playground and splash pad in addition to a marketplace featuring more than a dozen vendors. Ɂ Clearwater Beach guests may now check out, and check into, Winter the Dolphin’s Beach Club, an eco-friendly beachfront hotel named for the rescue dolphin featured in the “Dolphin Tale” movies. Ɂ The Clearwater Marine Aquarium, home to world- famous dolphins Winter and Hope, is building a larger habitat to accommodate more marine animals for rescue, rehabilitation and release. With five connecting pools, and almost 1.5 million gallons of water, the expansion will be nearly three times larger than its current counterpart when completed this year.
Floridians have lots of great getaways to consider, and many are well within driving distance. But if flying is preferred, consider direct, nonstop flights that limit how long passengers are on board. Some markets are served by more than one airport; and the difference between foot traffic at those
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facilities, as well as carriers served, can be significant. St. PeteClearwater International Airport is smaller than Tampa International Airport but accommodates fewer flights. Indoor activities, like visiting museums, may now require measures to manage guest access, such as timed admissions. Outdoor activities, including hiking, biking, golf, tennis, boating or fishing, are literally desirable for the breaths of fresh air they allow. Beaches can be great escapes, as long as there’s ample sand and surf for all. With 35 miles of acclaimed, pristinely maintained beaches defining the Pinellas County coastline, Hayes is confident sun seekers at those beachfronts will easily enjoy 6 feet of separation from others. Bigger may not be better, so exploring quaint, quirky communities a bit off the beaten path, instead of major metropolises, helps to avoid the masses. Along Central Florida’s West Coast, consider scenic Safety Harbor; slightly eccentric Gulfport, known for its annual GeckoFest celebration or head for the cafes, boutiques and charming hospitality of Dunedin. Whether looking for a long weekend away, or planning a fall or winter getaway, proceed to plan trips but be sure to use caution. Hayes had this final word of advice. “Ask the questions, utilize the resources and understand the rules.”
When you look at various places to visit, you will know where you will feel the safest and where you can go to do the things you want to experience.
Photos Courtesy of Visit St. Pete/Clearwater and St. Pete Pier
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CHANGING LIVES AND TRANSFORMING COMMUNITIES Growing Bolder transformed the gym Diane and I own into a vibrant community of people who are changing the culture of aging in our county. Our gym members are Growing Bolder and showing others how it’s done. At the personal level, this book inspired us to redefine our own “what’s next?” Author Marc Middleton taught us how to develop wonderful life expectations we did not have before. We are active now in ways we would not have dreamed of before. As we apply the Growing Bolder approach, we grow increasingly enthused about making the rest of our lives the best of our lives. Phil and Diane Madsen, owners of Anytime Fitness in Port Orange, Florida
Growing Bolder inspires readers of all ages to believe that it's never too late to pursue your passions. Marc Middleton shares how to make the rest of your life the best of your life. Growing Bolder: Defy the Cult of Youth, Live With Passion and Purpose Available now on Amazon.com 52
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Laura Savini’s Favorite Room in the House Laura Savini
WITH A LIT TLE C R E AT I V I T Y, YO U R K I TC H E N C A N T R U LY B E THE HEART OF YO U R H O M E .
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I crave sunlight and nature. My husband seeks the inspiration of the sky. So, we brought the outdoors in. There are many windows including a “tree window” across from my workspace and skylights overhead so we always see trees, sky and birds. The highest windows hint of angels — or airplanes — and provide a dramatic lens for viewing snowflakes on a winter’s night. We have no clock or TV. This is a room for creation and conversation. E M B E D YO U R H I S TO RY.
My husband and I baked into our kitchen features to reflect our personalities. A visitor may not pick up on the kitchen’s subtleties but will feel the almost spiritual vibe. The layout guarantees that cooking and entertaining are an absolute pleasure, but let us focus on the artistry to inspire you to infuse your kitchen with your being.
For the oversized island, we used lava from Sicily — the land of my grandmother — finished in a blue the color of the sky and Mediterranean Sea. The counters are white Italian marble sourced from a man also named Savini, representing my father. For Jimmy, we cut a window to fit a centuries-old stained glass he had collected. YO U R D E F I N I T I O N O F C O M FO R T.
We have a contrasting color couch next to the coffee center, the perfect place to take a phone call or cup of tea. Since Jimmy and Chai the Cat are always barefooted, the floors have radiant heat. Laura Savini is Growing Bolder Growing Bolder is excited that Laura Savini, an Emmy Award-winning public broadcast producer, on-air host and fundraiser has joined Growing Bolder. Known for her work on “Glen Campbell: I’ll Be Me,” “Fever: The Music of Peggy Lee,” “Music of Ireland — Welcome Home” and “Visions of Italy,” Savini has helped raise millions of dollars for stations coast to coast with her on-air fundraising savvy. The founder of Untamed Hair Productions, Savini is part of Growing Bolder’s “Launchpad to What’s Next” national TV special and is a co-host on Growing Bolder, Season 6 seen on public broadcast stations nationwide. She’s married to Grammy-winning composer Jimmy Webb, whose many hits for multiple superstars include “Up, Up and Away,” “By the Time I Get to Phoenix,” “Wichita Lineman,” “Galveston” and “MacArthur Park.”
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A circle theme is repeated three times: one is a Celtic “church window” we used behind the stovetop. The design is one I stumbled on in Dublin, and I sought a tile artist through Etsy to recreate it. We located an antique beam from which to hang a large, crystal chandelier — a striking contrast of earthy and sparkly. The double-sided fireplace is white marble inside and stacking stone on the outside, all to reflect the yin and yang that is Jimmy and me. With a little creativity, your kitchen can truly be the heart of your home.
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Community is a Team Sport George Diaz
My name is George Diaz. I have no speed, I’ve got mangled fingers and I’m a bit on the short side; but somehow, I emerged as a “star” on the fields of coed flag football in Central Florida. The key to my success is simple: I’m an old fart who has outlasted everyone. George “Methuselah” Diaz. It feels like I’ve been playing since the days of leather helmets. The historical context is a bit more favorable. I’ve been involved in coed leagues — the majority with the Orlando Sport and Social Club — since 1995 when I became a catch-all player/coach/ general manager for the Big Dawgs (later Orlando United). I stand proud of my 25-year run, despite the scars. You can barely see the one under my left eye, courtesy of an accidental flying elbow. I held a T-shirt under the gash to stop the bleeding as I drove to AdventHealth Hospital in Altamonte Springs, where I was fortunate a surgeon was on call in the emergency room. Twelve stitches later, I was ready to roll again. I have a couple of deformed fingers on my right hand, courtesy of getting torched by a ball with too much zip and accidentally twisting my finger in the notch of a flag belt. They are my badges of honor and perseverance. I stand proudly in the huddle with teammates – some less than half my age — because the competitive spirit drives me back every single week. I love the feel of a football huddle. It defines inclusiveness. It’s a mix of the 50+ crowd (me), Millennials, Whites, Blacks, Latinos, Gays, Straight or “other.” Guess what? Nobody cares. I’ve played with famous people like NBA legend Doc Rivers, who asked to join our team after he was fired by the Orlando Magic in 2003. People would ask him, “What are you doing here?” “Playing football,” Doc would say. Good answer, Doc. I’ve played with former Orlando Predators players, including standouts Ty Law, Herkie Walls and Brett Cooper. What were they doing here? Same as Doc, same as me — looking for a little competitive juice. But you don’t have to be famous or almost famous. If you can play ball, be a good teammate and join the common cause, you are good to go. We embrace our wonderful and sometimes dysfunctional relationships, fueled by a competitive bond that
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keeps everybody coming back despite the aches and pains the morning after. I’ve sometimes looked around and admired the view from within that narrow circular space, as the quarterback was calling out routes for us to run. Make a play and get an “Attaboy!” or “Attagirl!” Botch a play and you get “Don’t worry about it. We got your back.” I wish life worked that way. Coed flag football has been the perfect cathartic escape for me. A sporty mix of fun, camaraderie. and exercise — and sometimes a little too much Cuban-temper volatility. Years ago, I got kicked out of a game for arguing a missed call. The pass interference was obvious; but still, it was no reason for me to run across the field with my pet boxer Mia (“Big Dawgs”) in tow.
We embrace our wonderful and sometimes dysfunctional relationships, fueled by a competitive bond that keeps everybody coming back despite the aches and pains the morning after. I got kicked out, deservedly so, and took the Walk of Shame back with Mia to the car. “I’ve been kicked out of a lot of games,” Doc said, “but never with a dog.” Good answer, Doc. Mia has passed on, but her dad carries on the Big Dawgs legacy. He can’t let it go. He even tried to retire last year, until he was sucked back in by the captain of one of the best teams in the league, Undisputed. I’ve since gathered a few more championship T-shirts to add to the collection. I’ve still got the bloody one, too. I’m saving it for Show-and-Tell at the senior living home one day. #Baller.
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Help for Small Business Owners Candy Lowe Takes Economic Development on the Road Mary Lou Janson
Driven by a need to help Black-owned businesses based in Tampa succeed, Candy Lowe would scour the city streets to cold call at any storefront she thought might be owned and operated by African Americans. She then helped put those clothing boutiques, beauty supply shops, record stores and more on the map as a means of creating consumer awareness, cultivating community interest and stimulating sales. For 14 years, Lowe literally mapped out driving directions to those businesses and coordinated monthly tours that delivered busloads of eager shoppers to those retailers’ doorsteps. For 45 minutes during those Saturday morning outings, four different businesses hosted the groups for refreshments and a chance to check out their merchandise. It turned out to be time well spent. Sales figures shared with Lowe showed daily receipts from individual businesses sometimes surpassing $1,000. The nonprofit tour’s inaugural trip, a visit to Rivard Buick GMC car dealership in Brandon, even resulted in the sale of a vehicle. A former nurse, Lowe honed her entrepreneurial skills over a 10-year span as the owner of the Candy Lowe Tea Time Tea Room. Opening a business inspired by her father’s love of tea distinguished her as Hillsborough County’s first Black purveyor of a shop specializing in nearly 40 different loose teas. No telling if the leaves of the teas she sold ever foretold her future career in philanthropy or community-wide relationship building. Looking for a creative way to build her own business, Lowe realized that organizing group tours that began, and ended, at her Sulphur Springs shop could greatly expand her customer base. “Every month it was almost like Christmas for my tea shop,” she said, describing the economic impact of the tours. Customers especially enjoyed sipping tea and chatting with each other during impromptu, post-shopping trip gatherings.
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Recognizing the value of hosting informal groups for a chance to speak openly about issues, Lowe realized she needed to keep the conversation flowing even after closing her business. Today, Tea and Conversation remains a staple event in the community, often attracting a distinguished crowd of elected officials, community leaders, business owners and others from all walks of life. Anyone seeking election to any public office knows to go to Tea and Conversation and board a bus to ride along for a tour. And those candidates are just as likely to continue participating long after their campaigns have ended. Initially, passengers participating in the bus tours founded by Lowe filled a single motor coach. Over time, tour groups grew large enough to pack six 50-passenger buses. Lowe always intended to expand the tours throughout Florida, and even nationwide, until COVID-19 temporarily paused the excursions. Lowe is confident she will resume the tours as she continues to advocate for Black-owned businesses and encourage everyone to get on board. “It’s a lot of work, a lot of sleepless nights, a lot of conversation, meetings and convincing,” she admits. “But we want everyone to know about Black-owned businesses. We only have a few.” “My message has never changed about supporting Blackowned businesses. If you look at my first (social media) videos in 2006, I was saying then that anyone can get on the bus.”
To contact Candy Lowe or to learn more about her economic development initiative, please visit blackbusinessbustour.com.
Photos Courtesy of Black Business Bus Tour
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GB Book Reviews “The Adventurer’s Son,” by Roman Dial
At age 27, Cody Roman Dial embarked on a four-day solo jungle hike in Costa Rica’s Corcovado National Park. On July 10, 2014, Cody emailed his father with his plans to carry minimal gear and follow a loose itinerary. This was the last communication he had with his father, Alaskan scientist and National Geographic Explorer Roman Dial, before disappearing. “The Adventurer’s Son” is the story of Roman’s two-year search to solve the mystery of his son’s disappearance and is also a memoir of love and grief for the son whose inherited fearlessness may have led to his demise.
“Wow, No Thank You,” by Samantha Irby
Author Samantha Irby’s latest collection of essays was inspired by her move from the diverse city of Chicago, Illinois, to the homogenous suburb of Kalamazoo, Michigan. She finds the humor in feeling out of place in her new surroundings while navigating the transition to mid-life and the ups and downs of her career as a writer. Irby shares the highs of being optioned by Hollywood studios, and the lows of life in between paid projects, with relatable wit.
“The Boy from the Woods,” by Harlan Coben
A boy found living alone in the woods, feral, was taken in by authorities as exhaustive searches for his parents proved unsuccessful. Raised in the foster care system, the boy grew to be the man known as Wilde. An outsider, both literally and figuratively, Wilde keeps to himself on the edge of town until his unique skill set is needed by the community. He is recruited to help find a missing local girl alongside ex-military security experts. After another teen goes missing, the true scope of the case expands beyond the peaceful town where Wilde lives with far-reaching consequences for millions. He must face his community to uncover secrets kept by the powerful and protected before it’s too late.
“Dear Edward,” by Ann Napolitano
Tragedy changes the course of 12-year-old Edward Alder’s life when he is the sole survivor of a plane crash from Newark to Los Angeles. His mother, father and brother perish in the crash, along with 183 other passengers. Edward’s aunt and uncle take him in, and his story captures the attention of the media and the nation. At such a tender age, he has to grapple with finding himself, finding meaning and finding purpose after losing everything. Napolitano turns Edward’s grim circumstances into a heartwarming and life-affirming story about finding love, joy and redemption.
“A Good Neighborhood.” by Therese Anne Fowler
What does it mean to be a good neighbor? When Valerie’s teenage son and the Whitmans’ teenage daughter take an interest in each other, both families struggle to answer that question. They live in the affluent North Carolina neighborhood of Oak Knoll. Valerie is a professor and single mom raising her academically gifted, biracial son. Her new neighbors, the Whitmans, own a thriving local business and have a teenage daughter who is secretly troubled. The two families’ first dispute is over a tree near the property line. When their teenage kids fall in love, the parents must wade through the ways race and class impact their ability to get along, despite their differences.
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SHARING THE WELL OF WISDOM Catherine Rose Wall’s Intergenerational Legacy Mary Kay Wall
Life is an intergenerational cycle. Within every winter, an unseen spring awaits. If you show its splendor in the life you give to others, you live forever.
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“Why would I go there? It’s full of old people!” So spoke my mother as she tossed an invitation to a seniors’ gathering. She was 91. I laughed, well-aware of her insistence that segregating older people was detrimental to their vitality. She grew up in an intergenerational household and believed the real fountain of youth flowed from waters refreshed by every age. So, even after her second retirement at 90, she would continue to circulate with ageless people who live vibrantly. Last May, my mother passed away at the age of 101. She was not only lucid to her last hour, she was animated, funny, perceptive and bested anyone with her memory. She stayed current on world affairs, read widely, kept her weekly hair appointments and enjoyed daily interactions with a rotating circle of friends. Younger friends. If you plan on living to 100, discipline your inner child to stay young; or you may find yourself alone. That could have been my mother’s fate. At 66, she retired. One year later, my father died. Overnight, she became an empty nester widow. She decided that this sad chapter was not the end of her story. At the time, my brother was revivifying Chicago’s oldest church into a bustling, downtown religious center for young adults. My mother volunteered. As a positive, high-energy person, who focused singularly on each person she encountered, she became popular with the young people; and she became indispensable to the office.
She stayed for 20 years. My mother connected well across generations because she listened well and never lost her open-hearted wonder. Her co-workers regarded her as “safe space” to share romance woes, family dilemmas, health concerns and also the joy of life’s important passages. One woman, now 55, recalled, “I relied on her as the ‘Advice Guru.’ She was such a blessing in my world.” A middle-aged businessman credits my mother with a personal course correction in his 20s that led to his marriage. She stayed in touch as they had children. When he called her not long before she died, he told me she inquired about each child by name and age. The reciprocity of benefit is hard to overstate. As this oldest church found new life, so did my mother. Enjoying the esteem of young people certainly stoked longevity and mental agility — and levity never hurts! Soon, my mother forged friendships with women just a generation younger. That led to invitations to travel — even to overcoming water fears so she could hop into small boats in Italy. The experiences and rich conversations expanded her world, while she lit the path ahead for the women with her optimism, energy and enduring wisdom. Through everything, family came first. My mother nurtured individual relationships with each grandchild. They treasured her counsel and expended effort to be with her even, and especially, as they grew into adulthood. In notes and conversations, the grandchildren said: “You are my best friend, my second mother, my inspiration.” “One way or another, each of us has been raised by Gram Wall.” “Your zest for life gives me hope for my future.” “No one celebrates achievements with more excitement.” Born into a pandemic, my mother died during a pandemic. But for that, the church where she bonded with so many would have been packed with people of all ages. Grand music and eloquent eulogies were what we imagined for her huge funeral. Instead, our immediate family gathered quietly, consumed by a grief so profound her age had not prepared us for it. Moments of silence honored a woman who spoke truth to so many. The night my mother died, my oldest brother sat beside her as she lay in bed, talking and laughing about memories. When her breathing slowed, he reached in and cradled her as she was born to eternity. I envision that moment on a split screen with a picture of my 22-year-old mother cradling that same son as a newborn, 78 years earlier. Those juxtaposed images revealed to me what my mother always understood: Life is an intergenerational cycle. Within every winter, an unseen spring awaits. If you show its splendor in the life you give to others, you live forever. Photos Courtesy of Mary Kay Wall
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Confronting the Caregiving Crisis Creating a Culture of Care in an Ageist World
Excerpt from “Growing Bolder: Defy the Cult of Youth, Live With Passion and Purpose,” by Marc Middleton.
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A National Caregiving Crisis is unfolding in an ageist society that enthusiastically demeans and diminishes the value of its elders. We’re facing a demographic dilemma in the form of a growing care gap: a rapidly increasing number of older people requiring care and fewer younger people able or willing to provide that care. The aging of America, along with the desire to age in place and the rising cost of nursing care, has resulted in home care becoming the fastest-growing occupation in the country — and family caregivers becoming some of the most stressed and overworked members of our society. The typical family caregiver is a 46-year-old woman who has a job while also spending 18 hours a week caring for a parent who lives nearby. In addition, many are caring for children or grandchildren. To provide the best possible care, caregivers often sacrifice their own needs — and the emotional, physical and mental strain can be highly destructive. The burden of caregiving can lead to extreme fatigue, poor eating, lack of exercise, increased use of medications and alcohol, loss of interest in work, decreased work production and withdrawal from friends. Studies reveal that caregivers’ risk for experiencing depression is 30 times greater than that of noncaregivers, with an alarming 91% of caregivers surveyed suffering from depression and acute stress. This isn’t a small problem. Providing care to adult relatives and friends has become a necessary part of everyday life for more than 45 million Americans — a number that’s growing every year. These unpaid caregivers are the single most important component in addressing the growing challenge of senior healthcare. They provide nearly 50 billion hours of care each year, with an estimated
value approaching $500 billion. Yet, not only are they unpaid, they typically spend more than $7,000 per year out of their own pockets on caregiving expenses. Even professional caregivers are feeling the effects. More than 70% of nursing home staff need to be replaced each year due to caregiver burnout. Even for home care providers the turnover rate is as high as 60%. It’s hard to overstate the enormity of this growing crisis, which will test our culture in the decades ahead. Will we understand, value and support the enormous contributions of both unpaid and paid caregivers; or will we simply look the other way while this potentially overwhelming challenge destroys lives and families? Will we provide the tools and training that home caregivers need to help those they care for find passion and purpose in their lives, no matter their age or condition? Will we provide the relief and respite necessary to help home caregivers maintain their own mental and physical health? Will we create and fund workplace policies to help family caregivers keep working? Will we provide the kind of financial support, including tax relief, that caregivers need and deserve? The technical and clinical aspects of caregiving are well-addressed. The real need is in life enrichment. The definition of “care” itself needs to be rewritten. Life is about living. It’s not about being alive. How can we continue to push the boundaries of possibility when it comes to engaging in and creating moments of joy for those in our care? And, equally important, how can we help turn the caregiving journey into the life-enriching blessing for the caregiver that it has the potential to be, and not just the stress-filled, demoralizing experience that it becomes for millions of people?
The definition of “care” itself needs to be rewritten. Life is about living. It’s not about being alive.
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In Sickness and in Health Kim Campbell shares her caregiving experience to help others Amy Sweezey
Kim Campbell was married to legendary musician Glen Campbell for 34 years. She was just 22 when they met. He was 44. Kim shared with Growing Bolder intimate details about their star-studded story, including Glen’s early battle with alcohol and drug addiction. She talked about his diagnosis, decline and 2017 death from Alzheimer’s disease at the age of 81. Kim says their roller-coaster marriage survived thanks to a combination of faith in God, a sense of humor and a strong circle of family and friends. Kim talks about confronting Glen when she first realized he had a drinking problem. “Initially, when I tried to discuss it with him, it made him really angry. He forbid me to talk about it with anyone. I suffered in silence,” Kim said. “It was painfully obvious to everyone around us that he had a problem, but I wasn’t allowed to talk about it or reach out for help.” Deep down, Kim knew she could not do it alone. Of course, Glen was the only one who could beat the addiction; but Kim couldn’t sit back and suffer in silence by his side. She needed help. She needed resources. She needed advice, support and understanding. She needed to pull in others who knew what was really going on. So, she read books, researched and learned how to be his partner — but not his enabler. Eventually, he was ready to talk about it; and after five years of setbacks and relapses, Glen finally got sober. What Kim didn’t know then was the skills she obtained by helping Glen overcome alcoholism would later be her lifeline in navigating his Alzheimer’s.
“I have always been the kind of person who educated myself,” she explained. “I read my books about alcoholism, and then I did the same thing for Alzheimer’s. I read about the disease, the science and even caregiving. Education is so important.” They decided to go public. They put his disease out front for all the world to see and come alongside. They opened the discussion and used his experience to inspire others. Kim and their three children cared for Glen at home for five years until it became impossible. Because people with Alzheimers can’t communicate verbally, they tend to lash out and become combative. Once Kim realized Glen had moved into this stage, she located a memory care community. “I didn’t even know these communities existed. I only knew about stereotypical nursing homes, which terrified me,” she said. Kim didn’t want Glen to be isolated or lack socialization, so this was a perfect option. Researching helped her find the support she and Glen both needed. Kim made it her mission to improve the quality of life not only for people with dementia but also their caregivers. In 2016, she launched CareLiving, which she describes as “a lifestyle guide and social movement designed to support and advocate for caregivers and to encourage them to care for themselves while caring for others.”
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Caregiving and the Opposite of Certainty Author Janine Urbaniak Reid Shares Her Wisdom
I live equally in uncertainty and faith. This dual ground of being can make for some unsettling moments and even days. Sometimes it feels like when beloved live music is playing — a Beatles cover band, the choir at my church — and a deep inside nudge gets me to my feet. And after finding the rhythm, I begin to move from one foot to the other, shifting my weight, maybe closing my eyes, left foot, right foot. I feel centered in my interior self, my heart and breath, even as I bump shoulders with the people standing on either side of me, probably people I love.
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I think of the word caregiver as opposed to caretaker. To provide sustenance for others, I had to seek it for myself. Janine Urbaniak Reid
Love, doubt. Left foot, right foot. This doesn’t come naturally. My default is to gird, clench and resist what can’t be happening. I figured “one day at a time” was a philosophy for those unfortunates who don’t plan well. But this world is always uncertain; the future — unknowable. Thirteen years ago, my young son was diagnosed with a slow-growing, inoperable brain tumor. I’d tried to do everything right so that my children would never be hurt, scared or scarred. Now they were all of those things. My job was to manage Mason’s complicated medical challenges, while keeping normal nearby so that the family might merge back in. However, the crisis morphed into a way of life. Putting everyone else’s needs first eventually left me empty. It wasn’t my kids’ responsibility to sustain me. I think of the word caregiver as opposed to caretaker. To provide sustenance for others, I had to seek it for myself. I’m wired to put everyone else’s needs first and to wait my turn without inconveniencing anyone. I tell myself that it’s OK when my turn is skipped — one more time — because I am stronger than most. And besides, I’ll be happy when I’m sure that the people I love the most are taken care of. But a crisis has a way of revealing our bad habits, especially those that are not sustainable. At times, I had no choice but to run on adrenaline and caffeine; but at some point, I began using obsessive-doing to avoid my fears and feelings. It wasn’t selfish to take care of myself. It was an act of generosity, a contribution to the greater good of the family. I realized that I was waiting for circumstances to change to have my life back, a life I recognized; but there it was — the life I had. I began to learn how to take the next step without knowing where my foot was going to land. It helps to stay in the moment. I ask myself, am I OK right now? Not next
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week, not two years from now, just now. If the answer is yes, that’s a lot. If the answer is no, I try to inhale deeply and exhale slowly. I reach out to a friend. I try to talk about what’s going on with me, not just my children. (For a while, anyone who asked how I was got a description of Mason’s most recent MRI.) Sometimes I just need someone to hear me say how hard it is. The most transformative moments of my life start with me speaking one word — help. The compassion we show for our tired human selves shines on those around us, too. Taking care can be as simple as going for a short walk or savoring a glass of water and catching our breath. Slicing time into manageable pieces helps. Some days are too long, so we root for midnight. I often felt like a spiritually evolved person wouldn’t feel like I did. She would be sure of a lot more and probably have a better attitude. Yet somehow, I ended up believing more while knowing less about God. The title, “The Opposite of Certainty,” comes from a Paul Tilith quote, “Doubt is not the opposite of faith; it’s one element of faith.” And Anne Lamott’s take on that, “The opposite of faith isn’t doubt, it’s certainty.” As humans on this precarious planet, we’re being asked to have profound faith, whether we’re religious or not. It’s okay to doubt, question, and get angry. Sometimes faith feels like being devastated, and not giving up. Faith is more of a muscle than an idea. It means doing the next right thing, especially when we’re afraid and not feeling up to the task. Left foot, right foot. It’s my mantra when circumstances overwhelm me. I just need to do what’s next, and love and goodness show up in improbable places. The trick is not to get distracted by the way I think things should be and appreciate the rugged landscape of how they are right here, right now.
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Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world. - Harriet Tubman
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Yoga for Insomnia Holistic Approach to Better Quality Sleep Tiffany Cruikshank
Sleep is critical to our health and wellbeing. Sleep deprivation can mean your immune system and brain are not functioning at full capacity; and conditions, such as heart disease, hypertension, diabetes and stroke, can all be exacerbated by lack of adequate Z’s. To fall asleep, you need to calm your nervous system. Habits, such as watching TV and scrolling through your phone, stimulate your brain waves. So, to truly get the kind of sleep you need, it’s important to power down and get your mind to do the same. There are several bedtime practices that can help prepare you to fall and stay asleep, including some simple, but key, yoga poses that are effective and require no previous experience. Try one or a combination of a few poses. If you plan to do each of the yoga poses noted, I recommend doing them in order. Whether you are doing all of the poses or just one, when you finish, slowly roll over and crawl into bed, without turning on the lights or walking around. (No checking your phone either!)
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In Chinese medicine, one reason people struggle to fall asleep is due to ruminating thoughts in the mind. This foot bath is a great way to calm the mind and relax the body in preparation for sleep. To do so, get completely ready for bed, dim the lights and set your alarm for the morning. Then go somewhere you can do a hot foot bath, like in your bathtub, a sink, a bowl or bucket of water. Make the water as warm as you can tolerate, with just enough water to cover from the ankles down. Soak your feet for five minutes, then head straight to bed or to the yoga poses below.
Lie with your legs up a wall. Make yourself comfortable here with your head and pelvis resting on the ground a comfortable distance from the wall. When you’re finished adjusting, begin to come back to the pranayama practice above, slowly lengthening your exhales to allow your nervous system to drop in even deeper this time. Make sure you are able to let the breath be leisurely, as you rest in the exhales, so that each round you visualize yourself melting deeper into the floor. Do five to 10 rounds of the four-count inhale, eight-count exhales; then let go of the pranayama practice and let the breath be natural for about five minutes.
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Bedtime Pranayama Find a comfortable position on your back with your knees bent and your feet on the ground. Close your eyes and start to notice your breath. Without tensing our gripping, begin by simply slowing your breath until you can count to four on your inhale and four on your exhale. As you feel comfortable, progress by slowly lengthening each exhale one to two counts each round until you inhale for a count of four and exhale for a count of eight. Staying relaxed is key here. Only increase the duration of each exhale as much as you can while staying relaxed. Visualize yourself leaning into the exhale each round as you release any thoughts or stress and relax into the ground. Continue for three to five minutes. You can build up to as much as 10 minutes over time, as long as it feels comfortable.
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Lie on the floor on your back with the soles of the feet together and your knees out wide. Put pillows or folded blankets under your torso to lift up your head. Put another pillow or blanket directly underneath your head so that it’s higher than your rib cage. The low back and hips should still be on the floor. If you’re tight, you may need to put blocks underneath your thighs to completely relax. Stay here for five to ten minutes.
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The parasympathetic nervous system is responsible for our ability to relax and fall asleep. Body scanning is a simple technique that utilizes this by bringing awareness to the body one point at a time, to bring it back to a more coherent and relaxed state. Close your eyes and turn your attention to the natural movement of your breath. Feel yourself relax there for a moment. Then begin by noticing the sensations at the top of the head, the face, scalp and then the neck. Next, bring your attention to the right shoulder, arm, and then hand and repeat on the left side. Now notice your upper chest, abdomen, upper back and mid- and low-back in that order. Lastly, notice the right hip, leg and foot. Repeat on the left side. End with your awareness in both feet and then on the body as a whole. Try not to favor any specific area or start judging specific body parts you don’t like. In 10 to 20 minutes, you should be ready for a peaceful slumber.
Tiffany Cruikshank, L.Ac. MAOM, founder of Yoga Medicine®. Learn more at yogamedicine.com.
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FEELING STRESSED O R WO R R I E D ? N E E D TO TA L K TO S O M E O N E ?
Call 833-848-1762 to speak with a New Directions Behavioral Health trained specialist at no cost to you. This is available to anyone in Florida while COVID-19 is a health concern.
Have you ever given a family member a ride to a doctor’s appointment? Picked up soup and groceries for a sick friend? Checked in on a neighbor while they were recovering from an injury? Brought a parent to live with you in your home when their health declined? All of these examples are forms of caregiving, yet many of us don’t realize that we are in fact, caregivers. Caregivers are often juggling the many demands of their own lives while supporting their loved one, which while not without challenges, can be incredibly rewarding and purposeful. As a community, by seeing the caregivers all around us and proactively lifting them (and each other) up -- through a check in call or text, delivering groceries, a technology tip to make things easier, or even just thanking them for the work they are doing, we can help all caregivers feel validated and not alone. We are all in this together. Sharing our experiences with others is healing. Humans are wired to connect. It’s what motivates us to provide caregiving in the first place. Thank the caregivers in your life, whether they are caring for you or not. Let them know that you see the small and large tasks and responsibilities they manage. Recognize their generosity of spirit. Fuel their efforts with feelings of gratitude and love.
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ALL CAREGIVERS NEED COMMUNITY SUPPORT Community support is essential for caregivers — from information on how to access services for loved ones to emotional support from a community of other caregivers. Florida Blue members have virtual access to community specialists for exactly this kind of help. These community specialists are social workers who are available by phone, for free, year-round — not only during a crisis like COVID-19. To speak with a Florida Blue community specialist, call 877-352-5830.
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Assistance with local resources can help reduce the financial burden and logistical strain for caregivers. Let our community specialists find food pantries that will deliver, so you don’t have to leave home. Or ask them to help with needs like building a ramp so that you can get your loved one in and out of the house. Florida Blue community specialists live in your neighborhood and know how to solve problems locally.
Do you consider yourself a caregiver? Whether caring for a parent, child, spouse, friend or family member, any amount of time spent taking care of another person counts as caregiving. There are time commitments, sacrifices, expenses and emotional challenges that a caregiver must manage. And you don’t have to do it alone. ARCHANGELS is a national movement recognizing and honoring caregivers’ important and meaningful work. This service is available to all Floridians — you do not need to be a Florida Blue member to take advantage of this free resource. To find out if your local Florida Blue Center is an ARCHANGELS location, call toll free 877-352-5830.
Connect with virtual care resources Maybe your loved one needs to see a doctor, or maybe you need grief support and you don’t know where to look. A community specialist can help you figure out how to connect with virtual resources throughout your caregiving journey.
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TOP 5 TIPS FOR CAREGIVERS FROM ARCHANGELS Florida Blue partners with ARCHANGELS to provide members and non-members with support, resources and a community of caregivers. Learn more at ARCHANGELS.me.
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Let Food be Thy Medicine From Author of “Eat to Beat Disease” Dr. William Li
In my book, “Eat to Beat Disease,” I outline several powerful ways in which food can be used as medicine to prevent and combat numerous critical illnesses. Right now, our healthcare system is struggling to heal millions of sick people — many of them suffering from preventative chronic diseases. And the food we eat is seriously compromising the efforts of our health care system. In the United States, about a half-million deaths (worldwide about 11 million deaths) are attributed to poor diet. Food is a tool that every one of us can employ multiple times a day to help reduce disease risk on a number of levels. When we consider dietary risk and illness, we typically think of foods that should be removed from the diet. But removing foods from the diet is much more challenging (and far less appealing) than adding in beneficial foods that have protective effects against disease.
Food is a tool that every one of us can employ multiple times a day to help reduce disease risk on a number of levels.
The following is an overview of the ways in which food can be used as medicine to beat disease.
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Angiogenesis is the mechanism by which the body grows blood vessels. It is a common denominator in many of today’s most prevalent diseases, including cancer, heart disease, stroke, blindness and more. In my field of angiogenesis, we have discovered that when foods are analyzed in the same way that pharmaceutical drugs are examined, many of these foods can actually go head-tohead with commonly prescribed drugs. Some noteworthy examples include:
Immunotherapy is one of the greatest breakthroughs of modern medicine, but not everyone responds to these treatments. Research has determined that a single gut bacterium seems to be responsible for the success of these immunotherapies. A scientist named Laurence Zitvogel discovered that the people who responded well to checkpoint inhibitors, one form of immunotherapy, contained akkermansia bacteria in their gut, while others who did not have as much success with the therapy did not contain the bacteria.
Ɂ Soy contains isoflavones, which are antiangiogenic. Several human studies show that consuming more soy is associated with lower breast cancer risk and a reduced risk of breast cancer mortality. Ɂ Tomatoes contain lycopene, another antiangiogenic molecule. Studies in men have found that those who eat more cooked tomatoes have a lower risk of prostate cancer.
Ɂ Pomegranate is one of the only ways in which you can obtain akkermansia. You cannot ingest it through a probiotic, but you can eat a pomegranate or drink pomegranate juice in order to get a healthy serving of the immune-boosting bacteria. Ɂ Broccoli sprouts have proven to enhance the number of natural killer T cells in the human immune system.
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We know that animals like starfish can regenerate after one of their limbs has been removed. But did you know that humans are also capable of regeneration? Our stem cells are called into action after an injury and one of their primary purposes is to replace damaged cells. As they divide, they can turn into the different types of cells that are required at that moment. We do not have to turn to conventional medicine to stimulate stem cell growth. Similar to angiogenesis, there are foods that we can consume that encourage stem cell production.
DNA protection is critical for health. The human body undergoes 60,000 mutations in our DNA every day. With those mutations comes the potential for error and the possibility of cancer. Then why are we not getting diagnosed with cancer more often? Well, our DNA can fix itself — and there are foods that can help to boost those repair mechanisms.
Ɂ Cacao (dark chocolate) has been analyzed in a similar pharmaceutical method, and it was determined that the polyphenols within it can actually double the number of stem cells in your circulation. Ɂ Omega-3 polyunsaturated fatty acids have also demonstrated the ability to increase stem cell activity.
3. MICROBIOME The trillions of bacteria that reside within our gut microbiome are related to many of the chronic diseases that threaten us today. We can feed the “bad” bacteria with foods that can boost them, avoid foods that might make them stronger or eat foods that encourage the growth of the beneficial bacteria that is so healthy for us.
Ɂ Orange juice is high in vitamin C and other bioactives that have been shown to improve the blood’s ability to protect DNA. Ɂ Almonds, oatmeal, bananas, and tofu contain magnesium, which is a necessary mineral for the upkeep of DNA repair mechanisms. I am a medical doctor with a genuine appreciation for conventional medicine, so I am not suggesting that food should be used in place of modern medicine. Rather, I am proposing that food and medicine can be used in tandem to help prevent and heal various diseases. For more details on which foods can serve medicinal purposes, check out my book, “Eat to Beat Disease.”
Ɂ Kiwi fruit is prebiotic, meaning it promotes the growth of the “good” bacteria. One study conducted by the National University of Singapore illustrated that eating kiwi increased lactobacillus (beneficial bacteria) presence in human subjects by 35% in 24 hours. Ɂ Sourdough bread also contains lactobacillus reuteri, which can inhibit the growth of cancer.
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When even close family members and lifelong friends must stay safely distanced, imagine how a pandemic can play havoc with any plans to date new people and pursue romantic relationships. Will it be awkward meeting face-to-face for the first time while wearing masks? How do you demonstrate affection when keeping 6 feet apart makes it impossible to hold hands or hug? And where can you meet for the first time if such traditional dating sites as bars, restaurants and movie theaters are off limits? “Growing Bolder” magazine reached out to Bob Thwaites for advice on how singles can still date despite concerns presented by the coronavirus. Thwaites chronicled his own awkward moments, dating faux pas and humorous encounters experienced years ago when he was middleaged, recently divorced and ready to re-enter the dating pool. Even without the complications of COVID-19, he faced unknowns for which he was unprepared. “I was married for more than 25 years and then thrust into this new world. There was no social media, texting or emailing,” he recalled of his previous courtships. “I had to jump into a new culture and make up for having my head in the sand.” Newly single, it was time to toss out the married jeans, turn to online dating sites for initial introductions and discover why it’s better to reserve restaurant Groupons for dinners with friends and family, but not first dates. The father of three eventually became adept at writing and responding to personal profiles posted on websites, but he didn’t quite find Ms. Right — at least not then. But he did compile enough anecdotes to write a book about his quest that was published under the pen name, Robert James. That collection of missteps made and lessons learned was titled, “Next! The Search for My Last First Date.” Thwaites fondly recalls when successfully unhooking a bra was a big deal and condoms were the key to safe sex. “Now you don’t meet someone without wearing a mask,” he noted. Never mind about the bra when there are masks blocking the way for lips to lock for that always anticipated first kiss. “Today, taking her mask off is the new first base. You can’t get through to someone’s lips with masks on. Hopefully, when the time is right for that first-kiss moment, you have already reached that point. If that mask is still on, it’s not going to happen. You are barking up the wrong tree,” he added. Kiss or no kiss, reaching a mutual decision to unmask can mark a major milestone in terms of establishing effective communication and mutual trust. “Part of getting to know someone is being able to see how they react to what you are saying,” Thwaites said. “Not being able to read their face and see their reactions can lead to misunderstandings. You need to have that conversation about ‘I will show you mine if you show me yours’ as soon as you are comfortable. Hopefully, especially, before that first date.”
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Meeting in a noisy bar may not even be an option; but it may also be a bad choice, because conversations muffled by mouth coverings can be almost unintelligible. Instead, consider picnics, parks or activities you can enjoy together, he suggested Today, Thwaites lives in Punta Gorda, Florida, and enjoys being in a committed relationship but still acknowledges that looking for love while looking out for COVID-19 eliminates some of the spontaneity associated with dating. “We’re still looking for companionship, love or someone to share our lives with,” he said. “But now, we have to maintain some level of social distancing. Holding hands, touching someone’s arm or shoulder or showing any signs of affection are hard to do from 6 feet apart. Nothing says, ‘I am interested,’ like reaching out to hold hands — if I have to put a glove on first. But relationships are not meant to be sterile. Affection and intimacy are contact sports that don’t happen in a bubble. Part of dating is taking risks by putting yourself out there, personally, emotionally and, with COVID-19, even physically.” While having a thermometer handy to check each other’s temperatures is probably not the most romantic message to send, couples can still create boundaries and take their relationship to the next level when each one is ready. “It’s really about respecting each other’s personal space,” Thwaites said. “COVID-19 doesn’t mean you have to give up dating or relationships. You just have to be smarter about them. Just take precautions and make wise decisions.”
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WE DON’ T SEE THINGS AS THEY ARE , WE SEE THEM AS WE ARE . – ANAÏS NIN
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I had to focus on what I had rather than on what I didn’t have. Dr. Jim Smith Jr.
It was a chilly Thursday morning in Philadelphia, March 19. I arrived at my 8:30 a.m. meeting around 8:00 a.m. Getting there a little early, I thought, would allow time for a little networking and a light breakfast. I had also decided that this would be my first public gathering where I would use my new “handshake” (the elbow-to-elbow touch). The news about the coronavirus was trending; and many, including me, were becoming apprehensive. By 8:25 a.m. I had taken my seat and was about to check my phone for messages one final time before the meeting started. Two new emails came in. Ironically, two different clients sent emails with similar messages: “We are postponing the upcoming session.” “Darn!” I thought. Thousands of dollars lost within seconds. Poof, gone! My body attended the rest of the 90-minute, morning meeting; but my mind was on my immediate future and what else I was going to lose. Needless to say, over the next week my entire calendar (for my speaking, coaching and training business) went silent. The coronavirus pushed the delete button, and I doubled over in pain. Yes, it felt like a punch in the gut. For the next several days, I hosted a marathon pity party; and I was the only person in attendance. No dancing, just worrying. Typically positive and optimistic, I was gravely concerned. I have a team of people who work for my organization. Like everyone else, I have bills and debt. I have business operating expenses. And I have two sons who are on the autism spectrum with special diets. I certainly was not seeing the light at the end of this dark COVID-19 tunnel. After another sleepless night, I decided that I had to start living what I teach. I had to focus on what I had rather than on what I didn’t have. I planned my escape from the “victim prison.” I would: 1) Read the books that I had written on mindset and person power; 2) Reach out to my mentors, 3) Call on my Titans (not Titanics) and 4) Begin to reinvent myself and the offerings that we provide. The plan started working. I got my mojo back. My energy and enthusiasm returned. My clients didn’t run back, but our conversations began again. I started working on a new book. I planned on a new look for my website.
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Virtual speaking and training would become my best friend as I worked to design something innovative, disruptive and creative to help organizations thrive during this new normal — I mean new moment. I say moment, rather than normal, because seemingly every day there is something new. I was my old/new JIMPACTing self until the tragic death of George Floyd. Again, I was punched in the gut. Devastated, I hurt all over. I saw me under the officer’s knee for those 8 minutes and 46 seconds. I was mad at the officers who just watched. I was mad at the bystanders who just watched and merely recorded the egregious act. I was mad at society and its racially biased systems that reinforce the belief that Black lives don’t matter. And I was mad at myself for not doing anything. Up to that point I would typically discuss what others (e.g., politicians, elected officials, athletes, entertainers and the like) should do — not what I could do. Well, those days were coming to an end. Mr. Floyd’s death shook me from head to toe. I had to do something, but nothing immediately came to mind. My hesitation centered on my not wanting to lose business or create distance versus closeness amongst my client-and-friend base. After a long talk with a mentor, we figured it out. I would lean on all of my research on authenticity and reinforce my brand of personal power, personal responsibility and accountability to lead discussions on empowerment and equity. I would also be true to myself and what I stand for and not limit my language or edit my thoughts to babysit someone else’s emotions. My next two webcasts centered on healing, encouraging and empowering. 2020 has been some year. I can honestly say that I see a lot clearer than I have in the past. I’m reminded of an Anais Nin quote that “We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” I still have plenty of work to do. I will continue to live in authenticity and to see my problems as possibilities and my obstacles as opportunities. I will continue to be an agent of change. I will continue to take care of my head and my heart. And I will keep in mind the notion that “when things go wrong I’m not going with them.”
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LETTING GO OF EXPECTATIONS Applying Co-Mindfulness Principle No. 3 to Your Own Life Often, what harms our relationships most are the expectations we have of people. And yet, at its heart, mindfulness is about loving what is, which includes loving the people in our lives for who they are. A fundamental tenet of mindfulness meditation is that we are not our thoughts. If we are not our thoughts, then it only stands to reason that other people are not our thoughts either. They are not who we think they should be. They are not necessarily even who we think they are. The skepticism and compassion we bring to the self-defeating thoughts we have about ourselves in mindfulness meditation, we also need to bring to the harmful thoughts we have about other people, especially the thoughts that keep insinuating the other person isn’t good enough. We all depend on our relationships to fulfill certain desires and needs that we have. The problem is when our needs and desires begin to overshadow what’s in the best interest of the other person — or what the other person wants for themselves. While it’s only natural to want to help the people we love recognize and reach their full potential, it’s a fine line between helping someone reach their full potential and expecting them to do so. The expectation that they do so usually has more to do with what we want for the person than with what they want for themselves. In co-mindfulness, we practice letting go of our expectations as we strive to love the people in our lives for who they are, all the while gently helping them be the best that they can be. As we like to say, our expectations won’t change people; but our love might.
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Our expectations won’t change people, but our love might.
Loving what is includes loving the people in our lives for who they are.
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Applying Co-Mindfulness Principle No. 3 to Your Own Life Chronic stress can make it difficult to be the best version of ourselves. We can feel more irritable or fearful than usual, especially now as we all face so much uncertainty in our daily lives and in the world around us. Just as we would not like to be judged harshly for our worst reactions under stress, we can offer understanding and compassion to our friends and family members during this difficult time.
1. Has your mood changed during the months since COVID-19 began impacting your daily life? If so, how?
4. Have you felt disappointed or hurt by people close to you lately? If so, what expectations did they fail to meet that resulted in your negative reaction?
2. Have you noticed changes in the behavior of people around you during this time? 5. Would you attribute these behavior changes to the drastic change in external circumstances? Or do you think your friends and family have experienced a fundamental change in their character? How do you explain any changes in your own behavior? Have you ever heard of the fundamental attribution error?
3.How have your reactions to family members and friends changed during the pandemic?
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Why Prioritizing Self-Care is Not Selfish Sean Covey
Suppose you were to come upon someone in the woods working feverishly saw down a tree. “What are you doing?” you ask. “Can’t you see?” comes the impatient reply. “I’m sawing down this tree.” “You look exhausted!” you exclaim. “How long have you been at it?” “Over five hours,” he returns, “and I’m beat! This is hard work.” “Well, why don’t you take a break for a few minutes and sharpen that saw?” you inquire. “I’m sure it would go a lot faster.” “I don’t have time to sharpen the saw,” the man says emphatically. “I’m too busy sawing!” — Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, 1989 DEFY
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My favorite play of all time is “Hamilton;” and after seeing it for the first time, I learned all I could about its creator, Lin-Manuel Miranda. I was intrigued to discover that “Hamilton” m ight never have happened if Miranda hadn’t “sharpened the saw.” In 2008, Miranda had been working nonstop for seven years to bring his first musical, “In the Heights,” to the Broadway stage. After winning four Tony Awards for his debut, he finally made time for a vacation to Mexico. He packed “a little light reading” for the beach: ”Alexander Hamilton,” by Ron Chernow, the exhaustive biography of a mostly forgotten Founding Father. “The moment my brain got a moment’s rest, Hamilton walked into it,” Miranda said in an interview with Arianna Huffington. “It’s no accident that the best idea I’ve ever had in my life — maybe the best one I’ll ever have in my life — came to me on vacation.” From that seed of an idea, “Hamilton” went on to shatter records, become a cultural phenomenon and win Miranda a Pulitzer Prize, an Emmy, a Grammy and 11 Tony Awards! I think it’s fair to say that, unlike Miranda, Alexander Hamilton didn’t subscribe to the principle of renewal, and he paid a price for it. In the musical, his wife, Eliza, implores him to rest in a song titled “Take a Break,” but he refuses. Arianna Huffington believes burnout itself — specifically sleep deprivation — destroyed Hamilton’s presidential hopes, threatened his marriage and ultimately took his life. Huffington wrote, “Hamilton... was successful not because of his overwork and burnout, but in spite of them. And perhaps if he’d listened to Eliza’s advice to ‘take a break,’ he’d have had more time to build the nation he was so devoted to.” Unlike Miranda’s cautionary tale about Hamilton, the renowned presidential historian Doris Kearns Goodwin shared that Franklin Delano Roosevelt took a 10-day fishing trip during some of the most critical days of World War II. And yet, it was during that trip that FDR came up with his crucial Lend-Lease Act, which provided the means for the United States to lend war supplies to its allies during the war. She also shares how Abraham Lincoln went to the theater 100 times during the Civil War. “When the lights went down, and a Shakespeare play came on, Lincoln could forget the war and clear his mind for a few precious hours,” she said. “And Teddy Roosevelt exercised two hours every afternoon at the White House, with a raucous game of tennis, a hike in the wooded cliffs of Rock Creek Park or a boxing or wrestling match.” As a culture, we have not taken these lessons to heart. Burnout is increasing. Loneliness is increasing. The amount of time people spend on screens is increasing.
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W I N T H E DA I LY P R I VAT E V I C TO RY
My father believed in and practiced this habit of renewal. It seemed like he was forever riding his stationary bike while reading books and magazines. So many impressions and ideas came to him in the wee hours of the morning, so he kept that time sacred. He worked hard and traveled a ton, but he always scheduled down time and especially loved taking family vacations to his cabin in Montana. While there, he would get up early and go on long mountain-bike rides, making stops along the way to read and think. One of the indelible impressions of my youth was seeing him return from these morning rides full of enthusiasm and affirmation and saying something like, “I had the greatest idea come to me this morning!” His energy was contagious. Even with the demands of a large family, he woke up early and went to bed early. Over weekends and at family reunions, the rest of us would go to the movies, eat junk food and stay up late chatting. We would look around and say, “Where’s Dad?” and he would have gone to bed. Everybody else would sleep in, and he would be up at the crack of dawn exercising, thinking, reading, writing. He would say, “Kids, you need to read more. I’m reading 10 books a week.” And we would say, “No you’re not. You just skim the books. You don’t read them. That doesn’t count.” He also loved spending time with Mom going on long putt-putt motorcycle rides around the neighborhood, where they could “talk it over.” Truly, much of his public success, and the strong relationships he enjoyed, sprang from this practice of getting himself centered each day and winning his own Daily Private Victory. The fact is, we humans are made up of four parts — body, heart, mind and spirit — and all four parts are interdependent and need constant nourishment. Like four tires on a car, if one tire is low on air, all four tires wear unevenly. It’s hard to show love (heart) when you’re exhausted (body). On the other hand, when you’re feeling motivated and in tune with yourself (spirit), you’ll have better judgment (mind) and find it easier to treat others with respect (heart). Since Sharpen the Saw is a Quadrant II activity — important but not urgent — it won’t just happen. You must happen to it by making it a priority. But like all Quadrant II activities, the return on the time and energy you spend sharpening the saw is exponential. Don’t ever feel guilty about taking time for yourself. On flights, they tell you that if the cabin loses pressure, you should put on your own oxygen mask before assisting others. You won’t be much use to your 3-year-old or best friend if you are unconscious from lack of oxygen. A woodsman once said, “Give me six hours to chop down a tree, and I will spend the first four sharpening the ax.”
The fact is, we humans are made up of four parts — body, heart, mind and spirit — and all four parts are interdependent and need constant nourishment.
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Ax or saw, the point is the same. So many jobs in today’s Knowledge Worker Age depend on wise decisions and good judgment. So much of our happiness depends on the quality of our relationships. You may think you don’t have time to exercise, go to lunch with a friend, read a book, write in your journal, attend that conference, take a break or go on a family vacation. In reality, you don’t have time not to. — Sean Covey, new insights on ”The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, 2020”
From “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People,” by Stephen R. Covey. Copyright © 1989, 2004, 2020 by Stephen R. Covey. Reprinted by permission of Simon & Schuster Inc. All rights reserved.
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Intermittent Fasting FAQs Frequently Asked Questions About the Benefits of Time-Restricted Eating Jonathan Taylor
What if I were to tell you that there is a simple, single solution to get rid of belly fat, regulate blood sugar levels, lower cholesterol, become more insulin-sensitive, improve mental clarity, restore greater levels of energy, prevent Alzheimer’s disease, decrease inflammation, reverse the aging process and extend life? Would you be interested? And get this: The cost is absolutely free! Too good to be true? Not in the slightest! Welcome to the magical world of intermittent fasting. This well-researched, well-documented method is blowing away doctors and nutritionists with its power and ability to perform so many incredible functions and fixes within the human body.
What exactly is intermittent fasting? Purposeful fasting is not starvation. So, please don’t attribute fasting to extreme deprivation. Far from it. Think of intermittent fasting as simply confining your caloric intake in any given day to a “feeding window.” That’s it. This means there is a part of your day when you fast, then there is a part of your day when you feast. It’s as simple as that. The goal here is to not eat less but to eat less often. But why should you even entertain the thought of trying out intermittent fasting for yourself? The answer lies in the evidential failure of what is known as the Standard American Diet — the frequent eating of meals and snacks throughout the day. The overconsumption of carbohydrates throughout the day leads to high levels of glucose in the blood. This triggers an inordinate amount of insulin to be secreted — insulin being the key that unlocks the cell for the uptake of that glucose. When the cells are fully furnished with glucose, what happens to the excess sugar in the blood? It is stored as fat. Unfortunately, chronically high levels of blood glucose, as well as excess body fat, can be attributed to all of the diseases mentioned above.
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Why is intermittent fasting such a powerful combatant?
How many days should one do intermittent fasting?
Fasting allows for a break in overall glucose uptake giving your body more time to burn off the excess sugar in the blood and curb the secretion of insulin. What does this do to the excess fat? The body will be more apt to use fat as an alternative source of fuel after the glucose is used up. While fasting, all the energy it takes to digest food can be diverted to other activities. Autophagy is the body’s process for the removal of damaged and toxic cells. The body is only able to activate this healing process when the digestive system is at rest. Intermittent fasting gives the body the opportunity to turn on this healing state. During autophagy, the body is able to do its version of preventative maintenance at the cellular level.
It depends. Everyone’s body adjusts to fasting at different rates. The body goes through a process of adaptation to become more efficient at burning fat as fuel in the last hours of the fasting window, when all sugar has been used up as energy. To ease into the physical and mental adjustment to time-restricted eating, you can start with two days per week and gradually add more days per week as your progress motivates you.
Can you give me an example of how to utilize intermittent fasting? First, and most importantly, consult your doctor before beginning any new diet or exercise plan. For those ready to try intermittent fasting, a good starting point is a 16:8 fast — 16 hours of fasting followed by an eight-hour feeding window. It takes the body about 14 hours to completely digest and get rid of food consumed during the eating window. So, 16 hours of fasting is the minimum amount of time research shows to be effective in switching the body into autophagy and using fat as fuel. And remember, when you are sleeping you are not eating, so you can use your sleep as part of your fast. For example, if you stop eating at 6 p.m. and then wake up at 7 a.m. the next day, you have already fasted for 13 hours. Fasting can be a whole lot easier than you might expect if you couple it with sleep.
Is it beneficial to exercise when fasted? Though it seems counterintuitive, exercising in the last hours of your fasting period is safe and extremely effective for burning fat. After glucose has been used up, the body switches to burning fat as fuel. Intramyocellular triglyceride content is the technical term for the fat content stored in your actual muscle tissue. Research shows that when you exercise in a fasted state, your body can use up to three times as much of this fat stored in the muscle tissue for fueling. So, how does this help with fat loss? The body then has to restore those fat levels in the muscle, taking lipids from other places in the body, such as the belly, and transporting it to skeletal muscle for repletion. Plain and simple, fasted exercise burns more fat. If you’re feeling inspired to quit the Standard American Diet and let your body work its fat loss and cellular repair magic, ask your doctor whether intermittent fasting is right for you.
Jonathan is a Certified Strength & Conditioning Specialist, Movement Coach, and Personal Trainer. Follow him on Instagram @taylormadetomove.
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The High Cost of Care Create a Financial Plan for Caregiving Services with Your Aging Parents Jean Chatzky
There’s no getting around it: Care costs. According to Genworth, the median national annual cost for adult day care is $18,200, assisted living is $45,000, a home health aide is $49,192 and a private room in a nursing home is $97,455. Depending on where you live, it can sometimes cost significantly more. And while Age Wave research tells us that 63% of people over age 50 do not believe they’ll need long-term care, 70% will. So, while the starter question is “How are you doing financially?” or “How’s the money holding out?” you really need to get at these nuts-and-bolts questions:
Ɂ How much money is there? Ɂ How much income is there? Ɂ How quickly are they spending, i.e., after they receive their Social Security and pension checks, how much are they pulling out of their nest egg to cover the gap? Ɂ How much equity do they have in their home, and is there a remaining mortgage? Ɂ Do they have other debts? Ɂ Do they have long-term care insurance?
This conversation may feel invasive to you and to them. (I feel like I’m invading my mom’s space just writing the questions, and she and I talk about it on a regular basis.) Have the conversation anyway. If you get one or two answers on the first go round, take a break and try again in a week or so. Explain that you’re doing this as much for you as you are for them, which, by the way, is true. You need to understand as early as possible what the shortfall is so that you can plan for it with your siblings and still take care of your own financial lives.
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Once you’ve got a sense of whether there’s a financial need, you can start planning for what you can contribute physically and in dollars. One mistake many family caregivers make is to measure the cost of care directly against their income. If the latter is equal or a little less, they quit to care for their parent. It’s often better for your long-term security to stay in the workforce — accruing retirement contributions and Social Security credits — and hire a professional caregiver, even if the current dollars are essentially a wash. And pay attention to the cash flows as well. Age Wave notes that half of all caregivers don’t track what they spend. That’s a mistake from a planning perspective (you can’t control what you don’t measure) and a tax perspective. If it gets to the point where you are providing more than 50% of financial support for your parent, even if your parent doesn’t live with you, you may be able to claim them as a dependent on your taxes. You may also be eligible for the dependent care credit. And you may be able to write their medical expenses off as a deduction. Should you purchase a long-term care policy for your parents as a way to hedge your bets? These policies are pricey. The average cost for three years of care for a 60-year-old married couple is between $2,000 and $3,000 a year, and prices go up with age. But if you — or you with your siblings — can afford it, having a policy means not having to come up with the money to help later. It also can mean not having to rely on Medicaid benefits, which are more limited than the services to which you have access if you pay privately . Excerpted from the book “Women With Money,” by Jean Chatzky. Copyright ©2019 by Jean Chatzky. Reprinted with permission of Grand Central Publishing. All rights reserved. Illustration: Sorbetto/ DigitalVision Vectors via Getty Images
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THE TAKEAWAY
“It’s a gift. It’s a passion. It’s my purpose.” You’d probably assume that famed percussionist and Prince protege Sheila Escovito, better known by her stage name, Sheila E., is referring to music but she isn’t. Instead, she believes we all share a common purpose, to make a difference in the lives of others, and that is her takeaway. “No matter what we do for a living we all have the same job: to plant the seed of love in someone’s life, to be a blessing to someone else every single day,” she said, “and that’s a message that seems to go hand-in-hand with Growing Bolder.” Escovito believes along with that mission comes the responsibility of taking a stand in the face of injustice. It’s almost as if through her latest album, “ICONIC: Message 4 America,” she anticipated the protests and demonstrations that would follow the death of George Floyd. The songs she chose to record, such as Marvin Gaye’s “Inner City Blues,” and The Pointer Sisters’ “Yes We Can,” strike powerful chords in support of the movement and placed her at the forefront in the fight for equality — exactly where she wants to be. “There’s so much hatred and division in our times right now,” she said. “But if each of us, me included, calls it out and exposes it, maybe we can change it. What we have to do is bring people together through love, because if we choose love, hate goes away.” She’s been creating change since 2001, when she founded the organization Elevate Hope, which grew into a collaborative community initiative called Elevate Oakland, a not-for-profit group providing mentoring to students involved in arts and music. She says for her, helping others is a way of life. “It’s the way we were raised,” she explained. “Even though we didn’t have much, my parents insisted we give back, even if it’s simply giving someone a reason to smile.”
Playing drums since the age of three, she is celebrating her 60th year performing and has no plans to stop anytime soon, although she admits to making some adjustments to keep up with the physical requirements of her performances. “For me, it’s all about prevention, whether it’s working out, eating right, avoiding the virus or getting enough sleep,” she said. “I’m not saying I feel like I did when I was 30, but I’m sure loving life in my 60s.” For Sheila E., it’s all about entertaining audiences and making a difference in people’s lives. A two-part harmony for a life well lived!
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Medicare Getting ready to turn 65? Our Medicare experts can help you navigate the landscape and ensure you get the benefits that matter most with the guidance you deserve. Our plans include benefits like*: ɏ Plans with $0 monthly plan premium ɏ Low or $0 copay for primary care doctor and other visits ɏ Dental, hearing and vision benefits ɏ Telehealth services ɏ SilverSneakers fitness program ɏ Over-the-counter items allowance ɏ Transportation to and from plan-approved health care settings ɏ Personalized service and expert guidance ɏ Comprehensive network of providers in your neighborhood
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