Scene Magazine - August 2021

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Scene 39

of ‘growing up’. Unlike most of my friends, my first partner was of the same gender as me, the first night out that I actually enjoyed was at a gay bar, and I reconsidered my LGBTQ+ several times, thus coming out and re-establishing myself multiple times.

RAE’S REFLECTIONS

Am I missing out on my 20s? By Rachel Badham ) Another year, another

Brighton & Hove Pride cancelled. I brought tickets for this year (mainly in the hope that Ms Carey would be headlining), so I think some part of me was convinced that 2021 would see everything go back to some version of pre-Covid normality. And after all, the summers of your youth are supposed to be filled with festivals, all-nighters and overpriced fruit-infused ciders, right? So, I figured I should definitely buy a ticket on the off-chance that the event goes ahead.

"I’ve been left wondering if I’m missing the portion of me which is meant to enjoy the things that I’m supposed to. Not only can I not live my 20s in the way that I’m expected to – I don’t actually want to. Is there something wrong with me?" I turned 22 this year, so finally I can sing Taylor Swift’s 22 and have it actually make sense. However, unlike Taylor in the song’s energetic and fun-filled music video, I haven’t been spending my 20s partying, clubbing and having “breakfast at midnight”. Due to lockdown restrictions, I haven’t been to a club since 2019, and have spent most evenings in bed by 9pm with Netflix and a peppermint tea. As I’ve found myself another year into my 20s, the pressure to live in accordance with

how young people are supposed to has been increasing. Sometimes I wonder how I would have spent the past two years if the pandemic hadn’t happened – would I have travelled the globe instead of hardly leaving the house for months on end? Would I have been going to music festivals instead of working at my laptop with a Carly Rae Jepsen playlist on repeat in the background? Although the ‘correct’ answer is yes, I’m not sure if I would be spending my weekends clubbing and going on spontaneous adventures. While many young people have been struggling with the loss of these freedoms, I can’t say that I’ve missed the nights out where I just wanted to get home into my bed and not wake up feeling exhausted, deflated, and wondering how much I actually enjoyed the partying lifestyle that university students are supposed to relish. Now that even more of us are feeling the pressure to ‘live our best lives’, I’ve been left wondering if I’m missing the portion of me which is meant to enjoy the things that I’m supposed to. Not only can I not live my 20s in the way that I’m expected to – I don’t actually want to. Is there something wrong with me? I’ve been pondering this for much of the pandemic and fretting that I was losing what is supposed to be a key part of everybody’s life. However, as many LGBTQ+ people find, there have been several aspects of my life that didn’t quite adhere to the normative timeline

When I was at university, I did a module centred on queer literature. Through the masses of theory I read for that section of my course, one particular point stood out to me, and has remained with me one year after graduating: queer people often don’t live linear timelines, which are in fact a myth perpetuated by heteronormative society. LGBTQ+ people in particular don’t always adhere to the idea that one should be married and should have ‘settled down’ by a certain age, with many queer people coming out later in life as their identity finally emerges despite years of suppression at the hands of the forces which encourage us to live in the way which we are taught is ‘correct’. And this got me thinking – the notion that a particular point in your life should be characterised by certain behaviours and activities is completely illogical, and the Covid pandemic has proved this further. Everybody’s plans have been disrupted and put on hold due to circumstances which no one expected, which seems to have sent a lot of people into a panic as they fear they’re missing out on whatever stage of their life they are at because they can’t conform to societal dictations of how they’re supposed to be living at that age. I can’t be missing out on my 20s, because any time is an opportunity for growth, development or just living on my terms – even if that means staying in some nights and watching Friends for the one-hundredth time. In that sense, the challenges the pandemic has brought have been valuable to me. This time has allowed me to get to a stage where I no longer feel that I should be spending my 20s in a certain way. And I for one am glad to have that pressure alleviated, and to not be enduring hangovers in 9am lectures anymore.


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Brighton & Hove Sea Serpents announces touch rugby open day

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Out to Swim takes part in Pier to Pier and returns to Prince Regent

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Pride at the Ironworks takes off!

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Out to Lunch goes down a treat

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First patrons of People’s Pride Southampton announce

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‘Community Spirit’ from Brighton Gin

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THT launches new campaign celebrating those living with HIV

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page 10

Research project to examine men’s unwanted sexual experiences

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page 10

New school resource to uncover secret Black History of Brighton

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page 10

Clare Project announces new Chair of trustees and trustee

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Trans Rights Protest to take place in London on Friday, August 6

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Rainbow Chorus, Brighton’s LGBTQ+ mixed choir, opens Trans Pride Brighton & Hove with video message

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Village MCC Pride

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Gender Diverse football festival to raise funds for Ledward Centre

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page 12

West Midlands Trains wins award for commitment to diversity & inclusion.

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Birmingham Pride awards grants to LGBTQ+ community groups

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Fatt Butcher raises money for asylum seekers with new single

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CLASSICAL NOTES

5min
page 30

ALL THAT JAZZ

2min
page 31

ART MATTERS

2min
page 31

Book Reviews

4min
page 34

AT HOME

3min
page 35

SCENE & DONE IT

2min
page 38

ARTS

2min
page 38

RAE’S REFLECTIONS

4min
page 39

STUFF & THINGS

2min
page 40

WALL'S WORDS

2min
page 40

CRAIG’S THOUGHTS

5min
page 41

HYDES' HOPE

2min
page 42

TWISTED GUILDED GHETTO

3min
page 42

LGBTQ CHURCH/ PROFESSIONAL SERVICES

2min
page 43

New public art piece celebrates diversity in Birmingham

2min
page 47

Birmingham Rep releases update on its involvement in Nightingale Courts

4min
page 50

WHY A PRIDE FESTIVAL?

4min
page 51

FRUITFUL COLLECTIVE

4min
pages 36-51

BILL DEAMER

4min
pages 33-35

INVERNESS OR BUST

4min
pages 29-31

LADY BOSS

5min
page 32

COVID REPORT FROM SWITCHBOARD

7min
pages 26-27

RECLAIM PRIDE

1min
pages 22-23

THE PRIDE OF EASTBOURNE

3min
page 25

10 QUESTIONS... PETER TATCHELL

4min
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BRIGHTON PRIDE 1973

7min
pages 14-16

RAINBOW WASHING

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BORN THIS BINARY, OR AM I AN ACT OF VIOLENCE TOO?

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REBELS WITH A CAUSE

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