5 Ways To Be Undeniably Magnetic

5 ways to be undeniably magnetic

By Dr Izdihar Jamil, Ph.D.

My husband, myself, my 10-year-old son Abrar, my 7-year-old daughter Nadrah and my 3-month-old baby Rayhan were driving to the next destination in my book tour in the summer of 2021.

During our trip, we listened to Jack Canfield's audiobook on The Success Principles. As soon as it was finished, I wanted to choose the next audiobook when suddenly this book just "pops" up "There's no plan B for your A-game" by Bo Eason.

At first, I thought, "Who is this guy Bo Eason?". Then when the title says, "There's no plan B?" what does that mean?

"No way! You gotta have a backup!". Even though I had never heard of the author before this moment, there was something that "pulled" me towards it, and I couldn't seem to take my eyes off it.

The book became irresistible. So I immediately bought the book and listened to it on our trip. By the end of it, my husband declared, "Bo is an amazing storyteller!".

That's how I would describe magnetism. It is a strong pull that is so irresistible that you can't seem to take your eyes off it. As a result, you're called to a particular set of actions.

In my case, I bought the book despite the author being completely unknown to me.

As a PhD holder in computer science and now a media expert as well as a multiple #1 international bestselling author, I've learned a lot in the last 20 years about magnetism and irresistible attraction. When used consciously with the right intention, it can create extraordinary results in your life.

Here are 5 ways that you can become undeniably magnetic inyour life, business, and career.

#1- Big and Bold

History has shown that people are attracted to people who have big and bold dreams. For example, Serena Williams wants to be the best tennis player in the world. Oprah wants to be the media queen, and Lady Gaga wants to be the best performer. When you see them perform in their elements, you can't take your eyes off them.

So set yourself the biggest, scariest and craziest dreams. Something that is going to challenge and move you. Yes, it will be scary and maybe a little bit stressful, and that's normal. It means that you're living and growing,

As a media and publicity expert, I recommend that you set yourself the following goals so that you can solidify yourself as the #1 go-to expert in your field: Bestselling Author Get in the media Featured in global magazines Get featured in TV High profile interviews High profile publications like Forbes, Entrepreneur, Oprah Speak on the TED stage

When you've set yourself a big dream, you need to up your commitment. It's going to take you to be who you have never been before. You'll be taking big, bold, and scary actions that are going to shake up your world and society. Because of that, there's a sense of expansion within you that becomes so attractive.

In the process, you'll attract the best people to help you make your dreams come true. There's an expression that says, "When a student is ready, the teacher will appear". It starts with you making that decision and commitment towards your dreams.

My dream was to be the best TED speaker. I wanted to stand on that prestigious TED stage and share a powerful message that will plant the seeds of positivity in people's hearts. Yet I didn't know how I was going to accomplish that. But I stayed loyal to my dreams and, along the way, attracted the best trainers and coaches to make my dreams come true.

After multiple rejections and persistent effort, I proudly spoke on the TED stage on 4th December 2021. You can check out my TED talk on "Coming To America: A Story Of A Hijab-Wearing Woman" here: https://youtu.be/kGlPMhV35lw. Because of my unshakeable commitment, I attracted the best people along the wayclients, influencers, and change-makers.

Have you met with someone that you can't seem to take your eyes off of? There's something about the way they move, walk, talk, speak, smile that's just so magnetic. It's not about them wearing skimpy outfits or putting heavy makeup on. It's just the way that they are BEING.

When I was practising to be the best TED speaker, I had to train on my physicality so that people had their eyes on me all the time as I shared my heart and my message. Standing, posture, movements, gestures, and eye contact are all part of my physicality.

Here are some rituals that you can use to help you to purity and strengthen your physicality:

Daily prayers or meditation Grounding work- I like to put a rock or a crystal on the ground and step on it Be with nature and walk barefoot on the ground if possible Do some tapping to clear off any blocks Declare positive affirmations like "I'm the PRIZE."

#4- Courage#5- Authenticity

Courage is the thing that is going to carry you through adversities and challenges. Courage is simply fear plus commitment plus courage. A lot of people tell you to 'be fearless'. I don't know if you can be genuinely fearless. Rather than banishing fear, I would say use that as rocket fuel for your dreams.

What I've found that has helped me overcome my fear is breaking it down into small steps. Whenever I've conquered those small steps, I gain confidence and a sense of achievement. By consistently taking one small step at a time, that big thing that looked so scary suddenly looks achievable and easy.

I remembered when I first wanted to do a LIVE on social media. I was so scared of judgments and of messing up. But I knew that I needed to use video so my message could be heard effectively. All I did was just focus on doing a live a day to build up that muscle. Now I've done thousands of LIVES and videos, and I'm so much better at it. So have the courage to do one thing at a time but build up consistency.

People are going to notice your courage and consistency, and that's what will make you so attractive. Courage is when you show up no matter what, even when it's hard. Opportunities, ideas, collaborators will show up when you are courageous and consistent.

Contrary to public belief, the real you is the best salesperson. Often, people create a "persona" that they believe people will like. For example, wearing certain clothes, talking a certain way, or looking "polished" all the time.

What connects you to people's hearts is the authentic version of you. I'm an Asian, Immigrant, hijab-wearing Muslim woman. In the past, I've been scared of who I am because of society's preconceived notions. So I wanted to be like everybody else, which is bonkers because I am not. I come from a different culture, heritage, and tradition than people in the mainstream business and media.

Once I step into my power, it becomes easier and more aligned to tailor my message to reflect my roots and heritage.

For example, on Forbes, I showcased my expertise as a hijab-wearing Muslim entrepreneur and shared my message on navigating the mainstream business and media by leveraging on my heritage. Check out my Forbes article here.

I thought that Forbes didn't want people like me because they are a mainstream publication. But actually, I'm considered as a "hot property" in the business, as I'm courageously trailblazing a path for other marginalized women. So keep showing up as the real you; that's who people really, really, really want to see.

Dr Izdihar Jamil’, Ph.D.

Dr Izdihar Jamil, Ph.D. is an immigrant, Asian, hijab wearing Muslimcomputer scientist turned media expert.

She is an 9 x #1 International Bestselling Author of It Is Done, Yes I Can!And Women Who Lead and has spoken on hundreds of prestigiousevents and interviews all around the world.

She was featured on Forbes, Fox TV, NBC, CBS, ABC, CW, Thrive Globaland hundreds of media and publications.

In 2021, Izdihar was inducted into the prestigious Marquis Who’s Whobiography in recognizing her contribution as the top 5% in the industrywith Warren Buffet and Oprah.

She is also an upcoming TEDx presenter sharing her idea to inspiremarginalized women to be confident with their heritage and roots.

She is an influential trailblazer and an inspirational leader in helpingfemale entrepreneurs to be the #1 go-to expert in their fields with hersimple, no-fuss methods.

She has helped over 100 people to be a #1 international bestsellingauthor, get in the media, magazines, high profile interviews andpublications.

Izdihar lives in California with her husband and three kids and in herspare time she loves reading and baking for her family.