How parents can help children prepare for the school year

written by CAROLINE KINNA

LICENSED MASTER SOCIAL WORKER, FREDERICK OUTPATIENT THERAPIST, BROOK LANE HEALTH SERVICES

As summer was ending, the coronavirus pandemicwas still in full force and affecting how we lived ourlives each day.

The unknown is scary, and it can often feel like thereis no end in sight. There are many unanswered questions surrounding the 2020-21 school year and what it will look like for students this year. The good news is that there are coping skills and techniques that can help decrease some of the stress and anxiety that comes with raising school-aged children during a pandemic.

1. Routines and schedules. Children thrive on structure.

Setting a daily routine from the time they wake up untilthe time they go to bed can help kids follow directions and complete tasks more easily. The more the routine is followed consistently, the more likely it is that kids will succeed. It can be helpful to write the schedule on a whiteboard or piece of paper and display it where they will see it frequently, such as on a refrigerator or in a bedroom.

2. Positive self-talk.

It is common for children to say negative things about themselves, especially when trying new things or whenthey are frustrated. Teaching children to replace negative thoughts with positive ones will help them build confidence and cope with difficulties. For example, try replacing “This is hard; I can’t do it” with “I will try my best, and I can do it!”

3. Setting goals.

Everyone feels better when they are working toward something. Help your children set goals for the school year

to motivate them to complete their work. It is important to keep the goals realistic and measurable. For example, “In my first semester of school this year, I will maintain at least a ‘B’ average on my math assignments and tests.” Have your children choose a reward when the goal is completed.

4. Connect with other parents.

Do not feel like you are alone in your frustrations and struggles. This is a time for parents to come together

and share ideas and feelings about the school year. Find out who will be in your child’s class and try to connect with other parents via email, text, Facebook, etc. Do not be afraid to reach out to other parents in your neighborhood for support.

5. Do not discuss frustrations about school in front of your children.

You help shape your child’s attitude. Discuss your frustrationsabout decisions regarding the school year in private. Set children up for success by teaching them to make the best of a situation. Stay positive and model perseverance.

Give yourself a pat on the back for the changes you have faced in a short amount of time. Learning to be resilient and deal with change is a wonderful life skill that COVID-19 has forced upon all of us. Hang in there, and remain hopeful. That is the best cure for stress and anxiety.

CAROLINE KINNA

LICENSED MASTER SOCIAL WORKER, FREDERICK OUTPATIENT THERAPIST, BROOK LANE HEALTH SERVICES