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Navigating the Journey Through Grief
By Carrie Vanderkar, M. Div Bereavement Coordinator
Our Mission The mission of Hospice of San Joaquin, a not-for-profit organization, is to provide comprehensive medical and compassionate care, counseling and support to terminally ill patients and their families, regardless of ability to pay, and to educate and collaborate with health care providers and the public in promoting quality end-of-life care. A nonprofit agency serving the community since 1982 Hospice is governed by a community Board of Directors and is recognized as a 501 (c) (3) organization. Hospice of San Joaquin is licensed by the State of California as a Hospice Agency and is certified by the Centers for MediCare and Medi-Cal Services to provide the Hospice Medicare/ Medi-Cal Benefit. The Joint Commission of Accreditation of Health Care Agencies (JCAHO) has accredited Hospice of San Joaquin, most recently in May 2008. For more information or referral, call (209) 957-3888.
It is said that a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. So too, does the long journey through grief begins with the single event of a loved one dying. In the days and weeks ahead, most people feel as if they are traveling in a fog or in slow motion. Many say “I don’t even remember that time” or “I don’t know how I got through those first days.” Strangely enough, that foggy, surreal feeling serves to protect us and allows us to get through some of that initial shock. If only the journey were a straight path, without pot holes, blind curves, or steep hills. But if truth be told, the journey through grief is anything but straight and narrow. It is a difficult path. There are indeed pot holes that cause us to stumble, blind curves that come upon us suddenly and unexpectedly, and steep hills that are exhausting to climb. For some, this journey is so daunting that they choose not to travel upon it for years and years only prolonging the inevitable. Others may rush through the journey, missing important signposts or resting spots along the way only to discover that to fully heal, they need to go back and
experience what they’ve missed. For most, the journey is slow. Steps are taken forward, backwards, and sometimes the traveler even gets lost. Because the journey is so difficult, rest is often required. A day off from traveling can give us renewed energy for part of the journey. In fact, now more than ever, grief travelers need to take care of their physical body. Former caregivers, especially, are notorious for putting their own doctor’s appointment and health issues on hold. Get a check-up, follow a healthy diet, do your exercises. Take care of your spirit as well – pray, medi-
tate, or spend time outside soaking up some nature. Consider taking a journal, comforting music, inspirational or religious books with you for these are helpful tools that may help you on the precarious journey through grief. And of course, always carry a large box of tissue to catch the tears. They are not a sign of weakness but will serve to help you in your healing process. Although the journey through grief must ultimately be made by you, you need not do it alone. In fact, the journey will be easier if you find yourself some traveling companions. Let friends and fam-
ily reach out to you. They may not know exactly what you need so tell them specifically, clarify expectations, and kindly redirect if they do it wrong the first time. Your best traveling companions may not be who you first expect. Learn who is a good listener, who doesn’t try to fix how you feel or tell you to hurry up on your journey. Your best companion will be someone who just is there to hold your hand as you travel and can help pick you up and dust you off when you trip. And if they can make you a good cup of soup along the way, all the better! The journey through grief is indeed a difficult one. It is possible however, to travel through it and come to a new place where the pain lessens, self-discoveries are made, and hope is renewed. Hospice of San Joaquin opens our doors to weary travelers offering support groups for adults and children. Here grief travelers can gather together and hear the experiences of others, gather ideas and resources for the remaining journey, and find some strength to continue on. Our grief support groups last for six weeks and are offered throughout the year in Lodi, Stockton, and Manteca. Pre-registration is required. Call and ask for the Bereavement Department. 957-3888.
Hospice of San Joaquin 3888 Pacific Avenue Stockton, California 95204-1953
Central Asian Delegates Benchmark HSJ AS EXCELLENCE IN HOSPICE CARE Gene Acevedo Community Outreach Director
“The concept of hospice care —an interdisciplinary team concept of medical, social, spiritual, and emotional support is available for patients when cure is not an option— is unknown in our countries.” stated Mansurov Furkat, Coordinator of the Information System Health Department Sogd Region, Republic of Tajikistan. “We will be thinking about opening up a hospice… We want it to be something of this sort because it improves drastically the quality of life.” Compassionate care was the emphasis during the Hospice of San Joaquin’s training for medical professionals representing Kazakhstan, Kyrgyzstan, Tajikistan, Turkmenistan and Uzbekistan who toured the Nation’s health care system in a month-long program. Our local not-for-profit
Members of the Central Asian delegation attend a meeting at the Hospice of San Joaquin administrative building on Tuesday, Jan. 27, 2009. Hospice of SJ was a stop in their national tour, part of the Special American Business Internship Training Program.
Hospice was the only agency in the tour benchmarked on end-oflife care. “As health care partner we are pleased to be part of the dialog among health care advocates throughout the world,” said Barbara Tognoli, founder and CEO.
The International Delegation’s tour confirms the education commitment of Hospice of San Joaquin’s mission “…to educate and collaborate with health care providers and the public in promoting quality end-of-life care.” A commitment dedicated to
San Joaquin County health care providers. The representatives agreed tha hospice care offers a much needed service, “just because they are sick, they don’t need to be isolated,” Furkat said in his closing statement.
A New Standard of Commitment Barbara Pombo, Development Director
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Hospice of San Joaquin delivers hospice care and bereavement services in partnership with community support. Charles and Carole certainly understood and embraced the mission of Hospice of San Joaquin and the shared responsibility. Charlie and Kay, to their friends, made an extraordinary contribution to hospice care following in the tradition of this agency whose founding and early work was provided for solely from the charity of the community. Executive Director Barbara Tognoli: “I have the great pleasure of announcing that Hospice of San Joaquin was named as one of two major beneficiaries and has received distribution of the Plumb Estate. Central United Methodist Church, of which Charlie was the General Contractor and where the
Charles and Carole Plumb
Plumbs were affiliates, is the other major beneficiary.” “Charles and Carole named Hospice of San Joaquin and Central United Methodist Church as the major beneficiaries in their trusts in very thorough planning which began years ago. Carole died in September of 2007 and
Charles died a month later in Hospice of San Joaquin's care while residing at a skilled nursing facility.” “The Plumbs have set a new standard of commitment and a challenge, both for Hospice of San Joaquin’s agency and staff, and for our community supporters.”
The Plumb estate gifts will support an expansion of services to terminally ill and their families. This estate gift is also significant in ensuring the future operations of Hospice House, a unique service in the County and in the region. Residential hospice care, licensed and accredited, is unfunded by both state and federal programs. As internal forecasts projected in the planning and building of the Hospice House, individuals and businesses fund this service with charitable contributions of several hundred thousand dollars annually. The Plumbs supported Hospice of San Joaquin during their lifetime; their magnanimous distribution of their estate will continue their legacy of providing hospice services for others. For more information on gifting through bequests and trusts, please call the Development Office, (209) 957-3888.
Board of Directors Officers: Mark Wallace, President Director of Human Resources, Lodi Memorial Hospital Edward Schroeder, Vice President President & CEO, O’Connor Woods Chris Olin, Secretary Community Volunteer Gayle Riley, R.N. Treasurer Nurse, Healthcare Administrator, Retired
Members: Nicholas Aninag Vice President Bank of Stockton Jacqueline Bagatta, R.N., M.S.N. Deputy Director, San Joaquin General Hospital Phyllis Berger, Esq. Professor Humphrey’s Law School Joseph Curtis Agency Owner, Allstate Insurance, Curtis Insurance Agency Lynne Davis Davis & Associates Insurance Brokers Patricia Erardi Community Volunteer Richard Ghio, CPA Instructor, San Joaquin Delta College Stephen Guasco, Director of Managed Care for Catholic Healthcare West Gary Giannini Principal, Schwartz, Giannini, Lantsberger & Adamson, CPA’s Pete Gormsen, CPA, DeGregori, Gormsen, Ringer, LLP Deitra Kenoly Advertising Director, The Record Chris McCaffrey Vice President, Morgan Stanley Diane Park Fund Development Consultant Danae Sharp, R.N. Nursing Supervisor, Dameron Hospital Diane Vigil P.R. Director, Dameron Foundation Barbara A. Tognoli Executive Director and Member of the Board
Support Personnel Robert T. Browne, M.D. Medical Director James Saffier, M.D. Staff Physician Mobin Ghavami, M.D. Staff Physician Gail E. Wigley, RN Director, Clinical Services Jo E. Paganini, MSW Director, Social Services Steve Parsons Director, Operations / Finance Barbara A. Pombo Director, Development Gene Acevedo Director, Community Outreach and Public Relations Audrey Wuerl, RN, BSN Education Coordinator Becky Freeman Volunteer Coordinator Carrie M. Vanderkar Bereavement Coordinator Jim R. Russow Chaplain Patty A. Rieber Human Resource Manager Leo Ronquillo Information Systems Manager Carolyn Gomes Annual Gifts & Events Planner
From the Director Dear Readers, By the time you receive this newsletter the days will be warmer, our nights will be shorter and spring will astonish us with new life. But today, as I write this column, it is a rainy day in January. Janus, the Roman god for whom January is named, had two faces: one looks backwards while the other faces forward. The month of January is a good time for pausing to remember and reflect on what has been and to consider what yet may be. This newsletter is dedicated to telling you more about our Bereavement services and programs. It occurred to me that the “Janus” reflection is another way to describe the human and spiritual journey through grief. When we lose someone we love we are constantly looking back, remembering and yearning for the past; but at the same time reality turns our face to the future. It is during the most difficult part of this journey through grief, the “now”, that bereavement support and counseling becomes so critical. Sometimes I think our Bereavement Program is a best kept secret in our community, so I would like to take this opportunity to tell you about all Hospice of San Joaquin offers through these services. • Bereavement services are open to all grieving persons in our community, not only to hospice families. • Bereavement support groups are held throughout the year and in different locations throughout the county, in both English and Spanish. • Unique bereavement service programs are designed for children and adults. • Bereavement Support Groups are facilitated by qualified staff and volunteers. • Hospice of San Joaquin has the only children’s bereavement program in the county: Kids Korner. • A children’s one day bereavement camp, Camp Caterpillar, is held annually for children ages 5 to 12. • Our Bereavement Coordinator is available for consultation and support by phone or at the Hospice Center. • Hospice of San Joaquin provides grief support at work places and in schools. • Bereavement workshops on various topics are held throughout the year. • There is no charge for our bereavement services. • Last year our program provided services to over one thousand individuals. Please take time to visit our website www.hospicejs.org to check dates and times for these services and events, and of course, please share this information with others. During the journey of grief, it may be difficult for the grieving person to look for these services. Grief not only takes its toll on emotions but on mental and physical energy. You can be the contact for helping someone to move toward the future. Bereavement is just one service associated with hospice care and supported by donors in the community. Your financial support of Hospice of San Joaquin ensures that we continue to provide an entire team of professionals to care for each patient. Your support ensures that we can continue to offer our Hospice House, a residence for terminally ill patients who can no longer remain in their own homes. Your contribution ensures that we can continue to provide a Bereavement Program as described above for families and children. In this newsletter, you will find information on how you can support our programs with an Annual Membership gift. Thank you for your continued support. Best wishes,
Barbara Tognoli Executive Director
Hospice Awareness is a quarterly newsletter published by Hospice of San Joaquin Located at 3888 Pacific Avenue, Stockton, CA 95204 * (209) 957-3888. Gene Acevedo, Director of Community Outreach: Editor Barbara Pombo, Director of Development: Co-Editor Hospice Staff: Article Contributions Roberto Radrigán, G. D., GráficaDesign: Design & Layout Comments, questions, sponsorship opportunities or if you wish to be removed from our mailing list, please contact our office at (209) 957-3888
As much as we would like to protect our children from any sadness and hurt, the fact of the matter is that it is bound to happen. Families sometimes have to move to a new community. Parents may get divorced. Perhaps a beloved teacher retires or a best friend moves to a new school. The family pet must be put to sleep. Hardest of all is when a loved one dies. In the midst of the shock of the death and the affairs that are to be handled, children often become the “forgotten grievers.” Books and pamphlets for caregivers, counselors, and parents try to address this with such titles such as “Children Grieve Too,” or “I Miss Grandpa Too.” Rabbi Earl Grollman says that “Most parents today are convinced they should be honest in discussing the biological processes of birth, but when it comes to life’s end they may fall strangely silent.” (Talking about Death: a Dialogue Between Parent and Child) If you are a part of a grieving child’s life, it is important to provide them with information and validate their feelings. Know that they may have unusual or regressive behaviors in reaction to a death. Keep in mind that every-
Children and Grief
one (even adults) grieves in their own unique way, even people from the same family. Nevertheless, here are some things to keep in mind as you reach out to a grieving child: ♦ Give children opportunities to tell their story as many times as they need. ♦ Encourage questions and give honest (age appropriate) answers. ♦ Grief is hard work. It can be complicated by the nature of the death and the relation-
ship the child had with their loved one. ♦ Grief is usually messy. It does not follow neat and tidy “stages” as presented in textbooks or brochures. It takes its own course and is unique to each person. ♦ Offer lots of re-assurance Whether a child verbalizes it or not, he is likely wondering: Is it my fault? Will you die too? Will I die? Who will take care of me? Children need to feel that
they are safe and will not be abandoned. ♦ Do your own grief work. Do not attend to the needs of your children at the expense of your own emotional needs. Adults who care for themselves are far better to care for their children. Children who see their adults expressing their grief will learn that it is ok to express these difficult feelings. ♦ Seek help. For some families, it may be important to find grief counseling or other sources of help. Engage the wisdom and care from family friends, teachers, religious or community leaders, or other significant adults in the child’s life. Hospice of San Joaquin invites grieving children to participate in Kids Korner, a 4 week, Saturday morning program for elementary aged-children to share, heal & grow in a safe, supportive environment. Programs for adolescents may be available through your child’s school. Please call the Bereavement Department for more information. 209-9573888.
Hospice Butterfly Auxiliary President Honored by Insurance Industry Barbara Galgiani is both the first (2001) and current President of the Butterfly Auxiliary, Stockton Chapter. Barbara Galgiani is President, Capax, Marine Providers wholly owned subsidiary of Capax Giddings, Corby, Hynes. A national insurance industry organization, The Rough Notes Company, has selected Barbara for their annual Community Service Award. Her local company nominated her;
Hospice of San Joaquin supplied an endorsement letter. Robert Kretzmer, Executive Director, Community Service Award, The Rough Notes Company, called Hospice to announce the 10th Anniversary Award. “The award is given in Indianapolis at the end of March at the Annual Awards Conference and publicized through Rough Notes Magazine (150 years in print). Instead of awarding agents and businesses
for the business they write, we want to award the agents and businesses for what they put back into the community.” The Community Service Award, and a $5,000 grant to the charity served by the honoree, comes with an impressive eagle sculpture. The award will be announced in the Rough Notes’ April issue together with a photo story of Hospice of San Joaquin Butterfly Auxiliary’s support for the Hospice House.
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Honors Legacy League and Lean On Me Society Members In an early Spring gathering of Hospice of San Joaquin donors, individuals and couples who have named the agency in their wills or living trusts will be honored guests. Nick Aninag, Fund Development Committee Chair comments, “Hospice is the recipient, from time to time, of gifts from bequests, trusts and life insurance benefits. These are a significant stream of support for all Hospice programs: patient care in the home, nursing homes and our Hospice House; bereavement support for adults, children and teens; and education for both the public and our medical community. Most often Hospice does not
have the opportunity to thank these donors. Legacy League is our opportunity to recognize these donors now, during their lifetime, as well as to honor all those who named Hospice of San Joaquin in their estate planning.” Legacy League members are those who have ‘enrolled’ by notifying Hospice of San Joaquin of the intent to provide for hospice care with a future estate gift; most often this is done without reference to the type of gift nor the amount, which may be unknown. A uniquely designed “Donor Pillar” will be unveiled at the “Gathering of Donors” event on April 16th in the Hospice Gar-
dens. The Donor Pillar will include the names of both living and deceased Legacy League Members, that is bequests and trust distributions completed or intended. The other major feature of the Donor Pillar is the listing of the names of Lean on Me Society donors. Since 2005, these donors have contributed/pledged $10,000 or greater toward sustaining Hospice programs: ♦ Patient Care: all hospice care, at home and in nursing facilities ♦ Hospice House Endowment: permanent and future funding for Hospice House
♦ Hospice House Charitable Fund: current patient care in the House ♦ Bereavement & Education Programs: support for the grieving in the community and the next level of care education for both the medical community and the public. The April Gathering of Donors event will include the unveiling of the Donor Pillar and the honoring of Legacy League and Lean on Me Society members. To learn more about these programs or the event, please contact Barbara Pombo, Development Director (209) 957-3888.
Am I really OK if I feel this way? She looked into the mirror, stared at the person staring back and said, “He’s been gone for six months now, so why do you still just sit down and start to cry? Are you losing it? I thought you were stronger than that! Your friends at church are beginning to wonder how strong your faith really is! Come on, snap out of it! You believe in God, don’t you, so why can’t you shake this sadness? Why do you feel so fragile? You’re starting to feel guilty about not having a stronger faith to get yourself through this grief!” The person staring back from the mirror walks away, but she continues to question herself. The death of a loved can sometimes bring about a crisis of
faith in which one doubts his/ her faith, questions the spiritual being core and begins to wonder where God is. Some heap guilt upon Jim R. Russow themselves for Chaplain “not doing better ’ because “if you just had a stronger faith, you’d be through this by now!” Please be assured that grieving the death of a loved one is absolutely natural! Grief is an emotion with which we are created. While it is not possible for us to get completely over the death of a child, parent or spouse, it is entirely possible that
faith in a loving God and faithfull friends can assist us through the pain of grief to a place where the focus on the death and painful grief diminish and are replaced by a peace and a wholeness that prove that life can go on. We continue to remember that he did die, but more importantly he really lived… and laughed… and expressed confidence (faith!) that he would not simply be in a better place, but the best possible place! Spiritual beliefs serve as a foundation for healing and wholeness necessary for the survivor to continue living. Faith can prove to be the source of strength which enables one not only to acknowledge the grief and pain of loss but also to move
back into the stream of life maybe even stronger than before. Faith in a loving God can enable us to learn the lessons taught by life experience, that life does go on and that there are yet joys to be, well, enjoyed! Faith, especially in people more experienced in the lessons of life, can empower a grieving person to serve as an example to the younger ones just beginning to learn those lessons. Painful things happen even in the best-lived lives. Sadness does befall us all. Death will take our loved ones. Faith in God doesn’t protect us from this pain and sadness, but it can support us as we grief in a “healthy” manger, knowing our loved one is at peace.
Wanda Burgess – mother, grandmother and Hospice patient... February 2009 When Wanda Burgess’ granddaughters, Anne and Shannon, arrived from Oregon for what they expected would be a “good-bye” visit with their grandmother, their love and youthful enthusiasm gave Wanda, physically weak and in bed, the motivation for an extraordinary effort. “Grandma, it’s so nice outside, it’s sunny! Do you want to go outside?” The answer was a firm “YES”. The family enjoyed a time in the sun, sharing stories, taking photos – making memories. The family writes, “We appreciate so much all that Hospice has done. Both Amanda McKelvey and Nellie Zavala (nurse and social worker) have been wonderful. The prompt response, both day and night, are greatly appreciated.”
“It takes a village. . .”, or a community to successfully navigate the journey through grief. There are many helping hands supporting Bereavement Services including ♦ grant makers and foundation boards which provide program funding; ♦ churches which lend their facilities in Lodi and Manteca for groups; ♦ nursing homes who offer a time and place for staff or patients to gather with Hospice staff; ♦ school administrators and counselors who work together with Hospice staff to reach hurting children and teens. Among the most loyal contributors to the Bereavement Program is the HCE Foundation. This local board personally reviews applications and interviews program providers prior to making their annual grant distributions. While Camp Caterpillar and the newer Kids’ Korner are HCE favorites, the Foundation’s support touches the entire array of bereavement services. The Bereavement & Conference Center in Hospice of San Joaquin is “dedicated to Robert G. and Kathryn R. Schwemley Foundation, in
Partners in Providing Bereavement Services grateful recognition of underwriting support for the Hospice of San Joaquin Bereavement Program”. Dr. Robert (Bob) Schwemely and his wife Kathryn (Kitty) made provision in their foundation “to provide bereavement support services to the families of the terminally ill through the Hospice of San Joaquin.” Trustees John and Gayle DeGregori faithfully administer the Trust and seek to keep abreast of additions and changes to bereavement services and the needs of Hospice in reaching the grieving of the community as they distribute grants annually. Independent Order of Foresters has long advocated for and provided funding for Camp Caterpillar and other outreach to children. The members of this fraternal organization dedicate
themselves to service and funding of worthwhile programs, the local chapter going a step further in successfully soliciting the national program to match their contributions. Lodi based Tip Your Heart Foundation included the Children’s Bereavement Services in their generous 2008 support of community agencies. The services are available to children throughout the County. In the 2008-09 funding year, United Way of San Joaquin’s Community Councils reached out in unison (though petitioned separately) in support of caring for the grieving. The Lodi and Manteca-Lathrop Community Councils contributions primarily support the on-going Adult Group series in their cities. The Tracy Council grant supports outreach to the public and
to nursing home staff and patients. Stockton’s Community Council grant primarily supports Kids’ Korner, a Saturday program for children ages 5 -12. Funding is only one aspect of support required for successful outreach in meeting the needs of the community. Churches lend their meeting spaces United Lutheran Church in Manteca and Vinewood Community Church in Lodi. Both of these church communities currently host the Adult Bereavement Groups. Vinewood Community also opens their facilities to the Lodi Chapter of the Butterfly Auxiliary for its functions. School personnel, with parents, identify the needs of students for a particular type of support – learning to cope with grief and loss. Hospice of San Joaquin’s Bereavement Coordinator and Social Workers respond with programs as needed: in most cases a 5-week group series in which the students benefit from both sharing their experiences and learning coping skills. At other times, as in the case of responding to the loss by family, friends and school peers of a murdered student, Hospice staff worked with school administration and family leaders in a crisis intervention.
volunteer training Every Monday & Wednesday Sessions start May 4, 2009 6:00pm – 9:00 pm. May 4, 6, 11, 13, 18, 20 & 27th Call Becky Freeman (209) 957-3888
Parent Support Group
A Friend of Hospice: Remembering John Morozumi, M.D. John Morozumi, M.D. is remembered for his many contributions to the community – respected and beloved physician, father, friend, tireless advocate for bettering lives through his service on nonprofit agency boards. Hospice of San Joaquin salutes John Morozumi as a Founding Board member of this community-based agency. In the 1970’s and early 80’s, Dr. Morozumi was among the handful of visionaries who worked to put in place the medical and financial framework that still serves as the foundation upon which Hospice of San Joaquin stands.
This was a pioneering effort as hospice care was almost unknown in northern California, with only a very few communities beginning the formal organization of hospice care agencies during that time. The medical standards for care were developed and monitored by the physician community, led by local physicians Robert Browne and John Morozumi. The financial framework for hospice care was synonymous with community charity, as it is today. John and Elaine Morozumi are ‘life-long’ advocates for hospice care and donors supporting Hospice of San Joaquin.
April 22 – May 27; 5:30 – 7pm Hospice of San Joaquin invites parents who have lost a child (under 18) to join this special bereavement support group. This group will meet for 6 consecutive weeks. The goal is to help parents come to a better understanding of their unique grief, to learn/share ways to cope and envision the future, and to develop a support system both within and outside of the group. A general grief group will be held simultaneously for those who have lost a loved one other than a young child. See adult bereavement schedule Pre-registration is required and space is limited. 209-957-3888
Spring into Fashion
Saturday, March 21, ‘09 - 11 a.m. Luncheon and Fashion Show to benefit Hospice House Brookside Country Club Info: (209) 483-3600 psleonardca@msn.com Hospice of San Joaquin Event Line:
(209) 922-0242 $ 40.00 Advance tickets available.
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The Quarter in Review
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(below) Carrie Vanderkar presents a workshop designed to help the newly bereaved understand the journey of grief.
Gene Acevedo, Director de Relaciones Públicas Nellie Zavala, Maestra en Trabajo Social Josie Minor, Maestra en Trabajo Social Diane Medina, Maestra en Trabajo Social
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Barbara Tognoli, HSJ Executive Director, receives the “Power of One 2008 Community Star Award” presented by Stockton Mayor Ann Johnston. (below) Lodi Butterfly Auxiliary Board Members (lr): Sharon Stokes, Charter President; Mandy Gerlack, Corresponding Secretary; Liz Evans, Historian and Membership Comm.; Mary Ellen Beckman and Ida Mae Lobb, Membership Comm.; Colleen Evans, Treasurer; Darlene Gribando, Vice President; Dana Sullivan Muñoz, President; Julie Wetteland, Recording Secretary.
Butterfly Auxiliary meetings are open to anyone interested in membership.
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Stockton Chapter Meetings are held the first Thursday of every month (February November) at 6:00pm at the Hospice of San Joaquin Office.
Stockton Butterfly Auxiliary Board Members (l-r): Susan Wuen, Treasurer; Barbara Galgiani, President; Mary Willis, Vice President; Pam Coburn, Corresponding Secretary; Alice Tolliver, Recording Secretary; and Linda Dillon, Membership.
Calendar Spring 2009 April 2009
Saturday, March 21, 2009 11:00 a.m.
Thursday, April 16, 2009 4:30 – 6:00 p.m.
It’s About Time to Spring Into Fashion 2009
Lean on Me and Legacy League Donor Gathering
Luncheon and Fashion Show to benefit Hospice House Brookside Country Club Contact Susan ‘Mastelotto’ Leonard (209) 483-3600 psleonardca@msn.com. Hospice of San Joaquin Event Line: (209) 922-0242 $ 40.00 Advance tickets available.
Hospice of San Joaquin 3888 Pacific Ave., Stockton, CA. Contact Carolyn Gomes (209) 922-0242 cgomes@hospicesj.org
May 2009 Saturday, May 2, 2009, 2 p.m.
8th Annual Champagne and English Tea Event Sold Out By the Hospice Butterfly Auxiliary, Stockton Chapter, Proceeds benefit Hospice House. Hospice Butterfly Auxiliary, 209922-0380.
Saturday, May 9, 2009, 2 p.m.
Mother / Daughter Tea Hospice Butterfly Auxiliary, Tracy Chapter Windmill Ridge Winery 8350 Linne Road, Tracy. Contact Gloria Bacchetti (209) 835-9569 or Lani Willey (209) 952-2012. Butterfly Auxiliary line (209) 922-0380. $ 35.00 per person. Available by advance ticket sales only Saturday, May 16, 2009 12:00 Noon
3rd Annual Spring Bouquet Luncheon Hospice Butterfly Auxiliary, Lodi Chapter Vinewood Community Church 1900 West Vine Street, Lodi Call: (209) 794-8221 Tickets may be purchased by sending a check payable to Hospice Butterfly Auxiliary, 2414 W. Kettleman Lane, #210-3328, Lodi, CA 95242 $ 25 per person, available by advance ticket sales only.
Tracy Chapter, meets on the first Monday of the month. New members are most welcome!! For information, call Gloria Bacchetti (209) 8359569 Fundraising events benefit Hospice House, the only residential hospice home in San Joaquin County. For membership information, visit our website at www.hospicesj.org or call 209-922-0380
HSJ welcomes Backy Freeman (right) as Volunteer Coordinator and appreciates the years of dedicated service by Julie Loffy (left)
March 2009
Lodi Chapter meetings are held the second Thursday of every month (February November) at 6pm at Vinewood Community Church in Lodi.
July, 2009 Thursday, July 16, 2009 5:45 p.m.
28th Annual Recognition Dinner Join Hospice of San Joaquin in honoring Community Partners, and Benefactors, Board and Staff. Stockton Golf and Country Club 3800 W Country Club Blvd, Stockton. RSVP by July 2nd Carolyn Gomes , (209) 922-0265 cgomes@hospicesj.org July 25, 2009, 8am – 4pm,
Truckin’ for Hospice A motorcycle run starting in Stockton, going through the foothills and ending in Modesto. Presented by the California Trucking Association with proceeds benefiting Hospice of San Joaquin and Community Hospice in Modesto. For more information contact Lillian Sealy, Event Chairperson (209) 835-2224, Glenn Richardson, Co-Chair (209) 983-2400 ext 3122 www.truckinforhospice.com
Hospice of San Joaquin Bereavement Support Groups 2009 April 22 – May 27
Stockton 5:30 – 7:00 p.m. Wednesday
**April 22 – May 27 Stockton 5:30 – 7:00 p.m. Wednesday June 24 – July 29
Stockton 5:30 – 7:00p.m. Wednesday
Sept 2 – Oct 7
Stockton 5:30 – 7:00 p.m. Wednesday
Oct 14 – Nov 18
Stockton 5:30 – 7:00 p.m. Wednesday
The above seven groups will be held at our Stockton Offices for six consecutive weeks. **This group is for parents who have lost a child (under 18)
May 26 – June 30
Manteca 5:30 – 7:00 p.m.
Tuesday
Oct 6 - Nov 10
Manteca
Tuesday
5:30 – 7:00p.m.
The above three groups will be held at United Lutheran Church in Manteca, 649 Northgate Dr. (Between Stonewood Ave and Pajaro Ave) on six consecutive Tuesday evenings.
June 8 – July 13
Lodi
5:30 – 7:00 p.m.
Monday
Sept 21 – Oct 26
Lodi
5:30 – 7:00 p.m.
Monday
The above three groups will be held at Vinewood Community Church, 1900 West Vine, Lodi. (corner of West Vine and Mills) in Lodi on six consecutive Monday evenings.
DATES, TIMES, OR LOCATIONS MAY CHANGE DUE TO ENROLLMENT NEEDS **PRE-REGISTRATION IS REQUIRED** CALL (209) 957-3888