Helping Ticos Understand the Gringo Mindset Solutions to 9 Cons of Being an Expat Destination

by Terry Carlile

In our January issue, Howler published the article Solutions to 28 Cons of Living in Costa Rica, a lighthearted look at certain situations and behaviors that expats sometimes find bewildering or even frustrating about their adopted country. The intent was not to complain or criticize, but rather promote understanding and acceptance among gringos, along with suggestions for embracing the chill lifestyle that likely lured them to Costa Roca in the first place.

Now, we take the opposite perspective, seeking to demystify certain expat ways for the benefit of our Tico friends. This is a broad-brush attempt to help locals understand the gringo mindset. We respond to some of their likely questions about our behaviors and suggest solutions. Of course, not every scenario described here is typical for every gringo.

1. Why are you angry when you pass me on the road?

Well, it could be for a variety of reasons. Gringos are used to turn signals and brake lights … and no one stopping in the middle of the road to check cell phones or to pick up passengers. And usually, when pulling into traffic, they are accustomed to being able to merge with the flow of the traffic.

Solution

Please bear with us as we strive to develop patience and tolerance, and to keep reminding ourselves we’re in your country.

2. I ride a motorcycle — why do you look at me so weird?

Once again, turn signals and brake lights are the norm in North America. Plus, if you’re popping a wheelie, we worry about the dangers of overdoing it. If you’re weaving in and out of traffic, it’s hard for us to keep up with you using our front, rear, and side vision. If you’re totally moving too fast and we’re making a turn, the gringo’s car will always be the winner in that unexpected impact.

Solution

Help us appreciate motorcycle drivers who have their lights working, are not showing off and maintaining the regular speed.

3. When I walk on the road at night, why do you honk at me?

It’s tough to see as the sun sets and throughout the night. When people walk on the road with no flashlight or reflective gear, we can’t see you. We don’t want to hit anyone! But sometimes we miss you by inches.

Solution

Please wear some light clothing, carry a flashlight or use the one on your cell phone.

4. Why do you expect me to keep my word?

Gringos are used to agreeing upfront on the stated price for a product or service. And when someone tells us the date and time to arrive or provide the service, the gringo believes you will fulfill that spoken obligation. Sure, this is pura vida, but we don’t think that’s supposed to mean “I don’t give a damn” and you don’t keep your word. Remember, you’re not the only provider of your product/ service. Word of mouth — good or bad — travels among expat communities.

Solution

If you can’t keep your appointment with gringo customers, at least call or text and let them know. And if the price is going to be higher than what was agreed on beforehand, setting up a visit with the gringo to explain is the best way to avoid surprises and misunderstandings.

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5. Why are so many gringos arrogant?

6. Why are some expats so angry?

7. Why do the gringos stare at our ladies so much?

8. Why do gringos wave their hands wildly when finished eating?

9. Why do expats look at us like we're going to rob them?