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How to talk to Girls - Free Report - The 5 Most Deadly Conversation Mistakes YOU
Probably Make With Women
and What To Do About It…
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Let’s face it… If you want to create attraction in a woman… you must possess the ability to talk. You can know all the “secret attraction building techniques” in the world… but if you can’t carry a conversation… YOU GET NO WHERE…. Don’t worry, we’ll discuss some of those “secret attraction building techniques in later emails that I will send to you! Right now I want to concentrate on the exact ways you’re killing your conversations… probably without realizing it.
Mistake #1: Breaking the 90/10 Rule When Starting a Conversation Have you ever noticed that most conversations don’t pick up steam until about 5-10 minutes in? This is because when you start talking to someone new, especially somebody you do not know yet, they are going to be just as cold inside their heads as you were before you psyche yourself up – making yourself ready to start that conversation. A conversation needs time to build “conversation momentum.” The problem most guys face is that don’t ever give their conversations a chance to build that “momentum.” Most guys expect to hit this “conversation flow” too quickly. And because of this the opposite effect happens… and their conversations just “stall out.” Well you have to carry the conversation. Be prepared, in the first five or so minutes, to carry the conversation by providing 90, or even sometimes 100, percent of all the content until they get warmed up a little bit How do you do that? Keep talking! Well the rule is very simple: Just keep talking.
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By taking control of the conversation right from the beginning, you allow her time to “warm up” and shift her brain from “receive mode” rather than “give mode.” In future lessons I’m going to show you exactly what tools you need to be able to do this… but for now, just know you HAVE to be prepared to talk 90% of the time for the first 5-10 minutes of your conversations….
Mistake #2: Not Recognizing the Signals a Woman is Giving To You You have to recognize the signals that women are giving to you so you know whether you have got the right kind of emotional intensity – the right energy – and whether the topics you are talking about are actually even appropriate for this point in the conversation. How do you do that? Well, you use your senses. Your eyes and your ears are your best friends. You have got to watch people’s reactions and learn to be able to read them. You have a good sense of when you are boring her, when she is excited and how she is reacting to you. You just have to make sure you pay attention. The rule of thumb is when you first start a conversation with someone or with a group of people you want to have a little bit more energy than that group had before you came in. If you get to recognize where she is at in terms of her energy level, her enthusiasm, her excitement, how her neurology is wired up and lit up, and you can pitch your own energy level to be just slightly above that, you will be sure to be a success wherever you go because you will not be too much and you will not be too little.
Mistake #3: Not Assuming Rapport Right From the Beginning For the longest time I could never understand why it took so long for me to develop rapport with women… while my friends seem to jump right into it… And then it hit me… I was waiting for rapport to happen naturally… they were assuming it.
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When you are talking to a woman, even if it’s your first time talking to her… talk to her in the same laid back way you would talk to an old friend. Most guys do the complete opposite… they talk to a woman in a “stiff, formal” way reserved for strangers…. And this just makes it more apparent that you are a STRANGER. And this puts her guard up. And this creates that uncomfortable “awkwardness” that is devastating to a conversation. By jumping right into rapport you create a more natural feeling conversation and give her the feeling of “knowing you forever.”
Mistake #4: Going into “Interview Mode” I know you’ve experienced it… talking to a woman, and feeling like you’re on a job interview. This is the dreaded “interview mode.” This happens when you don’t know what to talk about so to keep the conversation going you ask questions like: ● What do you do for a living? ● What do you do for fun? ● Where did you grow up? ● Where do you live? ● What kind of music do you like? It’s not the questions themselves that kill you… the rapid firing of question after question… and the steady stream of fact based answers that destroy any sort of “chemistry.” A conversation is supposed to fun vibing back and forth… it’s not supposed to feel like a job interview.
Mistake #5: Letting her “Lead” the Conversation Most guys are so unsure of themselves when talking to a woman that they look for the woman to give them “approval” or “permission” before they take any lead in the conversation.
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And this is DEAD wrong. The minute a woman realizes you’re looking to her to lead the conversation… her attraction instantly disappears. Most guys let the woman lead the conversation because they are scared of “pissing her off” or choosing the wrong topic… But here is the thing… Women will follow whatever tone you set for the conversation. If you set a fun, flirty vibe… she will follow. And even if she isn’t interested in the topic you’ve chose to discuss… she’ll still respect you a lot more for taking the initiative. But, how do I have a better conversations with women…?
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6 Tips to have a better conversation with women Walking up to a beautiful woman out of nowhere and introducing yourself is one of the hardest parts of being a man. In fact, it takes so much out of you that, a lot of the time, you forget the next important step of the conversation: Actually having something to talk about. Luckily, if you follow these tips you won’t have a problem maintaining a conversation with a woman.
Tip #1: Non-Verbals are Important More than anything else, non-verbal cues are what distinguish a good conversation from a bad one. If you’ve ever seen two people really hitting it off from across the bar, you can tell they’re into each other right away. It doesn’t matter if the actual discussion they’re having is about quantum physics or a debate on the value of the Earnest movies, the fact that they’re into each other is evident with how they move together. In the same way, when talking to a woman you want to make her feel comfortable and project that you’re a confident man. A great pickup artist once told me that the correct way to approach any girl in a conversation is to have it in your mind that she’s already told you that she’s going to sleep with you later that night. That way, in your head at least, there is absolutely no pressure. Since it’s going to happen anyway (in your head, remember) you can talk about anything you want and can be more comfortable. However, talking in a comfortable pose (remember: non-verbals) can often lead to that fantasy scenario actually coming true.
Tip #2: Talk about your passions Mystery, one of the greates pick-up artists, has said it in the past: “Enthusiasm breeds enthusiasm.” So if you are passionate about something, don’t be afraid to show it.
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Now, there is a fine line to take here – you don’t want to needlessly steer the conversation into the direction of your passions all the time – but if you happen to start to talk about the stock market, and that’s something you’re truly passionate about, don’t be afraid to show it. Women are always looking for men to show their emotions, and passion is one.
Tip #3: Playground mentality Go into the conversation with a “playground mentality”, as in, feel free to tell stupid jokes or give her strange high-fives here and there. By using that 3rd grade humor, you’ll get her to feel comfortable in the conversation, which is one of the most important parts. As long as you show her you’re a fun guy – no need to keep a sourpuss on your face like some emo rock star – then she’ll be more apt to want to talk to you again down the line.
Tip #4: Don’t ask too many questions While women love to talk about themselves – and the easiest way to do this is by badgering them with a bunch of questions – too much can lead to the conversation feeling like an interrogation. Instead, after she’s answered an initial question, feel free to follow that up with a statement. For example, after you ask her if she has any pets, and she mentions she has three cats, don’t go right into the question about what their names are. Once you found that out, there’s not a whole lot of places to go with the conversation. Instead, say something like “I heard that cat lovers are more inclined to be independent than dog lovers” which will open up the conversation a bit and get her to talk about herself without her feelings like you’re putting her under the hot spotlight of the interrogation room.
Tip #5: Lengthen your answers
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When she asks a bit about yourself, try to lengthen the answer a bit instead of just answering the question directly. While there’s a fine art of doing this – you don’t want to give too much away, remember, as that will take away a lot of the mystery surrounding you – it is better to give a longer answer than a shorter one in most cases. You need to remain a mystery to her! For example, if she asks you what you like, a good answer is not to say “I like baseball.” Instead, answer like this: “I like baseball because it reminds me of the time my dad spent playing catch with me in the yard, building our father-son connection.” From there, the conversation can go into all sorts of places and you’ve also shown your soft side by opening up a bit about your feelings. Win-win!
Tip #6: Use cold reads The art of cold-reading is important. In it, you use clues from either how she’s standing, what she’s wearing, or what she’s talking about to make correct assumptions about her. It’s going to take some practice, but generally speaking if you’re getting a feeling about a girl, you’re going to be right about it. For example, if she continues talking about a large amount of ex-boyfriends, tell her that she “seems like the type of girl who has a hard time settling down because she craves too much excitement out of life.” Not only will you show her that you’ve been paying attention this whole time to the conversation, but also now the conversation can once again be about her, a topic no woman doesn’t enjoy. Now, you might be still wondering: What the heck should I be talking about in a conversation with a woman I just met???
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7 Conversation Topics That Keep Her Attention, Charm Her, and Attract Her You can spend all the time you want on your looks, book reservations at the perfect restaurant or find the best bar in the area, and make all of the money you want, but when it comes to charming a woman, it all comes down to the conversation. Which is why it’s so frustrating when certain conversations seem to go nowhere, only ending up with large moments of awkward silence before the two of you go your separate ways. Have you ever experienced that…? And then you see this ugly guy leaving the bar with this very attractive girl, he just met an hour ago…. What is going on? It’s all about the conversations you have... The problem is that you are focusing on the wrong topics of conversation. Luckily, it’s an easy fix. By utilizing the following conversation topics, you’ll be able to attract women by turning good conversations into great conversations.
#1 When you were kids... No matter how old you are, your childhood will always hold a special place in your heart. By opening yourself up and letting the woman know what kind of circumstances you come from, you’ll not only show her your emotional side, but also give her a chance to relate. By opening up the floor for conversation topics about childhood, she will have her own experiences she will want to talk about, allowing her to shoulder a lot of the conversation itself.
#2 What you’re passionate about… This is the easiest topic to use for two reasons. First, it allows the woman to (once again) see your emotional side, something that will only help win her over. Second, it gives you a chance to talk about something you actually enjoy talking about!
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This will make the conversation float easily, taking the weight off of it. In the same way, after talking about your own passions, steer the conversation in the direction of hers, asking her a lot of questions about what she enjoys doing. Later on when she thinks about the conversation she had with you, she’ll remember it being a lot of fun because she was talking about what she loves. She will connect her positive emotions with you!
#3 The people surrounding you… Since this is a woman you’ve spent very little time with, you don’t have a lot of common experiences from which to draw from … except the current experience you’re having. Form a bond with her by discussing your surroundings, whether it be the type of bar you’re currently in, the food in the restaurant, or the people surrounding you. One thing I love doing whenever I’m talking with a woman is making up back stories for the various strangers surrounding us. This puts us in a collaborative mood and allows me to flex my creative side.
#4 Her ambitions… While talking about your current job and your past is all well and good, women put a lot of stock into where the man is going. But even more important than that is getting her to speak about her own future ambitions. This will, once again, steer the conversation in her direction, letting her talk about herself. Also, it will boost the emotional state of the conversation, since no one can talk about their own ambitions without getting a little bit excited about them. An emotion she will, again, link with you.
#5 Her travels... Travel is always a fun topic, but this is a part where it’s best to step back and let her talk.
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While the places you’ve traveled could be great, and you could have so many stories from your various adventures, too many of those and it looks like you’re trying too hard to impress her. Instead, start the topic off about travel and then start inquiring about her own stories. This will showcase her various passions, desires, world views, etc. which you can call back later on in the conversation.
#6 Your life lessons... While this isn’t necessarily a “topic”, it’s important to shade all of your conversations by asking yourself this question: What lesson has this taught you? By having this depth in every topic of conversation, you are not only showcasing the depth of your own thought (again, something women enjoy finding in men), but also once again spreading the branches of the conversation tree as far as they can go. Instead of just talking about this fight you got into in 5th grade (one topic) you can talk about your various feelings that were going through your mind at the time and the lessons you’ve learned from the fight (many topics). From there, the conversation will expand on its own.
#7 ...your thoughts on pop culture or current events. If worse comes to worse, use any thoughts you have on pop culture or current events to keep the conversation from falling into any awkward silences. However, don’t use this conversation topic too often or else you will come off as boring and with no depth. Avoid politics, religion or economics... Coming back to our 5 conversation mistakes, from the beginning. Do you want to know what the biggest mistake men make in regards to their conversations with women? Not getting help. Would you believe that 10 years ago it was nearly impossible to find this sort of information on improving your conversations with women? This meant that guys were forced to either struggle forever, or figure it out on their own.
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However, you have no excuse… as there is help available. Help that can change your “game” almost overnight. Even though it has been close to five years since I last struggled with this… I still know the pain you feel… I had felt it for more than two thirds of my life. And I don’t wish that pain on anyone. Now, I know that anytime, anywhere I can go out and talk to women and create attraction. This is what fueled to me to create a program about this. I asked 5 of the guys I know who are the absolute best at talking to women… to join me on this program to help create that change in you – a lot quicker than it took me. It’s jam packed with dozens and dozens of specific strategies for creating the right mindset for talking to a woman, getting “in the zone”, making her laugh, creating rapport, keeping a conversation flowing naturally, overcoming “shit tests”, dealing with guys who might be overshadowing you, and most importantly, creating attraction as you talk to her… This is arguably the most comprehensive “conversation training” you will ever receive. There is no way you can listen to this program and not come away with at least a dozen tips that will change the way you communicate with women …nearly immediately.
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