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Parent resources

IU resources

Help fight homesickness

Younger siblings and parents Q&A

IU parents through the years

Financial aid and scholarships

What the IDS recommends to bring

Words of advice for parents

What to do when visiting town

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The Orienter publication is the way we at IU Student Media welcome new students to campus. However, we also want to take this opportunity to welcome you, the parents, to the IU community through our Parents Survival Guide.

Even though they will be away at college, your sons and daughters will be relying on you. Whether it means late-night phone calls or care packages from home, they will still be counting on you. It will be a time of change for them, and we hope this guide provides you with the resources to help your children and yourself in the transition. My parents live in Plano, Texas, nearly 900 miles away from Bloomington. They can’t visit during the school year, so we are only able to be together during holiday breaks. We’re able to stay in contact as much as pos-

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sible thanks to some of the resources found in this guide. Whatever distance may separate you and your children, we promise to keep you both up-to-date about what’s going on at IU at idsnews. com and on our social media pages on Facebook and Twitter (@idsnews). Congratulations on the next step in your and your children’s lives, and welcome to Bloomington!

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Resources for keeping up with your student How parents can stay connected to the IU community, and their children, from afar You’ve packed up the car, made three extra trips to Target to pick up things you forgot and fruitlessly organized a dorm room that will be messy again within the week. Now you’re standing outside your kid’s new home, hugging them tightly one last time before you make your way back home. They promised they would call every weekend, and sometimes they do, but the conversations usually consist of, “Can I have a few bucks for groceries?” or “I forgot my basketball shoes at home, could you send them?" It’s not always easy keeping up with your college student, but there are resources available to help you stay connected to the IU community from afar. Here are a few different ways parents can keep track of student and university life in Bloomington throughout the year, without relying on your child to tell you.

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Students move into dorms across campus with the help of their parents during Welcome Week. The 2018 Welcome Week begins Wednesday, Aug. 15, with the Freshman Induction Ceremony. Residence halls and apartments open that Wednesday for students to move in.

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What better way to keep up with Sometimes bad things your kid than by actually visiting happen. Whether it’s a him or her? IU has a family weekend tornado warning or an every year, and for 2018 it’s Sept. assault near campus, 21-23. Plan your visit now by be in the know with IU reserving a hotel room (they go Notify. Just go to one. quickly) and buying extra tickets to iu.edu and search for IU Notify to that weekend’s home football game sign up. Students can also opt in for against Michigan State. these notifications to be sent via phone calls or text messages.

The Indiana Daily Student We’ll bring you the news right to your email. Sign up for our daily and weekly newsletters at idsnews.com and always know what’s going on at IU and in Bloomington. You can follow us on Instagram and Twitter @idsnews or on Facebook, and also sign up for our Facebook notifications.

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The easiest way to keep up with both people and places these days is through social media. Even if your kid won’t accept your friend request, you can still like IU on Facebook to see what the big University news is. IU also has a dedicated Facebook page for major crime and weather alerts, IU Emergency Updates.

Parents Association The Division of Student Affairs has a Parents Association to act as a bridge between you and life at IU. At the end of orientation your student should have enrolled you (or his or her other parent or guardian) as a member. Even if you’re not a member, you can still sign up for the IU Family Connection newsletter at https://provost.indiana.edu/parentresources/newsletter/index.html.

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Find the answers to your questions with IU resources There are many resources for students on campus, but plenty of organizations are there for parents, too. Here are some of the important resources.

IU Parents Association Indiana Memorial Union M088 900 E. Seventh St. 812-855-8187 parents.indiana.edu This office provides a link between parents and the IU campus. The Parents Association supports Hoosier families by keeping them updated on University policies, procedures and important calendar dates. Parents can sign up to receive the IU Family Connection newsletter via a link on the association’s website, https://provost.

indiana.edu/parentresources/newsletter/index. html. First Year Experiences Office of FYE 326 N. Jordan Ave. 812-855-4357 fye.indiana.edu This office is geared toward orienting and supporting students in their first year, but it can be a helpful resource for parents. It features a schedule of FYE events that students may be interested in. Office of the Bursar Poplars Building 400 E. Seventh St. 812-855-2636 bursar.indiana.edu Student Central on Union 408 N. Union St. 812-855-6500

https://studentcentral. indiana.edu/pay-for-college/ index.html If you’re paying the bills, the Bursar is an important contact. The office handles all University billing and payments. Student Central offers help with financial aid. Office of Admissions 940 E. Seventh Street 812-855-0661 admit.indiana.edu/parents This office’s website has information about adjusting to college, campus safety, overseas study and more. There is also a link to its parent Facebook page. Disability Services for Students Herman B Wells Library W302 1320 E. 10th St. 812-855-7578

studentaffairs.indiana.edu/ disability-services-students Parents can find information on how students can receive disability support services and other support at IU. Financial Aid 408 N. Union St. 812-855-0321 studentcentral.indiana.edu/ financial-aid The Office of Student Financial Aid can provide information about earning financial aid, getting federal loans and managing money. LGBTQ+ Culture Center 705 E. Seventh St. 812-855-4252 glbt.indiana.edu The LGBTQ+ Cultural Center is a resource for both the campus and community on news, events

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Moving away from home to a new, unfamiliar place can be difficult at first. Homesickness isn’t uncommon among college freshmen, and, when they need someone to talk to, they often turn to their parents. Here are some ways to help your student adjust to life away from home. Being there Be willing to listen to your child’s feelings and needs. Sometimes it’s nice for students to have someone familiar to talk to. They don’t always need advice, just someone who will listen. It’s important for students to talk to someone at home a few times each week, or even a few times a day, at the beginning of their freshman year of college. Keeping busy Encourage your child to stay on campus as often

as possible. This is the best way to adjust to life in a new place. This gives students the chance to hang out with friends and classmates, and not think about home. Keeping busy is always a great way to take your mind off of things that make you sad or stressed, especially during your freshman year of college. Goal-setting Help your child set goals for him or herself. This can be for the week, the semester or the entire year. It can give them a purpose and something to spend time on so their thoughts aren’t consumed by home. Enjoying alone time While making friends is an important part of adjusting to college life, it’s important for your child to also enjoy their alone time. It might help to make a list of activities they like to do outside of class, and ensure they make time for those activities during their free time.

A care package Send your student a care package – this is always a nice reminder that you’re thinking of them. Visiting campus Plan a visit to campus – you can spend a weekend exploring campus and Bloomington with your son or daughter. Check out different shops and restaurants and see what your child has been up to at IU. Additional guidance More than anything, it’s important to remember homesickness is something many new college students deal with and experience, but it’s rare for homesickness to lead to something more serious like anxiety or depression. If you notice your student’s homesickness starting to trigger symptoms of mental illness, encourage them to seek guidance from a mental health professional at IU’s Counseling and Psychological Services or through other groups.

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Q&A: Younger sibling discusses life alone at home My name is Hannah Reed and I’m the middle child in my family, which means I typically don’t have much to worry about. When my older brother, David, went away to school, I was a sophomore in high school and just shrugged it off. I knew things would change, but I still had my brother, Alex, who's two years younger than me. I always wondered what it was like for my younger brother when I left. He became the only child in the household — he had to attend family events alone and wait for us to come home for the holidays. I thought this would have been strange for him, but he claims it really wasn’t. What was it like when David left for college? How did the dynamic of the household change when it was just mom, dad, you

and me? It was hard when David left for college because he was the person I looked up to. He was the bigger brother that made smart decisions for me, and when he left for college I had to rely on myself to make those decisions. There were more chores for you and I to accomplish. What about when David and I left and were at college and it was just you? When both of you guys left for college it was completely different. There were more chores that needed to be done. I had to make my own decisions and not get a second person's input, which I used my siblings for immensely. Did mom and dad do anything to help you handle being an “only” child for

two years? Mom and dad didn’t really help me handle being an only child for two years because they didn’t have to. I was starting to become independent during that time by making my own choices and doing what was best for me. I still used my parents for some things, but I tried to do the majority of things by myself. They helped in a sense by buying me things that I needed for school or just for my social well-being. What advice would you give another person whose eldest siblings have all gone off to college? The advice that I would give to other siblings would be to not lose your head when having to do more things around the house. You want to help your parents out

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Q&A: Parents talk tuition for three kids Editor Hannah Reed spoke with her parents about the process of paying for her and her two brothers to attend college at IU. When my parents shipped me off to college, money was the last thing on my mind — and they wanted it that way. This isn’t always possible, and it’s not the case now. While my parents graciously handle my tuition and groceries, when I left the dorms after freshman year, I began paying for my rent and my utilities. I knew my parents saved up money to pay for my brothers, David and Alex, and I to go away to college because they didn’t want us to have any student loans. However, if they hadn’t decided to save up for us, they say student loans would have been the solution. I sat down to talk with my parents, Michelle

and Dave, about how they're financially managing to put three kids through IU. How have you dealt with putting three kids through college ﬁnancially? Did you come up with a plan for making payments when we all decided on IU? You guys all had a 529 savings plan that paid for a year and a half of school, which helped us out. I put a certain amount of money away every month in addition to the 529 while it was being used, so that when it ran out, we were able to have something saved. — M What would you tell parents who are worried about

how they will make tuition payments? The only thing I can say is if you can’t pay it in full, do the deferment. You have to pay the extra penalty, but there’s nothing else to do. — M Has it gotten harder as each child entered college? How have you dealt with that? It’s gotten harder, juggling the finances of having two kids in college all the time. You’re trying to spread the money out to make sure you can cover everything. And then you worry about how they’re doing grade-wise and how things are going — it got exponentially harder. Making sure our kids have

everything they need to be successful is our job. And really only two kids are in college at a time. We worry about you guys, but we know that we have all three of you in a good spot at IU. — D This is where we wanted you to be, even though it’s hard, that’s where you needed to go. We raised you to be independent and strong. When you leave the nest, even though that’s what we wanted, it’s sad, and it’s still hard. — M Our job is to make sure you have a clear path to being successful. — D And to make sure you don’t worry about money. — M What made you decide to

pay for your kids’ tuition? We didn’t want you guys to have a student loan. We wanted you to have a good start, free of loans. — M If you hadn’t saved up when we were kids, would you have still paid for our tuition? If so, how do you think you would have done it? Probably not. You probably would have had student loans. We may have helped pay them back, but it would have been a lot different. —D What has the household change been like since all the kids are at college? It’s quiet — too quiet some

days. But then you get used to it. I don’t really cook dinner anymore. — M She cooks dinner, she’s lying. —D It slowed down, we’re more worried about what we’re doing instead of always wondering where you are and what you’re doing. — D How did you make Alex more comfortable when he became an “only child”? We didn’t do anything different. Just because you only have one left doesn’t mean you stop doing what you used to do with all of them — just keep doing the same thing. You have to be consistent for your youngest. –M

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IU parents through the years

PARENTS SURVIVAL GUIDE 2018 Families share in the college experience while their students are at school.

ARBUTUS FILE PHOTO A mother straightens her daughterâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s graduation cap during the 1978 commencement ceremony while protesters demonstrate against H. Kamuzu Banda, former president of Malawi. Banda was receiving an honorary degree.

LIONEL LIM/IDS Camille Kellems, a freshman from Newport Beach, California, shares a moment with her parents before the start of the 2015 Freshman Induction Ceremony.

ARBUTUS FILE PHOTO Hoosier football players crash through a banner commemorating Parents Day celebrations in 1977.

Teter senior Caitlin Van Kooten hugs her parents, Mary and Rick, after winning the womenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Little 500 race on April 15, 2011, at Bill Armstrong Stadium. BRUCE CARVER/ARBUTUS

IU ARCHIVES A Filipino mother and daughter prepare to graduate together in 1950.

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IDS FILE PHOTO Randy Cole helps his children, Natalie and Alex, and their friend, Adam Ramsey, move in before classes start in 2010.

ARBUTUS FILE PHOTO IU President Herman B Wells greets parents during a Founders Day celebration in 1961. The event marked the 141st anniversary of the University.

IDS FILE PHOTO Kim Davis, mother of an incoming freshman, shakes the hand of the Herman B Wells statue during an orientation tour in 2010. Davis said she did so to provide her son with “academic success in his coming years at Indiana.” Wells was a long-time, much-admired president and chancellor at IU. It’s a tradition to shake hands with his statue for good luck.

ARBUTUS FILE PHOTO Junior Mike Serenco points out Ballantine Hall to prospective students and their parents during a tour in 1994.

IU ARCHIVES Students and their fathers gather for Dad’s Day at the Chi Omega sorority in 1948.

Graduate Latroy Hampton hugs his mother, Eunice Foley, following spring commencement on May 8, 2010, at Assembly Hall. BRUCE CARVER/ARBUTUS

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Helping students with the financial aid process Making the money work for school can sometimes be hard. Even after finding ways to pay, you still might miss an important step in the set-up process. We spoke to Jackie Kennedy-Fletcher, the director of the office of student financial assistance, to help your student successfully find and keep financial aid. Papers, papers everywhere Applying to college comes with a long paper trail, but some are more important than others. Kennedy-Fletcher stressed the financial reward letter and packet is of utmost importance. You should have received this letter sometime in March. She recommends students and parents carefully read the letter and make sure they have enough

funding to cover IU. The letter includes for how much financial aid their student qualifies, how much it costs to attend IU and the leftover amount parents and students will have to pay. The letter comes in a packet with information on financial aid definitions and a guide on how to receive more financial aid. Finally, any emails or letters from the Office of the Bursar or Student Central are important for parents to read over carefully because they often require some sort of action, Kennedy-Fletcher said. Need more money? If your student didn’t receive enough financial aid to cover school and you don’t have enough to cover the bill, there are a few options. Students

and parents can apply for additional student loans or private loans. However, Kennedy-Fletcher warns parents to highly consider how much loan debt they and/or their child is willing to take on. She encourages parents and students to look into other sources of money such as employment or additional scholarships. Student Central on Union can also help advise parents and students about their best financial options. It also provides information about student and private loan options on its website under the financial aid tab, at studentcentral.indiana.edu Impending deadlines Another key aspect of financial aid is making sure you pay by the right date. Not paying on time can result in late fees. Eventually,

if the payments aren’t made, the university can put a hold on your student’s records and prevent them from enrolling in the next semester. First, it is highly recommended students apply for financial aid before March 10. This ensures you will get the most possible funding. If your student hasn’t applied yet, he or she still can, but funds are limited. The financial aid application must be filled out each year and for the 2018-19 academic year the application will be open sometime in October. The next big deadline for payments will be for the first tuition and room and board payment. This will be billed to your student’s bursar account in late August and will be due Sept. 10. All bursar bills are due the 10th

of the month. For example, if your student visits the health center in October, the bill will likely be due Nov. 10. If the payment can’t be made, students and parents can also set up a payment plan, which would change dates that payments are due. To set up a payment plan, call Student Central for help at (812) 855-6500. Deadlines are another important reason to stay on top of emails and letters, because many of the actions required will have deadlines that could have bad consequences if not met on time. Keeping tabs Finally, and possibly most importantly, parents should have their student set them up as a third party user on their bursar account. This allows parents to monitor

activity and track financial aid progress. It will also send the parents email alerts of bill payments and grades to parents upon request. To sign up as a third party user, follow the instructions below. Log in to One.IU. Read FERPA disclosure agreement (only presented first time you access page). Click I accept. Provide a username, password and first and last names for your user. Note: password must be at least eight characters, contain one number and is case sensitive. Click Bursar Balances and Bills box. Enter Third party user’s email address; confirm address by entering again. Click Save user.

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Lessen the burden If you’re considering taking out loans to help pay for school, check out these scholarships.

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The Hudson and Holland Scholars Program This program is mainly for incoming freshmen, but does offer limited spots for first- and second-year students as well as transfer students. Due date: TBA, likely early March 2019 Eligibility: This program is open to all students, but consideration is given to students with underrepresented minority backgrounds. Students typically need a 3.5 GPA to be competitive. Hutton Honors College The Hutton Honors College only awards scholarships to incoming freshmen who are accepted into the college, but its grant program is open to anyone. The college offers grants for research, thesis work, capstone projects, internships, travel and more. Due date: Varies because grants are given on a semester

basis. Check out its website at https://hutton.indiana.edu/ index.html. Eligibility: Maintain a 3.4 overall GPA and a 3.7 GPA within your major. Cox Scholars Program Many of the Cox Scholars scholarships are only for incoming freshmen as well, but your student can still apply to be a Cox Legacy Scholar throughout their time at IU.

scholarships to students at IU are offered. Any student can get up to two academic and emergency scholarships each. The academic scholarship is up to $1,000 per scholarship, and the emergency up to $1,500 per scholarship.

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Due date: Academic scholarships can be applied for between October and March through one.iu. Emergency scholarships can be applied for at any time.

Eligibility: This scholarship is mainly based on having a job. Students must earn at least 25 percent of the official cost of attendance at IU. They must have a 3.0 GPA and classify as an Indiana resident. You must also file for FAFSA by March 10 of the upcoming year.

Eligibility: The academic scholarship is awarded to those who can demonstrate involvement in activities promoting diversity and raising awareness of LGBTQ+ and related issues. The emergency scholarship is awarded to those who have lost financial support for being open about their sexual orientation.

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For more scholarship info, visit scholarships.indiana.edu, or search scholarships at one.iu.edu.

Due Date: March 1, 2019. Priority deadline February 1.

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WHAT THE IDS RECOMMENDS Students moving into apartments and dorm rooms have a limited amount of space to decorate and store their stuff. Luckily, the IDS has put together a list of the things they will need the most while at IU.

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Trash bags (2 boxes) Extra trash can Tissues (3 boxes) Command hooks and strips Address book, stamps Stacking drawers/milk crates Laundry detergent, fabric softener Laundry basket (2) Clothes: casual, exercise, nightwear, 1 set business casual Hangers Paper towels Napkins Mini sewing kit, safety pins Twin XL bedding (2) Pillows (2), pillowcases (4) Foam mattress pad Comforter/bedspread Towels (bath, hand, face)

Highlighter pens Shower shoes Stapler, staples Shower caddy Laptop Shampoo and Surge protector conditioner Extension cords Hairstyling products Extra light bulbs (2) Bath and facial soap Mini toolkit Toothpaste and Cold medicine, vitamins, toothbrush cough drops Dental floss Band-Aids Comb/brush Heating pad/ hot Tweezers water bottle Nail clippers Ceramic dishes for Hair dryer/straightener microwave Razor and shaving Refillable water bottle cream Water filter pitcher Lotion and/or facial Silverware (1 set) Moisturizer Umbrella (2) Cotton swabs Check with roommate ﬁrst: Alarm clock Coffeemaker/Microwave Homework planner Small refrigerator Sticky notes Paper clips, binder clips Area rug Posters, room décor Rubber bands TV Tape (Scotch, Duct) Video game systems Scissors

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Words of advice for parents The IDS spoke with some of the most important leaders on campus to ask about the advice they would give to parents of incoming students. Nancy Stockton — Director of Counseling and Psychological Services “2018 is an exceptionally tough time to be a parent letting go of a child. We so want them to get a good education, enabling them to meet the intense challenges of our complex world. It is imperative that we remind ourselves that we did our best, that they will undoubtedly survive our inevitable parenting mistakes. Try to reach out to others to ﬁnd that balance between letting go, allowing them to make their own mistakes, then learn from them AND at the same time provide them the love and support that they still need.”

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SO COME OUT AND PLAY! All IU students with a valid ID have access to RS facilities and programs. You’ve already paid your student activity fee–now enjoy the benefits: • Two Facilities–SRSC & WIC provide unlimited options! • 80+ weekly group exercise sessions • Multiple cardio/circuit & strength gyms • Two recreational swimming pools • Racquetball/squash/wallyball courts • Basketball & volleyball courts • Walking/jogging/running track

Idalene Fay Kesner — Dean of the Kelley School of Business “While there are important times to be involved in your student’s college experience, it’s also important to step back and let them handle certain challenges on their own. This is a very important part of the college maturation process. By encouraging their students to tackle key decisions, parents will prepare their children to be independent thinkers and problem solvers, which in turn sets them up for even more success in the future.”

Doug Bauder — Director of the LGBTQ+ Culture Center “Parents, are you worried that your son or daughter may be harassed on campus if they identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender? Are you worried that your daughter or son may discover that their sexual orientation or gender identity is different from what you assume it to be? The LGBTQ+ Culture Center will be there for you or your daughter or son. Check out our web page, https://lgbtq.indiana.edu, or call us at 812-855-4252 for support or information.”

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WILDERMUTH INTRAMURAL CENTER (WIC) • Cardio/circuit and strength gyms • 9 racquetball/wallyball courts, squash courts & table tennis • 10 basketball/volleyball courts • Royer pool and diving well • Indoor walking/jogging/running track • Two multipurpose gyms • Open use dance studio

Rabbi Sue Silberberg — Executive Director of the Helene G. Simon Hillel Center “Dear Parents, you are about to embark on a very exciting journey with your student. IU is a fantastic university. Your student will learn much in the classroom experiences, but even more from the life lessons and experiences gained outside the classroom. They will always look to you for guidance, advice and support. Be there for them to celebrate their successes, and to catch them and help them navigate their failures. Most importantly, continue to guide them as they take this next very important step in their lives. Congratulations!”

• Group Exercise/Yoga & Pilates Studio • Free equipment check-out

STUDENT RECREATIONAL SPORTS CENTER (SRSC) • Cardio/circuit and strength gyms • More-private strength & cardio studios

James C. Wimbush— Vice President for Diversity, Equity, and Multicultural Affairs “To the parents and guardians of incoming students, congratulations! As your children begin to acquaint themselves with Indiana University, I’m certain you’ll experience a rush of emotions. This is an exciting time. It’s only natural to feel thankful, joyous and enthusiastic, as well as fearful, heavyhearted and anxious when you say goodbye and let your children embark on this new journey. Though there will be ups and downs throughout the academic year, know that all students are supported and encouraged to broaden their horizons and do their best work while at IU.”

• Seven racquetball/wallyball courts, two squash courts, & table tennis • Five basketball/volleyball courts • Two multipurpose gyms • The Counsilman/Billingsley Aquatic Center (Olympic-sized pool/diving well) • Indoor walking/jogging/running track • Free equipment check-out

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Places to eat and stay when visiting campus should check out during their time in Bloomington.

By Murphy Wheeler jonmwhee@iu.edu | @murph_wheelerIU

Bloomington has a number of options when it comes to where to stay and where to eat when visiting your student. Luckily, many of the most popular choices are on or close to campus, making life easier for everybody. Treat yourselves to Bloomington’s vast selection of food, ranging from American eats to international fare, while also staying at some of the city’s nicest lodging destinations. We asked the IU Visitor Information Center and the Bloomington Visitors Center for some recommendations about what visiting parents

Where to stay: Indiana Memorial Union Biddle Hotel According to the IU Visitor Information Center, the Biddle Hotel provides an excellent place for parents to stay on campus. The Biddle Hotel is located inside the Indiana Memorial Union.

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Marriott and the Hyatt Place are all options to choose from. Where to eat: FARMbloomington Farm is a go-to choice for brunch. It couples an upscale rustic atmosphere with quality food, and is located on Kirkwood Ave. It can get busy during parents weekend, so reservations are

recommended. Village Deli Another classic breakfast destination on Kirkwood is the Village Deli. They aren’t open late (only until 6 p.m.), but they do serve lunch. Some of the popular breakfast selections feature ginormous pancakes, farm fresh eggs, breakfast burri-

tos, homemade granola and more. Nick’s One of Bloomington’s most well-known locations is Nick’s English Hut. It’s become a Bloomington tradition for many to stop by the storied restaurant on Kirkwood, which has been around since 1927. Their

menu features everything from burgers to sandwiches and strombolis. Siam House If you’re more interested in international fare, Siam House is one of Bloomington’s best options. Located on Fourth Street, Siam House mixes Thai cuisine with friendly service.

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What to have delivered to your student THINK TWICE BEFORE SENDING THESE Decorations/knick-knacks Although additional accessories or holiday décor might seem like a cute idea, it becomes a bit of a hassle when its use is worn out, and it can end up taking up more storage or space in an already small dorm room. Coffee All academic building cafes and campus C-stores have fresh brewed coffee for purchase with meal points. Febreze You might be afraid your

student’s not doing laundry, but Febreze is sold in the C-stores, too. They also sell detergent, dryer sheets, bleach and other cleaning supplies students would likely need. Try instead Tide-to-Go pens for stains, or a bottle of your student’s favorite cologne or perfume. Deck of cards You guessed it — sold in the C-stores. Try instead Uno, Catch Phrase or Cards Against Humanity.

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Instant Food Items While you might have visions of your student surviving off Ramen noodles and Easy Mac, there’s no need to send these. They’re available for purchase with meal points from the campus C-stores. Try instead Baked goods or Goldfish crackers. Remember perishable foods may take some time to arrive, so choose the fastest shipping possible.

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