The big move: it’s a family affair

A guide to handling the transition to a retirement village as seamlessly as possible, and with sensitivity

AS OUR parents age, their housing needs may change. Some may decide to age in place and that will take modifications to their home. Others may decide to transition to a retirement village with care facilities that can provide a safe and supportive environment. This decision requires careful planning and consideration to ensure a smooth transition. A comprehensive plan for children to consider:

Initiate open and honest conversations: Before making any decisions, have open and honest conversations with your parents about their wishes, concerns and expectations. Respect their autonomy and involve them in the decision-making process as much as possible. Understanding their preferences and priorities will help you find a retirement village that aligns with their needs.

Research and visit multiple retirement villages: Conduct thorough research on retirement villages in South Africa that offer care facilities. Consider factors such as location, amenities, available health-care services, staff qualifications and the overall atmosphere of the community. Visit multiple villages to assess their suitability and involve your parents in the decision-making process.

Evaluate care services and facilities: Carefully assess the care services and facilities offered by each retirement village. Consider the level of care your parents require now and in the future, such as assisted living, nursing care, memory care or specialised medical services. Ensure that the retirement village can meet their evolving needs and provide a comfortable living environment.

Review financial considerations: Understand the financial implications of placing your parents in a retirement village. Evaluate the costs associated with accommodation, care services, meals and other amenities. Review the payment structures, including entrance fees, monthly fees and any potential increases over time. Consult a financial adviser to ensure you have a clear understanding of the financial commitments involved.

Involve legal and medical professionals: Engage legal and medical professionals to assist you throughout the process. Seek advice from an attorney specialising in elder law to review contracts and ensure legal protection. Consult your parents’ health-care professionals to assess their medical needs and obtain the necessary medical records for the retirement village.

Plan the transition and moving process: Develop a comprehensive plan for the transition and moving process. Determine the timeline for moving; co-ordinate logistics such as decluttering, selling stuff, downsizing, packing, transportation and storage if necessary. Ensure that your parents’ belongings are handled with care and consider their emotional well-being during this significant life change.

Foster emotional support: Recognise that transitioning to a retirement village can be emotionally challenging for your parents. Offer reassurance, understanding and empathy throughout the process. Encourage them to connect with other residents and participate in activities to foster a sense of belonging within the retirement village community.

Continual communication and involvement: Remain in contact with your parents after they move to the retirement village. Regularly visit, communicate and participate in their lives in order to maintain a strong bond. Attend family events and encourage them to maintain connections with friends and family outside the retirement village.

Advocate for their well-being: Act as an advocate for your parents within the retirement village. Establish open lines of communication with the staff, address any concerns promptly and ensure that their needs are being met. Regularly assess their satisfaction with the care and services provided and address any issues that arise.

Review and adjust as needed: Regularly review the decision to place your parents in a retirement village and make adjustments if necessary. Remain involved in their care and wellbeing, assess their changing needs and consider if additional support or care is required. Regularly communicate with your parents and the retirement village staff to ensure their happiness and quality of life.

Staff Reporter