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I have a really good long-term memory. Some of the memories are food-based: I remember ice cream cones I had decades ago; I remember eating rock candy shaped like actual rocks. Some are funny: I remember laughing uproariously during a birthday party held at the Cincinnati Zoo; we watched an African elephant nonchalantly relieve itself in front of the group of assembled 3-yearolds. The elephant might have gone on to meet his great reward; this was, after all, 36 years ago. I’m sad to say that the happy memories are in the minority. Like a cup of high-protein yogurt for breakfast, it’s the bad memories that tend to stick with you. Studies have shown that negative
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emotions are more heavily weighted than positive ones, and as psychologist Dawn Doup-Pandit explains in our feature on kindness (page 22), it can take 10 positive interactions to counter one bad interaction. I’m even sadder to say that sometimes those bad memories can keep me — well, us — from fully loving ourselves. The memory is a sticky, cloudy web of PostIt notes, sweet tastes and tears. You may walk through the corridors of your memory with a slab
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of delicious birthday cake in one hand, but what you see might make you lose your appetite. I, for example, might be tapping away on a story when I remember a lush, gorgeous early springtime day during my freshman year of college. I was a bass player in the orchestra, and always the overachiever, I’d gained 40 pounds (take that, freshman 15). Late for rehearsal, I got stuck with a shaky stool that was already falling apart. With several loud cracks, the stool broke midway through rehearsal, in front of the entire orchestra, the director and the cellist on whom I had a crush. Sometimes those bad memories collect into a boulder. Catch me on certain days, and I feel I’m liable to be squashed by all the dumb things I’ve said and done over the 39 years of my life. And believe me, there’s been a lot of dumb stuff. Give me a couple of minutes and I can remember it all for you. But here’s where reason and kindness can come in like twin angels. When a bad memory comes
up, stare it down and recognize it for what it is: a crummy thing that happened, an occurrence that I cannot change and an event that is amplified in my mind alone. No one else cares about this thing that happened, and though the event may have shaped who you are now, it likely won’t have any bearing on your future. Then there is kindness, the other angel to sit on your shoulder. Kindness helps you laugh at the bad memory; after all, a boogeyman isn’t so scary when you’re laughing at it. Kindness reminds you that every human has bad days. Kindness nudges you toward forgiveness and self-love. That is what I wish for all of us, during this month and any months going forward.
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24 Hours in a Day
Things to Do
Compiled by Jenny Elig Book Reviews by Jodi Prather Diet Tips by Harriet Armstrong
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Cue the confetti: For the first time ever, the entire library of beloved ’80s sitcom “Golden Girls” episodes are available to stream in one spot. You’ll find Blanche, Rose, Dorothy and Sophia on Hulu.
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Love food? Love cooking shows? Get ready to bingewatch season three of “Chef’s Table,” available to watch Feb. 17 on Netflix.
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What do bananas, cantaloupe, carrots, milk, peaches, tomatoes, tuna, sweet potatoes and yogurt all have in common? Potassium. It is great for your heart, helps lower blood pressure and reduces the risk of kidney stones and bone loss, according to Harriet Armstrong, Purdue Extension educator.
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Want to round out your grocery shopping experience? Check out the Columbus City Winter Farmers Market, 9:30 a.m. to 12:30 p.m. Saturdays through April 15 at Fair Oaks Mall.
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Try a new drink: Our friends at Sparkling Ice have recipes on lock, with offerings such as Grapefruit Rosemary and Grape Vanilla Mocktail. You can find them at sparklingice.com/recipes.
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In 1994, “Invasion of the Body Snatchers” was selected for preservation by the U.S. National Film Registry. You can watch it at Classic Movie Matinee, 2 to 3:30 p.m. Feb. 25 at Bartholomew County Public Library. Information: (812) 3791266 and mybcpl.org.
If your kids are into painting or drawing or ducks, have them check out the Junior Duck Stamp Contest, fws.gov/ juniorduck, running now through March 15. Entries are culled from around the country; the winner is featured on the $5 Junior Duck Stamp.
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Listen to a podcast: Host Kate Hendricks discusses TV shows, etiquette and human relationships on her weekly show, “Good on Paper.”
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“Two Days Gone” by Randall Silvis tells the story of a horrific crime. What would cause a well-respected professor and best-selling author to brutally murder his entire family? That’s the question posed in this book, currently available for checkout at Bartholomew County Public Library.
Warm up your pitching arm for “Throw Down,” the fourth annual Corn Hole Tournament to benefit Reins to Recovery Therapeutic Riding Center. It is set for 11:30 a.m. Feb. 25 at Southwest Volunteer Fire Department and Community Center, 8500 S. State Road 58. Information: (812) 350-4864.
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Take in some art at “Mud and Fire,” featured through Feb. 24 at Indiana University Center for Art and Design. Information: (812) 375-7550 or iucadmai@indiana.edu.
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Hop in the car and head to Bloomington. Cardinal Spirits, B-town’s craft distillery, is hosting New York-based master spice blender Lior Lev Sercarz March 1 and 2 for two spiceblending events and an extraordinary spice dinner. Information: cardinalspirits.com/spicecamp.
First Fridays for Families continues with “Spaghetti in a Hot Dog Bun,” 6 p.m. March 3 at The Commons.
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Put it on the calendar: March 8 is International Women’s Day. How will you celebrate?
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Covergirl’s BeautyU app lets you engage with this classic brand in a new way. Watch how-to videos, check out product recommendations and try a real-time face scan, all through this free app.
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Catch Judy Kuhn live during the Columbus Indiana Philharmonic’s Cabaret at the Commons Series, 7:30 p.m. March 9.
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The philharmonic continues its 30th season at 7:30 p.m. April 1 with Mendelssohn’s “Elijah,” featuring the Philharmonic Chorus.
read a book
“Setting Free the Kites,” by Alex George, is a poignant coming-of-age story rich in atmosphere and emotion. George explores the nature of grief, the persistence of the human spirit and ultimately brings the reader to a full realization of the power of hope. It’s available at Bartholomew County Public Library.
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Have some “Adventures in Great Music” with the Columbus Symphony Orchestra. Scheduled: “Hometown Talent,” 3:30 p.m. March 5, The Commons.
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Columbus City Band welcomes spring with its annual Spring Concert, 2 p.m. April 9 at The Commons.
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Check out AchieveMint, a fitness tracking app that rewards you for your fitness accomplishments. Earn 10,000 points and AchieveMint pays you $10.
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Want a glimpse of Hope’s history? Visit Yellow Trail Museum, on the west side of Hope Town Square at 644 Main St. Information: (812) 371-7969.
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Check out works by the 67th Street Printmakers, including local artists, at “Favorable Impressions,” showing at the Columbus Learning Center. The show runs through April 18. Information: 67thstreetprintmakers.org, (812) 314-8509.
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If you’re heading to Indy, check out the Indianapolis Museum of Art’s familyfriendly beer garden, open April 1 to May 31. The grounds feature crimson tulips, golden daffodils, purple hyacinths and the rare exotic Himalayan blue poppy, and visitors can purchase snacks and root beer and explore the gardens with refreshments in hand.
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» community
D-Vine Winter Wine and Beer Fest When
1 to 7 p.m. March 4 Where
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To drink is human;
to quaff is D-Vine Sample drinks from your favorite regional wineries and breweries during the ninth annual D-Vine Winter Wine and Beer Fest. This year’s event, which benefits Developmental Services Inc., has a new addition: hard liquor. D-Vine, which in years past has drawn more than 800 people, is a 21-and-over event. Attendees get a commemorative wine or beer glass for sampling; snacks will be available for purchase. Participating wineries, breweries and distilleries are Salt Creek Brewery, Buck Creek Winery, Huber’s Distillery, Best Vineyards, Huber’s Orchard Winery, Cedar Creek Winery, Mallow Run Winery, Winzerwald Winery, Ertel Winery, Bear Wallow Distillery, Chateau Thomas, Indiana City Beer, Butler Winery and Vineyards, Simmons Winery, 450 Brewing and Harmony Winery.
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No matter how you like your bourbon, it’s the celebrated and titular drink of the Columbus Indiana Philharmonic’s newest fundraiser, Bourbonfest. The event, in its inaugural year, will feature tastings from a variety of breweries, including flavors by Jim Beam, Brown-Forman, Heaven Hill, Four Roses, Evan Williams and Bear Bourbonfest Wallow Distillery. Each ticket gets When 3 to 6 p.m. Feb. 18, you a commemogeneral admission; 2 rative glass and 10 p.m. VIP early access bourbon samples. WherE Not into bourbon? The Commons Don’t despair, as Tickets event hosts will be $30 general, $50 serving a selection VIP and $15 for of local brews, too. nondrinkers And there will be Information food: Check out thecip.org/ the bourbon ball bourbonfest marshmallows from 240sweet, as well as a selection of food from local restaurants. The evening is shaken up with live music performed by The Tiptonians and an after-party at The Garage Pub & Grill.
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Heavy Metal Awesome alloys shine for day and night
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Stone bracelet, $32, Minash Boutique; link bracelet, $195,and leather bracelets, $28, Baker’s Fine Gifts; beaded bracelet, $36, Lockett’s Ladies Shop; hair-tie holder bracelets, $45, Baker’s.
Unless you’re a fabricator or a foundry worker, you may take metal for granted. But when we look at this material’s properties, we might develop a new respect for it. Here’s a quick science lesson: Metal is reflective; this factor draws the eye. Metal conducts electricity and heat; don’t you want to be shocking and hot? Lucky for all of us, local shops are brimming with silvery selections, golden goodies and bronzed buys. 10 She Magazine // February 2017
Shirt, $84, Lockett’s; shoes, $42, Lockett’s; leggings, $20, Studio Shag
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Dress, $64, Minash; clutch, $25, Studio Shag; bracelets/hair-tie holders, $45, Baker’s; shoes, $42, Lockett’s 12 She Magazine // February 2017
Scarf, $49, Baker’s; clutch, $54, Lockett’s; pendants, $10-$20, Garb2Art
Where we shopped Baker’s Fine Gifts & Accessories, 433 Washington St., (812) 372-9635, on Facebook at Baker’s Fine Gifts and Accessories Garb2Art, 927 Washington St., (812) 344-0203, on Facebook at garb2ART
Lockett’s Ladies Shop, 426 Washington St., (812) 376-8363, lockettsladiesshop.com Minash Boutique, 915 Washington St., (812) 799-7915, minashboutique.com Studio Shag, 3780 W. Jonathan Moore Pike, (812) 799-1389, on Facebook at Studio Shag Columbus February 2017 // She Magazine 13
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I love digging through photos from various fashion weeks around the globe. When you are looking at fashion week photos, be it Mercedes-Benz New York Fashion Week or Milan Fashion Week or a peek at Paris runways, you get to see some experimental fashion the likes of which you’ll never see in real life. I also get loads of inspiration from various fashion weeks. Most of the pieces shown on the runway are a bit out of my price range, so I have to be a little bit resourceful if I want to have a bit of high fashion for myself. Here are some looks you can craft at home, all of them inspired by the spring fashion weeks of 2017.
The future’s so bright
Band of gold
At Milan Fashion Week, Dolce & Gabbana showed a collection inspired by a pastiche of colors and textures and icons. All of the items were highly covetable, but a standout for us was D&G’s embellished gold sunglasses. Undoubtedly, those glasses have at least a three-figure price tag, so we decided to make our own.
Proenza Schouler featured squiggle letters painted in black on each fingernail; Thom Browne’s runway show featured nails painted in separate pastels and soft browns. But of all the glammed-up statement nails, it was Rodarte’s cuticle jewelry that truly captured our imagination. The look is cunningly simple, featuring nude nails with a measured swipe of glittery gold right at the cuticle. You can recreate this elegant look, originally done by Morgan Taylor Lacquer lead artist Tracylee, with the following steps.
What you need Sunglasses
Buttons or flat-back embellishments Adhesive
Painter’s tape
Gold nail polish To make Glue the buttons or flat-back embellishments to the top edge of your sunglasses. Allow the glue to dry, then, using painter’s tape, block off the lenses as you paint the glasses with gold nail polish. Allow this to dry, then hit with polish any places you missed. Peel off the painter’s tape. If you got any polish on the lenses, you can remove it with a Q-tip and non-acetone nail polish remover.
What you need Top coat (we like Seche Vite Dry Fast Top Coat) Gold glitter
Instructions Manicure your nails. Tracylee worked her magic on shorter nails, but we’ll leave it up to you. Apply a thin half-moon of top coat at base of your nail. Apply gold, chunky glitter to that half nail. Use a cuticle stick to arrange the glitter into a thin crescent. Be safe, not sorry and apply a clear top coat once the gold strip is dry.
One earring to rule them all If this season is about one thing, it’s about big, honking statement earrings. Or earring, singular. This earring can grace the top of your shoulders, and you wear just one (in your other ear, you wear a complementary, lesslarge earring). This earring, which is incredibly simple to craft, was inspired by a piece by Sachin and Bibi. What you need 6-inch iron-on applique flower Fish-hook earring post To make Carefully remove applique from package. Using needle-nose pliers, open the bottom circle of your earring post. At one end, push the earring holder through the applique and close the earring around the fabric. You’re ready to go.
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» first comes love
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If there’s ever a ritual where tradition reigns, a wedding is it. Even if the couple chooses to buck the customs and elope or the bride wears something besides a white dress, the process is still the same: Each person says vows, someone has to officiate the ceremony and a marriage certificate is signed by witnesses. But weddings have changed quite a bit over the years. While some traditions remain, others gave way to more modern trends, whether that’s through bridal fashion or ceremonial music. I love it when a couple add their own twists to their marriage ceremony. I firmly believe the most important part of a wedding is that it stays true to the couple getting married. And in the spirit of staying true, there are a few wedding traditions and trends that I will not be including in my wedding and others that I want to fall out of style altogether. The unity candle (same goes for mixing sand): I don’t know what’s more unifying than a wedding. We’re getting married. We don’t need to light a candle on top of that.
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Flower girls and ring bearers: This one comes with a caveat. While I will not be having children in my wedding party, if you do choose to include them, make sure they’re old enough to understand what they’re doing. There’s nothing cute about a screaming toddler refusing to go down the aisle (or running down crying, as I’ve seen before). The bouquet toss: As a woman who spent many weddings being shoved onto the floor because I was single, I consider this one to be slightly humiliating. Take my lead and present your toss bouquet to a significant person in your life instead. Those annoying games: OK, so this one isn’t exactly about the wedding, but I know I’m not the only person who cannot stand playing stupid games at showers. The only game that’s ever been enjoyable has been the one I haven’t had to play. The shower organizer set a timer to go off randomly when the bride-to-be started opening gifts. Whoever bought the gift she was opening when the timer went off got a little present.
If you insist on playing games at a shower, choose this one. But there are a few new trends and traditions that I am embracing as a bride. Hashtags: Couples often use their new last name (#HappilyEverSmith, for instance) to create a unique hashtag for Facebook or Instagram. Forget photo booths; hashtags are an easy way for your guests to post pictures to social media and make sure you see them. I used a few of the wedding hashtag generators I found on the web (yes, they really exist) before coming up with my own hashtag. Anything but white: A long time ago, I seriously considered wearing a black
wedding dress. Designers have embraced the colorful trend with vigor, and I love how lots of dresses come in colors other than white. Meeting at the altar: Although having a “first look” together before the wedding has become popular, my groom and I won’t see each other until the church doors open and I walk down the aisle holding my dad’s arm. To me, it’s the traditions that make each wedding so special. No matter who you are or how you get married, every wedding is unified in the ritual of two people coming together and committing to sharing their lives with each other.
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mellow yellow Cheery color is making a comeback in a variety of shades
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Gorgeous shades of yellow have become increaasingly popular in home decor, a trend that seems set to continue this year. Yellow is prominent in the Sherwin-Williams color forecast for 2017, while Pantone describes its new “color of the year,” called Greenery, as “a fresh and zesty yellow-green.” “We haven’t seen yellow this popular since the ’80s,” says New York-based interior designer Young Huh. And in the months to come, she says, “we will see more and more of it as accent colors and as whole room colors.” But while yellow is having a moment, many shades of it can be challenging to use successfully. We’ve asked Huh and two other design experts — Florida-based interior designer Andrew Howard and Kayla Kitts, managing editor of special projects for HGTV. com — to share tips on using this sunny, cheerful color.
Where to use it A recent report by Zillow Digs found that homes with white-painted kitchens sell for $1,400 less than homes with yellow kitchens. If yellow walls seem like too big a leap, Howard suggests using yellow for upholstery and pillows or for kitchen cabinets. In addition to kitchens, Huh says yellow is catching on for entries and hallways “because it makes these utilitarian spaces cheerful.” In hallways, it adds a sense of sunshine in a space with little natural light. Kitts suggests using yellow in “small, more compact spaces that you’re looking to make larger,” like a powder room. She also says you might want to reject some conventional wisdom that yellow is too bright and busy for a bedroom, especially if it doubles as a home office. A warm yellow can energize the space, while still feeling relaxing. “The trick with yellow is that most
people don’t even know they like it until they see it in a space,” says Howard. “Don’t be afraid to go big. I once painted an entire laundry room yellow, and everyone that sees it loves it.” Favorite shades Yellow is “such a fresh color and instantly adds life to any space you use it in,” says Howard. He suggests starting with a primary yellow and then bringing in other colors for balance: “A room that is yellow by itself will get overwhelming. It needs a blue or green or even a lavender to cool it down a bit.” Kitts and Huh are both fans of more citrusy yellows, and even chartreuse. “I especially like Pantone’s primrose yellow because, like the color of the year, Greenery, there is an acid element which makes the color more exciting and edgy,” says Huh. “It’s a color we see in nature, but in an electric way. This is
not your grandma’s yellow. It’s fashion forward and forward thinking.” These colors look great paired with gray or blue shades. “Pale yellow is also a wonderful ground color for extravagant colorful prints,” says Huh. Even in its softer incarnations, “it evokes hope, sunshine and brightness.” Kitts agrees: “Buttery shades are really great for adding a warm glow and making a space feel cozy.” In rooms that get a lot of natural sunlight, she says, even more neutral yellows like corn silk will offer that optimistic energy that characterizes yellow. Challenges No shade of yellow is impossible to use, but do choose with care. Kitts says that if you’ll be painting walls yellow, test a shade and view it throughout the day to see how it changes in different types of natural light and with different lamps. You might have to live with a sample of a bright, lemon yellow for a few weeks to make sure it’s something you want long term. Yet
going with paler yellows isn’t always a safer bet. “Yellow can be tricky, because if it is too pale and the room it is in is relatively dark or gets cool, north-facing light, the color will look dingy rather than cheerful or calming,” says Huh. “In England, where the weather can be drab, period rooms are painted bright yellows. Nancy Lancaster’s famous yellow drawing room is perhaps the greatest and most popular example of a striking yellow room.” Contrast can also help: “Yellow needs to be paired with a cooler color to have it work effectively,” says Howard. “It cannot be the only color in a room.” So take time to choose shades that delight you. “The yellows that are trending now are the ones that are not pure yellows, but tertiary colors,” says Huh. “These are not classic yellows that you may have seen in the past. They’re either refreshing or deep moody yellow and will inspire more emotion than a pure yellow. Because of this, we’ll see these yellows in smaller moments, accents such as contrast pillows or on one upholstered chair in a room.” Despite its challenges, yellow is an easy color to love, says Howard. “In the last couple of years we remembered how much we always loved it,” he says. “I am really excited to see it popping up more and more, and hope that it’s not a trend but a permanent fixture in how we decorate.” February 2017 // She Magazine 19
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By Kelli Kennedy, Associated Press
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ust because it’s too cold for your normal three-mile outdoor run doesn’t mean the treadmill has to be a monotonous exercise in staring at a blank wall. Los Angeles-based trainers Jeanette Jenkins and Massy Arias offer the following tips for getting out of the treadmill rut. Vary the speed and incline, add arm weights and use the treadmill when it’s not running for circuit training moves. Massy Arias has more than 2 million Instagram followers, offering various moves and inspirational messages on how working out has helped heal her de-
pression. And even though she’s nearly eight months pregnant, she’s still doing some seriously hard-core workouts. “Treadmills don’t have to be boring and don’t need to keep you stagnant,” Arias says. “If you are creative, you can turn your steady cardio run into effective workouts that can push even the most advanced athletes.” Speed training Sprinting can be one of the best exercises for building muscle and decreasing body fat. Try sprinting for one-minute intervals at a speed between 10 and 12 mph. Use a two-minute jog at 4 mph to recover. Repeat eight times.
Jenkins suggests the following 45- to 60-minute workout
Treadmill push-offs The treadmill doesn’t have to be running in order to be effective. Incorporate treadmill push-offs by holding onto the treadmill heart beat sensors and pushing off the belt as fast as you can for 60 seconds. It is extremely challenging and works the legs and glutes. Circuit train Grab a mat and some moderateto high-resistance dumbbells. Pair two strength exercises with sprint intervals or a simple fast run. Here are two options: Perform 12 to 15 repetitions of dumbbell squats followed by 12 to 15 reps on each leg of onelegged lunges with your back foot resting on the treadmill. Follow it with a 30-second run at 10 mph. Repeat three times. Perform eight to 10 wide pushups with feet on the back of the treadmill followed by planks or tricep dips using the treadmill handle bars or modify it using the back of the treadmill. Follow it with a one-minute run at 6 mph with a 2.0 incline. Repeat three times.
»1 J og at a speed between 6 and 8 mph or at a comfortable warm-up pace for one mile. »2 W alk uphill at a 10.0 incline for two minutes then add dumbbell exercises using 3- to 5-pound weights. As you walk, do 25 repetitions of each: shoulder press, tricep kickbacks and upright rows. »3 P ause treadmill, step off and do 25 pushups.
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Star-worthy workout Founder of The Hollywood Trainer Club with clients like Pink and Alicia Keys, Jeanette Jenkins loves to mix up her treadmill routines with various speeds, inclines and weights. She has more than a dozen workout DVDs, including “Sexy Abs” with singer Kelly Rowland. “Changing up your pace, speed, incline and exercises every two to five minutes keeps the workout interesting so the time flies and before you know it you will have completed a total body kick butt workout.”
»4 Get back on the treadmill and sprint for 30 to 45 seconds at a speed of 10 to 12 mph or your best pace. Recover for 30 to 60 seconds. Repeat five times. »5 Pause the treadmill, step off and do 25 regular squats or 25 jump squats using only your bodyweight. Stand on the side rails or step off the treadmill for more intensity. »6 Get back on the treadmill and walk uphill at an incline of 10.0 for two minutes, then grab a pair of weights. While walking, do 25 reps of shoulder presses followed by 25 reps of tricep kickbacks and finish off with 25 reps of upright rows. »7 Sprint 30 to 45 seconds at a speed of 10 to 12 mph or your best pace. Recover for 30 to 60 seconds. Repeat five times.
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»8 P ause treadmill, step off and do 25 pushups. »9 W alk at an incline of 10.0 for two minutes then grab a set of weights. Do 10 to 16 reps each of rotating overhead press. Set your weights down and do 50 to 100 boxing jabs, alternating with each arm. Finish off with 10 to 16 reps of tricep extensions. »10 Pause the treadmill, step off and do 25 jump squats or regular squats using only your bodyweight. »11 Sprint 30 to 45 seconds at a speed of 10 to 12 mph or your best pace. Recover for 30 to 60 seconds. Repeat five times. »12 2 5 pushups. »13 2 5 jump squats or regular squats. »14 Finish strong with a one-mile jog between 6 and 8 mph or your best pace. For the last half mile, increase your speed by 0.5 every 30 seconds going to 6.5, 7, 7.5, etc. Listen to your body and only increase the speed to a pace you can maintain with good form. »15 Finish with abs by doing 100 bicycle crunches.
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Let Kindness Reign 22 She Magazine // February 2017
What not-sorandom acts can do for you By Jenny Elig
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In Dawn Doup-Pandit
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the later days of 2016 you, like Dawn Doup-Pandit, a clinical psychologist and family relations mediator, might have noticed a swirl of negativity in the air. Columbus-based Doup-Pandit works with a variety of clients, specializing in children and adolescent anxiety, ADHD, trauma and individuals on the spectrum of autism. It’s safe to say she has a firm grasp on the human psyche, and she notes, this cycle of negativity, be it on social media or in real life, is dangerous. Research indicates that negativity is much stronger than positivity, she says, and it might take 10 times more positive actions to counter one negative action. “I think it’s easier to believe the negative things about ourselves,” she says. “We’re often taught that you need to be modest, that you shouldn’t tout your own accomplishments, but you should be proud within yourself.” The good news is, there’s a weapon against negativity: kindness to others. Doing good deeds for others has a double reward. Internally, Doup-Pandit says, you feel good about doing something kind. In addition to internal praise, there’s external praise. “Being kind to others is so enormously good for the soul. I think anything that makes you feel like you are helping
someone or something is important,” she says. But she cannot take complete credit for her philosophy of kindness. “My parents and grandparents are really the ones who instilled in my sister and me to be kind,” she says. “Kindness and being kind to others — both those we know and those we don’t — has always been an important characteristic for our family and has become a habit in my own life. For me, kindness is just something I am supposed to do. “Maybe I’m just too optimistic, but I feel like if everyone was just a little bit kinder, it could make a difference in the world,” she says. “What’s the worst thing that could happen if I’m wrong?” Not sure how to get started with y our kind acts? Doup-Pandit shares some ideas: Say something kind to a stranger and really mean it. “I went up to someone the other day and said, ‘I want you to know that you look fantastic,” Doup-Pandit says. “The person was caught off-guard that a stranger would say such a thing. She absolutely lit up. It made me search for more good things to do.” Do something nice for a stranger. Find a way to be kind to a stranger, and you might find it spreading. Several months ago, she, her husband and some friends were dining out. Two young servicemen came in; Doup-Pandit and company decided to
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put $20 toward the servicemen’s tab. “It was a way where my friends and I all got to do something nice together, and that felt good,” she says. “It didn’t just make one person feel better, but it made several people feel good. It caused a lasting effect on me which reminds me to be kind more often.” Direct your positivity at people who might struggle. “I actually try to pray for people who are really negative and who are really focused on negativity because I feel like it may benefit them, and I know it benefits me,” she says. Take positive thoughts and put them into action. Do something kind for the people around you, even if you’re frustrated with the world. “When I’m frustrated with work, I will often bake for
my colleagues, like cookies or a cake,” Doup-Pandit says. “I love to bake and find it to be a great stress reliever. Plus, people love eating homemade goods, so it makes me feel good to share what I’ve made. People really appreciate such things, and it always turns my mood into a kinder mood.” Pick up a volunteering gig. DoupPandit is the co-creator of SideKicks, a weekly walking and running group that pairs young adults who have special needs with running buddies. The duos form lasting connections, while they’re getting exercise. For more information on SideKicks, email sidekicksofcolumbus@gmail.com or find the group’s Facebook page with the search terms “SideKicks of Columbus.”
“Maybe I’m just too optimistic, but I feel like if everyone was just a little bit kinder, it could make a difference in the world. What’s the worst thing that could happen if I’m wrong?” —Dawn Doup-Pandit
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» arts
Framing Your View In Columbus, art shows up in unexpected spots
By Eleanor Rust Photography by Jerry Wischmeier
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Hotel Indigo
c olumbus doesn’t have a traditional gallery that displays and sells art, nor does it have a four-walled art museum dedicated to housing and preserving works of visual art. But neither of these facts means that Columbus is artless; in fact, there are plenty of places around town to get an eyeful of art. With recent statistics indicating a nationwide slump in museum attendance and membership rates, maybe the world needs art outside of a museum. “I think those institutional spaces are really important, too, but you need a mixture, because people are all different,” says Linda Tien, curator for the Columbus Museum of Art and Design. “They have all different perspectives and experiences and backgrounds, so the spaces also need to reflect that.” Including people who don’t make a habit of seeking art in a traditional space
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is important, Tien says. “I’m trying to present entry points for everyone,” she says. Tien, along with local business owners, has opened wall space to art in the hopes that patrons will open their eyes to the art that’s available in the area.
Rest your head, feed your soul
You generally head to a hotel to rest your weary head. In Columbus, art lovers head to Hotel Indigo to see the newest CMAD installation. Though the word “museum” might make you think of an imposing building, Columbus’ museum is different. For starters, CMAD does not have dedicated display space, but rather has spots for showcasing art around the city. “My vision is to treat Columbus as the campus for the museum because we are a museum without walls,” Tien says. Without a permanent museum building
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of its own, CMAD has found creative ways to bring art to Columbus through partnerships with local businesses. “Right now we have two permanent spaces: Hotel Indigo and The Commons,” she says. At Hotel Indigo, pieces hang on a wall of the restaurant, just off the main lobby. “We usually are hosting six different exhibits a year, and there has been every kind of exhibit possible,” says Cindy Waddle, general manager. “There’ve been fabric weavings, paintings, sketches, some sculptures, and then we’ve had a couple recycling exhibits: items created out of somebody else’s trash. 30 She Magazine // February 2017
“I think it’s something to create conversation, something to engage, whether people like it or not.” — Philip Roggow
“Because our hotel is so focused on corporate travel, we do see a lot of repeat guests,” Waddle says. “So for us, this is a nice way to make the hotel different each time they come.” But she is equally excited about how CMAD shows draw local art-lovers: “That’s another way for us to solidify our relationship with our local residents and with our neighborhood. They’re coming into the building specifically to take a look at this gallery wall.” Hotel Indigo hosts a reception with the artist during each exhibit, providing complimentary finger foods and a cash bar. And there’s another bonus: Art helps
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customize the space and might increase employee satisfaction. “It’s inspiring,” Waddle says. “It reminds me how fortunate I am to live in this community and to be a part of a neighborhood that really embraces artistry in all facets, and it makes it fun. We aren’t just the plain old beige box hotel. It exposes me to other types of art and reminds me that art is very subjective. Everyone has an opinion about it.”
Feast your eyes on this
When Elaine DeClue and her family opened Tre Bicchieri 10 years ago, they felt something was missing from their
Washington Street location. “We have really long, tall walls. We knew that the space needed color.” Something clicked when DeClue saw paintings by Franklin-based artist John Strickland at a restaurant in Franklin, which led her to visit his studio. Once they hung some of Strickland’s work, the concept snowballed. “People would come in and ask us how they could get art on the wall, or I’d go to an art show and pick up cards of people that I liked their art and then call them,” DeClue says. She gathers most of the art from southern Indiana, including Columbus, Edinburgh, Brown County, Trafalgar and Franklin. Unlike a traditional gallery owner, DeClue doesn’t charge the artists or take a cut of any sales. It’s a mutually beneficial relationship: The artists get a showcase for their work, and Tre B gets that splash of color it was looking for, along with a lot of conversation. Over the years, original paintings, drawings and photographs all have graced the walls, as well as more affordable giclée prints. Pictures come and go as they are sold, but DeClue also likes to move pieces around and change the restaurant’s mood according to the season.
Drink it in
Dancing Goat Coffee is located in the Columbus Learning Center, where art is an important part of everyone’s day. Chris Beach, the director of operations, brings three rotating art exhibits every year to CLC. Mixed media art from a group of central Indiana artists is arranged along the curving walls of the Learning Center’s “Main Street” corridor, surrounding students as they visit the library or work in the computer labs. In the last year, some artworks from the CLC exhibits found
their temporary home in Dancing Goat Coffee, a bright coffee bar at the north end of the building. Philip Roggow, general manager at Dancing Goat, likes how the exhibits brought fresh new art into his space every few months. “I think it’s something to create conversation, something to engage, whether people like it or not,” he says.
Art at the end of the aisles
When you head to the new Kroger Marketplace grocery store on National Road, look up. The mega-grocery store, which opened in August, made room for not only expanded produce, frozen foods, home goods and bakery sections but also, in a distinctive twist, art. The Kroger Co. has found that art helps build a sense of community, says Eric Halvorson, public affairs manager for Kroger in this region. He says that Kroger is working with local arts councils to bring art that reflects the local community into each of their marketplace stores. This summer, the Columbus Area Arts Council helped run a contest that selected a proposal by Allison Horner, art teacher at Ivy Tech. Her bright mural, which can be seen in the bistro section, features nods to familiar local faces and landmarks. The goal of the artworks is to “make more of a historical connection and maybe even a more personal connection. They create the store as a gathering place,” Halvorson says. He hopes that the mural will spark conversations about Columbus as people go about their day. “We tend to take our cities for granted,” he says. “This is a way to connect with some of those landmarks and our past.” February 2017 // She Magazine 31
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The Truth about
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Hope Veterinary Clinic’s Dr. Dimple Hall shares what she has learned Interview by Jenny Elig | Portrait by Ali Hendricks
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efore all of the veterinary training, before all of the hours of clinical work, before all of the milestones in education, Dr. Dimple Hall was Dimple Patel, and she was a cat wrangler, a little girl who grabbed neighborhood strays and attempted to transform them into friendly house cats. “My mom said when I was little, I would go outside and there would be stray cats, and I would pick them up and bring them inside by their scruff,” the Evansville native recalls. “They would be clawing me and I’d be covered in blood, but I didn’t care. It was going to be my cat.” When she was 15, Hall got a gig at Village East Hospital in Evansville, where she met her mentor, Dr. William Melchiors. When she finished her duties cleaning cages and scooping poop, she’d head upstairs to observe the doctors and the technicians. She became a veterinary assistant and was allowed to help with surgeries, draw blood and, if needed, restrain animals. When she heard about the
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Dimple Hall’s personal pet crew.
Vet Scholars program, a chance to be admitted into veterinary school when she was in high school, she jumped on the opportunity. She was one of five chosen for the program. She did her undergraduate work in animal science at Purdue University; from that program, she headed straight into Purdue’s College of Veterinary Medicine. After graduation, she headed to Columbus, where her husband, Ben Hall, was working at Cummins. “He really liked his job here,” she says. “I had some friends whose extended family lives here, so I’d been coming to Columbus for years. As soon as I moved here, I was sold.” Now, in her first job post-graduation, Hall has had plenty of realizations, both about animals and about people. “I want people to understand that yes, as veterinarians, we care,” she says. “We really have your pets’ interests at heart.” Working with animals has taught her a lot about the human condition, too. “I’ve learned there are a wide range of people and emotions out there,” she says. “Every single person handles news differently, and you’ve got to tune in to that individual person.”
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What confirmed for you that you wanted to pursue veterinary medicine as a career?
When you’re younger, you think, I like puppies and kittens, I want to be a veterinarian. But when you get in the actual environment, you realize being a vet is not as glamorous as most people think. Honestly, I think the thing that grabbed my attention the most was helping sick and dying animals and helping their owners. For so many people, pets are your family. I think that’s what a lot of people don’t realize: Being a veterinarian is not just helping animals. There is a big relationship with our clients that we form, too. So, inadvertently, we’re helping people as well as animals.
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What do you bring to the job as a woman?
Men and women think very differently. I’m generalizing a little bit, but I think we tend to be a little more nurturing. As a woman, I think you have to work harder than men at things. That resilience has really gotten me far. I hate to play that card, but I feel like, with men in society, they tend to have it a little bit easier, especially in this area, where we’ve got a lot of male farmers, and sometimes they don’t always respect a younger, female vet. So because of that, I have to prove to them that they can trust me. I have to work that much harder. Yes, I’m young. Yes, I’m a woman, but I know things, too. I definitely think we do communicate a lot more. As women, we like to use our words. Not all men are this way, but I know my husband says things in one sentence, whereas me, I’m going to say things in four or five sentences, and I’m going to make sure you understand me. And if you don’t, I’m going to repeat myself. We should also note that, when veterinary medicine first started, it was primarily men. Now, it’s primarily women. The shift probably happened in the late ’80s, early ’90s. In school, there’s a hallway full of class portraits. They start off black-andwhite and all men. As the years go on, you see less and less men, and more women. When you get to my class, I think we only had 20 graduating guys in a class of 75 or so. That’s phenomenal.
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I have Sasha; she is my German shepherd. She was supposed to be a police dog, but she failed the academy. We got through vet school together. I have Gracie, who is a Chihuahua; she just turned 1. Then I have Hero, an almost 6-month-old Great Dane puppy. I originally got my husband a Great Dane named Groot, who unfortunately passed from a cardiac episode. I also have my cat named Piper; she’s about 6 years old. I rescued her when I was in vet school. I went into PetSmart in Lafayette to buy dog food for Sasha and left with a cat. I have an African grey parrot named Bandit. We believe he’s about 11. He’s had several owners, and he’s a rescue. After Groot died and my house was feeling empty, I decided to message (a rescue organization) about (Bandit). Then I visited him. Next thing you know, I was taking him home. So those are my babies. They’re all very different. Dogs love people. You are the center of their world. Cats, they love people too, but they’re kind of in their own world. They’ll love you on their own terms. Birds, you’ve got to really work at it. Bandit has really come out of his shell. The biggest difference is their commitment to humans. Often, regarding the field of animal care, the reaction is something along the lines of, “Oh, your field is so sad.” How do you counter that?
As soon as I became a veterinarian, I told myself I was only going to euthanize when I felt comfortable. That is your choice. You don’t have to euthanize an animal if you don’t want to do it. The way I look at it, euthanasia is ending pain and suffering. To me, it’s the last fair thing we can do for our best friends. It’s sad, because your animal has passed away, but you gave them a gift. When you look at it that way, I think it helps. What would you say to the aspiring vets?
If you have any interest at all, as young as you can, go in and shadow veterinarians. A lot of people don’t like the kennel technician (position), scooping poop, cleaning cages, but that’s very important. Doing that, I learned how to handle animals. Everyone thinks it’s easy to pet a cat or pet a dog, but when you’ve got to deal with aggressive animals, that’s a good way to start. I think just being in there and being able to see what veterinary medicine is really about is a good idea. I would also recommend paying attention to your studies. And finally, if you want to do it, you can do it. It’s a rough road ahead, but a lot of it is about willpower.
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Flavors of southeast asia
Try a party favorite — Hanoi Pork Meatballs By The Culinary Institute of America
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Though students at The Culinary Institute of America face a seemingly endless to-do list, central to their course work is recipe and menu development. At the CIA, food is life, and even the best-managed restaurant is nothing without flavorful, exciting and innovative recipes. A recent standout is this recipe for Hanoi Pork Meatballs with Hoisin-Peanut Dipping Sauce, which is ideal if you’re hosting friends and family. Bursting with the flavors of Southeast Asia, like garlic, ginger and bright herbs, these meatballs are an easy makeahead option that will stand out against the usual party favorites. The sweet hoisin-peanut dipping sauce will remind you of those other meatballs you may have simmered in your slow cooker, but with a little something special and unexpected. If you love the flavors in these meatballs, why not put your own spin on the recipe? You can replace the pork with turkey for a leaner appetizer to balance out those beers. Or if you want to serve a more substantial dinner, form the mixture into burger-sized patties and serve them on buns. You can top them with the dipping sauce, some more fresh herbs and pickled onions for some zing.
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RECIPE
Hanoi Pork Meatballs With Hoisin-Peanut Dipping Sauce Servings: 5 (Makes 15 meatballs, 3 per serving) Hoisin-Peanut Dipping Sauce (recipe follows) Non-stick cooking spray, as needed 1 tablespoon sesame oil 1 tablespoon canola oil 5 cloves minced garlic 2½ tablespoons minced fresh ginger 3 minced scallions 2 teaspoons chopped parsley 1½ tablespoons chopped Thai basil 1½ tablespoons chopped cilantro 1½ tablespoons fish sauce 1 teaspoon Sriracha 1/8 cup whole milk cottage cheese ½ cup panko bread crumbs 2 teaspoons ground black pepper 1 teaspoon lime zest 1 pound ground pork
Preheat the oven to 375 degrees F. Oil a rack for a sheet tray with nonstick cooking spray. Place rack in sheet tray and set aside. In a medium-size saute pan, heat both oils over medium heat. Once oil is hot, add the garlic, ginger and scallions. Sweat until aromatic and soft (about 5 minutes). Remove from pan and allow to cool. In a mixing bowl, add and combine all remaining ingredients except for the ground pork and dipping sauce. Mix all of these ingredients together thoroughly until completely combined. Add the ground pork and mix lightly until all the ingredients are lightly incorporated. Be careful not to over mix the meat, as it will result in tough meatballs. Scoop or form mixture in 15 1½-ounce balls and place them onto the oiled rack. Cook the meatballs in the preheated oven for about 15 to 20 minutes, or until the internal temperature has reached 155 degrees F and the exterior is golden brown. Serve meatballs hot, with toothpicks and a bowl of the Hoisin-Peanut Dipping Sauce.
Hoisin-Peanut Dipping Sauce Serves 5 ¾ cup hoisin sauce 3 tablespoons creamy peanut butter 2 tablespoons rice wine vinegar 2 teaspoons freshly squeezed lime juice 1 tablespoon soy sauce Mix all ingredients together in a bowl.
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Tasty side dish — Asian Bok Choy
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It takes just a few ingredients — garlic, ginger, soy sauce, hot chili sauce — to turn a variety of vegetables into a delicious Asian side dish. Because my husband is knee-deep in love with bok choy these days, that was the vegetable I picked to create my prosperity green vegetable dish. Bok choy is available in cute baby versions, but for this dish you can use the inexpensive bigger bunches. Look for it in well-stocked produce sections or Asian specialty stores. This dish has a nice amount of cooking liquid, so serve it over rice alongside a main course.
RECIPE
ASIAN BOK CHOY Serves 6 2 tablespoons sesame seeds (optional) 1 tablespoon vegetable oil 1 tablespoon minced garlic 1 tablespoon minced fresh ginger
2 pounds bok choy, trimmed, sliced into 1-inch pieces and rinsed ½ cup chicken broth 2 tablespoons soy sauce 1 teaspoon Sriracha or other hot chili sauce
Place the sesame seeds, if using, in a large stock pot or braiser (this will seem silly, but you will use the same pan to cook the bok choy). Heat the pan over medium heat, stirring frequently until you can smell the sesame seeds and they turn a bit more golden in color. This will only take 2 or 3 minutes; watch carefully that they don’t get too brown. Turn the seeds onto a small plate and set aside. Heat the vegetable oil in the same pan over medium-low heat. Add the garlic and the ginger and stir for 1 minute until you can smell the aromas. Add the bok choy (it’s OK if it’s still a bit damp) and stir for another 2 minutes, then pour in the chicken broth, soy sauce and hot sauce, and bring to a simmer. Cover the pan and cook the bok choy for about 8 minutes, until it is tender, stirring occasionally. Transfer to a serving bowl with its cooking liquid and serve hot, with the sesame seeds sprinkled on top if desired.
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Life Lessons
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Children prove that love is innate by kelsey declue
Love. Many of us just spent a full day celebrating this complex and multifaceted emotion. I would venture to say, especially thanks to consumerism, that most of the focus for this holiday is on the romantic, passionate type of love. I, too, use times such as Valentine’s Day to celebrate that love: the kind that consumes you as a teenager and as a young man or woman, searching for someone who makes you blush and awakens the butterflies in your stomach on a regular basis. However (and get ready for a typical parent cliché here), I didn’t truly realize the depths of my ability to love until I became a mom. I am, by no means, saying that you can’t fully realize love until you become a parent. Please don’t take that out of context. We all love differently, and various relationships, romantic or familial or otherwise, have the ability to awaken love within us. I’m just saying, for me, my true depths of love were realized the day those little plastic sticks revealed a plus sign. But that’s not really what this column is about. Just like many things in life, Valentine’s Day and the concept and meaning of love have evolved and expanded for me thanks to my children. First, for the most obvious reason and the one mentioned above, the love I feel for my children is all-consuming and unconditional — that fierce, parental love I often write about. Second, and the reason I want to touch on now, is that Nolan and Evey demonstrate so effortlessly the broader meaning of love and acceptance. They loved us from the start. We didn’t have to gain their trust, loyalty or affection — all those characteristics of true love that we strive to find in our relationships. We didn’t have to be “cool” (’cause goodness knows we’re not) or have the biggest house with the
most expensive amenities. Perhaps one of the greatest qualities that my both my children exhibit right now is acceptance. They are open and affable, and they accept people. Everyone is a friend who has value. Of course, their love is not blind. They notice differences. Nolan is a preschooler; Evey is a toddler. Differences are their mantra. Broken cookies lead to tantrums; torn coloring book pages create heartbreak. However, the beauty lies in how they distinguish the differences they notice in humans. For example, physical differences in the playmates and people they come to meet are just that: differences. They are not scary, nor are they particularly exciting. They are just there, a part of life. Appearances have no merit with Nolan and Evey when it comes to personality. How someone treats them, and the others around them, is what matters. If a child acts mean or selfishly, he is judged on his actions, not his personality. Not her appearance. And the situation is dealt with swiftly and justly, and then on the majority of occasions, play is back to normal and everyone is equal again. What a simple, beautiful utopia our children live in. And let’s be honest, the overwhelming majority of our children are born with this mentality. We are intrinsically loving; prejudices are taught. Love is love is love. And our children do it really well. We could all stand to take a step back and learn from them once in a while, especially in this realm. Because let’s be honest, when it comes down to it, we all just want to be accepted and loved, and when it comes to this complex, sometimes seemingly unattainable emotion and life skill, our children do it best. Kelsey DeClue is a Columbus native, a wife and the mother of two. She is the public relations coordinator at Columbus Regional Health.
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