ALONE AT CHRISTMAS

Alone Alone AT CHRISTMAS AT CHRISTMAS

By Dina Zelden

AH, CHRISTMAS! MAKING MEMORIES WITH FAMILY, ATTENDING PARTIES WITH FRIENDS. MOST HOLIDAYS REVOLVE AROUND TOGETHERNESS AND GOOD CHEER. OCCASIONALLY, HOWEVER, THAT IS NOT THE CASE AND YOU FIND YOURSELF ALONE–OR FEELING LONELY–DURING THE HOLIDAYS.

Much of the research about loneliness revolves around the elderly, but you can feel lonely, especially during the holidays, at any age. Sometimes, one is alone due to circumstances, such as divorce or loss of a loved one. Others may experience a feeling of loneliness due to the extra stress and unrealistic expectations set this time of year. It can lead to a feeling of being isolated from those you love, who aren’t affected the same way. Holiday gatherings, movies and other traditions are geared to the idea that it just isn’t a celebration unless you are surrounded by others. FOCUS ON THINGS YOU ENJOY

Often, making plans with others requires negotiation and even disappointment. Many put their choices on the back burner for the sake of harmony. Spending time alone means you can focus on doing things you enjoy. Movies, activities, even the schedule are all in your control. STAY OFF SOCIAL MEDIA

Although it is tempting, it is best to refrain from social media during the holidays. The images and experiences one shares on these sites is just a small snapshot (and usually the very best) of an event or special day. Going it alone can be tough when your day is compared to others. Better to unplug for a few days. STAY ACTIVE

Take time for a long walk or other physical activity. Exercise improves mental health by reducing anxiety, depression and negative mood. It will give you the boost you need to enjoy the time to yourself.

By Dina Zelden

LOOK AHEAD

Another excellent way to spend time during the holidays is to look ahead. Settle down with a warm beverage and dream about the new year and all its possibilities. Set some goals and make a plan to see them through. IT CAN BE A CHALLENGE, BUT REMEMBER IT IS OKAY TO SPEND THE HOLIDAY ALONE. YOU CAN COMBAT SOCIETAL PRESSURE BY ADJUSTING YOUR MINDSET AND EMPOWERING YOURSELF TO USE THE TIME WELL. YOU MAY EVEN FIND YOURSELF ENTERING THE NEW YEAR ENERGIZED INSTEAD OF DEPLETED, EMOTIONALLY AND FINANCIALLY.