RECIPE

Crispy Roasted Duck

WITH ORANGE GLAZE

INGREDIENTS FOR GLAZE: •1/3 cup brown sugar • 1/2 cup fresh orange juice • 2 tbs apple cider vinegar • 2 sprigs thyme • 1 sprig rosemary Cook sugar in heavy saucepan until it begins to melt. Keep stirring until it becomes a smooth caramel. Add orange juice and vinegar slowly with caution, as mixture may bubble and sugar may harden. Cook on medium heat, stirring for several minutes until caramel is dissolved in mixture. Add herbs for final minutes of cooking then set aside. Before serving, warm sauce if necessary and remove herbs. FOR DUCK: • 1 whole duck (5-6 lbs) • Coarse salt and fresh cracked pepper • 2 oranges, sliced and seeded • 8 cloves peeled garlic • 1 onion, sliced • 1 carrot, peeled and sliced • 2 sprigs fresh rosemary • 2 sprigs fresh thyme • 1/2 cup orange liqueur • 1/2 cup water or stock

DIRECTIONS • Preheat oven to 475. Rinse duck in cold water and pat dry. Using kitchen shears, trim excess fat off bird near base of neck and rear cavity. Clip wing tips off and set aside with neck bone. Prick duck skin with sharp fork all over, being careful not to make an incision into the meat.

Paint duck with orange liqueur. Rest for 10 minutes. Season inside and outside of duck with salt and pepper. • Place rack in roasting pan. Place half of vegetables and herbs, neck bone, wing tips and one sliced orange at base of pan. Pour ½ c water or stock into pan. Place whole duck breast side up on roasting rack. Fill cavity with remaining vegetables, herbs and orange slices. Score breast fat in crosshatch pattern without cutting into flesh.

Place on middle oven rack and cook 30 minutes. • Remove entire pan from oven. Place

in safe spot. Tilt duck to drain juice from cavity into pan. Remove rack with duck and place over sink or towel to catch drippings. Skim fat off roasting pan liquid with spoon or baster (save fat in container for later use if desired). Place rack with duck back on pan. Lower temperature to 350 and place duck back in oven. • Cook duck until thermometer placed in thick part of thigh reaches 165. Remove duck and repeat skimming process. Set oven to high broil and place duck under broiler for 3-5 minutes while checking frequently.

Remove duck and let rest for at least 10 minutes. Skin should be golden and crispy. • Carve duck and serve with orange glaze and chopped fresh rosemary. • Optional: Reduce 1/2 cup red wine in separate saucepan then strain pan drippings into saucepan. Reduce until thick for a quick sauce au jus. *Chicken can be substituted in recipe by skipping fat scoring step.

By Christian Dischler

4 WAYS

Helicopter Parenting Can Negatively Impact Your Child

By Laine Morris

HELICOPTER PARENTING IS AN OVERPROTECTIVE STYLE OF RAISING CHILDREN. A HELICOPTER PARENT WILL PREVENT THEIR CHILD FROM TRYING NEW ACTIVITIES IF THEY ARE CONCERNED ABOUT THE SAFETY OF THAT ACTIVITY. NORMAL AGE-APPROPRIATE ACTIVITIES LIKE WALKING TO SCHOOL OR GOING TO A SLEEPOVER MAY BE FORBIDDEN BY A HELICOPTER PARENT. WHILE MOST HELICOPTER PARENTING COMES FROM A DEEP FEAR FOR A CHILD'S SAFETY, KEEPING YOUR CHILD CONSTANTLY WITHIN ARMS-REACH CAN BE PSYCHOLOGICALLY DAMAGING TO CHILDREN. IF YOU THINK YOU MAY BE A HELICOPTER PARENT, CONSIDER THESE NEGATIVE IMPACTS IT MAY BE HAVING ON YOUR CHILD. 1.INHIBITING LEARNING As scary as it may be to allow your child to go out into the world and potentially get hurt, that is how they learn. We have all experienced scrapes, pain and illness, but every discomfort is a learning experience. Yes, your child may fall off the monkey bars, but they will grow from that experience. Children learn from new experiences, including the discomfort that may come along with them.

2.DISCOURAGE AUTONOMY

Helicopter parenting involves making choices for your child that they can make for themselves. If you cook every meal for your child because you don't want them to get burned on the stove or you pick out their outfits so they'll be matching, you are taking potential choices away from your child. Having autonomy over their own lives is absolutely crucial for your child's development. By making all of their choices for them, you are stunting their growth and undermining their independence. It will be more difficult for your child to make decisions as an adult if they rely on you to make all their choices as a child.

3.LOW CONFIDENCE When a child has been sheltered from the world, they will subsequently learn to fear it. If you teach them that the world is a scary place and they need to rely on their parents for safety, they are not going to trust in their own ability to handle life. You may stress about your child walking to the bus stop on their own, but simple tasks like walking alone with other kids gives your child confidence to be out in the world. And when your child subsequently sees their friends exhibit more freedom than they do, they're going to begin to wonder why you don't trust them to do age-appropriate activities. Your distrust of your child's ability to handle themselves will bleed into their self-esteem. Your child will inevitably learn not to trust themselves.

4.MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES

Helicopter parenting is a consequence of fear and anxiety. If you don't learn to control your fear about your child's safety, they are going to learn that same fear. Your child may struggle with depression and anxiety if they learn from you that the world is a scary place. If they are not safe within the world and need constant supervision, that will carry over into anxiety in their adult life. Your child may also be less open to new activities if you hold them back from new experiences.

If you fear you're falling into helicopter parenting patterns, it's not too late to loosen the strings and allow your child room to grow. The psychological benefits of giving your child more control over their lives and their decisions are endless.

Picture This

NEW HEART, NEW LUNGS, NEW LIFE

By Patricia Danflous

What’s the difference between blue and pink? Kathleen Sheffer can answer that question with exuberance and energy. It’s the difference between living a step away from death and having a second chance for living a full life.

For most of her 27 years Sheffer’s complexion was tinged with blue. Now she is pink, rosy and occasionally celebrates when her skin breaks out–just like a normal, healthy young woman. The color of her life changed July 1, 2016, when she received a heart and double lung transplant.

“I can’t say that I felt great when I came out of the transplant surgery,” the San Francisco native said. “But when my sister showed me a picture of my pink and healthy hand, I knew my life had changed.”

A surgical patient at seven days old, Sheffer’s congenital heart defect would limit and sometimes restrict her life for more than 20 years as her heart worked overtime to keep blood flowing through her body. “Today, surgery can correct the congenital arterial problem I had,” she explained. “I had a repair procedure that had an impact on my lungs with the potential for a heart transplant always a concern.”

You know how easy it is to jump in the shower after exercising or to get ready for a special event? For Sheffer, the process required 30 minutes of preparation and after care. “For 16 years I was on continuous intravenous medications with a central line in my chest,” she noted, explaining that bandaging the area was a precise necessity.

While sitting on the sidelines watching her sister’s success as a competitive swimmer could be disheartening, Sheffer didn’t take time to feel sorry for herself. “I could be competitive in a different way,” she stated. “I focused on academics and even though my parents were nervous and worried, I made my way to the University of California–Berkley, not too far away from home.”

With a degree in Architecture, Sheffer took a detour from that field, turning her sharp appreciation for detail and creative vision toward photography. A highly respected

corporate event photographer, her first out-of-town assignment not only acknowledged her talent and reputation but also raised a red flag on her medical problems.

“I flew to Seattle for that first corporate assignment and stayed with a friend from college,” she said. “I woke up in the middle of the night, couldn’t breathe and was soon coughing up blood. My friend called a Seattle hospital hotline and I experienced a 15-day stay in intensive care.”

“This is not good,” she remembered her Stanford doctor explaining when she was able to transfer back home. Sheffer’s condition was rapidly progressing. It was transplant time.

Twenty-eight days later, and sooner than anticipated, she got the call that one family’s loss and the generosity of an organ donation was her lifeline. “I spent the fourth of July holiday recovering from surgery to replace a heart that had worked so hard it was four times the normal size, and lungs that could no longer function. It was a total remodel of my chest area,” she said smiling. “During the days after surgery I also celebrated and silently thanked those I didn’t know for helping me to live,” she emphasized.

The color of her skin is not the only thing that changed posttransplant. “I never imagined how transformative good circulation can be,” Sheffer said. “I can exercise, do laundry and make dinner without stopping to rest every few minutes. I never learned how to exercise because I couldn’t. Now I have started to play tennis and the first Christmas after the transplant I went on a seven-mile hike with my parents in Sedona, Arizona.”

Sheffer’s isn’t just exercising and adding sports to her repertoire of life experiences. She’s winning medals. Two years after her transplant she joined Team NorCal, a group of transplant recipients, living donors, donor families and caregivers, participating in the Transplant Games of America. The highly competitive event showcases the impact of organ, eye, and tissue registration while celebrating life and remembering donors. A member of the badminton, cycling and table tennis teams, she brought home a gold medal in badminton and two gold medals in a cycling competition–racing through the high altitude of Salt Lake City, Utah. “The 2020 Games were canceled due to COVID-19, but I am looking forward to the upcoming games, especially 2022 when they will be in San Diego, close to home,” she said. “I would like to honor my donor by wearing their name on my team shirt, but I have yet to make contact with them. I have written letters of thanks, which the organ procurement agency passes on, but haven’t gotten a response. I may never hear from the donor family, but I do want them to know how grateful I am.”

As an organ recipient, Sheffer fell into the high risk category when COVID-19 made its impact on the world. “Just a few days after we had finished remodeling my childhood home, now my home and studio, the country went into lockdown,” she said. “I am anxious to return to shooting corporate events and had to be a little creative while isolating. Taking photos of food and products is not as much fun as interacting with people, but it is a challenge that is sharpening my techniques.”

Sheffer accepts the gift of life from her unknown donor seriously, making health a priority as well as compliance with COVID guidelines. “I have a responsibility to the donor and their family to take good care of the organs they generously donated,” she said. “I want to stay healthy for all of us.”

To see more and learn more about Kathleen Sheffer, visit her website at www.kathleensheffer.com or find her on Instagram @kathleen.s.photography.