If You Are Feeling Out, You Are In

Connecting With Women In Our Community In a Non-MLM* Way

*Multi-Level Marketing

By Allison Okuneye

How do we find ways to connect with other women in our community? How do we have authentic adult relationships as adults?

I know I am not the only woman who has been invited to a "girls night" in a new social circle and got super excited. Finally! New city, and potential for new friends, I am ALL about that life!

You get all dressed up and are ready for some adult time, and once you get there you realize, this is NOT what you thought it was going to be. You have been bamboozled. Sign up for this, buy these products, join our girl gang! Yikes. This is NOT the community and connection I had hoped for. I was hoping for a community without expectations and sales goals.

So now what? How do we connect with other women and find our circle? Whether you are new to a city or are born and raised, this is no easy task.

Initiate Conversation.

No one wants to be the initiator, so then we are left with no conversations! Don't be afraid to strike up the convo first!

Try Something New.

If you want new friendships you have to do things you haven't done before. If you are used to hiding in a corner in social settings, don't! If you wait for others to approach you, DON'T! Don't get stuck in old ways of living. Every introduction has the potential to be a life long friend.

Join The Outer Circle.

Be intentional.

If connection is what you want, you have to look for ways to find it! Go out of your way to have conversations, meet new people when you can, make eye contact, ask questions and be engaged!

Of course I am going to tell you to connect with us! Find a group where you can feel free to be your authentic self, share your life experiences (the good and bad) and laugh. Laughing is key. I am obviously going to suggest The Outer Circle which is our new women's group here in Cypress, but no pressure! Find a local group that you feel will allow you to be exactly who you are and get connected! Have confidence in knowing that this connection thing isn't easy for any of us! But it is absolutely crucial for all of us!