Looking to the future..

..MOTIVATING YOURSELF WITH COMPASSION

This has certainly been a year like no other. With the effects of the pandemic still difficult for many businesses, uncertainly and upheaval will continue to play a huge part in our lives. Many will face the task of rebuilding or rebranding their business and the motivation required to do this can be difficult to access in the face of the fatigue we are all experiencing.

Many of us have learned to motivate ourselves in a highly competitive and individualised world by being hard on ourselves and in many ways this strategy may have been rewarded, though at what cost? Research has shown that practicing self-compassion, self-encouragement and acting as your own ally or coach during stressful times is a better indicator of sustainable success than harsh self-criticism which can set up a vicious cycle of a fear of failure and inability to persevere and try again. Perseverance and stickability are qualities that are needed by all business owners, especially now. The recovery phase will also require a certain level of innovation and creativity which are all hampered by the unhelpful strategies of the inner critic who generally compares us unfavourably to the next person.

Some may fear that self-compassion will make them weak, lazy or self-indulgent, but the research shows that people with higher levels of self-compassion are generally more proactive and can create a sense of inner

safety which helps them to confront their mistakes and failings, make positive changes in their lives and continue to set themselves high goals.

There is more to self-compassion than being kind. It is the motivation to be helpful and not harmful and about developing the courage to recognise and admit the difficulties we face and the wisdom to know how best to help ourselves through. It’s also about recognising our shared common humanity and that although at times we can feel alone and be tempted to withdraw the reality is that every successful business has had its fair share of failings and mistakes. It’s about developing the resources within ourselves, to keep going through adversity.

Next time you notice your inner critic discouraging you and demotivating you, crank up the part of you that best knows what you need to keep moving forward. The wise part of you that has supported you through other periods of difficulty. Talk to yourself with encouraging tones just as you would support a friend or fellow business owner. The good news is that self-compassion can be developed over time and with consistent practice.

Kirsty Lilley is an experienced and award-winning mental health trainer, coach and mindfulness teacher. If you want to know more about Kirsty, head to her LinkedIn page for her latest updates. Connect with her today: https://bit.ly/3qz3fyE