The butterfly effect report new by Isabel Ferreira

The Butterfly Effect refers to the idea that a butterfly's wings might create tiny changes in the atmosphere that may ultimately alter the path of a tornado or delay, accelerate or even prevent the occurrence of a tornado in a certain location. The flapping wing represents a small change in the initial condition of a dynamical system may produce large variations in the long term behavior of the system. Although this may appear to be an esoteric and unusual behavior, it is exhibited by very simple systems: for example, a ball placed at the crest of a hill might roll into any of several valleys depending on slight differences in initial position.

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The Butterfly Effect “The Butterfly Effect” refers to the idea that a butterfly's wings might create tiny changes in the atmosphere that may ultimately alter the path of a tornado or delay, accelerate or even prevent the occurrence of a tornado in a certain location. The flapping of wings represents a small change in the initial condition of the system, which causes a chain of events leading to large-scale alterations of events. Before you go any further, let me tell you this. This report will provide an understanding of how things work in your life, your life as a parent, and in the lives of your children. Stay with me and I will walk you through understanding that whatever is happening in your life and how you are parenting your children right now, is nothing but a “Butterfly Effect”.

Real Life Example Of “The Butterfly Effect” : The Story Of Steve Jobs To explain the butterfly effect with a little more flavor, here’s the real life example of Steve Jobs. Steve Jobs dropped out of Reed College after his first 6 months, but stayed around as a ‘drop-in’ for 18 months afterwards before he really called it quits.

So why did he drop out? Like the flap of a butterfly’s wings, we can trace this back to before he was born. His biological mother was a young, unwed graduate student and she decided to put him up for adoption. She felt very strongly that he should be adopted by college graduates. Everything was all set for him now. He was to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when he was born, they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So his adoptive parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: “We got an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?” They said: “Of course!” His biological mother, later found out that his adoptive mother and father never graduated. With this newfound knowledge, she refused to sign the final adoption paper. She finally relented a few months later when his parents promised that they would do everything in their power to make sure he would go to college. Copyright 2010 Parenting The Lefkoe Way

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And 17 years later he did go to college. But after 6 months, Steve just couldn’t see the value in it. He had no idea what he wanted to do with his life and no idea how college was going to help him figure it out. And here he was, spending all the money his parents had worked hard for and sacrificed to save for their entire life. So he decided to drop out. The minute he dropped out, he could stop taking the required classed that didn’t interest him and he began dropping in on the ones that looked far more interesting! Reed College offered calligraphy instruction. Because he had dropped out and didn’t have to take the normal classes, he decided to take a calligraphy class. None of this had even a hope of any practical application in his life. But 10 years later when they the first Macintosh computer was being designed, it all came back to him. And he insisted it all be designed into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If he had been adopted by the lawyer parents, he wouldn’t have faced the challenge of parents struggling for money for education, which led him to drop out, which led him to take calligraphy, which eventually led to creation of the Apple. Do you see the “Butterfly Effect” that was created because of Steve’s Mom’s decision?

Why Am I Telling This To You? Hi, I am Shelly Lefkoe and I am sharing the theory of the butterfly effect with you because I want you to understand this.. Little Words & Actions Have a Profound Butterfly Effect on Your Child’s Life, Behavior & Self-Esteem Here you are as a parent, where everything you say and do—even what you don’t say or don’t do—will have a tremendous impact on how your child feels, values himself or herself, and how he or she discovers their positive purpose in today’s complicated world. So, of course you don’t want to do or say the wrong thing… because you know you only have one shot. There is no rewind button. Let me show you how you might be, unconsciously, supporting a butterfly effect that leads to children growing up with low self-esteem and very little confidence.

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The Story Of Sam... While writing this part of the report, I really went crazy thinking about how much children have to go through everyday. Check out what I came up with (in a much neater form) and you will see what I am talking about..

Sam wakes up with an amazing painting he made last night, he wants to share with Dad and Mom

Mom wakes up stressed sheʼll be late and so the family starts running around like crazy

Sam says “Mom, Dad look what I made!”

Mom and Dad still running, “Great, but we gotta run right now, we will see it later.. letʼs go!”

Sam sees “I am NOT Important”

Just Another Morning in Many Normal, Loving Families...

Sam scores a goal on the soccer field and comes excited to Dad after match, “Dad I got a goal!”

Dad goes “Congratulations son! But I bet if you train a little harder and focus, you can get two next time.”

Sam sees “I am NOT Good Enough”

Just Another Game in Many Normal, Loving Families...

Putting Things Into Perspective Let’s understand the butterfly effect in context with effective parenting. Equate the tiny factor of flapping butterfly wings with our daily actions and things we say to our children. The things we say and do (often the ones we don’t even bother to notice) are actually causing some considerable changes in the complex system of our children’s lives. Imagine yourself to be a young child listening to your parents repeatedly ask you questions such as ...

How many times do I have to tell you?” “What am I ever going to do with you?” “What’s wrong with you?” “Don’t you ever listen?” “Why can’t you just do as your told?’

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If you stop for a few moments and experience what it feels like, you will have a clear picture of what far too many children feel every day. People who try this exercise usually feel guilty, sad, and angry. (I certainly did when I tried it.) But what’s even worse than the momentary hurt are the beliefs that you would form if your parents continued to parent this way day after day, year after year. You’d probably conclude: • There’s something wrong with me. • I’m not good enough. • I’m not important.

And there are millions more examples I can give, things I see parents do everyday when I am at coffee shops and restaurants, reactions parents have to their children that only serve to have them build negative beliefs about themselves. What is worse is this leads to children..

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Feeling the need to get attention, which leads to rebellious actions, not listening to what you say, or doing opposite of what you ask them to do.

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Feeling the need to get acceptance, which leads to kids joining “anti-social gangs” or getting influenced by cults and communities.

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Feeling the need to have power, which makes them aggressive and abusive. Feeling that they are “not important” which makes them become couch potatoes, overweight, under-confident and anti-social.

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It is not that there is no solution to this problem, You Can Raise A Confident, Happy Child by understanding what is happening right NOW, that at least some of your parenting needs . to change in order for your child’s future to be different.

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Many parents are horrified to discover that many of their daily actions and conversations with their children result in these beliefs, and unfortunately, they often don’t even realize they are doing it!

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So What Am I Supposed To Do? Soon you will get an email from me with a video presentation that will take you through 10 of the most common, but damaging behaviors that parents exhibit daily. I will not only describe what doesn’t work, but I will also show you parenting approaches that do work! Now I am going to send you this video tomorrow with the assumption that you already understand how your current actions are shaping your child’s future, and want to stop doing what doesn’t work, and start doing what does... So with this upcoming video I'm going to stick my neck out and point out these common parenting errors, as well as provide positive parenting alternatives. Watch out for the next part in series, my video presentation on “10 Things Most Parents Do That Sabotages Their Child’s Happiness”. The list might surprise you, but I have had more than 1 parent tell me they made immediate changes in their parenting style after seeing this video! Thanks for listening, we’ll talk again soon!