5 C’s of a Happy Marriage SHAIKH AHMAD KUTTY
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WHEN A MARRIAGE IS BLESSED “If they both cherish the intention and resolve in their mind to realize peace and reconciliation Allah will bless their efforts (in achieving it.” (Qur’an: 4:34) connection, companionship, compassion, compromise and contentment.
Five C's of a Happy Marriage - Shaikh Ahmad Kutty
CONNECTION By connecting with Allah, we connect to a higher source of values that transcend our petty selfish needs, desires and concerns. Through this, we can anchor marriage on a firm foundation. We become connected to each other not so much because of our own subjective emotions but because of our commitment to Allah.
Five C's of a Happy Marriage - Shaikh Ahmad Kutty
COMPANIONSHIP The couples who are connected through tawhid become partners and companions, whose primary goal is to do the will of God together. This is the second key for a happy marriage: companionship. “This world is a brief sojourn and the best asset one can have is the companionship of a righteous wife.� (Reported by al-Mundhiri)
Five C's of a Happy Marriage - Shaikh Ahmad Kutty
COMPASSION Companionship is further strengthened by nurturing compassion; which should be born of recognizing the other as part of oneself. For Allah teaches us in the Qur’an that He created spouses for us from among ourselves. Thus, by recognizing each other as an extension of oneself, we engender peace and tranquility in relating to each other.
Five C's of a Happy Marriage - Shaikh Ahmad Kutty
COMPROMISE Compromise is another crucial ingredient of happiness in marriage. This can only come from one’s own awareness of one’s weakness vis a vis the strengths of their spouses or from a person of higher spiritual awareness like that of the Prophet (peace be upon him). This was the secret of Prophet’s success in forging and uniting people: It is the same principle he suggested for bringing peace in marriage. Compromise in a happy marriage means that both couples should be finding selfrespect and feeling of winning. In this way, both spouses are bound to find the relationship worthy of investment as it satisfies their innermost needs for love and respect. Five C's of a Happy Marriage - Shaikh Ahmad Kutty
CONTENTMENT Contentment is another vital element of a happy marriage. Happiness in marriage or life, for that matter, can never be attained without developing contentment. Contentment is the result of one’s sincere appreciation for God’s blessings, and trust in God’s Decree. The Prophet said, “Richness is not accumulating material things; richness is the richness of the heart.” (Reported by Bukhari)
Five C's of a Happy Marriage - Shaikh Ahmad Kutty
CONCLUSION By consistently nurturing strong connection with Allah, and daily practice of principles of companionship, compromise, compassion, contentment, couples can make marriage work and worthy of celebration “Our Lord! Grant us spouses and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders of the righteous people�
Five C's of a Happy Marriage - Shaikh Ahmad Kutty