Mum’s Koner

Mom, what are you doing? I am paying bills. I need to pay bills. What bills are you paying mommy?

The heater you put on costs money, the water you use costs money! How can we help?

Thanks for asking and I have been thinking about how you can help

I also need to pay off my credit cards!

Judah, what did you do… now we have work.

Calm down Naomi.

Mom what do we have to do?

we have to set goals for this year. Goals? What! Why? What do goals do?

You are not a baby! You have to plan your life. This will be our very first exercise in planning as a family and as individuals.

Mom! But we are still young, and I am your baby!

Like when we plan to go out, mom you change your mind and say change of plan guys Judah you are 10 years old and Naomi you are 13 years old. You need to learn how to make a plan for your life and future.

A plan is how you get from point A to point B

Naomi stop the drama, put that phone down and get me your journal! You too Judah. Both of you meet me on the dining table. We need to write down our plan for the year 2022.

So, if you want to be the best tennis player or best drummer, how do you become this? the plan tells you the things you must do, to achieve your goal so you start with goals: lets dream a little…..

Judah, tell me what would you like to see happen for you this year? Mom, I would like to play for a drum band…..

Oh wow! What else?

I would like to go on a beach vacation.

I want make all A's this semester. Very funny Judah! I am talking about more important things.

Finally! Some academic goal thought. Naomi, what are your goals?

Oh wow! Great goal….

Oh mom, where do I start! 1.I want to have lots of money so I can go to the mall zand buy fancy things 2.I want to go on a Beach vacation with my friends 3.I want to be a superstar singer…..and dancer 4.I want to learn how to cook so I can make all these nice things for us to eat.

Anymore goals… Oh yes, I want to make lots and lots of money. Any school goals…? Mom, Oh yeah! To do well in my grades……..

You both have lovely goals…… some of them quite interesting! But I love them all.

So here is the thing – Nothing just happens.! This means that your beach vacation, your making lots of money, your being a superstar, the best drummer, cooking, etc What do we need to go for vacation? We need to book tickets! We need to pack our clothes and we need to go to the airport.

We need money for the tickets, we need to do laundry, we need to clean the house , we need to make sure bill are paid! We need to check if our documents ( (passports, visas, immunization certificates...) are up to date. Mom, oh wow

Yes, you see, it is a process! You see, it is quite impossible to just show up at the airport to travel without having planned properly…

Okay, Nothing just happens….. So we break down the plan….. and we write the things we need to do, and that is why you have a journal… lets break it down. We need money: how do we get money? Money is very important.

We work.

We can sell stuff on FB market place. We can sell our old items, our old clothe and shoes. This is fun and exhausting at the same time. We save, or just collect it from you.

No, you work, and you save. So for a vacation for the 3 of us, how much do you think we need?

Yes it can be. The point to this exercise, is that you must think about your life and what you hope to accomplish and how you want to accomplish it. It is important to note that nothing just happens. Success is not magical. You must work hard, plan and take action. You must be consistent. Now, go to your rooms and go plan how you intend to succeed in school this year. I love you both! You will show me your plans later today!