Depression & Low Mood Self Help Guide
It may seem that nothing can be done to help you feel better. But there are things you can do that will make a difference. This self help guide aims to help you cope better with depression and low mood and the approach is called cognitive therapy. It involves looking at the way you think about things.
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You may have similar thoughts yourself. Depression is a very common problem and many people feel low or down in the dumps at times. This often due to life stresses, such as bereavement, money or accommodation problems or difficulties in relationships. For some people the problem becomes much worse and gets in the way of normal life.
What does research tell us about depression?
New research has helped us to understand depression more clearly as we now realise thoughts also play an important role in depression. Changes in feelings may occur gradually but the way a person thinks about themselves when they are depressed is very different for how they thought before. Perhaps you can think about some examples of depressed thinking in yourself or in someone you know who has depression. Here are a few of our examples:
The clever student who thinks he can’t concentrate.
The caring mother who thinks she has lost interest in her children.
The ordinary man who thinks he is useless because he has lost his job.
The business man, who believes he is on the brink of bankruptcy.
These are some of the signs or symptoms that you may experience if you are depressed.
Emotions or feelings – (tick if you feel like this)
Gloomy
thoughts
Feeling sad, guilty, upset, numb or despairing
play an important
Losing interest or enjoyment in things
role in depression.
Crying a lot or unable to cry when a truly sad event occurs
Feeling alone even if you are in company
When someone is
Feeling angry and irritable about the slightest things
Physical or bodily signs
depressed there are usually changes in the way they feel,
Tiredness
their emotions, how
Restless
their body reacts,
Sleep problems
what they think
Feeling worse at a particular time of day – usually mornings
and how they
Changes in weight, appetite and eating
behave.
Thoughts
Losing confidence in yourself
Expecting the worst and having negative or gloomy thoughts
Thinking that everything seems hopeless
Thinking you hate yourself
Poor memory or concentration
Behaviour
Having difficulty in making decisions
Can’t be bothered to do everyday tasks
Putting things off
Not doing things you used to enjoy
If you have ticked many of these boxes then you may be experiencing low mood or depression.
How can I understand these feelings? The way you think about things affects the way you feel, which affects the way you behave.
This cycle can look like this:
When you are feeling depressed you might have negative thoughts a lot of the time and with each negative thought the feelings of depression are likely to increase. Sometimes negative thoughts can stop you from doing the things you would normally do and you can get caught up in a vicious cycle.
Gloomy negative thoughts Do you have any gloomy thoughts about yourself? Do you have any gloomy thoughts about other things? Think about this for a moment and jot your examples down. It is important to remember that you might still occasionally have some of these sorts of thoughts even when you are not depressed. The difference is that you would generally dismiss them from your mind. When you are depressed, however, these thoughts are around all the time.
Let’s look at these negative thoughts
1.
Negative thoughts tend to be automatic – not based on reason or logic.
3.
Although unreasonable they probably seem reasonable and correct to you at the time.
2.
Often they are unreasonable and unrealistic and serve no purpose.
4.
The more you believe and accept negative thoughts, the worse you are likely to feel.
When people become depressed their thinking often changes. They may make some of the following errors when they are thinking negatively.
When people are depressed
1.
Exaggerating the negative – you think
unhelpful thoughts about
things are much worse than they really are.
themselves, the world and
2.
Over generalising – for example, if one of
your many daily tasks has not been
finished you think ‘I’ve achieved nothing –
think. They exaggerate the
nothing has been done’.
negative,
they often have gloomy or
the future. They can also make errors in the way they over
generalise
bad events, ignore positives
3.
Ignoring the positive – tend to focus
thinking on negative or bad events and
ignore positive or good events.
4.
Taking things personally – If our mood is
thoughts and errors in
low we blame ourselves for anything which is
thinking.
wrong.
How can I help myself -
in their lives and can take things personally. It is important to uncover gloomy
PRACTICAL STEPS
Make a daily plan - When people are depressed they often don’t feel like doing anything and find it hard to decide what to do each day. Tackle this by making an action plan/list of things you want to do. Start off with the easiest task at first and don’t aim too high.Tick off what you’ve done and at the end of the day you will be able to look back and see what you have achieved.
Physical exercise and activity can really help lift your mood.Try and build in a little each day. Mixing with friends and family can also help.
Achievements and pleasure - Depressed people often forget what they have achieved and what they enjoy. Most people have more things going for them than they are usually aware of. On your daily plan put a P next to those which have given you pleasure and an A next to those activities where you felt you achieved something and did well. Try and build some pleasant events into your day each day – treat yourself, it will help you.
Balancing - When you have a negative, critical thought, balance it out by making a more positive statement to your self. For example ‘I’m no good on this course’, could be balanced with ‘my tutor said how much he liked the piece of work I handed in yesterday’.
Try and remember details - A person who is depressed doesn’t remember details of events
and tends to think in general statements i.e. ‘I’ve never been any good at anything’. Try and train yourself to remember details so that good times and experiences are easy to recall.
Solving difficult problems - Sometimes we feel overwhelmed by the very complicated and difficult things we have to do. It could help if you write down each of the steps which you have to take in order to complete the job and then tackle one step at a time.
Long term beliefs - For example ‘I’m not a very cleaver person’ or I’m not a very lovable
person’.These beliefs are often a product of our past experience and may hold no truth in present reality. Try to challenge this self criticism and stop knocking yourself down and look for evidence that disproves the beliefs.
Particularly stressful times - Many people experience a difficult time in their lives that is
linked with events they cannot change i.e. a bereavement, unemployment, longstanding illness or chronic financial problems. Sometimes several of these events happen together and depression can result. In time, most people bounce back, but it may be hard to do this without help.
Further help We hope you will use the information in this booklet to help you overcome your current depression and get back control over your thoughts and your life. However, if you feel you are making little progress then other help is available to aid you in overcoming your problems. Your GP is the best person to talk to in the first instance. They will have information about local services which may be able to help.You can also contact your health visitor or practice nurse who is based at your GP practice.
Useful organisations and contacts Action on Depression
www.actionondepression.org
Students Against Depression www.studentsagainstdepression.org Positive Living Team
0141 273 1393
Students’ Association Student Adviser
0141 273 1650
Cruse Bereavement Care Scotland
0844 477 9400
Glasgow Branch
0141 248 2199
National Debt line
0808 808 4000
NHS24 08454 242424 Breathing Space
0800 83 85 87
The Samaritans
08457 90 90 90
Local Branch 0141 248 4488 Nightline
0141 552 2555, www.scnightline.com