A simple guide to online dating for shy guys

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Table of Contents Does She Like You? 3 What Do Women Find Attractive? 4 What Women Hate About Men 6 10 Signs She Is Just Not Into You 8 How To Flirt With A Girl 11 The Peculiarities Of Online Dating 13 Using Social Networking Sites For Dating 16 Free Dating Sites - Useful Tips & Safety Concerns 18 In Conclusion... 21 We recommend you to join following sites : Iwantu , Adultfriendfinder , Friendfinder , Fling and AmateurMatch


Does She Like You? In the world of dating, it would pay for men to know if women have genuine feelings for them or not. The reality is that many guys have problems telling if women are truly interested in them or if they are merely being played. If you aren't sure about how she feels, then you will not be able to make further relationship advancements. Well, here are some signs for you to read in order to find out if she is genuine or not. -If women are inexplicably happier whenever you are around, that would be a sign. Women might even seem a little uncomfortable since they try much harder to impress you. -If women gently brush their hands on yours during conversations, this is also a sign, even if it happens to be a totally unconscious move. -Whenever women speak to you, they might tilt their heads to the left or even unconsciously twirl their hair with their fingers. If this happens, then she is genuinely interested in you.

What Do Women Find Attractive? Despite what society has led you to believe, women are attracted to a good personality that gives off positive emotions. In order to have this personality you must develop certain traits that women will naturally find attractive while they are with you. If you do develop them then you will succeed and live a fun and adventurous dating life and if you don't you will be like the many men who live boring frustrating lives with women. There are two qualities you must have to be attractive to women. Positive Mental Attitude If you want to be able to do what women find attractive then having a positive mental attitude is important for your


success. Your attitude is based on your outlook about life and since you can think negatively or positively about something it makes much more sense to think positively because this is a trait that women find attractive. Thoughtfulness One thing women do find attractive is a man who is thoughtful and remembers minor details about the woman. Simple things such as remembering her name in the first meeting. Bringing up details of her past in a conversation shows to the woman that you made an effort to listen to her and pay attention to what she has to say. By learning to think positively about your relationships with women and being a thoughtful person who is a good listener, you will go a long way in being a man whom women find naturally attractive.

What Women Hate About Men Any man who claims to know what women desire is a liar. Many men are simply clueless, so they constantly commit mistakes which could instantly turn women off. The entire scene of dating can truly be a bit tiresome fighting through introductions, getting numbers, and hoping to seal deals. Therefore, comprehending what women hate can give you a bigger advantage. Here are several traits which women simply hate when it comes to men. What Traits do Women Hate in Men? Trait 1: "No Passion." Life has to be about passion. Therefore, men without passion are classified as zombies. Women quickly find out if men are going places or if they are merely walking through. Men who are driven individuals, no matter what the drive may be, will attract women. This has to do with a man's natural confidence. Therefore, find out what drives you. Let her know your passions to make her stick to you like a leech.


Trait 2: "Nice Guys." If you want to ruin your chances with women, simply play the nice guy role. Many guys turn mushy when they are attracted to a woman and wait on her like a slave. If you happen to be far too nice, you will seem weak - that is never an attractive trait.

10 Signs She Is Just Not Into You 1. Bathroom Break away: Her friends keep showing up every time you talk to her and drag her away to the bathroom. This is no coincidence, especially if this happens every time you try to talk to her! Her bladder is not that small! 2. The Gauntlet: You are in a crowd and try to approach her and mysteriously all her friends approach you and try to "get to know you" better. Chances are they are giving her time to pull a Houdini and disappear. At the end of the gauntlet you find only archaeological evidence she was ever there. 3. The ignore button: When you call her, her phone goes to voice mail after 4-6 rings. It takes about 2 rings for your phone to connect and about 1-2 for her to react. So chances are she hit the "ignore button" man, sorry. You could leave a message or just come to terms with the fact that she is just not into you. 4. Forgetting: She makes plans with you then pretends to have forgotten. When you think of her brain...think "elephant brain". 5. I'll just go ahead and reschedule: She cancels plans frequently. Females have a hierarchy of people and plans. In this instance you are probably just in her lowest tier. Anything that comes up will result in a cancellation. Even reruns of old Steven Seagal movies. 6. The "1 step": Every girl has a personal space. If you take one step towards her and she takes 1 step away, it's not


really a dance, its more like she just ain't into you. If she really dislikes you, she may even do this subconsciously even if you are not in the same room or even in the same state for that matter. 7. Friend request pending: If you continuously friend request her and you get no response, there is no Facebook malfunction!! She's ALWAYS online!. In fact she was probably on when you requested her saying, "not this jackass again!" 8. Mr perfectly not you: If her description of her perfect man is directly opposite to you. For example if you are a short, red headed, Irish male and she says, "I just wanna meet a tall, black, muscular, NBA player that doesn't eat potatoes." I think the writing is on the wall buddy. 9. Humour me!: She doesn't laugh at your jokes. It has nothing to do with your actual jokes. You are probably not funny anyhow. If she likes you, she will laugh, its flirtatious. If she always has THE look on her face. The one that makes her look as if she is in a concentration camp then you should reconsider things. 10. Super-other-man: She keeps talking about another guy like he is a superhero i.e. he's funnier than you, smarter than you, he has x-ray vision, he can fly etc. She may not dislike you, but you are probably the designated gay friend (DGF). You have zero sexual threat (sad I know).

How To Flirt With A Girl Smiling a lot is a major component to flirting. Some may wonder how something as seemingly innocuous as smiling can have a great impact on another person. There are a number of reasons for this and the most important is that it puts others at ease. A stern and serious look can be off putting at times. But, smiling adds a light-hearted tone and


flair to a conversation. This helps engage flirtatious reactions and contributes to a more relaxed and sociable environment. Without a doubt, smiling and appearing friendly is among the most necessary skills to develop when you wish to become successful at flirting. Self-confident non-verbal posturing is an absolute must if you want to flirt properly. This is because someone whose body language displays a lack of confidence or weakness will certainly not prove to be a very attractive person. And really, it would be tough to flirt successfully when the other person sees you are somewhat wimpy. Where is the attractiveness in that? When you are trying to make a positive impression on someone, it is critical to display an air of self-assuredness since this is an attractive quality. This does not mean, however, that you attempt to be cocky or try to impress as such actions will undermine the cause dramatically. Instead, mix confidence with light-hearted humility and you will notice a positive reaction. Humour goes a long way when it comes to flirting. This is because making others laugh is a helpful tactic that makes people more appreciative of flirting techniques. When you can make people laugh they will automatically like you. Developing a skill at being humorous is not always easy and it is best to be reserved at your humour until you start noticing favourable reactions. But, once you do develop a talent for making others laugh you will discover your ability to flirt will become even more successful.

The Peculiarities of Online Dating There are a number of new dating sites showing up. This reveals that online dating is getting more and more popular nowadays. No wonder that, along with all of these new dating sites, so many new internet users are joining the World Wide Web to become part of this huge new community. What is so special about online dating? What is it that makes


people take advantage of free dating sites, preferring online dating to offline dating? In the past, most people were very cautious about online dating. They considered it to be almost something shameful or indecent. Today, however, it's common to start building a relationship through online dating. In longing to find a soul mate, in searching to find a future spouse or beloved one, people register on free dating sites and other sites designed for such purposes. What are the advantages of this online dating? Firstly, you don't have to create strategic plans or campaigns by designing the place and circumstances in which you will meet your future date. Instead, you will meet by-way-of a computer which is switched onto the internet. And any computer skills which you already have (such as browsing the internet) will serve you here. You are going to find that it is so easy to browse the various dating sites and to register on them. As a rule, you start your journey by registering on free dating sites. Try yourself there; study the principles of online dating, and possibly choose to pay for certain dating services subsequently. The really great feature of online dating is that these steps are quick, easy and fun. Besides, you have lots of profiles to choose from. Every day internet dating site databases are growing. Isn't it wonderful? Secondly, internet dating is good for timid people who are not comfortable, or who are not brave enough to start a new relationship. Online dating lets you share your feelings, emotions and thoughts, and to totally expose yourself, without any fear of looking ridiculous. For example, if you are born with the wrong nose (or, if you think that you are born with the wrong nose:) you can correspond at a distance, permitting yourself to present your soul appearance, and to build a relationship by finding another with your same ideas, values and behavior. Your online correspondence is a chain which is permitting you to make your relationship firm, and is leading you to confidence in yourself and your partner.


And when the time comes for your real-life meeting, you won't be as worried (about your nose:) as you might have been, if your meeting (of one another) had started out by way of offline dating. Thirdly, and the most important thing, is that internet dating benumbs your passion (which commonly rules in the beginning of offline relationships). The distance, the physical detachment, makes your emotions more down-to-earth and more controllable by you. And it helps you to accept the other person more appropriately. It is correct that you shouldn't apprehend another person's personality through physical attraction (though it's very important) but that you should instead, focus on the other person's inward self, their mind and soul. Physical attraction can come as a result of a quality built relationship, that is to say, honesty with each other from the beginning of correspondence. Also, being involved in internet dating, means that you are able to decide whether you will move forward with this person in question; or will cut the relationship off in the outset. Passion doesn't control your decision here. A relationship formed through online dating, tested by distance and time, is a very valuable and solid relationship.

Using Social Networking Sites for Dating Here are a few suggestions how you can use the power of social networking sites to expand your potential dating contacts. 1. Use a chat room - All these sites have a chat feature, chat rooms or one on one chat online, and is a great way to make that initial contact in a safe anonymous way, and a way in which you can decide who is interesting to you and which contacts you may wish to take further. 2. Form or join an interest group - On your chosen site there will be groups of people with special interests that you can


join and meet up with, and if there isn't one that you like you can always start your own. 3. Explore friendship first - When you find people with whom you feel compatible it doesn't always mean you will be compatible for romance. If you start with the attitude that you are just trying to connect with new people, many of your contacts may turn into great social acquaintances or friends. By not ruling people out, just because you don't see that instant romantic spark, you will truly enhance your social life and who knows...things can change and it may lead you to that special someone. 4. Be polite and open minded - It is possible you will receive a message from another member that you feel is not worth taking the time to write a response. If you take that extra couple of minutes to write a short reply, you never know where that contact may lead. It is possible that by being open minded, that other member could prove to be helpful by introducing you to someone else, or by helping you network for career advancement. You never know, so it never hurts to be polite. Social networking sites are great places to meet new people, do not be too focused on meeting a romantic partner. Keep an open mind and use the comprehensive features available on the site which will expand your social network. Who knows where that will lead!

Free Dating Sites - Useful Tips & Safety Concerns While it's understandable that a lot of people are a tad apprehensive about free dating sites, the risks associated with them are really not that much different than meeting a total stranger at a bar. In fact, some supporters who have had successes with such sites would go as far as to claim that such sites are indeed much safer than a random encounter in a singles bar. It is true to some extent, as you don't really know someone from a bar right from the start,


and you'd still have to take your time getting to know them before getting involved in a relationship with them. With online dating it makes the entire process easier, as you're able to get to know your dates beforehand, right from the comforts of your home. However, while this may be the case, you still need to take several precautions into consideration when you're using free dating sites to find your possible love match. If you haven't rushed into finding a free dating sites, you'll find that there are some that provide as much security as paid-subscription sites. This is one important consideration to remember, as you would not want your sensitive private information to fall into the wrong hands. You wouldn't enjoy receiving countless spam emails simply because the site you're a member of happened to sell your contact information to a third party marketer, would you? Take the necessary steps to keep your information secure. Never divulge your personal information on a public domain where anyone and everyone can have access to it on the site. Such personal information could be your residential address, your telephone number, your workplace address, your social security number, etc. A big no-no you should always take into account is your financial information. Be it your credit card number or even your driver's license number, these seemingly insignificant digits may very well put you in personal or financial risk. Another tip you should take into account is to take your time. Whether it's a paid-subscription or a free dating site, you shouldn't rush headlong into things. The one turn-off most people have in common is someone who seems desperate to start a relationship without getting to know the other person better. Look around, read and review profiles of those whom you think might make a good match for you. Contact these individuals and start off with a casual conversation or message. Don't relate your entire life story to them right from the start. Don't assume right off that the person you're chatting with is THE ONE. Get to know them


first, via the site, via email, via chats, before you sort out an arrangement to meet up. When you do meet up, don't think that just because you met on a dating site that it's any less significant than if you were to meet offline. Relationships developed from online meetups can be as strong as offline meet-ups, and in fact there have been cases where people have been able to find enduring life partners from their online encounters. The most important thing to have when indulging in a relationship from free dating sites is to have faith, in both yourself and the person you decide to meet.

In Conclusion... As we come towards the end of this e-book, I'll explain a bit about myself. Being an artist/designer, there were a lot of females in my classes in college while I was studying. I was more interested in trying to pay tuition and passing my courses as opposed to going steady with a class-mate. When you have a lot of stress in life, especially with work, dating usually takes a back seat. I probably missed some of the fun times I could've had in college but there were more than enough lonely girls out there even after college who were looking for a mate. I was glad to have met some of them as they certainly gave me more confidence in myself. Upon meeting a lot of girls in many different places, including my job, Burger King, the fitness center, and heck...even an unemployment agency, I am firmly of the belief that girls suffer from just as much insecurity as guys. Guys are hesitant to approach girls, fearing a flat out rejection. Girls likewise are just as afraid of being rejected, as surprising as it may seem. There's a reason why dating sites are so popular as there are many girls shy of meeting guys in public places and would rather open accounts on numerous dating sites, hoping to meet somebody who is not only nice but willing to


give them the time of day. At the end of the day, guys and girls all have the same needs:) I've tried quite a few dating sites, basically having listed my profile on as many as 4 different sites. I had the most success on one specific dating site since I managed to meet girls in my own area. After some months spent on dating sites, I finally found Natalie who not only shared many of my interests, but who was also an artist like me and wanted to meet me in person, even though I was trying to play hard to get and sometimes putting her off and being persistent. Funny thing is, she actually came to my house without my inviting her. Although we did agree before-hand that we'd meet in person at a more romantic place so it certainly wasn't a case of stalking. Maybe I struck lucky or it was just destiny but this was the greatest relationship I'd ever had and we're still together after 3 years. Maybe you'll enjoy the same luck I had through the dating service I used? To our benefit, it's a terrific site with real legitimate members all looking for the same thing...a good companion. There are many good sites out there but this one worked best for me, so if you're feeling lucky, go ahead and try them. Maybe you also want to put your profile out there on a few other sites too? A few extra dating proposals could never hurt:) Having girls chase you is hardly the worst feeling in the world. As I said before, do make sure also to take things slowly, step by step. Don't ever feel pressured. The whole point of dating sites is for you to find a companion ultimately but also to make you comfortable in talking to girls generally. As I implied earlier, e-mails, chat-rooms, and chat-groups are the best methods to meet girls, and once you manage to settle in with talking to girls on-line, hopefully it can lead to talking through the phone and ultimately setting up a date. Don't always consider a date as being a candle-lit dinner at a restaurant. There's nothing wrong with meeting up at a theatre, bowling alley or even a park. The movie theatre usually is a good bet. Just be yourself and


take your time. Remember, being yourself is being true to yourself and to your girlfriend. Good luck and have fun:) We recommend you to join following sites : Iwantu , Adultfriendfinder , Friendfinder , Fling and AmateurMatch

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