Guide To Online Dating
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Intro You just signed up to a dating website, sent emails to the girls you are interested in and wait for response, and doesn’t get it, you try again, and again. Ever wonder what when wrong? With this guide, you will learn how to increase your odds on getting responds from the girls and how to set the first dates and to have a great time together. This Guide is a no nonsense straight to the point guide on the important points to take note on how to set up your profile, screening girls profiles, how to get response from them and all the way to the real dating part. Table of Content 1. Your Profile 2. Your pictures 3. First Contact 4. Ultimate weapon to use to get response 5. Crafting your email 6. After Email is sent 7. Responding to her emails 8. Getting Phone number 9. The first phone call 10. The first date 1. Your Profile Profiles are very important. It is a major aspect to get response from the girls. It must stand out from the crowd, if you see other guys profiles it is not too hard to do, here is the general guidelines Keep it simple. No deep details about anything, just a few hints. Pick a normal screen name. Be careful of trying something too clever that may be misinterpreted. Humor works, guaranteed. If you can get a woman to laugh out loud when reading your profile, you’re probably good to go. If nothing else, she’ll appreciate the change of pace. Don’t take it too seriously. If you’re trying to hard to come off as something you’re not, it will show. Have some fun with it instead. Your profile is not an opportunity for you to complain about how ugly most of the girls in your town are or how you tend to meet high-maintenance types. Get your point across. If there are things that are really high-priority for you, say something about them in the profile. It’s fine to purposely disqualify some prospects if there is a specific criteria, but don’t go on and on about it or sound bitter, etc. For example, rather than say “no gold-diggers” (which will irritate even the non-golddigging women), say something like “I’m looking for someone who values experience more than assets.” Sure, it sounds kind of goofy but it will work for you. As a bonus here’s a sample of a great profile:-
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The following PROFILE has been approved for ALL AUDIENCES By the Online Dating Association of America The dater advertised has been rated GT – Good Times [Note: use your best movie-preview-guy inner voice. Thanks.] This is the story of Max. Max wasn’t your regular international superspy. His last mission to the French and Italian Riveria had been successful but something hadn’t been quite right, and he had a problem to solve before the upcoming Costa Rica mission. After a close call involving a locked front door, a newspaper, and only a bath towel, Max decided he need a back up. A partner. But were could Max find the perfect match? At a secret gathering of his closest associates and advisors, the issue is raised: “Okay, who wants another hot dog? Oh, and does anyone know of any good super-spy partner girls? Especially ones who like camping and skiing. I seem to have a lot of those types of missions lately.” And so the challenge was set: Max was out to find his equal. But being a super-spy is dirty business and not just anyone would do. He needed the perfect mix of beauty and brains, force and finesse, wisdom and wit. Join Webdate pictures this summer for Max’s journey. You never know what you’ll find… [Okay, now is a good time to turn off that movie-preview-guy voice.]
2.Your Picture No shirt off flexing pictures. It is not a good idea, no matter how badass you may look. She can tell without you showing off. No pictures where it’s hard to figure out who you are. It’s confusing. This includes Halloween pictures, women wants to know what you look like, not what you dress up as, unless you are in uniform, girls dig that, and no group pictures. Pictures that give wrong impression, like pictures with kids when you don’t have any. Professional photos that you taken at work or school pictures. Rotate and update you pictures often, specially your main pictures that shows up in searches.
3.The first contact Dating sites have several method of contact like video messages, audio messages or instant messaging. Do not use these, you give the impression that you don’t have the guts to write a proper email to them and instant messaging is annoying to them, women login to check for reply not get bombarded with messages from random guys. Keep the email simple straight to the point and humorous if possible (Don’t worry, we’ll get to this in detail) Do not just sent emails left and right and hopes for the best, you are just wasting time,
women get tons of email from the guys, and don’t bother to read them or just scan through it, the odds is very low for them to response. You have to choose your target wisely, how to do it will be covered below.
4.Ultimate weapon to use to get response This part is very important, it will give you a huge advantage over the competition and it is very simple too. Know what I said earlier on not flinging response all over the place and girls get emails all the time. And we know that it’s hard for her to manage the flood of emails that is coming in the minute she posts the picture of her lovely face online. Women profiles are posted well before their pictures is cleared, right? We respond to them when the website shows them as new and picture has yet to be posted. We are going to respond based on the profiles alone, we screen them by reading their profiles and if you are comfortable with it, craft some great intro emails, sent it and wait. If you compare with the usual way (sent emails to profiles more than a week old with picture posted) with this technique you will get 3 to 5 times as many response. 3 to 5 times as many! I kid you not. I admit this is a like gambling, who knows what she’ll look like, and admit it, looks is important to us. But this is a small matter, with this technique the more you are skilled at screening profiles the better the odds of picking the right ones .And you will get to see her pictures later, just break contact if you don’t like it. When you get a response from the girl, assuming you have your own picture posted (You should), it is okay to ask her to email her picture to you, usually she will and you will get her pictures before the online services posts her pictures for the world to see. You will establish a rapport with her way earlier than anybody else that come rushing at her. You are way ahead of the game, the next step is just having an easy conversation and she’ll realize how lucky she was to have met you first!
5. Crafting your Emails Your first few emails with a woman should be kept to 2-3 short paragraphs. Resist the temptation to give her any compliments on her picture (if she has one), and definitely don’t say anything you wouldn’t in person. Saying something like “your smile really caught my eye” is okay, “my last girlfriend had red hair too” is not. The better looking she is, the more important this rule is. Every other guy out there will respond with “you’re hot” or “I like boobs” or something lame like that, and it generally doesn’t play well. Do try to give her an indirect compliment on something she says in her profile. If she talks about skiing, mention how you’ve got a soft spot for ski-bunnies. If her profile is especially witty or insightful, tell her how much you like that it stands out from the other boring profiles. Just like in the profile, don’t write anything that could be interpreted as bitter or arrogant. Just be cool, you’re still in the introductory stages here! Don’t rehash your profile. Let her ask you for more information; don’t just dump it in there. Introduce yourself with your name and leave it at that, and use your time enticing her to reply to your email. If you like, you can wrap it up with something like “Check out my profile, it’s got all the details. I look forward to hearing from you!” Keep it fun. Stay away from possible controversial subjects like politics, religion and sex, Stay away from making big plans for the future or generally getting ahead of yourself.
Don’t list your phone number right away or push for her personal information. More on this later, but being pushy is a very bad idea. If you do things right, you’ll get this without having to ask (and then you know you’re doing the right things!) Overall, the idea is to start a comfortable conversation cadence. Don’t ask her more than two or three questions at a time, and spend some time crafting how you respond to her questions so that it could lead to a larger conversation (if you want it to). Also, look for little clues in things that she mentions and make a mental note of them. If you do meet her, pulling this up to keep the conversation rolling will win you major points. 6. After Emails is sent You wait, and meanwhile continue looking for other potential candidates and sending emails to them as well. Dating Is a number game just like real dating, some just realize you are not their type, others just don’t check their emails often. If she interested she’ll write back to you, You just don’t worry about this if you follow the steps outlined earlier, If you do things right you will get a response, just be patient. And don’t send follow up emails to inquire about your first email. You won’t increase the odds of her responding to you by the number of emails you sent her. 7. When you get response You screen through the profiles, sent emails and got the much awaited response, congratulations! Savor the moment! You are way ahead of the crowd, you have won a major battle, a turning point of the war, but remember it is a battle not the war, to win the war a lot of work need to be done. When her emails come in, this is what to look for, does she write a lot or little? Usually the more she writes the more interested she is about you. Look for questions, she asks questions because she is interested, look for stuff that she wants to talk about. When you respond, refer to the email guideline, plus answer the question she ask and talk about the stuff she mention in her email, don’t mention meeting or phone number yet, just tell her ‘we should meet sometime” and give her your phone number. 8. Getting Phone Number Getting phone number is critical, it is crucial for you to make date plans over the phone rather than email. I you play your card right, she will probably include her phone number in subsequent email with something like ‘We should try talking trough the phone”. After the third or fourth email, if she doesn’t include her phone number, just include yours in your email, if she is interested she’ll reply with her phone number. Don’t push for her number, if things continue without phone number, just drop it, she’s not interested. Remember dating is a number game it is important to through the process as quickly as possible. And do the process as many times as possible. 9.The first phone call If she has given you her number, it means she actually wants to talk with you and you are definitely on your way to success. Don’t call her at 9pm on a Friday or Saturday night; you might as well just send her an email that say “I don’t have a life, and assume you don’t either.” Sunday evenings are good , since almost everyone is home on Sunday evenings. Don’t call during the workday either. If, when you do
call, and you get the dreaded voicemail, keep it short and sweet and leave yourself some options:
“Hi, Jean, this is David. Finally getting a chance to call you but I missed you. I’ll be up until 10 or so tonight, feel free to call at 232-456-6788, and if that doesn’t work I’ll try getting a hold of you tomorrow night. Take care.” When you talk to a woman on the phone for the first time, remember that she is nervous too. Sometimes it takes a few minutes to get comfortable, and that’s just the way it is. Resist the temptation to try too hard here by forcing the conversation. Ask some simple questions about how her day is going or if she watched a particular show or news story. The key is to get the both of you to forget that you’ve never met each other so you can start interacting like normal people. This phone call serves two purposes. First, it’s to root out any real obvious incompatibilities between you two. Over email, we can spend time crafting each word and sentence. On the phone we can’t do that. There will be times when you just can’t connect with someone, and that may be a red flag you should pay attention to. But don’t have too high of expectations, and just like the emails, keep it light and fun. Talk just long enough to start to get comfortable. Once you’ve got some conversation rolling, it’s time to move on to the second purpose of the phone call, which is to set up a date in person. Before you get on the phone, you should think of two meeting place and setup ideas. Pick two different coffee houses or restaurants in the area. And when the time is right, propose a meeting, but don’t be too pushy about it.
For example:
You: “You’re pretty easy to talk to. I really don’t like getting to know someone over the phone though, I prefer face-to-face, so how about we meet up for a drink sometime this week? I’ve got Tuesday and Thursday free.” Her: “Yes, sure. Thursday works for me.” You: “Okay, great. How about we meet at 7:30 for a drink at the Starbucks on 11`th Street, or maybe at the Derek Bar?” Her: “Yes, that sounds nice, the Derek is right by where I work so let’s go there. I like that place.” You: “Excellent, Thursday, 7:30, Derek Bar it is. It was great finally getting a chance to match a voice to a name! Hey, I’ve got to run, I’m looking forward to Thursday. You’ve given her some simple choices on time and location, but haven’t put her on the spot for ideas, and now you’ve got your date. If she says she’s busy on those two days, ask her to pick a day. If she replies with something like “gosh, work is really busy”, that’s usually code language for “I’m not sure if I really want to meet you right now.” If that happens, brush it off as calmly as possible and just say “that’s cool, some other time then”. The only way to really handle this is to send another email a few days later, see if she replies, and then try again in a week or so. Important points to remember; Keep it simple, don’t plan for a movie or dinner, it is to much for a first meeting The objective is getting to know each other so coffee and drinks is sufficient and you don’t have to spend a fortune getting to know each other
Avoid meeting her with her friends and your, if she suggest this, do everything you can to set up one to one meeting like “well, I’m sure your friends are great but it’s you that I’m actually interested in getting to know you, so can we keep it to just us?”.
10.First Date It is important to realize that blind dates is one of the most awkward situations two people can be put into. Nothing can be done about it but keep it in mind, She is every bit as nervous as you are, just study her profiles and her emails for things to talk about. Remember, the purpose of this date is just to get comfortable with each other and to set up the second date. Points to remember Do not be too pushy about conversation or physical contact of any kind, just relax and have a good time. Turn off your cellphone! Answering calls on a first date is a no no, a confirmed way to get a bad impression. Study her profiles and emails to get topic for conversations. Keep the date to a very public place, easy to find and not loud. Closing remarks Well that’s it, after your first date, if you are having are having a great time with her, set up a second date, I assure you it will be totally different experience from the first one, you have passed the ice breaking stage, no more awkwardness and nervousness, and you will have great time with each other. I have been using a lot of dating website services, a lot is okay but the best one by far in terms of getting response from women (real ones, not those fake ones that lure you to some porn paysites and similar schemes) have a lot of hot women are: Try it out, I guarantee you don’t have to spent a lot of time to coax response and get to know a lot of hot women.
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