Grandparents and parents with disabled children

By Meredith Conte

The stress levels only rise for parents of special needs children. The U.S. Census Bureau estimates nearly 4.5% of children under 18 have some type of disability, and in 2023, the Center for Disease Control shared that 1 in 36 children in the U.S. are diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) — up from 1 in 150 in the year 2000. Numbers like these continue to rise thanks to new diagnostic tools, increased awareness and changes in reporting.

The role of grandparents in families with special needs children cannot be underestimated.

As a parent of children with special needs, I can’t underscore enough how valuable it is for grandparents to be involved. While there will always be some level of an “I can do it myself” mindset, the truth is that today’s parents can’t do it all. It’s just not feasible given current societal norms and expectations.

“Grandparents often provide a sense of security and unconditional love. Their presence can allow their grandchildren to feel emotionally grounded, especially during challenging times. Grandparents play a pivotal role and contribute significantly to the social and emotional growth of their grandchildren,” shares Susan Abrams, speech pathologist of The Social Coach.

As a grandparent, if you are unsure of how to be engaged, just ask. Consider asking your adult children, “What might be the best way to support you?” or “Is there anything I can do that won’t make the situation worse?” Allow your children the time and space to consider your questions and come back to you with thoughtful answers. Let’s come together to discuss emotional support, financial support, and social and recreational involvement.

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