==== ==== For more great marriage saving tips and advice, visit: www.revitaliseyourmarriage.com ==== ==== The Essential Ways To Save Your Marriage It isn't uncommon at some stage for married couples to reach a roadblock in their relationship. Couples may start to question what they have and wonder if making this lifelong commitment was the right thing to do. This may be due to a lack of communication, continual arguing or feelings of neglect. Often though, it isn't as severe as these examples. It is just that both husband and wife are going through what I call 'the adjustment phase'. If we take a moment to look at how relationships form, it really is a rollercoaster of emotion; you begin to experience these intensely passionate feelings for another person like you never have before, spend absolutely all your time with them and then both decide to 'take the plunge' and get married. You now go on a honeymoon for two weeks. Romance is in the air and the outside world simply does not exist. Often what follows these beginning stages is the wakeup call where it dawns on us that more than likely, the marriage won't simply stay in this whirlwind of emotion. The reality sets in that we will be spending the rest of our lives with this one person. Undoubtedly for many, this is a daunting prospect. With time though, you will learn to be just as excited by your relationship and in love with your partner as ever. Bear this bigger picture in mind when moments of disillusionment occur. Make sure that you aren't keeping your spouse in the dark; share your life with them and let them know how you are feeling. Likewise, be there for them when they need you or simply want to vent. However, I would refrain from sharing if you are feeling negative or insecure as this will have an adverse affect on them. This way of communicating can quite easily become a habit. Conversely, if you make an effort to share your positivity with them, then this is what you will receive. That will become the default setting. Sometimes this isn't easy though. You may be struggling to find the positives. If this is the case, take time to develop and re-establish yourself as a married man/woman. At times, the compromise that a relationship brings can be challenging. In a sense, as a single person, you can afford to be selfish and live in a way that suits you. Once you are in a relationship, this changes dramatically and can be a shock to the system. I would none the less encourage you to get your life to where you want it to be and look at this period as an opportunity to grow as an individual as well as one half of a couple.
A really powerful exercise you can practice with your partner is to each day, do something entirely for them. It doesn't have to be elaborate or overly-romantic; it may be as simple as going for a walk with them if that's what they desire. Through doing this, you are deepening your connection and becoming more in tune with each other. Get to the stage where even if you both have busy schedules, this becomes an effortless way of interacting. You will grow tremendously as a couple.
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