Lohman Funeral Home Planning Guide by Judith Leslie

Whether itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s a Harley Service, an Antique Car Service, or a Customized Photo Tribute Service, our goal is to help families create a Celebration of Life

On behalf of the entire Lohman staff, we thank you for the trust you have placed in us to handle your arrangements.

Victor, Nancy, Lowell, and Ty Lohman

Our purpose is to create meaningful services by providing the most personal attention to detail for all families within our community.

Lohman Family

Funeral Services

From the warm cookies we serve to families during visitations to the candles that illuminate our chapels, Lohman Funeral Homes are comfortable and comforting places where family and friends can gather to provide support and share memories.

Celebrating a Life Traditional services usually include:

• Graveside Service

• Casket

• Visitation

• Transportation

• Funeral Ceremony

• Flowers

Expanding on the “Traditional ” Today’s personalized funeral: • Photo Tribute DVD’s • Memory Boards / Tables • Special Music • Customized Casket • Personalized Ceremonies to Celebrate Life • Eulogies • Balloon Release • Dove Release • Refreshments

Lohman Family Our cemeteries will be beautifully maintained forever, without any assessment to you or your family.

Cemeteries

A Life Well-Lived is Worth Remembering 9

Lohman Family • Family Garden Estates • Private Mausoleums • Community Mausoleums

Cemeteries

If there had been a death in your family yesterdayâ&#x20AC;Ś what would you be doing today?

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Made by husbands

Made by widows and children

Facing this Burden Alone 13

Fundamental Planning

Documents Gathered and Organized

Provide Peace of

Three important steps today can prevent regrets tomorrow. 14

Funeral and Cemetery Arrangements

Financial Planning

Mind to Loved Ones Eliminate Financial Burdens by Selecting a Funding Option to Suit Your Needs 15

“I rejoice in life for its own sake. Life is no brief candle for me. It is a sort of splendid torch which I got hold of for a moment, and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before turning it over to future generations.” – George Bernard Shaw 1856 – 1950

Husband’s Life Record Name _______________________________________________________________________ First

Middle

Last

Address _____________________________________________________________________ Street

City

State

Date of Birth _________________________________________________________________ Day

Month

Year

Birth Place __________________________________________________________________ State

City

Country

Occupation __________________________________ Job Title ______________________ Company ___________________________________________________________________ Prior Employment ____________________________________________________________ Education ___________________________________________________________________ School

Degrees

Year

Clubs, Lodges ________________________________________________________________ Civic Activities _______________________________________________________________ Public Offices Held ___________________________________________________________ Professional Achievements _____________________________________________________ Veteran _____________________________________________________________________ Name of War or Dates Served ________________________________________________ Organization _____________________________ Rank _________________________ Enlisted at _______________________________ Date _________________________ Discharged at _____________________________ Date _________________________ Location of Discharge Certificate _____________________________________________ Citations, Recognitions or Awards _______________________________________________ Marital Status ________________________________________________________________ (Single, Widowed, Divorced)

Name of Spouse ______________________________________________________________ Mother’s Maiden Name ________________________________________________________ Birth Place

Father’s Name ________________________________________________________________ Birth Place 18

Wife’s Life Record Name _______________________________________________________________________ First

Middle

Last

Address _____________________________________________________________________ Street

City

State

Date of Birth _________________________________________________________________ Day

Month

Year

Birth Place __________________________________________________________________ State

City

Country

Degrees

Year

Name of Spouse ______________________________________________________________ Mother’s Maiden Name ________________________________________________________ Birth Place

Father’s Name ________________________________________________________________ Birth Place 19

Statement of His Last Wishes I wish to be: _________________________________________________________________ (buried / cremated)

I wish to be interred at: ________________________________________________________ I wish to have my ashes spread at: _______________________________________________ I have prepaid arrangements at: _________________________________________________ Attached is my biography for use in my tribute.

Yes

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It is my wish that my funeral services be held at ___________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ (location)

and be conducted by: _______________________________________________________ I wish to have the following type of service: _______________________________________ It is my wish that my pall-bearers be: ____________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ It is my wish that my honorary pall-bearers be: ____________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ I wish that the following speak at my funeral / memorial services: _____________________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ I would like the following readings / songs: _______________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ Memorial gifts should be made to: _______________________________________________ Address: _________________________________________________________________ In addition, it is my wish that: __________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ Date: ____________________ Signature: _________________________________________ Print or Type Name: ___________________________________________________________ 20

Statement of Her Last Wishes I wish to be: _________________________________________________________________ (buried / cremated)

Yes

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It is my wish that my funeral services be held at ___________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ (location)

Notes for His Newspaper Tribute ■ Funeral

■ Memorial

■ Graveside

■ Other _______

■ Picture Included

■ Use Veteran’s Flag

SERVICES for (name of deceased): ________________________________________________, (Mr.)

Last

First

Middle

age _____, of (local street name / city) ____________________________________________ who died on (date of death) _________, at (location) _______________________________ will be held (time / date / location of service) ________________________________________ at (name of funeral home or chapel) _______________________________________________ with (name of person officiating) ________________________________________ officiating. Interment will follow immediately at (burial time / date / location) _______________________ ________________________________________________________________________. The family will receive friends on / at (calling hours time / date / location) __________________ ________________________________________________________________________. Mr. ________________ was born in (birthplace city / state) _____________________________ on (date of birth) _______. He moved to this area from (where)______________________ __________________________________________________ on (date) ______________. PERSONAL INFORMATION (memberships, interests, hobbies, education, etc.) He enjoyed _______________________________________________________________. He served in the U.S. _______________________________________________________. He was a member of _______________________________________________________. He graduated from _________________________________________________________. SURVIVORS include: Name / Relationship

City / State

_____________________________________

__________________________________

_____________________________________

__________________________________

_____________________________________

__________________________________

_____________________________________

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Memorial donations may be made in his honor to: _________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ (Name, Address, City, State, Zip, Phone) 22

Notes for Her Newspaper Tribute ■ Funeral

■ Memorial

■ Graveside

■ Other _______

■ Picture Included

■ Use Veteran’s Flag

SERVICES for (name of deceased): ________________________________________________, (Mrs. / Ms. / Miss) Last

First

Middle

age _____, of (local street name / city) ____________________________________________ who died on (date of death) _________, at (location) _______________________________ will be held (time / date / location of service) ________________________________________ at (name of funeral home or chapel) _______________________________________________ with (name of person officiating) ________________________________________ officiating. Interment will follow immediately at (burial time / date / location) _______________________ ________________________________________________________________________. The family will receive friends on / at (calling hours time / date / location) __________________ ________________________________________________________________________. Mrs. / Ms. / Miss ________________ was born in (birthplace city / state) __________________ on (date of birth) _______. She moved to this area from (where) _____________________ __________________________________________________ on (date) ______________. PERSONAL INFORMATION (memberships, interests, hobbies, education, etc.) She enjoyed ______________________________________________________________. She served in the U.S. ______________________________________________________. She was a member of _______________________________________________________. She graduated from ________________________________________________________. SURVIVORS include: Name / Relationship

City / State

_____________________________________

__________________________________

_____________________________________

__________________________________

_____________________________________

__________________________________

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Memorial donations may be made in her honor to: _________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ (Name, Address, City, State, Zip, Phone) 23

His Thoughts, Wishes & Remembrances To those whom you leave behind, these important thoughts will be cherished, remembered and shared with generations to come. My fondest memories… ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ My proudest family moments… ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ My greatest accomplishments… ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ My favorite places, pets, music, interests… ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ I would most like to be remembered for… ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ 24

Her Thoughts, Wishes & Remembrances To those whom you leave behind, these important thoughts will be cherished, remembered and shared with generations to come. My fondest memories… ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ My proudest family moments… ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ My greatest accomplishments… ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ My favorite places, pets, music, interests… ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ I would most like to be remembered for… ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ 25

Social Security Information S.S.# of ___________________________________

S.S.# of _______________________________

No. ______________________________________

No. __________________________________

A MESSAGE FROM SOCIAL SECURITY Your funeral director is helping the Social Security office by giving you this information about Social Security benefits. If the deceased was receiving benefits, you need to contact us to report the death. If you think you may be eligible for survivor benefits, you should contact us to apply. WHO CAN GET SURVIVOR BENEFITS? Here is a list of family members who usually can get benefits: • Widows and widowers, age 60 or older. • Widows and widowers at any age if caring for the deceased’s child(ren) who are under age 16 or disabled. • Divorced wives and husbands, age 60 or older, if married to the deceased 10 years or more. • Widows, widowers, divorced wives, and divorced husbands, age 50 or older, if they are disabled. • Children up to age 18. • Children age 18 – 19, if they are full-time students. • Children over age 18, if they became disabled before age 22. • The deceased worker’s parents, age 62 or older, if they were being supported by the worker. A SPECIAL ONE-TIME PAYMENT In addition to the monthly benefits for family members, a one-time payment of $255 can be paid to a spouse who was living with the worker at the time of death. If there is none, it can be paid to: • A spouse who is eligible for benefits. • A child or children eligible for benefits. This payment cannot be made if there is no eligible spouse or child. HOW TO APPLY FOR BENEFITS You can apply for benefits by telephone, by going to any Social Security office, or by calling the numbers listed below. INFORMATION NEEDED • Your Social Security number and the deceased worker’s Social Security number. • A death certificate (Generally, the funeral director provides a statement that can be used for this purpose.). • Proof of the deceased worker’s earnings for the last year (W-2 forms or self-employment tax return). • Your birth certificate. • A marriage certificate, if you are applying as a widow, widower, divorced wife, or divorced husband. • Children’s birth certificate and Social Security numbers, if applying for children’s benefits. • Your checking or savings account information, if you want direct deposit of your benefits. You will need to submit original documents or copies certified by the issuing office. You can mail or bring them to the office. Social Security will make photocopies and return your documents. A REMINDER… If the deceased was receiving Social Security benefits, any checks which arrive after death will need to be returned to the Social Security office. If Social Security checks were being directly deposited into a bank account, the bank needs to be notified of the death, too. Social Security Administration Toll-Free Phone Number / Website: 1-800-772-1213 • www.ssa.gov 26

Veteran’s Burial Benefits Branch of Service: __________________________

Service Serial Number: _______________________

Date Entered Service: ________________________

Place: _____________________________________

Type of Separation or Discharge of Service: _______________________________

Date: _____________

Place of Separation: ________________________________________________________________________ Location of Military Discharge Papers (DD214): ________________________________________________ Highest Grade, Rank or Rating Received: ______________________________________________________ Wars / Conflicts Served: ____________________________________________________________________ Additional Information / Medals / Honors / Citations: ____________________________________________ VETERAN’S BURIAL ALLOWANCE The U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) furnishes a partial reimbursement of eligible veteran’s burial and funeral costs. When the cause of death is not service-related, the reimbursement is generally described as two payments: (1) a burial and funeral expense allowance, and (2) a plot interment allowance. You may be entitled to a VA burial allowance if: • You paid for a veteran’s burial or funeral AND • You have not been reimbursed by another government agency or some source, such as the deceased veteran’s employer AND • The veteran was discharged under conditions other than dishonorable. In addition, at least one of the following conditions must be met: • The veteran died because of a service-related disability OR • The veteran was getting VA pension or compensation at the time of death OR • The veteran was entitled to receive VA pension or compensation but declined not to reduce his / her military retirement or disability pay OR • The veteran died in a VA hospital or while in a nursing home under VA contract. Serve-related death. The VA pays an allowance toward burial expenses. Non-service related death. The VA will pay an allowance toward burial and funeral expenses and a plot interment allowance. If the death happened while the veteran was in a VA hospital or under contracted nursing care, the cost of moving the deceased may be reimbursed. HEADSTONES AND MARKERS • The VA furnishes upon request, at no charge to the applicant, a Government headstone or marker to mark the unmarked grave of an eligible veteran in any cemetery around the world. • Flat bronze, granite or marble markers and upright granite headstone are available. The style choice must be consistent with existing monuments at the place of burial. • Niche markers are also available to mark columbaria used for inurnment or cremated remains. BURIAL FLAGS Most veterans are eligible for a burial flag. Reservists entitled to retired pay are also eligible to receive a burial flag. To facilitate receiving veterans benefits for which you may be eligible, you will need the following when you contact the Veterans Administration Office: • Proof of the veteran’s military service (DD214) • Marriage License (if applicable) • Service Serial Number • Children’s Birth Certificate (if applicable) • Certified Copy of the Death Certificate Veterans Administration Toll-Free Number: 1-800-827-1000 • www.va.gov 27

Checklist of Things To Do NOTIFY:

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The doctor or medical examiner The funeral director The cemetery or memorial park The minister and church All the relatives All the friends Employers of mourners who must be absent from work Organist and singer Pallbearers Insurance agents Unions and fraternal organizations

■ Newspapers DECIDE ON:

■ Choice of disposition ■ A memorial estate and actual space

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Casket Vault or outer case Clothing Blanket or robe Flowers Music Food Furniture Time Place Transportation Cards of thanks

IN ADDITION:

■ Provide vital statistics about the deceased ■ Prepare and sign necessary papers ■ Provide addresses for all interested people who must be notified

■ Answer innumerable sympathetic phone calls, message, and letters

■ Meet and talk with everyone about all details

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Greet all friends and relatives who call Provide lodging for out-of-town guests Clean and ready your home Plan funeral car list

YOU MUST ALSO PAY SOME OR ALL OF THE FOLLOWING:

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Doctor Hospital Medicine and drugs Funeral Cemetery lot Interment service Minister Organist Florist Clothing Transportation Telephone Food Memorials Certified death certificates Obituaries

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We plan and prepare for all of the major events in our lives… • Births • Vacations • Education • Weddings • Retirement

“Life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

16.5 million people intend to pre-plan their final arrangements within the next 12 months. 31

Because No One is Promised Statistics • In the U.S., a baby is born every 12 seconds. A death occurs every 8 seconds.* • Of all U.S. deaths, one in four occur in people under 50 years of age.* • 83% of Americans, 30 and older, think funeral planning is a good idea.** * www.census.gov **The Wirthlin Report, 1999

Tomorrowâ&#x20AC;Ś

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35 years ago

15 years ago

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The true cost of your final arrangements depends on when you make them.

15 years from now

35 years from now

50 years from now 35

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Plan Would Move with You

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Today, Not Tomorrowâ&#x20AC;Ś We have discovered together many of the important decisions that need to be made when a death occurs.

We talked about protection and security from both the emotional and financial perspectives.

We have discussed the way Lohman Funeral Homes and Cemeteries provide you with several different financial avenues to suit your needs.

We discussed the importance, responsibility and reasons for planning ahead for the things we know will happen.

Together, Not Alone You now have the opportunity to provide peace of mind for yourself and comfort for your loved ones.

The decision is yours.

At the Time of Death: You Have No Choice

• Emotional Overspending

• Alone

• Hasty Decisions

• Stress

• Uncertainty

• Confused

Advanced Planning: Protect Those We Love • Decisions Made Together • Security • Today’s Lower Prices • Comfort • Peace of Mind • Stop Inflation

“It had to be done. I chose to do it so they wouldn’t have to.”

Losing someone is never easy. Always remember how important you have been to me and the precious times we have shared. Because of this, I have spent much time and thought in completing this planner. I hope this booklet has helped to detail my final wishes and relieves you of some unnecessary stress at the time of my death. I also hope these pages serve as a lasting memory of my life. To my cherished family and dear friends, I leave these thoughts and my love.

Signature: ____________________________________________________________________________

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