A Matchmaker’s Guide to Dating In 2015 by Julie January, 2015 in Dating Advice for Men, Dating Advice for Women
Dating is evolving, rapidly. Here’s what to do to maximize your chances of finding a beautiful partnership in this bright New Year.
1. Know who you are Make a list of all of your attributes, qualities and characteristics – and identify your top five elements of appeal – the things that make you special, the things that your future partner will value most about you. And have the courage to look to see what three things you can do to improve your value in this highly competitive romantic marketplace. In other words… what needs fixin’ in order to attract and hold the attention of the person you’re “targeting”?
2. Get GREAT new photos of the adorable you Especially if you’re dating online or if you’re registered with your local matchmakers, you cannot expect second dates if you don’t look like your photos, or if you’re using only a face shot. Throughout the U.S. and Canada, here’s your affordable solution. Women can develop attraction over time MUCH more than men can, just so you know. It’s biological, it’s not personal.
3. Have a plan Get yourself on two new first dates each month, with people who meet your top three Critical Criteria. Do whatever it takes to meet these new people, whether that be online dating, meet-up groups, singles events, or working with your local matchmakers. If you’re not being invited out, then YOU be the one to extend invitations for first, second, and third dates. Don’t stop until you have a Keeper by your side.
4. Keep it positive Look for what’s right, versus what’s lacking or missing or wrong with the candidates who are all around you. If the people you’re interested in dating are not “hot” for you, then chances are you’re shooting of your league. Truly. What to do? Broaden your interpretation for who an acceptable candidate might be for you, or find ways to get on first, second, and third dates with more people.
5. Flirt Use your eyes and your smile and practice engaging with people everywhere you go, every day of your life. Make “dates” with yourself, so you’ll be out in the world, interfacing with people over your morning coffee, over soup at the deli, over a glass of wine or cranberry juice at your local hot spot.
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