for the dreamers
JUPITER'S CORNER
SERIES 01
ISSUE NO. 02
S O L I T A R Y
B L I S S
S O L I T A R Y
B L I S S
PAGE 2 | CONTENTS
CONTENTS WHAT'S IN THIS MONTH'S ISSUE?
THE IMPORTANCE OF BEING ALONE
04
RELEASING GUILT
07
GETTING GROUNDED
10
ROUTINES
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PAGE 4 | THE IMPORTANCE OF BEING ALONE
THE IMPORTANCE OF BEING ALONE Relishing in your own solitude can be a daunting task. Where once there were loud voices, big personalities, differing opinions, there are now empty spaces. Like being faced with a room of mirrors, there is no longer a demand to fit into any kind of mold. As relieving as it is to be able to remove the filter, it can also be equally as intimidating. It’s in solitude that you are able to see yourself for who you are without external social pressures and expectations. Whether we like it or not, we alter parts of ourselves to adapt to the situations we are faced with in everyday life. This doesn’t mean you’re not remaining true to yourself. It just means you're being selective of which parts of yourself to put on display. For example, you may alter yourself to be more hireable to an employer in a job interview. Issues arise when you start taking on attributes that aren’t true to who you are just to appear more desirable to a group of people, person, or society as a whole. We live in a society overflowing with expectations. The neverending list of ever-changing standards is like a dangling carrot that we’re forever chasing, but never obtain. You see, the whole reason why these standards exist is to keep you constantly chasing. The more you chase, the more money you put into the market that is just itching to tell you you’re still not good enough when you reach your next goal. From the moment we are old enough to retain information, we are taught by the media that just simply being yourself, is simply not enough. Then ensues the cycle of trying to invent a whole new personality based on all of the ones that already exist. A society of clones that empty their pockets more and more just to keep up with standards that are a figment of our imagination. To gain validation that we’re pretending well enough, we seek the opinions of others. We begin basing our values and opinions of ourselves on these unavailing words. All this we do without even realising. Why? Because for the majority of us, it’s all we’ve ever known. The world is filled with contradictions. So how are we meant to catch ourselves, dig down, and uncover who we truly are, ridding ourselves of this need to be someone we’re not? This is the importance of being alone.
PAGE 5 | THE IMPORTANCE OF BEING ALONE
The most important relationship you will ever have in your entire life is with yourself. When push comes to shove, all we have is ourselves. You’re the only one you can truly, wholeheartedly trust. You’re the only one who knows more about yourself than anyone ever will. We are born with ourselves and we die with ourselves. So why would we want to sabotage such potential for a beautiful, abundant, rewarding relationship? Building a strong relationship with yourself, allows you to lay the brickwork for solid relationships with others. A strong relationship with yourself, allows you to feel gratitude, love, abundance, and contentment. Slowly but surely, you’ll find happiness in the littlest things and feel less of a need to source happiness elsewhere, whether that be from material items or other people. Finally, you’ll be the one that’s in control. This simple bliss is society’s worst enemy. Imagine if everyone in the world a solid, healthy relationship with themselves. There would be no more money injected into all the major corporations that feed off the insecurities of humanity. Being alone is like turning off the TV. It’s like muting the rest of the world for a little while, and just simply existing with yourself. You don’t have to put up a front for yourself. There’s nothing quite like being alone. If you let it, it can blossom into such an array of priceless experiences. You open your heart and mind up to a whole new perspective of your being. You learn things about yourself that you otherwise wouldn’t have, you give your brain the time to detox and allow fresh, cleansed energy to enter your body. It’s ample time to recharge and look after your own wellbeing. Being alone allows you to connect with your true sense of self. It allows you to connect with what you love, and uncover the things that you don’t. It allows you to lay down the building blocks of a lifelong relationship that will constantly teach you valuable lessons that you may pass on throughout your lifetime. Importantly, it will help you build the shield that will protect your own energy as you enter the hustle and bustle of everyday life. Through discovering yourself in your own solitude, you will embark on a journey towards self-love, where you’ll no longer look to the opinions of others to measure your own worth. So, allow yourself the time to simply just exist, in your own solitude.
- Ashley J Callahan
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PAGE 7 | RELEASING GUILT
NEVER FEEL GUILTY FOR TAKING TIME TO YOURSELF
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HAVE YOU EVER FELT GUILTY FOR HAVING TIME TO YOURSELF?
- Jess
Yes, especially being in a relationship. Having a day where I wanna just relax at home and catch my breath from going out every day, I find myself feeling like a bad partner because I never have alone time. I'm always working, with my girlfriend, once a week I might just wanna sleep in on my day off and nap all day.
TLIUG GNISAELER
- Joshua
When I was 17, a guy continually messaged me, even when I didn't respond back. I felt like sh*t for not being able to pay attention to him and spending time on myself. This happened multiple times until I stopped giving a f*ck - Anonymous
Yes I have, I'm usually quick to shut it down, but in that moment I feel pressure to be present and there for the people around me at all times. I feel like it's my responsibility to be the buffer for my friends and family, and to be there for whatever they need - and I love that, but sometimes it impacts my own self and that's when I try to take my own alone time, which I do feel guilty about at times. - Taylah
Never! It's not being selfish, it's taking care of yourself.
No, because I'm the most important person in my life. As everyone should be.
- Silvia
I'm a mama. I work nights 3-5 times a week. Sometimes I sleep when my son plays. If I don't then I'll end up sleeping at work. I work in a care home, so this is hard to do. - Anonymous
- Anonymous
Yes. A couple of months ago, I stopped going to school to take care of my mental health. I feel an incredible amount of pressure to go back since I'm currently not earning or doing anything of 'value'. I go to therapy regularly and I'm getting myself back on my feet, but it's still not easy to do so without feeling guilty about not finishing high school.
All the time. Especially in relation to working and businesses. - Ethan
TLIUG GNISAELER
I'm living with a big family at the moment and I definitely feel guilty if they are all downstairs dancing around and singing, just having a jolly time and I feel like hiding in my bed for some downtime. It's almost as though you need a valid reason to not be participating in the fun activities on offer. Like if you say you're not feeling well that's totally fine, but if you just don't feel like anyone's company that seems harder to justify. Almost like society says, "why would a physically and mentally sound person NOT want the constant company of others!?"
Yes! On my days off if I'm not filling it with 100 tasks or things to do I feel so incredibly unproductive. And what's worse is that if I do have something like an appointment scheduled on my day off, and then get asked if I am free to work, I feel like sh*t for saying I can't because I'm taking time out for myself! It's like a) I have to constantly be doing something otherwise I feel lazy and unproductive and b) I feel like I'm a bad employee for not always being 100% free. I can't win. I think from a young age we're programmed and taught that to be a good member of society you must be constantly productive and working hard so you become successful. But at the same time, if you don't put aside time to rest, your body will decide for you when you ultimately reach a point of physical or mental exhaustion.
- Cloé
RELEASING GUILT
- Simone
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RELEASING THE GUILT Upon speaking to a group of people about this topic, I've come to realise just how specifically programmed the vast majority of us have been. Even amongst those who no longer feel the guilt of taking time out for themselves, the general consensus is that having 'you' time is something to feel guilt over. Society teaches us that we have to be switched on all the time. Socialising, working, looking after others, contributing to society. Our bodies teach us very quickly that keeping this up without taking adequate time to recharge isn't sustainable or healthy. Without taking time to check out from the world, we are essentially running our bodies into the ground. And for what? At the end of the day, we must do what makes us happy in life. So long as you're not harming others or harming yourself, you are given this window of time on Earth, so you may as well make the most of that time. In order to establish meaningful relationships, keep a stable job, support a family, and function at your best, it's imperative that you take time out. Treat your body like your sanctuary. Nourish it, treat it with the utmost care, and you will reap all of the rewards. Why feel guilty for something that will allow you to blossom and give your energy to others in a more productive and healthy way? We're so often apologising for things that you should never feel the need to apologise for. Instead of feeling guilty for needing to recharge, try to remember why you're taking this time. It's one thing to be kind and lend your time to others, but it's another thing to be kind and lend time to yourself. There must be balance in order for there to be harmony. We're all responsible for ourselves. This isn't something to be taken lightly. It's a big responsibility, which is why we must all go the extra mile to make sure we stay on top of our mental health in whatever way works best for us. And the only way to discover what works best for us in these times of solitude is to actually take the time to be alone. It's high time that we start reprogramming our brains so that we may move towards living more balanced, mindful lives. The more connected you can be with your own intuition, the more capable you will be of getting through the hurdles that life will continuously throw to help you grow. Time to be alone, to help you grow. Ashley J Callahan
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CLEARING YOUR ROOT CHAKRA
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The Root Chakra (also known as the Muladhara), is located at the base of your spine. It governs your balance. The balance of your emotions, and soul connection. It is the foundation that plants your roots into the Earth, allowing the rest of the chakras to hold their place and allow the Crown Chakra to shoot to higher consciousness, while still having stability and groundedness. To really come back into my center of being, I love to take the time to cleanse all of my Chakras, but for now, let's run through how you might like to cleanse your Root Chakra. After all, it's going to lay the important groundwork that you need in order to progress. The Root Chakra is responsible for your feelings of purpose, motivation, self-worth, and control. Constantly forcing your body to move and socialise without putting energy back into your center is a recipe for disaster. Low self-esteem, lack of purpose, anxiety, loneliness, lack of energy, and motivation are just some of the things that you may experience when your Root Chakra is imbalanced or depleted. If you're not quite feeling balanced, there is no need to stress. I may not be an expert on Chakras or an experienced therapist but I am here to help maybe give you some ideas on how you can feel that little bit better in your everyday life. It's important to note that even though this can be used as a guide to kickstart healthy, more mindful habits, it shouldn't be used as a substitute for seeking professional help. The best way to deeply connect with your Root Chakra is when you're in a meditative state. In an ideal world, we would all have the time to do this every day, but understandably, this may not always be possible. So the first exercise I'd like to share with you is one for when you're on the go. EXERCISE ONE Wherever you are, whether you're sitting, standing, or walking, I invite you to imagine roots, as the extension of your legs. If you're sitting, you may imagine these growing out from beneath you, growing down into the Earth, becoming one with it. If you're able to, you might like to walk barefoot outside. There are many health benefits to walking barefoot for a little bit every day. It allows you to connect with the Earth without barriers. Imagine the base of your spine glowing a magnificent red. With each breath you take, or each step, imagine that light glowing brighter, taking up more space. Close your eyes and take a few slow, deep, mindful breathes as you feel the weight of your feet on the ground. You may practice this whenever you're feeling imbalanced.
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Here is another exercise to try. You may like to follow my Root Chakra Meditation for Balancing and Grounding. Or, if you feel comfortable, you may intuitively guide yourself. Find a comfortable space to sit or lay. Ensure that you're aware of your posture. Good posture will allow for an easy flow of energy from the base of your spine, right up to the crown of your head. Roll your shoulders back and sit up nice and tall. Breathe into your diaphragm deeply, filling your belly. As you exhale, release the tension from your head. The next time you exhale, release the tension from your neck, then your shoulders, your chest, your arms, right down to your feet. You'd be amazed at the places you may hold tension in your body without even realising it. Let yourself slowly come into a meditative state. Acknowledge any thoughts or feelings that may pop in, then release them. You might like to softly speak or think some affirmations. "I am grounded, I am one with the Earth." "I am safe. I am whole." "I am worthy of love and abundance." "I am divinely guided." "I am abundant." Imagine a vibrant, magnificent, bright red light glowing at the base of your spine. With each breath, make this colour more vibrant. Allow it to spread down, just like your roots, into the Earth beneath you. Let the light pulsate in harmony with each breath. Rest into this moment for as long as you need. Then, in your own time, you may lock in this cleansed energy by letting your roots creep back up, drawing the light in with it. Imagine the glowing red light, disappearing into the base of your spine where it is safe, and protected. Bring your awareness back to your surroundings, and slowly come back. Ask yourself how you feel, and live out the rest of the day with care and mindfulness.
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WRITE YOUR TRUTH THESE CAN BE USED AS JOURNALING PROMPTS
How do I feel in this moment?
When was the last time I mindfully spent time alone?
Am I feeling anxious about anything? If so, what is it and why?
What has been using up the majority of my energy?
What can I do to be kinder to myself?
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GRATITUDE WRITE 10 THINGS YOU'RE GRATEFUL FOR
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ROUTINES Habits are made over time. By mindfully incorporating some of your own routines into your everyday life, you can start to swap out bad habits for good ones. Here are a few things that you might like to do on a regular basis to help ground yourself. Practising these things alone is a great way to build a better relationship with yourself. As you do kind things for others, you should also do kind things for yourself. 1.
Meditation
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Quiet Time
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Stream of Consciousness (Journalling)
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Gratitude List
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Verbal / Mental Affirmations
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Pamper Time
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Mindful Walk (barefoot if possible)
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Mindful Tasks
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Daily Check-In
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Stretch
Meditation is a perfect way to start and end your day. The beauty is that the length of this task is totally adaptable to how much time you have to spend. Quiet time is great for the end of the day, where you can reflect on the events of the day and release anything that is causing you stress or anxiety. Writing a stream of consciousness can be incredibly therapeutic. It is where you write without thinking. Don't worry about what is pouring out onto the page, just simply let it flow. It's so easy to get swept away when life gets busy or messy, so keeping in mind what you're grateful for on a daily basis is a great way of planting your feet back on the ground in the present moment. Verbal affirmations can give you clarity and security. It's great to use these even when you're feeling great. Pamper time is always essential. It's not always something that you can fit in on a regular basis, but once in a while, you should take the time to really treat yourself. Worship your body, it's your sacred temple. If all you have time to do is tune in to your core while you're walking, do so. If you can walk barefoot for a little while, even better. This leads to the mundane, daily tasks that may seem like a drag. Cleaning, cooking, etc. These things are great opportunities to relax and complete every task with care for yourself and gratitude for the things around you. Check-in with yourself daily and stretch your body. It's all about living mindfully and treating yourself with care.
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