Matters Heart of the

Christ. Self-examination, meditation and prayer are in order. Is there any truth in the opinion that you are full of yourself? If it’s not true, then move on. You can earn the respect of others through your conduct. “I know the thoughts I think towards you,” saith the Lord “to give you an expected end.” Finally, I encourage you to live for an audience of one.

When will it be my turn to get married?

I am 45, a lone parent of two children, never married or lived with a man, and have been a Christian for several years. However, for the past few months I have found attending church demoralising. Almost every week there’s an announcement of someone either getting engaged, married or a christening. Hearing this good news makes me ask God: “When will it be my turn to marry?” I have become so demoralised I have stopped attending church on a few occasions and started questioning my faith. Why is it God answers my other prayers but not my prayer for marriage? I would really welcome your guidance as I’m at my wits end and thinking the only way to move forward is not go to church and, instead, watch an online service at a different church. Mary, Bedford

Pastor Yvonne: I have written multiple answers to your question. I can genuinely see your predicament and know that your feelings are real. Did church take control of your life and the responsibility for the outcomes that you cite in your question? The Church is there to support and build you up as you build your personal relationship with Christ. I encourage you to recommit your life and ask Him to lead and order your steps. Your main task is to listen to God and take action. Continue to develop yourself spiritually and naturally. Get involved in the activities in your church and local community as a way of giving back. What are your interests and what do you do in your downtime? Don’t stay away from church; find someone you can talk to about what you are feeling. None of this means you will find a spouse, but you will be living your best life.

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Pastor Yvonne Brooks is a co-pastor at New Jerusalem Community Church, Birmingham, and founder of Woman of Purpose, a ministry that encourages women to fulfil their purpose. She is also a speaker and author. For more details visit www.yvonneelizabethbrooks.co.uk