DIVORCE GUIDE
GOALS FOR THE SOUL PARENTS EDITION
GOALS FOR THE SOUL The most important question you should ask yourself in your divorce is where are you going now? It’s hard to stop and think through the divorce process. Divorce is a problem to which you are going to need to find a solution for. The solution may come through court but will most likely be resolved at a mediation or informal settlement conference. The important thing is to take control over the process BEFORE the process takes control over your happiness and pocket book. Since you have kids the first thing you have to remember is that this person is not going away in your life. Your both parents to your children. That being said its time to figure out how you’re going to work with this person DURING and AFTER the divorce. The assessments in our Divorce for the Soul is to help you determine the best course of interaction with your child’s other parent. Please take the assessment and then come back to it later in the day.
THREE PEOPLE TO CHOOSE INSTRUCTIONS: Who do you talk to right before you divorce? You only get to choose three.
ATTORNEY
SPOUSE
KIDS
FRIENDS/FAMILY
REVEREND/PRIEST
THERAPIST
What's Troubling You? TOP 3!
PRESENT FINANCES
CUSTODY
RETIREMENT
CO-PARENTING
FRIENDLY DIVORCE
PROTECT CHILD FROM HARM
BEFORE TODAY YOU AND YOUR EX RESOLVED CONFLICT (CHOOSE ONE) WE NEVER DID, THAT’S WHY WE’RE FILING FOR DIVORCE
I WOULD ALWAYS AGREE TO AVOID A FIGHT
WE WOULD TALK THROUGH THE PROBLEM
WE WOULD GO TO OUR MARRIAGE THERAPIST PRIEST OR REVERAND
I WOULD JUST WALK AWAY FROM A ARGUMENT WE’D LOOK FOR A RESOURCE TO HELP SOLVE OUR PROBLEM
OBSTACLE CHALLENGE WHAT IS YOUR BIGGEST FEAR IN YOUR DIVORCE. WHAT IS THE GREATEST OBSTACE YOU BOTH FACE? YOU ANGER
FEAR
DEPRESSION
FAMILY FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN FEAR OF THE COURT SYSTEM
YOUR PARTNER
WHERE ARE YOU GOING? Not Important Amicable Divorce
Low Cost Divorce
Shared Parenting (50-50)
Co-parenting
Collaborative DIvorce
UNSURE!
Somewhat Important
Important
Extremely Important
GOAL FOR THE SOUL - BEFORE THE DIVORCE RATINGS: HI, SO-SO, OR LOW YOU ABILITY TO TALK THROUGH FEELINGS ABILITY TO CONTROL EMOTIONS
ABILITY TO TALK THROUGH FEELINGS
YOUR PARTNER
GOAL FOR THE SOUL MIRROR MIRROR FAIRS FAIR HOW DO YOU RATE YOURSELF? HIGH MEDIUM LOW
ABILITY TO TALK THROUGH FEELINGS
ABILITY TO CONTROL EMOTIONS
HAVE EMPATHY?
ABILITY TO LISTEN AND UNDERSTAND
The way I WANT to co-parent with my child’s other parent is to… Is to win at all cost – compete
Avoid
Compromise
Collaborate
Accommodate – give in
Things I need to work on
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