106 Life changing small groups by Kingdom Site Ministries

MODULE 106 GOD’S PLAN FOR LIFE CHANGING SMALL GROUPS

Table of Contents 1. Foundation 2. Clarifying the vision and mission of the organisation 3. Implementing your vision and mission 4. Application assignment 5. Appendix

God’s plan for Life-changing Small Groups PURPOSE STATEMENT: • EQUIP SMALL GROUP LEADERS TO LEAD EFFECTIVELY. • HELP MEMBERS FALL MORE IN LOVE WITH JESUS. • SEE CHRIST TRANSFORM THE LIVES OF THE GROUP MEMBERS BY MAKING THE SMALL GROUP A “SAFE ENVIRONMENT” FOR TRANSFORMATION.

Session overview 1. UNDERSTANDING EFFECTIVE LEADERSHIP 2. TRANSFORMING LIVES 3. ADMINISTRATION 4. THE LIFE CYCLE OF A SMALL GROUP

5. THE USE & MENTORING OF PRAYER 6. USING QUESTIONS TO LEAD THE GROUP DISCUSSION 7. USING SCRIPTURE TO LEAD THE GROUP DISCUSSION 8. MANAGING GROUP DYNAMICS 9. FACING DISAPPOINTMENT 10. WALKING WITH GOD THROUGH PRAYER APPENDIX

Effective leadership for a Christian small group This training workshop, God’s Plan for Life-Changing Small Groups, is a powerful tool for equipping men and women to effectively lead small groups to advance the Kingdom of Jesus Christ. It is certain to be unlike any other small group leadership training you have experienced.

As you “travel” with us through the camp you will see that we believe the real power for effecting life change in the group you are leading (God’s group entrusted to you to lead = “your group”) comes from God, the Father, through Jesus and the Holy Spirit. Your personal prayer for the group and the group prayer for each other are the key tools for life change. God will work through you to grow your group members in response to your prayer offered in accordance 3

with His will, purposes and character (John 14:13). Praying for your group is the foundation on which all other activities for the group rest.

In order to discourage attacks from the adversary on the group members or yourself, regularly pray for yourself AS THE LEADER and ask others to pray for you as well.

If a group leader is undergoing great difficulty in his or her marriage or other relationship issue with the Lord, we request that he or she step down from leading the group for a time and another certified group facilitator be asked to assist with the group (Malachi 2:15-16, I Timothy 3:12).

We are NOT suggesting that they leave the group – this would be an unnecessary and unwise decision. However, failure to temporarily step down from the Leadership role puts all the group members and the Christ@Work ministry at risk of attack from the adversary, as well as putting the group leader and himself/herself at great unnecessary risk. This is not to imply that the group leader has failed in any way – but rather to show maturity, Scriptural understanding, and caring for themselves, their marriage, the group members as well as commitment and caring about their relationship with God.

1. Transforming lives THE OBJECTIVE of this chapter is to review the purpose of the small group and to discuss: The group leader’s roles: • teaching, • relationship building, • equipping in prayer.

The group leader’s source of power: • effective prayer

The group leader’s objectives: • Help people fall more in love with Jesus, • See Christ transform lives in the group, • Make the group a safe place for transformation, • Model the group being led by Christ, through the group leader by prayer.

THE PURPOSE OF A CHRISTIAN SMALL GROUP

“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength…. And love your neighbor as yourself.” Mark 12:30 & 31 “I’ll help you fall more in love with Jesus and the rest will take care of itself.” Dr. John Mitchell Provide an environment where the members of the small group are encouraged to fall more in love with Jesus so that He can transform them by the power of His love.

THE GROUP LEADER’S ROLE: SPIRITUAL LEADERSHIP • Teaching- Discussion, mentoring and modeling

• Relationship building- Group discussion and interactions

• Prayer- Practice, modeling, mentoring

TEACHING Follow the model of Jesus, Who: • Taught the Scriptures, • Modeled application through practical examples, • Asked questions rather than always providing the answers, • Taught with an attitude of compassion, love & concern. JESUS TAUGHT WITH A PURPOSE TRANSFORMED LIVES.

RELATIONSHIP BUILDING Jesus developed and demonstrated relationships: • He consistently referred to and deferred to His Father, • He developed loving relationships with His disciples, • He taught His disciples how to be in relationship with each other, • He treated His disciples as unique individuals made in the image of God. Jesus’ relationship with His disciples extended past friendship and camaraderie: HIS RELATIONSHIPS HAD A PURPOSE TRANSFORMED LIVE

PRAYER Prayer – Follow the model of Jesus: • The disciples saw Jesus pray consistently. • He modeled prayer to them: • He prayed in public and in private, • He prayed with them and for them, • He taught them how to pray, • He taught them the necessity and power of prayer.

THE NECESSITY AND POWER OF PRAYER Jesus taught that: • We have to stay connected to (remain in) Him to have any impact on the group, • We can do nothing by ourselves,

• He will provide whatever is needed to effectively lead the group.

REMAIN IN CHRIST Jesus taught that we must remain in Him to have any significant effect on the group. “ Remain in me and I will remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself: it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.” John 15:4

EFFECTIVENESS IN CHRIST Nothing significant for your group can be accomplished for the Kingdom without Christ.

Daily prayer time is crucial to effectiveness. “ I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from Me you can do nothing.” John 15:5

TRUE POWERTRANSFORMING LIVES POWER FROM ABIDING IN CHRIST True power comes from remaining in Christ and experiencing His power. “I f you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you.” John 15:7

REMAIN IN CHRIST This is accomplished by: • Spending time with Christ every day, • Seeking Him to speak to you through the Scriptures and prayer,

• Relying on Him to bear fruit through you, • Practicing the presence of Christ all day, every day.

SMALL GROUP LEADERS • Help people fall more in love with Jesus, • See Christ transform the lives of the group members, • Make the small group a “safe environment” for transformation, • Depend on Christ, through prayer, to lead the group through them.

2. Administration DMINISTRATION THE OBJECTIVE of this session is to explore: • The necessity and usefulness of administration from a Biblical perspective. • Why small group administration is important. • What to do if you’re not gifted in administration.

What will be presented in this training workshop is a focus on Kingdom work as it is done here on earth.

As Christians, we often forget that the “world” is watching us. The manner in which we work together, cooperating with each other in a manner that is pleasing to the Lord, is a testimony to Him.

“He was so spiritually minded that he was of no earthly use.”

.TYPICAL SMALL GROUP LEADER TRAINING Many training classes and workshops held for the purpose of training small group leaders focus primarily on the administrative aspect of the leadership role, such as: • Obtaining permission to spend funds, • Gaining access to organizational assets (like the church bus), • When and how to turn in required reports, • Turning in receipts for reimbursement.

At the same time, it is becoming increasingly popular for groups to use videos for teaching. Many churches and organizations are encouraging members to lead these groups by telling them that anyone can be a small group leader. It is stated or implied that no special skills or calling is required - “just ‘plug in’ the video and go”.

This is untrue. The role of the small group leader is important. A special calling from God and training are required to succeed.

WHY IS IT IMPORTANT? The work of administration is the ‘glue’ that holds the organization together allowing it to operate smoothly and efficiently.

Unless we plan to do the work God has called us to do without the help and support of others, we must learn to work together in a fashion that is useful and beneficial to all. Failure to do so creates: • confusion, • disorder, • mistrust, • hurt, and provides a poor witness to a watching world.

THE NECESSITY AND USEFULNESS OF ADMINISTRATION FROM A BIBLICAL PERSPECTIVE 11

“In those days when the number of disciples was increasing, the Grecian Jews among them complained against the Hebraic Jews because their widows were being overlooked in the daily distribution of food. So the Twelve gathered all the disciples together and said, “It would not be right for us to neglect the ministry of the word of God in order to wait on tables. Brothers, choose seven men from among you who are known to be full of the Spirit and wisdom. We will turn this responsibility over to them and will give our attention to prayer and the ministry of the word.”

This proposal pleased the whole group. They chose Stephen, a man full of faith and of the Holy Spirit; also Philip, Procorus, Nicanor, Timon, Parmenas, and Nicolas from Antioch, a convert to Judaism. They presented these men to the apostles, who prayed and laid their hands on them.

So the word of God spread. The number of disciples in Jerusalem increased rapidly, and a large number of priests became obedient to the faith. Acts 6:1-7

What is shown here? • A need arose that was best handled by someone else. • A division of duties is often necessary. • Working together (in cooperation) helps in the spread of the Gospel. • The Apostles (“the Twelve”) indicated that the administrative function was important by the requirement that those who were to perform it be “known to be full of the Spirit and wisdom”.

IMPORTANCE TO SMALL GROUP LEADERS The gift of administration “And in the church God has appointed fi rst of all apostles, second prophets, third teachers, then workers of miracles, also those having gifts of healing, those able to help others, those with gifts of administration, and those speaking in different kinds of tongues.” I Corinthians 12:28

• The Gift of Administration is a distinct gift.

WHAT IF YOU’RE NOT GIFTED IN ADMINISTRATION? Follow the FCCI/Crown Companies pattern: 1. If you have been called to lead the group – fi rst PRAY. Seek God’s Will for the group and your role as the group leader. (Learn more about this in a later chapter).

2. Then, pray asking God to send to you a Co-Leader (preferably one with the gift of administration. Someone who truly loves organizing, reporting, communicating with people). Let God do the selection. Then, wait on Him.

3. As you identify the Co-Leader, fi nd out what the organization needs and expects from your team. Then, make a plan to fulfill the requirements with excellence.

4. Spend time in prayer together for the formation of the rest of the group. Within the group there will be other important functions. Allow God to select the other group members as well.

5. Remember that even when another person does the actual work of the administration of the group, as a Group Leader you are still responsible to make sure it is done accurately and in a timely fashion. Communicate with the CoLeader regularly to make sure that the group operates with excellence. Give them freedom to do it their way – within the guidelines and policies of your organization. 6. Do your job as the group leader with excellence. You’ll have many areas to be responsible for.

3. Life cycle of the small Group DMINISTRATION THE OBJECTIVE of this session is to provide insight into the life-cycle of a Christian small group. During this time we will: • review the basic purposes of Christian small groups, • learn the various phases and important considerations in the life-cycle of the small group.

THE LIFE-CYCLE OF THE SMALL GROUP

Experience has shown that small groups and teams go through various phases in their life-cycle: • Phase One – Initiation and Start-up • Phase Two – Early Stages • Phase Three – Growth • Phase Four – Maturity • Phase Five – Demise

PHASE ONE – INITIATION AND START-UP (FORMING) INITIATION The first phase of a group’s life begins with the initiation or that point which you are lead to form the small group. You should begin with:

PRAYER – ask God to confi rm the calling by giving you a clear vision of His purpose and plan for the group and to bring the right people to His group.

A CO-LEADER – fi nd a co-leader, another person who shares this vision and anointing to co-lead the group with you. Pray together for the group.

A VISION – write down the vision God has given you for the purpose He has for the group.

LIFE CYCLE OF THE SMALL GROUP For example, the purpose of a Crown Companies group might be: “To equip and encourage company leaders to operate their businesses and conduct their personal lives according to Biblical principles.” ’s Plan for Life-Changing Small Groups START-UP OR LAUNCH Launch the group by carefully planning and conducting the initial or first meeting.

Plan the initial meeting: • Secure an adequate meeting place. • Prepare a timed agenda. • Determine desired group size. The ideal group ranges from 8 – 12 members. • Pray that God will bring the right people to the group. • Invite potential members: • Publicize the group to your target audience in your church or business community. • Personally invite people and encourage “no obligation” attendance at an initial meeting. Get commitments to attend. • Invite enough people to ensure your desired group size (about double the desired size of the group).

“So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.” I Corinthians 10:31 17

Conduct the initial meeting: • Arrive early to prepare the room. • Start on time, open with prayer. • Address the WIFM (What’s In It For Me) questions: • What is the group going to do? Present the vision for the group and answer questions. • Who is in the group? Allow each person to tell his/her story (name, background, occupation, family, spiritual journey). • Will I fit in? Encourage people to ask questions and express their own expectations. • What will be expected of me? Outline the format for future meetings, course of study, and member expectations. • Can I trust these people? Be aware that people are hesitant to be completely open and honest at this stage in the group’s life. • End on time or early. • Confirm the time and place of the next meeting. • Ask for a return commitment. Ask for contact information.

• Close with prayer. Thank God for those who attended and for a successful start.

Follow-up: • Follow-up after the meeting by calling people to invite their comments of the first meeting. • Ask again for a return commitment. • Send a reminder. LIFE CYCLE OF THE SMALL GROUP PHASE TWO - EARLY STAGES (STORMING) After a successful launch, you begin the process of transition from “I” (a collection of individuals with purely selfi sh interests) to “we” (a group concerned with mutually enriching relationships). This phase may last three to fi ve meetings. hile a certain amount of childhood “storming” is inevitable, you can assist your group’s progress through this phase with a group covenant. A covenant sets boundaries and clarifies expectations of behavior. Small Group Covenant See example towards end of booklet

The covenant should be made with a fi xed time period (perhaps six months to a year), or a period that coincides with completion of a study program. Other formation activities include:

• Deciding on meeting frequency, duration, day of the week and time of day, location and course of study. • Deciding when, how or whether to accept new members into the group. x PHASE THREE - GROWTH (NORMING) Like young people who are striving to become mature adults, groups often go through periods of awkwardness and insecurity as they strive for relational maturity. Relational maturity exists when group members can be: • open and honest about issues in their lives, • vulnerable to admit to weakness, needing help and forgiveness, • trust that other group members love them, have their best interests at heart and will maintain confi dentiality, • accountable to other group members for their specifi c areas of their lives, willingness to accept feedback and seriously consider correction.

Openness, vulnerability, trust and accountability go through various levels that somewhat parallel the life-cycle of a group. Help group members understand these levels and how they relate to the group life-cycle.

THE PROGRESSION OF RELATIONAL MATURITY “... to prepare God’s people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may

be built up until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ. Then we will no longer be infants, tossed back and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching and by the cunning and craftiness of men in their deceitful scheming. Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ.” Ephesians 4:12-15

Level One – Where most groups and relationships begin. At this level., • I don’t know my own needs. I may even be deceiving myself by believing the image I try to project. • I don’t know what trusting you means. • You have no access to my life.

Level Two – May last well into Phase Three of the group life-cycle. At this level… • I understand that I have needs. • I’m not yet sure I can trust you. • You have access to only what I want you to know about me.

Level Three – Where most Christian small groups max out. • I want you to meet my needs, but on my terms. • I’m learning to trust you.

• But, You have limited access to my life. I still hold back 5-10%.

Level Four – Real relational maturity is where • I need you to meet my needs on God’s terms, not mine. • I can now say that I trust you fully. • and You have full access to my life.

Small group leaders can help their groups move more quickly through this relational maturity progression by: • Guiding the group through the development of their own covenant. • Reinforcing covenant values and commitments. • Addressing violations of covenant commitments. • Modeling openness, vulnerability, trust, and accountability.

PHASE FOUR - MATURITY In this phase, the group is functioning well and it is realizing the purpose for which it was created. The major leadership tasks in this phase are toL • Maintain or continue to grow the group’s level of relational maturity. • Encourage increased participation and shared leadership. • Keep alert for and address “mid-life crises” caused by ambiguity, boredom with routine, lack of variety, unresolved conflicts.

• Evaluate progress. • Make necessary adjustments.

PHASE FIVE - THE DEMISE OR REFORMING OF THE GROUP The demise of the group can happen by design or default. Some groups are planned to run for a specific amount of time over a course of study. Others begin with no stipulated end and are on-going until they run out of steam or die of a “heart attack”.

Mature groups with stipulated endings may wish to continue and should consider “reforming” around a new course of study, and with a new covenant. Leaders of on-going groups can avoid slow or sudden death by periodically forcing their groups to re-evaluate their progress, determine if they wish to continue, and make necessary adjustments including a new or revitalized covenant.

4. Use and mentoring of Prayer THE OBJECTIVE of this chapter is to encourage the leader to develop a strong personal prayer life (“you cannot teach what you do not know”) and provide the leader with tools to mentor the small group in prayer. During this time we will: • Discuss the necessity of, and strategies for, personal prayer for the small group leader. • Provide strategies for dealing with conflicting time demands and the priority of prayer. • Provide tools to teach prayer techniques to the group and implement strategies for small group prayer. DMINISTRATION THE NECESSITY OF PRAYER FOR THE SMALL GROUP LEADER • Jesus owns you “You were bought at a price…” I Corinthians 7:23

• You are to live your life for Christ “Now it is required that those who have been given a trust must prove faithful.” I Corinthians 4:2

• You must have Christ working through you to be effective “Without me you can do nothing” John 15:5

A C T S AN APPROACH TO PRAYER ADORATION*- Praise God for who He is. “Praise the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits.” Psalm 103:2

CONFESSION- Agree with Him that our specific sins are sin. Name them: “When we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness” I John 1:9

THANKSGIVING: “Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good, his love endures forever.” Psalm 106:1 “…but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving…” Philippians 4:6

SUPPLICATION: “...present your requests to God..” Philippians 4:6

TO PRAY IN JESUS’ NAME To pray “in Jesus’ name” is to represent Him just as the Holy Spirit does... “But the Counselor, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things…” John 14:26

Jesus said, “And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Son may bring glory to the Father.” John 14:13 “...in my name...” In the best interests of Jesus’ kingdom, according to His will, representing His interests on earth. 25

“...Son may bring glory...” The purpose of Jesus granting the request is to bring glory to the Father.

STRATEGIES FOR PRAYER Start the day with prayer. “ ...in the morning, O Lord, you hear my voice; in the morning I lay my requests before you.” Psalm 5:3 In a solitary place, without interruption. “ …very early in the morning, Jesus … went off to a solitary place where he prayed.” Mark 1:35 Read Scripture daily. Learn the mind of Christ. “Your statutes are wonderful, therefore I obey them.” Psalm 119:129 “Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly…” Colossians 3:16

THE PRIORITY OF PRAYER: GIVE GOD YOUR FIRST FRUITS, YOUR BEST “ But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” Matthew 6:33 “The …first fruits … you shall bring to the house of the Lord your God.” Exodus 34:26 Don’t give God the leftovers of your time.

CONFLICTING TIME DEMANDS • First, budget your time with your creator and owner: Jesus Christ. 26

• Then fit everything else around it. • Make your relationship with Jesus the most important thing in your life - and show it by how you spend your time.

MODEL A PRAYER-ANCHORED LIFE TO THE GROUP You cannot teach what you do not (experientally) know. “ Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me - put it into practice.” Philippians 4:9

TEACH PRAYER TECHNIQUES AND STRATEGIES TO THE GROUP Discuss one key point about prayer during each meeting. Continuously equip group members to pray effectively.

•Encourage persistent prayer. “ For every one who keeps on asking … keeps on receiving, and he who keeps on seeking keeps on fi nding, and to him who keeps on reverently knocking, it shall be opened.” Matthew 7:8 (from Wuest “The New Testament, an Expanded Translation)

• Encourage expectant prayer. “ And I will do whatever you ask in My name, so that the Son may bring glory to the Father.” John 14:13

• Encourage specific prayer. Specific prayer yields specific answers. The group will see God at work.

• Encourage intercessory prayer.

• Seek God to draw people to Christ for salvation and sanctification. “ No one can come to Me unless the Father who sent Me draws him, and I will raise him up on the last day.” John 6:44 USE AND MENTORING OF PRAYER MAKE PRAYER THE CORE OF THE GROUP MEETING Make group prayer a priority. • Never let discussion intrude on the allotted prayer time. • Encourage all members of the group to participate. • Maintain a group prayer journal with requests and responses. • Host a group review of the answers quarterly.

Appoint a prayer leader to: • Lead the group prayer time. • Maintain group prayer journal. • Lead group in absence of the group leader.

STRATEGIES FOR GROUP PRAYER Triple round strategy (this strategy focuses primarily on praise): • Ask someone to begin. • Go around the group presenting praises and prayer requests to the group. • Continue around the group a second time for each person to praise God for who He is and for His answers to prayer. • Then, go around group a third time for each person to pray for someone in the group. • The leader closes, making sure all requests have been voiced.

Double round strategy: • Ask someone to begin. • Go around the group in order, presenting praises and prayer requests to the group. • Then, continue around the group with each person first giving God praise for who He is and for His answers to prayer, then praying for someone in the group. • The leader closes, making sure all requests have been voiced.

Single round prayer strategy (this strategy keeps time focused on prayer rather than on the requests): • Do not ask for requests. • Simply begin praying, asking someone to start the prayer.

• Each person voices his/her own praises and requests and the group silently agrees. • Members also pray for the needs of others as they hear them. • The leader closes the prayer time.

Focused praise prayer strategy: • Go around the group, each one praising God for a specific attribute of Who He is. • Go around again, offering one praise and thanksgiving statement to God for something specific He had done recently. • In the final round, each one offers a short specific personal request plus praying for someone else’s request. EFFECTIVE PERSONAL AND GROUP PRAYER IS AN INTEGRAL PART OF SMALL GROUP LEADERSHIP LEADING THE

5. Leading the discussion with questions THE OBJECTIVE of this chapter is to provide useful tips to prompt the discussion after viewing a teaching video or reading teaching materials. During this time we will: 30

• Describe the two basic types of questions. • Furnish a basic discussion-starting format.

GUIDING THE DISCUSSION WITH QUESTIONS Questions are very powerful tools for the group leader because they allow him/her to direct the course of discussion and to get people involved (have them giving input).

TWO TYPES OF QUESTIONS There are two types of questions to use to effectively lead group discussion. They are: • Closed or Leading Questions • Open-Ended or Journalism Questions

LEADING QUESTIONS: The leading question requires a simple yes/no or one to two-word answer. No elaboration is required or expected. Examples: “Do you agree with that statement?” “Are you ready to proceed?” “Did you understand that video?” “What color is your product?”

Leaders use leading questions to check status, check for agreement, or to otherwise limit discussion. Depending on the response to a leading question, the leader may follow-up with additional questions.

OPEN-ENDED QUESTIONS: An open-ended question cannot be answered yes or no. Elaboration is expected.

Open-ended questions are also known as journalism questions: WHO? WHAT? WHERE? WHEN? WHY? HOW? Remember that “why” will usually solicit an emotional response.

Open-ended questions are frequently phrased like these examples: • “Who was involved in the situation?” • “What happened?” • “Where might this be applied in your life?” • “When might you be able to apply this?” • “How will you be able to apply this at work?”

• “Why is that important?” • “Why do you feel that way?”

“Why” questions (like the last example) often trigger emotional responses because they tap into people’s feelings about issues.

A FORMAT TO GUIDE THE SMALL GROUP DISCUSSION

The following format, known as the O-R-I-D Discussion Method, is a versatile tool for group leaders to: • Support learning by following a presentation, reading, or video with a structured discussion. • Discuss application of principles and concepts. • Broaden perspectives. • Direct conversation to explore desired areas. • Enable movement from discussion to decision.

OBJECTIVE – GETTING THE FACTS Collect observations and facts: • “What stands out for you (in the reading or video)?” • “What did you see?” 33

• “What did you hear?” • “What issue is presented?” • “What do you remember?”

REFLECTIVE – EXPLORING EMOTIONS, FEELINGS, ASSOCIATIONS Identify people’s view of things. Explore past associations: • “What reactions do you have? Why?” • “Why is this important?” • “What seems easy/difficult?” • “What was exciting/disappointing?” • “How does this relate to what you’ve seen/done in the past?” • “How does this relate to your situation?” LEADING THE DISCUSSION WITH QUESTIONS INTERPRETIVE - MEANING OR IMPLICATION Clarify meaning, purpose and significance: • “How is this important for us?” • “ What Scripture would be encouraging or helpful for us to understand the issue at hand?” • “How does this relate to our goals?” • “How will this make a difference?” • “What lessons can be learned from this?” 34

D ECISIONAL - FUTURE ACTION People decide how they can respond and point to future action needed: • “ What will you do differently as a result of what you have learned?” • “How will you apply what you have learned?” • “How can you ensure that your resolutions really happen?”

6. Leading the discussion with scripture THE OBJECTIVE of this chapter is to provide the leader with insight into the use of Scripture for leading the small group discussion. During this time we will: • Review the purpose and importance of using Scripture in Christian small groups. • Identify several ways in which Scripture is used in the small group. • Review basic methods for using Scripture in the small group discussion.

THE PURPOSE AND IMPORTANCE OF USING SCRIPTURE The purpose of Scripture is always to point to God. We are to help the unsaved get to know =Jesus and to help those who know Jesus to become more like Him. The only way we can do that is by pointing to God through His Word.

SCRIPTURE IS TO BE APPLIED “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting, and training in righteousness so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.” II Timothy 3:16-17

“Consequently, faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the word of Christ.” Romans 10:17 “Jesus replied, “You are in error because you do not know the Scriptures or the power of God.” Matthew 22:29

The Apostle Paul said that Scripture is good for teaching, rebuking, correcting and for training and equipping Godly people to do God’s work.

• Teaching (or doctrine) is what the Word of God says on any particular.

• Rebuking exposes areas in our thinking and behavior that do not align with God’s Word.

• Correcting is the change that occurs when we see a word of truth in Scripture and allow the Spirit of God to show us how to obey it.

• Training in righteousness is the regularly practiced application of God’s Word as a handbook for living.

USING SCRIPTURE TO LEAD THE SMALL GROUP DISCUSSION “Do not merely listen to the Word and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says.” James 1:22

Scripture is used in different ways depending on the purpose and format of the small group. Among these are: • Bible Study • Book or Course of Study • Problem Solving “If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be iven to him.” James 1:5 THE AUTHORITY OF SCRIPTURE In order for a group leader to appropriately and effectively use Scripture, he/she must first be certain that they accept the authority, reliability and accuracy of the Bible.

In a culture that submits to moral relativism, ever changing opinions, historical revision and interpretation, only the Word of God (as revealed in His Scripture) provides the unchanging and uncompromising source of authority for our lives.

“No one can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and money.” Matthew 6:24

FACILITATING THE USE OF SCRIPTURE When studying books, videos and courses or discussing everyday problems, we run the risk of forgetting to seek validation and answers in Scripture. As group leaders, we are responsible for ensuring that we focus on Scripture at appropriate times during group discussions.

“Woe to him who builds his palace by unrighteousness, his upper rooms by injustice, making his countrymen work for nothing, not paying them for their labor.” Jeremiah 22:13

USEFUL QUESTIONS to ensure that Scripture is appropriately and effectively used in small group discussion:

• “ What does Jesus say on the matter?” The teaching and authority on any question is the direct teaching of Jesus found in the gospels of Matthew, Mark, Luke and John.

• “ What do the Apostles teach on the matter?” as shown in the letters of Paul and the other Apostles.

• “ What does the Old Testament teach on the matter?” especially in Proverbs, Psalms, the Books of the Prophets and the Books of the Law.

NOTE: When Old Testament Scripture is cited to provide guidance on an issue, be sure to ask “Is there anything in the New Testament that offers a new updated teaching from the Lord or an Apostle?”

“Above all, you must understand that no prophecy of Scripture came about by the prophet’s own interpretation. For prophecy never had its origin in the will of man, but men spoke from God as they were carried along by the Holy Spirit.” 2 Peter 1:20-21

BEWARE OF THE TENDENCY TO “PROOF TEXT” The proof text method is taking verses or portions of verses and using them to “prove” a particular point. Seeking Scriptural guidance on a matter often leads to “proof texting”, where a small portion of Scripture is isolated with no regard to the context of Scripture surrounding it, or to other passages of Scripture in the Bible.

To avoid this, when a verse is offered it may be appropriate to say, “Let’s look at the context of that verse to ensure we are correctly interpreting its meaning.” It

may also be wise to search for additional Scripture on the point, especially if it is a difficult question that is not clearly addressed by a single Scripture.

TOOLS FOR SEARCHING SCRIPTURE Have reference tools available to help the group find answers in God’s Word. Some useful tools include: • Concordance – such as The Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance for word searches including original Hebrew and Greek words and their meanings for much of Scripture. • Topical Index – such as Nave’s Topical Bible with thousands of topics crossreferenced to Scripture verses. • Commentary – such as Matthew Henry’s Commentary to aid in the interpretation of Scripture. • Internet and Computer Based Tools – Many tools, including the above, can be found on the internet or can be purchased or downloaded to personal computers.

CRIB SHEET In addition to the tools mentioned above, it is helpful to maintain a list of Scripture verses that you have found helpful in addressing certain topics.

“I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.“ Psalm 119:11

SCRIPTURE MEMORIZATION Many small group leaders encourage the use of Scripture memorization to help improve Bible knowledge. You can encourage memorization by: 1. Selecting one brief verse per meeting that presents a key point or teaching from the lesson. 2. Reviewing the memory verse from the prior meeting at the beginning of the next meeting. 3. Teaching a memorization technique such as: • Read the verse in context to better understand its meaning. • Copy the verse to paper and write it out a number of times. • Copy it to a 3x5 card and carry it with you. Rehearse it aloud several times a day. • Learn the reference first, e.g. “Psalm 119 verse 11” and repeat it after the verse.

Remember: The primary motive for memorizing Scripture should be to deepen your love for, and knowledge of God.

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THE PURPOSE of this session is to provide you with an opportunity to lead a small group in a variety of situations in order to practice the skills you have learned in this course. During this time we will: • Discuss a basic fear most people have and how to help the members of the group overcome it. • Explain the fi ve basic barriers to participation and why they cause people not to share with the group. • Provide role-play situations to sharpen your skills of listening and leading the group discussion for the benefit of all the members of the small group.

CHRISTIANITY IS A RELATIONSHIP Christianity is not a religion. It’s a relationship with God and a relationship with people.

How can we help members of our group feel comfortable in sharing and participating in a group discussion so they can grow and learn?

It begins with a relationship with you (as the group leader) - one based on mutual respect and caring. Then, it proceeds to relationships between other members of the group. 42

MANAGING GROUP DYNAMICS FEAR OF FAILING What are we all afraid of? FALLING FAILING

THE FEAR OF SPEAKING IN PUBLIC The #1 fear of most adults is public speaking, even to small groups of people. We are afraid that when we speak openly to people we don’t know (or even to people we do know), we might look foolish.

There is a difference between talking and sharing - the difference is vulnerability.

CHRISTIAN LINGO Remember that members of the group are in different places in their walk with Christ.

Don’t assume that everyone understands the use of Christian Lingo, i.e., vocabulary specific to our church culture.

Consider a day to just talk about each member’s understanding of words often used in our Christian “walk” - such as: • Christian walk • Concordance • Grace

• Sanctification • Salvation • Quite Time • Mercy • Justification • Discipleship Remember to approach these subjects with grace and humility - study and explore together.

BARRIERS TO PARTICIPATION (SHARING) FEAR OF REJECTION: I might not want to expose my real self or tell you what my real problems are for fear that you would reject me.

FEAR OF RIDICULE: I might not want to reveal to you that I don’t know Scriptural “things” or that I haven’t memorized chapter and verse of the Bible, so I might remain silence.

FEAR OF EXPLOITATION: How do I know that I can trust you not to tell your spouse, the other church members or people at the office the things I reveal to you in our small group meeting?

FEAR OF CHANGE: I might feel comfortable, perhaps familiar is a better word, with my current situation. Even if I know the Lord wants me to change something, I might not want to change. Change is difficult. Fear of change can cause people to not want to participate because other members might challenge them to change. 44

FEAR OF FAILURE: Many times have I decided to go on a diet. But I didn’t tell anyone. Why? Because if I don’t succeed they might view me as a failure. I’d be embarrassed. So, I may not want to tell you what God has told me to do or some changes that I intend to make in my life for fear of failure.

HOW CAN A SMALL GROUP LEADER HELP? • Providing an environment where it’s safe to grow. • Allowing ourselves and others to make mistakes.

BEWARE

NON-VERBAL

CRITICISM

THROUGH

BODY

LANGUAGE • Nonverbal actions are often stronger than what we say. • The only way to keep our bodies and tongues in control is to seek God in prayer. He will help.

DISCERNMENT & CORRECTION ”If anyone thinks himself to be religious, pious, observant of external deeds of his faith and does nt bridle his tongue but deludes his own heart, this person’s religious service is worthless, futile, and barren ”James 1:26 Amplified Bible

If, as a small group leader, you’re in regular prayer it’s likely that God will begin to give you discernment concerning members of the group.

Ask God if He’s directing you to correct a member or if He’s telling you something so that you can intercede for them. When in doubt, remain silent and intercede.

Often, it’s not our role to correct. “Discernment is given to you as a gift from the Father, not to know how to correct but rather to know how to intercede.” Oswald Chambers MANAGING GROUP DYNAMICS ACTIVE PARTICIPATION IS THE GOAL Group agreement or consensus is not the goal. Active participation is the goal validating all members so they’re encouraged to fall more in love with Jesus. If group members don’t feel: • validated • important • worthy you are actually a barrier to them rather than an opportunity for them to fall more in love with Jesus.

ROLE-PLAY SCENARIOS

Use some of the things you’ve learned in this chapter to facilitate your small group discussion. The role-play scenarios we’ll deal with are: • The know-it-all personality • The argumentative personality • The resentful personality • The overly talkative personality • The reluctant personality • The disinterested personality • The disruptive personality • Yes men/women Remember that all people operate from a position of fear. Find a way to help the group members feel validated and appreciated without letting them impose on the rights and feelings of the other members. Consistently demonstrate to the group members that they can trust you not to hurt them.

• Enjoy your role as a small group leader.

• Enjoy your relationship with members of the group.

• Most of all, enjoy your relationship with Jesus Christ as He guides you in this wonderful adventure. F

8. Facing disappointment 47

THE OBJECTIVE of this chapter is to help small group leaders form realistic expectations of the performance of the group and of themselves as group leaders. During this time we will discuss: • The primary causes of disappointment. • A remedy for disappointment. • What we can learn from disappointment.

DISAPPOINTMENT IS A FACT OF LIFE Everyone faces disappointment in the course of their life. The more we interact with people, the greater the risk of disappointment.

Scripture tells us, “In this world you will have trouble.” John 16:33 Therefore, we should not be surprised when everything doesn’t go as we expect. • Other people will disappoint us. • We will disappoint ourselves. • If we are honest, we will admit that we are disappointed in God (or our perception of Him or His plan) from time-to-time. THE PRIMARY CAUSES OF DISAPPOINTMENT For the small group leader, three primary causes of disappointment exist: • Lack of understanding of who we work for. • Lack of understanding of our role in the work we have been given.

• Our inability to control our environment, others and ourselves.

THE REMEDY

“As he journeyed he came near Damascus, and suddenly a light shone around him from heaven. Then he fell to the ground, and heard a voice saying to him, “Saul, Saul, why are you persecuting Me?” And he said, “Who are You, Lord?” Then the Lord said, “I am Jesus, whom you are persecuting. It is hard for you to kick against the goads.” So he, trembling and astonished, said, “Lord, what do You want me to do?” Acts 9:3-6 NKJV

In Paul’s (Saul’s) conversion experience on the road to Damascus, he asked the two primary questions any small group leader should ask:

1 Who are You, Lord?

2 What do You want me to do?

WHO DO WE WORK FOR? The Apostle Paul often spoke of himself as a “servant,” a word sometimes rendered as “bondservant” but frequently also as “slave”. Likewise Christians are not hired servants but slaves committed to service to Jesus. A slave does not manage his own life. The person who calls himself a slave of Christ acknowledges that the Savior has power over him.

Make no mistake, the act of leading a small group is work. Although it will contain times of great joy, if we have been called by God to lead the group we must take it seriously and consider it Kingdom work.

Our lack of clear understanding of this fact leads to disappointment when: • we fail to listen to His instruction, making our own plans that don’t include Him, • we fail to utilize His power through the Holy Spirit in prayer.

WHAT HAVE WE BEEN CALLED TO DO? Another primary source of disappointment in small group leadership is the lack of understanding of what we have been called to do OR a lack of understanding of the difference between HIS PART and OUR PART of the assignment.

In the FCCI series, Strategic Faith Planning, Dr. Bruce Cook explains the difference between God’s Part and Man’s Part of any plan or activity for which a Christian has been called.

He notes that: • We can’t do God’s part AND • God won’t do ours!

TAKING CREDIT - ACCEPTING BLAME Failing to understand the difference between God’s part and our part often leads to:

Sin (pride): when we take credit for doing what only the Holy Spirit can do-- that is, leading someone to Christ. We proudly say, “I lead my uncle, my cousin, my co-worker to Christ!” as if we are able to save someone. Similarly, “I fi nally got him/her to understand.” , etc.

And conversely: Disappointment: when others are unable to understand or refuse to accept our counsel thus failing to come to a similar understanding of God’s Word.

LORD, you establish peace for us; all that we have accomplished you have done for us. Isaiah 26:12

“So you also, when you have done everything you were told to do, should say, ‘We are unworthy servants; we have only done our duty.’” Luke 17:10

PRAYER Many group leaders fail to seek God’s Will for the group through prayer. And, they fail to hear God’s heart for member’s issues. The long term effect of failing

to spend time in prayer for the members individually (and for the group as a whole) will in the least cause a lackluster performance as group leader. Disappointment and discouragement will be the result.

LACK OF CONTROL Hard working business leaders and group leaders desire control. Although not always apparent, as human beings we like to believe that we are right in our decisions for ourselves and others. When members of the group fail to meet our expectations, it is easy to become disappointed and discouraged.

Remembering to focus on Jesus, as the ultimate leader of the group, will help us maintain His agenda, leaving responsibility for the outcome to Him. FACING DISAPPOINTMENT WHAT CAN BE LEARNED FROM DISAPPOINTMENT? We serve a multi-faceted God, Who delights in giving good gifts to His children. Often times His gift comes in the form of wisdom that can only be attained by testing and trial. When faced with a disappointing situation, seize the opportunity to seek God through prayer. The trials you may face as a group leader may be exactly what God desires for you to teach: • perseverance, • faith and trust in God,

• forgiveness, thus demonstrating his incredible love for you.

“Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” James 1:2-4

9.Walkng with God Through prayer PRAYER THE OBJECTIVE of this chapter is to encourage the leader to develop a strong love relationship with God through prayer, and to understand the importance of prayer as a lifestyle. During this time we will:

• Review “loving God” (the first and greatest commandment) through prayer. • Review strategies for expressing your love of God . • Discuss how to avoid the “cancer” to prayer. • Discuss bringing glory to God through your leadership of the group.

THE FIRST AND GREATEST COMMANDMENT: LOVE GOD There are several ways we express our love - One of the most powerful is through prayer.

“Jesus replied, ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ ” Matthew 22:37

WE EXPRESS OUR LOVE BY SPENDING TIME WITH HIM We spend time with the one we love. If we love the Father and the Son, we will want to spend the time getting to know them. Eternal Life = Knowing God “Now this is eternal life: that they may know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom you have sent.” John 17:3

WE EXPRESS OUR LOVE BY LOVING HIS WORD “I shall delight in your statues: I shall not forget your word.” Psalm 119:16

“ The law of your mouth is better to me than thousands of gold and silver pieces.” Psalm 119:72

“O how I love your law! It is my meditation all the day.” Psalm 119:97

“ Your testimonies are wonderful; therefore my soul observes them.” Psalm 119:129

WE EXPRESS OUR LOVE BY SEEKING HIM IN PRAYER God wants us to seek Him and find Him. “But if from there you seek the Lord your God, you will find him if you look for him with all your heart and with all your soul.” Deuteronomy. 4:29 “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.” Jeremiah 29:13

“Seek the Lord while he may be found; call on him while he is near.” Isaiah 55:6

WE EXPRESS OUR LOVE BY OBEDIENCE Obeying Him is the same as loving Him. “Whoever has my commands and obeys them, he is the one who loves me. He who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will love him, and will show myself to him.” John 14:21 Prayer is one avenue to know His will so we can obey Him and love Him.

WE EXPRESS OUR LOVE BY ABIDING IN CHRIST THROUGH PRAYER “As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love. If you obey my commands, you will remain in my love.” John 15:9

WE EXPRESS OUR LOVE BY SILENCE IN PRAYER An important part of prayer is silence before God. “But the Lord is in his holy temple. Let all the earth be silent before him.” Habakkuk 2:20 “Be still and know that I am God.” Psalm 46:10 THE “CANCER” TO PRAYER Repetition, ritual, and form can be deadly to effective prayer.

“And when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words.” Matthew 6:7 Vary the form, plan, and structure of prayer, perhaps weekly. Keep the relationship with God fresh and alive.

YOU ARE CHOSEN BY GOD TO LEAD YOUR GROUP OR COMPANY “You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you to go and bear fruit – fruit that will last. Then the Father will give you whatever you ask in my name.” John 15:16

K WITH GOD THROUGH PRAYER BRING GLORY TO GOD IN THIS WORK Bring glory to God by completing the work he has given you. “I have brought you glory on earth by completing the work you gave me to do.” John 17:4

YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IS YOUR LIFE Choose life and build the love relationship with God by spending time with him in prayer. “Now choose life, so that you and your children may live and that you may love the Lord your God, listen to his voice and hold fast to him, for the Lord is your life…” Deuteronomy 30:19b-20a

TO LIVE A LIFE OF PRAYER IS TO LOVE AND WALK WITH GOD

CONCLUSION- by now you should have learned: 1. That small group leaders: • Help people fall more in love with Jesus. • See Christ transform the lives of the group members.

• Make the small group a “safe environment” for transformation. • Depend on Christ, in prayer, to lead the group through Him.

2. The importance of the administrative aspect of leading a small group and consideration of the gift of administration in determining who should perform the necessary administrative functions.

3. That small groups go through a life-cycle of forming, storming, norming & performing, and that relational maturity grows over time.

4. How to personally develop a strong prayer life. Then, how to mentor the group in prayer.

5. How to use questions to lead the group discussion with closed questions to guide discussion and open-ended questions to stimulate discussion, and how to use the ORID format for structuring the discussion.

6. How to use Scripture to lead the group discussion.

7. How to help group members build lasting relationships by managing the group dynamics.

8. The elements of disappointment and how to overcome them.

9. The importance of prayer as a lifestyle in order to be an effective group leader.

Acknowledgement WILLIAM (BILL )MONEY

M MARIE SANDERS, D.MIN..

VIC SASSONE APPENDIX

9.Walkng with God Through prayer PRAYER

Leadership Group Covenant We, as members of this Crown Companies Leadership Group, individually and collectively agree: Purpose of our group To open our hearts, let God reveal Himself to us, and share what we’re learning with each other. To allow God to be the center of our business. To grow in our relationship with God and the members of our group by challenging each other, seeking Truth, sharing experiences, and praying for each other. To encourage those that come to our group to support the ministry and work of FCCI/Crown Companies on a regular basis.

Our objectives are: • To grow as a group, encouraging each other as “iron sharpens iron” and learn to share our hearts with each other so we can build healthy, Christ-centered community. • To address any area of our life that is hindering our spiritual growth and/or relationships with our family, employees, or customers. • To challenge ourselves to explore new ways of relating to God, by “stepping out on the water” with Him. • To learn to operate the business God has entrusted to us with excellence, according to His Word.

We will create an environment of trust by: PARTICIPATION: We agree to participate in the learning process of the group by sharing what God says to us about an issue or question. We will be open to listen to others and will not try to “fi x” things for them or place any judgment on them. We are committed to challenging ourselves in this area of sharing at a deeper level.

MAINTAINING UTMOST CONFIDENTIALITY:

We agree to respect each other’s desire for privacy and safety by limiting discussion of what is revealed to the group to group meetings. The only exception would be if the person sharing gives explicit permission to discuss his/her information with other persons. We are free to discuss outside the group any relevant issues that relate to our OWN growth, but confidentiality for other group members is absolutely imperative.

ATTENDANCE: We agree to make this group a top priority and will commit ourselves to attending each meeting unless we are sick, experience a business emergency or we are unexpectedly called out of town.

Because of the nature of the group, we believe it is very important not be absent. Likewise, we agree to arrive at the designated starting time of each meeting.

I accept the conditions of this covenant and commit myself to it wholeheartedly. At this point I am committed to meeting for each study that we agree to purchase. At the end of each study,

I may evaluate my commitment to this Leadership Group. Signed:

Date: ________________

A SUGGESTED APPROACH FOR ADORING GOD Then the LORD came down in the cloud and stood there with him and proclaimed his name, the LORD. And he passed in front of Moses, proclaiming, “The LORD, the LORD, the compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness, “ Exodus 34:5-6 NIV

In this passage, God tells us His attributes. It is appropriate to praise Him for who He says He is.

PRAISE AND THANK THE LORD FOR HE IS: • COMPASSIONATE • GRACIOUS • SLOW TO ANGER • ABOUNDING IN LOVE • ABOUNDING IN FAITHFULNESS

APPENDIX STRATEGIES FOR GROUP PRAYER

Triple Round Strategy (Praise & Prayer Requests; Praise to God, Requests to God)

Double Round Strategy (Praise & Prayer Requests; praise and Requests to God)

Single Round Strategy (Praise & Prayer Requests)1

Focused Praise Strategy ( Praise to God, Thanks to God, Requests to God Praise God

Session 1 Transforming Lives INSTRUCTIONS:

• Form small discussion groups of 3 to 4 people.

• Appoint a spokesperson for your discussion group.

• Be prepared to share your discussion group answers and insights with the larger group.

• Allow 15 minutes for small group discussion and 5 minutes for reporting responses to the larger group.

1. One of the Group Leader’s Roles is Spiritual Leadership. Give some examples of a leader carrying out that role in each of the following areas: • Teaching • Relationship building • Prayer

2. What does “fruit” look like in a small group? What does seeing Christ transform the lives of the group members look like?

3. Why is a small group one of God’s most powerful tools for transformation into the image of Christ? Why is prayer important? 20 Minutes God’s P

Session 2: Administration QUESTIONS FOR GENERAL DISCUSSION: 1. What was the primary concept introduced in this chapter?

2. What are your thoughts about your responsibility as the group leader for the management and execution of the administration of the group.

3. Make a list of 4-5 reasons why completing the group’s adminstrative function with excellence is important. 64

20 Minutes

Session 3: The Life Cycle of a Small Group INSTRUCTIONS: • Return to your small discussion groups. • Appoint a new spokesperson for your discussion group. • Be prepared to share your discussion group answers and insights with the larger group. • Allow 15 minutes for small group discussion and 5 minutes for reporting responses to the larger group.

1. Discuss some of your experiences with small groups. Did the ”life-cycle” of these groups seem similar to the one presented in this chapter? If not, how did they differ and why do you think this was so?

2. Groups frequently go through some degree of “storming” or confl ict in the second phase of the life-cycle. Give examples of your experience with this phase of the life-cycle. How do you think the covenant approach will help groups get through this stage quickly?

3. How do you define small group accountability? What must exist in the group in order to have mature relationships?

Session 4: The use of mentoring of Prayer

INSTRUCTIONS: • Return to you small discussion groups. • Appoint a new spokesperson for your discussion group. • Allow 15 minutes to discuss the pros and cons of the four strategies for group prayer. • Select one of the strategies and use it to pray for this training workshop – allow 15 minutes for this prayer time.

30 Minutes Strategies for Prayer (PROS CONS)

• Triple round strategy • Double Round Strategy • Single Round Strategy • Focused praise prayer strategy God’s Plan for Life-Changing Small Groups

Session 5: Using questions to lead the Group Discussion INSTRUCTIONS: • Return to your small discussion groups. • Appoint a new spokesperson for your discussion group. • The instructor will show a video clip or present a case study to read. • The discussion leader will use the O-R-I-D discussion format to guide a discussion of the video or case. • Following the practice discussion, discuss as a group how the O-R-I-D approach helped explore the topic.

O Objective - Getting the Facts R Refl ective - Exploring Emotions, Feelings, Associations I Interpretive - Meaning or Implication D Decisional - Future Action 30 Minutes

Session 6: Using scripture to lead the Group Discussion INSTRUCTIONS: • Appoint a new spokesperson for your discussion group.

• Allow 15 minutes to discuss the pros and cons of the four strategies for group prayer. • Select one of the strategies and use it to pray for this training workshop – allow 15 minutes for this prayer time.

1. What are some examples of ways you have been seen Scripture used in small group discussions? Were these helpful? Explain

2. A basic premise for using Scripture in the small group is the acceptance of God’s work as authoritative, reliable and accurate. What would you say to a group member who challenges or is unsure of this premise? 3. Discuss your own level of comfort using scripture to lead a group. What can you do sufficiently to adequately lead your group?

Session 7: Managing group Dynamics 1. Return to your small discussion groups (minimum of four per group).

2. Select one of the “participant types” from the cards provided by the facilitator of the workshop.

3. Have one member play the role of the group leader and the other members play the roles of the small group with one person playing an exaggerated role of the personality type represented on the card or cards.

4. Allow 5-10 minutes for the groups to discuss the role-play situation they will represent to the larger group.

5. Have each group present approximately 2-3 minutes of the role-play situation they have designed to illustrate how a group leader effectively facilitates the group discussion while dealing with a particular personality type. 6. After the individual presentations, open the fl oor for the larger group to answer two questions: a) What did the leader do well to help the individual(s) and the group maximize their participation – and why is this important? b) What other suggestions might be used in this situation – and why would this suggestion be helpful?

7. Remember to incorporate techniques and skills you’ve learned from this workshop and remember to focus on the most important role of the group – making it a safe place to fall more in love with Jesus.

8. Make sure that your comments to the groups are encouraging and uplifting, treating others as you want to be treated – with respect and courtesy. 90 Minutes

Session 8: Facing disappointment

QUESTIONS FOR GENERAL DISCUSSION: 1. What interested you most about this teaching?

2. Briefly discuss the issue of control as it pertains to disappointment. Why do we try to control our environment (including our small groups)?

3. Make a list of 4-5 lessons that can be learned from experiencing disappointment. 15 Minutes

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Acknowledgement Dr. Mario Denton Mario is the International Field Continental Programme Director – Market-place for Crown Africa, the Africa Director for FCCI (The Fellowship for Companies for Christ International) and the CEO of Strong Message Business Consultancy. He is an international teacher and industrial psychologist and uses his strong academic and corporate background and his uniquely effective coaching to help people tap into their inner being; to utilise their strengths and expand their skills to make a difference in the workplace. He and his wife, Mariene, are based in Cape Town, South Africa, and are blessed with three grown sons. Servant Copyright. All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, or by an information storage and retrieval system without permission. Regarding permission to reprint material from this material, please write to Dr Mario Denton:

FLAGSHIP CROWN DNA MARKETPLACE MATERIALS

Table of Contents 1. Career direct 2. Personality ID

3. Business by the book catalytic Event 4. Business by the Book Workshop DVD series 5. Business by the Book Small group study 6. God’s principles for operating a business 7. Crown Companies Monthly Business Forums

FLAGSHIP CROWN DNA MARKETPLACE MATERIALS

Course Name Purpose

1. CAREER DIRECT Is to assist people with the ability to make an informed career decision so that they will experience the joy of their work.

Methodology

One on one

Primary Learning Thrust

Career Direction

Intended Audience Venue Equipment

Total Time

Requirements for Career Direct Consultan t Contents

Languages

15 Years and older

Venue with relevant equipment Computer Laser Printer for 50 pages per assessment Career Direct Software Paper Approximately 1,5 hours to complete the assessment A further 2 hours to complete the feedback Career Consultant need to undergo Career Direct training Only persons with a tertiary qualification can apply for this training A pastor’s recommendation is also required •

Personality Profile

•

Interests

•

Skills

•

Values

English

Contents Course Name Languages Purpose

•

Personality Profile

2. PERSONALITY ID English Is a tool to quickly and effectively determine a person’s personality profile (including strengths and weaknesses) and to compare profiles in a team.

Methodology

One on one/team analysis

Primary Learning Thrust

Personality Profiling

Intended Audience Venue Equipment

Total Time

Requirements for Personalit y ID Consultan t

Anyone, especially teams

Venue with relevant equipment Computer Printer Personality ID software Approximately 20minutes to complete the assessment (per team member) Feedback depends on the size of the team

Consultant need to undergo training

Course Name

3. BUSINESS BY THE BOOK CATALYTIC EVENT

Purpose

To assemble as many business people as possible to be trained up in making business decisions based on biblical principles. To launch and establish Crown Financial Ministries in the business sector of a nation/area.

Methodology

Seminar, lecture environment with three trainers.

Primary Learning Thrust

The Primary thrust of this seminar is to introduce business and professional people to the principles concerning business contained in the Scripture. This is aimed at challenging and providing thought provoking material as a catalyst to transforming businesses. In order to equip other business leaders at a similar event certification by Crown head office is required.

Intended Audience

Business people on all levels

Venue

Lecture hall or auditorium depending on the size of the group

Equipment

Total Time Expectations Contents

Notebook Textbook only English (optional and effects costs) Projector

Notebook Computer One full day It is expected that participants make a commitment to influence other business people with Godly financial principals. 1. Our purpose in Business 2. Finances 3. Integrity 4. Ownership 5. Application

Languages

English, Afrikaans

Organising/

Between 6 to 12 months depending on translations for first events in nation there after 1 to 2 months.

Time Line

Course Name

4. BUSINESS BY THE BOOK WORKSHOP DVD SERIES

Purpose

This Workshop is designed to equip business people to learn and apply God’s financial principles in their business with the aim of becoming faithful stewards.

Methodology

All-day workshop/

Weekend Seminar/ Eight week Bible study Primary Learning Thrust

The Primary thrust of this DVD series is to utilize visual media as well as workbooks to gain a practical understanding of applying God’s stewardship principles to their business.

Intended Audience

Wide spectrum of business people.

Venue

Depends on the size of the group and methodology used. Small group or large auditorium.

Equipment

Total Time

Workbook for each participant

Television Seminar DVD DVD Player Approximately 8 hours in total, breakdown depends on method used. • • •

Training Requirem ents for Leaders Contents

All-Day Workshop (1 – eight hour session) Weekend Seminar (2 – half day sessions) Eight Week Bible Study (8 – one hour sessions)

Attend Business By Book Seminar or Business By Book Workshop. 1. Ownership and Purpose 2. Leadership 3. Finance 4. Human Resources 5. Organisation and Marketing 6. Planning

Languages

English

Organising/

Enough time to order books and establish group.

Time Line

Course Name

5. BUSINESS BY THE BOOK SMALL GROUP STUDY

Purpose

This small group study is designed to equip business people to learn and apply God’s financial principles for operating a business.

Primary Learning Thrust

The Primary thrust of this course setup is to utilize the small group dynamic of facilitation, discussion, prayer and accountability to assist business people to faithfully apply God’s stewardship principles to their lives and business.

Intended Audience

Business people on all levels

Venue

Small group venue like a boardroom or office able to seat between 5 and 10 participants comfortably.

Equipment

Leaders Guide for the group facilitator Manual for each participant

Television DVD Machine Weekly DVD Segment Total Time

15 minutes of individual work each day for 6 days.

Approximately 2 hours once per week for group discussion and feedback for a total of 10 consecutive weeks.

Requirements for Sudent

1. Homework

Everyone is required to complete the homework in writing. The homework questions are designed to take approximately 15 minutes each day to complete. Space is provided in the participant manual to answer the homework questions. If a couple is participating in the study together, they should each have a manual. 2. Scripture Memory Each participant is to memorise an assigned verse each lesson and then individually recites the verse at the beginning of the class.

3. Prayer Each participant prays for his or her group members each day.

NB If for any reason a participant does not complete all the requirements for a particular lesson; the leader is not to allow him or her to participate in the group discussion. This accountability cultivates faithfulness and is a pre-requisite for benefiting from this small group study.

Requirements for Leaders

6 hour Leader Training

Contents

1. Introduction 2. Ownership and Purpose 3. Leadership 4. Finance 5. Human Resources 6. Organisation 7. Marketing 8. Planning

Languages Organising/ Time Line

English Enough time to order books and establish group.

Product Name

6. GOD’S PRINCIPLES FOR OPERATING A BUSINESS – 11 CD’S

Purpose

This product will help point the way to achieving business success God’s way.

Methodology

Self-study

Group study Primary Learning Thrust

Intended Audience Venue Equipment Training Requirem ents for Leaders

God’s principles for operating a business, a classic seminar taught by author and teacher Larry Burkett (1939 – 2003), present 36 principles on 11 CD’s that will set any business apart from the rest. Operating a business according to God’s Word will produce a new level of success in a way you never thought possible! Business persons Only required if the CD’s are used in a group environment.

CD player No specific requirements

Contents

Disc 1 – History of business in America Disc 2 – How to treat suppliers, employees, customers and owners Disc 3 – Fundamentals of business planning Disc 4 – Principles that ensure a balanced lifestyle Disc 5 – Employing the unemployable Disc 6 – Steps to dismissal Disc 7 – Borrowing Disc 8 – How to handle lawsuits Disc 9 – Danger of compromise Disc 10 – Tithing and giving from your business Disc 11 – Importance of keeping vows

Languages Organising/

Time Line Course Name Purpose

English Enough time to order books and establish group. 7. Crown Companies Monthly Business Forums To receive instruction and training from today’s top Christian business leaders.

Methodology Primary Learning Thrust

Lecture facilitated workshop The primary thrust of the monthly groups is to learn the secrets of integrating your Christian walk into your business life. It is also to receive encouragement, support, prayer and advice from peer business leaders who have experienced the same business issues participants face each day.

Intended Audience

Business people on all levels

Venue

Small group venue like a boardroom or office able to seat between 5 and 10 participants comfortably.

Equipment

Manual for each participant Television DVD player DVD Segment

Total Time

½ day ( 3 to 5 hours) per month: Prayer and fellowship Teaching video Facilitated topical discussion Member focus for issues related to specific business challenges

Requirements Organising/ Time Line

No specific requirements Enough time to order books and establish group.

Contents

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Doing Business God’s way

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The Purpose of Profits in Business

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Funding God’s work

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Treating employees fairly

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Compensation for employees

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Following God’s Rule for the business

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Patience, Fairness and consistency

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Hiring decisions

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Firing decisions

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Selecting a manager

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Protecting your business

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Committing your business to God