MARKETPLACE FACTS Module 303 H
DEALING WITH THE IMPASSE IN YOUR MARRIAGE Mario Denton Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
Overall purpose of this series on Marketplace To understand and learn from various marketplace facts so that you can: • Be more effective and anointed wherever you are in the marketplace. • Adapt and benchmark your marketplace practices and principles discussed in this series. • Use these material to facilitate the work of evangelism.
Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
DEALING WITH THE IMPASSE IN YOUR MARRIAGE • Have you ever experienced an impasse in your marriage? • You know, two people, coming from different backgrounds, temperaments and giftedness, who look at the same data and come away with opposite conclusions? Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
DEALING WITH THE IMPASSE IN YOUR MARRIAGE • No amount of talk, persuasive efforts, argumentation, manipulation or pressure can change their perspective. • Period. • From their standpoint 2 + 2 seems to equal 4.2. • The irresistible force against the immovable object!
Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
Well, what to do. Â Pout? Yell? Threaten? Withdraw? C ast blame? Slander? Move to the Bahamas? What?
Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
Well, what to do. • No, as a sheer act of the will you start with praying over, and applying I Corinthians 13:4-8. • You just do it, because it’s not about being right. • It is about being Christ-like: “Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn't want what it doesn't have. Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
Well, what to do. • Love doesn't strut, Doesn't have a swelled head, doesn't force itself on others, isn't always ‘me first,’ doesn't fly off the handle, doesn't keep score of the sins of others, doesn't revel when others grovel, takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, puts up with anything, trusts God always, always looks for the best, never looks back, but keeps going to the end. Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
Well, what to do. • Love never dies. Inspired speech will be over some day; praying in tongues will end; understanding will reach its limit.� (Msg.)
Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
Next you prayerfully ponder James 1:2-5: • “When all kinds of trials and temptations crowd into your lives, my brothers, don’t resent them as intruders, but welcome them as friends! • Realize that they come to test your faith and to produce in you the quality of endurance. Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
Next you prayerfully ponder James 1:2-5: • But let the process go on until that endurance is fully developed, and you will find you have become men of mature character with the right sort of independence. Â
Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
Next you prayerfully ponder James 1:2-5: • And if, in the process, any of you does not know how to meet any particular problem he has only to ask God-who gives generously to all men without making them feel foolish or guilty-and he may be quite sure that the necessary wisdom will be given him.� Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
• You have a trial in your life that God intends to use to produce in you the quality of perseverance that translates into spiritual maturity. (Romans 5:3-5) • God is more concerned about your development character-wise then in you being right relative to the impasse.
Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
• He intends to use the impasse to forge godly character in you‌with no guarantee of solving the impasse.
Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
• Then, you prayerfully mull over and apply the characteristics of wisdom mentioned in James 1:5 (above), as amplified in James 3:17, 18. • That is, you concentrate on yourself in making the necessary character changes, and letting God take care of the necessary changes in your spouse
Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
The wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all: Pure: Literally: Clean, modest, innocent. (See Philip. 4:8; 2 Cor. 11:2) Question: Am I living without hypocrisy? With total integrity? Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
The wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all: Peace-loving: Literally: Loving peace, bringing peace. (See Hebrews 12:11) Question: Do I really desire peace (but not at the expense of purity)? Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
The wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all: • Considerate: Literally: Patient, mild, yielding, equitable. (See Philip. 4:5; 1 Peter 2:18) • Question: Am I truly a reasonable person or am I dogmatic and arbitrary? Is it my way or the highway?
Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
The wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all: • Submissive: Literally: Compliant, good for persuasion, reasonable. (See Eph. 5:21, 22; 1 Pet 3:1,2) • Question: Am I willing to carefully consider and even submit to my spouses’ preferences over my own?
Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
The wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all: • Full of mercy: Literally: Compassionate, tender, possessing pity. (See James 2:13,16) • Question: Am I willing to lighten up and not demand my standard? • Do I allow for mistakes and human frailty? Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
The wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all: • Good fruit: Literally: Good deeds. (See Philippians 1:11; Matt. 7:17,18) • Question: Is what I am saying validated by the integrity of my attitudes and actions?
Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
The wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all: • Impartial: Literally: Unwavering, unhesitating, not doubting. (See James 1:6) • Question: Is my thinking, and are my decisions based on the solid foundation of a pattern of applied Biblical truth into my life? Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
The wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all: • Sincere: Literally: Genuine and unfeigned. (See Romans 12:9) • Question: Am I the genuine article? That is, unaffected, real, frank, truthful, and honest at the core?
Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
The wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all: • Discuss how to apply these same principles in your career. How much would it cost you annually to apply these?
Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
Philippians 4:9 • Practice what you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, and model your way of living on it, and the God of peace (of untroubled, undisturbed wellbeing) will be with you. presence in my life this week. Amen. Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
Philippians 4:9 • Doing the right thing brings reward. • We need to put into practice the things we know to be right. • Then we will experience God's peace. • Then we will enjoy more of God's presence with us. Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
Philippians 4:9 • PRAYER: Lord, forgive me for the wrong things I have done. • I want to follow You and do what You would have me do. • Give me Your peace and may I enjoy Your presence in my life this week. Amen. Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
Prayer Focus • Father, In the name of Jesus, I surrender myself to walk in the Word in the marketplace. Your word living in me produces the Life in this world. • The word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. It makes my way plain before me. • I boldly and confidently say that my heart is fixed and established on the solid foundation – the Living Word of God! Amen Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
Learning, application and commitment: James 1: 22-25 • “Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. • Do what it says. • Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like a man who looks at his face in the mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. • But the man who looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues to do this, not forgetting what he has heard, but doing it - he will be blessed in what he does.” (NIV) Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
Learning, application and commitment • One of the principles that I have learned from this lesson was … • I intend to apply this principle in my marketplace by: ….. • With the help of the Holy Spirit, I will begin applying this truth immediately. Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
Jesus said: Take what I have given you and change the world!
Marketplace facts: Lead your family with dignity
Blessings from Dr Mario Denton as the Africa: Continental Programme Director - Marketplace
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